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The Real Reason You Feel Behind | EP 308 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Listen,
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  I
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  blame
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  MASH
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  for
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  this.
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  Do
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  you
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  remember
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  that
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  game
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  MASH?
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  You'd
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  sit
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  in
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  your
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  class
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  with
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  your
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  friends
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  and
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  fold
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  the
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  paper
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  all
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  weird,
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  and
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  suddenly
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  some
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  random
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  game
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  was
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  deciding
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  your
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  future.
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  You'd
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  marry
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  Justin
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  from
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  third
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  period.
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  You'd
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  have
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  four
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  kids
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  and
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  live
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  in
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  a
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  mansion.
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  Or
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  if
• 0:24
  MASH
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  was
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  feeling
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  extra
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  disrespectful,
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  it
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  would
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  have
• 0:28
  you
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  living
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  in
• 0:29
  a
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  shack.
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  Like,
• 0:34
  excuse
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  me,
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  what?
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  By
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  age
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  11,
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  we
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  already
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  had
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  imaginary
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  timelines.
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  Married
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  by
• 0:42
  25,
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  kids
• 0:44
  by
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  27,
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  dream
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  house
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  with
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  a
• 0:46
  dog,
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  living
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  the
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  perfect
• 0:47
  life.
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  The
• 0:48
  problem
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  is
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  we
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  didn't
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  leave
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  the
• 0:51
  game
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  in
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  childhood.
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  We
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  just
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  brought
• 0:53
  it
• 0:53
  with
• 0:53
  us,
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  and
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  now
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  we
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  are
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  adults
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  looking
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  around
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  wondering
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  why
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  life
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  isn't
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  matching
• 0:58
  the
• 0:58
  script.
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  And
• 0:59
  then
• 1:00
  we
• 1:00
  get
• 1:00
  frustrated,
• 1:01
  discouraged,
• 1:02
  and
• 1:02
  feel
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  behind
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  Not
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  because
• 1:04
  our
• 1:04
  life
• 1:05
  is
• 1:05
  wrong,
• 1:06
  we've
• 1:06
  just
• 1:06
  been
• 1:07
  comparing
• 1:07
  it
• 1:07
  to
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  a
• 1:08
  timeline
• 1:08
  we
• 1:09
  made
• 1:09
  up.
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  We're
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  gonna
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  address
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  the
• 1:12
  real
• 1:13
  reason
• 1:13
  you
• 1:13
  feel
• 1:13
  behind
• 1:14
  and
• 1:14
  why
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  this
• 1:15
  invisible
• 1:15
  clock
• 1:16
  is
• 1:16
  still
• 1:16
  in
• 1:16
  joy
• 1:17
  from
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  people
• 1:18
  every
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  single
• 1:18
  day.
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  Ooh,
• 1:20
  and
• 1:20
  friend,
• 1:21
  if
• 1:21
  you
• 1:21
  haven't
• 1:21
  already
• 1:22
  done
• 1:22
  so,
• 1:23
  hit
• 1:23
  that
• 1:23
  subscribe
• 1:24
  button
• 1:24
  so
• 1:24
  you
• 1:24
  don't
• 1:24
  miss
• 1:25
  a
• 1:25
  thing.
• 1:26
  If
• 1:26
  you
• 1:26
  can
• 1:26
  hear
• 1:27
  Aerosmith
• 1:27
  right
• 1:28
  now
• 1:28
  singing,
• 1:28
  "I
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  Don't
• 1:29
  Want
• 1:29
  to
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  Miss
• 1:29
  a
• 1:29
  Thing,"
• 1:30
  you
• 1:30
  are
• 1:30
  my
• 1:30
  people.
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  And
• 1:33
  we
• 1:33
  are
• 1:33
  really
• 1:34
  about
• 1:34
  to
• 1:34
  get
• 1:35
  into
• 1:35
  it
• 1:38
  Hey,
• 1:38
  hey,
• 1:38
  hey.
• 1:39
  Welcome
• 1:39
  back
• 1:40
  to
• 1:40
  Confident
• 1:40
  and
• 1:40
  Empowered
• 1:41
  Women.
• 1:42
  This
• 1:42
  is
• 1:42
  the
• 1:43
  place
• 1:43
  where
• 1:43
  we
• 1:43
  reconnect
• 1:44
  you
• 1:45
  back
• 1:45
  to
• 1:45
  the
• 1:45
  best
• 1:46
  of
• 1:46
  you
• 1:46
  so
• 1:46
  you
• 1:46
  can
• 1:47
  create
• 1:47
  a
• 1:47
  life
• 1:47
  filled
• 1:48
  with
• 1:48
  confidence,
• 1:49
  alignment,
• 1:50
  and
• 1:50
  deep
• 1:50
  love.
