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Reclaiming Your Power: Boundaries, Healing, and Holistic Mental Health for Women with Dr. Anna Marie Frank · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  Most people are still apologizing because they're not
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  in alignment with their true authentic self.
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  They're still not in alignment, so that's why they're still
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  apologizing. Yeah.
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  And that can be challenging because you could be 1 foot in
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  and 1 foot out. And I'm going to tell you why I
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  was not living unapologetically yet.
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  I opened happy whole you the very first one in 2018.
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  I did not leave my career till four years later.
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  I was 1 foot in and 1 foot out. Always justifying what I was
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  doing, where I was at, how it was showing up because I had
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  this other career, Yeah. And then I also had this side
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  thing going on and I could call it like, yeah, this is my side
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  business and I, this is a freaking company.
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  This was $1,000,000 company I was.
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  This is not just a side hustle. I was treating it like, and it
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  was my dream and I was treating it like, Oh yeah, I'm just doing
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  this thing, this little thing. No, I was, the moment I became
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  unapologetic, like is when I stepped into it and fully
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  believed in myself and said I am going to do this thing and I'm
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  stepping into it fully. And that didn't happen till I
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  was 40. So I understand the scarcity.
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  I understand the fear when you have a family and you have bills
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  and you have all of these things going on and I'm going to walk
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  from that. I spent 18 years of my life
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  getting myself to a position of the title, of the money, of all
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  of the things, and I'm going to walk from that.
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  That's where society brainwashes us.
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  Hello, welcome back to the Field Podcast.
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  Today I'm your host, Melissa Crook.
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  I'm here with a friend that I met through one of these
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  collaborations that I'm so fortunate to do.
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  It was through the power of just 1 * 2 event.
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  It was the second one of these through Lulu Aegon, who's a
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  woman that I met earlier in 2025.
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  He was just doing really important work for women in the
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  world. And she invited myself and my
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  guest today, Doctor Anna Marie Frank, into this, in his journey
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  with her, this conference that was virtual.
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  And Anna Marie and I were both able to contribute to it.
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  But also, Lulu provides a great platform where we all get to
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  meet each other and connect with each other.
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  And so as we were sharing our stories, we realized we only
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  live 90 miles apart. Like, that would be wild because
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  the women on this conversation are literally from all over the
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  world. So I like DMDR.
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  I'm like, Oh my gosh, I'm in Fresno.
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  And so and I and after listening to her story, I'm like, oh, I
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  knew I wanted to talk to her more.
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  And so we did connect. We were to talk.
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  I've been able to be a guest with her on her really powerful,
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  important podcast, the Happy Whole View podcast.
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  And now she gets to be with me. So I'm welcoming today my new
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  friend, Doctor Anne Marie Frank, Anna Marie, how would you
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  describe yourself? If you were to share your
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  character traits with our audience, how would you describe
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  yourself? Oh man, well describing myself.
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  I did this exercise once with this gal and she had us actually
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  describe ourselves. Like not in the way we would
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  normally describe ourselves. And the way I described myself
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  is I am sunshine and rainbows, bare feet on the grass, coffee
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  in my hand, trying to get to the beach anytime I can.
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  Joyful want to be outside type of gal.
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  I love that that just gives me such a warm, sunshiny, kind of
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  cozy feeling for you. And what and this really goes
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  nicely into as we kick off this conversation today, we're going
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  to Share your story through our talking points and how it is you
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  became the doctor you are today, the unique offerings that you
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  provide that I think 10 to 15 years ago, we were like, oh,
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  that's so woo woo to now we're like, no, that's actually
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  science that has been around for thousands of years.
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  We're just finally connecting back to it.
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  And I think there's this kind of revolution and you're one of the
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  revolutionaries that he's offering these opportunities to
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  people. But let's go into you've
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  identified very clearly things that you value, things that feel
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  your cup through how you've introduced yourself.
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  So talk to me about yourself care.
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  You have the kind of job where you're hearing a lot about other
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  people's challenges all the time, which requires that
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  there's an emotional energy that goes with that.
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  And so you, you already said to me this morning, you've already
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  been out on a hike this morning. You've already rejuvenated your
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  soul before you got into the office today to set yourself for
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  the day. So talk to me about this kind of
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  like the revolution of that, the birth of that which you realized
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  you needed to fill your soul. Yeah, I mean, getting here has
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  been, it feels like many, many lifetimes.
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  And the reason I do the work that I do now is because I had
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  to heal my own brain going through challenges in my early
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  20s and just rediscovering and deprogramming how to be and
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  what's available in terms of holistic healing versus just the
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  Western world of healing. And so, yeah, the self-care
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  piece is I used to be kind of a control freak.
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  Like I wanted to control my entire environment, everything
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  with my kids, to my husband. And I'm actually actively
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  recovering from that. And what I learned is, I mean,
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  that's more of a PTSD response, if you will, if you want to put
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  it into some type of terminology.
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  But I mean, honestly, through my journey, I've had a lot of what
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  I call emotional concussions. So.
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  You look at, you know, I really focus on the brain, emotional
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  brain health and nobody ever really teaches us that the
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  psychological concussions or the psychological trauma that we go
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  through how it really impacts our physical body.
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  And I started to really connect the dots after, you know, my
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  early 20s, my offerings when I was struggling with depression
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  and just not wanting to be alive and just really at at a bottom
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  point in my life. It was offered to me to go on
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  SSRIs, medication, antidepressants, you know,
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  Adderall from my ADHD and you know, these meds.
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  And it never, it was like they wanted to address my brain
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  telling me I have a brain chemical imbalance, but yet they
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  never scanned my brain, never tested my brain.
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  They just asked questions. And so then it was like I set
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  forth on a journey to figure out, OK, God, you have like this
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  amazing world right here. There's no way you haven't
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  provided these opportunities or things to help us really remedy
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  what's going on within us. And so then, yeah, I started to
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  study herbology, energy medicine, Chinese medicine.
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  I just went down all the rabbit holes of holistic health and
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  slowly over a decade of my life, started to heal my brain and to
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  heal myself. And out of that came a beautiful
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  facility called Happy Whole You. And we've opened up a few of
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  them throughout the country. And then during COVID, we
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  actually sold, sold some of them to different doctors.
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  And now it's the one in Bakersfield still open.
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  But nevertheless, the whole journey and the whole process
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  has gotten me to the point where now I work with people and our
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  physical ailments are actually lessons of something
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  psychologically and emotionally stored within us that's causing
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  that physical pain or that discomfort.
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  And now we get to learn how to decode it in a way that really
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  never taught. But that going back to ancient
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  wisdom. So I don't know if I answered
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  your question. I kind of went all over the
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  place there, but that's in, in a nutshell, kind of what got me to
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  where I'm at right now. And it was just my own, my own
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  journey. Yeah, I love that, that kind of
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  that curiosity that I mean, and I think that that's what women
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  have started to become like. I don't want a Band-Aid.
