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Emotional Eating Hypnosis to Finally Break Free · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to an emotional eating
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  hypnosis session. And I was working with a client
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  that had many, many years of using food as a coping strategy
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  when they felt very overwhelmed with emotions like anger or
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  anxiety or just a fear of missing out or being deprived of
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  something. And what was clear in the
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  session before the hypnosis started is that it wasn't a
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  successful coping strategy. It didn't actually deal with why
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  they felt angry. It was just a numbing strategy,
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  a coping strategy to distract or hopefully change how they feel.
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  But it wasn't even the best thing that would do that.
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  And they had other things that they'd done which worked way
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  better. So it was partly A coping
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  strategy that kind of worked, but not really, but also an
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  excuse that if they felt angry, it gave them permission to not
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  abide by any rules and just feel like they can do whatever they
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  want. And that creates a cycle.
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  And that cycle is not pleasurable eating.
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  It's the destructive self sabotage kind of eating.
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  And what you'll hear in this session is suggestions that link
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  to the idea of pattern interrupts, that is doing
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  something different to what you've normally done and
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  actually leaning into the emotion.
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  One of the wonderful things about emotions is that they
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  they're all temporary. If you feel happy, you will feel
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  happy for a while, and then you won't.
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  And if you feel sad, you'll feel sad for a while and then you
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  won't. And it actually creates
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  unconscious strategies to access consistent emotions all the
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  time. Some people get themselves into
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  states of frustration consistently.
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  Other people will find always something to get angry about and
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  quite often that comes with a secondary gain that when they
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  feel angry, it then gives them the ability to be there, feel a
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  certain way or do certain things.
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  And that might be to speak their mind.
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  They can't do it normally, but they can if they're angry.
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  So you get all of these kind of emotional pay offs, but it
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  doesn't actually deal with the root cause as to why someone
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  feels that emotion to begin with.
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  And there's this interesting thing as well that there is a
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  placebo effect taking place. Some people, if they feel
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  overwhelming emotions, will drink or they'll smoke or
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  they'll do something. And there's this feeling that
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  doing that thing changes how they feel.
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  But, you know, whether it's a drink or a drug or a food, it
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  normally has a certain lag time before it hits the bloodstream
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  anyway. And yet people change how they
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  feel instantly, and therefore it can't be the thing itself.
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  It's the fact that they're doing something.
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  They feel in control by doing that thing, by having that
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  drink. It's not the drink itself, it's
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  the action that they're doing that changes how they feel.
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  And therefore there's lots of other actions that you could
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  take that would change how you feel without any of the
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  consequences of doing that thing.
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  So this is really about emotional eating, but it applies
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  to any other emotional coping strategy.
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  And most people use drink, drugs or food as emotional coping
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  strategies or avoidance. That's another one that gets
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  used. This was created for an
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  individual client. But if you can resonate or
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  connect with some of these kind of emotional coping strategies
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  and you feel like you want to break free of them, there will
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  be a link in the show notes where you can schedule a free
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  consultation call over Zoom and we'll we'll have a chat and see
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  if we can work together. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, imagine breathing in a wonderful feeling
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  of pure, concentrated relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel how good it would feel to be releasing
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  any tension, any stress, any worries.
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  Just allow them to feel like they're leaving your body in
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  your outward breath, breathing in that relaxation that every
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  outward breath takes you deeper and deeper.
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  Relaxed. And what if the deeper you
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  breathe, the more relaxed you become?
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe?
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  That's it. And I wonder if you can scan
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  your body for any clues of tension.
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  There will be clues, tightness around the jaw, the neck or the
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  shoulders. And just imagine that tension
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  melting away, that every breath seems to melt away that tension.
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  And you can feel that tension leaving your body in every
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  outward breath. And as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I wonder if your imagination
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  can take you to a place in nature, maybe a place then
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  you've been to before, a place of mountain ranges and valleys,
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  or just appreciating the uniqueness of a single tree.
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  I want you to get a sands. Then, as you hold the image of a
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  tree in your mind's eye, intuitively you know that that
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  tree was not always there, and some trees are over 500 years
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  old. There's still a point where that
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  tree was just a single seed, a possibility.
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  And as you look at that tree, see the uniqueness of its shape,
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  I want you to start thinking of your habits and behaviours as
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  being like trees. Some of them have been there for
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  years and years, but all of these habits and behaviours had
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  a point where they were just a seed.
