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Your Diet Might Be Killing Your Desire (Here's What It Means) with Jenn Trepeck · Libido Lounge

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Our sexual health is really one of those indicators of our overall health and what's
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happening inside our bodies.
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Jen Trepich has been described as a force of nature in the wellness space.
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Recognition includes podcast magazines 40 under 40 and nominations for the 2023 International
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Within Podcast Award and two Earworthy 2025 award categories as well.
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Jen has won Earworthy's 2024 best health podcast and best independent podcast award and
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Women's Who podcast stellar interview in 2025.
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She's an optimal health coach, podcaster, and business consultant.
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Jen grew up as the skinny one in the family of dieters which was awesome until it went away
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and so began her weight management saga.
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Ultimately though, Jen learned that nutrition education were all supposed to know but nobody
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taught us.
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It makes everything no big deal.
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Eat what you like, don't eat what you don't like.
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But it's really protein and fiber at every meal makes sexual desire no big deal.
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And the truth is we don't want to live in either extreme.
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I followed the program, completely changed my life, like the only thing that allowed me to
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say I can't really choose.
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Hey, everybody.
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Welcome back to another episode on The Lounge.
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We are talking today about something that we haven't talked a ton about on this podcast,
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honestly, and it and it's an important topic.
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We're talking about nutrition.
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We're talking about weight, and we're talking about how these things actually influence your
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libido.
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So we're gonna talk about what you can do to improve weight management without crazy
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dieting.
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I will ask Jen her story.
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I know she has a story here, so I'm gonna bring her up in a moment.
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We'll ask her her story about how she got to this world of understanding weight and diet and
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nutrition so well.
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So we're gonna talk about all of that and more, and as always, relate that back to how does
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this actually make a difference in your sexual wellness picture, in your libido, in your
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relationships, and more.
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So I'm very excited to introduce you to a new friend of mine, Jen Trebek.
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Welcome to the show, Jen.
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Thank you so much.
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I'm excited to be here.
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Yeah.
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Thank you.
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And and I wanna jump in, you know, right away to, like, a lot of the content I know we're
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gonna give as far as value for the audience, but I know you have a really unique story on
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your health journey, on growing up and just being like, hey, this is no problem to, you
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know, to keep weight off, and then all of a sudden it became a problem.
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And I know this is a story a lot of people are gonna relate to, and so if you would tell us
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that and then everybody, we're gonna start making some links of like, why does this matter
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for your sexual health?
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But but if you would first just tell us a little bit about your story and and what the
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saga was for you.
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Sure.
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And I appreciate that you used the word saga because I feel like the word journey doesn't do
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it justice.
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You know?
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There was drama.
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Right?
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So, you know, I came to all this wellness stuff through my own saga of trying to figure out my
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health and my weight.
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And as you mentioned, you know, I grew up a dancer and I ate healthful foods, and it wasn't
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really a thing for me, but it was in my house.
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So every fad diet under the sun in the eighties and nineties that we all grew up with, I did
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too.
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So between high school and college is when I started to gain weight.
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I stopped dancing a hundred and fifty hours a week and, you know, birth control played a
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factor in that too and a whole bunch of things.
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Going to college, all of that.
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And so when I started to gain weight, I was like, okay.
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I know what to do.
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Right?
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And I did every diet under the sun, lived on that roller coaster, gained and lost over and
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over.
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And I remember by the time I was in my early to mid twenties, I felt like I would just breathe
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and gain weight.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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And like, something doesn't make sense.
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I'm doing all the quote unquote right things and still not getting where I wanna be.
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And even it's funny.
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Even when I was introduced to the curriculum that I based my practice on, I was like, no.
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No.
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No.
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That's okay.
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I've got my thing.
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You know, my thing was the crazy roller coaster, but that's what it was.
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And I saw people who were following this other approach, and one woman in particular was
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telling her story of removing a hundred and fifty pounds and keeping it off, mind you.
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And anything she said after that, I didn't even hear because I was having a conversation with
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myself in my own head that was like, Jennifer, they know something you don't know because
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based on everything you know, that doesn't make any sense.
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And so I worked with a coach.
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I followed the program, completely changed my life, like the only thing that allowed me to
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say I'd kick my food issues.
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And from there, I sort of, I became this insatiable student of trying to understand like
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why isn't this the information that we learned?
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Because this is fundamentally human.
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And then how did all the things that we did learn come to be?
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So I became a health coach on the side of my full time job in 2007.