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  I want to know what's happening here.
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  This wasn't happening before. Why is it happening now?
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  What is going on within my systems?
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  And we're going to get to the mental, emotional, physical
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  health connections in a minute because I this is exactly.
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  What you do? Is you connect the dots on all
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  of that. But before we do that, I want to
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  get into learning about healthy boundaries in your life and the
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  need for that, how to protect your time, your space,
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  surrounding yourself with what fills you up, filling up your
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  energy capsule, learning how to say no to the things that don't
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  serve you. That's that's also part of this
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  journey of connecting the dots with our mental, emotional.
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  Physical. Spiritual Health.
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  Yeah, I think, you know, it's not my job to make other people
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  feel comfortable. And that has like taken me a hot
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  minute to get to, you know, we, we naturally don't want to make
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  other people feel uncomfortable. We want everyone to feel safe
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  and secure and feel good. But we'll do it at the expense
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  of our own safety, security and us being OK inside.
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  And so, I mean, I have a perfect example.
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  When I meet with people, I have 0 filter in terms of a
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  one-on-one session. And I do try to be cognizant of
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  can this person handle this right now?
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  And literally just yesterday, I had a new hire.
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  We were talking about this right before.
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  And I do a 2 hour after they're trained and all that 2 hour
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  intake of what I do with clients, just so they know,
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  like, how does somebody even get started with me?
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  Yeah. And there were things that came
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  up and I had 0 filter, which, you know, I guess is your
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  employer. I don't know.
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  But yeah, she sent a letter this morning resigning.
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  And she's resigning because of the awakening that she had from
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  our session about through authentic self because she's a
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  people pleaser. And she's realizing that there
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  are some things that she wants to do, but she has been holding
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  herself back from doing them because she thinks her life
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  supposed to work a certain way. She thinks she's supposed to do
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  XY and Z based on, you know, mom and society and all these
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  things. And it's like, I just want to
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  shake you and say, hey, these physical things you're feeling
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  are completely your responsibility because you're
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  thinking and speaking about your life in this way and just
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  connecting the dots. Because usually we just want to
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  and blame other people or not take that personal
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  responsibility of where we're at.
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  We're like, well, I feel this way, but it's because I'm
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  getting older, it's because of this.
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  And it's really because you're out of alignment with your true
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  authentic self. So when it comes to like my own
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  boundaries, I have had to actively get out of the wanting
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  people to like me, people pleasing mode and I get to
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  essentially show up as my true authentic self and, you know,
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  help people where they're at. But I also it's not my job to
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  constantly make people feel comfortable.
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  I feel like it's, it's up to me. Like when I'm, when people pay
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  me, I'll say this, when people pay me money, big money to
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  really give them what I do, I can't hold back on that.
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  You know, I get to to share it with them.
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  So, so, yeah. So there's the whole boundary
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  thing is, you know, I only allow certain people into my life.
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  I choose the clients that I want to work with, especially like
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  clients like that is a sacred space.
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  And yeah, I'm no longer trying to please everyone.
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  And, and no is a complete, complete sentence.
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  And yeah. And it is something you, you
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  actively work on because sometimes, like your mind tells
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  you one thing, which is like society standards.
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  And then your heart is, yeah, this doesn't feel like a yes,
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  but my mind's saying, you know, I should do this.
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  But like if your core, your heart, your true, like gut
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  instinct is like this is a no and it's a no.
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  We like try to like in our minds, make it turn into a yes
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  when and then when we do that, the thing doesn't work out
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  anyways. Exactly.
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  And I, I could give so many examples of that in my life, but
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  I think you said something really important.
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  And I talk about this a lot too. Comfort is really the end to it.
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  You can't, you can't be comfortable and heal.
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  I'm just going to, I don't believe that you can and not in
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  it that it's supposed to like, oh, I'm going to inflict
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  physical pain on you. No, no, no, no, You've got be
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  willing to get curious and get outside of this comfort zone
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  that you've lived in because it, it has gotten you to being in
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  Doctor Anna Marie's office today or working with me one-on-one in
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  empowerment sessions. It hasn't served you.
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  And so that also applies to us. And knowing that if you're going
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  to work with me, there's an accountability that goes with
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  it. I love what you said.
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  Like I run into women all the time who like, I don't have any
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  choices. Yeah, you do.
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  People don't want to be held accountable by them.
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  Yeah, they don't. They, You have choices, you have
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  to be willing to make them and, and make a choice and, and, and
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  then come to an understanding of will there be consequences?
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  Yes. Does it require you to, if
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  you're not abandoning yourself anymore and you're doing and
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  taking accountability and making choices that are healthy for
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  you, that's the first step that it requires sometimes, a lot of,
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  most of the time, a lack of comfort.
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  And it also requires us as we work with people, to be very
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  clear. My PR branding friend really
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  helped me with this. Drea.
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  Intel was fantastic. She's like, we're going to put
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  together what your, she calls it your champagne client.
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  And it's going to help you define and understand who is
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  really equipped to work with you because you're not for everyone.
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  And that's OK. And that was so helpful because
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  it helped me realize there are people that are going to come to
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  me and I'm going to have to be like, I don't think you're ready
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  for this. And if you know, so, so maybe
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  try these things over here and they get in touch with me.
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  But there are some things I'm going to ask of you that you're
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  not going to be willing to say yes to.
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  And if you can't say yes to those things that I can't help
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  you, you know, so I think that. And so realizing that and I
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  think for you as a healthcare practitioner, you've there's
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  this undefined expectation that kind of comes with it that I'm
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  supposed to make everybody healthy and comfortable.
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  And it's like actually the way I'm going to work with you is
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  going to be a little different than that.
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  And you're going to thank me later.
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  But you're going to have to be willing and releasing that idea
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  that everybody's going to be for you and everybody's going to be
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  the right match for you. Yeah, and I think too, it's like
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  we get to pick our hard, you know, it's hard to have those
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  deep conversations. It's hard to hear when we've
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  been getting in our own way and it's actually us that needs to
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  shape up or ship out or fix some things because you know it.
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  And it's also hard to blame other people and feel like
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  you're a victim and feel like you can't do anything about it.
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  So you get to pick your heart. You know, and I always say we
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  either pay now or we will pay later.
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  I mean, there's certain things that I did in my early 20s that,
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  you know, I am paying for now psychologically.
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  There's also some really great things that I sacrificed and I I
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  paid for in my early 20s that have given me so much abundance
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  now and opportunity. But in with that, I'm not paying
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  for that anymore because it's abundance and opportunity with
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  the other stuff that I was I was doing.
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  I'm paying for it now. So it's pay now, pay later.
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  But either way, you're going to pay the piper.
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  I mean, that's, that's what's going to end up happening.
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  And so I believe there's no time like the president.
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  The more the quicker people can wake up, like the quicker you
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  can wake up like it just can grow exponentially.
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  You have a whole lifetime ahead of you.
