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Hotter after 40? · Mom Gone Mild

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  Hey guys, welcome back to Mom Gone Mild.
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  I'm your host, Lex. If you're new here, welcome.
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  If you're not, thanks for coming back.
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  And right now we are in the middle of our Wellness fitness
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  journey. So I thought what better week
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  would it be to have my friend Viviana, who is all about women
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  empowerment, who's all into fitness.
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  You guys are going to absolutely love her.
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  So without further ado, here is my friend Viviana.
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  Oh, I used to think that women pretty much peaked in their 20s,
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  but literally I have actual proof that that is not true.
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  My next guest is Viviana. I am so excited to have you
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  here. Girl, how are you?
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  Thank you for the. Invite.
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  Yes. Feel honored.
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  I'm so happy. I mean, we've tried to set it
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  up, but I am so like I'm all over the place with being a mom
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  and I'm so bad with like confirming.
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  I'm like, hey, girl. And then I was like, was I
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  supposed to confirm? I'm really bad at that.
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  Like I'm I make plans and yeah, but OK.
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  So it's so funny because, you know, I always give like a
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  little intro of everyone, but I feel like this is the best
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  intro. OK, so when I first met you
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  girl, she only knows where this is going.
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  So I swear it was like a straight up like freaking bond
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  scene. OK, so we are first.
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  We're going to Palm Springs. We go for like you and our other
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  friend's birthday. And I swear on my life I
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  probably was like, first of all, it's Palm Springs.
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  So it was hot as hell. I was sweating.
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  We had just came. Yeah, yes, exactly.
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  This girl comes out in like a gold bikini with like a robe
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  like I was just and heels. I was like, wait a second, I'm
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  in the wrong Palm Springs because I came in like freaking
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  like looking like a slob. I was like, I didn't get the
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  memo. And we had such a good time.
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  But honestly, my favorite thing was like when I first met you, I
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  feel like this doesn't sound like a little rude, but I was
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  like, who's this bitch? But no, like as soon as I met
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  you, there was just this vibe. Like I just was like, damn, no.
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  Then I was like, OK, who is this bitch?
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  Because I want to be her friend. Like I just love the confidence
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  that you have. And it just like exuded.
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  It was just so amazing, like meeting you.
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  And I feel like that was years ago now.
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  So we've known each other for a while and yeah, we're just
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  really excited to have you here on Mom Gone Miles.
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  And yeah, So you know, Viviana, you are, you know, a single mom.
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  You're in your prime right now. You're 40s and just like
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  literally thriving. So I just kind of want to get a
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  little bit more of history about you.
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  OK yes, I'm a single mom. I have 3.
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  Beautiful daughters by the way. They all look like you.
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  It's amazing, actually. My oldest is 21 and then 16 and
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  10, so they're all in their own different.
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  Ages. Yeah, Yeah.
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  You know, gaps in life. So it's definitely hard being
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  even a mother of one because I have many single mom friends
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  that only have one and they always tell me how do you do it?
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  How do you do it? I always get that question, You
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  know, it is hard, I'm not going to lie, but I have my faith in.
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  God. And I know that he always has me
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  and he's hasn't failed me yet. That's amazing.
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  I know. So you were talking about such a
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  different in difference in like age gap, right?
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  So like you basically experience a lot of motherhood already.
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  Like, how is it like dealing with like so young to like 21?
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  Yeah, well. Now, yeah, my 21 year old, she's
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  in her young adult life and I try to guide her the best that I
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  can. Yeah.
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  Whether she takes my advice on some stuff or not, that is up
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  to. Her but I.
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  Have to let her grow and develop into herself.
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  And I, and it's really hard for me to step back and I'm sorry,
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  I, I get a little emotional when I talk about my kids because
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  just because I love them so much.
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  And they've been. Through everything that I've
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  been through with me and they're females.
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  So. With my older daughter, I just,
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  I have to give her her space to grow into herself and figure out
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  things whether they're right or wrong.
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  I, I try not to be too judgy on things because I don't, I mean,
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  I just don't want her to feel that I'm just a negative.
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  Yeah, yeah. And I think that that's so
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  important, too, because I don't know about you, but my mom was,
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  like, always telling me don't do this, don't do this.