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  And sometimes it's useful to ask yourself, where did this habit,
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  this pattern, this thing that you do originate from?
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  And you might be surprised as quite often we stumble across
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  these things that aren't perfect but just seem to work.
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  Maybe there was a time in your childhood when you felt angry
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  and you ate something and it made you feel better and your
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  brain thought, oh, this works. And each time you got angry and
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  you ate something, you had more and more evidence that food
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  changes how you feel or just gives you permission to do
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  things you wouldn't normally do. And over time, that tree got
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  bigger and bigger, and the roots got deeper and deeper.
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  But what if all those years ago when you got angry, what if you
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  just took some time to tell someone how you felt, To write
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  it down, to lean into that anger as a puzzle that needs to be
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  solved? I have a feeling that that would
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  have worked better. You would have understood where
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  the anger came from and been in a position to do something about
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  it. Because food doesn't really fix
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  anger. It numbs it, it suppresses it.
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  Food doesn't help with anxiety, it's just a distraction.
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  What actually helps with anxiety is to treat it like a signpost
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  to prepare or mitigate risk, or to call the bluff of the
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  anxiety. Do not believe that scary
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  consequence is actually real. Some people think of fear like
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  an acronym FEAR False Evidence that Appears Real.
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  And if you treat anxiety like false evidence, you can test it.
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  Most of those worries that you had never actually turned into
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  anything bad, but the anxiety made you feel like a thought was
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  somehow real. But sometimes a thought is just
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  a thought. I want you to imagine a row of
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  dominoes and imagine knocking the first domino over and seeing
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  that chain reaction. And in many areas of your life,
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  you've got these chain reactions, these rows of
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  dominoes that when the first domino fall, it's a foregone
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  conclusion that it will go to its inevitable end.
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  Until you realise you have the power to remove two or three of
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  the dominoes in that chain reaction so that the sequence
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  can start and yet never finish. Aren't you to allow yourself to
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  enter a dreamlike state in your dreams?
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  You've had experiences of floating, of flying.
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  I want you to allow yourself to float over a valley in southern
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  Italy. It's just your imagination.
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  You can fly. Allow yourself to glide like an
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  eagle, allow yourself to float like a balloon, allow yourself
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  to go higher or lower to see snow capped mountains or rivers
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  all the way down at the bottom of the valley.
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  And you start thinking that all emotions, no matter how intense,
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  are just passing clouds in the sky of your mind.
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  They're temporary, changing and fading, and you don't need to
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  eat the clouds to watch them drift away.
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  Clouds can just be clouds, and emotions can just be emotions.
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  And what if you're discovering that you can feel emotions
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  without feeding them? Emotions don't need food, they
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  need freedom, movement, expression.
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  The moment you pause and breathe and just observe your feelings,
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  you reclaim your power. And in that moment, food no
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  longer has control over you. I want you to get an idea that
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  you can now meet anger with movement.
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  You can meet anxiety with rhythm and any fear of missing out with
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  a curiosity as you start to make an evaluation that your choices
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  are bigger and more powerful than your cravings or impulses.
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  You couldn't hold onto a single craving or an impulse for more
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  than 5 minutes. It will fade away.
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  What if every time you chose to write instead of eat, to walk
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  instead of binge, or talk instead of numb?
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  What if you're training your brain to respond with more
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  choices rather than react? What if you've always had tools
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  to handle emotions and you've just been using one of the worst
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  tools in your toolkit? What if now it's time to use
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  better, more useful tools? What if you've always had these
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  tools, but now you're just remembering how to use them?
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  Because the hunger you feel when angry or anxious isn't for food.
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  It's not for nutrition. What if it's for understanding?
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  What if there's a hunger for release, a hunger for
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  connection? And what if you're finding new,
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  powerful ways to meet that true need?
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  New boundaries, higher standards, more choices.
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  I want you to get the idea that emotional eating is like trying
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  to quench thirst by eating sand. It was never the right thing.
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  What if now you reach for water, and that water can be whatever
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  you want it to be? Maybe that's movement, maybe
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  music, maybe expression, truth or understanding or something
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  surprising. Whether it's now or in the
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  future, sooner or later you may discover that spontaneity and
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  creativity are far more satisfying than the same old
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  cycle of emotion and eating. I want you to think of a song
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  that always puts you in a good mood.
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  And what if the next time you felt an intense emotion in
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  advance, you knew that you were going to play that song?
