Latest / Closing Sales in Nigeria - Sales For The Nigerian Business Person: The Sales and Marketing Blueprint / Spying on Your Clients (Ethically!)
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- 0:01Hello, and welcome to the show. Today is going to be a noisy
- 0:04episode because I'm not in the audio booth.
- 0:06It's a full house, and you know, even the neighbour's kids are
- 0:08around. So I expect to hear some noise
- 0:10coming in every now and then. Today on the show, we are going
- 0:15to be exploring Chapter 3. The title of Chapter 3 is The
- 0:19Art of Elicitation. And if this is your first time
- 0:22of listening to the show, what we're doing is we're exploring
- 0:25themes that occur in a book that was written by Jeremy Hurowitz.
- 0:30And it was written on August, well, published August 27th, I
- 0:35think, 2024, last year. It's a brand new book.
- 0:39So one of my schoolmates who is a lawyer who handles the
- 0:45practice of divorce and things like that, family law,
- 0:49basically, he's the one that put it up.
- 0:50And I thought it would be a good book to look at because Jeremy
- 0:53Hurowitz title of the book is Sell Like a Spy, the Art of
- 0:57persuasion from the world of espionage.
- 0:59The main thesis and the main idea that the author is making
- 1:03this book is that there are things that spies and diplomats
- 1:07and people in that kind of world have to do that we sales people
- 1:11also have to do as well. So if this is the first time of
- 1:15listening to the show, then skip back a couple of episodes.
- 1:17You don't have to go past more than maybe 5 or 6 because I
- 1:21think I've only been on this for about a week.
- 1:24So you'll be able to get, you'll be able to get all the gist from
- 1:29the past episodes basically. So today we're going to be
- 1:31exploring chapter 3, The art of elicitation.
- 1:35Now if you'd love to connect with me, the phone number to use
- 1:37is 08064662140. The country code is lost 234.
- 1:44For those of you who are not Nigerian, that is my WhatsApp
- 1:48number. So feel free to send me a
- 1:49WhatsApp message there. Although if you're sending a
- 1:52message to me for the first time, please don't include any
- 1:54links, photos, PDFs or something like that.
- 1:57I mean, until I know you and you know, we start flowing, I'm not
- 2:00going to click on any link. You know, safety first then.
- 2:06Oh yeah. Connect with me on socials.
- 2:07My name is Tavish Shima Ayede. I'm the host of the show.
- 2:10You find me on LinkedIn. All other profiles are currently
- 2:13being deleted, but they all have this profile that if you start
- 2:17trying to delete your profile, there's a like a 30 day wait
- 2:20period. So you might find my profile,
- 2:22but I'm not there. I'm not checking it.
- 2:24So LinkedIn only. So today, like I said, we're
- 2:29exploring Chapter 3, the art of elicitation, and the name of the
- 2:33book is Cell Like a spy, The art of persuasion from the world of
- 2:36espionage. The author is Jeremy Hurwitz.
- 2:41And let me see, Let me see. Sorry.
- 2:45Hold on. I made a couple of notes.
- 2:46I'm trying to refer. Aha.
- 2:48Yeah. So remember that since what
- 2:50we're doing is we're exploring themes in the book, This is not
- 2:53a book review. I am not reading the book.
- 2:55I'm going over line by line. I would advise you guys to read
- 2:59the book first hand for yourself instead of relying on me.
- 3:05You know, going through themes. Now some of you might wonder
- 3:08where can I find this book? Obviously you can find it on
- 3:12Amazon if sorry, excuse me if you don't have that Amazon
- 3:17money, no problem. For those of you who are in
- 3:20Lagos, if you go to Ajota New Garage, those guys, they, they
- 3:25have everything. I am not endorsing piracy.
- 3:30If I let me just stop talking right now.
- 3:31Just go to adjust our new garage.
- 3:33If it's not there, talk to one of those boys.
- 3:35I'm sure next week you'll be able to get a copy.
- 3:38Then also Oshodi, there are lots of book hawkers in Oshodi who
- 3:42can get access to those sorts of things.
- 3:43Then if you're based in Maitama, there are lots of book hawkers.
- 3:48So if you're based in Abuja, there are lots of book hawkers
- 3:50in Maitama between Federal Secretariat and Hilton Hotel.
- 3:54You know those boys, if you let them know what's up, they should
- 3:56be able to hook you up. So yeah, go buy a copy of the
- 4:00book and read. The best thing to do, the most
- 4:03ethical thing to do, the most legal thing to do, the most
- 4:07moral thing to do is to go on Amazon and buy it directly so
- 4:11that our guy Jeremy Hurwitz can get a cut of it.
- 4:15So let's look into some of the themes that are in Chapter 3.
- 4:18Oh, before we do that, I forgot the shout outs.
- 4:20So First off, I'm going to shout out Angela Mechi Princess.
- 4:25I hope I got your name right. Shout out Angela Mechi Princess
- 4:29because she's been supporting a lot of the posts on LinkedIn
- 4:31where I talk about the podcast. So thank you very much for the
- 4:35support. Then also shout out to Okaryi
- 4:38Namdi, who's a web designer and also a convener of something
- 4:42called the BSE. And the BSE is the biggest s s
- 4:46business hangout. Oh yeah, I remember this guy, I,
- 4:49I gave him my phone number. I told him I should reach out to
- 4:51me on WhatsApp 'cause I only hear about this s s business
- 4:54hangout. And the more details that I get
- 4:56Harmony share with you guys over here on the show.
- 4:59Because all I put it, you know, we all come from different
- 5:05tribes, different regions and of course, yes, we're all in love
- 5:08with one Nigeria, but we can't run away from the fact that on
- 5:11the regional basis, you know, some of us have some particular
- 5:13problems that maybe people in the rest of the country can't
- 5:16relate to. So S S you know, you guys, you
- 5:18have your problems, Middle Belt people, you know, we, we have
- 5:21our problems, which is why our particular segments of the show,
- 5:24you know, I talk about certain things related to the Middle
- 5:28Belt community. I remember that episode I made
- 5:30about how it's not your village people that are doing you
- 5:33because, you know, in my own part of the world, you know,
- 5:35they can say something like, you know, uncle this or auntie that
- 5:38or grandfather this or whatever. But because of somebody's bad
- 5:41eye, that's the reason why you're not making progress.
- 5:43And that's something that I dealt with over here.
- 5:45So it's really nice that you're having young men and women doing
- 5:50stuff, you know, addressing business challenges that might
- 5:54be particular to any region. Nigeria.
- 6:00It doesn't mean that we don't care about Nigeria as a whole.
- 6:02You know, we're just trying to clean our own house first, you
- 6:04know, before we come outside. So that's just the main idea.