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  I literally had a client here the other day who's 44 years old
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  and she is just struggling to even like function, like does
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  not want to function. And she is beautiful, gorgeous
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  woman. She works from home and really
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  it came down to she wants to be a nurse and she works from home
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  and does medical billing and she is not happy.
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  And I'm like, OK, what's preventing you from going to
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  school to be a nurse and starting and taking one class?
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  Just starting with one class. She's like, Oh well, I'm 44 and
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  I said OK, excuse me? Like 44546474.
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  I mean, you can work till you're 80 if you want to go 84, but if
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  you work till you're 74, that's 30 years.
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  You have 3 decades ahead of you and you've already decided those
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  3 decades. You don't.
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  You don't get to step into what is calling in your heart.
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  Yeah, that's. Why You won't feel good inside.
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  You're working from home, doing something that doesn't bring you
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  joy, and you have this burning desire.
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  Your kids are grown. They're out of the house.
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  I'm like, girl, you have every opportunity now.
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  So I don't know where it came into play that if you don't do
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  something when you're in your early 20s that for some reason
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  you can't start when you're 4050, sixty years old.
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  Like this is that is brainwashing.
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  Like we have the opportunity to step into whoever we are and
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  whatever our heart desires at any moment, at any time.
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  And I share that also because I was the 40 year old in an 18
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  year career feeling unhappy, unsatisfied.
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  My body started to physically have symptoms of illness because
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  I knew I needed to leave that position.
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  And I held on. I stayed because of the six
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  figure income, because of the health benefits, because of the
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  retirement, because check every single box.
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  People were telling me I was crazy if I would walk away from
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  this amazing career. But internally I was literally
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  dying inside. So on my 40th birthday, I wrote
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  it like I, I didn't even resign. I said I'm retiring.
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  That's The funny thing is I was 18 years in this career.
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  I turn in a letter that says I'm I'm retiring.
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  My birthday is October 11th. It was October 11th, 2022.
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  I am retiring. And I send that to them and
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  they're like, OK. And then they come back to me
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  like, hey, by the way, you're too young to retire.
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  We need you to put give us a letter of resignation.
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  I said I will not. I can decide what I'm doing with
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  my life and I'm retiring like this is me in retirement.
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  And I retired into a new career and it's really wasn't even a
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  new career still in the health and Wellness space, but it was,
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  you know, going full time into my company.
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  Happy whole you and you know my company grew over 100% in that
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  first year of me just choosing to step out to provide space and
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  energy for something new to come in because when we have 1 foot
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  in and 1 foot out, we can't fully embrace what God has
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  available to us. And that's why we have to jump
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  in and we have to have faith and yes we can leverage where we're
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  at and be strategic in it as well.
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  But if fear is the only thing holding you back, like we have
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  to check ourselves because we are meant to live in a full
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  expression of who we are and how we help other people.
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  Yeah. Oh, that's seated so well.
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  And that's really goes into what we'll get to you in a bit about
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  living in apologetically. That was a decision that you
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  made that day. Before we do that, I want to go
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  back to that mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health
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  connection. You made that connection for
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  yourself. You saw it was like, wait a
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  minute, I've only not only made it in me, I can now help other
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  people make that as well. I had my own connection with
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  that. I had my own breakdown in the
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  fall of 2019 where these physical manifestations were a
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  direct connection to unresolved trauma and emotions that have
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  been stuffed and living out of everyone else's expectations
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  except for my own, All of that. So you and I have both had our
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  own personal journeys in this that have led us to where we are
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  today. I think it's so important too.
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  I talk to people about this all the time.
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  Emotions are not good or bad. They're clues.
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  They're clues as to what's going on with that.
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  So, so talk to me a little bit more about when you're working
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  with people to help them see this connection, how do you,
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  it's because we in Western medicine, we hear, we separate
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  it all out. It's compartmentalized.
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  And I said a few years ago, I'm like, in my perfect world, my
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  therapist and my medical health practitioner would have a line
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  to each other to talk about, you know, what's going on with
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  Melissa so they can make the connections holistically
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  together. Talk to me about that process
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  you go through when you're meeting with someone to help
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  them make that connection. Yeah.
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  And honestly, it's getting them to feel that connection.
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  I think we'll we'll act when we feel.
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  The other thing is our body will always follow what our brain
• 22:57
  tells it. So when we start to shift the
• 22:59
  narrative in our mind, it biochemically proven in science
• 23:04
  shifts how cells are responding. You can shift a thought alone,
• 23:10
  or you can shift your cells with a thought alone in 150 to 300
• 23:14
  milliseconds. So this is called epigenetics.
• 23:17
  This also goes back to Doctor Emoto's work of water has
• 23:20
  consciousness because water can cellularly restructure based on
• 23:25
  the thoughts and the emotions you're sending the water.
• 23:28
  And if your body is 70% more or water, what do you think your
• 23:32
  thoughts and your words are doing to your physical body
• 23:34
  every day? Sure.
• 23:35
  So getting the getting my clients to a space where they
• 23:39
  can feel inexperience, what I'm talking about from a healing
• 23:45
  lens is super powerful because they're already feeling it from
• 23:49
  a dis ease lens, from a pain lens.
• 23:52
  And so if we can flip that and they start to realize, Oh my
• 23:56
  gosh, I have more control over my biology than I ever was
• 23:59
  taught. Like this is crazy.
• 24:01
  Like they're realizing, like in time, I can start to heal my
• 24:04
  body through shifting my thoughts, through shifting my
• 24:06
  words. And yes, we throw some
• 24:08
  nutraceuticals at it. We do some visualization work.
• 24:12
  We do, you know, we have cryotherapy saunas.
• 24:15
  We have all of the high tech stuff.
• 24:16
  But at the end of the day, the medicine is within us.
• 24:21
  Our is the strongest pharmacy on planet earth.
• 24:24
  You're choosing what you're dispensing through every thought
• 24:27
  and every word and every conversation that you're having.
• 24:31
  And so the moment people realize like you hold within you this
• 24:37
  right of healing and like reprogramming, like that's when
• 24:43
  you can step into your power. And that's what I love to help
• 24:45
  people discover because I didn't, I didn't have that.
• 24:50
  I mean, yeah, I actively trial and error and all the things.
• 24:57
  But what I do now is we can collapse time and you can begin
• 25:00
  healing immediately, immediately.
• 25:04
  And that is just so powerful. And that's what I really like to
• 25:10
  get clients to step into. And it's really amazing to
• 25:14
  watch. I mean, give me anyone that has
• 25:16
  anxiety every day or they feel anxious like throughout the
• 25:19
  whole day or maybe it's more in the morning, more at night.
• 25:21
  You give me 7 days of them doing like a handful of things.
• 25:26
  I have a handful of things. Let's see who did one 2-3.
• 25:30
  If you did three things every day for seven days, I guarantee
• 25:33
  you your anxiousness will reduce 50 to 100%.
