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Patreon Teaser: Vision Boards, Manifestations, and Goals · To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

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  Hey, tolerators, this week's episode is your trailer sneak peat into what goes
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  on on our Patreon. So this month we have Julia Washington. We're getting
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  a little look into an episode that her and I did at the beginning of
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  the year, where we talked about how we manifest and sucles for the year.
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  For me, it involves lengthy tarot readings, some manifestations, lightning,
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  paper on fire, the full moon for jewels. It requires calendars, counting,
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  math, goal indicators. We come to some common ground and we talk
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  about goal setting and what it looks like to plan out a year. We
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  are hoping to revisit it now that we are halfway through the year on a
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  future Patreon episode. So make sure that you go ahead and head to patreon
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  dot com and check out to all the men I've tolerated before there and our
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  different tiers so you can join in on the fun. Oh you can raise
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  it. Oh my gosh, just like zoom. It's just like I don't
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  think it type you messages like oh my gosh. Patreon members, you are
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  in for a treat today because we are experimenting with how we're recording the show
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  and we're not just doing it through zoom and relying on their shitty audio.
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  So if it sounds better, please let us know in the comments if you
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  couldn't recognize the fabulous voice on the other end of the show, Jules is
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  our January twenty twenty three guests, and we're going to be talking about how
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  we set our intentions and our goals for the new year, because it's a
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  new fucking year, new year, new you, new year, saying me,
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  probably new problems year, new problems, right, new year, new
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  problems. I finished my vision board last night during Critical Role because my goal
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  was to have it done by today. Nice. So I saw that Penelope
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  was absorbing it. Yeah, she immediately as soon as I walked away from
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  it to me, I'll like and now I can concentrate on Critical Role.
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  She like, you know, she will like dig get things that are papers.
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  She's been bad about that with my junk journal. So I'm like,
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  I slay to god, if I just did that and it looks amazing and
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  you tear it up, we will not have a twenty twenty three. Okay,
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  Penelope, you thought I loved you, right and then like she but
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  she just sat in the middle of it. Staring at me, and I'm
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  like, yes, bitch, and view it with your witchy powers. She's
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  like, I'm just setting my intentions. She probably only like set the intention
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  that I wrote out that was to keep her healthy. She's like, well,
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  well you need to do that. You need to do that, but
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  she needs to set the intention and not scare the shit out of you this
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  year, also that so there will be no falling out of the windows and
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  no health crisis. I don't know if you do this with Miss Joe Marge,
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  but you know, pets get really hot on your lap because you guys
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  are sharing body warmth the entire time. I'm like, do you have a
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  fever? I'm constantly petting her head, like how do you check if an
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  animal has a few fever? Because I also think that like part of hurrying
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  and like the way that cats, it also heats him up. And my
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  house is cold as fuck, so the cat probably is constantly like self warming
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  and I'm like, are you hot? Do you have a fever? Josephine
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  will shiver if it's too cold in this house. She'll start like and I
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  don't know if it's like intentional or if she's doing it to be like,
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  mother, it's cold, mother, And so then I'll like, Okay,
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  here's a fuzzy blanket, and then she'll call like she'll just like warm.
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  But it gets really hot here in the summer, like in the Triple digits.
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  Anyway, I don't know. She's so funny. She's like a little
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  princess. Our beds are so funny. But she does make the intention list
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  every year that it's like, Penelope has to be healthy because we don't have
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  money and I don't have a great headspace. So I would jove by the
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  vet hospital today after I dropped off Joe for her grimmer appointment, and I
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  was like, should I buy pet insurance? Is that expensive? It's no,
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  And they make you think then it's like seventy five dollars a month.
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  I feel like pet Smart has it for twenty five dollars a month. Okay,
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  that's that's doable. That's because she is five now, and I do
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  worry. I don't know. I feel like five is not old, but
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  it's not young. When I told Stephanie's kids that Penelope was five, uh,
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  the little girl twin looked at me, and you can only have about
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  five good years left and I was like, what the fuck? How am
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  I already this person at eight? Right? My friend's cat lived until twenty
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  until she was twenty two, and I was like, jokes, bring the
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  last four years she was on like she was like renal failure stuff. I
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  was like, jokes are on you? I was like, which is familiar?
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  Cats live for hundreds of years? Yes, they continue you and your
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  family's line. I've read every Alice Hoffman book. Those cats were old,
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  crotchety and living in a graveyard. Mmm, that's going to me. That's
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  gonna be you old crotchety. I'm living in a graveyard. Probably is that
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  your intention for twenty twenty twenty three move into graveyard? No? I didn't.
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  I don't know. I did have somebody call me a witch because I
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  predicted the time correctly, And I was like, how is that witchy when
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  it's literally the sun like you just look out, said like, how do
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  you not know how to tell time based on the sun? Or you just
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  have a general awareness of how much time has spent pasting your day? I
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  say that like it's a it's a easy thing to do, and I have
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  time blindness. I never know. I'm like, is it Thursday yet,
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  and they're like, well, namily, yesterday was Thursday and you did watch
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  Critical Roles. Ye know, it's not Thursday yet because that's our tagline.