- 6:07So Okarike Namdi, web designer, convener of the biggest s s
- 6:12business hangout. Thank you very much for
- 6:16listening to the show. He reached out to me on
- 6:18LinkedIn. Then also shout out to Let Me
- 6:23See. Oh, OK, there's one person I'm
- 6:26going to shout out twice. OK, we're carrying Namdi.
- 6:29What what actually happens that you know, people reach out to me
- 6:31on LinkedIn or WhatsApp while I see their comments on Spotify.
- 6:34So this is one guy who has reached out to me on both
- 6:35avenues. So OK Namdi apparently he also
- 6:40left a comment on Spotify saying that he was amazed at the sales
- 6:43tips that that are there. So thanks again for the
- 6:47compliments. Then after that, he now reached
- 6:48out to me on LinkedIn. So I didn't realize I was the
- 6:52same fellow. So those are the shout outs of
- 6:54the day. Angeli Mechi Princess, thank you
- 6:57very much for the support. Okary Namdi, thank you very much
- 7:00for the support. Keep listening.
- 7:02Also share the podcast with people who you think are going
- 7:05to derive value from the sales trips.
- 7:08And then Okary Namdi, I'm giving you my phone number, so reach
- 7:13out on WhatsApp. Let's talk about this s s
- 7:15business hangout thing. I'm curious.
- 7:16I'd like to hear what you guys are up to.
- 7:19All right, so chapter 3, the art of elicitation.
- 7:24Now let's find out what elicitation means in the 1st
- 7:26place. This is my own definition.
- 7:28Elicitation just means talk freely.
- 7:31You're trying to get somebody to talk freely.
- 7:34Now, in the particular context of espionage, we can get
- 7:38somebody to talk is either elicitation, get them to talk
- 7:41freely, or you beat the crap out of them.
- 7:43Basically, that's torture. So either talk freely or break
- 7:47your head. So those are the two options in
- 7:50this world, in the world of espionage.
- 7:52So of course it is better that you get person to talk freely to
- 7:57elicitate the information, the information.
- 8:00Because if you elicitate, if you get someone to talk freely, the
- 8:04person is going to be calm, person will be cool.
- 8:07The person should be more honest, the conversation should
- 8:10be more heartfelt versus when you tell the person that look,
- 8:13talk or else I break your head, you know, And then of course,
- 8:16there's also this thing that some people haven't realized.
- 8:20Sometimes when you tell somebody look, talk or break your head,
- 8:23the person will tell you whatever it is that you want to
- 8:26hear. Also, one reason why torture is
- 8:28not the best way to get information from people.
- 8:31So in that part of the world, to get information, you can either
- 8:36elicitate, toast the person, coax the person, let the person
- 8:40talk freely, let everything be nice, be calm, be heartfelt, or
- 8:43you can say look, talk, or I break your head.
- 8:45The option that we're going to pick is elicitation.
- 8:48Let's try and get people to talk openly, honestly, calmly,
- 8:53heartfelt, cool, no tension. If we get people to talk like
- 8:58that, then it will lead to good business and it will also lead
- 9:01to good diplomatic relations. Remember, we're talking about
- 9:06how to sell from the world of espionage.
- 9:09So of course, the book starts off from a diplomatic context.
- 9:12Now, let me give you an example. This whole thing of Donald
- 9:15Trump, our guy, our president, he's back.
- 9:18So there have been lots of comments, you know, like I
- 9:21belong to this group called, what's it called again, UKUK
- 9:28alumni, something I can't remember, but it's an initiative
- 9:31of the UK government so that every single person that has
- 9:33graduated from the United Kingdom, if you have a United
- 9:37Kingdom degree or higher degree, I can't remember from what year.
- 9:43Basically, you guys are members of this association, you know,
- 9:46trust our Niger people now. So we have a Niger water group
- 9:49and it's just a good way for networking.
- 9:51That's what they tell us. But actually the truth is, if
- 9:55you have an association of people like this networking
- 9:57together and seeming to derive benefits from it, it's also a
- 10:00good marketing opportunity because people on the outside
- 10:03will look at them and say, OK, this is them, this is our UK and
- 10:07see how their life is. And then people to also now
- 10:10start rushing to try and get to UK schools, UK degrees.
- 10:15And I think it's a really brilliant thing that the
- 10:18government of the UK is doing, you know, how they find ways to
- 10:21continually market themselves not just as a tourist
- 10:24destination, but also as an academic.
- 10:30What's that word? I think it's called
- 10:32transnational education. So as a transnational education
- 10:36destination as well. And they end up making lots and
- 10:38lots and lots and lots of money because I don't know how much it
- 10:41is education is right now. But I think back when I was in
- 10:45uni, I think for my master's, I can't remember Sharp.
- 10:50I don't think it was up to maybe like 3000 lbs or something like
- 10:53that. I can't remember 1003 thousand.
- 10:56I can't remember anyway. But I'm sure now it's really,
- 10:58really plenty of money because I was talking one of my, it's
- 11:02already my uncle Sharp. But you know how Niger is,
- 11:03everybody's your uncle or your auntie.
- 11:05And I was trying to send his son to Canada and he said he needed
- 11:10like $7000. And I was shocked as, ah, $7000
- 11:16now things become that expensive.
- 11:17And then, you know, he laughed. He said no, that 7000 is not
- 11:19everything. No, that 7000 is just one year.
- 11:23I said, hey, OK, now anyway, what was that?
- 11:29So I was talking about elicitation now, talking people
- 11:31to talk, getting people to talk in an honest, open and heartfelt
- 11:34manner. And OK, from there I went to
- 11:37Donald Trump. Now the reason why I'm talking
- 11:39about Donald Trump now is because in this my water group
- 11:42that I am now Alumni UK, some people are saying that Donald
- 11:46Trump, he hates Africa, he hates Nigerians, blah, blah, blah, he
- 11:49hates immigrants. If Donald Trump enters this is
- 11:51this one thing, one thing, one thing, you know, all the things
- 11:54that people say. So let's go back to the example
- 11:57that I've been given. Now, if you have now been
- 11:59elevated to the level of ambassador and your ambassador
- 12:03to America, you're posting this Washington DC, go and give
- 12:06thanks and go and glorify the Lord because you have been
- 12:09exalted. You have been exalted over your
- 12:13people in the same cater who work in NTA or NOA or who work
- 12:17in Ministry of Education because you know, they're still being
- 12:21paid in naira and their crap, their salary is crap.
- 12:24You are now being paid, you know, on another level, you
- 12:26know, dollars Ester code, you know this and this that and
- 12:29that, housing allowance, travel allowance, driver allowance, all
- 12:35kinds of things. So go and give thanks and pay
- 12:37your tithes because yes, you have been elevated.
