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Behind the Crown: Dating, Love & The REAL You with Charieze · The REALationship Method

• 0:07
  SPEAKER_03: Are you ready?
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_03: Here we go.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_03: 54321.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_03: Welcome back to another episode of the relationship method pumpkin list.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_03: It's your boy Chris and hold on.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_03: I did check.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_03: I'd check if I was recording.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_03: Um coming from a night shift.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_03: Hardworking woman over here.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_03: I got Miss Jess on this bit.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_01: Hi guys.
• 0:33
  SPEAKER_01: I am so excited to be here.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_01: I'm so excited.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_03: Uh why?
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_03: What's what's the excitement about Miss Jess?
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_01: Because this is my first ever podcast, and I was telling Chris earlier this was this I have a picture of some like something like this on my vision board, and like now it's happening real time.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_01: It feels surreal and crazy.
• 0:55
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_03: Um vision boards.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_03: How long have you had this vision board of yours?
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_01: I've been doing vision board since high school.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_03: So it's a thing then?
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_01: It's a thing.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_01: I started doing it um during a retreat when I was in high school.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_03: Uh-huh.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: Um a guy told us you can, what you can envision, you can put it into action.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_03: So is it a lot of pictures or is it writings?
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_01: It's a for me, it's pictures.
• 1:28
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, so I have a I have somewhat of a vision board too, but it's all like, it's all writing.
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_03: It's like all doodles and like circles going across it's like a brainstorm board.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, a brainstorm board.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_03: But it's like for the future.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_03: So it's like, like, say if I put podcasts, I would circle it, have something connected, and then be like, oh, get guests, then circle it, and then get bigger guests, and then you know, bigger venue or some shit.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, what's uh what's two things that's on your vision board right now that you want to accomplish or that's in the midst of getting to where you want to be?
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_01: What's crazy is I wish I could have I have it right now.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: Most of the things that I put on my vision board has already happened and in in motion.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_01: I think the only thing that I've been wanting to happen is for me to get back to school because I took a break.
• 2:19
  SPEAKER_03: School.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_01: Semester break.
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_03: Is um singing and being an actress on that vision board too?
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_03: Or is it on the low totem?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_01: No, because for me, singing has always been a part of me, so it's not something I like actively want to pursue.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_01: If if I want to do singing, I I can just get back into it.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
• 2:41
  SPEAKER_03: And acting as well, no?
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_01: No, I don't think it's for me.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_03: You know what?
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_03: I've done a little bit of acting, and I mean it's I'm gonna say it's uh it's an experience.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_03: You know, because for one line, maybe two lines, I did not know how many takes it took.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_04: Oh, really?
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_03: And how many angles they gotta put it, and also with this little boom mic that I've never messed with before, yeah, I was like, what the fuck is this?
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_03: You know, that's so they're trying to get like the best sound with the best quality pictures.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_03: And I didn't know like there's so many people behind the scenes that make things happen.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 3:18
  SPEAKER_03: Girl, Miss Jess.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_03: Um, before we uh start going, um, how did I get you onto this pod?
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_03: You know, this little thing.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_01: Um, from what I can remember, Chris definitely reached out to me.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_01: And then, well, I always go through my DMs too, so as soon as I saw it, I was like, this is a perfect, you know, opportunity to just experience something new.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_01: So I was like, what why not?
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_01: Like, let's actually do it.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_03: So I like how that you're such an opportunistic person.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_03: Is that is that even a word?
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_03: Opportunistic?
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_03: Am I saying it right?
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_03: I don't think so, but you know, my vocabulary.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_03: I make shit up and I try to make sense in my head.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: No, that's me too.
• 4:01
  SPEAKER_00: Oh word?
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, okay.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_03: And um, your regular nine to five.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_03: What do you um what do you be doing out there in the world?
• 4:07
  SPEAKER_01: Um right now I am a nurse aide at a hospital, so that's basically what's accumulating most of my time.
• 4:15
  SPEAKER_01: I just I am just working right now.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_03: And then just working.
• 4:19
  SPEAKER_03: And then for people that know you, um, they've seen you, you know, your picture spread, they've seen your IG.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_03: Um, how did you get into you know that type of situation, that type of um field?
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like content creating?
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, content creating and like you know being a model and like being wanted to, you know, pose and do all this and shit.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_01: Well, it started filming.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_01: I've always liked filming since I was a kid.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 4:46
  SPEAKER_01: Like I would have videos of me just trying to vlog before it was even a thing.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_03: How cringy is that, huh?
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_03: Like when you look back, are you like, ooh.
• 4:54
  SPEAKER_01: No, I really no.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_01: I I it to me it's cute because I feel like I already saw it in me at a you know at a young age.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_01: So it's like a oh wow, it's always been there.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_01: I because I do believe it's if something is for you and if it's a calling for you, you'll it's it's always gonna find its way back to you.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_01: So with content creating, I started actually posting like vlogs back in 2020.
• 5:20
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_01: Like during COVID, that's when I started doing YouTube.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_01: And then I stopped because I moved here, so like, you know, there's a lot of shifts and changes in my life.
• 5:32
  SPEAKER_01: But I've always like consistently wanted to share ideas in myself and share who I am in the public.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_01: Um so I I think last year or last two years ago when I was when I started actually taking social media seriously.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_03: What was the shift in you from being, oh, you know, I'm doing this for funsies to now it's like, oh, I could really do something with this and it might lead me to a future.
• 6:04
  SPEAKER_01: I think it started when I I saw that me posting it gave me opportunities and like, you know, brands and brands and people reaching out.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_01: So I was like, wait, there's actually something from this that I can like do.
• 6:22
  SPEAKER_01: And also it made me think because for for a lot of people they think social media is bad, which I completely understand, but it I shifted my mind into you have to make social media work for you and not the other way around.
• 6:35
  SPEAKER_01: Like you have to treat social media like like it's your platform, and you know, there's people that's looking, but how are you gonna utilize it?
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_03: Like in a in a business aspect, yeah, in a business aspect.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_01: Well, you still can use social media for yourself and your friends, but for me it's just it's it's kind of like branding.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_01: So that's when it started.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_03: What is Ms.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_03: Jess's brand right now?
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: That's a good question.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_03: You're very welcome, Miss Jess.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_01: The branding, I think it's just most most of my content is obviously my faith, gym, um, just a lot of self-motivation and a lot of inspirational things, but for caters of women.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_01: Cause I am a big advocate of being independent, you know, doing reaching your goals and being um on your education and stuff like that.
• 7:32
  SPEAKER_03: So independent, I and D E all that jazz.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_03: Go ahead, girl.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_03: And um, for the audience out there, um, single, mingling, married, um, dog owner, what what's what's what's popping women's gestures right now?
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: I am single.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_03: She's single.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_03: That's okay, guys.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_03: Girls, you should show you show shots.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_03: Um, you ready?
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, hey, before we we start going, um uh have you ever been to like one of those uh I guess I guess for church, it's a faith retreat, right?
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_03: Recently, me and my wife, we came from this strong bonds retreat where we're supposed to make our bonds stronger.
• 8:13
  SPEAKER_03: And um friends, yeah, yeah, some sort of like that.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_03: It was like for the weekend.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_03: And um I found out that I'm like uh so they have colors, right?
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_03: And red is supposed to be like no one wants to be red, but I found out that my color was a red.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_03: And she she's green.
• 8:35
  SPEAKER_03: So it's uh I think if I remember right, red is more like um I'm a I'm a get things done type of person.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_03: Oh I want I want it done when I say it's gonna be done, I want it done right then and there and no lagging.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_03: As for my wife, she's green, so she's more she's more passionate, she's uh she's more outgoing.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, oh my god.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_03: Because when I did one of these things way back in the day, I was a totally different color.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_03: Oh really?
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_03: Oh my gosh, yeah.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_04: I don't think I've ever tried this color.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, really?
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_03: Oh man, I'll I'll s I'll DM it DM it or uh mail it, uh wait, what's it called?
• 9:17
  SPEAKER_03: Email it to you one day, and then yeah, like in the future, tell me what it is.