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  Is it Thursday yet? And I'm like, oh, is it? And
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  they're like, no, it's Friday. You watched it last night. Mine's
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  But I'm better at it in the first thing in the morning because I am
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  not a morning person. So when it's like when I wake up, when
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  Joe comes in for food, and it's it's like because I don't keep a
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  clock in my room. Yeah, I have a really good sense of time.
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  And then once I'm up and moving then it's like I don't know what's
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  happening. I don't know what I'm doing here? Why are we still doing
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  this? Speaking of witchy familiars, I'm already sure that all of the ways
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  that I make goals in twenty twenty three and every year is way witchy.
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  And you probably make smart goals, like you probably have like a notebook with
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  like a chart. I actually don't necessarily, I don't know. Maybe they
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  are smart goals I always set out to do, so I set up I
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  look at every month, so like in December, it's Okay, what do
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  I want to achieve in in January? What do I have coming up in
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  January? And how do I want to be successful in those things? Or
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  what kind of bricks do I need to lay down to get to that thing?
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  Because sometimes it's like this really big thing I want to achieve and it's
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  not going to happen in thirty days because I don't like to plan out the
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  full year because that feels like a not a lot of pressure. But as
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  we've talked about in the past, in multiple times, like I'll make plans
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  and then some motherfucker who knocked me up decides that I don't get to do
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  those plants. Oh my god, I hope you're not getting knocked up in
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  twenty twenty three. Your child just left the nest. I know that is
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  not the goal. I actually don't think my body works like that anymore.
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  If I'm gonna be honest, I should make an appointment with the doctor to
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  check. I truly never thought that I was fertile, because like when I
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  was a kid, I thought i'd be a mom, and then all of
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  a sudden I got into my twenties, started having sex, and then made
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  up this idea that I was infertile. Well, I mean there's I feel
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  like, oh, this is terrible. I feel like there's some validity in
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  that when you don't successfully get pregnant on action. Yeah, I had one.
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  I wouldn't see scared and it was made up. I think I was
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  just trying to make my boyfriend upset. I think it was the appeal Asian
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  because like, like my son was an accident. He knows this, he
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  knows that I wouldn't change that. But he's eighteen and I and I don't
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  take birth control because I don't like the way it makes me feel. So
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  I have had successful sex for eighteenish years and have only one child. So
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  that's why I think things don't work properly anymore. Let's see, well,
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  and think they did something to me because I was like twenty and it was
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  a sister. It was a sister. I think they did something and didn't
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  tell me. By the way, I wasn't laughing at infertility. I was
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  laughing at the fact that my brain one day just willed myself to be infertile.
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  It was like, and you won't have babies. You just don't want
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  that. You just we've closed that off for you, I am on birth
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  control. And every year, every time I listened to a podcast and they
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  talk about birth control, I'm like, am I slowly poisoning myself? Like
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  I saw like a reel about it yesterday, these two older women being like,
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  we put these kids on birth control at twelve years old? What does
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  that do to their brains in their hearts? I'm like, what's it doing
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  in my brain? In my heart? But what are the qualifications to judge
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  that? You know? I would love to get a doctor on the podcast
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  and be like, can you confirm or deny if I am? I think
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  I tried to ask my doctor one day. I was like, Hi,
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  I am in on birth control since I was one. So we're thirteen years
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  and I heard that like ten years was like the scary number. That's when
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  it starts to fuck up your body. I don't know if I made that
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  up or if I saw it on a TikTok or if I Cosmo We're yeah,
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  like a fucking targeted ad on Facebook. But somehow the number ten got
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  into my brain, and I believe it was during quarantine, and I believe
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  I was like, fuck, it's already been ten years. I'm done.
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  Done why I'm inert. I was on birth control when I got pregnant.
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  Yeah, that's it's so so after my son, I was like, well,
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  I don't like the way it makes me feel. I got pregnant anyway,
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  so fuck it. I'm just gonna do what are the Catholic people call
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  it. They's just when they track their period and their cycles. That's just
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  that's what I've been doing since m T five. Yeah, the rhythm.
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  Yeah, I've been successful. I haven't had a pregnancy scare and I only
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  have one child. I listen, I never know when I'm ovulating. Sometimes
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  I just put my hand to my stomach and I'm like, now, like
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  I know, like that feels like ovulation. And it's mostly because like everything
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  hurts, like everything hurts during your menstrual cycle. So I'm like a guess
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  that I swear. I can feel which side of my fallopian tube is releasing
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  the egg, and I like feel it like just pop out of my body,
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  which is not how it works, no, but that's what it feels
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  like. I understand. I totally understand. And then whatever fallopian tube release
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  the egg, that opposite boob is going to be sore balanced, yes,
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  yes, yes, It's like we need to make sure that both sides ache
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  are all bad. But I do actually take that my cycle into consideration when
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  I make my plans too. Oh my god, do you, Because as
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  you know, I can't think when I'm PM essay and not never hold and
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  the other the thing under other. Can I ne