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  And I feel like that actually made me want to do things,
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  right. You know what I mean?
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  So I feel like that's such a good thing, but I feel like it's
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  also a little, it could be hard because you also have your other
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  daughter that's so young. So you're used to always telling
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  her, like, don't do these things.
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  Don't do these things. And then you have a middle one.
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  Yeah. So it's just like all these
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  stages. Yeah, as a mom, you will always
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  have that. Don't do this or just like.
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  That's just the you're. Like, yeah, yeah, exactly.
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  The job of a mother. Yeah, Regardless.
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  Yeah, definitely. Well, that's exciting.
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  And then kind of like, you know, so you technically are like our
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  first guest that's been a single mom.
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  So how is that like just raising 3 girls?
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  You know, like that can't be easy in this kind of day or time
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  or jeez, I don't even know. You know, it's crazy.
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  Always a yelling household, and I'm sure my neighbors know me as
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  the crazy yelling lady, which is fine.
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  But yeah, we're always yelling there.
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  But we love each other. And I mean, it's definitely not
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  easy. It's hard.
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  Motherhood is the hardest job you will ever have.
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  Agree. I completely agree.
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  What it is, yeah, I think I can be put to do anything else and I
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  wouldn't complain as much as mother.
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  Definitely, definitely. It's so rewarding.
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  Change. It no, anything it it is so
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  rewarding and now I know that you're kind of getting well,
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  you've always been into fitness, right?
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  So like when did that kind of start?
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  Was that did you always have like this confidence or like did
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  that kind of like evolve throughout you like getting
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  older? I don't like to say older, I
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  like to say wiser. Sorry, yes, more advanced in
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  yes, yes, I'm sorry I. Like to correct?
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  Yes, correct me. Correct me.
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  More mature. No, that I don't even like that
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  word. Yeah, I'm.
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  Mature, definitely. Oh yeah, I I want to say I was
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  honestly not always as confident as I am now.
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  OK. I feel as you get wiser in age,
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  you do develop that. Yeah, you do.
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  Yeah, which is a great thing. Yeah.
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  Oh, definitely, yeah. I feel like I have more
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  confidence. Sometimes it may I, I might show
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  that, but I'm really not. And I feel as a fitness person,
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  you're always hard on yourself. Like you look at yourself.
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  I'm like, no, I, I don't like it.
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  Still, yeah. But everybody else is like you
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  look amazing, you look great. How could I get that body?
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  Like what do you do? Wanting the tips, the advice and
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  then. Me texting you like hey girl how
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  do I get a butt yeah no, I. Yeah.
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  And it's like, sure, I can tell you, but it yeah, it's I feel
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  like 1 is always hard on themselves.
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  Of course we are always the hardest on ourselves, but you
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  know, well, you know, you look amazing and we just.
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  I'm just so happy that you're here.
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  I feel like I'm like all like giddy and stuff.
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  So yeah. So just like when did you start
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  fitness? Was it like you've always been
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  into fitness or you just got really into it well?
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  I've always been on the thinner, slender side.
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  OK. I've never was overweight, so I
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  I never struggled with weight. I would say that I got into
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  fitness when I had my second daughter.
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  OK. Yeah, OK.
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  Middle one is when I started to be interested in fitness.
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  Although when I had her I I was out and about after two months
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  of having her and it didn't even look like I had a.
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  Baby and I had to. So yeah.
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  Yeah, but I wanted to be toned. Yes, yeah, I wanted to be toned
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  not. Necessarily lose weight but I
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  wanted to be toned. OK so I started with my cousins
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  stepmom. She had a little gym fitness.
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  Ohh, nice garage, OK. I started going there.
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  OK, perfect. And then?
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  You just fell in love. Yeah, I fell in love.
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  I loved it. And she did teach me some
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  things, and then I kind of stopped a little bit, you know?
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  You know, things happen. Yeah, life happens.
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  Yeah, you know, relationships and all that.
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  And then I stopped and then again with my youngest.
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  When I had her, I started to get into the working out again.
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  OK. And then?
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  She's they're six years apart. So yeah, I took a little gap,
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  but OK, yeah, again, never really gained weight, just kind
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  of stable there, but it was not like toned.