• 25:38
  Wow. Like there's so many simple
• 25:39
  things that we can do and it's like we feel like it's, it's not
• 25:45
  within us and it really, really is.
• 25:47
  Yeah, I think I love that so much.
• 25:49
  I talk to women about this all the time.
• 25:51
  You have it all within you. We just got to help you tap into
• 25:55
  that. This is another example of that
• 25:57
  and how empowering that is when we're able to rewire connections
• 26:03
  and unlearn and relearn healthy relationships with our emotions
• 26:08
  and what they mean and how they work on our bodies and how they
• 26:11
  impact our physical well-being and how all these systems are
• 26:15
  constantly in contact with each other.
• 26:18
  They are not stand alone. You're able to bring that all
• 26:21
  together for them going into living unapologetically.
• 26:25
  You made that decision for yourself at age 40 to make that
• 26:30
  change. You did it unapologetically.
• 26:33
  You didn't allow them to talk you out of what you were doing.
• 26:36
  And you put a new twist. And I think it's happening more
• 26:39
  and more, this idea of like, we can retire and reinvent
• 26:44
  ourselves. We can retire.
• 26:47
  We can go into these new seasons, we can meet ourselves
• 26:50
  where we are today and show up and align authentically with
• 26:55
  that. You have done that.
• 26:57
  And to me, your practice is an outpouring of, of how you show
• 27:02
  up unapologetically in the world.
• 27:04
  And, and you don't. And I tell women all the time,
• 27:07
  quit apologizing for showing up and, and taking up space and
• 27:11
  making decisions for you that are healthy and well for you.
• 27:16
  But then you've also taken that ability that you know is within
• 27:20
  you and now you're sharing it with other people to help them
• 27:24
  show up unapologetically. And when you select everything,
• 27:29
  you know, feats, what, 3-4 years ago now.
• 27:31
  Did you go into this space was happy whole you already in your
• 27:35
  head and it was just a matter of putting it down and getting it
• 27:38
  started? Or was it there were a
• 27:40
  reflection time where you were like, wait a minute, I've done
• 27:44
  this for me, It's time to help other people.
• 27:46
  With this as well, yeah. So two things I want to say, 1,
• 27:52
  most people are still apologizing because they're not
• 27:55
  in alignment with their true authentic self.
• 27:57
  They're still not in alignment. So that's why they're still
• 28:00
  apologizing. Yeah.
• 28:03
  And that can be challenging because you could be 1 foot in
• 28:07
  and 1 foot out. And I'm going to tell you why I
• 28:10
  was not living unapologetically yet.
• 28:13
  I opened happy hole you the very first one in 2018.
• 28:18
  I did not leave my career till four years later.
• 28:22
  OK, I was 1 foot in and 1 foot out.
• 28:25
  Always justifying what I was doing, where I was at, how it
• 28:29
  was showing up because I had this other career, Yeah.
• 28:33
  And then I also had this side thing going on and I could call
• 28:36
  it like, yeah, this is my side business and I, this is a
• 28:39
  freaking company. This was $1,000,000 company I
• 28:42
  was. This is not just a side hustle.
• 28:44
  I was treating it like, and it was my dream and I was treating
• 28:49
  it like, Oh yeah, I'm just doing this thing, this little thing.
• 28:52
  No, I was, the moment I became unapologetic is when I stepped
• 28:58
  into it and fully believed in myself and said I am going to do
• 29:01
  this thing and I'm stepping into it fully.
• 29:05
  And that didn't happen till I was 40.
• 29:07
  So I understand the scarcity. I understand the fear when you
• 29:12
  have a family and you have bills and you have all of these things
• 29:16
  going on and I'm going to walk from that.
• 29:19
  I spent 18 years of my life getting myself to a position of
• 29:25
  the title, of the money, of all of the things, and I'm going to
• 29:28
  walk from that. That's where society brainwashes
• 29:33
  us. Yes.
• 29:35
  And that is a scary place to be. The I think the most scariest
• 29:39
  place to live is when we're doing something because we're
• 29:42
  good at it and we do get some joy from it, but it is not like
• 29:47
  vibrant and exactly where we want to be because that is a
• 29:51
  dangerous place to me. Because honestly, I probably, if
• 29:54
  I didn't wake up, I'd probably still be there today.
• 29:59
  I'd be making good money. I'd have health insurance for
• 30:02
  the family. I would have all the dot dot,
• 30:04
  dot, dot, dot and people would look at me and think, wow, she's
• 30:07
  successful. She's got, you know, like I
• 30:10
  could have very easily stayed and played into that, but my
• 30:13
  body. Was.
• 30:15
  Telling me you have to go, I had to go.
• 30:19
  Most people in my situation would say, well, now you really
• 30:22
  can't go because you need that health insurance because you
• 30:25
  have all these things going on with your body, so you have to
• 30:29
  stay. And what's crazy is when I left
• 30:32
  those symptoms, those ailments, my blood work got much better.
• 30:36
  And so it's, it's wild because I until I experienced it myself,
• 30:42
  like I don't even like it's I, there's like 0 words like God is
• 30:49
  living through us and is trying to guide us.
• 30:52
  And he had so many opportunities for me, but I was so brainwashed
• 30:58
  that I wasn't awake. And we see where God is showing
• 31:04
  up. You don't miss all those God
• 31:05
  winks that are happening like he is there.
• 31:08
  Like this is your, this is your divine destiny.
• 31:12
  Like wake up. And so, so, yeah.
• 31:14
  So I do think that for us to live unapologetically, we have
• 31:20
  to be all in. And if you're still apologizing,
• 31:24
  you're not all in. Yeah, I love that and that
• 31:28
  disassociation piece because we get this script, go to college,
• 31:33
  get the degree, buy the car, find the partner, have the kids,
• 31:36
  get the house, live in the beautiful neighborhood, have
• 31:39
  take the vacations, all these things.
• 31:40
  And that will make your life wonderful.
• 31:42
  And no one ever stops to ask you.
• 31:45
  And you don't stop to ask yourself, how does that feel for
• 31:48
  me? Is that what I even want?
• 31:50
  Exactly. Is that what I even want?
• 31:52
  Is that in alignment? And then we start wondering
• 31:55
  51015 years into it, why we're feeling angsty all the time and
• 31:59
  why we're irritated and why we've got the Sunday scary's and
• 32:03
  all these things that we hear about that we just decide, oh,
• 32:07
  it's just part of life. This is just what I have to do
• 32:10
  and tell ourself all these to keep ourselves on this track of
• 32:13
  what we've been told. And I relate to that so
• 32:16
  wholeheartedly. I mean, I started the podcast in
• 32:20
  the summer of 2021. I lost my job unexpectedly in
• 32:25
  the summer of 2022. And it was only then that I was
• 32:29
  like, oh, that really wasn't working for me.
