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Friday feature - ins & outs · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apologie production.
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  Speaker 2: Ins and outs, ins and outs.
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  Speaker 1: I love seeing what people are bringing more in and
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  Speaker 1: say goodbye to. I think it's so cool and really
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  Speaker 1: inspirational as well. My first in is more self development books,
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  Speaker 1: but listening to them. So I really struggled last year.
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  Speaker 1: I set a goal toory twelve books. I read eleven,
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  Speaker 1: which is really big for me, But the self development
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  Speaker 1: books I really struggle with, and Steve was like, why
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  Speaker 1: don't you try to listen to them? So I'm listening
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  Speaker 1: to twelve self development books this year and reading twelve
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  Speaker 1: nonfiction so I'm going to double the amount of books
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  Speaker 1: I did last year. But listening to them, I just
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  Speaker 1: feel like I retain the information a lot easier when
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  Speaker 1: it's self development. Yeah, but with fiction, I love being
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  Speaker 1: lost in reading the story.
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  Speaker 2: I agree.
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  Speaker 1: I don't carry this guilt or resentment like oh I
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  Speaker 1: can't get into my self development book and I was
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  Speaker 1: frustrated that I couldn't get through it, But listening to
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  Speaker 1: it of my walk, I'm like, cool, easy.
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  Speaker 2: Something else that's really helped me is if I highlight.
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  Speaker 2: If I highlight as I go when I read a
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  Speaker 2: self development I find it a lot easier. But audiobook's great,
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  Speaker 2: so good, so good keeping our spaces clean because I
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  Speaker 2: know you've been cleaning everything out in your house and
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  Speaker 2: I've just been really loving keeping up with everything. And
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  Speaker 2: when you've got a tidy space, it feels so nice.
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  Speaker 2: Tidy car, all those things, and I'm like, here, I
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  Speaker 2: just take the extra two minutes to take this shit
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  Speaker 2: out of your car literally when you pull up at home,
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  Speaker 2: and especially in my car, like my car can get
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  Speaker 2: real bad.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, when I hopped in your car, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: don't judge me. I can't even put my feet on
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  Speaker 1: the floor. And I've been given a gifted a vacuum
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  Speaker 1: cleaner for my car, which I know sounds very unromantic,
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  Speaker 1: but I was saying to Super so long, I want
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  Speaker 1: to get a back and cleaner for my car because
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  Speaker 1: I love a cleaned car, Like it's just this new thing.
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  Speaker 1: Clean space me just helps me. I feel more calmer
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  Speaker 1: than my space is cleaned. And then you've got a
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  Speaker 1: vacuum cleaner for your car.
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  Speaker 2: I won't put one. You was telling me about it,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, that's a great idea. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to get one.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but it really does help you, especially I
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  Speaker 1: feel like if you are a creative person, if your
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  Speaker 1: space is clean and light and airy, and you feel
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  Speaker 1: good in your space, you have way more room mentally
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  Speaker 1: to be able to be more creative. Yeah, it makes
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  Speaker 1: a huge difference. And for me, more regular acupuncture now
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  Speaker 1: I've scheduled in every single month, I just find the
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  Speaker 1: biggest difference in my nervous system, my energy, how calm
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  Speaker 1: I am. It's like the biggest reset. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: going to one acupunctial appointment for me is like getting
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  Speaker 1: a whole extion nized sleep. It's so recovery. But because
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  Speaker 1: it helps me recovery and it helps me be calm,
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  Speaker 1: I feel so much more energized there. You go a
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  Speaker 1: week before my period.
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  Speaker 2: It's scared of acupuncture. I've never done it.
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  Speaker 1: If you've got a tight like there's a part of
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  Speaker 1: my shin that's always tight, so it kind of makes
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  Speaker 1: you jump, But I just don't get it in that point,
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  Speaker 1: and so.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't hurt at all.
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  Speaker 1: Not even split second you feel a need I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to say needle because it's so easy. Yeah, I'm
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  Speaker 1: literally laying there with my eyes closed, and the lady
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  Speaker 1: I go to she does like a full back massage
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  Speaker 1: at the end, head massage, neck massage. It's honestly, you'd
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  Speaker 1: feel your nervous system. You would love it, and your hormones,
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  Speaker 1: your periods go a week before your period. It's helped
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  Speaker 1: so much.
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  Speaker 2: I should try it. I'm just a bit of a chicken,
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  Speaker 2: so that's in.
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  Speaker 1: More accupuncture.
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  Speaker 2: Well, my inn is more regular sauna use again. I
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  Speaker 2: feel like I was good, so good. I was doingly
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  Speaker 2: five times a week. I was really really good and
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  Speaker 2: I felt freaking fantastic. I felt so good when I
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  Speaker 2: was doing it regularly. It is so good for me.
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  Speaker 2: It's so great when I'm on my period. Yes, and
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  Speaker 2: I just needed to get back.
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  Speaker 1: On the bandwagon.
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  Speaker 2: I love that.