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_03: But this marriage retreat, it was uh it was pretty cool because uh I had an opportunity to bring my kids.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, that's cool.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_03: And um it was on a different island.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, oh wow.
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_03: And uh, you know, the resort was all paid for because uh it was through the military, right?
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay, okay.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, so um it's uh so the airport was Lehui.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_03: What island is that?
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: Hui what?
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_03: That was the airport.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: Lehui?
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_03: Lehui, yeah.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_03: You don't know your islands?
• 9:48
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, from here too.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_03: Hey, hey, I'm not the only one.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_03: I'm not the only one.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, well the resort is Outriggers.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_03: Shout out to Outriggers.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_03: But um dude, it was it was a pretty bad, yeah.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_03: That was very bad.
• 9:59
  SPEAKER_03: 2020, 26 years out here.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, yeah.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_03: You should be well, you've been out here 2020, right?
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, so six years.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, but your education was out here too, so you should know your islands, right?
• 10:09
  SPEAKER_03: Uh Mrs.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_00: I only went to like high school like the last last year.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, senior year.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_03: Last senior year.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_03: What high school?
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: Waipahu.
• 10:18
  SPEAKER_03: Waipahu.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_03: Uh what's what's the um 94 block forever?
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_03: Brothers.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_03: Brothers.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_01: Oh it's so crazy.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_01: I went to high school here.
• 10:29
  SPEAKER_01: I never stepped into the school, school building.
• 10:31
  SPEAKER_01: Because it was a COVID.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, COVID.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_01: Everything was online, crazy.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_03: How was um we'll get to the questions later.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_03: How was distant learning for you?
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_03: Like you're coming from the Philippines, yeah, where we're guys in your guys still face to face in school, right?
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_03: Come into Hawaii where you're behind the screen.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_03: How was that transition for you?
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_03: Because I could only imagine you're, you know, you're with your friends, and then all of a sudden it's like, fuck, I got none.
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_01: Well, to me, I am so glad I had been in high school in the Philippines.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_01: Like I it felt like I was already I completed already the high school.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_01: Because all of the experiences I already have it, especially with like the education-wise too.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_01: So like going through high school here, it it wasn't really like a shock or I was you know having a hard time.
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
• 11:22
  SPEAKER_01: It was very just like a normal I I felt normal with it.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_02: Did you really?
• 11:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I still made a lot of friends, surprisingly.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_02: Really?
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like my that was the you know, like la the senior year.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_01: I still have I still made a lot of friends that I'm still in contact with today.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_03: Let me ask you this though.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_03: Your senior year over here, you made a you said you made a lot of friends.
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_03: Is it because like of the way you looked?
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_03: Like, I mean, come on, let's be honest.
• 11:49
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, I mean like you were ugly.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, you wasn't ugly back in the day.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_03: I I don't want to assume that.
• 11:54
  SPEAKER_03: But yeah, it could it be did you have more guy friends than girls?
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_03: Or was it a mix, a mix of female and males?
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: It's a mix, but I did have more males like trying to approach me.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_03: Hey, y'all ain't slick! Hey, these boys ain't slick.
• 12:14
  SPEAKER_03: I know the game.
• 12:15
  SPEAKER_03: Come on, man.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: It's so funny, but yeah, I still made friends.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_03: That's good.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_03: That's good.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_03: Um, in the Philippines, did you have the uh opportunity to uh go to these proms and winter balls and these dances?
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, good.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_01: Here when the during the COVID, they had us going to a drive-thru prom.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_03: I'm like What's a drive-thru prom?
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_03: Can can you tell us what a drive-thru prom is?
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_01: Well they I don't know.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_01: Basically, all I can remember is they wanted us to go there, get food, take pictures, that's it.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, how are we gonna dance with the like dance with a car inside?
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, I don't know.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm thankful I already have the experience.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_01: I you know, like, like I said, the high school life, I had it completed in the Philippines.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_01: So I was good.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_03: Girl, um, I watch a lot of like I've watched my fair share of you know Filipino peliculas, you know?
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_03: And I'll yeah, I've always wanted to experience high school going, you know, in the Philippines because I, you know, you're wearing you're wearing like I get I guess uniforms, right?
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_04: Yes.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_03: So everyone's the same.
• 13:23
  SPEAKER_03: So like the whole bullying thing, I don't think that's gonna happen.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_03: The only thing that's gonna be changing is what your shoes or whatever, but yeah, I would love to get like I don't know, just to just to fuck around in the in those classrooms and you know, walking home and like hanging out and all that bullshit.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_03: Like I've always wanted to experience that Philippine life.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think it's definitely the difference with Filipino and American school system and just like the how it goes is it's just so different.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_01: First of all, in the Philippines, once you get there for like the first year, the people that you're gonna be in the class of they're the they're your classmates for until for like four years.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_01: No, you know how like like homeroom.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_01: Like your homeroom?
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_01: You know how uh here in America you'll be the one to like change the classes.
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_01: In the Philippines, it's the teachers that change classes.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_01: You stay in the room.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_03: You stay in the same room, but the teachers alternate.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_01: You stay in the same way.
• 14:22
  SPEAKER_01: You stay in the room with the same classmates.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_01: And that that's that's an everyday thing.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_03: Do you think so?
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_03: Let's say they bring that here to the mainland, right?
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_03: Would that work in you know, in America's education system?
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_03: I think the same people, just different teachers?
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_01: I think so.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_01: Huh, interesting.
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_01: And then in the Philippines, we start school at let's say like 8, 8.30, and then we finish at like four or five.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_03: That's like what two, three extra hours then.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 14:56
  SPEAKER_03: That's insane.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_01: And here we would like, you know how we would like uh just okay for Monday we do math, English science, da da da.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_01: Every day it's the whole like all of your classes, every single day.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_01: Really?
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_01: All of it together.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_01: So like let's say you have seven classes, they they will crunch that into one day.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, one day.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_01: Every day.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_03: When's the last time you watched like a Filipino movie?
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_03: Is it recent?
• 15:26
  SPEAKER_03: Netflix, like a month.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_01: I my household is so Filipino, like I don't even know what's a Filipino movie.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like I don't even track it anymore, but just know like every like my household is very Filipino.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_03: So when you're okay, your household's Filipino.
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_03: When when they put on TV the TV and they see like you see a classroom setting, right, in school, is it how it was back in the past?
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah, it's still the same, same structure, same people wearing the same thing.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, cool.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_03: Cool, cool, cool.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_03: Cool history lesson.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_03: Cool, cool.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_03: You ready?
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_03: Here we go.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_03: Um and then just you know, just to pre-note, you did give me some topics that you, you know, you want that you wanted to talk about, so I threw it in here too.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_03: Um, have you ever felt embarrassed telling someone that have you ever been in a relationship before?
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, so have you ever felt embarrassed telling someone you've never been in or had a relationship?
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_01: I'm yeah, I don't think it's something that I'm ashamed of telling people.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_01: It's just I've I've always known some people are gonna be shocked.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_01: Some people, they don't even believe me.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_01: It's like, why am I gonna lie about that?
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_01: So no, I'm not ashamed of it.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_03: What um because I know a lot of women and men like you that um didn't have a relationship until like their mid-20s, even like their late, uh, late 20s, like early 30s, because they didn't want the drama, they're more into themselves, they're more goal-driven.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_03: What stopped you from, you know, high school and you know, coming out to here because this is a new environment.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_03: What stopped, you know, like uh-no boys, uh, no girls, or no relationship?
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_03: What stopped you?
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_01: Well, first is I came from a I was very sheltered back in the Philippines.
• 17:25
  SPEAKER_01: So I think me being the youngest and I have four siblings.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay, okay, okay.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: I was gonna say that too, though.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_01: I was very sheltered, so I had that like kind of fear of like, oh my gosh, I I can't, you know, just do whatever.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_01: Because I have a lot of eyes on me.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_01: Just being strict about it.
• 17:49
  SPEAKER_01: But it's not like I can't do it, you know what I mean?
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_01: It's just also what else can I say?