- 12:39Definitely you're also better than those people that have been
- 12:41sent to Yugoslavia or Latvia or Afghanistan.
- 12:46So go and give thanks. Then after you give thanks now
- 12:49and you don't settle down in Washington, DC, you don't have
- 12:52to think, OK, now that I'm here as a diplomat, as ambassador,
- 12:57I'm supposed to be getting some kind information.
- 12:59I need to know what's up, what's up with America, what's up with
- 13:02Donald Trump? What are America's priorities?
- 13:05What are Donald Trump's priorities on the global scale
- 13:07and especially as relates to the African content and to Niger in
- 13:10particular? I need to know what's up.
- 13:12Now, for those of you who have been here and who listened to us
- 13:15when we talked about Chapter 2 and Chapter 1, we also know that
- 13:18you're going to be doing information gathering, building
- 13:20relationships, all those sorts of things.
- 13:22So as ambassador now, you have to be talking to people
- 13:25one-on-one. And the only way to find out
- 13:27what Donald Trump is really feeling is if you do
- 13:30elicitation. Get people to talk freely, get
- 13:33them to talk calmly, get them to talk openly, honestly,
- 13:37heartfelt, everything nice and mellow.
- 13:39It is then you'll be able to know whether Donald Trump truly
- 13:42hates Nigerians and he wants all immigrants out.
- 13:45That way you'll be able to advise team war.
- 13:47You'll be able to call Chenabu and say I would Chenabu that is
- 13:50fire on the mountain Trump has entered.
- 13:53And based on my conversations, this is what Trump is saying.
- 13:55Trump is saying this, Trump is saying that Chenabu, we're in
- 13:57trouble. Prepare.
- 13:59So that's why I'm going to be able to get the truth.
- 14:02Oh, by the way, I saw Donald Trump on the documentary and I
- 14:05thought was really quite interesting.
- 14:07His whole point of view on immigrants anyway, this is the
- 14:10first time I've seen him talk about it.
- 14:12All other times I hear about this whole immigrant thing,
- 14:14there's always them say them say, but I'm just telling you
- 14:16the one that me I saw for myself.
- 14:18So Donald Trump was caught in an interview saying that that they
- 14:24need to have a change to the what's called immigration policy
- 14:27and blah, blah, blah. And he was saying that people
- 14:29who come into the United States for a degree, you know, whether
- 14:34A2 year degree or a master's program or something like that,
- 14:36should be able to have the benefit of remaining in the
- 14:40country legally. And what he was saying was that
- 14:43people who come through master's degrees and higher education and
- 14:46stuff like that are higher quality immigrants who come with
- 14:50a particular set of skills. And when we chase them away,
- 14:55they come here, they take the United States education and then
- 14:58run back home. And then the other countries get
- 15:00the benefit of the education. So that's what he was saying.
- 15:04So listening to that clip is beginning to look to me as if
- 15:09it's not as if Donald Trump hits Nigerians is meant to look at me
- 15:12as if Donald Trump prefers high quality immigrants in quote.
- 15:17So people who are coming for master's degree, you know, for
- 15:20this, you know, for stuff like that, let those people remain
- 15:22because they're high quality. So it looks that Donald Trump
- 15:25and this girl, the head of the Conservative Party, this
- 15:28Nigerian girl can't remember her name anyway, Oh, big UPS.
- 15:31Congratulations to how that she got become the head of the
- 15:33Conservative Party as a Niger chick, as in I'm impressed.
- 15:36You know, keep doing your thing, sister.
- 15:38I understand. Keep doing your thing.
- 15:40So it looks like both of them are on the same page when it
- 15:43comes to these sorts of things. You know how she she talks about
- 15:46is it chemi something something, you know, she talks about how
- 15:49most of the Nigerian immigrants to the UK go there and just be
- 15:52cleaning and to be wiping Bom Bom and stuff like that.
- 15:56So it looks like Donald Trump and Kemi, I think this can be
- 15:59banquet. I can't remember her name.
- 16:01So those are Donald Trump and Kemi.
- 16:02They're both on the same page. What they want is high quality
- 16:05immigrants, people who are coming in for master's, you
- 16:09know, higher education programs, you know, stuff like that.
- 16:11Smart people, people who are going to come and gain degrees
- 16:17or whatever, remain within the system and then contribute
- 16:21positively to the development of society.
- 16:24So it looks like this is not the quality of immigrants that they
- 16:26are looking for. I kind of fault their reasoning
- 16:30because it's not everybody who comes to wipe Bom Bom doesn't
- 16:33necessarily mean they're not a good quality immigrant.
- 16:35Because let's face it, people are trying to escape from Niger
- 16:37and there's some people who have lots of skills here who want to
- 16:40leave by all means, who will take any kind of job, even if
- 16:43it's care work and wiping Bom Bom in the hope that from wiping
- 16:46bom Bom they'll be able to trans, not translate.
- 16:50What's the world trans? I can't remember.
- 16:53Move trans what? Move to an admin job and to a
- 16:58higher paying opportunity. But so where was I?
- 17:02And I was just trying to say that, you know, all these people
- 17:05who are sending messages on what's our group?
- 17:06Donald Trump hates Nigeria, he hates Nigerians, hates
- 17:08immigrants. You know, maybe it's not exactly
- 17:10the case. So where was I?
- 17:15So as a diplomat now, they now send you to Washington, DC.
- 17:17Your goal is to find out, does Donald Trump hate Nigerians?
- 17:20Does Donald Trump hate immigrants?
- 17:22This is how you're going to find out.
- 17:23You're going to find out what's up by elicitation.
- 17:26You get people to talk freely. You get them to be honest.
- 17:28You get there to be cool. You get them to be calm.
- 17:31It is from there. Talking to people in Washington,
- 17:33DC, talking to, I don't know, legislators, other people in the
- 17:36diplomatic corps, maybe even if you get to meet Donald Trump
- 17:39himself. And you guys just, you know, you
- 17:43guys break it off, you know, you just chill.
- 17:45Maybe you bring Hennessy and you know, you and Donald Trump are
- 17:48just sipping casual and just talking.
- 17:49Then, you know, elicitate. That's how you get the guy to
- 17:53talk his mind and you know where he's coming from.
- 17:54So you now know whether to call or gotten able to say tenable,
- 17:58we're in trouble. Trump hates Niger or to say or
- 18:01got tunable. All is well, Trump loves Niger.
- 18:04So elicitation, now, what does all this have to do in the
- 18:08business context? Because thing is, you and me,
- 18:12chances of us meeting Donald Trump are slim.
