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3 - Men Go First: The Modern Masculine Initiation
There are men listening to this who are doing everything right… and still feel like they're losing.
You're working hard. You're helping more. You're watching your tone. You're trying not to escalate. And yet something feels off. She's less playful. Less open. Intimacy feels different. Sometimes it feels like she's there… but guarded.
I know that feeling. I lived it.
What I didn't understand then is that repeated conflict, even "normal" conflict with repair, was conditioning her nervous system. My body reset after arguments. Hers didn't. Over time, her body started bracing. Not consciously…
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