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_01: Um I always tell this to people, I feel like my life, it always revolved around family and friends.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: It's not like I don't like dating.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_01: Obviously, I've talked to guys, it's just my focus was has always been on family, friendship, and me.
• 18:16
  SPEAKER_01: If that makes sense.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_03: No, not that 100%.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_03: I understand.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
• 18:21
  SPEAKER_03: If they don't understand, they dumb as fuck.
• 18:23
  SPEAKER_03: You can't understand that, y'all dumb.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 18:25
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, um, has has there any has there been a person that's been close to you know, tying you down?
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_03: Not not like marriage-wise, but like, hey Jess, would you be my girl?
• 18:37
  SPEAKER_01: You know, like there's a lot throughout, you know, throughout the years.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_01: But it's this Like what stopped it?
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_03: Like what was it you that stopped it?
• 18:48
  SPEAKER_03: Like, because of what you just said earlier?
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_01: I just don't like wasting my time.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_01: And I know once I see a guy, if he's not the one, I just I'm not gonna waste time.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, you just cut it off.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_01: No, I would I would try to like sometimes I would try to manipulate myself and gaslight myself because oh he's he's nice, you know, like he's nice, he's like everything a girl should want.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: But I just can't.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_01: I just can't.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_01: So she pulled back and she was like, I just can't.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_01: It's it's like a it's a weird thing that I would, you know, like I've I had good guys.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_01: I really did have a lot.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: And I have bad guys too that came into my life, but I would just I would know if he's the one.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: And if he's not, I just can't.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_01: I just I'm not gonna.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_03: You're not you're not even gonna waste your time.
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna waste the time.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_03: Do you feel like people assume that there's something wrong with you because of you not having a boyfriend for this long?
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 19:46
  SPEAKER_01: You just probably think I have high standards and just like I my focus is not on relationship, which is true, but I don't think they would be able to do that.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_03: I don't think so.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_03: That's good.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, um since now that you're coming out with this, are you nervous for your first relationship?
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_03: Like your real relationship?
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna be so honest.
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_01: I think one that's one of the reasons why too I'm scared to like commit because I'm it scares me.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_01: The fact that if if something gets very real and serious, then that means like I'm completely vulnerable now.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_01: Like I'm completely opening myself up to this person.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_01: So I guess you could say I have commitment issues.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah, yeah.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_03: So is um would you prefer someone that's like you've been friends with for a long time, or like just someone like brand spanking you?
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_01: No, I don't think I could be with someone that I saw as a friend.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_01: Because once I see someone as a friend, that's it.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_01: I just cannot He's friend zoned.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, is he or she's friend zoned.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, that's it.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_03: But so there's no way of getting out of that.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_03: Like, um, hey Jess, let's go get let's go grab a movie, and then you butt in with as friends.
• 21:05
  SPEAKER_03: Is it like that?
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_01: No, it's just if I saw a guy as a friend, I'm not the type to like pursue, yeah.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_01: To me, it's just weird.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, so you're very comfortable with hanging out with just a guy then, just you and a guy.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_03: Oh yeah, for sure.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_01: I think that's why too, like I kinda stopped having a lot of guy friends because they think me being friends with them, I I have a different, you know, like different intentions, motive to it.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_01: But truly, I just see it, I just see the person as a friend.
• 21:37
  SPEAKER_03: Why is that in your opinion, Miss Jess, that um, let's say, for example, me and you, we go out to lunch.
• 21:44
  SPEAKER_03: All of a sudden, people are saying, oh man, Chris is cheating on his wife, or oh Jess is fucking he's with she's with him now.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_03: Why do you think people are like so quick to jump to that um to that?
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_03: I had a word for it, but I lost it.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_03: But yeah, why do you think?
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: That is like you can't even yeah to be honest, I would kind of get why they would think that because especially in the public eyes, they've never seen me with someone.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_01: That's why.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_01: They've never seen me, you know what I mean?
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_01: Like they've never seen me with a guy, so now that they're seeing me with someone, even if it's just like, you know, like a total just a friend, like they would assume that, oh, he's probably the one, he's probably the guy.
• 22:27
  SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean?
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_03: Let me flip this on you, Miss Jess.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_03: If the guy was butt booty ugly, like unattractive at all, could that assumption still happen?
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_01: I think so because You think so?
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, people just assume, they just like to assume things a lot.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_01: So they would probably have that notion too.
• 22:47
  SPEAKER_03: Uh-huh.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_03: I think it okay, so as a guy looking on in with this stuff, if an attractive guy is with like a uh I'm gonna say like a four, right?
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_03: Female.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_03: Guys wouldn't think guys like me, I wouldn't think nothing.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_03: Even if the girl is like an eight or a nine, I still wouldn't think nothing because I'm mature enough to know like this could be a business partner, this could be like an employee, you know, like an employee.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_03: You know what I'm saying?
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_03: Like, oh, we both had the same lunch at the same time.
• 23:21
  SPEAKER_03: Let's go grab, let's go grab a coffee.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_01: Body language plays a big part of it too.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, oh, this is true, yeah.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like body language when you guys are out.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes you can tell by two people's chemistry on how on how they are.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_01: So some people you can just say like their chemistry is so strong it comes out.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_03: What I mean.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_03: Have you seen it?
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_03: Have you experienced that?
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, I've seen it.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah?
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_03: Have you experienced it?
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_03: Has someone from the outside said, hey Jess, um, what's going on with you and Charles or whatever?
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, yes.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: I've I've had that.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: I've had that.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_03: And was the feeling mutual?
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_03: Like were you was there something going on with you and so-called Charles?
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, okay.
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_01: Huh.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_01: I think that especially with me, I'm just a very I'm very vocal and showy about how I feel told to person.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 24:13
  SPEAKER_01: Even if I try to hide it, it it will show.
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_03: Men, we are a lot of us, not not not all, we are oblivious to the little, you know, to the little signals and signs.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 24:27
  SPEAKER_03: We're oblivious to that shit.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_01: Men be knowing what they do.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_03: I don't be knowing.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_01: Really?
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_03: Oh fuck yeah.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_03: Like my um I guess it depends.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_03: My wife told me one time.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_03: Oh no, no, it wasn't my wife.
• 24:40
  SPEAKER_03: It was one of my friends.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_03: We were at a bar, and I was just chopping it up with with another female, right?
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_03: And I didn't find her attractive.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_03: It was just, we're just we got a drink, I was just talking.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_03: For some reason, my guy pulled me to side, like, hey man, you were flirting with her.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_03: I was like, no, the fuck I wasn't.
• 24:56
  SPEAKER_03: It's like, nah, you did that thing, and I'm like, what's the thing?
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 25:00
  SPEAKER_03: So he broke it down, and I was like, no fucking way.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_03: So yeah, like to us, we're up at that moment, we're oblivious to that shit.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_03: So for you, it's like you're out there.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_03: Interesting.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_01: Especially with me, I'm just very outgoing sometimes too.
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like a lot of people um like mistakes that for me trying to flirt.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_03: Mmm, okay.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like I'm just because I'm I'm not a snob.
• 25:29
  SPEAKER_01: Like I can talk to anyone.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 25:31
  SPEAKER_01: Like, yeah.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_01: So I could kind of see that.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_03: Mmm.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_03: Next question.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_03: Would you rather wait for the right person or date just to gain experience?
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_01: I'd rather date for the wait for the right person.
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_03: You rather wait for the right person.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_01: Hello, I've been waiting like how many years now.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_03: What's another five years?
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_03: Or is that too long?
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_01: I think God loves me so much he wouldn't allow me to wait that long.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_01: I'm just that's a great answer.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_03: That's a great fucking answer.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_01: He he knows me so much.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_01: He I talk to God about my my partner a lot.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_01: I know for a fact he loves me so much he wouldn't let me wait that long.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_03: That's good.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_03: Um, I guess that answered the next question.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_03: What scares you more being alone or choosing the wrong person?
• 26:19
  SPEAKER_03: I guess that answered that.
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 26:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_03: Not a girl.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_03: Um, next one.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_03: How much does your faith influence you uh who you're willing to date?
• 26:28
  SPEAKER_01: A lot.
