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Hypnosis to Defeat the Emotional Vampire Within · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  that is designed to work with what's known as a disassociated
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  part. Now, that sounds complex, but it
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  really isn't. A lot of people will
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  occasionally feel a sense of not fully being in control, that
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  they will have these things. And sometimes that might be a
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  blackout or it might be time distortion, but they just think
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  that where did that come from or how did that happen?
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  And it's because a different part of them was in control for
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  a period of time. And one of the things that is
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  known as a dissociative disorder is binge eating and binge
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  eating. A lot of people that have binges
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  will say that once they're in a binge, they lose track of time.
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  They're not really paying attention to the taste.
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  And that when everything's finished, it almost feels like
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  they return to their body and have to clear up the mess that
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  has been created from the part that was responsible for the
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  binge. And that's often why people that
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  binge sometimes become bulimic. The purge is an attempt to
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  mitigate the consequences of the binge so that they don't have
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  the consequences of those excess calories, for example.
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  It's not a healthy thing to do, but it's an understandable thing
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  to do. They're trying to clear up the
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  mess of a different part of them.
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  And I was working with a client that in their teenage years and
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  and as a young adult had a lot of occasions of binging followed
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  by a purge and. It would.
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  You know, they were over most of it in all honesty, but the
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  thoughts were still there. That nigging or nagging thought
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  of oh, but you could just do this, you know, nobody would
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  know you can do this. It will make you feel better.
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  And what was interesting is that I knew it was disassociated
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  because the inner dialogue was not stated in the first person
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  like I, I could do this. It was stated in the third
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  person you. So you could do this.
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  Being a therapist, as long as I have, I tend to pay attention to
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  my intuition and intuitively A metaphor popped into my head.
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  And in the genre of vampire movies, there is this law, this
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  almost kind of element that is just an expectation of this
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  genre, and that is that a vampire cannot go into your home
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  unless it has an invitation. And when it gets in your home,
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  quite often it has very sinister motives.
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  But the threshold is the is the doorway and it can only get in
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  with an invitation. And the language that this
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  disassociated part was using was to influence it was trying to
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  gain access to control to then have the binge.
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  So you know, you're bored. There's nothing, nothing you
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  need to do. Nobody would know.
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  And it was almost like this charming, sinister voice that
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  had an agenda. So what you're going to hear in
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  this is a metaphor of that, that part that has quite possibly a
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  good intention, but negative consequences of that good
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  intention, perceiving it to be like a vampire, parasitic,
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  taking, seeking gratification, not being responsible for any
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  consequences. It does map over quite nicely
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  with this metaphor of a of a vampire.
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  There's another metaphor going on here and the client was
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  talking about how it feels to have this going on.
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  They said it's like, it's like going over a tightrope on a huge
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  Canyon. And this idea of still being
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  attached to the binging is almost like a safety cord.
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  So you can hear that as part of the induction as well.
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  And I've had a few people literally say to me, I mean,
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  I've, I've published close to 2000 hypnosis sessions that
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  they've said, Adam, why would it make sense to work with you
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  directly given that you publish so many of your hypnotherapy
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  sessions that surely there will be something out there relevant
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  to everyone and they don't need to work with you directly.
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  And there is an element of truth to that.
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  You know, I have published so many things.
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  So you probably are going to find something pretty close to
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  what would be helpful for you for completely free just looking
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  at my published recordings. But my response is that the
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  variable that is always changing is the individual client in
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  front of me. They're going to have unique
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  experiences, memories. They're going to have unique
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  belief systems and coping strategies.
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  And that's why when you listen to my podcasts, you can hear
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  some things that just seem a little bit odd or strange.
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  And it's strange to you because you're not the client that I was
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  working with, but the actual client I was working with.
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  It hits the mark perfectly because I spend so much time
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  eliciting what is going to be the right metaphor, the right
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  context, the right suggestions for that client.
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  So listening to a session about a metaphorical vampire and
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  crossing a Canyon, I seem a bit strange.
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  But metaphorically it works. And that's why I do this little
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  pre talk before you hear the session, to give it some
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  context. Otherwise it's just bizarre.
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  There is no actual vampire. The vampire is just a
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  representation and metaphorical representation of a different
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  part of their inner dialogue that happens to be
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  disassociated. But once you give it that
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  metaphor, then the goal is to not let the vampire in, not not
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  invite it. See it?
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  For what it is naturally, challenge it to come up with a
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  better way of meeting that intention.
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  And what it does is it gives the client that I'm working with a
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  way to not feel that they're on the receiving end of a barrage
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  of intrusive thoughts. And the only way they can make
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  those thoughts go away is to binge eat is to give them a
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  different strategy that will work even better than doing a
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  binge because it doesn't reward that intrusive thought.
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  So hopefully that makes sense. And if you do like the idea of a
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  really bespoke session entirely customized for you, the way that
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  that would happen is you would look in the show notes.
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  There's normally a link there that would take you to book a 30
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  minute consultation call with me or you can visit my website
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  whichisadamcox.co.uk and on that website you can also click a
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  link to book a free consultation call and we'll have a chat and
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  you'll see if I'm the right hypnotherapist for you.
