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the co-dependency of asking questions · Dits & Dahs

• Sue: I have situations in my life where research is needed to solve a problem or figure out my next step. And for me, given that I am living solo, my first step is to search by asking the question that I think I need the answer to online. Probably is resonant with you, right? Sometimes though, that gives you a result that you know you don't need. And within those results, you you may get a kernel of information that is relevant that helps form the next question that you ask online. You know, at some point in my life I was extremely codependent in my view about how to answer my own questions. I think as a child, you know, really young, your your your reference points are gonna come from your parents or whomever is in charge of raising you. So you get into this habit when you're a super young kid of always asking your parents for the answers to things as you discover life. And then as you grow older, of course, you're taught how to research things in libraries and school and you know, you you gain a sort of more independent view on research, but then there are those times in life where you still remain codependent because you, for example, want somebody to give you a helping hand, walk through a new app, or being voluntarily putting yourself into a situation where you're codependent on somebody else to guide you or to put you in a place where you can have the answer at your fingertips without you actually figuring it out for yourself. And understanding that there are situations where specialist knowledge is such that you have to rely on somebody on occasion. This type of codependency in your search for the answer to solve your problem and throwing it into the hands of somebody else by asking a question to give you direction or guidance means that then you have opened yourself up spiritually as well. To let in all sorts of potential entities to further cripple you. Because I do believe that being dependent on another person is crippling. You're not being your full self. You're not showing up for yourself. And even if you're in a long term relationship, if you got one of you as the person that's always asking the questions, you're not fully self reliant, are you, in figuring things out. And I totally get it. You figure, well, you know, the two of us will come up with one solution, but you're weakening yourself. Spiritually. And when we talk about these incoming projections of energy that is negative appears in flashes of anger, of rage, jealousy, imbalance, anxiety, worry. It's those opportunities that those who are projecting negatively want to seize. It's that quick opportunity to get into you through your spiritual bubble to your soul and take whatever energy you have. And they will amplify that, transmute it for their own gain. It's the kind of inspired aha moment or whatever vibe you want to attribute to it. It could be exhilaration. Whatever that energy is that that siphoner receives can then be materialized as an idea and made money from. Or just enjoy the siphon. Ride the ride the energy of that person that you're trespassing. Leaving the unsuspecting siphony drained, pleaded, feeling Not motivated. You get the situation of where you're constantly asking somebody questions and the person that's at receiving the questions is gonna feel drained because they're having to exert more of their own energy t back to you to provide that answer because you know they're good people. They wanna do the right thing, right? But in the same token, it's weakened you because you haven't built up your own muscle, your brain. It's one thing to ask somebody a knowledgeable question that is nuanced in the topic that you are seeking to acquire knowledge and then come to your own final conclusion compared to somebody who is just gonna give you the answers on the test and let you run with it without consequence. That codependency that you've allowed yourself to experience is theft. Why did you take that other person's energy without their permission? There's a possibility that they may be temporarily controlled and manipulated to do just that because you might unbeknownst to you be targeted. Targeted in a way spiritually and energetically that gives you a sense of unease, imbalance, chaos, that kind of instability that generates more of those heavy vibes of anger, rage, jealousy, anxiety that further puts out that negative energy into the universe for others to harvest off of, and then you're depleted because you didn't get anything in it for return. Because after all, What you found out is that you still didn't get the right answer. Every soul, no matter how balanced, no matter how divinely protected, can be susceptible to this. I see it. You may not see it, and I'm not asking you to trust me, but if it does resonate with you, I'm grateful. I see it because I have the tool of telepathy and Claire audience and other Claire's to be able to read energies in a way, to see it coming from afar. And if you are unable to do that, the solution is to learn. To be less codependent when you're asking people to help you research an answer. The responsibility of researching the correct answer falls entirely on my shoulders. You know the folks in your life, or maybe yourself, myself included, the retort when you recognize you've made a s mistake and you go, ⁓ well, so and so told me that was the way to do it. Yeah. Well, you've done that on a job, haven't you? you've been early out in your career and somebody showed you the ropes on how to do this process and you had no way to know whether that process was official in terms of what the company expects to have happen or what. But you go ahead and do it and then a mistake is made, intentional or not. And when then when a higher up asks, Well, what went wrong, forensically you say, ⁓ well so and so right? And then you go, ⁓ yeah, I failed to properly research this. I didn't know what questions additional to what I had originally conceived would need to be asked to fully complete this task effectively. Oftentimes you don't learn these things until life has happened to you. And hopefully you refer back to them at some point when you encounter a situation