• 32:33
  And the mid like the first week out of that environment,
• 32:37
  everything settled. My blood pressure went down, the
• 32:40
  anxiety attacks minimized, I mean, all these things.
• 32:43
  And I was in the process of learning this.
• 32:45
  I was already talking to other women of the impacts of this and
• 32:48
  I'm still living within it myself.
• 32:51
  And it wasn't until this thing forced me.
• 32:55
  And it's like, wait a minute, there's a there I am missing.
• 33:00
  And it's kind of like, I share this analogy quite a bit and
• 33:03
  we've all heard it. I think you're out at sea and
• 33:06
  you're lost at sea. And you're like, God, where are
• 33:08
  you? Help me.
• 33:09
  And he sent the helicopter and he sent the ship and he's sent
• 33:12
  all these things. And you keep saying I'm waiting
• 33:14
  for it. And he's like, I'm right.
• 33:16
  I'm like. You're you're waiting for
• 33:18
  another boat or something like you think it looks a certain way
• 33:20
  in your head and it's not because you miss all other
• 33:23
  things. You miss all the other things
• 33:25
  and your body is screaming at you.
• 33:27
  And I want to go back to two. Our bodies are not against us.
• 33:32
  We were. They were beautifully designed.
• 33:33
  They are for us. And she they're screaming at us
• 33:37
  for attention. Pay attention.
• 33:40
  I'm trying to tell you something.
• 33:41
  Things. Something's not working here.
• 33:44
  And I think that until we can really like.
• 33:48
  Oh, the script, the script hasn't been serving me.
• 33:51
  Yeah. And like, even like the high
• 33:54
  blood pressure you were talking about, high blood pressure is
• 33:57
  linked to unresolved emotional issues.
• 33:59
  Yeah, right. And high cholesterol.
• 34:02
  So we usually see a high cholesterol, high blood
• 34:04
  pressure, high cholesterol as your channels of joy are just
• 34:07
  closing, you know, and the body is always talking to us and
• 34:12
  giving us clue. We just we just use a diagnosis
• 34:15
  to say, well, it's this thing we don't look at it as from an
• 34:18
  emotional standpoint. I also want to point out, like
• 34:21
  the universe, God, whatever you want to call it, if you are
• 34:26
  supposed to be in a different direction and you've had those
• 34:30
  inklings in you, but you keep ignoring them and keep ignoring
• 34:32
  them and keep ignoring them. Not only will your body speak to
• 34:36
  you, but also you can like he'll come in and take you out or put
• 34:41
  you on another track. Like you completely lost your
• 34:44
  job and you probably shouldn't have been there as long as you
• 34:46
  were anyways, but you didn't listen, right?
• 34:48
  Exactly the same thing literally is happening to my sister in
• 34:52
  real time. She's worked, she's a counselor
• 34:55
  and she's worked for a school district for I don't even know
• 34:57
  how many years she could have retired last year.
• 35:01
  She started her own private practice counseling people and
• 35:04
  is doing really well with that. But she's kept, she keeps
• 35:07
  holding on to her job that she's been at for how many years even
• 35:12
  though she can retire? And I, I was like, girl, I'm
• 35:16
  like, what are you doing here? Like you're like, you're
• 35:19
  literally paying them to keep showing up, you know?
• 35:21
  And, and I wouldn't say that if she was in pure bliss and joy
• 35:25
  and wasn't stressed and like having all these things going
• 35:27
  on. And anyway, she'd call me.
• 35:29
  She's like, yeah, so I haven't even had my office.
• 35:33
  And I let my administration know like she had an there wasn't an
• 35:38
  all these rats like an in the fusion.
• 35:41
  I was going to say an infection like all of these rats.
• 35:45
  That were in her office. In this school and she like sent
• 35:50
  the messages to maintenance operations, whatever they do,
• 35:54
  and they still haven't remedied it.
• 35:56
  So then she's like been in this classroom and I'm like, girl, if
• 35:59
  that's not the universe telling you to get out of here, you have
• 36:02
  like rat feces and stuff all over your head that is dead,
• 36:07
  that is dead there. You have to leave.
• 36:10
  So you have new life coming in. And we were just laughing
• 36:14
  because I'm like, girl, I mean, I don't know why you keep
• 36:17
  staying, Like, why, you know? But it's her identity.
• 36:21
  And you know, and. It's that scary place to be just
• 36:23
  because we're good at it and we do get some joy and we are
• 36:26
  making a difference. We feel we have to stay.
• 36:30
  Yeah. And it's like, Oh my gosh.
• 36:33
  Like it's I've just seen it too many times and have so many
• 36:36
  stories of like clients and just even my own, like I'm just like,
• 36:41
  but I know when you're in it, it feels so paralyzing to even make
• 36:44
  that decision to go like I understand that fear and like
• 36:48
  we're like, there was a point where it's like I felt like my
• 36:51
  physical body couldn't even make a decision.
• 36:54
  I was so like the when you people say they get paralyzed in
• 36:58
  fear, like I have experienced that.
• 37:00
  Yep. Until I did a lot of work, until
• 37:04
  I did some things, I started to really imagine my life and what
• 37:06
  it is I wanted. And that's the cool thing about
• 37:09
  our brain. If your brain can start
• 37:12
  envisioning from a lens of opportunity and abundance, if
• 37:16
  you envision it, your body doesn't know if it's really
• 37:19
  happening or not. So if we can rewrite the
• 37:23
  narrative and take the fear out of it, I started to rewrite the
• 37:27
  narrative and to visualize in my brain what I was feeling like,
• 37:30
  what it could look like, and I was physically allowing myself
• 37:33
  to feel the joy versus feel the fear.
• 37:37
  It literally helped collapse time and stepping into it so
• 37:40
  much faster. So that's another like hack that
• 37:43
  we can do because our brain is very powerful and whatever we're
• 37:46
  thinking is putting it in the quantum field.
• 37:49
  And it's a, it's literally an energetic signal.
• 37:51
  It's, it's a antenna and you will vibrate back at you.
• 37:56
  Everything will reflect back to you, the very thing that you're
• 37:58
  putting out. And it's amazing how how just
• 38:03
  we're just great. I mean, like our body and our
• 38:06
  minds, like it's so powerful, the infinite power within it.
• 38:10
  And and I just, it blows my mind that people don't realize it.
• 38:15
  Yeah, you're just not tapping into it.
• 38:17
  Yeah, because of these scripts. Again, I'm packing.
• 38:20
  I'm so glad you brought up. And this goes nicely into your
• 38:22
  values and your why? Because I tell people, you know,
• 38:25
  I give them exercises to help them identify these things
• 38:28
  because I'm like, this is going to help you get in alignment
• 38:31
  with who you are. So I'll start with these simple
• 38:33
  questions and I'm like, they'll be like, I'm like, I promise
• 38:36
  this is going somewhere. But when you when you're
• 38:39
  connected with your values and why, it keeps you out of that
• 38:42
  because I talk to college students about this all the
• 38:44
  time. Why are you know, I, I was on
• 38:47
  campus at Fresno State yesterday.