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_01: I think without my faith, I would have been probably just dating, talking to whatever.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_01: You know, like but God is so good for always protecting me, to be honest.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_01: With I've had obviously I've had like, you know, like heartbrokens here and there, but my faith protected me with so much heartbreaks and pains and crying, and the way I navigate and deal with relationship, I always have to go back to my faith in God first before before I start anything.
• 27:07
  SPEAKER_03: Have you ever liked someone that didn't share your belief?
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: Oh yes, for sure.
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_03: How d how did that go?
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_03: Like, how did that pan out to where uh you pulled back and like it's not gonna go to that next level?
• 27:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like, what do you mean?
• 27:22
  SPEAKER_03: So um, I guess the question was uh you l you liked someone that you know that didn't believe in your faith, right?
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_03: What made it not go further?
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_03: Because you liked them, right?
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_03: What made them go what what gave you that ick?
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_03: We're like, okay, I can't.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_03: I don't see my.
• 27:42
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's just the difference of values and morals.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_01: Some guys they just don't share the same values as I have.
• 27:49
  SPEAKER_01: I've talked to someone before, like, oh, he was telling me, oh, um, I don't want kids.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_01: I closed my I had I did have a sectomy.
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, okay, so this is a this is a big like no deal.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_01: Because it's like a very big like shift if we were if we get together.
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_01: If you don't like kids, I want to have kids, I don't want to have a lot of kids.
• 28:10
  SPEAKER_01: So like what is the point of us talking?
• 28:13
  SPEAKER_01: Like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, okay.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_03: So I guess uh this caveat off that can two people with different faiths have a successful relationship, in your opinion.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_01: I generally believe that if two people really love each other, the both of them has to meet in in the middle.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_03: In the middle.
• 28:34
  SPEAKER_01: There's there has to be a middle ground.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_03: Uh with the faith.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah, for sure.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_03: So if a person was Catholic and the other person was, I don't know, boo Buddhist, can that work out?
• 28:46
  SPEAKER_03: But you say me in the middle, it's like, okay, I gotta s you know, you gotta celebrate Christmas.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, Buddha.
• 28:53
  SPEAKER_03: Being a Buddhist, you gotta celebrate.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_03: Um uh you know, I'm not very educated, so I don't wanna fuck this up.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_03: Hey, sorry to my Asian peoples, my bad.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_03: But you mean do you mean meet in that middle type of way?
• 29:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, meet in the middle, but to be honest, it's it differs to the people, you know what I mean?
• 29:11
  SPEAKER_01: Like if they can work it out, then it might work out.
• 29:15
  SPEAKER_01: But I know for a fact if if they're really strong in their faith, I wouldn't think they would pick, you know, someone that's different to their religion, if you okay.
• 29:27
  SPEAKER_03: So you're saying that uh if they were like in the same religion, it'd be easier to like move to move forward, I guess.
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for sure.
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_03: I can see that.
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I could agree to that.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 29:40
  SPEAKER_03: Oh Miss Jess, dropping dimes.
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_03: Um, where do you draw the line when it comes to physical intimacy?
• 29:47
  SPEAKER_01: Dang, these questions, Chris.
• 29:49
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, I'm sorry, you know, I'm just um they're not horny.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, but I love them.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_03: They're very well thought out.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yes, but I love it.
• 30:00
  SPEAKER_00: What was the question again?
• 30:01
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, where do you draw the line when it comes to physical intimacy?
• 30:07
  SPEAKER_01: To me, I don't know, for other people it might be, but for me, physical intimacy or anything sexual intimacy is such a big like a big deal for me because that's just who I am as a person.
• 30:21
  SPEAKER_01: Even out like outside faith or anything like that, I just I just cannot see myself doing like casual things because it it it holds a lot to me.
• 30:32
  SPEAKER_01: It hold like you're like I'm being vulnerable to you.
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you know what I mean?
• 30:37
  SPEAKER_01: So if the person is not committed to me, I don't think I could do it.
• 30:44
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, okay.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah for a long time, um, and this is when I was like single, um, if I wasn't in a relationship or whatever, like I was hoeing around, I admit it.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_03: I was hoeing around, but if I wasn't like really talking to you like that or in a relationship, I wouldn't hold your hand.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: Really?
• 31:02
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, because I think you know, holding someone's hand that's really intimate.
• 31:05
  SPEAKER_03: It's like I'm yours, you're mine, type of shit, you know?
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 31:08
  SPEAKER_03: But hoeing around, it's like I was just going through a phase, right?
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_03: I was still chivalrous, like I would, you know, my daddy taught me, well, I would still open the doors, I would still pay the tab, you know, I would pull out the chair, this and the third.
• 31:19
  SPEAKER_03: But I think just the whole holding hands intimacy thing, yeah.
• 31:24
  SPEAKER_03: Cause I I make sure like I hold my wife's hand, or when I was like back in the day, I would hold like my girlfriend's hand.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_03: Not boyfriend, sorry guys.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_03: But yeah, I would hold hands.
• 31:34
  SPEAKER_03: Cause um, I don't know, like when I was little, I was taught that that's like that's your first.
• 31:40
  SPEAKER_03: I was taught that was the very first, not being intimate, but like loving someone.
• 31:44
  SPEAKER_04: Wow.
• 31:45
  SPEAKER_03: You know, because like you don't have kids, but I do.
• 31:48
  SPEAKER_03: Your first interaction with the kid, and when they were like, oh dad, hold my hand, that's like that's love, you know?
• 31:54
  SPEAKER_03: So that's how that's what I was taught with my dads.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_03: Like holding someone's hand is very important, and it's it's like another symbol of, you know, you don't have to have sex, you don't have to kiss.
• 32:03
  SPEAKER_03: You know, that's it's there.
• 32:05
  SPEAKER_03: So yeah, that's what I was taught.
• 32:07
  SPEAKER_01: To me, it you might not believe me or not, but I've dated like guys, not dated, but like talked to guys for like three months, three months, four months, two months, without even like n nothing.
• 32:22
  SPEAKER_01: Like nothing.
• 32:23
  SPEAKER_01: Wait, when you mean nothing, like no holding hands, no not even a kiss on the cheek, not even a hug.
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_03: And you've talked to these guys.
• 32:30
  SPEAKER_01: And I've talked to them.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_03: Because why do you think so?
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_03: Why do you think they stayed around for so long?
• 32:35
  SPEAKER_01: Like I don't know.
• 32:36
  SPEAKER_03: Like to get to get the cookie?
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_03: Is that was that do you think?
• 32:39
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if they're playing the long game or not, but for me, I this is probably trauma for me, or you know, like I I'm just very guarded physically.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 32:50
  SPEAKER_01: It's so funny because if you see me with family and friends and you know, like people.
• 32:56
  SPEAKER_01: I'm very touchy.
• 32:57
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 32:58
  SPEAKER_01: Because it's just a way of like I don't know if it's also the Filipino and the love language.
• 33:02
  SPEAKER_03: It's it's like kind of like, oh, I adore you, like, oh hi.
• 33:04
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I feel you.
• 33:05
  SPEAKER_03: No, I understand.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_01: Showy, very vocal, very touchy.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 33:09
  SPEAKER_01: But when it comes to relationship, I am You're guarded.
• 33:13
  SPEAKER_01: Very guarded.
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_03: Uh-huh.
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think I can I can I don't think I can do it if I'm not emotionally attached to the person.
• 33:20
  SPEAKER_03: I understand that.
• 33:21
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 33:22
  SPEAKER_03: When a woman is emotionally attached, you could get anything out of them, right?
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for sure.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_03: And once that I guess the emotion comes, like goes away from the woman, it's fucking downhill.
• 33:33
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_03: Because physical could only go so far.
• 33:35
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 33:36
  SPEAKER_03: Physical attraction could go so far, but if you're like emotionally attracted to someone, that lingers.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, it lingers.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_01: Even if for guys, I don't know.
• 33:43
  SPEAKER_03: Oh no, I I I believe it.
• 33:45
  SPEAKER_03: Um I know some guys that they had a crush on uh they had a crush on a woman like back in 2022, 2023, right?