- 18:15By the way, if you have Tinaboo's phone number and
- 18:16Tinaboo's looking for a new ambassador and they want to
- 18:20change the ambassador to the UK, you know, if Tinaboo is your
- 18:24guy, just give him my phone number, let him call me.
- 18:26You know, I'm educated and I'm young, I'm bright.
- 18:28I can go to the UK, hook you guys up and make sure that
- 18:33Nigeria's a business interest, cultural interests, you know
- 18:37that our bilateral interests basically are taken care of, you
- 18:39know are capable for the job. So if you know Tin Abou, just
- 18:41give him my phone number. Let's say you can hook me up in
- 18:45this cabinet so I can help Nigeria be great again.
- 18:49So business elicitation now. So we're not diplomats, we don't
- 18:52know Tin Abou, we don't know Donald Trump.
- 18:54So what does all this talk about elicitation have to do with us?
- 18:56It's very simple. When we are talking to potential
- 19:01customers, potential clients in business, we also have to do
- 19:03some kind of elicitation, which is the reason why I keep telling
- 19:07you, people who like to do proposal, customer will say, are
- 19:10you available? How much?
- 19:11You now say, give me your e-mail address, I'll send you proposal.
- 19:13That's too fast. Calm down.
- 19:15Proposal is the last thing. Proposal is not the first thing.
- 19:18Stop starting. No, OK, no, that's wrong.
- 19:22Don't start your sales process by issuing proposals.
- 19:26So you have to do some carrying elicitation first.
- 19:30And remember, elicitation is about let the person be cool,
- 19:33let the person be calm, let the person talk freely, let the
- 19:36person be honest, let the person speak his mind from his chest.
- 19:39Let's have a heartfelt conversation.
- 19:41The reason why we're trying to do that is because we need some
- 19:44information. And until I get that
- 19:47information, I can't give you a quote that is reliable.
- 19:51And I can't even give you a proposal or a quote that might
- 19:55even adequately address your problem.
- 19:59So you need to get the person to be calm.
- 20:00I need to. Elicitate.
- 20:03Get them to talk about the problem that they have.
- 20:05When did this problem start? How is this problem affecting
- 20:08them? Have they tried any solutions
- 20:11before? What are they even trying to
- 20:13achieve in the 1st place? What time frame do they have in
- 20:16mind? Is this even a problem that is
- 20:19worth fixing? Because sometimes there's some
- 20:21people that have problems, but it's not a problem that is worth
- 20:24fixing. For instance, my car, the window
- 20:29on the passenger side, the thing stopped working.
- 20:32My mom's has been asking me why will you fix it?
- 20:34And I'm like mommy, I beg, I'm not fixing that thing.
- 20:36And she's like, why? I'm like, look, the other
- 20:38windows, they work. Apart from that, my AC is tight.
- 20:41So I'm not going to fix that window.
- 20:44So yes, I have a problem. The window on the passenger side
- 20:47is not winding down. But as far as I'm concerned, I
- 20:49have better things to spend money on right now.
- 20:51I'm not going to fix that problem.
- 20:54So any time I take the mechanic and my car is like Olga the
- 20:57window, I tell them, look just flashy that thing fix what I
- 21:00told you to fix and let me get out of here because I don't have
- 21:04a problem in my own mind that is worth fixing.
- 21:07Maybe if my AC stops working OK, I might now go and fix that
- 21:10window so that at least we wind it down.
- 21:12You know, breeze went out of the whole car.
- 21:14But I'm trying to get you guys to understand though, every
- 21:17single time people call you up and they say how far are you
- 21:20available? How much do you deliver to
- 21:22Sokoto? Do you deliver to Maiduguri?
- 21:24Do you deliver to Abuja? Do you deliver to Makudi?
- 21:27Sometimes people have a problem but the problem is not worth
- 21:30fixing. That is the reason why sometimes
- 21:32people are ghosting you because yes, it's a problem.
- 21:34It's just not worth fixing. Remember that and stop taking
- 21:38all these things personal that somebody ghosted you.
- 21:40It's not always about you. Then even after I figure out if
- 21:43they have a problem that is worth fixing, you also need to
- 21:45try and figure out whether they have a a budget, a range in
- 21:51mind. Because if you're talking to
- 21:53somebody, and this is what I used to tell wedding
- 21:55photographers and wedding planners back when I still was a
- 21:59trainer in that market, if you're a wedding planner and the
- 22:05average wedding that you plan, the budget is like 7M, OK, no
- 22:10times have changed. I'm sure weddings are much more
- 22:12expensive now because I'm surprised if wedding hall in
- 22:15Abuja now, the hall alone, I'm surprised if all alone has
- 22:18entered like 2-3 M. So if the hall alone is like 3
- 22:21MI, don't think you can do the wedding for seven M OK, let me
- 22:27just leave it at 7 MI. Don't know how much it costs to
- 22:30plan weddings these days. So if you're a wedding planner
- 22:32in Abuja or in Lagos and the average wedding that you plan
- 22:36costs seven M, if you are talking to somebody who is a 2.5
- 22:41M client, it doesn't matter how much grammar you speak.
- 22:45The gap between 2.5 M and seven M is huge.
- 22:51You can't bridge that gap. You need to know from the
- 22:54beginning which kind of person am I talking to?
- 22:56Am I talking to a 2.53 M kind of person?
- 23:01Am I talking to A7 M person or am I talking to A20M kind of
- 23:05person? Because if you're talking to
- 23:08A20M kind of person, what do you have in mind is 7 M the person
- 23:12might be looking at your housing.
- 23:13This guy, she's sheep. This guy is cheap.
- 23:16They don't know what they're doing.
- 23:18You know, too low class. Not the person for me.
- 23:21So we actually need to have these conversations around
- 23:22budget so you know who it is that you're talking to.
- 23:24So you will take dressing accordingly.
- 23:27The way or the kind of proposal that you make to the 20 M person
- 23:31is different from the proposal you make to the seven M person,
- 23:34and it's different from the proposal they need that you make
- 23:36to the 2.5 M person. But you need to know who you're
- 23:40dealing with, which is why this is not the only way to deal with
- 23:45price, by the way, but is the reason why in the beginning, I
- 23:47recommend this whole thing of giving A-frame of reference,
- 23:50giving a budget, this whole thing of saying that all the
- 23:52clients that I typically deal with happens.
- 23:54Clients I typically deal with spend anything between 7,000,000
- 23:58and, you know, 12.5 on a wedding.
- 24:02How does that sound to you? Yeah.
- 24:05Does that match your budget range?