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  And
• 1:52
  listen,
• 1:52
  one
• 1:52
  of
• 1:52
  the
• 1:52
  most
• 1:53
  talked
• 1:53
  about
• 1:54
  topics
• 1:54
  amongst
• 1:55
  clients
• 1:55
  is
• 1:56
  feeling
• 1:56
  behind.
• 1:57
  This
• 1:57
  invisible
• 1:58
  clock
• 1:58
  is
• 1:59
  out
• 1:59
  here
• 1:59
  stressing
• 2:00
  people
• 2:01
  out
• 2:01
  left
• 2:01
  and
• 2:02
  right.
• 2:04
  You
• 2:05
  look
• 2:05
  around
• 2:05
  and
• 2:06
  you
• 2:06
  start
• 2:06
  thinking,
• 2:07
  "I
• 2:07
  shoulda
• 2:08
  bought
• 2:08
  the
• 2:08
  house
• 2:08
  already.
• 2:09
  I
• 2:09
  thought
• 2:09
  I'd
• 2:10
  be
• 2:10
  married
• 2:10
  by
• 2:10
  now.
• 2:11
  I
• 2:11
  shoulda
• 2:12
  figured
• 2:12
  out
• 2:12
  my
• 2:12
  purpose.
• 2:13
  I
• 2:14
  thought
• 2:14
  I'd
• 2:14
  be
• 2:14
  further
• 2:15
  in
• 2:15
  my
• 2:15
  business.
• 2:16
  I
• 2:16
  thought
• 2:17
  I'd
• 2:17
  be
• 2:17
  happier
• 2:18
  by
• 2:19
  now."
• 2:19
  All
• 2:20
  because
• 2:21
  you
• 2:21
  created
• 2:21
  this
• 2:21
  timeline
• 2:22
  and
• 2:22
  then
• 2:23
  punish
• 2:23
  yourself
• 2:24
  when
• 2:24
  reality
• 2:25
  doesn't
• 2:25
  obey
• 2:26
  it.
• 2:26
  Friend,
• 2:27
  these
• 2:27
  arbitrary
• 2:28
  dates
• 2:29
  will
• 2:29
  have
• 2:29
  you
• 2:29
  reading
• 2:30
  your
• 2:30
  own
• 2:30
  obituary
• 2:31
  and
• 2:31
  grieving
• 2:31
  a
• 2:32
  life
• 2:32
  you
• 2:32
  haven't
• 2:33
  even
• 2:33
  finished
• 2:33
  living
• 2:34
  yet.
• 2:37
  Got
• 2:37
  you
• 2:37
  out
• 2:37
  here
• 2:38
  acting
• 2:38
  like
• 2:38
  the
• 2:39
  story
• 2:39
  ended
• 2:40
  just
• 2:40
  because
• 2:41
  you're
• 2:41
  not
• 2:41
  where
• 2:42
  you
• 2:42
  imagined
• 2:43
  you'd
• 2:43
  be
• 2:43
  at
• 2:44
  30,
• 2:45
  35,
• 2:45
  40
• 2:46
  and
• 2:46
  so
• 2:47
  on.
• 2:47
  Meanwhile,
• 2:48
  God
• 2:49
  is
• 2:49
  like,
• 2:50
  "Girl,
• 2:50
  the
• 2:51
  movie
• 2:51
  is
• 2:51
  still
• 2:51
  playing."
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  And
• 2:55
  if
• 2:55
  God
• 2:56
  is
• 2:56
  not
• 2:56
  your
• 2:56
  jam,
• 2:57
  source,
• 2:58
  universe,
• 2:58
  whom
• 2:59
  it
• 2:59
  is
• 2:59
  that
• 2:59
  you
• 2:59
  believe
• 3:00
  in,
• 3:01
  the
• 3:01
  truth
• 3:01
  is
• 3:02
  you've
• 3:02
  been
• 3:02
  mourning
• 3:03
  chapters
• 3:04
  you
• 3:04
  haven't
• 3:05
  even
• 3:05
  had
• 3:05
  a
• 3:06
  chance
• 3:06
  to
• 3:06
  live
• 3:06
  yet.
• 3:07
  You
• 3:07
  are
• 3:08
  grieving
• 3:08
  possibilities
• 3:09
  that
• 3:10
  are
• 3:10
  still
• 3:10
  available,
• 3:11
  all
• 3:12
  because
• 3:12
  you're
• 3:13
  not
• 3:13
  on
• 3:13
  a
• 3:13
  schedule
• 3:14
  you
• 3:14
  created
• 3:15
  when
• 3:15
  you
• 3:15
  had
• 3:16
  absolutely
• 3:17
  no
• 3:17
  idea
• 3:18
  what
• 3:19
  life
• 3:19
  would
• 3:19
  bring
• 3:19
  you
• 3:20
  So
• 3:21
  let
• 3:21
  me
• 3:21
  lovingly
• 3:22
  say
• 3:22
  this
• 3:22
  to
• 3:23
  you.