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Now eighteen years later, I work with clients one on one in small groups.
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As you mentioned, my podcast is called Salad with a Side of Fries.
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And my book, Uncomplicating Wellness, that recently came out in October 2025, we have a
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chapter that our sexual health is really one of those indicators of our overall health and
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what's happening inside our bodies.
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Amazing.
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I love that you included that chapter because I think it's so important.
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And you know what you're saying around your history of of these diet plans?
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I feel like this is so common.
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Right?
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I see this also in my own private practice of people that come in and they oftentimes feel
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like they're doing everything right.
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They've tried the, you know, like, whatever they read online around, this dietary plan,
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whether it's paleo, we could name a, you know, bazillion other dietary plans, and they're
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following it to a tee, and it's, like, not working.
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Like, it's very different when people are eating standard American diet and they're
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eating fast food out every day, but it's a completely frustrating thing for people when
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it's like, okay.
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Well, I think I'm choosing all the right things and still what's happening?
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So I love that you named that because I do think that comes up way more than people
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realize.
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And so, you know, let's start relating it a little bit if you would.
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Like, what do you talk about in that chapter of your book around, hey, this relationship of
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diet, of nutrition, and sexual wellness.
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Can you tell us a little bit about that?
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Absolutely.
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And I think I talk about it as an indicator of what's happening inside because everything in
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the body is connected.
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Yeah.
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It's just that most of the time, we ignore the whispers from the body that we get related to
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hunger and cravings and all of all of those other things because people have told us so
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many things.
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And we are, you know, overwhelmed with information that we follow those rules instead
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of paying attention to our body.
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However, when it comes to sexual health and libido, it gets our attention.
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And that's why I love talking about it as an indicator because it is inherently connected to
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blood flow.
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It is inherently connected to stress management.
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It is inherently connected to sleep.
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Right?
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Our hormones, all of these pieces work together.
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And so our libido is one of those whispers that we hear much clearer than other signs and
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symptoms from the body.
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So, you know, we can go down any one of those paths, but even if we think about, you know,
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for women lubrications and arousal, and for men an erection, it is blood flow.
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If we don't have metabolic health, if we don't have cardiovascular health, that blood flow is
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impaired.
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You know, when we are stressed, you know, cortisol gets a bad rap and there are pieces of
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cortisol that we really need.
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But when cortisol is high because we are stressed, you know what's not high?
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Our libido.
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So all of these pieces on a high level, all of these pieces work together, and we often think
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there's something wrong with us.
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And more often than not, whether it's the pounds on the scale or what we're seeing in our
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libido, it's a sign of something else going on in our body communicating with us.
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And so if we start to work with the biochemistry and recognize that it's
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biochemical, not a flaw in who you are as a human, we can really make some progress and
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take the pressure off and relieve some of that stress that, you know, when it's like, okay,
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take your clothes off, like that's the least of what's, you know, what our body is ready for.
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You and I share such a similarity on kind of our approach to this.
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I love it.
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Like, one of the things that I think is super important for people to realize and and to take
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the stigma out of any sexual health issues is that this is just a flag.
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Right?
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Sexual health issues are just like a flag, which means like, hey, this is your body just
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saying, hey, alert, something's out of balance, and we need to take the stigma off of it and
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just realize this is just the body communicating.
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And it could communicate a bazillion different ways and for a lot of people, a way that it
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does communicate an imbalance is through some sort of sexual health issue and it doesn't need
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to be any more than that, right?
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We need to get the taboo off and just be like, oh, wow, body's talking.
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Okay, let's listen.
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We accept Totally.
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Share that.
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And let's go into a couple of these that you mentioned.
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So metabolic health, circulation were, you know, two key ones that you you mentioned here
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that have a very clear direct relationship to sexual health.
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But let's break those down one at a time if you would.
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Can you can you talk a little bit about metabolic health and its relationship to sex
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drive and sexual wellness?
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And can you start because metabolic health is like a term that I think a lot of people know,
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but I think there's probably some people that are like, what do we mean by that?
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So will you start with what we actually mean by that and then kind of help us make those
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connections?
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Absolutely.
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So metabolic health by definition is a handful of functions that connect to how our body uses
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food and fuel.
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And that in turn connects to every system in the body.
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Because if we can't take in fuel and break that down, transport it through the body, get it
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into cells where it's needed, and use it, There isn't a system in the body that will work.
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So fundamentally, about metabolic health as that fuel uptake is how I like to think of it
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in a way so that we can all, no pun intended, but digest it.