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  OK, Well, I know that right now you're like getting more into
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  like personal training. Yeah, or you have been in
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  personal training? I have.
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  Been OK. So like, let's see, I started
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  really being consistent about six years ago when COVID hit,
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  you know, the gyms were closed. And so I said I'm going to do it
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  in my garage. And then I started there and I
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  would post on social media, on Instagram, all things Fitness
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  1717. By the way, I will be putting
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  her out. Tag goes right here.
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  Going to give herself a plug, yeah?
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  So then I created that fitness account, yes, because I wanted
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  to motivate people. I wanted to inspire.
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  And so that was my goal. And so far with that, it has
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  been great. Yeah, I love it.
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  I love that sporting. I love.
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  Motivating you are a girl's girl.
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  I mean, I can post whatever. And this one, the first one is
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  like heart flames. I'm like.
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  I love it. OK.
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  Girl, like thanks for the hype. I'm like, I was not feeling
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  myself, but you know what? Thank you.
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  Yeah, I love that because like I said, one might not feel a
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  certain way. Like I'm not a baddie, but you
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  are a baddie. Yes, you are a baddie in your
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  own way. Yes, OK.
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  So I love that. Anybody tell you that you're?
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  Not yes, I fucking love that. And, you know, the music we
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  listen to Baddie. I was like, yeah, I love your
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  playlist. But yeah, so I don't know, like
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  now that you're in your 40s, like how do you think that you
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  are different than you were in your 20s?
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  Oh, well, definitely in my 20s. I was just like a stick.
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  I wasn't, you know, my obviously, you know, my figure
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  was a younger version of me. No kids definitely like not as
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  much confidence. Then you.
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  Know I feel like you have to grow.
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  Into it, yeah. And so now I just don't give a
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  fuck. Yeah, yeah, I love that.
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  I love it. Anyone says and yeah, yeah,
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  that's my, that's my confidence where that's fine.
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  That's what you. Think exactly.
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  Yeah, I need to get a little bit of that because I feel like I'm
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  almost to that point, but I'm like, I still care.
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  I hate that. Like I'm like, I still hate that
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  I care, you know? I'm like, I don't.
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  Know you grow where? You're like, yeah, but there are
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  days where I'm like, OK, I don't give a shit.
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  And then I look back and I'm oh shit, I give a shit.
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  I'm like, never mind. So yes.
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  So let me tell you, you don't fuck around when it comes to
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  working out because I worked out with her one time.
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  I got to tell the story because I swear I was like, yeah, I'm
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  kind of like into working out. Mind you, I was not into working
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  out. I think I was like starting to
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  walk, like walk around, you know, And I was like, yeah, I'm
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  starting a fitness thing and I went to work out with you, girl.
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  She starts making me do these jumps.
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  She starts making me do these kettle ball like things.
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  And I was like, we're not at the same level at all.
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  So I'm going to go to the bathroom.
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  I threw up and then I think I was like, my husband just called
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  with an emergency. I got to go and you're like,
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  really? And I was like, no, bitch, you
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  made me throw up in the bathroom.
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  And I feel sick now. I was like, I went home and I
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  was like, it ain't for me yet. Like I'm not at that level.
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  No, that does happen. Yeah, it is totally normal.
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  Yeah. I've had several people come,
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  when they come work out with me, they're like, please don't kill
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  me, you know, And I said I won't, but you know, I always
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  tell them I am going to push you and I am going to motivate.
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  Yeah, well, you definitely push and you motivate because now I
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  feel like I might be able to keep up.
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  I mean, on a not like, on a crazy, like don't be giving me
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  no craziness, but we need to do another workout.
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  Because I feel like I'm finally like pushing myself to the point
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  where it's like just breathe, drink water when you like, you
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  know, like I do get like that sometimes.
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  Like I'm still like, Oh my God, I feel like throwing up.
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  Then I'm like, OK, no, it's not that big of a deal.
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  Like take a deep breath. You'll be fine and you will
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  survive. Because my fight or flight mode
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  like went off when I threw up with you.
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  I was like, I gotta go and a Gold's Gym.
