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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: That All-Or-Nothing Mentality Isn't The Way · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Emily, here you are listening to five Friday
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  Speaker 1: Unhurdle coming to you from Osaka. I got here on Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: and I really I'm into it. We went to this
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  Speaker 1: pizza spot that I found on the social somewhere for
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  Speaker 1: dinner on Wednesday night, and it was absolutely unreal. And
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  Speaker 1: in the surrounding area there are all these, I want
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  Speaker 1: to say, between ten and fifteen seat restaurants, like super
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  Speaker 1: small from what I've seen so far, and I haven't
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  Speaker 1: seen a ton granted, but this is a place that
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  Speaker 1: if you're a foodie you would absolutely love to to.
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  Speaker 1: I digress. We got here on Wednesday. I've been in
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  Speaker 1: Japan for something like eleven days now. If my math
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  Speaker 1: serves me right, it's it's been so great. And also
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  Speaker 1: it's a lot. And I say that with a sensitivity
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  Speaker 1: to this concept that I'm truly living a life that
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  Speaker 1: my younger self didn't even dream of, Like this is
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  Speaker 1: more than I ever could have imagined. What an unbelievable
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  Speaker 1: opportunity that I get to travel to work like this,
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  Speaker 1: that I get to come halfway around the globe to
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  Speaker 1: have important conversations and highlight athletic amazingness and create things
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  Speaker 1: and art and.
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  Speaker 2: Products that I'm really excited about. It's so awesome.
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  Speaker 1: And amidst all of this awesomeness, I have admittedly been
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  Speaker 1: struggling a little bit. I'm dealing with a naste cold
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  Speaker 1: right now, which isn't super fun, but we're working through it.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure you can hear it in my voice.
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  Speaker 1: And I've also had to do a lot of shifting
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  Speaker 1: around of the fitness slash wellness routine and habits, as
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  Speaker 1: they talked about in last week's episode. In Tokyo God,
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  Speaker 1: it was like above ninety degrees and ninety percent humidity
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  Speaker 1: every day that we were there, and so that required
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  Speaker 1: a lot of finagling of schedules. And even though I
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  Speaker 1: characteristically am an early morning workout person, that wasn't always
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  Speaker 1: an option. I wasn't getting really good sleep. If I
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  Speaker 1: was sleeping in the morning, I wasn't going to ruin that. Also,
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  Speaker 1: I'm in Japan, which means I have the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: meet up with friends that are traveling also here doing
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  Speaker 1: a lot of work within the same space that I'm in,
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  Speaker 1: and I want to do it all. But the thing
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  Speaker 1: is is that the all or nothing thinking, it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: necessarily work here like I have to do the best
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  Speaker 1: I can with what I have, which means that if
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna miss a workout or I'm going to eat
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  Speaker 1: and quote unquote unhealthy meal, that doesn't need to derail
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  Speaker 1: my entire journey. There have been so many times in
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  Speaker 1: my life where I've been so hard on myself about
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  Speaker 1: having to deviate from the plan.
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  Speaker 2: I am someone who loves habits.
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  Speaker 1: I love journaling, I love breathwork, I love running first
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  Speaker 1: thing in the morning. I love lifting weights. But every
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  Speaker 1: now and then, something's got to give. And so this trip,
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  Speaker 1: one of the things that had to give is I
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  Speaker 1: haven't lifted a weight in eleven days.
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  Speaker 2: I did message my Future trainer.
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  Speaker 1: I use this app called Future to do my strength training,
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  Speaker 1: and I work directly with the trainer one on one there.
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  Speaker 1: If you're interested in getting in on that, I do
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  Speaker 1: have an opportunity to give you fifty percent off your
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  Speaker 1: first month of training.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to link that in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: But I said to him, I was like, listen, fitting
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  Speaker 1: in my runs is going to be enough of a
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  Speaker 1: challenge for me over the next two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going to stress about getting to a gym and.
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  Speaker 1: That was it, And for the first time in a
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  Speaker 1: long time, I didn't really feel any guilt over that, because,
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  Speaker 1: like I said, I'm truly doing the best I can
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  Speaker 1: with what I have. I'm not going to travel to
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  Speaker 1: Japan and not experience the things. I'm not gonna not
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  Speaker 1: be at a record bar until two am for a
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  Speaker 1: night or two. I'm not I'm not gonna not I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna skip out trying the delicacies. I use that
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  Speaker 1: word very strategically at McDonald's. I'm not gonna not go
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  Speaker 1: and have the stack of super fluffy pancakes that look
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  Speaker 1: like they are from an alternate universe. All these things
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  Speaker 1: are going to happen, and I'm still going to do
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  Speaker 1: the best I can to feel good in my body.
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  Speaker 2: So what does this look like in practice?