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Right?
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One of the key factors of metabolic health is blood sugar balance.
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When we have blood sugar dysregulation or insulin insensitivity, our blood flow is
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impaired.
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Our blood can actually end up being very thick, and it doesn't move well.
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It doesn't transport nutrients well.
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It doesn't get to all the places that it needs to go.
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Well, we need that blood flow in our brains and everywhere to feel well, to have desire.
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We need it in our, you know, sexual organs, sensitivity, lubrication, arousal are all
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connected to that blood flow.
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So if we aren't able to move the blood around, if the blood is thick essentially and dense,
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it's not going to do what it needs to do for anything else.
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So when we focus on metabolic health, we're really thinking about that blood sugar balance
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and eating for nutrients.
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So how do we keep our blood sugar balanced?
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And by this, I really wanna be clear because a lot of people hear about insulin sensitivity or
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insensitivity, and they think, well, you just don't want it to be high.
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You want it to be low.
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And the truth is we don't want to live in either extreme, and a lot of people these days
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have constant glucose monitors.
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And I work with people all the time where they're like, well, it's still going up and
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down, and it's like, wait a minute.
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We want it to go up and down.
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That means it's responding to what we're eating and what's happening.
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We just want it to go up and down within a range.
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And if you don't have a constant glucose monitor, don't worry about it.
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You don't need to know the exact number to make choices that support our metabolic health, our
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overall health, and of course, our sexual health.
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So the phrase I like for everybody is protein and fiber at every meal makes removing fat no
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big deal.
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But it's really protein and fiber at every meal makes sexual desire no big deal, makes
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everything no big deal.
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So protein is clean, lean protein.
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Eat what you like, don't eat what you don't like, but clean, lean protein every time we
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eat.
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Fiber is vegetables and sometimes fruit.
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And then a meal is really every time we eat.
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The only difference between a meal and a snack is how much we're having at a time, and then
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therefore how long it's gonna last us till we need to fuel again.
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The other thing that we need a couple times a day is quality fat.
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So thinking omega threes.
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Your walnuts, your almonds, avocado, you know, are quality fats.
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By the way, a serving of avocado is half of the avocado.
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People are like, what?
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That's so much.
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Like, everybody tells me, you know, I had a quarter of a serving of a half an avocado, and
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I'm like, what?
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Like, just eat the avocado.
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We need the avocado.
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We need that quality fat for our hormones.
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We need that quality fat for our brain, for every piece, for stress, all of these things.
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So these pieces of nutrition that when we put them in place, a lot of other things start to
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take care of themselves.
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So protein, fiber, quality fat throughout the day and every time we eat.
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And I challenge you to watch and see what happens.
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Yeah.
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Thank you for that.
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And I do wanna emphasize too as you got you're talking about blood flow just for all of our
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listeners that you kinda you did mention this a little bit earlier, but there is, like, that
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direct link between blood flow and lubrication.
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So I just wanted to make sure everybody reheard that because when we're talking about this in
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blood flow and the importance and the relationship of metabolic health to blood flow,
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we're really saying, hey.
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This applies to both women and men.
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So I think there's just such a taboo out there around like, oh, blood flow is needed for men's
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sexual health that the ladies so oftentimes don't realize how important it is for them as
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well.
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I 1000%.
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And on that front too, you know, what I just talked about are sort of those macronutrients,
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and especially as we consider blood flow, micronutrients, in particular antioxidants, are
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incredibly powerful.
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So part of the fruits and vegetables also is getting those phytonutrients, those
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micronutrients, the nutrients that we need in smaller quantities, but in particular,
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antioxidants.
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Astaxanthin is one not just for it actually helps with eye health too and endurance, but
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cardiovascular health and blood flow is amazing.
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There's a doctor in New York City who wrote a book called The Hardness Factor.
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And in that book, he talks doctor Steven Lam, for those of you who know him, he talked a lot
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about OPCs or oligomeric proanthocyanins that are really powerful antioxidants that support
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blood flow.
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And the other interesting thing is for people who have higher levels of cholesterol.
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OPCs in particular can make the platelets more slippery, which supports blood flow and
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prevents or that's a strong word.
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Right?
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But can help those platelets not stick to each other or those arterial walls so that they are
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more slippery and can get through, and we see dramatic difference for men and women with
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blood flow and antioxidants.
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So that brings me to my next question then, is like, at what point with your practice are you
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emphasizing supplements versus saying, okay, well let's get these things from food?