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  Hell no. And the girl next to me was
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  like, are you OK? I'm like, I worked out too hard
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  and yeah, but definitely we need another workout because, you
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  know, I am building a gym here. So I'm going to have you come
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  over and then Randy's like I can teach you stuff.
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  And I'm like, no, no, no. I want to grow an ass.
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  Like I don't need. Yeah, I was like, not like a
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  back or like, you know, big arms, like I need an ass.
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  So I need someone to teach me those kind of workouts.
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  So I'm going to be inviting you when and we'll do a little
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  video. You know, probably some fails,
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  but it's OK. And I feel like this right now,
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  it's kind of like my dilemma, you know, I'm doing 75 hearts,
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  so I have to force myself to schedule these.
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  If not like you fail and you it's it's a lot.
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  But I just feel like how as a mom does that fit into your
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  lifestyle? Like I know now it's like
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  probably easier to like fit, you know, the workouts and stuff.
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  But maybe like when your youngest was younger, how was
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  that like fitting? Out I kind of had like a in
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  built in babysitter. Oh, you're an oldest?
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  My youngest are 12 years apart. Yeah, so she would watch her.
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  Oh, that's nice, Yeah. So I, I had that, yeah.
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  And now even more that they're a little older.
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  Yeah. Yeah, stay home.
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  Do you have any like tips or anything of like how you can, I
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  guess like when a mom is starting from zero, what is like
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  the first thing that you know to help with that motivation?
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  Because I get asked that a lot, like how what makes me
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  motivated? And I'm like, to be honest, not
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  to be, you know, like, I want to be in shape for my son.
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  I don't want to be like out of breath when I'm running with him
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  or it was really hard because I have a big boy.
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  So when I first, you know, it was hard to carry him.
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  I was out of breath. I couldn't even walk.
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  And he's, yeah, but he's a big boy.
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  So, you know, I'm like, damn, I have to like strength train over
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  here. But like, what's like the
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  biggest advice you can give to moms that are starting from
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  zero? Well, like you said, it has to
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  come from you. It has to come from you.
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  No one else has given really motivate you.
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  Yeah, or, you know, they can push.
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  Let you know I'm here, girl. Yeah, you can do this.
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  Yeah, it really has to come from you within wanting to do this.
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  For yourself. That's very true.
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  Yeah. I feel like that is the number
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  one thing because people would always be like, count your
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  calories or like, you know, calorie deficit.
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  And I was like, I don't even know what the hell that means.
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  Like, you know, I was like always pushing all these things
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  like, you know, because I wasn't like, I feel like you have to be
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  mentally ready because it is like a change that you have to,
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  like, you have to get up off the couch.
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  I mean, you know, I was like, I had the postpartum.
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  It was like a whole lifestyle change.
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  Yeah. Like it's like, you know, like
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  now it's more conscious of like what I like, I want to eat.
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  I want to do all these things. I want to drink, but it's like,
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  now it's like, and do I really want that?
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  Is it really worth it? You know, things like that.
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  So I don't know. So what is like a typical day in
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  Viviana's life? Well, I get up around 4:15 AM.
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  To come to the. Gym I do work full time yes,
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  Monday through Friday. Yeah, and you still get into
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  that gym. Yes, yeah, I do.
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  And then I go for about an hour and then I come back home, get
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  my girls, you know, up and ready for school.
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  And then we take off and then I go to work.
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  Yeah, Yeah. OK.
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  And then do you usually do like one workout a day?
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  Sometimes it's 2 or? Yeah, when I go oh, it's
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  typically either back and arms or glutes and legs, which is my
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  favorite. You should see her butt.
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  It's like goals on goals on goals.
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  But yeah, I, I typically switch it up on days and then, you
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  know, I can do cardio. You know, yeah, OK, All right.
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  I love that. And then kind of really we kind
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  of already went into this, but what kind of keeps you
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  consistent? Are there days obviously you're
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  human. There will be days when you're
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  like, I don't want to get up. I just want to sleep a little
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  bit longer. I mean, because realistically
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  that would not be realistic for me.
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  Waking up at 4:30 and then going to like a full time job and
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  then, you know, getting your girls ready.
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  I mean, I'm sure it's like, I mean, you're human.
