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Episode 588: What To Do If Your Ex Immediately Starts Dating Someone Else · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is the Chia with the art of
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  love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about what to do,
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  if your ex immediately starts dating someone else.
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  Oh no, what do you do? Don't worry, I'll tell you
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  exactly what to do as usual, but first, I want to welcome back my
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  link to that is also below every single video and every single
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  podcast. Okay, so, Your ex is dating
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  someone you already within a month or two after the breakup,
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  which notes pretty quick. So, I know you are in a panic
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  right now. When you first find out, but
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  remember our no contact slogan. We don't react, we do a
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  no-contact. So before you start reaching for
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  your phone to tell them off, because they moved out so
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  quickly. How dare you move on?
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  So quickly? Yeah.
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  Slow down. And take a breath.
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  They're not. To stop bidding the other person
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  just because you told them off from moving on, so quickly,
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  nothing's going to change just because you reach out, so don't
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  make a fool of yourself. All right.
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  It's not the end of the world, I know it feels like it but guess
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  what? It's actually the best thing
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  that could have happened. I'm not kidding.
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  Now, there are two exceptions to what I'm about to tell you as to
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  what to do, if your ex starts dating, someone else right away.
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  So be sure to listen to the end because I will tell you what
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  those two exceptions are Okay, so you should actually be
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  celebrating. You should be throwing a party.
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  And no, I'm not being sarcastic as I usually am.
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  Haha, your ex immediately jumping into a new relationship
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  is great news because the chances of that lasting our
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  little to none, believe it or not you actually want your ex to
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  move on. Quickly to start dating someone
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  else right away? Why, it's not going to last and
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  no I am not being taught. Basically positive.
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  It's a fact. I am positive the chances of it.
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  Lasting are little to none. So what are the reasons for
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  this? Why am I so positive?
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  All right, here are my reasons. First of all, the new person is
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  a temporary distraction. They don't want to think about
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  The Break-Up or go through the grieving process.
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  So they are keeping themselves busy with someone else.
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  And since The Break-Up just happened, they're going to be
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  talking about who you a lot and eventually that is going to get
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  annoying to the person they're dating.
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  And they will definitely be comparing you to the new person.
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  So if you were a great boyfriend or a great girlfriend or a great
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  wife or a great husband, then it's going to be difficult to
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  replace you and it's definitely not going to be the first person
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  they started. Dating the odds of that are slim
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  that's Why you always want to be working on yourself, even if
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  you're in a relationship and bring your best self to a
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  relationship or a dating situation that way.
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  If someone tries to replace you, it will be close to the
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  impossible and they were realize that they lost someone that
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  can't be replaced. Another reason is that it takes
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  time to form an emotional bond as strong as the one that you
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  guys had. So your ex might try to push
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  things with the rebound. In order to try to get that Bond
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  sooner rather than later. Try to move things along.
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  And that will usually push a new person away.
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  Just because they're attracted someone else and they're giving
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  their time attention and probably more, it doesn't mean
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  that your ex doesn't miss you. They're usually moving on that
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  quick so that they don't have to deal with the grief that comes
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  at the end of a relationship. As I mentioned earlier, it
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  doesn't mean that they're not going to change their mind and
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  get back with. You doesn't mean you'll never
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  get them back. Okay, so calm down right now.
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  The rebound looks better. I know you don't want to hear
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  that. But the reason the rebound looks
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  better is because they haven't had any problems with them yet.
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  They haven't been triggered by them yet, and everyone will
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  trigger you at some point. So, right now, the new person
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  looks perfect, but of course, we know that no one is, right?
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  Do not, I repeat, do not do the grand gesture and I'm mainly
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  talking to guys because women they don't usually do the grand
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  gestures. It's just simply not going to
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  work, okay? And you're going to look like an
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  idiot and they're going to be laughing about you.
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  Did you see what my ex did? Ha Ha ha.
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  He finally proposed now that I broke up with him now he wants
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  to get married huh? Or he bought me five thousand
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  dollars worth of roses. Or whatever crazy thing guys do.
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  Okay? So look at the positive side of
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  the situation, you now have time to work on yourself.
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  On the things, your partner complained about during the
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  relationship or on the reason that your ex broke up with you
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  that way when you hear from them, they will have a good
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  reason to want to give you a second chance instead of coming
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  back to the same old relationship.
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  Now, I know you're wondering. Well, how long will they be with
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  the rebound? Well, it's usually only for
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  several months so that could be two, three, four, five, six.
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  But it's going to be a lot longer if you try to intervene
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  or freaked out because they will bond over how the X you is
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  acting crazy. Okay?
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  So don't do it. Now, for the two exceptions that
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  I mentioned earlier, If your ex was cheating and that is who
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  they are now dating or if they had emotionally left the
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  relationship, many months, or even years before the break up,
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  then most of what I said, does not apply to your situation.
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  They're not trying to distract themselves or not.
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  Go through The Grieving period as they've already grieved and
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  have moved on while they were in the relationship with you, okay?
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  Sorry. So now I want to hear from you.
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  Did your ex move on quickly after the breakup Or do you
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  suspect that they moved on quickly?
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  If you don't know, you don't always know, right?
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  Sometimes you just expect and if you would like, help to get your
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  ex back, you can contact me at the arch of love dotnet.
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  The direct link is below and we will send you the rates they are
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  not on the website. If you found this video helpful,
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  please, like, subscribe, and share.
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  If you're listening to this as a podcast, please rate your review
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  and finally remember that love inspires and empowers uplifts
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  and and lightens Or do you suspect that they moved on
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  quickly? If you don't know, you don't
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  always know, right? Sometimes you just expect and if
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  you would like, help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
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  the arch of love dotnet. The direct link is below and we
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  will send you the rates they are not on the website.
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  If you found this video helpful, please, like, subscribe, and
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  share. If you're listening to this as a
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  podcast, please rate your review and finally remember that love
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  inspires and empowers uplifts and and lightens