- 24:08Are we in the same ballpark? Is that the kind of thing that
- 24:10you're looking for? What are your expectations are
- 24:13concerning budget? You know, you just have that
- 24:16sort of kind of concentrate question so that if somebody
- 24:19hears 7.5 to 12 million persons says 7.5, how you now know that?
- 24:26OK, this thing is, we're probably not going to meet, but
- 24:30if you have someone that says 7.5 to 12, I will tell you the
- 24:34exact budget. But it sounds OK.
- 24:36It sounds just about right, you know that.
- 24:38OK, this one, there's room. It might be realistic here.
- 24:43So in a business context, elicitation, these are the sorts
- 24:46of things you're trying to figure out.
- 24:47What's the problem? What's the vision?
- 24:49How long have you guys been planning?
- 24:50How's it affecting people? What is the previous solution
- 24:52you've tried before? You know, stuff like that is the
- 24:58problem worth fixing 'cause I've had to tell some wedding
- 25:03planners before. Everybody tells you that, oh,
- 25:06Marty is planning it. I say your auntie, Are you sure?
- 25:10She's. I know.
- 25:10Yeah. My auntie.
- 25:11Now my auntie has like 6 sisters, so they're covered.
- 25:14That kind of babe. As far as she's concerned, she
- 25:16doesn't have a problem. You can keep trying to toast
- 25:18out, but it's going to be hard 'cause as far as she's
- 25:20concerned, her aunties are Amazons and they're capable.
- 25:23So they don't need a wedding planner.
- 25:24By the way, let me move off of this whole wedding planning
- 25:27example now because not everybody listening to the show
- 25:30right now has a previous background in events like I do.
- 25:36So let me just use, let me see. OK, So the last case study that
- 25:42we did over here on the podcast, if I remember correctly, before
- 25:44we started talking about diplomats and Washington, DC and
- 25:48Afghanistan was interior decor. Yes, yes, yes, interior decor.
- 25:54The guy in Lagos now we had a strategy session with, I didn't
- 25:57use his real name. I think I called remember
- 25:59calling him Jackie Chan in the episode.
- 26:02So let's use Jackie Chan if this is your first time listening to
- 26:05the show. Sometimes I use people's real
- 26:07names because I have the permission.
- 26:08If I don't have the permission, I just come up with a name on
- 26:11the fly. No particular reason.
- 26:13So yeah, I just call this guy Jackie Chan.
- 26:15So Jackie Chan is the interior decor space and he's based in
- 26:18Lagos. Then there was one time that he
- 26:22was talking to a prospective customer who is a business owner
- 26:25in Lag. He ended up doing business with
- 26:27the person and the person. The ceiling of his business was
- 26:34ordinary ceiling. And then later on they put
- 26:37linoleum, I think it's called linoleum or something like that.
- 26:40That's the, you know, ordinary ceiling is how do I describe it
- 26:43now? OK, So for those of us who grew
- 26:47up late 70s, early 80s, back then we didn't have POP in
- 26:51Niger. What we had was regular ceiling.
- 26:53It was kind of like ceramic. So like if you're playing with
- 26:56your football inside the house and you kick it and I think it's
- 26:58the ceiling, the ceiling will just crack.
- 27:01And then you know that, OK, when daddy comes home, you're in
- 27:03trouble because he's going to beat the hell out of you because
- 27:06you destroyed the ceiling. So that was stage 1 ceramic.
- 27:13We used to have ceramic, very ugly Gray looking kind of thing.
- 27:17Then Step 2 was, I think it's called linoleum.
- 27:20I can't remember. Shaw Boys like plastic and it
- 27:22looks like it has lines on it, but The thing is plastic.
- 27:24So you're playing football inside the house, you know your
- 27:27brothers, and you kick it and the thing hits the ceiling.
- 27:28Thing will just make boom, but the thing won't crack because
- 27:32it's plastic. So if your father comes home, he
- 27:34won't beat the hell out of you because there's no hole in the
- 27:37ceiling. So this guy started off with
- 27:41ordinary ceiling and then later on they did linoleum and now the
- 27:45guy called up Jackie Chan because he wants to do POP.
- 27:49Do you do POP? How much are you available,
- 27:52blah, blah, blah. Now what Jackie Chan did was a
- 27:54normal thing that yes, we do POP.
- 27:55It is 12,000 naira per square meter.
- 27:58Something, something, something, any answer?
- 27:59He ended up getting the deal, but this is the better way that
- 28:02you're supposed to do this thing.
- 28:03Now, if you're in this kind of business, you do interrupt the
- 28:07call, somebody calls you do you do POP, how much are you
- 28:10available for? You know, so, so, so how so did
- 28:15the way you handle it is remember we're talking about now
- 28:18we are talking about elicitation.
- 28:21We're trying to get some information.
- 28:23We're trying to get people to talk freely.
- 28:25We're trying to get people to have an honest, heartfelt
- 28:28conversation about the problem. The reason why is if somebody
- 28:32says, are you available? So, so, so, so I say, look, it's
- 28:35just 12,000 air per square meter.
- 28:38You well, you know, you getting the job just 5050.
- 28:42He will note it down the amount call another person, whoever is
- 28:46cheapest will call with that person.
- 28:47You will not have the honest conversation with that person.
- 28:49We're trying to get to have a chance to have a conversation
- 28:51with the person first because the distinguishing factor is you
- 28:56as far as the customer is concerned, POP in our POP.
- 29:00Of course, you the profession. I know that some POP is
- 29:02different, but the distinguishing factor is you and
- 29:05you need to get the person to see that your distinguishing
- 29:08factor. So we need to be able to have a
- 29:10conversation with the problem. Now, this guy is a business
- 29:12owner. So if a business owner wants to
- 29:15change, has tried changing from ordinary ceramic to linoleum,
- 29:20that plastic thing, and now he wants POP because POP is modern
- 29:25or classy or high, you know, high class or sophisticated or
- 29:28whatever. You need to have the
- 29:29conversation now. OK, you've been using the
- 29:32linoleum linoleum for three years.
- 29:34You know, why are you changing now?
- 29:35I mean, how's, how's it, how's it been affecting you or has it
- 29:39been affecting your customers? He needs to have that
- 29:40conversation now. Why now conversation?
- 29:43He's been working for three years.
- 29:44Why are you changing? So, you know, from there he
- 29:50might start talking about how that this is the kind of
- 29:52business he wants to build. This is what he's trying to
- 29:54project. But this linoleum now the thing
- 29:56looks cheap. Now people are saying that his
- 29:58business is local and he's trying to step up in 2025.
- 30:01So that's the reason why he wants to arrange everything.
- 30:03Now. You need to have that
- 30:04conversation. You now know the problem that he
- 30:07has the visualities that he's working towards, you know, so he
- 30:12started over ordinary this thing, he moved to linoleum.