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  Speaker 1: It looked like me going for a six mile run
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  Speaker 1: this morning when I woke up in Osaka. It looks
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  Speaker 1: like me planning my day tomorrow around making sure I
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  Speaker 1: get the things I need, Like I'm gonna need to
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  Speaker 1: find some sort of a running store out here to
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  Speaker 1: find a gel.
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  Speaker 2: For my long run on Sunday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna get to bed early, and I'm gonna accommodate
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  Speaker 1: that plan because that's something that's important to me. There's
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  Speaker 1: gonna be a give and take, and so if you
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  Speaker 1: have an all or nothing mentality, I can promise you
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  Speaker 1: that's not gonna serve you in the long run.
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  Speaker 2: We only get to do this once.
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  Speaker 1: And like I said, I love my habits, and for
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  Speaker 1: a long time I let my habits completely.
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  Speaker 2: Rule my day to day.
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  Speaker 1: And what I realized in that is that sometimes I
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  Speaker 1: was missing out on the little joys, the small joys.
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  Speaker 1: And we are surrounded, all of us by this highlight
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  Speaker 1: reel that is social media. I am inundated with folks
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  Speaker 1: that appear to never deviate from the routine. But I
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  Speaker 1: can say to you and promise you that that is
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  Speaker 1: not necessarily a healthy way to be. And so this
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  Speaker 1: feels a little bit rambly, but I'm here to tell
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  Speaker 1: you it's okay not to be perfect. It's okay to
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  Speaker 1: live in the moment. It's okay to indulge every once
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  Speaker 1: in a while, and it's definitely okay to do the
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  Speaker 1: best with what you have, do a gut check, do
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  Speaker 1: what feels good, and somedays, what feels good on that
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  Speaker 1: particular day is going to feel different than what feels
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  Speaker 1: good the next day. Have grace with yourself because, just
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  Speaker 1: like your grit, your will, your determination, that self compassion
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  Speaker 1: is something that grows over time when you allow yourself
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  Speaker 1: to have it. My question for you this week where
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  Speaker 1: can you offer a little bit more grace with yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Understanding that all or nothing just isn't going to serve you.
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  Speaker 1: Where can you offer a little grace with yourself?
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  Speaker 2: Now?
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  Speaker 1: A listener question, Emily. I always enjoy listening to your
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  Speaker 1: show and love five minute Fridays. I recently signed up
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  Speaker 1: for a five k that is at the end of October.
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  Speaker 1: Halloween costumes are highly encouraged. My question is have you
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  Speaker 1: ever done a costume run and do you have any
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  Speaker 1: costume suggestions. It's been a while since I did a
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  Speaker 1: race and I don't want to run in anything uncomfortable,
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  Speaker 1: but would like to wear a fun and unique costume.
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  Speaker 1: Do you have any suggestions or tips for running in
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  Speaker 1: a costume? Thanks so much, Amanda from Virginia. Amanda, this
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  Speaker 1: question is epic. I hate to be the person to
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  Speaker 1: tell you this. I've never done a costume run. I'm
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  Speaker 1: really trying to think about it. I dated someone in
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  Speaker 1: college who once ran a turkey trot in a turkey costume.
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  Speaker 1: I did not, though the feedback I got from that
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  Speaker 1: experience was that it was hot inside of the costume.
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  Speaker 2: So I would say to answer your question, lean into accessories.
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  Speaker 1: So maybe it's some sort of like a fine headband
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  Speaker 1: or a sparkly belt, or I know a lot of
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  Speaker 1: women that love to run in some sort of a
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  Speaker 1: tou tou. But if you're gonna go for like a
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  Speaker 1: whole shebang, maybe like something that's made of felt and
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  Speaker 1: a whole body step into situation with a zipper.
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  Speaker 2: Just that's not the move.
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  Speaker 1: I would think A functional costume could be something like
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  Speaker 1: maybe going, oh, I like this the root of legends
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  Speaker 1: of the Hidden Temple, or like you're a contestant on
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  Speaker 1: a game show like that, So what about what's the
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  Speaker 1: one with the slime double dare? That could be fun,
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  Speaker 1: Or you could be wear's walda. You could just wear
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  Speaker 1: a striped shirt and some glasses. That's also an easy one,
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  Speaker 1: black Cat. These costume suggestions not necessarily breaking the bank,
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  Speaker 1: but also maybe not my best work. But you get
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  Speaker 1: the drift here. Do something that's successible. Make sure you're
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  Speaker 1: still wearing technically smart clothing that will be very helpful
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  Speaker 1: for you on your pursuit of excellence in your five K.
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  Speaker 1: And the most important part of this is you better
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  Speaker 1: email me with a.
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  Speaker 2: Photo after this is all said and done.
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  Speaker 1: I'm also interested to hear what you guys would wear
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  Speaker 1: on your costume run, so feel free to send me
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  Speaker 2: Follow the show over at Hurdle Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I'm over at Emily Abadi and while you are engaging,
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  Speaker 1: Another Hurdle concord. Catch you guys next time.