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  Speaker 1: More vitamin D. I feel like I'm not getting enough
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  Speaker 1: vitamin D. And when I spoke to a match path
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  Speaker 1: a little while ago, she was saying that majority of
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  Speaker 1: the population is actually deficient in vitamin D and it
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  Speaker 1: can really affect your sleep, your hormones, your moods, even
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  Speaker 1: how well your body absorbs nutrients, so they reckon. I
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  Speaker 1: think I heard it on Joe Rogan's podcast, like one
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  Speaker 1: of the best things you can do for yourself is
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  Speaker 1: like go out in the morning. Steve does it and
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  Speaker 1: get sunlight on your eyes for five minutes on your
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  Speaker 1: eyes and your eyes like open your eyes up and
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  Speaker 1: look at the sun, like five minutes of direct vitamin
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  Speaker 1: D like to awakens your body. Helps us great. So
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  Speaker 1: I can have said this word Cicadian rhythm. Yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: so good.
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  Speaker 2: I was supposed to look at the sun.
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  Speaker 1: No, wow, apprent there you go. See feels so energized
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  Speaker 1: doing it too, for like wakes his whole body up. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: I love this. This is the thing. I think there's
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  Speaker 1: a fine line of us being sold this story that
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  Speaker 1: we have to always wear sunscreen, always cover up, and
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  Speaker 1: be so careful with the Australian some which yes, for sure,
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  Speaker 1: my mum's had skin cancer and chemo I think four
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  Speaker 1: times now. For sure, I understand that. But vitamin D
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  Speaker 1: is actually really healthy and really necessary for us to get.
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  Speaker 1: So it's like a fine balance.
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  Speaker 2: It is.
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  Speaker 1: But I feel like I was not getting enough like
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  Speaker 1: the other way, so I wanted to just incorporate more
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  Speaker 1: vitamin D.
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  Speaker 2: So my next one is keeping solid boundaries. I feel
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  Speaker 2: like finally last year I had the self worth and
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  Speaker 2: self respect to put some boundaries in place. Respectfully, kindly
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  Speaker 2: from good place, not being rude or anything like that.
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  Speaker 2: But I'm really happy and proud of the way that
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  Speaker 2: I have honored myself and what I believe in, and
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  Speaker 2: I want to continue.
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  Speaker 1: To be that person you really work to stick in it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's really proud from the outsider watching you implement that.
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  Speaker 1: And we would have conversations where you'd be like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I just said no to her. I'm not replying to that,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, wow, was she upset? And You're like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not sure, but that's not my responsibility. I'm like, wait, oh,
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  Speaker 1: but you did it in such a loving, kind way,
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  Speaker 1: and it was really inspiring for me. And I'm glad
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  Speaker 1: you brought that up because I want other people to
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  Speaker 1: hear that that it's okay for you to say no.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay for you to be like no, that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: feel good for me. I'm not gonna do that. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not gonna write back to that person. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: go hang out with them. Just because they've always hung
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  Speaker 1: out with.
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  Speaker 2: Them doesn't mean being rude. It's not you not not
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  Speaker 2: talking to you or ending on bad terms.
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  Speaker 1: But you know what you're saying, Yes, to yourself, Yeah
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  Speaker 1: fuck it. And that's so important and something I think
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  Speaker 1: all of us really struggle with. But the more we
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  Speaker 1: talk about it, the more we normalize it, the better
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  Speaker 1: we'll get at it. Ins for me is more solo
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  Speaker 1: dates with my kids. I really really love that one
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  Speaker 1: on one time because anyone listening that has a big
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  Speaker 1: age gap. Your youngest one takes up most of the attention.
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  Speaker 1: You know, she is very demanding and knows what she wants,
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  Speaker 1: and my oldest is a little bit more chill, but
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  Speaker 1: you have to watch everything they do. They're not independent,
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  Speaker 1: they're dangerous, so they're like I describe her as like
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  Speaker 1: sunshine with a tat of hurricane, Like you've got to
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  Speaker 1: watch everything she's doing. So my eyes are just on
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  Speaker 1: her constantly. And she's also having a lot of first moments,
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  Speaker 1: so there's a lot of like celebrating those moments. So
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  Speaker 1: I feel like having solo time a tage is really
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  Speaker 1: really special, and I've been doing that lately and it's
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  Speaker 1: just nice to have that one on one connection because
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  Speaker 1: when we're all together, I feel like, even with Taj,
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  Speaker 1: like the attention is all on Tala, so just separate them.
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  Speaker 1: Having that one on one time. That one on one
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  Speaker 1: time is so special. It's very quality time. It is,
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  Speaker 1: which is a love language of mine. Okay, so out
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  Speaker 1: some for me is perfume. It gives me a headache. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: maybe not all of them, but I just notice, like
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  Speaker 1: it's just too much scent. Yeah, Like I love using Hideaway.
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  Speaker 1: It's obviously got a fragrance in there, but it's just
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  Speaker 1: light enough to make me feel and smell really nice.