- 30:15He now has to do POP. Why we need to know.
- 30:18You also need to have conversations around the time
- 30:21frames. The person is saying that he
- 30:25wants to, you know, step into 2025 with this.
- 30:27You also need to know why, OK, Like why exactly?
- 30:31Like is it that after you do this thing, you're going to do
- 30:33launch party or there's going to be office blessing or something
- 30:36like that? Is there some event that we're
- 30:38heading towards? We need no time frames so that
- 30:41we know how we arrange ourselves.
- 30:43And then they also give us a sense of whether this person has
- 30:45any sense of urgency. These are the things that help
- 30:48us to close the sale. If somebody has said that this
- 30:51thing must happen by January 2025 and you guys are talking in
- 30:54November, you now know that, OK, this is a serious person.
- 30:57This is one of those deals that you can follow up close.
- 31:00Mark the guy, you're talking to someone and it sounded like this
- 31:05is a good thing. I would like to do it, but maybe
- 31:08it depends, Maybe I don't know. But this, but that you now know
- 31:14that, OK, there's no urgency behind this thing.
- 31:16Maybe this is not the kind of person that you close.
- 31:18You spend your time just close marking because he's a maybe
- 31:22here, maybe there, maybe this, maybe no.
- 31:25But you're talking to somebody. It's November.
- 31:27The person is saying January 2025.
- 31:29This thing must be done good candidate to invest time in and
- 31:34to vest money in trying to chase and trying to close this deal.
- 31:37Then you also need to elicitate to try and figure out what kind
- 31:41of POP do you like self, what style?
- 31:44Oh, by the way, I'm not involved in this business so I know
- 31:47absolutely nothing about POP. But I've noticed that there are
- 31:51some designs because like while my father was alive and because
- 31:54my father did sold cement and did a bit of building and stuff
- 31:57like that. So I've seen POP work done
- 31:59before. So I know that the old school
- 32:01POP was very on it, you know, do lots of designs.
- 32:05You know, you see flowers, you see maybe like waves and things
- 32:08like that. It's just design your your
- 32:12living room then in the middle of the living room to have one
- 32:15kind of intricate design. And then that's where you now
- 32:18put your ceiling fan. So that's how POP used to be.
- 32:22But now with these modern houses, I've noticed that POP is
- 32:25looking different. You know, you drop some places,
- 32:29you will indent some places, then in the place where you
- 32:32indent them, you now go and hide lights there with different
- 32:34colors. So when you now switch on the
- 32:36lights, bam, some parts of the POP will have a like orange
- 32:42tint, some parts will have a blue tint, some parts will have
- 32:45a green tint as a real fantastic stuff, real fancy the light of
- 32:49the house real nice. So POP game has changed.
- 32:52People are doing all kinds of things nowadays when he's have
- 32:54that conversation with the person.
- 32:56So the organ when you say POP, you know, like, what are we
- 32:59looking at? That's the part where you bring
- 33:00out your phone or you bring out your book, you bring out your
- 33:02iPad or you bring out your drawings to show him.
- 33:05Oh, OK, Olga, when people started doing POP in the 80s in
- 33:09Nigeria, these were the designs. Is it this kind of thing you're
- 33:11looking at? I'll be is it this modern thing
- 33:13you're looking at that will do it like this will indent this
- 33:15place and OK, your brown colors are red, orange and green.
- 33:19So we'll now indent the edges with red, with orange and green
- 33:23so that when your customers come in and they see this POP in the
- 33:27ceiling and then they put on the light bap, you see your brown
- 33:30colors, you know, just wow them. So organ, what is it that you
- 33:32have in mind? And you have that conversation.
- 33:35See, all this is elicitation. You're having conversations.
- 33:38You're trying to tease out information.
- 33:40We need to know what it is the person has in mind, what they're
- 33:44trying to work towards. As we know the information in
- 33:47our head, we're now beginning to arrange ourselves and oh, OK, so
- 33:50it's going to be a modern job. I'm going to need this kind of
- 33:52material, this kind of material, this kind of light bulb, this
- 33:54kind of, this is kind of that you now start calculating
- 33:57everything in your head because eventually we're going to get to
- 34:01the budget conversation. And this is how I recommend it
- 34:05for now. In the beginning, give a range,
- 34:09don't give an exact figure. So Olga, based on the ideas that
- 34:12we're saying so far with the ideas that we're talking, this
- 34:15job can be anything between like that kind 800K and maybe 1.2 and
- 34:22then you get some feedback. Is that the kind of money that
- 34:26you're willing to invest? Is that within your budget
- 34:29range, Bros, how you see them, You know, however it is that you
- 34:33speak, use your own whatever, but give the range, get some
- 34:37feedback and then hear what it is that the person has to say
- 34:41based on what the person says. That is how you will now go and
- 34:44make the tailored proposal. If the person says well it's OK,
- 34:52but you go, you give me discount shop, you give me discount shop,
- 34:56but it's OK, you know, OK, no problem.
- 34:59You now can sit down and come up with a Taylor proposal based on
- 35:04some ideas. And maybe the proposal come up
- 35:06to is, I don't know, 995K. But to be on the safe side,
- 35:11since he's saying you will price, you will price just
- 35:13making one M so that by the time he prices down, maybe you guys
- 35:15end up at 900 K or something like that.
- 35:17You don't lose too much. So he's after that you're not
- 35:20going to be able to give a tailored specific proposal.
- 35:24And that is the stage where you have drawn up one particular
- 35:27idea that you're going to do Nokia, we're going to do
- 35:29ceramic. It's going to be a new design.
- 35:32We're going to cover X number of square meters.
- 35:36We'll do indent here, we'll do indent there, and we'll have
- 35:40three accent Bob here, 4 accent Bob here, and blah, blah, blah.
- 35:43They now give the guide proposal.
- 35:46Then the next step is after I give the proposal, you now try
- 35:51to close. Closing just means get the
- 35:53person to take the next step. For people in this sort of
- 35:57industry and also people who are in events, the technique that I,
- 36:02or the tactic I like to recommend is basically just
- 36:05breakdown what the next steps need to be and then ask the
- 36:09person if they're good to go. So in this case you say, OK,
- 36:11Olga, you say we have to enter 2025 on a high note for that to
- 36:16happen. This work, we must finish this
- 36:18work by December 23rd. If we're going to finish this
- 36:22work by December 23rd, we have to work for two weeks.
- 36:25So that means this work, we have to start this work December 9th,
- 36:29December 9th. Now if we're going to start this
- 36:32work December 9th, I need one week to be able to buy all these
- 36:35materials because this POP, this indent, these glasses, this, I
- 36:40have to buy it from Lagos, I have to send it from Unisha.
