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Hypnosis for Pee Shyness - Paruresis Hypnotherapy · The Hypnotist

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Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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created for someone. With pee shyness and pee
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shyness. Is a particular form of social
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anxiety where more often than not men in public environments,
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particularly urinals, where there is no physical barrier
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between other. Men.
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Have an inability to pee in those kind of environments and
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quite often the things that can exacerbate that.
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Are. How busy it is, if there is
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people waiting, the proximity to the closest urinal.
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All of these things can make it worse, and it can lead to people
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in this loop where the harder they try to pee, then the more
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difficult it becomes. And the more conscious they
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become of how long it's taken, the more they unconsciously
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think that other people are judging them or thinking that
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they can't go to the toilet, which then makes it even worse.
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And quite often the coping strategy for men in this
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situation is to pretend they've gone to the toilet and leave.
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But obviously they still need to go to the toilet or to.
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Find something. In an enclosure, quite often a
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stall where they will go in privacy.
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This hypnosis session, however, is designed to tackle it from a
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different way. And then it uses principles like
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certain performance enhancement and performance anxiety,
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hypnosis, certain elements of the law of reverse effect.
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Because that's kind of what's happening is that the harder
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they try to pee, the more difficult it becomes.
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So we inverse that future pacing using disassociation.
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So they see the future version of them totally fine in the same
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situation. And even disassociation from
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context that they just imagine the version of them that can't
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pee has to wait outside, while the version of them that clearly
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can pee because they can pee in private and they can pee in
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stalls, goes to the urinal. So there are various things
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happening here. It was created for an
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individual, therefore not all of the suggestions will take into
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account your situation because it was created for someone else.
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So if this helps then great. But if you feel like you would
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want something more bespoke or it doesn't quite fit what your
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anxiety or experience is, there will be a link in the
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description where you can schedule a completely free
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consultation. Call to explore working with me.
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For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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won't be disturbed. Relax.
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And enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, breathe in that feeling of calm relaxation.
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And as you exhale, feel that wonderful sense of release,
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particularly around your eyelids, your forehead, your
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jaw, So much so that with every outward breath you feel yourself
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drifting into a place of deeper and deeper relaxation that's in.
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And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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And I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine a
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frozen stream somewhere out in nature, in a rugged landscape.
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But I want you to see a stream that is frozen solid.
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Imagine it being picturesque, beautiful, serene even.
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But I want you to imagine standing by the side of that
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frozen stream and imagine the season is changing, shifting
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from winter to spring. And I want you to imagine seeing
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blue skies and bright sunshine. And I want you to imagine what
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it would look like and sound like for that frozen stream to
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thaw, to gradually breath by breath, start to melt away that
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frozen stream. So eventually what was frozen,
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locked and static and still starts to flow and move and
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allow the frozen stream to represent.
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Not just. Any tension and stress in your
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body that is melting away breath by breath.
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But I want you to imagine that the frozen stream represents
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something you used to believe about, something you can or
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cannot do. So as you breathe in and breathe
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out, see that belief represented in the frozen stream also
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melting away. That's it.
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Deeper and deeper, Relaxed. And maybe you could imagine a
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gentle breeze or perhaps the feeling of that warm spring
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sunshine on your skin. Just get a sense that the deeper
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you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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And the more relaxed you become, the more of that tension is just
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drifting away, melting away, enabling you to go to that place
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where powerful changes take place that last forever.
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Breathing in and breathing out. Allow your shoulders to relax,
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your jaw to relax. That's it.
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Another slow breath in. And as you breathe out longer
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this time, imagine releasing tension from your body just like
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steam from a pressure valve, each breath softening,
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loosening, unwinding. And we need to get a sense that
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this place in nature, with this frozen stream that is now
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flowing, this safe, private, relaxing place represents your
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inner world place where your body and mind work in harmony.
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That's it. To stare into that flowing
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stream. Effortless, natural, and the
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stream doesn't need to try to flow.
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The stream flows exactly as it needs to.
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The stream can't try to flow. It just does.
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No forcing, no holding, just ease.
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And I want you to get a sense that you have irrefutable
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evidence that your body knows how to release, your body knows
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how to let go as memories come to mind of places where when
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you've been in a private place or a comfortable place, your
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body knew exactly what to do without trying.
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And what if all you need to do is nothing because you've been
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trying, concentrating, intending?
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But what if all you need to do is to stop trying?
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The more you try, the harder it becomes.
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But sometimes, when you have permission not to try at all, a
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door closing on a stall, things are effortlessly easy.
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The very moment you stop trying, the moment you allow, everything
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changes. I want you to imagine the moment
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you stop trying to go, you find it easier to go, and you give
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your body full permission to not need to go at all.
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Nothing to do. It's the absence of doing that
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paradoxically increases the facilitation of ease.
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You're giving yourself permission to not need.
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And then more often, things will just happen automatically,
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naturally, without thought. I want you to think of a time
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where you try to remember a PIN number or a password, and the
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harder you try to remember, the more elusive it became.
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But then maybe you return to that same thing and just put the
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password in completely automatically.
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But by not trying, it became easier.
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You allow yourself to not try because it was never about
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ability. It was about the perception, the
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pressure of needing to perform to do.