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Like, what's your advice for people on, oh, we wanna improve cholesterol, we wanna improve
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blood flow, we want our platelets to be less sticky, all these things.
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Yeah.
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What are you saying, hey, let's get supplements on board?
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Great question.
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And it's different for every person.
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But fundamentally, we cannot supplement our way out of poor lifestyle choices, out of poor
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nutrition.
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Supplements are designed to supplement.
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By definition, they add to.
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So we wanna fundamentally, first and foremost, get those nutrients through our nutrition
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choices.
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Now with that said, we all live in the real world and the reality is also that our food
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supply is just not what it once was.
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The other piece of the equation is that most of the time, by the time somebody's coming to have
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this conversation, they don't have a fire in their toaster.
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They have a house fire.
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And by the way, even if it was a fire in the toaster and you poured a thimble of water on
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it, you would say, water doesn't put out fires.
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Right?
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But if we have a fire hose, the water becomes really powerful.
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So sometimes the supplements can play that role to help us put out the house fire that's
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currently going on, and then on an ongoing basis, we may not need that.
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But I do say to people too, you know, if we aren't willing to make those nutrition choices,
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if we aren't willing to make those lifestyle adjustments, then we might need a greater
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commitment to the supplementation in an effort to balance, but we will never out supplement
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what we do in our daily lives.
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Yeah.
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It's kinda similar to like, we will never, like, out exercise what we put in our mouth.
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Right.
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Exactly.
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Similar analogy is that.
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So let's talk about hormones now because that's another when we're talking about root causes of
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of libido issues from a physical perspective, obviously, everybody or most people, I think,
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are aware of hormones being a big factor.
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So from a standpoint of nutrition, can you help us make some of these links as far as what you
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see from nutrition and food choices and hormonal balance?
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Yeah.
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So most people, I mean, there's so many pieces.
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I'm trying to think about where to start.
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So my brain started, we had mentioned before, quality fats.
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Right?
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We need these quality fats in order to make our hormones.
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Our endocrine system requires this.
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And so the other piece of a lot of people are way out of range in the balance between omega
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sixes to omega threes.
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And that disreg you know, that imbalance snowballs into other dysregulation with our
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fat.
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So we really wanna focus on adding more omega threes to bring that back into balance so our
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body can do what it's supposed to do.
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One of the things it's supposed to do is produce these hormones.
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Now here's the other thing because this really ties into stress in a couple different ways.
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Right?
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So cortisol, the stress hormone, when cortisol is high, our, in particular, our sexual
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hormones are not high because cortisol, that stress response, like think back, you know,
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caveman era, saber tooth tiger, we are being chased.
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Cortisol is designed to save our lives.
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It is fight or flight.
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Right?
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That response is designed to be twenty minutes.
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Like start to finish, give or take, fifteen, twenty minutes.
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So we see the saber toothed tiger, we run from it, we find a place to hide, we hide, we watch
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the tiger pass, our body calms down.
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When that's when cortisol is high, when we're in fight or flight, any body system that is not
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critical to survival of the next twenty minutes turns off because none of those things matter
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if we're not alive in twenty minutes.
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So that includes not just our immune system, not just growing hair and nails, not just your
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digestive system and metabolism, but your reproductive system.
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Because making babies doesn't matter if we're not alive in twenty minutes.
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And so I think we underestimate the role that stress plays biochemically, not just in terms
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of the mood and saying, oh, this is what I feel like doing right now.
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You know, there's really so much involved in the body.
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If we're never able to turn off that stress response, trying to feel in the mood for
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anything sexual is potentially going to feel like someone asking you to climb Mount Everest
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naked and barefoot.
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And you're like, how?
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It's not possible.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I was out to lunch with a couple friends yesterday, both of who are having digestive
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issues, and one of them who is also having blood sugar issues, and I was going through
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some possible root causes with them to explore.
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And one of the things I was telling them is, this is gonna sound really cliche.
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That's what I was saying to them.
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But, honestly, we gotta talk about stress because it's exactly like, it is a cliche to
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you know, thing to say, and I just wanna name that here because I know people hear it over
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and over and over again as stress impacting you, stress is impacting you, stress is
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impacting you.
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But I think sometimes we hear that so much, and it's like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Well, there's nothing I can do about it.
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I'm just stressed.