- 36:43So I need one week. So where that means that
- 36:45actually I need to place order for the materials by December
- 36:472nd. And Olga, you know today's data,
- 36:52this is already November 3rd. So the money must enter my
- 36:55account at least one week before now at least that kind 25th
- 36:58November, the money must be in my account so I can place the
- 37:01order. If we missed this November 25
- 37:04orga, I can't guarantee that we'll step into this 2025 on a
- 37:08high note. I can't guarantee it.
- 37:09So this money gas being in my account by N25 and then you ask
- 37:15is that something you can do? Can you raise 400K deposit by
- 37:20then or got the ball is in your cartoon.
- 37:24So it's up to you, Bros. Now you send the bar.
- 37:27Oh, by the way, somebody has used that one on me before.
- 37:29I made the podcast episode only because I thought it was really,
- 37:31really cool. This is just to show you guys
- 37:33that going for the clothes, it doesn't have to be all formal
- 37:36and stuffy and everything. Even something as simple as air
- 37:38Bros. When you go send the bar, that's
- 37:41enough to get the ball rolling. So yeah.
- 37:46So in this case, you can see how you ask for the commitment
- 37:48because this is something that has a fixed deadline.
- 37:51In this case, wedding people, event people you know already
- 37:53has a fixed deadline. So if you just walk all the way
- 37:56backwards and say, Olga, this is all Madam.
- 37:58This is what is involved. So when are you comfortable for
- 38:01us to start? Or can you raise the 400 K
- 38:04deposit by then or blah, blah, blah.
- 38:06That's a nice way to get things going.
- 38:07And then you can now put the thing in your follow up queue so
- 38:12that you'll be following up the person or follow through, as I
- 38:14like to say, call the person to know how far and you know, stuff
- 38:18like that. Just keep things online, keep
- 38:21things going. But bottom line, the reason why
- 38:25we worry about elicitation, and I hope you guys are paying
- 38:27attention, especially those of you who like to start with
- 38:30proposal, somebody will say, are you available?
- 38:33Are you free? How much you say, well, let me
- 38:35send you a proposal. What's your WhatsApp number?
- 38:38Elicitation is what helps close deals, getting people to talk
- 38:43freely, smoothly, calmly, their full chest, everybody nice and
- 38:49cool. That is what closes deals.
- 38:52If somebody calls you and says are you available and say OK,
- 38:54let me send you a price list or let me send you a proposal.
- 38:57The possibility of closing the deal is 50505050 is not bad, but
- 39:03let us try and increase the odds in our favour.
- 39:06Elicitation really, really important.
- 39:09This is your first time listening to the show.
- 39:12You might have to go back and listen to the show over again
- 39:14just to get the spirit of what it is.
- 39:15I'm saying is by having open, honest friend conversations with
- 39:21people, elicitation information. That is where we get all the
- 39:24information that we need to be able to close the deal.
- 39:26And that's how we're going to be able to progress thing one step
- 39:29at a time. And in case you haven't figured
- 39:31out all these things that I've been saying, why do you want the
- 39:34this thing? Why do you want it now?
- 39:35Has been affecting your customers, blah, blah, blah
- 39:37blah. In case I haven't noticed, this
- 39:40is not the kind of conversation that you have in just one
- 39:42sitting. So those of you who are trying
- 39:45to close the deal on the spot, somebody contact you today or
- 39:48trying to close it today. You know, calm down, illustrate
- 39:50some things, have a couple of conversations, try and move
- 39:53things from one step to another step to another step.
- 39:55Give yourself time to close the deal.
- 39:58If it's a very, very simple something like you sell, I buy
- 40:01more and that's different. You close the deal in one spot.
- 40:04The businesses want to buy. I buy more.
- 40:06OK, how much? I buy more.
- 40:07Do you want to buy? And then you give the person.
- 40:10But if the person wants a distillery, for instance, and
- 40:13they need Abalomo to as part of the raw material in their
- 40:17distillery, that's a different conversation.
- 40:20It's a complex deal. You need to ask the person, OK,
- 40:23how many tons of Abalomo do you need?
- 40:24What exactly are you produce producing?
- 40:26How does Abalomo feature into the distillation process?
- 40:31What grade of Abalomo do you need?
- 40:34At what stage of harvesting do you need the Abalomo?
- 40:37You know, things like that need to ask and in case you think I'm
- 40:41making stuff up, I'm not making stuff up.
- 40:44So one of my wife's clients brought her a hamper and inside
- 40:46was something called dollar is actually the spirit, the spirit.
- 40:53When I say spirit, I mean strong drink, 40% alcohol.
- 40:56You believe the raw material is like Baltimore and this thing is
- 40:59fantastic. Like I'm impressed.
- 41:03I'm impressed. I did not know that you can take
- 41:05a Baltimore and fermented Baltimore and use it to make
- 41:08strong drink and the thing tastes smooth, real nice, very,
- 41:14very nice. I was taking it straight, but my
- 41:16wife said no, that we can't be taking this in straight, that we
- 41:18should dilute it. So I bought Sprite and last
- 41:21night we finished like half a bottle.
- 41:23Very good stuff. Very, very good stuff.
- 41:26So for those of you who like your alcohol, there's a new
- 41:29brand in the market or The thing is called Dala DALA and it is
- 41:34fermented at Balumo and nothing is awesome.
- 41:37Give it a try. 40% alcohol. So if your husband is
- 41:41lightweight or your wife is lightweight, you know, don't
- 41:43give them or dilute it. But if you come from a family
- 41:46that drinks, you know like me, go and buy a bottle, call mumsy
- 41:50and popsy. Buy 2 bottles.
- 41:51In fact, if you come from a drinking family, two or three
- 41:54bottles, call mumsy and popsy. You sit down and then break
- 41:57bread and have yourself some nice fermented.
- 42:02So when I say like Barnum more is used in production processes.
- 42:05I'm not lying though Nigerians were going places were inventing
- 42:08things as in I'm impressed. I'm impressed.
- 42:12Nigeria the only way to go is up.
- 42:15There are people who don't want us to succeed or God punish them
- 42:18who succeed. Where was I?
- 42:21So bottom line, what I'm just trying to say is elicitation
- 42:23helps to close deals. So learn how to do elicitation.
- 42:27Now, if you read the book, the person Jeremy Hirowitz, the way
- 42:30he talks about listen tation is this that you have to engage in
- 42:33active listening because all these conversations that we're
- 42:36going to be having, you have to do active listening.
- 42:38If you want to know what active listening is just, and this is
- 42:41your first time listening to the podcast episode, just scroll
- 42:43back like one week and listen to all the episodes.
