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193. Re-Parenting Ourselves: What Inner Child Healing Really Looks Like · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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Speaker 1: Apogee Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy
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Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana.
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Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to
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Speaker 2: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.
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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.
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Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone
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Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about.
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Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self. Welcome back
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Speaker 2: to another episode of She Rises with Ashy and Tiana.
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Speaker 2: It is Monday morning, so wherever it is that you're
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Speaker 2: plugging in from the car or walk your home, your bed,
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Speaker 2: even who knows, we have an episode for you. We
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Speaker 2: want to talk all today about our inner child when
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Speaker 2: we first met her in a child, personal experiences of
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Speaker 2: our inner child sabotaging us out of fear, and how
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Speaker 2: you can kind of come into yourself and really bring
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Speaker 2: yours forward and connect with her today.
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Speaker 1: And if you're listening thinking, oh, I don't need to
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Speaker 1: do that work or I don't connect with my inner child,
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Speaker 1: I just think that as well. But this work is
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Speaker 1: truly so transformative and actually are freaking important that you
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Speaker 1: connect with you and your child because she is always
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Speaker 1: a part of you before we get in Share of
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Speaker 1: the week when I go first.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely so. My Share of the Week is actually a
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Speaker 2: jewelry brand that I found. So it's called Y C. L.
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Speaker 2: I believe there's a little pop up store at Pacfair
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Speaker 2: in front of Honeybourdette. If you know where it is,
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Speaker 2: you'll find it there. It's actually where I bought Ashy's
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Speaker 2: birthday present from her necklace. It's a four four Ford necklace.
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Speaker 2: It's very cute.
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Speaker 1: That's my birthstone on it too.
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Speaker 2: Yes, And I just I love all the jewelry pieces.
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Speaker 2: They're very dainty jewelry. They've also got big and bulky
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Speaker 2: jelry there too, but it's just really cute, fine necklaces, bracelets, rings,
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Speaker 2: And I'm just very in a jewelry error at the moment.
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Speaker 1: I love that we are in our jewelry era.
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Speaker 2: Don't build my stack, babe, Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Love it. And then my recommendation, I'm doubting myself for
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Speaker 1: I've already recommended this. But it's a TV show called
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Speaker 1: The Beast in Meat. Okay, it is very edge of
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Speaker 1: your seat. It's crime. It's a bit of thriller. There's
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Speaker 1: murder in there. It's twisted it's based around this author
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Speaker 1: and a serial psycho killer. And yes, the actors actresses
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Speaker 1: are just incredible in there. And we've binged it in
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Speaker 1: a couple of days. I think, Oh, I love that.
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Speaker 1: That is only eight episodes, but things happen that you
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Speaker 1: didn't think were going to happen. I love those ones
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Speaker 1: where I can't figure out what's gonna happen.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. It keeps you thinking, yeah, yeah and excited.
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Speaker 1: Really good, all right, let's get into it in a
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Speaker 1: child work. Really, I feel like I got introduced to
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Speaker 1: in a child where probably over ten years ago, and
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Speaker 1: I remember the first time that I was introduced to
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Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck is this bullshit? I
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Speaker 1: honestly I did, and I was like, this is just stupid.
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Speaker 1: I'm not a child, I'm an adult, Like, what do
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Speaker 1: you mean connect with her?
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Speaker 2: Like?
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Speaker 1: I just couldn't understand the concept. And it was only, honestly,
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Speaker 1: maybe a couple of years ago. But the first time
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Speaker 1: I did a guided meditation with Megsie. I've done a
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Speaker 1: bit of work on it before, and I definitely believe
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Speaker 1: the importance of it, and I understood it to a
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Speaker 1: certain degree, but I hadn't fully connected with my inner child.
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Speaker 1: So she took me through this beautiful guided meditation and
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Speaker 1: took me back through all these really traumatic times in
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Speaker 1: my life. I remember things I didn't even I'd never
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Speaker 1: spoken about before, I'd never remembered. She wrote it all down,
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Speaker 1: so we got to talk about it afterwards. But I
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Speaker 1: vividly remember like sitting at the end of my bed
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Speaker 1: with my in a child and like me, age must
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Speaker 1: have been five or six or something, and like white
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Speaker 1: blonde hair, and just what I was wearing and how
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Speaker 1: scared she was and what she felt. And I was
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Speaker 1: just bawling my eyes. And ever since I've connected with her,
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Speaker 1: it's like, you can't not be connected. Yeah, She's like
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Speaker 1: with you, and she always need you. And every time
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Speaker 1: that I get scared or something shows up, I'm just like, oh,
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Speaker 1: what does she need right now? Because even though the
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Speaker 1: adult part of me is showing up, is scared or
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Speaker 1: frustrated or wanting something, it's your little girl there too,
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Speaker 1: who's like screaming to be seen and screaming to be
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Speaker 1: heard or validated. And it's just so cool when you
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Speaker 1: have that compassion for her, you have that compassion for
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Speaker 1: yourself because you're your one. Yeah, if that makes sense. Yeah, absolutely,
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Speaker 1: that's what I can describe it. It does, it is
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Speaker 1: and so true.