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But I think it's, like, just essential for people to understand, like, no, there's
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actually these these chemical processes, like what you're describing here, that are actually
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impacting us on a cellular level, on a hormonal level, on a weight level, and all these
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different things.
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So you're hearing it, you know, people I think are hearing it so much because it's just like
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the elephant in the room around, like, you could fix a bazillion other things, but if
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you're not fixing the stress, it's you know, we we might not get where we need to go.
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And the other thing that I think is so complicated about it is our perception of
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stress intellectually and emotionally compared to the body's perception of stress.
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Yes.
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So, like, you remember the old posters about, like, it was it had some quote on it about
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success, and there was the picture of the iceberg and the waterline?
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Oh,
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yeah.
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Mhmm.
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Right?
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Yep.
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I think our perception of stress is that waterline.
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The actual stress is the iceberg.
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So we think that we're not so bad because our perception is just the tip of the iceberg over
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the waterline.
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Yeah.
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And the reality is that our body's perception of stress is that entire iceberg.
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So including in every single day things that chip away at that iceberg.
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Even when we don't feel like we're stressed, we need to do these things to help continue to
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send signals to the body that it is safe, that it is okay, that all of these other systems can
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come back online.
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And it's a continuous thing because our bodies don't know the difference between the email,
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the uncomfortable conversation, our phone buzzing and not, you know, for anything, and
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that saber tooth tiger that's threatening our lives.
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So then let's talk about a little bit about what we can do about it.
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So Yeah.
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I mean, you balance blood sugar, right, and and do some of the things you're talking about,
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your protein, your lean fiber, your couple fats a day.
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But what else are you recommending for people as far stress?
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I mean, think I do think there's like a huge point of it that you're right.
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It's like there is this awareness of, hey, this is actually impacting your body probably
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dramatically more than a lot of people realize, so that might be the first step is just like
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acceptance and awareness of it.
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But beyond that, beyond some of those things that you already suggested from a, you know, a
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dietary perspective, what else are you recommending people to to work with this?
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Yeah.
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I mean, we can talk about movement.
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Right?
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Now movement helps with blood flow and our cardiovascular health and that stress response.
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So think about when we are in that stress response, that saber tooth tiger is coming,
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fight or flight requires us to use that energy.
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So movement and activity can help us use that energy that the body is perceiving as that
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fight or flight.
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Another interesting thing is even our breathing.
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So think about what happens.
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So we're running, we hide, we watch the saber tooth tiger pass, and then what would happen?
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If we imagine the scenario, maybe you're watching a movie, right, and somebody's hiding
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from the bad guy, whatever.
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The bad guy passes and then what happens?
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Your breathing gets deeper.
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The breaths get longer.
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So if we can remind ourselves, set an alarm a couple times a day, whether it's what we've
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heard of as box breathing or just a couple longer deeper breaths, in through the nose, out
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through the mouth, breathing from the diaphragm, so lower down in the body versus
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breathing from the chest.
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So to do this breathing, instead of as you inhale thinking of the chest coming up or down,
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think of the ribs expanding and contracting like an accordion, and that helps us get the
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breath into the diaphragm.
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It's a physiological signal to the body that the stressor has passed.
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Great way to add it in, do it before a meal.
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Right?
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What better time to turn on rest and digest than before we eat?
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But it's also that idea of habit stacking where we can attach it to something that's hopefully
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already happening throughout the day.
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Right?
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So it just gives us a reminder, pause.
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Take a deep breath.
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You know, slow down the breath to send some of these signals to the body.
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Connection.
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Connection with your partner, connection with friends, having those conversations.
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Like, there's actually a lot of recent research about how having that vent session with your
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best friend is a de stressor.
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Do it.
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If you have that voice that's like, I don't wanna be the Debbie Downer, you're not.
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Say the things out loud.
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Get it out there.
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If you're not one to say it out loud, then figure out a journal or type the note on your
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phone that you maybe delete later or whatever it is.
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But getting all of that stuff out of the body is incredibly powerful.
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I I took Pilates years ago from a woman who's an original student of Joseph Pilates.
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I don't know if this is true, but she's, like, older than God, and so I think it's true.
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She said the phrase working out originally came from the idea that you were working the stress
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out of the body.
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So if you need a walk here and there instead of that one hour intense session, do it.
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Three minutes, five minutes, stand up and sit down 10 times.
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All of that is so incredibly powerful, and I think it's underappreciated because we hear so
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much about how if it's not intense enough, if it's not long enough, it's not sweaty enough
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for all of these things that it doesn't count.