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  For now though, you might get some value from this session.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Yeah. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in. Slow, long, deep breath.
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  And as you exhale, feel that you're releasing any tension
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  around your eyelids and around your eyes.
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  And as you breathe out, feel that tension leaving your body,
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  breathing in, relaxation and exhaling.
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  Any tension I. Want you to scan your body for
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  any clues of tension, maybe your neck or your shoulders, your jaw
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  or your forehead. And as you breathe in that
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  relaxation, allow that tension to melt away and you can loosen
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  your jaw, feel your neck and your shoulders releasing that
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  tension. And maybe you notice that you're
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  breathing deeper and longer. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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  the deeper you breathe. And as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to imagine a vast
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  Canyon, maybe the Grand Canyon or some other place in the
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  world. Even if it's just your
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  imagination, Imagine. It's so deep, a kilometer, a
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  mile, maybe far, far deep down there's a river, maybe it's a
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  rocky Canyon. And I want you to imagine there
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  is a tightrope. I want you to imagine that
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  tightrope and feel. Then you have a task to cross
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  the Canyon on the tightrope. I want you to imagine you have
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  that balance, and I want you to see a safety cord attached to
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  you and the tightrope. And maybe you feel that if you
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  were to fall, this safety cord would be the only thing to stop
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  you plummeting to your death. As you start to walk, you might
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  get a sense that you have to be in full concentration all the
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  time. You have to be careful.
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  You have to be aware of winds and breezes, the tensile
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  strength of the tightrope. And we need to get a real sense
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  of how exhausting, how precarious this all feels, but
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  also how reliant you are on that safety cord.
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  But there are positives. The sky is clear, the air is
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  still, and the Canyon looks magnificently beautiful.
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  So imagine stepping forward, realizing you are wearing that
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  harness, that it has the function of protecting you, of
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  keeping you safe. And each step you take slow and
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  deliberate. Maybe you can feel that wobble
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  beneath your feet. Maybe there's a part of your
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  mind that used to fear falling whispers.
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  What if you fall? Some people call fear the
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  acronym FEAR False Evidence that Appears real.
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  I wonder if you can re evaluate this Canyon and glance down and
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  see the truth. What if this Canyon isn't a
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  Canyon at all? It's not so deep and not so
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  scary. In fact, it's shallow just a few
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  feet down, and not jagged rocks at the bottom, but a bed of soft
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  Moss. And you realize even if you did
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  fall, you'd be OK. And you know that's true.
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  Everything you've gone through gives you evidence.
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  Then you can fall and be OK. What if you've been attached to
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  a safety harness that you never needed?
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  And what if that safety harness was holding you back rather than
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  keeping you? Safe.
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  What is? Protection for one becomes a
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  prison for someone else. So think of that safety cord and
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  maybe it is helpful only if the Canyon is real.
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  I want you to get a sense then. All of this is based on
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  perceptions, the tightrope being narrow and the Canyon being
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  deep. Imagine going back to the Canyon
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  and seeing it shallow and seeing the tightrope turn into a large,
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  steady, stable bridge. This shallow area with soft Moss
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  and a strong sturdy bridge, now wearing a safety harness would
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  simply be an inconvenience. If you could imagine how strange
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  it would be to wear a safety harness crossing a bridge over
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  something very shallow, Let me know by nodding your head.
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  Even if it's windy, you don't need the safety harness.
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  And even if the Canyon was there, if the bridge is strong,
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  you don't need the safety harness.
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  You realize now that you have many ways to feel safe, stable
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  and. Secure and.
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  The more you believe that and think about it, the truer it.
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  Becomes I want. You to imagine you walk now not
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  with fear but with calm confidence.
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  And with each step you go deeper and deeper still.
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  Every step across the bridge takes you deeper into that place
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  within your mind of powerful, profound changes, and you can
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  allow the conscious mind to rest now, like clouds drifting from
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  the sun. And as the surface quiets, the
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  real work can begin in your mind.
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  Now you find yourself standing at the entrance to a beautiful
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  home, an imaginary home. But you know it as your home,
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  safe and yours. Consider the doorway in the
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  walls as a natural boundary. Everything in the home is yours,
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  and everything outside of it isn't.
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  And just outside that home, just beyond the threshold, is a
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  figure. And they wear a charming smile.
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  Eyes glean with fake promises. I want you to see someone
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  looking slick, tenacious, confident, a false friend, a
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  vampire. Hear them saying things like you
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  can do this. It will help you.
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  You're going through a lot. This will make things better.
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  Charming and sneaky. They want you not to do what you
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  want to do, but what they want you to do.
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  Perhaps you already see them now, in this new way.
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  This part was never a friend, never a helper.
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  It's like a vampire, polished, persuasive, pretending to help.
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  But like all vampires, it needs an invitation.
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  It cannot enter your home without your permission, Just
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  like an inner dialogue then can't make you binge.