• 33:54
  SPEAKER_03: They never messed around, never held hands.
• 33:56
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_03: But the the talks that they had, the emotional connection they had, it's like her thought his her thoughts.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_03: Um she's still in his thoughts.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_03: Really?
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_03: You know, not even in a horny kind of way.
• 34:11
  SPEAKER_03: It's like, dude, I wonder how yeah, for the guys, like I wonder how she's doing.
• 34:15
  SPEAKER_03: I wonder like if her man is treating her right, this and the third.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_01: I've had guys like that, and there's you know how they're you're saying like she's still on his mind.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_01: It it's it ha it has happened to me a couple times.
• 34:29
  SPEAKER_03: You've been thinking about the guy or the guy's been thinking about you.
• 34:31
  SPEAKER_01: The guy's been thinking, but that's what I always tell younger girls.
• 34:36
  SPEAKER_01: There are guys that would show you like genuineness, you don't even have to touch your body.
• 34:42
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, like it's it's true, it it really does happen.
• 34:46
  SPEAKER_01: So that's something I've held on to myself because I've seen guys that I've I've haven't even touched like didn't even touch me, but you can tell they're genuine.
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if they're playing the long game or not, but for right now they're genuine as fuck.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, that is so hilarious.
• 35:08
  SPEAKER_03: Has that has these guys ever like crossed your mind too then?
• 35:12
  SPEAKER_03: Like, because they were genuine, have they crossed your mind like now since you've you know cut it off with them?
• 35:19
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, like it's like man, I wonder how Randy's doing.
• 35:22
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I would I would obviously would come like run up to my mind like, oh I wonder, like so and so.
• 35:28
  SPEAKER_01: So and so, but it's not that I'm regretting something.
• 35:32
  SPEAKER_01: Because we didn't end up for a reason.
• 35:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 35:37
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, so yeah.
• 35:38
  SPEAKER_01: I would just think he's he's not for me.
• 35:41
  SPEAKER_01: There's someone out there that's more for him.
• 35:46
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 35:47
  SPEAKER_03: Well said.
• 35:48
  SPEAKER_03: Well said.
• 35:49
  SPEAKER_03: Um can you can you just realistically balance college, work, dating, and family?
• 35:56
  SPEAKER_03: Can you balance all that stuff out if the dating happens?
• 36:01
  SPEAKER_03: Are you able are you that type of person that can do it?
• 36:05
  SPEAKER_01: I think I can.
• 36:06
  SPEAKER_03: Uh-huh.
• 36:07
  SPEAKER_01: Because even now, I'm just a person that does a lot of things.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 36:12
  SPEAKER_01: And balancing a lot of things, there's no way I I wouldn't be able to do it for my partner.
• 36:18
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 36:19
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 36:20
  SPEAKER_03: Has um these guys that you've talked to before, have they ever distracted you from your goals?
• 36:25
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, yes, for sure.
• 36:26
  SPEAKER_01: That's why I get rid of them.
• 36:29
  SPEAKER_03: Well, there it is.
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_03: Do not distract Miss Jess, y'all.
• 36:32
  SPEAKER_03: Um I'm the same I'm the same way too, yeah.
• 36:35
  SPEAKER_01: I always tell well that this is something I told recently to someone that is very dear to my heart.
• 36:42
  SPEAKER_03: Dear to his dear to her.
• 36:44
  SPEAKER_01: I told him that what to him.
• 36:46
  SPEAKER_01: Him, yeah.
• 36:47
  SPEAKER_01: I told him one thing I'm scared of being in a relationship and taking things seriously, is losing myself in the relationship.
• 36:56
  SPEAKER_01: Like losing my independence.
• 36:59
  SPEAKER_01: Because since I haven't seen myself in a relationship and how I'm gonna act, I'm scared that I might lose my identity and myself in the relationship.
• 37:10
  SPEAKER_03: I feel you, yeah.
• 37:11
  SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm scared of.
• 37:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like I might like I don't want to be distracted where like I'll forget about my career, my education, school, my family, friends, and just solely focus on the relationship.
• 37:24
  SPEAKER_01: Because that might happen.
• 37:25
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 37:27
  SPEAKER_01: Since I haven't been in a relationship and like finally it's here, I'm scared that I might lose myself in it.
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_03: That's valid.
• 37:35
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 37:36
  SPEAKER_03: That's valid because I've I've seen a lot of um men and women once they become once they get into these relationships, their goals get behind them.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 37:48
  SPEAKER_03: They're more focused on the guy or the girl.
• 37:51
  SPEAKER_03: Some women with like sad.
• 37:53
  SPEAKER_01: Someone would stop out of school for bro, not sad.
• 37:57
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know what I mean?
• 37:58
  SPEAKER_01: Like you're right.
• 37:59
  SPEAKER_01: What the frick?
• 38:00
  SPEAKER_01: You know that's what I'm I know it's not gonna happen to me.
• 38:03
  SPEAKER_03: It almost happened to you?
• 38:04
  SPEAKER_01: I know it's not gonna happen to me.
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, it's not okay, okay.
• 38:07
  SPEAKER_01: It's not, you know what I mean?
• 38:08
  SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm scared of.
• 38:09
  SPEAKER_01: Especially if the guy takes me away from like my faith.
• 38:14
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 38:15
  SPEAKER_01: And like makes me a person that I I don't wanna be, that's what I'm scared of.
• 38:19
  SPEAKER_03: Can that happen though?
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_03: Like, uh, me and you, we've we've been jiving for I don't know, like the last 30 minutes.
• 38:24
  SPEAKER_03: It seems like you have like a real strong head on the shoulders.
• 38:27
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 38:28
  SPEAKER_03: Um, do you believe, honestly, like a person can pull you away from that?
• 38:34
  SPEAKER_03: Is there a guy that can really do that to Miss Jess?
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_03: Like pull away, like complete one, like okay, pull you pull you away from your family, pull you away from the the things that you've worked hard for.
• 38:46
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 38:47
  SPEAKER_03: To pull, yeah.
• 38:48
  SPEAKER_01: I wouldn't I wouldn't let it happen.
• 38:50
  SPEAKER_01: And my support system is so strong.
• 38:52
  SPEAKER_03: My I've that they wouldn't let that happen.
• 38:55
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, for sure.
• 38:56
  SPEAKER_01: Like my family would clock me out, and my friends.
• 38:59
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, my friends are very protective in a way.
• 39:02
  SPEAKER_01: It's so funny.
• 39:03
  SPEAKER_03: That's good.
• 39:04
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 39:04
  SPEAKER_03: Um, I do value friendships, you know, like that.
• 39:08
  SPEAKER_03: Uh I do I especially value the friends that I have that randomly call me up and say, hey man, how you doing?
• 39:14
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 39:15
  SPEAKER_03: You know, do food do your friends in the Philippines, do they FaceTime, message like Yes, I'm still in touch with my friends.
• 39:23
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 39:24
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, that's that's good.
• 39:26
  SPEAKER_03: Um, would you ever sacrifice a dream for love?
• 39:29
  SPEAKER_03: No.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_03: Good.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_03: Alright.
• 39:31
  SPEAKER_03: That was fucking easy.
• 39:32
  SPEAKER_03: Heck no.
• 39:33
  SPEAKER_03: The fuck am I asking you that?
• 39:35
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, here we go.
• 39:36
  SPEAKER_03: Um, did your parents ever make you feel like you know, school and career should come before relationships?
• 39:42
  SPEAKER_01: All the time.
• 39:43
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 39:43
  SPEAKER_01: I think my mom, to be honest, I understand my mom.
• 39:47
  SPEAKER_01: Because my mom grew up in a very like my grew up in my mom grew up in poverty.
• 39:53
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 39:54
  SPEAKER_01: Like I'm talking about poverty, provincial life.
• 39:57
  SPEAKER_01: She she ran away to build her own life.
• 40:02
  SPEAKER_01: She didn't finish high school.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_01: She met my dad.
• 40:05
  SPEAKER_01: She got pregnant.
• 40:07
  SPEAKER_01: She they both raised five children.