• 3:24
  Break
• 3:24
  up
• 3:24
  with
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  timeline.
• 3:29
  Divorce
• 3:29
  it,
• 3:29
  unsubscribe,
• 3:31
  and
• 3:31
  block
• 3:31
  it.
• 3:32
  You
• 3:32
  were
• 3:32
  never
• 3:33
  meant
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  compare
• 3:34
  yourself
• 3:34
  to
• 3:35
  a
• 3:35
  schedule
• 3:35
  you
• 3:36
  can't
• 3:36
  control,
• 3:37
  because
• 3:37
  when
• 3:38
  you
• 3:38
  do,
• 3:39
  you'll
• 3:39
  miss
• 3:39
  your
• 3:40
  actual
• 3:40
  life
• 3:41
  trying
• 3:41
  to
• 3:42
  chase
• 3:42
  an
• 3:42
  imaginary
• 3:43
  one
• 3:44
  Friend,
• 3:44
  I
• 3:44
  have
• 3:44
  done
• 3:45
  this
• 3:45
  so
• 3:45
  many
• 3:46
  times
• 3:46
  in
• 3:46
  my
• 3:46
  life,
• 3:47
  set
• 3:48
  the
• 3:48
  timeline
• 3:49
  and
• 3:49
  then
• 3:50
  been
• 3:50
  mad
• 3:50
  every
• 3:51
  second
• 3:53
  because
• 3:54
  it
• 3:54
  didn't
• 3:54
  happen
• 3:55
  in
• 3:55
  the
• 3:55
  timeframe
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  thought
• 3:57
  it
• 3:57
  would.
• 3:58
  I've
• 3:58
  seen
• 3:58
  it
• 3:58
  happen
• 3:59
  in
• 3:59
  my
• 3:59
  relationships.
• 4:01
  I've
• 4:01
  seen
• 4:01
  it
• 4:01
  happen
• 4:02
  at
• 4:02
  work.
• 4:03
  There
• 4:03
  was
• 4:04
  really
• 4:04
  no
• 4:04
  place
• 4:05
  that
• 4:05
  time
• 4:06
  was
• 4:07
  not
• 4:07
  impacting
• 4:09
  my
• 4:09
  ability
• 4:10
  to
• 4:10
  enjoy
• 4:11
  my
• 4:11
  time
• 4:12
  So
• 4:12
  let's
• 4:13
  celebrate
• 4:13
  something
• 4:14
  because
• 4:14
  there
• 4:14
  are
• 4:14
  things
• 4:15
  you
• 4:15
  can
• 4:15
  control
• 4:16
  and
• 4:16
  things
• 4:16
  you
• 4:17
  absolutely
• 4:17
  do
• 4:18
  not
• 4:19
  have
• 4:19
  any
• 4:19
  control
• 4:20
  over
• 4:20
  whatsoever.
• 4:23
  You
• 4:24
  can't
• 4:24
  control
• 4:24
  time,
• 4:25
  other
• 4:25
  people,
• 4:26
  opportunities
• 4:27
  appearing
• 4:28
  exactly
• 4:28
  when
• 4:28
  you
• 4:29
  want
• 4:29
  them
• 4:29
  to,
• 4:30
  life
• 4:30
  circumstances.
• 4:31
  You
• 4:32
  cannot
• 4:33
  force
• 4:34
  love.
• 4:35
  You
• 4:35
  can't
• 4:36
  force
• 4:36
  timing,
• 4:37
  readiness,
• 4:38
  or
• 4:38
  seasons
• 4:39
  to
• 4:39
  speed
• 4:40
  up.
• 4:41
  You
• 4:41
  do
• 4:41
  not
• 4:42
  have
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  power
• 4:42
  to
• 4:43
  tell
• 4:43
  winter
• 4:43
  to
• 4:44
  hurry
• 4:44
  up
• 4:45
  and
• 4:45
  become
• 4:45
  spring.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:49
  even
• 4:49
  if
• 4:49
  you
• 4:49
  did
• 4:49
  tell
• 4:50
  it,
• 4:50
  it
• 4:50
  ain't
• 4:50
  gonna
• 4:50
  listen.
• 4:54
  But
• 4:54
  what
• 4:54
  you
• 4:54
  can
• 4:55
  control,
• 4:56
  your
• 4:56
  mindset,
• 4:57
  your
• 4:57
  habits,
• 4:58
  aspects
• 4:59
  of
• 4:59
  your
• 4:59
  healing,
• 5:00
  your
• 5:00
  choices,
• 5:01
  your
• 5:01
  response,
• 5:03
  your
• 5:03
  willingness
• 5:03
  to
• 5:04
  stay
• 5:04
  connected
• 5:05
  to
• 5:05
  yourself.