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But you don't perform. You simply are, and being you is
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more than enough. Because what if there was an
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unconscious burden not of judgement, But imagine judgement
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the moment you're private, that imagine judgement goes away
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because people are more focused on themselves than you ever
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realized. You're not the centre of their
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attention, they're caught up in their own worlds and I want you
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to get a sense that you are also no longer the centre of even
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your own judgement either. I want you to imagine out of
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nowhere you see a building next to this flowing stream, a busy
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bustling place with lots of people.
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But I want you to imagine you see a future version of you in
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that busy building, and maybe it's a social place, maybe a
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bar, a restaurant, a concert, or something else.
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I want you to imagine seeing yourself just a few days or a
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few weeks from now, and there seems to be a subtle shift.
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Something very subtle, just a slight looseness in how you
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move, a relaxation in your facial expressions.
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Very subtly more carefree and relaxed.
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Smiling just a little bit more, but not forcing a smile.
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Like this version of you seems to not care at all about the
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perceptions or judgement of other people because they are
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aligned with themselves. And I want you to imagine seeing
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that version of you relaxed socially when having
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conversations. But then imagine seeing that
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same version of you walking to the restroom and deliberately
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choosing a rhino in close proximity to someone else.
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And maybe there was no choice, it's just full of people.
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But even if there was an opportunity to choose a stall,
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see that version of you deliberately choosing a urinal
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and not a urinal. There, on the edges, by the
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sides, the most central location of all the urinals.
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See that version of you confidently and relaxed and
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effortlessly going to the toilet as easily as you would in your
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own home or a private stall? I want you to get a sense then.
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It feels like the absence of needing to do anything is
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facilitating an ease of relaxation, a sense of flow.
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That version of you isn't even thinking about it.
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Any thoughts? Concerns that parked outside of
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the restroom, that part of them is not welcome in.
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So you see in that moment, that different version of you
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effortlessly going to the toilet, going for that pee in
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that public urinal, even though there's many people there,
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perhaps even people queuing behind you, just waiting for you
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to finish and none of it matters.
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I want you to get a sense then that version of you already
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knows how to access the same normal path where you use when
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you're going for a pee in private.
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But I want you to imagine stepping into that version of
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you 10 seconds after you've finished, and then imagine
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rewinding everything, going all the way back out, and realizing
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that you need to go for a pee. I want you to imagine doing it
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in the absence of thinking. Nothing to do, nothing to think.
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And you get a sense that that old part of you, that part that
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might get subtly tense, on edge, vigilant, that version of you
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knows that they simply wait outside the restroom.
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And the part of you that is connected with this feeling of
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ease and relaxation knows exactly what to do, because
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there is nothing needed to be done.
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So in your own body, just imagine walking up to that
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restroom, mentally parking that other old version of you outside
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finding them. Central location in the urinals,
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and it's almost like your mind is drifting off somewhere else,
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like you're on autopilot thinking of a conversation you
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want to have, something you want to do.
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There is nothing you need to think about.
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It just all happens by itself, and before you know it, you've
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finished and you notice there was nothing needed to be done.
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Your brain already knows how to do this, and you can interpret
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what's happened here as a sign that old fears of judgement, no
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matter how subtle. And now in your past, not in
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your present or future. And I want you to imagine that
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what if the changes here echo into different areas of your
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life that other fears of judgement evaluations also melt
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away, like that stream of ice that melts into fresh flowing
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water. But allow your mind to think of
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the most difficult place historically that it's ever been
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for you. Busy, many people, people
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queuing, knowing that people are waiting.
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See yourself doing it fine 1st. And then when you've seen that,
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rewind it. Step into that version of you
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and then feel how good it would feel to pee without worry,
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stress, pressure, nothing at all.
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Because in the past you were trying, and the trying made it
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elusive. But this is the absence of
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trying, and if you feel any sense, any echoes of tension,
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this just means that you're expanding your comfort zone and
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you can smile to yourself with that bring it on mentality,
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refusing to back down. But nothing needed to be done.
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Just imagine that even if you were surrounded by people, you
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could imagine what it would feel like to be completely on your
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own by a stream peeing straight into the water.
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Nothing needed to be done, just allowing nature to take its
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course. And I want you to get a sense
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that this feels like training at altitude.
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You come to the conclusion that if you can pee here in this
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public place, you can do it anywhere, anywhere, at any time,
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no matter how busy or not. These things simply don't
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concern you anymore as you come to the conclusion that this will
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ripple into different areas of your life, conversations with
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new people, in public places, even in your mind.
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Simply the ripple of feeling relaxed and immune to judgement
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feels empowering. And you already know that this
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is not just about urinals or peeing.
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It's about freedom, a new identity, a new level of ease
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that spreads into every part of your life.
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I want you to get a sense that whether this happens today,
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tomorrow, a week from now, or a month from now, you have the
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irrefutable belief that it simply will change.
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And when it changes, it will be evidence that you've broken the
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loop, rewired the pattern, that this unconscious habit is then
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remaining in your past, and a subtle shift to your identity is
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activated in the present and the future.
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And that version of you feels a sense of ease and flow and
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alignment with your natural self.
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And that pressure and fear of judgement, no matter how subtle,
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all that belongs to the past. I want you to leave that busy
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building there by the stream. Return to the stream.
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Winter turned to spring and now summer, and I want you to
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imagine how good and refreshing it would be to take a dip in
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that stream and allow the stream to wash away any memories of the
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past that hold you back, rejuvenate you, make you feel
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fresh in you and at ease with this new version that you're
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becoming. It's time to leave this stream
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in your imagination and begin to return to the present.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes 910. Wide awake.
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Wide awake. Wide awake.
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