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  But it's tenaciously, tenaciously trying to get you to
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  binge. And think of the vampire in
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  this. Way but.
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  Now you smile, because you finally see it clearly.
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  This part isn't a monster. It's clever, it's cunning, but
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  it's also misguided. It's been using old strategies
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  that perhaps once or twice even were helpful, but it's stuck in
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  that past and now you are the one at the door.
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  You stand tall and maybe you say to this vampire, I see you and I
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  know what you're doing, I'm not afraid of you, but I'm not
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  playing your game anymore. And you can even smirk a little
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  as you say, because it feels good to reclaim your authority.
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  This part was always meant to work for you, but instead it's
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  been manipulating you. But not anymore.
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  And you can challenge that part directly if you really want to
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  help, if you truly care, if you actually want to protect or make
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  me feel better and come up with something better, something
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  elegant, something that lifts me up instead of dragging me down.
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  And the vampire can see on your face you're not backing down.
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  If they want their intention met, they simply will have to
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  propose a different way, a different idea.
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  But binging? That's off the table.
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  Binging would be rewarding the vampire, inviting the vampire in
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  to be destructive, like a parasite to take from you.
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  But you know this vampire can do better than that.
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  It can use its intelligence and tenacity to come up with
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  something that enriches your life, that helps with heavy
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  emotions, that helps with difficult times, that enriches
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  your life rather than keeps you stuck in a.
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  Loop your refusal. To back down is noticed by the
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  vampire, and that vampire begins to change.
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  The charm drops, the illusion fades, the fangs disappear and
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  in its place you see something more honest, a confused part of
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  you that just wants relief, challenging in a playful way to
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  try things. Things that you will actually
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  say yes to from now on. Anytime that old, charming,
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  tenacious voice tries to sell you something, tell you
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  something in its interest and not yours, you'll pause and
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  you'll know. You hold the key, you make the
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  call. You're not at the mercy.
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  Of those urges. You're the one behind the wheel,
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  you're driving the bus. This part is just a passenger,
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  and you drive to your destination, not the destination
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  that this part wants you to go to, because you've been to that
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  place before, you didn't like him, and you don't want to
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  return there. And if that part speaks up again
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  in that way, it will be met with that assertive presence in you.
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  Not with fear, not with fight, but with leadership.
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  You are in charge of your destiny, and it will know.
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  The only way forward is to actually be helpful, to speak in
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  your language. Elegant, helpful, kind.
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  I want you to travel through time days from now, weeks from
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  now, and imagine that part coming up.
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  Maybe you're bored or overwhelmed, but imagine that
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  voice. You now see it for what it is,
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  and the harder it tries to influence you, the more you
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  challenge back. And if it doesn't respond to
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  your playful approach, it will respond to your assertive
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  approach. But either way, you're not
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  backing down. You're not rewarding the
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  parasite to take more than it gives.
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  So imagine that. Now imagine that voice right now
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  urging you, encouraging you, influencing you, and start to
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  practice how you will respond to that part with a smile, with
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  confidence. Come on, I'm not playing this
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  game. Tell that part to come up with
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  something better. Or just imagine closing the door
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  on that part, turning the volume down and it can keep knocking on
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  the door, but that doesn't mean you have to open.
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  It unless. You give this part an
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  invitation. It has no power over.
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  You hear it say you could binge. Do it, No one will know.
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  And just imagine your response. That's old.
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  I don't do that. Now you can find a better way,
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  and you do because there are so many better ways.
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  A walk, a conversation with someone you know, a breath,
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  music, movement, rest, good book, creativity.
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  Your mind is finding new answers now, not as an effort, but as a
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  habit, a path well walked. And if your unconscious now
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  feels that you have the tools, do not need the safety harness,
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  that if a vampire comes knocking, you know how to turn
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  them away, let me know by nodding your head and it will
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  knock, but when it does, you'll be ready.
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  Forewarned is forearmed, and don't be surprised if you notice
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  that the more effective your boundaries get with this part,
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  also, the more effective they get with other people in your
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  life that also want to take more than they give to extract from
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  you rather than enrich you just becomes a nice side effect
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  because what changes in the inner world ripples out to the
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  external world. That's just how it happens and
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  you could imagine your life becoming better because you can
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  communicate your true needs, say yes to what you want to and no
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  to what you don't, to introduce boundaries and conversations,
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  but also in commitments. You are in charge of your life.
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  I imagine walking all the way over that bridge to the other
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  side of what once you thought was a Canyon in now is just a
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  shallow space beneath you. And the other side of that
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  bridge is that confident, stronger version of you, more in
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  control of your life. This is your identity now, and
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  you could always walk back over the bridge and have things how
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  they were, but why would you do that when you found a better
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  way? And if this feels like a better
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  way, let me know about nodding your head.
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  That's it. It's time to leave this place.
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  But you leave this place with the new identity activated.
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  The old one can still be there. They're on the tightrope with
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  the harness. None of it was necessary.
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  None of it was real. You have evolved now.
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  New boundaries, new resources, new strategies, and that version
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  can return back to the here and the now.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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