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Speaker 2: I didn't really know what in a child work was
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Speaker 2: before I had worked with this one coach. He is incredible,
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Speaker 2: say beautiful, such a healing like masculine presence to be around.
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Speaker 2: His name is Rick William who's.
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Speaker 1: Actually coming in Rise and Side.
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Speaker 2: He's actually an expert guest who's bringing an expert training
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Speaker 2: for you guys inside. And honestly, he changed my life,
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Speaker 2: Like we worked together consistently for six months, incredible, and
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Speaker 2: we basically did in a child healing for six months
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Speaker 2: straight weekly, one call a week for six months and
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Speaker 2: we just went ham every single week. And at first
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Speaker 2: I couldn't describe how it felt after the fact, but
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Speaker 2: I just remember even in the very beginning when he
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Speaker 2: first took me through that process, feeling so just like
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Speaker 2: gobsmacked and so shocked with how much lighter energetically I
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Speaker 2: felt afterwards. And at first, obviously when you're doing the
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Speaker 2: process and I'm sure he'll take you through something inside
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Speaker 2: Rise and Side, it's a scary thing to go through
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Speaker 2: because it's a very vulnerable thing and you're right, like
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Speaker 2: you remember things and remember moments in time that you
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Speaker 2: don't consciously think about. You don't think that you remember that,
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Speaker 2: and then your body remembers. It's crazy, crazy experience. I
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Speaker 2: remember going to him just feeling really lost and not
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Speaker 2: knowing my next steps and feeling really disconnected from myself
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Speaker 2: and really scared. I felt real timid and just terrified
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Speaker 2: of life and big things and gross and all of
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Speaker 2: those things. After working with him, I really noticed myself
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Speaker 2: really start to come out of my shell in terms
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Speaker 2: of not being scared of being visible anymore. Like I
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Speaker 2: was like, okay, cool, Like no, I can talk on
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Speaker 2: social media more and I can be visible and people
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Speaker 2: can see me as myself and see me sharing my
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Speaker 2: wisdom the things that I want to express and get
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Speaker 2: across to people. And it just gave me this confidence
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Speaker 2: in myself because I was able to let go of
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Speaker 2: all of the fear that was kind of I was
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Speaker 2: hiding underneath. And it was like we pulled back every
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Speaker 2: single session. It was like a layer of fear being
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Speaker 2: pulled back, and slowly I kind of started to come
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Speaker 2: out and emerge oh and felt just more confident in
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Speaker 2: myself as a human. And it was through connecting with
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Speaker 2: that version of myself. I had so much compassion for
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Speaker 2: the little girl in me who was terrified of life,
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Speaker 2: terrified of experiencing life, of failing, of being seen judged,
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Speaker 2: all of those things, all things that I experienced so
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Speaker 2: much when I was younger, And so yeah, it was
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Speaker 2: just a really pivotal experience and it really was a
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Speaker 2: catalyst in my growth and personal development journey to feel
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Speaker 2: not so scared of being visible, you know. And I
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Speaker 2: remember doing an interview with him after and he was
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Speaker 2: just like, Tiana, I just can't believe how much you've
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Speaker 2: come out into yourself now because of all of that.
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, that's because for six months straight, once
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Speaker 2: a week, I was crying my eyes out while you
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Speaker 2: walk me through it in a child process. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: So every session was like recession. When you say process
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Speaker 1: is like a guided meditation, yeah, like makes it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So he gets me to close my eyes, it
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Speaker 2: walks me through a process, and every single time it
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Speaker 2: was like a guided meditation slash in a child healing.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And I just met myself in so many ways that
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Speaker 2: I'd never met myself before. I had let go of pain,
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Speaker 2: I had let go of fear of self punishment, of
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Speaker 2: judgment of you know, mental limitations, you know stories that
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Speaker 2: I used to tell myself, and without all of that
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Speaker 2: being myself didn't feel so heavy.
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Speaker 1: How old would you like, you know, you connect with
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Speaker 1: a certain age, Yeah, should you connect with it?