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  It can get hard. What makes you, you know, stay
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  consistent? Well, yeah, for sure.
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  I have those days where I'm like, Oh no, I don't want to go.
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  I'm tired. I'm just, you know when it's
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  that time of the month. Even.
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  More I'm like, Oh no, day two and three.
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  It's like, forget it. But I have to tell myself, OK,
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  well, do you, how do you want to look?
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  I don't want to feel. Yeah, yeah, OK.
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  And it's just for me, not anyone.
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  Else, of course, every time we talk, we're talking about our
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  own experience, because my experience is different than
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  hers, hers experience is different than mine.
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  And you should definitely do and workout for your yourself.
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  Yeah, not for anyone else. Definitely it's.
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  For you, for your mental. Yeah, for me too.
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  I feel like if I don't go to the gym, I'm like Oh my God, I'm.
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  Going crazy like you're like, you're like, what's going on
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  here? Yeah.
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  I get antsy and I'm like, yeah, to go.
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  So. You know, don't get me wrong,
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  some days I won't go. I'm like oh F this.
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  I'm totally. Can you listen to your body?
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  Yeah, I. Do I'm not going.
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  Yeah, I feel like that's a big thing.
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  Like a lot of the time that's why a lot of people kind of gas
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  out because they don't listen to their body.
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  They are like, go, go, pushing, pushing until they're literally
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  like, I don't have anything else to give.
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  I'm like, me right now. I'm tired.
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  Yeah. So yeah.
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  Sure, definitely listen to your body.
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  And it's okay to take, you know, one or two days and then you get
• 21:01
  back on it. Yeah, and I feel like it's not
• 21:04
  really necessary to go every single day.
• 21:08
  Yeah, definitely. As long as you go on that day
• 21:11
  and you really give your 100. Yeah.
• 21:14
  Then you don't have to necessarily go like every single
• 21:18
  day. Yeah.
• 21:19
  So don't feel like you have to go every single.
• 21:23
  Day. Yeah.
• 21:24
  You know, as long as you're doing it like 100%.
• 21:27
  Yeah, exactly. And let's say you do great, but
• 21:29
  then the next day you don't have to push.
• 21:31
  As hard. Yeah, yeah.
• 21:33
  Just moderately, like you said, feel and whatever, like your
• 21:39
  body is saying. Then listen to it, yeah.
• 21:43
  And then what's like you're, well, you're not like trying to
• 21:46
  lose weight, of course, you're trying to like maintain your
• 21:48
  muscles and stuff. So like, what is your like diet
• 21:51
  or do you follow a diet? You're kind of just like I work
• 21:54
  out. Well, I don't count calories.
• 21:58
  I I don't weigh food or necessarily cut out anything.
• 22:07
  I never weigh myself. I don't.
• 22:10
  Look at. That see, I feel like that's me
• 22:12
  right now. Like I well, I've always had an
• 22:14
  issue right, with my weight. So I don't know, like if you
• 22:17
  know my story, but in the past, like I was like anorexic
• 22:21
  bulimic. So I always was obsessed with
• 22:23
  the scale. Like I'm the type of person,
• 22:25
  like every morning I have to like go and weigh myself.
• 22:28
  And it's like so such an unhealthy relationship that I
• 22:32
  have with the scale. So it's like what kind of has
• 22:34
  like allowed you to kind of just be like, is it just like you
• 22:37
  base yourself off of what you look like?
• 22:39
  Yes, and like how I look in my clothes and then I go off of
• 22:45
  that. I love that I don't.
• 22:46
  Have a skill at home so. Oh, wow, no, I would miss my
• 22:50
  skill. Like baby steps here.
• 22:53
  OK, baby steps. Actually, we're going to to toss
• 22:56
  it. I'm going to have like a little
• 22:58
  like bonfire. All right, see you never.
• 23:03
  All right, So you're when you train right now, how do you are
• 23:08
  you training like you have a lot of people on your roster or how
• 23:12
  does that go? No, not all, you know, because
• 23:15
  I'm not a personal trainer per SE, you know I'm, I'm not.
• 23:20
  But if somebody wants to come and work out with me, then of
• 23:24
  course, you know, I'm all for. It OK.
• 23:27
  Yeah, like I said, because I love to motivate.