- 42:46I've already done an episode on active listening, especially as
- 42:49it relates to themes in this guy's book.
- 42:52He also says that conversations have to be open-ended.
- 42:54I've already done a podcast episode on how conversations
- 42:57should be open-ended just within the last week.
- 42:59So this is your first time just, you know, scroll back, skip
- 43:02back, you listen to that episode.
- 43:05Then he also said that we also need to engage in rapport
- 43:10building to do elicitation. And then of course, we have to
- 43:12do rapport building because how is somebody going to talk free
- 43:15about their business, about their problems if you guys won't
- 43:17establish rapport now? I think the rapport building
- 43:20episode was the very last episode before this one.
- 43:23So this your first time listening to the podcast.
- 43:25Skip back and listen to that episode and you know what it is
- 43:28that we're talking about. Now he also says we should do
- 43:31something. No, but I'm going to give you
- 43:33guys a strong warning here because this thing can backfire.
- 43:37He said we should do mirroring. Now, mirror as in mirror, you
- 43:41know when you're looking at your face.
- 43:43So mirroring. The reason why this thing can
- 43:47backfire is because when most people nowadays say mirroring,
- 43:50what they mean is copycat. If the person is using slang,
- 43:53copy the slang. If the person is standing up,
- 43:57stand. If the person is sitting down,
- 43:58sit. If the person leans to the left,
- 44:00usually you lean to the left, the person leads to the right,
- 44:02you lean to the right. If the person laughs like this,
- 44:05ha ha, ha, ha, ha, you laugh like that, ha ha, ha, ha, ha.
- 44:09That can cause problems because if you're trying to mirror and
- 44:12what you're ending up doing is copycatting, it ends up feeling
- 44:15weird and the thing freaks people out, freaks people out.
- 44:21You're trying to build rapport, but if you're copycatting, you
- 44:23will freak the other person out. And I said, now what's wrong
- 44:26with this guy? Is he mad or he's just in
- 44:30genuine or or what? So when you hear mirroring, if
- 44:34you're going to do copycatting, please don't do that or the
- 44:37thing will backfire. However, the idea or the concern
- 44:43behind mirroring is this now we're all different.
- 44:45So we need to match people, match their pace, match their
- 44:49demeanor, match their speed, match their cadence, match their
- 44:51body language. If that's what you're trying to
- 44:53do, no problem. So if the person laughs, ho ho
- 44:58ho, ho, ho ho, in my opinion, this is not the time to laugh ho
- 45:01ho ho, ho ho. If the way you laugh is Kiki,
- 45:04Kiki, Kiki, then no problem. The person has cracked a joke
- 45:09and the person is laughing. You might laugh, but you can
- 45:11laugh your own way. The most important thing is that
- 45:14you know there's humor now and you're trying to match the mood
- 45:17of what is going on. So the person can be laughing
- 45:19ho, ho, ho, ho ho and you can be laughing Kiki, Kiki Kiki.
- 45:24I don't laugh in public. I don't know why I just, you
- 45:28know, smile and hold my sides. So if you're that kind of person
- 45:32to who you don't even you don't have an outside laugh, then
- 45:35well, I have an outside laugh, but that's from my wife and my
- 45:37kids. So if you don't have an outside
- 45:39laugh, then, you know, do your thing, you know, smile and hold
- 45:41your sides and walk back and forth, you know, But The thing
- 45:45is we're trying to match the demeanor, the pace, the cadence,
- 45:48what is that is going on? But we don't have to mirror the
- 45:51person. So it's not a matter of the
- 45:54person is standing, I must stand, the person is sitting, I
- 45:56must sit, the person needs to the left, Let me lean to the
- 45:58left. If the person appears casual and
- 46:01relaxed, then you might be casual and relaxed in your own
- 46:03way. So if the guy's way of being
- 46:05casual and relaxed is they are unbutting their shirt and then
- 46:08they lean back. If in your life you will never
- 46:11ever unbutting your shirt, there's no need to unbutting
- 46:13your shirt. So if for you appearing casual
- 46:17is, I don't know, maybe you put your barrel down and you lean to
- 46:22the left, then yeah, do that. But you don't have to unbot in
- 46:25your shirt and lean back because the person unbot in the shirt
- 46:27and lean back. So please, those of you who talk
- 46:29about mirroring, who are doing mirroring, please or be careful,
- 46:33if you're doing copycat, the thing will backfire.
- 46:36In fact, there's some people who start playing games with you.
- 46:39They'll just start doing stuff to see how much it is that
- 46:42you're going to mirror. Because when you start
- 46:45copycatting, some people notice what is that is going on.
- 46:48So the author, Jeremy here, which also says we should do
- 46:51mirroring as a way of elicitation.
- 46:53But mirroring, I put it at the bottom of the list because you
- 46:56need to do it with caution. Don't become a copycat.
- 46:58The thing will backfire. So that's it.
- 47:01This is OK over 14 minutes. Let me just bring it to a close.
- 47:06So if this is your first of all, listen to the episode to the
- 47:09podcast. Please don't run away.
- 47:11Most of my podcast episodes are usually 30 minutes.
- 47:13So don't worry, it's not every episode that is going to last
- 47:16this long, you know, like 15 minutes, then let's see.
- 47:21OK, so if this is your first time listening to the show,
- 47:24we've said a lot. Listen to this episode again and
- 47:26then skip back one week. Listen to the whole series
- 47:29because I did an intro to the book.
- 47:30I did Chapter 1, I did Chapter 2, and then today's episode is
- 47:34Chapter 3. Tomorrow we're going to move on
- 47:36to Chapter 4. So that's all for today pretty
- 47:38much. Thank you very much for your
- 47:39time and attention. The phone number to reach out to
- 47:43me on is 08064662140. Again, the country code is +234.
- 47:49For those of you who are not Nigerian, that's my WhatsApp
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- 47:52Please don't send me any links. I don't know you yet.
- 47:56Let's flow first elicitation. Let us flow back and forth, get
- 47:59to know each other. Then you can start sending me
- 48:02links and whatever it is that you think we need to have a look
- 48:06at, you know, well, let's do some elicitation first.
- 48:09Hope you guys are seeing now how it works.
- 48:12So yeah, that's it. And then reach out to me on
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- 48:19I'm on LinkedIn, you can confirm the spelling of my name from
- 48:23YouTube or the link where you're listening to the show.
- 48:26So thanks for your time and attention.
- 48:27I'll catch you guys at the next recording.
- 48:30So Saturday as at this time of recording.
- 48:31So hope you guys have a wonderful Sunday tomorrow and
- 48:35yeah, I'll catch you guys then.