• 38:48
  We had a level up event. I'm asking why are you majoring
• 38:51
  in this? What is in this about this
• 38:54
  attracts you? What is it that calls to you?
• 38:56
  What fills you're caught and, and just checking in with them
• 39:00
  to make sure they're in alignment with before they go
• 39:04
  out into the world. Because like everybody, they're
• 39:07
  getting narratives from their home life, from their culture,
• 39:09
  from their upbringing, from society, so many things.
• 39:14
  Talk to me about how your why and your values have helped you
• 39:18
  really stay in alignment with that.
• 39:22
  Well, I mean, I think it's just a knowing.
• 39:27
  I mean, why I do what I do now is because of what I have been
• 39:30
  through. But then when I get quiet and
• 39:31
  meditate, it's just a knowing and a remembrance of who I am
• 39:36
  and the infinite power that we all hold.
• 39:39
  And it's, and it's, it's a, it's a power of, of paying it
• 39:47
  forward. It's a power of helping all of
• 39:49
  us remember, like, if everybody remembered, like why they're
• 39:55
  here, Why are we sent to earth? Why does God say, Hey, I'm going
• 39:58
  to send you down here. You're going to have like this
• 40:01
  amazing experience. We're going to feel all the
• 40:03
  polarities, the hot, the cold, the love, the hate, the UPS, the
• 40:08
  downs, the ocean, the, you know, the mountains.
• 40:11
  You're going to experience all this.
• 40:12
  You're going to see. You see rainbows, you're going
• 40:14
  to see thunderstorms. And we're like, God, I don't
• 40:17
  even know what all that means, but OK, like, I trust you, I
• 40:20
  love you. And he's like, you're going to
• 40:21
  go down there and you're going to just like, it's it's amazing.
• 40:24
  You're going to have all these experiences.
• 40:26
  Well, then we get down here and we decide, oh, thunderstorms are
• 40:29
  bad. Oh, this is what we should be
• 40:33
  doing, not this. And really we're meant to be
• 40:36
  here and embrace all of it. Like you said, all the layers
• 40:40
  like embrace all of it. But what happens is we start
• 40:44
  giving it an emotion and we start giving it a meaning.
• 40:47
  And the moment we do that, we forget that we came from
• 40:51
  infinite source, that we came from this abundance of this love
• 40:56
  and purity. Because it's like, I think it
• 40:59
  was a Michael Singer, and I love his work, but it was like, the
• 41:05
  whole thing is being OK inside, no matter what's going on around
• 41:11
  you. Yeah.
• 41:12
  Having that inner peace, that baseline of all is well, because
• 41:19
  it is OK. We're just having this
• 41:21
  experience. And then we go back to source,
• 41:24
  then we go back to God when we're done with it and we go
• 41:27
  with the lessons. Yeah.
• 41:29
  So I think you know the why is because I forgot.
• 41:36
  Yeah. I, I was when I was a young
• 41:38
  girl, I'm writing about this in my, my new book.
• 41:41
  But when I was a little girl, I experienced energy.
• 41:44
  I could see energy. I could like everything alive to
• 41:47
  me. And then I got made fun of.
• 41:48
  I was weird. And so I shut that down.
• 41:50
  I forgot that we come from infinite source.
• 41:54
  I started to live in society's expectations.
• 41:57
  And it worked until I started waking up again and into my 40s
• 42:02
  that all those gifts started coming back to me.
• 42:06
  Yeah. And so the reason I do what I do
• 42:09
  now is because all of us are born with those gifts.
• 42:12
  All of us are born through love and compassion and light.
• 42:17
  And yes, these horrific things can happen and they do not feel
• 42:22
  good. Yeah.
• 42:23
  How we choose to respond or react, the lessons we extract
• 42:27
  versus saying a victim in them, that's everything.
• 42:30
  That's being human, yes. So.
• 42:34
  So forgetting where I came from, forgetting where we all come
• 42:38
  from, I think is scary. And the fact that I feel like
• 42:44
  I'm waking up, I'm doing the work that I'm doing now because
• 42:48
  it's for the highest good of all.
• 42:51
  And there's an infinite force that lives within me that I want
• 42:54
  to reflect back out in the world.
• 42:56
  Just to remind everyone, you could like, we all have this.
• 42:58
  We're all this love and amazing light.
• 43:03
  And so that would be the the why I do what I do.
• 43:06
  And I don't think people have to struggle as much as they're
• 43:08
  struggling. So the sooner we can wake up,
• 43:11
  sooner we get on the the gods work that we're here to do.
• 43:15
  Yeah, as our healthiest, most authentic selves that we were
• 43:18
  designed to be. Absolutely.
• 43:20
  You really laid out well already within that that description,
• 43:24
  living out of your own expectations versus others.
• 43:27
  You've made that shift. You recognize how it was what
• 43:31
  was being crippled within you and, and, and, and we're able to
• 43:35
  embrace the possibility of what was actually in you and go into
• 43:41
  that. Talk to me about what it was
• 43:44
  like to because it's one thing when we shift and we start
• 43:47
  living out of our own expectations versus others.
• 43:51
  There's a lot of voices around us that are like, what are you
• 43:55
  doing? And there's a communication that
• 43:58
  goes with that. And I've learned, you know, I
• 44:01
  was the over explaining champion of the world for years.
• 44:04
  And a few years ago my daughters were like, stop, you don't stop
• 44:08
  saying so many words. You don't, you don't need to do
• 44:12
  that. And so realizing that when you
• 44:14
  do make these shifts, there is some communication involved so
• 44:18
  that people understand how you're showing up in the world
• 44:20
  now. And also you don't have to over
• 44:23
  explain it. So talk to me about your
• 44:24
  experience. With that, well, I mean, I felt
• 44:30
  like a while ago, I felt like I had to explain everything to the
• 44:33
  T and convince people. Yeah.
• 44:37
  And I started to realize it's not my job to convince anyone of
• 44:41
  anything, that's for sure. I get to show up and be what I
• 44:48
  am, and through that is going to be whether people, you know,
• 44:54
  want to work with me or or whatnot.
• 44:58
  So I think it's a state of. It's a state of being, yeah.
• 45:07
  Yeah, when we release, release that sense of responsibility
• 45:10
  that so many of us women carry like, no, no, no, no.
• 45:13
  You're responsible for you. You're responsible for you.
• 45:17
  And within that comes accountability to to help you
• 45:21
  tap into all that you're capable of and all that's within you to
• 45:24
  live as your healthiest, most authentic self.
• 45:26
  And sometimes making the hard choices that maybe they feel
• 45:29
  hard at the time, but as you move forward and look back,
• 45:32
  you're like, oh. Yeah, that was absolutely.
• 45:34
  The thing that I had to do in the moment, and it is me now and
• 45:37
  I can see the results of that. This is also you have been able
• 45:42
  to what I call embrace your layers.