• 23:29
  Yeah, yeah, definitely. All right.
• 23:32
  And it's more like women, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 23:35
  I love that. So all right, we're going to get
• 23:38
  into something that I have always been curious about you
• 23:43
  because I'm a little nosy dating, the fun stuff.
• 23:48
  So right now, are you dating or no?
• 23:52
  Are you open? I'm not dating anyone per SE at
• 23:57
  the moment, yeah, but if something comes about then, you
• 24:04
  know, maybe. OK, but I'm not.
• 24:06
  Looking. Yeah, so if it happens, it
• 24:08
  happens yeah. So in your dating life have do
• 24:13
  you just like know what you want and you're kind of just like,
• 24:16
  I'm not dealing with the bullshit or how like yeah, I.
• 24:19
  Yeah, I don't deal with the bullshit.
• 24:21
  Yeah, like you sneeze wrong. I'm like.
• 24:24
  You're like, that gave me the ick.
• 24:26
  Yeah, yeah. You know, I've, you know, had
• 24:31
  two relationships with my two older girls, dad and then I've
• 24:37
  been married, you know, divorced.
• 24:39
  So I, I know what? Yes and no.
• 24:42
  Yeah, so basically, you know your worth and you're not going
• 24:45
  to just. Right, exactly.
• 24:47
  To whoever I know, Yeah. Yeah.
• 24:49
  Wasn't the problem. But we're never the problem.
• 24:52
  But yeah. Yeah, I just, I, I know what?
• 24:57
  Yeah. And I'm OK being single and just
• 25:01
  enjoying and living life. Yeah.
• 25:03
  No problem with that. I love that.
• 25:05
  I love coming home to my bed. And yeah.
• 25:08
  Laying however, which way? Yeah.
• 25:10
  Nobody. Basically doing one of the hell
• 25:13
  you want, yeah. Any of that.
• 25:15
  Yeah, and just having everything so nice.
• 25:18
  Yes. No, I'm just kidding.
• 25:21
  I'm like, oh, how must that be? Just kidding.
• 25:24
  But yeah, so just So what are your like non negotiables and
• 25:31
  like dating? For sure you got to have a job.
• 25:35
  Well, that is, I feel like the lowest standard.
• 25:39
  I bet you. Have yeah, you got to have a
• 25:42
  car, you got to have some goals, you got to have good credit
• 25:46
  score. OK, girl, she didn't know what I
• 25:50
  was talking about. Now she knows she's like,
• 25:52
  actually got the list. Yeah.
• 25:53
  Hold on. And then most importantly, you,
• 25:57
  you got to, you know, be a little fit.
• 26:00
  Yeah. So that was my next question.
• 26:02
  Would you date someone that doesn't go to the gym or
• 26:04
  prioritize? Yeah, I feel like it just
• 26:07
  wouldn't like mesh, right, Because they would be like so
• 26:10
  involved with doing anything but going to the gym and yeah, it
• 26:15
  makes sense. I mean, any, I think any fitness
• 26:17
  person would tell you, yeah, do they gym then?
• 26:21
  Yeah, like automatically. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 26:23
  And honestly, I think gym dates are so fun.
• 26:26
  Me and Randy just had one yesterday.
• 26:28
  We had like, my mom babysit and she's like, where are you guys
• 26:31
  going? I'm like the gym.
• 26:32
  She's like, what the. She's like, who the hell does
• 26:34
  this girl think she is? I've been, you know, working out
• 26:37
  for 50-7 days. I go to the gym on dates.
• 26:42
  They are really fun. I was like, OK, get a little a
• 26:45
  little booty tap there while you're working by working out.
• 26:50
  All right, So this one, I feel like I feel like because I see
• 26:54
  your stuff, I feel like this would happen a lot.
• 26:57
  Do younger men hit on you? I didn't prepare for that
• 27:06
  question. I definitely don't discriminate.
• 27:10
  Age, race, I don't discriminate. But yes, a lot of younger men do
• 27:19
  approach, do approach me. And I feel like the older woman,
• 27:25
  because an older woman knows what they.
• 27:29
  Want, yeah. And so that's why they approach,
• 27:35
  but at the same time, with my experiences, they're just too
• 27:40
  young. Yeah.