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Speaker 2: I remember connecting a lot to when I was around six. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: and then different stages like seven, eight, twelve, sixteen, fifteen,
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Speaker 2: twenty one, like all different ages. Yeah, but it started
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Speaker 2: as low as like five six.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. It sounds like it's kind of like a process
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Speaker 1: of meeting it at the different ages. It's like almost
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Speaker 1: not reliving trauma, but kind of going back and visiting
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Speaker 1: yourself in those moments. And I remember makes you ask
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Speaker 1: me like what does she need right now? I'm like, Oh,
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Speaker 1: she just wants to be held, hug her. It's like
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Speaker 1: every moment I got to go back and yeah, it
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Speaker 1: does remove pain that they're feeling, that you're carrying still
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Speaker 1: in your bodies. I think that's the intention of it
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Speaker 1: is to actually go back there, meet her there, feel
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Speaker 1: her in it, hold her in it, and then it
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Speaker 1: like moves through your body.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And for me it was through a lot of tears,
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Speaker 1: which is so beautiful. It's such important way okay.
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Speaker 2: And it's funny, and you said things that you don't remember,
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Speaker 2: things that you don't think that you're remember but your
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Speaker 2: body remembers. And so to like actually let go of
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Speaker 2: the things that you don't think impacting you but actually are,
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Speaker 2: It's like, no wonder why we will walk around feeling
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Speaker 2: so heavy all the time, drained, exhausted, tired, feeling like
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Speaker 2: I can't hold one more thing or I'm.
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Speaker 1: Going to explode.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, when you think about all the things, all of
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Speaker 2: the times where you were neglected, dismissed, punished, never held properly,
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Speaker 2: didn't get your emotional needs met, you're carrying the emotional
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Speaker 2: trauma from all.
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Speaker 1: Of those years ago. It's a lot to hold.
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Speaker 2: It's a lot to hold, and it's hard to have
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Speaker 2: capacity for anything else. Yeah, when you're carrying all of
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Speaker 2: those things, You.
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Speaker 1: Know what in a trial work has made me true,
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Speaker 1: it's maybe more empathetic and more compassionate. So I think
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Speaker 1: I was a lot more judgmental for this that if
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Speaker 1: I saw a man or someone behaving a certain way,
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Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh, that's so shit, like they shouldn't
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Speaker 1: be doing that, Whereas now I'm like I just see,
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Speaker 1: like a wounded little boy that just wants to be seen,
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Speaker 1: absolutely just wants to feel significant, he wants to feel needed,
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Speaker 1: or a girl. I'm like, oh, I just see that
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Speaker 1: little girl so desperately wanting to be validated her experience,
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Speaker 1: and now it's coming out and maybe not so healthy ways.
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Speaker 1: So it just makes you more compassion to think about,
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Speaker 1: like what they might have actually gone through to see
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Speaker 1: them behave like that, because it's not the behavior that
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Speaker 1: who that person is. It's normally what they've gone through
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Speaker 1: how they have not dealt with it yet.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's as skill to be able to read
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Speaker 2: between the lines of people's behavior, yes, because that means
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Speaker 2: that you're not taking their behavior personally because you also
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Speaker 2: understand that with yourself, the way that you behave is
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Speaker 2: just the little girl inside of you, Yes, scared, fearful,
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Speaker 2: wanting love, wanting connection, and.
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Speaker 1: We literally do it to each other like sometimes if
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Speaker 1: we have I'm trying to think of an example, maybe
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Speaker 1: something with a friendship you know, will come up and
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Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, I could just feel the little
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Speaker 1: girl inside me that was never felt like she belonged
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Speaker 1: and is scared of getting abandoned again Like that little
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Speaker 1: girl is so prominent in me, and yes, it's how
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Speaker 1: I'm feeling as an adult, but it's also stemmed from,
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Speaker 1: you know, being bullied in high school in primary school
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Speaker 1: and never feeling like I had my safe circle of
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Speaker 1: people that I could really lean on. We often say
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Speaker 1: it's like, oh, my little girl is just feeling like this. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I remember the TikTok dresses. Oh yes, yeah. We ordered
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Speaker 1: these two dresses and Tana's idea was like, well, rocks
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Speaker 1: is paper for whatever one. I was like, yeah, cool,
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Speaker 1: that sounds good, and then we talked about which one
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Speaker 1: we actually wanted. I was like, oh, well the orange
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Speaker 1: and I've had my eyes on a few years and
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Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, I want that dress too, and then
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Speaker 1: you were like started apologizing. You're like, oh, sorry, I
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Speaker 1: just feel like i'm getting a brat right now, and
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Speaker 1: I'm like, you're not being a brat, and you're like yeah,
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Speaker 1: but I can notice the little girl and me, yeah,
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Speaker 1: that felt like being the fourth daughter that always kind
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Speaker 1: of got the hand me downs and didn't get to
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Speaker 1: choose because my older sister's got to choose before me. Yes,
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Speaker 1: and I'm having a moment where it's like you're not
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Speaker 1: doing anything wrong, there's nothing wrong, or I love the
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Speaker 1: pink dress. Just having this moment my little girl's coming
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Speaker 1: forward of like, well I want to have choice here. Yes, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it's really interesting.