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And so I encourage everybody to do the little things throughout the day that seem like
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nothing because they add up to something really powerful.
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Yeah.
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Tiny habits are the ways that go.
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They're totally the ones that that last for sure.
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But what else have we not had, like, said today that you think is really important in this
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conversation of nutrition, of wellness, of food, of sexual health?
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Yeah.
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I think
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and this connects to everything, but we haven't talked about sleep.
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And, you know, humans are the only species that deprive themself of sleep for no good reason.
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Like, fundamentally, we are also animals.
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You know?
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And it's interesting because similar to stress, what we think of or what we tend to experience
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on a daily basis as sleep versus what our body experiences as quality sleep are often
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dramatically different.
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So deep sleep that frankly can only happen from 11PM to 3AM is required for detoxification, is
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required for healthful aging, is required, period.
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So it means if we're going to bed at midnight 01:00, our max amount of deep sleep is limited.
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And I say this with all of the compassion and love in the world because I am with you.
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Sleep, we are all a work in progress.
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Right?
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Sleep is one that I work on all the time too.
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And all of those pieces are connected.
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Right?
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Without quality sleep, we don't have that hormone reset.
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Our libido drops.
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We cannot make enough testosterone and estrogen and progesterone, and that all the balance of
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the hormones essentially gets scrambled when we aren't getting quality sleep and enough of that
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quality sleep.
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Right?
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Our energy tanks, our mood drops, our libido follows.
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And when we think about all of those things too, like even the glass of wine that we think
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is really helping us sort of unwind and relax really impairs that sleep.
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So we just wanna make some choices again so that most of the time we're getting great
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quality sleep.
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And that also helps us make better choices throughout the day because in addition to the
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detoxification, in addition to the hormones, in addition to everything else that happens when
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we sleep, if we don't sleep well or enough, we are less sensitive to the hormones that tell us
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when we're done eating.
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And so it snowballs back into where we started with the quality nutrition choices.
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It will be infinitely more difficult to make those quality choices about anything and
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everything without that sleep.
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And it's all this biochemical soup that's happening in the body.
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It's not your fault.
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You're not broken.
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And in fact, what you're experiencing is the body doing exactly what it's supposed to do.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Thank you for that.
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I think it's such an important thing for people to hear because I think so much we are judging
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sleep by hours, and they're like, okay.
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Oh, I got six, seven hours.
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It's gotta be good enough, and and it's not.
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And it's not just the the amount.
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It's the quality.
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I, like, I see you have your aura ring on just like me around, like, okay.
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Tracking every day.
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Like, what is sleep like?
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What did I do to change it?
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Like, it's a really, really useful tool to be monitoring this and just be like, okay, are my
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decisions keeping me on track for a really deep and good night of sleep, or are they not?
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And, you know, and I think these tracking devices are just so helpful for letting us
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know, like, did I eat too late?
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Did I not eat enough dinner?
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Did I have more fat at dinner?
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Did I have more protein at dinner?
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Like, how are these changes actually impacting sleep positively or negatively?
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So Yeah.
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I like looking
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at the data.
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The thing that I say to everybody too is let it be one of the data points so that we're not
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outsourcing.
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Like if you wake up feeling energized, go with that.
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Be careful that we don't let the ring or your watch or whatever tell you or like, you know,
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pop your balloon and take the wind out of your sails and say, oh, well I thought I, you know,
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felt amazing, but now I feel gross because my watch told me that I should be feeling gross.
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Yeah.
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That's a really important point too.
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Because as we talked about today, we talked a lot about the what.
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Right?
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But truthfully, you already know a lot of that.
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Nobody needs to tell you to eat a cucumber over a Twix.
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The question is how do we make the cucumber the desirable choice, and then how do we eat the
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Twix so that it doesn't impact us the same way that it might right now?
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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Making people, like, want the cucumber over the twigs is a very, very good good angle for this.
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I think
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And thank you all for listening.
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Thank you, Jen, for being here.
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I really appreciate everybody's attention today.
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Remember that nutrition really is one of the most critical foundations as well as sleep, as
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well as water, as well as hormonal balance.
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But we're talking about some of these critical foundational pieces for sex, for libido, for
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wellness on all fronts.
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And we can do so many lab tests and so many things to find out other root causes which are
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many times essential, But if we don't have the foundations, nothing's gonna work.
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So thank you again, for being here.
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Thank you, Jen, and I'll see you all real soon on another episode of the lounge.
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