• 27:41
  And some of them are scared. Oh gosh, yeah, it's like too
• 27:46
  much. Too much, Too much.
• 27:48
  Yeah, because they're dealing with an experienced woman.
• 27:51
  Yeah. So as opposed to like, yeah,
• 27:53
  girls that just, like, take their shit.
• 27:56
  Yeah. And they're just like, OK, I'll
• 27:57
  take it and it's fine. And you're like, no, let me show
• 28:01
  you. Yeah, Yeah.
• 28:04
  That that's why it's kind of like there's a there's an age.
• 28:07
  Yeah, yeah. But it's always fun, you know,
• 28:10
  to get flirted with or. Yeah.
• 28:12
  I mean, of course any woman will tell you the attention is nice,
• 28:16
  whether you're young, old. I mean.
• 28:20
  I mean, we're just women in the end, you know?
• 28:23
  Disagreeing with yeah or not saying I'm not flattered.
• 28:28
  Oh, absolutely. Yeah, yeah.
• 28:30
  But definitely, you know, you said, you know, age doesn't
• 28:33
  matter. So it's more like maybe energy
• 28:35
  that they give you or what matters most to you.
• 28:38
  I don't. Know because the energy is
• 28:40
  there. But like I said, I mean, I'm,
• 28:44
  I'm not. If I'm going to be with someone,
• 28:46
  it has to be my age or older. That makes sense.
• 28:50
  For me, yeah, the young ones, I'm sorry, but they're just for
• 28:53
  fun. Yeah, I mean, what could you
• 28:56
  really have in common? I mean, I don't know.
• 28:59
  But then again, that's just me. I mean, I know a lot of my
• 29:02
  friends. I'm no judging.
• 29:04
  You can date whoever you want, but I just, I personally just
• 29:07
  couldn't. I'd be like, who's immature 1
• 29:10
  here? Like, I don't know, I mean.
• 29:12
  But wrong. I like to have fun.
• 29:13
  Yeah, of course. Yeah.
• 29:16
  Yeah, but for something serious. Yeah, and just wouldn't be
• 29:20
  someone younger. Yeah, sorry, guys, sorry.
• 29:24
  You know, So you know, here we always like to empower women.
• 29:29
  What's like a piece of advice that you can give to someone
• 29:32
  just to like simply make her feel confident about herself.
• 29:35
  Like what can help throughout your day thinking about it or
• 29:38
  like what helps you like kind of like if you're you said you're
• 29:42
  not always feeling confident, what kind of helps you like fake
• 29:45
  the confidence or what's something simple you can do?
• 29:49
  Well, just always know that nobody is you, and you're nobody
• 29:56
  else. You're you and you're beautiful,
• 29:59
  unique. You're special in your own way.
• 30:02
  Yeah. So whatever we don't see in
• 30:05
  ourselves, someone else sees that in US.
• 30:08
  Kenny, you're just going to wrap this up and just like any last
• 30:13
  advice you have for some women, some single moms, some fitness
• 30:17
  moms, not even moms, just women in general.
• 30:20
  Yeah, just don't give up on yourself.
• 30:23
  If you're thinking about it, wanting to hesitant, just do it.
• 30:28
  Like you said, no one's watching.
• 30:30
  Yeah, no one cares. Yeah, push.
• 30:32
  Yourself do it. If you have a friend, call her
• 30:36
  up, go together. If not, call me.
• 30:38
  I'm here for. You start somewhere, definitely.
• 30:41
  Start somewhere. Keep going.
• 30:43
  Keep. Going I love that and I love
• 30:45
  that you came and I love you. You know my crazy bitch, but we
• 30:50
  are going to wrap things up and we're going to definitely have
• 30:52
  Viviana back and I love you. Thank you.
• 30:58
  I hope you had fun. All right, guys, that was mom
• 31:02
  gone mild, and we had so much fun here with Viviana.
• 31:06
  If you can't tell, I was laughing the entire time.
• 31:10
  We always have a great time and I hope she has inspired you and
• 31:13
  make you feel more confident because that's all that we want
• 31:17
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• 31:33
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• 31:38
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• 31:40
  Thank you so much again.