• 40:11
  SPEAKER_01: They like all of my siblings graduated college, and so I'm the only one left studying.
• 40:17
  SPEAKER_01: So my mom always instilled that education comes first, career comes first.
• 40:23
  SPEAKER_01: Because my mom would always tell me these guys are the easiest thing to get.
• 40:28
  SPEAKER_01: But your career, it's something that you have to build to yourself.
• 40:32
  SPEAKER_01: You don't want my mom is heavily on you cannot rely on a man like financially.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_02: I love that.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, my mom is a a businesswoman.
• 40:41
  SPEAKER_01: My mom didn't graduate college, but she was able to make all of my siblings graduate college because of hard work and their business.
• 40:50
  SPEAKER_01: And my mom growing up from like a you know the the Bahai the ba the Kubo houses?
• 40:57
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 40:57
  SPEAKER_01: My mom grew up in that and sh they my mom grew up in the like provincial life.
• 41:02
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 41:03
  SPEAKER_01: But because she's really good at business and her soft skill is so good, combined that with my dad, they were able to build three-story building with six bedrooms in the Philippines just all by selling in like having a mini mort.
• 41:17
  SPEAKER_01: So my mom has always been about independency, and that's something I really value within myself that I was instilled in.
• 41:26
  SPEAKER_03: I like that.
• 41:26
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 41:27
  SPEAKER_03: Um, as a parent, you know, like I instill that with like especially my my older daughter oldest daughter, she's like 21 now.
• 41:33
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 41:33
  SPEAKER_03: That you don't need a person.
• 41:35
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 41:35
  SPEAKER_03: All you need is yourself.
• 41:36
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 41:37
  SPEAKER_03: Pause.
• 41:39
  SPEAKER_03: All you need to, you know, yeah, you're right.
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_03: All you need is yourself.
• 41:43
  SPEAKER_03: Like, you really don't need another person like to bring you up, you know.
• 41:46
  SPEAKER_03: Of course, because you got your support system, right?
• 41:48
  SPEAKER_03: So yeah, I I liked how your mom pushed you to do all that.
• 41:52
  SPEAKER_01: It's so funny.
• 41:53
  SPEAKER_01: My mom is like And I my mom is like, unless the person is making your life easier, yeah, and giving value to it, adding value to it.
• 42:03
  SPEAKER_03: I like that.
• 42:04
  SPEAKER_03: Adding value.
• 42:05
  SPEAKER_01: That's what she's looking for.
• 42:07
  SPEAKER_01: And also money.
• 42:09
  SPEAKER_01: You know how Filipino parents are.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's like, oh my god.
• 42:11
  SPEAKER_01: Obviously.
• 42:12
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, oh, definitely.
• 42:13
  SPEAKER_03: I mean, yeah.
• 42:14
  SPEAKER_01: Which is so valid, right?
• 42:15
  SPEAKER_01: Like, would you want your daughter to date someone that's like you know what I mean?
• 42:19
  SPEAKER_01: Like a bummer.
• 42:20
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_03: Definitely not.
• 42:23
  SPEAKER_03: Definitely not.
• 42:24
  SPEAKER_03: So do you feel pressure to become financially successful before getting married or before getting into a relationship?
• 42:32
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 42:32
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah?
• 42:33
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 42:33
  SPEAKER_03: Is that the pressure that your parents put on you, or is it a pressure that you put on yourself?
• 42:38
  SPEAKER_01: It's both.
• 42:38
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 42:39
  SPEAKER_01: I I just want to be financially free too.
• 42:44
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, for me, coming here, it's only me and my mom.
• 42:49
  SPEAKER_01: So I always have that burden in me that my mom is 65.
• 42:54
  SPEAKER_01: And at this age, she should be retiring.
• 42:57
  SPEAKER_01: Should be chilling.
• 42:58
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 42:58
  SPEAKER_01: But my mom is still working two jobs just to support me, my education.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_01: Families back in the Philippines.
• 43:07
  SPEAKER_01: So it's not me wanting that, it's not just about me.
• 43:11
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 43:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I I think about my mom, I think about her retirement, I think about my future.
• 43:17
  SPEAKER_01: And once I'm by myself, like how like how can I do it?
• 43:21
  SPEAKER_01: How can I support my family?
• 43:22
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 43:23
  SPEAKER_03: That's crazy.
• 43:24
  SPEAKER_03: Um the like Filipino parents, they they work their fucking asses off, right?
• 43:30
  SPEAKER_03: And um, my dad, he's like seven years old.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_03: His younger brother, he I think he's like 67, 65, he just retired.
• 43:39
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, and I was in California for a little bit, and I was overhearing them talk, and my uncle was asking my dad, like, hey dude, why don't you we retire?
• 43:49
  SPEAKER_03: And you know, this 70 year old man, two jobs and shit.
• 43:52
  SPEAKER_03: He was like, Nah, like I'm I'm built to work.
• 43:55
  SPEAKER_03: Like, if he he really believes that if he stops working, he's gonna.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_03: To die.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_04: Wow.
• 44:01
  SPEAKER_03: You know, because like if you're working for so long, that's what that's all you know.
• 44:05
  SPEAKER_03: You don't know how to relax.
• 44:06
  SPEAKER_03: You just know the nine to five or the five to nine, whatever the schedule is, that's all you know.
• 44:13
  SPEAKER_03: And I overheard my dad talk that one of his friends that retired in less than a year, his friend died because all he did was just stay at home, right?
• 44:21
  unknown: Yeah.
• 44:21
  SPEAKER_03: No work, no nothing.
• 44:22
  SPEAKER_03: Like he didn't have any hobbies, he didn't play golf, he didn't fish.
• 44:25
  SPEAKER_03: So he just withered away at home.
• 44:28
  SPEAKER_03: And I was like, oh shit.
• 44:30
  SPEAKER_03: Like it makes sense because I'm the same way too.
• 44:32
  SPEAKER_03: Like if I don't move, I feel I feel like a bum, you know?
• 44:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 44:37
  SPEAKER_01: At home during her days off, she would still do something.
• 44:40
  SPEAKER_01: It's like it's clean something.
• 44:42
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, it's like it's either cleaning or oh man, I I think the floors need mopping.
• 44:47
  SPEAKER_01: And then they're gonna complain about oh my body is sore.
• 44:49
  SPEAKER_00: Right! Oh my god.
• 44:50
  SPEAKER_03: That's what happens when you get old.
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_03: That's what happens when you get old.
• 44:53
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, can you massage me?
• 44:55
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, oh my gosh.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_03: Right.
• 44:56
  SPEAKER_03: We're we're just hardworking people.
• 44:58
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 44:58
  SPEAKER_03: We're just hard-working people.
• 44:59
  SPEAKER_03: Would you date someone your family didn't approve at?
• 45:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 45:07
  SPEAKER_03: Wow.
• 45:08
  SPEAKER_03: You say that family and friends are very important to you, but why would you date someone that they wouldn't approve?
• 45:15
  SPEAKER_01: I just I What's the I can s it's not that I will do it, uh-huh, but I can see myself doing it.
• 45:25
  SPEAKER_03: Oh, okay.
• 45:26
  SPEAKER_03: You know what I mean?
• 45:27
  SPEAKER_01: I I feel like I will be the type of person to defend my partner to other people, even if it's family.
• 45:36
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know.
• 45:38
  SPEAKER_01: Isn't that crazy?
• 45:39
  SPEAKER_03: That no, no, that that that is that is crazy.
• 45:42
  SPEAKER_03: So, like, how would you deal with you know like the the side remarks, the smirks when you bring this special person around?
• 45:51
  SPEAKER_01: Listen, if you're Filipino, you This is gonna happen.
• 45:55
  SPEAKER_01: It's about to happen.
• 45:57
  SPEAKER_01: It's about to happen, especially like just how vocal me and my family are, uh-huh, they're always gonna find something.
• 46:05
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm just ready for it, to be honest.
• 46:09
  SPEAKER_03: Oh really?
• 46:09
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, to be honest.
• 46:11
  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
• 46:12
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 46:12
  SPEAKER_03: We'll switch it up now.