of research that's needed doing and you remind yourself not to do it that way again. It's that aha moment of saying, don't put your faith in other people that haven't proven themselves to you. Probably the most common example of this is in the days before we had sort of reliable GPS and having smartphones that could be connected anywhere in the world was that you find yourself traveling and ⁓ for whatever reason you don't have a mobile phone signal and you're not understanding what your GPS is telling you to go and direction wise, you have to reach out to somebody. You have to put your faith in somebody that is just a total stranger to you at that point to guide you. You have to use your discernment to l to get a vibe check on this person as to whether they are intentionally sending you down the wrong path because they consider it a fun thing to do, or whether they're being earnest and being genuinely helpful. This is those situations where eventually they happen frequently, where you're let down by people that fail to show up for you, that you recognize that the ones that are s not showing up for you are hiding their codependency and it shows out in these situations for which you have to now be mindful going forward. I now better understand that there also may be an injection of negative energy unbeknownst to that person that you're connecting with that gets amplified because you've left yourself open to trust because you had nowhere to go but to trust a stranger or to trust a friend but who you have no idea in all of these years that they might be carrying an entity attachment on their back. And it's not to suggest that you have to withdraw your trusting energy from everybody, but it does really mean that your response with your n non reaction to those adverse events because you did and it didn't go well has to be really stoic. And this is the other point that I'm coming to. My first couple years as a widow, my world had changed so drastically that I was pretty much alone and recognized that there were times throughout my marriage, quite frequently, where I defaulted to my husband's direction or suggestion. And now I see that I had made myself codependent. Even though I was the breadwinner and he bought the house and he at one point had ha all of his money that we shared. Well, he wasn't generating a lot of money after we bought the house, so What I'm suggesting is that the balance that we had as a couple, emotionally and spiritually and physically, s remained balanced, but we had to offset it when one of us was the big financial contributor and when the other was. And that while we always respected each other's judgment, there was a history of me making bad advice that made him very circumspect. Had I seen it at the time, I would have worked it on myself then to better recognize. I needed to flex my muscle and build up my strength in that way. So that I could show up for him equally as he was doing for me. And we get this way. We get we establish these relationships with people that we accept them on faith in such a place that we can ask them all sorts of questions and feel that we're getting reliable, truthful knowledge in exchange. Sometimes we don't. And sometimes it's because they have been temporarily been under the control of a lurking entity attachment. That is already in and around their energy, waiting. For the right time to appear. These could be things that are latent for decades. You'll have to talk to the demons directly to get more detail on that. But from the observer side of it, you might only see it once, and it could happen to you so quickly, spiritual sense, that could even linger in your energy for a long time. Because you've now let that entity into your world without knowing it. So your response when these things happen, you have to figure out, you have to train yourself. And this is what I did the first couple of years that I was a widow was train myself how to non-react, how to be calm and peaceful and genuine, open, authentic with that calm and peace. You're fully present, but you're not putting any injured energy into it. And those that are reading that from you see that you're speaking truth because it's calm and peaceful. You don't have anything to gain to lash out energetically towards them. They want you to. They want to take your energy from you and use it for their own gain. The idea that when something would happen to me, I would flip the script so that I was the one happening to them with their energy to see where that landed, and recognize that probably nine out of ten times, that empathy gave me the calm and peace that I needed to diffuse the potential of any entity attaching to me or engaging with me. I bolster that with positivity. I bolster that with my self love. My acceptance that my faith is truth, that my faith is my acceptance of truth. Having faith in your discernment and your intuition. All that crazy stuff that goes fl flowing through your brain that you just can't get a handle on, that's still truth. You just haven't grabbed it as your own. And you might not want to. It's your discernment that guides you, isn't it? Well, when I recognized that my discernment was leading me down the proper path in life, then I realized I was no longer codependent. The end of it all is have a look at your life. Are you the one that's asking questions of everybody? Are there two or three people that are your main sources of research? Or are you the one who gets asked questions all the time? I certainly am. Well, have a close look at the imbalance and the codependency that is sort of floating under the surface and fix it. Fix it with your stoic, non-reactive, calm, peaceful, joyful vibe. And if it means that you have to cut somebody off, In my view, the way to cut somebody off from that behavior is to g give them good solid information about how to get their own answers and then walk away. When you recognize that you are on some level codependent with people in your life and stop that because you have more empathy now for seeing how flipping the script works for you, you're doing a really good thing for the universe. And after all, we are the universe and we are in the universe. Thank you for sharing your energy with me today. I appreciate you.