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  Speaker 1: But Perfume, I'm like, oh heavy, it's a lot. Yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: that's out for me.
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  Speaker 2: So and out for me, it's having reasons for doing
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  Speaker 2: what I do. I'm just gonna do what I do,
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  Speaker 2: and if somebody goes me, oh why are you doing that,
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  Speaker 2: or like more so online or like questioning why I
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  Speaker 2: do something, it's like because I want to and not
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  Speaker 2: feeling a certain way about it, but just not even
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  Speaker 2: having to tell somebody why I'm doing what I'm doing.
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  Speaker 2: If I do something and it aligns well with me,
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  Speaker 2: just kind of being like sweet, cool, cool, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: love that.
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  Speaker 1: For me, that's because I want to do it.
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  Speaker 2: That's because I want to do it like a half myself.
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  Speaker 1: No, yeah, I love that. Out for me is stagnant
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  Speaker 1: energy old friendships or relationships or connections that I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I have to get going. I have to keep trying,
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  Speaker 1: and it feels hard. All the conversations I walk away
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  Speaker 1: from just feeling a bit yeah, like not inspired and
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  Speaker 1: not challenged and not that every conversation has to be
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  Speaker 1: like that. Like I can literally sit in a room
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  Speaker 1: with my friends and it'll be silent and it's beautiful. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but the energy is matched. But I just feel like
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  Speaker 1: this stagnant energy. I'm like, oh, this doesn't feel good anymore,
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  Speaker 1: doesn't feel just like this inner knowing that soul contracts ended?
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  Speaker 2: So what does it out mean for you? Does it
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  Speaker 2: out for you? Mean? Just like not putting the effort in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of allowing those friendships, relationships or connections
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  Speaker 1: to do it ale away.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, let them do their thing, let them take their course.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and not as I feel like I had attachments
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  Speaker 1: to friendships lasting forever, yeah, and feeling like I always
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  Speaker 1: need to help them and I always need to check
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  Speaker 1: in on them, and I always need to do this
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  Speaker 1: and that. It's like, actually I don't have to go Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to do that, And that also opens
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  Speaker 1: up new space for me to get deeper connections, deeper
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  Speaker 1: conversations with the people that I really am to me it.
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  Speaker 2: Around, Yeah, I have more time.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Next one for me is not feeling like I'm worth
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  Speaker 2: investing in. Oh, I really like this one. So, whether
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  Speaker 2: it be for my health, whether it be for my fitness,
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  Speaker 2: whether it be for my well being, whether it be
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  Speaker 2: for my coaching, whether it be for any element of
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  Speaker 2: my life that I feel like I'm needing to put
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  Speaker 2: work into, not feeling like I'm worth investing in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's beautiful. Yeah, I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Whether it be money, whether it be time, whatever it is,
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  Speaker 2: because I feel like a lot of the things that
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  Speaker 2: I used to tell myself too is like, oh I
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  Speaker 2: can't find the time, But it's like, no, you can
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  Speaker 2: find time to like do this and do that, and
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  Speaker 2: be with your kids and have hours of your kids
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  Speaker 2: a day. If you can't have hours of your kids
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  Speaker 2: a day, just give yourself a little bit of grace
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  Speaker 2: to do.
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  Speaker 1: We need a few I had a DM from a
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  Speaker 1: girl just maybe remember yesterday. It's just like I really
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  Speaker 1: want to sign up to your challenge, but I just
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  Speaker 1: can't justify spending the money on your app. But if
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  Speaker 1: it was my daughter or my husband, I wouldn't even hesitate.
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  Speaker 1: Can you help me like unpack this?
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  Speaker 2: Oh wow?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? And I was like, well, you don't think you're
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  Speaker 1: worth it then, But I was like, think of the
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  Speaker 1: positive impact, Like you doing this for you actually impact
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  Speaker 1: your relationship and your relationship with your daughter so much.
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  Speaker 1: Your daughter is going to roll model what you do.
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  Speaker 1: If she sees you putting time and effort into herself
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  Speaker 1: into health and fitness and knowing that she's worth that,
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  Speaker 1: she's then gonna copy that. You want to think that
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  Speaker 1: this is for your family, and like, you know, you
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't do it for yourself, but we're actually helping your
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  Speaker 1: family by doing this for you. Yeah, you know there's
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  Speaker 1: so many positive effects on you having a really healthy lifestyle.
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  Speaker 1: But she just didn't think she's worth that twenty dollars
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  Speaker 1: a month or whatever, but she wouldn't hesitate for her family.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, that's really interesting. But I was like,
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  Speaker 1: your little girl's watching everything that you do, and when
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  Speaker 1: you go for a workout and you eat healthy, you
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  Speaker 1: show up differently in your relationship. You have their energy,
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  Speaker 1: your moods are improved, your sexualves improved, like your confidence
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  Speaker 1: is improved and that overflows to everything that you do.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, we are all worthy of investing in ourselves
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  Speaker 1: and it impacts positively on everything else in our lives.