• 46:13
  SPEAKER_03: Has social media made finding a person easier or harder?
• 46:20
  SPEAKER_01: Hmm.
• 46:21
  SPEAKER_01: That's a good question.
• 46:22
  SPEAKER_03: You're very welcome, Miss Jess.
• 46:23
  SPEAKER_01: I think social media, like my social media or social media in general?
• 46:29
  SPEAKER_03: Social media in general.
• 46:30
  SPEAKER_03: Let's go for you.
• 46:31
  SPEAKER_03: Because it is your podcast.
• 46:33
  SPEAKER_03: For me because I could only imagine all the random guy DMs that you Man, let me tell you, man.
• 46:41
  SPEAKER_01: Go ahead, tell me, hey, preach, girl.
• 46:43
  SPEAKER_01: Go ahead, preach, preach all these DMs.
• 46:46
  SPEAKER_01: But for me, it's been kind of tough to be honest.
• 46:50
  SPEAKER_01: I feel like once a person sees you doing social media, especially if they're not into social media or just having, you know, like their life in public, it can cause something like uh like oh I I don't know if I don't know about this.
• 47:07
  SPEAKER_01: Because some people they don't like their life out there like that.
• 47:11
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 47:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 47:14
  SPEAKER_01: But but it's just kind of impossible if you're doing social media, you know what I mean?
• 47:19
  SPEAKER_01: Like it's not like you're gonna out yourself in like every single thing that you do, but it's just you're always gonna share something about you to your community and to your audience.
• 47:28
  SPEAKER_03: So if your partner, like let's say you do you did have a partner that wasn't keen to social media like that, would you respect what he wants, or would you still post uh you know the little handhelds, the anniversaries?
• 47:43
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe I'll like convince him like a little soft lunch, like he's like let's let them know, like at least let them know.
• 47:51
  SPEAKER_03: How imp how how do you think it is important for like a model with a with a mass following, letting people know that they are taken?
• 48:00
  SPEAKER_03: Like how yeah.
• 48:02
  SPEAKER_01: I think some people don't understand how social media in just social media in general impacts your dating life and how people perceive you.
• 48:14
  SPEAKER_01: But it's really good, especially if you have a like a big following and they've seen you like single for a long time, to like let them signal at least for respect and boundary.
• 48:26
  SPEAKER_01: Especially, especially for the guy as well.
• 48:29
  SPEAKER_01: Because them likes, them followings, it's a real thing.
• 48:35
  unknown: You know?
• 48:36
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
• 48:36
  SPEAKER_02: Explain it.
• 48:38
  SPEAKER_01: If I see my man like liking a girl's story or like a picture, or and it's and it's like, you know what I mean, like a very But what if what if it's the quote that he likes?
• 48:51
  SPEAKER_03: What if the quote was like a Drake quote and he was feeling that and it's so happen, it so happened it came with like a picture.
• 49:01
  SPEAKER_01: Men are very intentional.
• 49:02
  SPEAKER_03: Oh no, we're not we're not we're not fucking intentional.
• 49:05
  SPEAKER_01: Men are very intentional and men are very simple.
• 49:08
  SPEAKER_01: Men are very simple.
• 49:09
  SPEAKER_02: We're simple, we're simple creatures.
• 49:11
  SPEAKER_01: Like they're not, they're not as complicated as women are.
• 49:15
  SPEAKER_01: So if they see something, if they like something, that means they like it.
• 49:19
  SPEAKER_01: They like what they saw.
• 49:21
  SPEAKER_03: Okay, okay, okay, okay.
• 49:22
  SPEAKER_01: Isn't that the truth?
• 49:23
  SPEAKER_03: No, it's true, okay, but oh my god.
• 49:26
  SPEAKER_03: If I like a picture of Ube bread, I'm not gonna fuck the Ube bread.
• 49:30
  SPEAKER_03: It's because I like the Ube bread.
• 49:32
  SPEAKER_01: No, but what I'm saying is if a guy that especially if that's your partner liked an OF picture.
• 49:39
  SPEAKER_03: No.
• 49:39
  SPEAKER_01: You know what I mean?
• 49:40
  SPEAKER_03: Definitely not, yeah.
• 49:42
  SPEAKER_01: That's intentional.
• 49:44
  SPEAKER_01: So for me, it's a lot of people think social media is just like a oh you're doing too much.
• 49:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like you're you're doing too much.
• 49:51
  SPEAKER_01: You're doing like this social media thing is too much, uh, you're taking it too seriously.
• 49:55
  SPEAKER_01: But it it is serious like that though.
• 49:56
  SPEAKER_01: Oh you know what I mean?
• 49:58
  SPEAKER_03: When do you think that happened?
• 50:00
  SPEAKER_03: Like when, like say, if a guy or a girl in a relationship, they're liking other people's posts, and it becomes a whole big thing.
• 50:09
  SPEAKER_03: How did that like in your opinion jump off that way?
• 50:13
  SPEAKER_03: Why do you why is it jumping off that way?
• 50:15
  SPEAKER_03: Because I could simply like I could simply like a picture and think nothing of it, but then when my spouse looks at it is like, oh, you like that?
• 50:23
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, I was like, Yeah, it's a nice picture, but then I would never, you know?
• 50:29
  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so.
• 50:31
  SPEAKER_01: Oh my god.
• 50:32
  SPEAKER_01: But but with women, that's why we fighting Miss Jess.
• 50:35
  SPEAKER_01: It's it's kind of like embarrassing, that's why.
• 50:38
  SPEAKER_01: On the women's end.
• 50:40
  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
• 50:40
  SPEAKER_01: Cause women think differently.
• 50:42
  SPEAKER_01: Cause now the other girl is like, oh.
• 50:44
  SPEAKER_01: I got your man's.
• 50:46
  SPEAKER_01: Isn't he taken?
• 50:47
  SPEAKER_01: Like, that's so funny.
• 50:47
  SPEAKER_01: He's following me right now.
• 50:49
  SPEAKER_01: He's liking all my pictures, he's liking all these things.
• 50:51
  SPEAKER_01: But isn't he taken?
• 50:52
  SPEAKER_01: So that's what runs in the women's head.
• 50:56
  SPEAKER_01: But like, I'm not I've never been in a relationship, so I don't you know what I mean?
• 51:01
  SPEAKER_03: We got a couple more minutes.
• 51:02
  SPEAKER_03: We'll break this motherfucker down.
• 51:03
  SPEAKER_03: So Miss Jess, so if let's say for purposes like let's say I support what you're doing.
• 51:14
  SPEAKER_03: I'm not liking everything, but I do support, like, let's say you're doing a brand deal for Jollibee, right?
• 51:21
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 51:21
  SPEAKER_03: You're dressed pretty progatively or whatever, but I like Jollibee.
• 51:24
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 51:25
  SPEAKER_03: You know what I'm saying?
• 51:26
  SPEAKER_03: Your first picture is you holding a goddamn like chicken with some spaghetti, right?
• 51:31
  SPEAKER_03: But then I swe you keep on swiping, then it becomes you in a tank top, you in some shorts.
• 51:36
  SPEAKER_03: But I like that first picture because I like the chicken, I like Jollibee, I support you.
• 51:41
  SPEAKER_04: Right.
• 51:41
  SPEAKER_03: What's going on in your head then, as a female that's like in a relationship or like me liking that, what's going on in your head?
• 51:49
  SPEAKER_03: Is that still disrespectful disrespectful and distasteful?
• 51:55
  SPEAKER_01: I think you have you just have to know your partner, truly.
• 51:58
  SPEAKER_03: Having to know the partner, okay.
• 51:59
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 51:59
  SPEAKER_03: I believe that.
• 52:00
  SPEAKER_01: If you know your partner is the type to slime you out and is a grimy type, then you know something is on.
• 52:07
  SPEAKER_01: You know what you know what I mean?
• 52:08
  SPEAKER_01: But if you know he he's not gonna do something like that to you, then shoot, he probably just like the Jolly B.
• 52:15
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, right?
• 52:16
  SPEAKER_03: Exactly.