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  Do a silly dance. With a big smile on your face, I
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  don't think you could hold that intense, disempowering emotion
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  for any more than a minute or two when you're listening to
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  that music. Smiling in that way, moving your
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  body in that way. And if that emotion lasted less
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  than a minute or two, then you would know you found something
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  better than food to change how you feel.
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  And if it works once, it can work again.
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  Every moment of awareness builds a new path.
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  Path where your emotions are seen and heard and felt, but not
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  numbed or fed with food. You've outgrown the habit of
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  eating your feelings. Now it's time to express them,
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  transforming them, dancing with them.
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  The more you feel your emotions, the less you fear them.
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  And the less you fear them, the less you feed them.
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  I want you to start thinking of emotions like anger, anxiety.
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  It's like a toddler throwing a tantrum.
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  The more you reward that tantrum, the more tantrums
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  you'll get. And I wonder if all along you've
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  been training your body to do exactly the thing that
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  encourages more of what you don't want.
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  More anger, more anxiety. Allow yourself to believe that
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  you're planting new seeds that will create new habits,
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  wonderful habits that enrich your life.
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  You get to keep that joyful, pleasurable eating.
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  But by reducing the emotional eating, you have a future of
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  more confidence, improved health and vitality, a wonderful sense
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  of feeling liberated. It's safe to feel, safe to
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  express, it's safe to be uncomfortable because you are
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  resilient, adaptable and evolving.
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  There's two good reasons to eat to fuel your body and to really
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  enjoy eating. But emotional eating was never
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  enjoyable eating anyway, just a distraction, A coping strategy.
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  You get to keep all the pleasure from food because emotional
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  eating was never truly pleasurable.
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  If it was, it wouldn't lead to feelings of guilt, frustration
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  or shame afterwards. And contrast that when you think
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  of a wonderful, enjoyable meal shared with friends or family.
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  You enjoyed it in the moment, and you felt good when you
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  thought about it afterwards. That's the kind of eating to
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  keep. Nutritional eating or real,
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  pleasurable, enjoyable eating. Not the coping strategy.
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  Eating, not the numbing, not the distractions.
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  So any fear of missing out fades when you're fully present, when
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  you realise it's all about choices, because nothing is
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  missing. When you feel fully present,
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  fully in control, and it's you that's making the choice.
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  If you really want it, eat it. But if you don't really want it,
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  then don't. You are in control and from this
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  point forward, food is just one option.
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  But if you were to put food as something that helps with these
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  emotions, I wonder if food would even be on the top 20 or 30
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  things on that list, that there would be so many other things
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  that would just work better. You get to give new meanings and
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  you get to build new levels of friction and resistance.
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  All that food that you used to emotionally eat.
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  What if it was just difficult to find that even if you felt that
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  emotion, it wasn't available? What if that gives you a window
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  to figure out something that works even better?
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  And I want you to think about in advance that thing that you
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  could do the next time you feel an overwhelming emotion.
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  Decide in advance something that you could try that would be a
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  better choice than food that you're priming your unconscious
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  to follow a different path, to tip a different domino over.
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  And when you've thought about what that new alternative could
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  be, let me know by nodding your head.
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  There's so many options, something that involves nature,
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  movement, music, expression. Realise you've got so many
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  choices and you can just think of one of them that the very
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  next time you feel overwhelmingly angry or anxious
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  or stressed or worried, just allow your mind to think of a
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  different thing to try. Consider you preparing for a
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  contingency. You may have an umbrella, but it
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  doesn't rain every day. You just have it there in case
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  it rains. And consider these alternatives,
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  umbrellas, things that if you feel the emotion, you get to use
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  it then. And when something appealing
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  comes to mind, just let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's in allow yourself to consider so many different
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  possibilities, and one possibility is just to sit with
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  the emotion and set a timer to test how long that emotion even
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  lasts for. Maybe you set a timer and start
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  writing or talking about how you're feeling and why you're
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  feeling it. And don't be surprised if that
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  emotion fades away in just a few minutes.
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  No need to eat, no need to binge.
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  Sit with the feeling, lean into the feeling and notice how
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  quickly that emotion melts away. Do you imagine yourself still
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  floating and flying over mountains and valleys?
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  It's time to float back all the way back to the here and the now
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  feeling more empowered, feeling with more choices.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Start to connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. You will awaken feeling
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  resourceful, empowered, and excited to give new meanings and
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  new choices to things that can change patterns that were
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  planted many years ago. Starting to count. 123 Waking up
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  456. More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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