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Speaker 2: And that was cool one of those moments. Yeah, it
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Speaker 2: definitely was because I was having my own experience of
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Speaker 2: being like, oh, I didn't get to choose what I want,
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Speaker 2: but you choosing the dress didn't necessarily take away from
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Speaker 2: my choice. It was just what it brought up for
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Speaker 2: me was my past experiences. Yes, because I was.
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Speaker 1: Like, you have the orange dress, baby, like, oh, it's
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Speaker 1: not actually.
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Speaker 2: It's not the dress, it's not the harrass dress.
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Speaker 1: No.
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Speaker 2: It was just about yeah, feeling like I didn't to
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Speaker 2: have choice and my once and desires always came second. Yes,
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Speaker 2: And so that's what that moment triggered for me. That
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Speaker 2: wasn't about the dresses, it wasn't about you. I ended
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Speaker 2: up loving the pink dress. I was like, I actually
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Speaker 2: love this, It's beautiful. But it was just in that
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Speaker 2: moment that's what came up for me. And talking through
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Speaker 2: it really helps because it helps you detach from the
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Speaker 2: moment too. And then that way when I can talk
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Speaker 2: about it and I can bring it up to you.
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Speaker 2: I can actually say to you, babe, my inner child
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Speaker 2: right now is just feeling like, oh my gosh, I
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Speaker 2: need a bit of love. I can describe it in
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Speaker 2: a way where I'm not sitting here pointing the finger
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Speaker 2: at you.
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Speaker 1: You never let me choose, because why do you get
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Speaker 1: the orange hirt?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not at all case. It's not even that
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Speaker 2: isn't even relevant. But it's about being able to communicate
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Speaker 2: it in a way where the other person doesn't automatically think, oh, oh,
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Speaker 2: this person is upset with me.
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Speaker 1: Yes, but how important is this work? Because if you
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Speaker 1: didn't do that work with Rick in that moment, I
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Speaker 1: think it might have come out differently to me. I
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Speaker 1: would have heard it differently, and maybe you know, would
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Speaker 1: have been projected differently. I might have felt like I'd
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Speaker 1: done something wrong. Yeah, there just could have been an
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Speaker 1: energy that you didn't know how to plain and communicate.
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Speaker 1: So then it would have been like, oh, I'm just
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Speaker 1: feeling a sit mind. I'm so I don't know why
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Speaker 1: am I feeling like this? Anyone listening have you ever
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Speaker 1: had that moment You're like, I don't know why I'm
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Speaker 1: still upset. I don't know why this keeps happening or
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Speaker 1: why I'm still upset about X, Y and Z, like,
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Speaker 1: and for all the time, there's unhealed trauma and upset
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Speaker 1: and moments where you've been dismissed and not heard and
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Speaker 1: validated as a child that then comes out in your
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Speaker 1: adult life.
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Speaker 2: I love that you mentioned that because I feel like
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Speaker 2: this is really relevant for women in relationships. Yes, you know,
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Speaker 2: I have a fight with your partner and then it's
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Speaker 2: been like four weeks and you're still going on about it,
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Speaker 2: and you still internally feel like something here, there's energy,
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Speaker 2: but I can't explain what it is. And then you're like,
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Speaker 2: why am I being like this? He's like doing all
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Speaker 2: the things and doing all the right things and saying
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Speaker 2: all the things. Why am I still not receptive to it?
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Speaker 2: I feel like this is really relevant to that. So
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Speaker 2: the reason why this is so important is because it
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Speaker 2: allows us to one let go of emotional pain that
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Speaker 2: holding onto. It allows us to show up in a
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Speaker 2: way that we're actually really proud of. And it also
13:03
Speaker 2: allows us to cultivate, like just a shit done, have
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Speaker 2: compassion for ourselves, you know, having another passion for yourself
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Speaker 2: and others is almost like a skill that you have
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Speaker 2: to learn how to do, and when you do, life
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Speaker 2: feels a lot lighter because you're not assuming the worst
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Speaker 2: case scenario, you're assuming the best of people. You get
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Speaker 2: to connect deeper. You also understand why people do what
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Speaker 2: they do without automatically taking it personally and feeling like
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Speaker 2: everything that everyone else does is a personal attack because
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Speaker 2: it's so easy to do that. I've been that person.