• 45:44
  You spoke to it a little bit ago, embracing all those pieces
• 45:48
  and parts of your story that make up who you are.
• 45:53
  Did you have a moment? I know we talked about that
• 45:56
  decision you made when you were 40 where you realize I got to
• 45:58
  take. All of this about.
• 46:00
  My life and my decisions and my choices and what's happened to
• 46:03
  me and I've got to get OK with it.
• 46:05
  I've got to. I don't have to love everything,
• 46:07
  but I need to. There needs to be an
• 46:08
  acknowledgement and an acceptance is that.
• 46:12
  Can you talk to me a little bit about what that was like for
• 46:14
  you? Yeah.
• 46:16
  I mean, there's so many moments like that and what I do with
• 46:22
  what I do with clients, and I did it for myself, which made
• 46:26
  all the difference in the world is I do this visualization or
• 46:31
  even you could just work through it.
• 46:34
  But where we envision our past, in those moments in our past
• 46:38
  that most of us would want to crawl under a rock and not admit
• 46:41
  that we even did or we were a part of, that we have shame
• 46:44
  around, regret around, or it was very scary, you know, something
• 46:52
  that happened to us that we didn't have full control over
• 46:55
  and it happened to us. So I drop in, I dropped into all
• 47:00
  of those moments. And when I drop into all those
• 47:04
  moments and I meet my younger self, I go in and I try to
• 47:09
  extract the value games like, what was it about me being made
• 47:17
  fun of that has become a superpower of mine?
• 47:22
  What is it about me that had neglect and being left out?
• 47:31
  How has that given me a superpower?
• 47:34
  How has been sexually assaulted in my past?
• 47:38
  How has that given me a superpower?
• 47:42
  So if we can drop into all of those moments, yeah, and leave
• 47:48
  the shame, the regret, the hate, the jealousy, leave all of that
• 47:55
  in the past because we can't change it.
• 47:58
  No. And take with us those
• 48:01
  superpowers of the lesson learned.
• 48:03
  It literally helps us re envision the past through the
• 48:07
  lens of power and opportunity. And really grateful because I'm
• 48:13
  the woman I am today because of those experiences, which helps
• 48:16
  us re envision a future. Because if we bring all those
• 48:19
  negative emotions with us in our current moment, then the future
• 48:22
  we're envisioning is through the lens of those things.
• 48:25
  Yeah, and you say victim stance? Correct.
• 48:29
  Yeah. And yeah.
• 48:30
  And we were victims. I mean, so many of us, 1000% in
• 48:34
  our lives, but we don't get to re victimize ourselves.
• 48:37
  We don't get to be doing the victimizing now because the
• 48:40
  moment that that moment ended, which is probably less than, you
• 48:45
  know, 5% of your life, you are the one that keeps re
• 48:50
  victimizing yourself. Yeah, we are the ones that keep
• 48:53
  re victimizing ourselves. So it's like freaking hey and
• 48:56
  that and we want, we don't want to have to fix it because we
• 49:00
  didn't do it, you know? Right, right.
• 49:02
  It was somebody did this to us it.
• 49:04
  Wasn't my fault like this is bullshit that I have to be the
• 49:08
  one to do it. But you know what?
• 49:10
  It's not because the moment you step into that to start to
• 49:14
  rewrite your past and to start to work through it and leave it
• 49:19
  and move beyond it, that's where those superpowers come in.
• 49:22
  Yeah. And that's where you catapult
• 49:24
  forward. Yeah.
• 49:26
  So let's stop allowing those past to control everything in
• 49:31
  our current moment and to control our future.
• 49:33
  And that is something I actively work on all the time.
• 49:37
  I mean, you know, it's like somebody like family member, one
• 49:42
  family member that, you know, we don't always see eye to eye.
• 49:45
  And it's like getting to the point where no matter what this
• 49:47
  family member says to me or what comments they make, I'm just
• 49:50
  like, oh, isn't that interesting?
• 49:53
  I love you like and just not having a visceral reaction of
• 49:57
  like such BS like why does he always have to do that?
• 50:00
  You know what I mean? And I actively am working on
• 50:02
  that right? Like we all get to work on this
• 50:05
  and let it be a journey and let it be pleasurable to work on it
• 50:08
  versus like, Oh my gosh, you know, because the work needs to
• 50:12
  be done, whether it's in this lifetime or another lifetime, I
• 50:15
  believe. We have multiple lifetime.
• 50:16
  Yeah, yeah. So, you know, let's get to work.
• 50:19
  Yeah, Well, I thought that you dressed the the nuance of this
• 50:23
  is that the nuance of I can grieve that, but I can also
• 50:26
  celebrate who I am from it. And I can acknowledge what I
• 50:30
  what the strength is has come out of me.
• 50:32
  The resilience, the learning, the curiosity, the kindness I
• 50:37
  can extend to myself, the no longer blaming myself for that
• 50:41
  being in that situation when sometimes shit just happens.
• 50:44
  And we have to learn what we get to decide what to do with it.
• 50:47
  We get to choose how we're going to move forward from that and
• 50:52
  not let it continue to have power over us and and tap within
• 50:57
  our resources that are already available waiting to be called
• 51:00
  on. We just have to give them the
• 51:03
  room and the love and the empathy and opportunity and
• 51:05
  acknowledgement to come out and service and help us to be who we
• 51:10
  were designed to be. Thank you so much for that.
• 51:12
  That was so good in living out, feel, finding empowerment,
• 51:17
  embracing layers, which is what you are doing.
• 51:20
  Talk to me about how that has impacted your relationship with
• 51:23
  yourself as well as your relationship with other people.
• 51:28
  Like the feelings that I have. Yeah.
• 51:31
  And just being just the empowerment that you live in
• 51:34
  like that, that that going back to that, your ability to embrace
• 51:38
  your layers and see yourself the way you do and how that impacts
• 51:42
  the relationships that you're in.
• 51:45
  Yeah, I mean, it's, it's so powerful and it's fun.
• 51:50
  It's fun because when you fully step into it of who you are you,
• 51:58
  you do get to live unapologetically and the outside
• 52:01
  world isn't controlling you anymore.
• 52:04
  And it's not going to the outside world isn't going to
• 52:07
  dictate whether I have a good day or not.
• 52:09
  Like. That power always comes back to
• 52:11
  me and my choices. Yeah, there can be moments that
• 52:15
  are like, but it's like that doesn't have to ruin my whole
• 52:18
  day. I mean, some people will let you
• 52:20
  know one thing happened, it happened one minute in their
• 52:24
  day, and they're allowing it to ruin the rest of their day or
• 52:26
  the whole rest of their week or the rest of their month.
• 52:29
  Yeah, right. So I think it's just like
• 52:35
  stepping into that and embodying that energy, that frequency of
• 52:42
  who we really are. And when we step into that, you
• 52:46
  know, other people that step into that frequency of who they
• 52:50
  truly are, like, those are the people that literally I'm
• 52:55
  attracted to, and they're attracted to me.