• 52:17
  SPEAKER_03: That's where I was going with with the you know, the whole ube bread.
• 52:20
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 52:20
  SPEAKER_03: I like the ube bread, but I'm not gonna fuck the person that's holding the ube bread.
• 52:23
  SPEAKER_03: You know what I'm saying?
• 52:24
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah, yeah.
• 52:24
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 52:25
  SPEAKER_03: How does it go on the other way around?
• 52:27
  SPEAKER_04: What do you mean?
• 52:28
  SPEAKER_03: I posted pictures of me and my family, but my first picture is just me at the aquarium.
• 52:33
  SPEAKER_03: You liked it.
• 52:34
  SPEAKER_03: What's going on, like, like say in a in a guy's mind, it's like, oh, cool, she likes the picture.
• 52:40
  SPEAKER_03: What's going on in your mind?
• 52:41
  SPEAKER_03: Like, what's why would you double tap that like?
• 52:45
  SPEAKER_01: Like a picture of you and family?
• 52:47
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, so like, you know, it's slides, right?
• 52:49
  SPEAKER_03: First picture is just me and the aquarium, next picture's the kids of me and the kids, wife, whatever, whatever, whatever.
• 52:54
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 52:54
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 52:55
  SPEAKER_03: Or what if it's just me and the boys and you liked it?
• 52:58
  SPEAKER_03: Are you liking it because you see me in my natural habitat having a good time with friends?
• 53:02
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 53:03
  SPEAKER_03: Or are you?
• 53:04
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, if you're asking me, yeah, if you're asking like that.
• 53:07
  SPEAKER_03: Asking Jess personally, yeah.
• 53:09
  SPEAKER_01: I would just like it because, oh, he's having a good time.
• 53:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like, look at him.
• 53:13
  SPEAKER_03: Okay.
• 53:14
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 53:14
  SPEAKER_03: It has nothing to do, like, I'm fully clothed, right?
• 53:17
  SPEAKER_03: I'm not fucking naked.
• 53:18
  SPEAKER_03: I'm not showing the toes or whatever.
• 53:21
  SPEAKER_03: But in a girl's head, it's more like, oh, he's having a good time.
• 53:25
  SPEAKER_03: It's the family.
• 53:26
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 53:26
  SPEAKER_03: Double tap.
• 53:27
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 53:27
  SPEAKER_00: It is like okay.
• 53:29
  SPEAKER_03: See, a lot of us guys, we don't think that.
• 53:31
  SPEAKER_03: It's like, okay, we like it.
• 53:32
  SPEAKER_03: Double tap.
• 53:33
  SPEAKER_03: It could be a car that we really like, and there's like a girl model in the background.
• 53:37
  SPEAKER_03: We don't really see the model, but it's a car.
• 53:39
  SPEAKER_03: It's like, no, I'm dead, I'm dead ass.
• 53:41
  SPEAKER_03: There's a lot of us like that, that's just so oblivious to that shit.
• 53:45
  SPEAKER_01: I think men in general are just oblivious with like we are oblivious.
• 53:50
  SPEAKER_01: A lot of things, to be honest.
• 53:51
  SPEAKER_03: Like a woman could be, or even a gay guy could be flirting with us, and we wouldn't even know.
• 53:56
  SPEAKER_01: Like, that's why sometimes you really just gotta call out a man.
• 54:00
  SPEAKER_03: I'll call out a female anytime.
• 54:02
  SPEAKER_03: I'll call y'all the fuckers out.
• 54:04
  SPEAKER_00: Like, to be honest.
• 54:05
  SPEAKER_03: Don't play me, Ms.
• 54:06
  SPEAKER_03: Death.
• 54:08
  SPEAKER_00: I am dead.
• 54:09
  SPEAKER_03: Nah.
• 54:10
  SPEAKER_03: But oh man.
• 54:12
  SPEAKER_03: Shit.
• 54:13
  SPEAKER_03: That was fun.
• 54:14
  SPEAKER_00: That was fun.
• 54:14
  SPEAKER_03: Um as your first uh as your first pod, um, how did it go?
• 54:21
  SPEAKER_01: I'm very, very glad I had this as my first podcast because I'm like it made me super comfortable.
• 54:27
  SPEAKER_01: Like I really?
• 54:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 54:29
  SPEAKER_03: So you wasn't nervous.
• 54:30
  SPEAKER_03: Well, no.
• 54:30
  SPEAKER_03: Very beginning, you were a little nervous.
• 54:32
  SPEAKER_01: Not really.
• 54:33
  SPEAKER_03: No, never?
• 54:34
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 54:34
  SPEAKER_03: I made you feel comfortable?
• 54:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 54:37
  SPEAKER_01: So like I really enjoyed it.
• 54:38
  SPEAKER_01: I didn't even, you know, know the time was passing.
• 54:41
  SPEAKER_01: It's just like like having an actual conversation with with a Yeah.
• 54:44
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 54:44
  SPEAKER_03: I like I like shit like that.
• 54:46
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 54:46
  SPEAKER_03: Like um, it it also tells me how smart another person is when they could keep the conversation going, you know.
• 54:53
  SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
• 54:53
  SPEAKER_03: You can't keep the conversation going.
• 54:55
  SPEAKER_03: You're just dumb as rocks.
• 54:56
  SPEAKER_03: You feel me?
• 54:57
  SPEAKER_00: Some people are just shy, you know, like they don't know how to.
• 55:00
  unknown: Yeah.
• 55:00
  SPEAKER_03: No, but like, I think every shy person, once they get into that comfortable state, yeah, they're fucking talking.
• 55:07
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
• 55:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 55:09
  SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
• 55:10
  SPEAKER_03: Shit.
• 55:10
  SPEAKER_01: Um I'm just a yapper, so I can't go off for hours like that.
• 55:13
  SPEAKER_03: Jess is definitely a yapper.
• 55:14
  SPEAKER_03: We're out of her show, folks.
• 55:16
  SPEAKER_03: Um Jess, do you have any um shout-outs or anything, or where can these people find you at?
• 55:22
  SPEAKER_01: Shout out.
• 55:24
  SPEAKER_01: I guess I just have a message for um my audience and my younger females.
• 55:30
  SPEAKER_01: Women out there.
• 55:33
  SPEAKER_03: Women.
• 55:34
  SPEAKER_03: Women.
• 55:34
  SPEAKER_03: Women.
• 55:35
  SPEAKER_03: I just feel like I say females a lot because of the military.
• 55:37
  SPEAKER_03: So it's okay.
• 55:38
  SPEAKER_03: Women, females, yeah.
• 55:41
  SPEAKER_01: If there's something that I want them to like kind of pick up on who I am and you know, like this podcast, I hope it's pursuing pursuing your career, pursuing your education first first, putting yourself first because you are your first priority out of everything that's going on with your life.
• 56:03
  SPEAKER_01: And don't be afraid to be independent and be by yourself because being by yourself helps you to have that um ability to have that confidence that you can do it no matter what.
• 56:22
  SPEAKER_03: So I love that.
• 56:25
  SPEAKER_03: I love that.
• 56:25
  SPEAKER_03: Um, put yourself first.
• 56:27
  SPEAKER_04: Yes.
• 56:28
  SPEAKER_03: When a f when a plane is going down and the thingies fall from you know from the plane, you gotta put the mask on first in order to save other people's lives.
• 56:37
  SPEAKER_03: Yes.
• 56:37
  SPEAKER_03: So I really do believe put yourself first above everything is is uh is a good statement, good closer.
• 56:47
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I knew it was coming.
• 56:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, I think.
• 56:51
  SPEAKER_00: We're here, we here, we're here.
• 56:53
  SPEAKER_03: Um hey, Chaos Studios, thank you for the lovely home.
• 56:56
  SPEAKER_03: Raffi Bye, man, always thank you for the lovely vibe.
• 56:58
  SPEAKER_03: And with that being said, I'm Chris.
• 57:00
  SPEAKER_00: My name is Jess.
• 57:01
  SPEAKER_03: And we help this bitch.
• 57:02
  SPEAKER_03: Peace.