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Speaker 2: I used to think that all the time, so to
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Speaker 2: think that the world revolved around me and everything everyone
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Speaker 2: did was always about me, when in actual fact, it
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Speaker 2: actually does nothing that it's none of my business. What
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Speaker 2: people do is not about me. It's about what's going
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Speaker 2: on inside their world and what's happening for them. And
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Speaker 2: we wanted to bring just a highlight importance to this
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Speaker 2: because this is exactly what we're working on this month
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Speaker 2: in Rise Inside. Rick william is going to be our
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Speaker 2: expert guest speaker this month, and he's going to bring
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Speaker 2: a beautiful expert training in supporting you in navigating and
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Speaker 2: learning you're inner child, connecting with her and really being
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Speaker 2: able to free her from all the pain that she's
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Speaker 2: holding her. Yeah, we also have two trainings from us
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Speaker 2: as well, so we're going to have dive into the
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Speaker 2: inner child and really lead you through it as well
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Speaker 2: in two trainings.
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Speaker 1: The week one and week two is with Channa and I.
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Speaker 1: The week three is with Rick. This is for month three,
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Speaker 1: so it starts in February very soon, which is exciting,
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Speaker 1: and then the last week is a live Q and A.
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Speaker 1: But also, as we spoke about before, we go through
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Speaker 1: a lot of inner child healings, meditations, processes. We take
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Speaker 1: you through quite a bit in there, so you really
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Speaker 1: get to experience what we have experience and it is
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Speaker 1: just absolutely life changing. Plus is a PEP talks as well,
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Speaker 1: and then obviously the forum where you get to chat
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Speaker 1: with all the other girls. It's going to be absolutely incredible.
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Speaker 1: I can't wait for Rick. He's so cool.
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Speaker 2: You're going to absolutely be blown away next month when
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Speaker 2: the content drops on the first effem.
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Speaker 1: Yes, So if you have not joined us, we'll leave
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Speaker 1: the link below you can jump in even if you
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Speaker 1: just want to do this month, Like if you've listened
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Speaker 1: to this podcast and you're really resonating with it, or
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Speaker 1: you've heard a little bit and you've seen a little
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Speaker 1: bit on social media, like I want to learn more.
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Speaker 1: You can just come in for the month and then
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Speaker 1: leave if you want to. This is a really important mom.
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, and if you had any questions, or you feel
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Speaker 2: like you're in a child has come out, or you
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Speaker 2: have had experiences where you've been fearful and haven't wanted
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Speaker 2: to show up, do something, go after a goal, or
15:16
Speaker 2: anything like that, you've also got our best the advice
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Speaker 2: as well. So if you don't have any questions, pop
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Speaker 2: them in there, or if you want and prefer, you
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Speaker 2: can jump into Rise inside and will have the forum
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Speaker 2: in there. The girls are very, very active. Not only
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Speaker 2: will you get access to us, you'll also get access
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Speaker 2: to the community too, and the girls are just incredible inside.
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Speaker 1: One thing I think I want to leave this podcast
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Speaker 1: with is I saw I know who posted it was
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Speaker 1: some of my dooms girl. It's basically people in relationships,
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Speaker 1: if you are having an activated argument with your partner
15:42
Speaker 1: and you feel like they're being unreasonable or they're not
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Speaker 1: knowing how to communicate, is to like have a photo
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Speaker 1: of them when they're a little child on the back
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Speaker 1: of your phone and like just take a moment to
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Speaker 1: look at that photo, because just know when you're dealing
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Speaker 1: with your husband or your wife. You're not just dealing
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Speaker 1: with them, You're also dealing with that little boy or
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Speaker 1: that little girl inside that is wanting to be seen
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Speaker 1: by you, wanting to be heard, maybe wanting to be right,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is that they're going through. Like, that's who
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Speaker 1: you're dealing with, because that's what's coming up a lot
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Speaker 1: of the time. I thought that was really helpful. I
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Speaker 1: haven't practiced it yet, but I should.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to print a little photo of you in
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Speaker 2: the back of all but not just you and me
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Speaker 2: side by side.
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Speaker 1: That's actually so cute.
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Speaker 2: That's really cue. We should do that.
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Speaker 1: It's very cool.
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Speaker 2: We actual you guys know how we go. I think
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Speaker 2: that's amazing.
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Speaker 1: It is really nice. So I hope you guys enjoyed this,
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Speaker 1: and we hope to see you inside. Rise inside.
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Speaker 2: We'll see soon.
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Speaker 1: Bye bye