• 52:58
  And we become friends. And some people that are like,
• 53:02
  what does this even freaking mean?
• 53:05
  Yeah. Like, if they're like, what does
• 53:06
  this mean? But I'm actually interested in
• 53:08
  this. Like, what?
• 53:10
  I need this, but I don't even know what the heck you're
• 53:12
  talking about. Those are the clients that I
• 53:14
  usually end up getting. Yeah.
• 53:16
  And then the ones that are like, you're talking crazy, you're
• 53:19
  weird. I don't know.
• 53:21
  Those are people that my paths are not gonna cross with.
• 53:24
  Right. Actually, I have a lot.
• 53:26
  Like not a lot, but I'll have people saying, well, I'm a
• 53:28
  Christian because I talk about energy and I talk about, you
• 53:32
  know, and I always laugh because I'm Christian too.
• 53:35
  And I'm like, I don't like, if you're Christian, then you for
• 53:38
  sure believe in energy because you believe in prayer.
• 53:40
  You literally believe in thinking or speaking something
• 53:43
  and having it go to a higher power.
• 53:44
  If that's not energy exchange, I don't know what is.
• 53:47
  And then that goes to that person and helps them heal.
• 53:50
  Like heck yeah. Like if you believe in God, in
• 53:53
  the divine and all of that, like, what do you mean?
• 53:56
  Like, so it's just, it's interesting.
• 53:58
  But again, I mean, there's a different between, you know,
• 54:01
  spirituality and religion. Exactly.
• 54:04
  Yes, a difference. But yeah, like there's usually
• 54:08
  like, yeah. Like the people that I'm, like,
• 54:12
  close to are ones that really embody that frequency.
• 54:15
  We show up and we're in each other's presence.
• 54:18
  I don't need anything from them. They don't need anything from
• 54:20
  me. We both lift each other up and
• 54:24
  we collaborate when we want. Like, it's just like, it
• 54:26
  doesn't. There's no, we don't need
• 54:29
  anything from each other. We're and we're celebrating each
• 54:33
  other. Those are the friendships and
• 54:35
  those are the relationships I love and the ones that are
• 54:37
  waking up to it. Those are the clients that I end
• 54:40
  up getting. Yeah.
• 54:42
  And then the other ones, they're for somebody else.
• 54:45
  Yeah, yeah. It's that life giving.
• 54:48
  I love that when you relationships become choices,
• 54:51
  they're not. We know we have all that we need
• 54:55
  within us. We don't need someone else to
• 54:57
  make us happy or fill a void or anything else.
• 55:00
  We already know how to tap into that.
• 55:02
  We have tapped into that. And then we draw energy and
• 55:06
  people, we're all, it's like this magnetic energy that brings
• 55:10
  us together and it's life giving.
• 55:13
  It's not life taking. And I think that's so important.
• 55:16
  Thank you so much for sharing that.
• 55:18
  As we wind down here, a couple of last, what I call rapid fire
• 55:23
  questions. Share 5 activities that nourish
• 55:28
  you. Definitely spending time with my
• 55:31
  kids in my car because then they can't leave.
• 55:33
  Then we can talk about all the things.
• 55:36
  That is so fun. Going hiking, being outside in
• 55:40
  nature is amazing. I love writing.
• 55:46
  Just going to a super loud Cafe and writing like I, I don't know
• 55:53
  what it is, but like the louder the space, the more I can
• 55:56
  concentrate. It seems chaotic, but love that.
• 56:03
  I love good food. I love going out to eat and like
• 56:08
  a really good chef. Like making things from scratch
• 56:11
  and like trying new foods and things like that is really
• 56:15
  nourishing for me. And I love doing nothing on
• 56:19
  Sundays. I have no responsibilities on
• 56:23
  Sundays except for just embracing and just being like,
• 56:27
  those are like the things that nourish me the most.
• 56:30
  I love that. I love that I've got Sundays.
• 56:32
  I've got that protection around my Sunday too.
• 56:34
  I love it. It's my favorite day.
• 56:39
  Talk to me about 5 words on how you want to feel the next six
• 56:43
  months. 5 words I want to feel. I just think like I mean my
• 56:55
  company is happy whole you. I know it's like I just want to
• 56:59
  remain happy, feel whole inside and just be who I am.
• 57:05
  And yeah, it's just that state of being which feels calm at.
• 57:12
  Complete. Yeah, I love that.
• 57:14
  I love that you talked about this earlier, too.
• 57:17
  When you get to the space, you're able to have that
• 57:19
  contentment in the chaos, like it gives you such a firm
• 57:24
  foundation to operate from. So good.
• 57:27
  All right, Doctor Anna Marie, tell people where they can find
• 57:30
  you, follow you, work with you. You have multiple resources out
• 57:35
  there. You've got books, you've got
• 57:36
  podcasts, you've got working with you in Bakersfield, all
• 57:39
  these things available. Talk to people about that.
• 57:41
  That will also be on our website at embracinglayers.com.
• 57:44
  So don't worry, you don't have to write it down if you're
• 57:46
  driving down the freeway right now and share with this real
• 57:48
  quick where they can find you and follow you.
• 57:51
  Yeah, well, Doctor Anna marie.com is my personal
• 57:55
  website. Our company Happy Hole You is
• 57:58
  another website. And then Happy Hole You on
• 58:01
  Instagram. Doctor Anna Marie on Instagram.
• 58:04
  I mean, if if your heart feels like you need to connect to me,
• 58:08
  you'll find a way. Yes, we will.
• 58:10
  That's so true. And one last thought for our
• 58:13
  listeners today. One last thought.
• 58:20
  I think just like, just take a breath and remind yourself that
• 58:26
  like, like all is well. Like give yourself even just
• 58:32
  like 30 seconds or one minute to just be present with your breath
• 58:36
  and not think of anything and just all is well.
• 58:41
  And I think that's just a really great opportunity for, like, to
• 58:45
  ground yourself and just to be because I believe we all get to
• 58:50
  have this inner peace. And as long as we allow
• 58:54
  ourselves to have that inner peace, we can have it.
• 58:56
  Then we shouldn't let the outside world influence or steal
• 58:59
  our inner peace. Yeah.
• 59:00
  I love that. That's a great way to wrap up
• 59:02
  this conversation. Thank you so much for taking
• 59:05
  time out of your very busy schedule to be with me today.
• 59:08
  I appreciate you so much. I'm so glad our paths crossed.
• 59:11
  I love how you show up in the world.
• 59:13
  It's so important, so powerful. Listeners, a lot to take from
• 59:17
  this. Go back, take notes, reach out
• 59:20
  to Doctor Anna Marie if you're feeling call to go to
• 59:23
  embracinglayers.com to check out all of our resources and ways
• 59:26
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• 59:28
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• 59:35
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