• 5:06
  You
• 5:06
  may
• 5:06
  not
• 5:07
  control
• 5:07
  when
• 5:07
  things
• 5:08
  arrive,
• 5:09
  but
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  absolutely
• 5:10
  control
• 5:11
  who
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  are
• 5:12
  becoming
• 5:13
  while
• 5:13
  you
• 5:14
  are
• 5:14
  working
• 5:14
  towards
• 5:15
  it
• 5:15
  And
• 5:15
  that's
• 5:16
  how
• 5:16
  you
• 5:16
  shift,
• 5:17
  not
• 5:17
  just
• 5:17
  into
• 5:18
  living
• 5:18
  your
• 5:18
  life,
• 5:19
  but
• 5:19
  loving
• 5:20
  it.
• 5:20
  Because
• 5:20
  suddenly
• 5:21
  your
• 5:21
  life
• 5:22
  isn't
• 5:22
  on
• 5:22
  pause
• 5:23
  anymore.
• 5:24
  You're
• 5:24
  not
• 5:24
  sitting
• 5:24
  around
• 5:25
  waiting
• 5:25
  for
• 5:25
  life
• 5:26
  to
• 5:26
  start.
• 5:26
  You
• 5:26
  are
• 5:27
  living
• 5:27
  it
• 5:28
  This
• 5:29
  one
• 5:29
  thing
• 5:30
  shifted
• 5:30
  so
• 5:31
  much
• 5:31
  for
• 5:31
  me
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  so
• 5:32
  many
• 5:33
  people
• 5:33
  are
• 5:33
  trying
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  get
• 5:35
  somewhere,
• 5:36
  and
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  line
• 5:37
  of
• 5:38
  thinking
• 5:38
  of,
• 5:39
  "Once
• 5:39
  I
• 5:39
  have
• 5:40
  this,
• 5:40
  once
• 5:41
  I
• 5:41
  meet
• 5:41
  him
• 5:42
  or
• 5:42
  her,
• 5:42
  once
• 5:43
  I
• 5:43
  lose
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  weight,
• 5:44
  once
• 5:44
  I
• 5:44
  hit
• 5:45
  this
• 5:45
  income,
• 5:46
  once
• 5:46
  I
• 5:46
  finally
• 5:47
  become..."
• 5:48
  But
• 5:49
  what
• 5:49
  if
• 5:49
  life
• 5:49
  isn't
• 5:50
  asking
• 5:50
  you
• 5:51
  to
• 5:51
  get
• 5:51
  somewhere?
• 5:53
  What
• 5:53
  if
• 5:53
  it's
• 5:53
  inviting
• 5:54
  you
• 5:55
  to
• 5:55
  become
• 5:56
  someone?
• 5:57
  Someone
• 5:57
  who
• 5:58
  actually
• 5:58
  enjoys
• 5:59
  their
• 6:00
  life,
• 6:00
  someone
• 6:01
  who
• 6:01
  creates
• 6:01
  moments
• 6:02
  you
• 6:02
  love
• 6:03
  Not
• 6:04
  the
• 6:04
  person
• 6:04
  who's
• 6:04
  been
• 6:05
  postponing
• 6:05
  joy
• 6:06
  Because
• 6:07
  listen,
• 6:07
  you
• 6:07
  don't
• 6:07
  magically
• 6:08
  arrive
• 6:09
  at
• 6:09
  loving
• 6:10
  your
• 6:10
  life.
• 6:11
  You
• 6:11
  practice
• 6:12
  it,
• 6:12
  create
• 6:13
  it,
• 6:13
  you
• 6:13
  curate
• 6:14
  it.
• 6:15
  You
• 6:15
  are
• 6:15
  basically
• 6:16
  creating
• 6:16
  your
• 6:17
  own
• 6:17
  algorithm.
• 6:18
  Maybe
• 6:19
  it
• 6:19
  looks
• 6:19
  like
• 6:20
  morning
• 6:20
  coffee
• 6:21
  on
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  patio.
• 6:22
  It's
• 6:22
  the
• 6:22
  music
• 6:23
  playing
• 6:23
  while
• 6:24
  you're
• 6:24
  cleaning.
• 6:25
  Maybe
• 6:25
  it's
• 6:26
  taking
• 6:26
  yourself
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  lunch
• 6:28
  or
• 6:28
  on
• 6:29
  a
• 6:29
  solo
• 6:30
  weekend
• 6:30
  trip.
• 6:31
  Maybe
• 6:31
  it's
• 6:31
  just
• 6:32
  ending
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  day
• 6:32
  with
• 6:33
  gratitude.
• 6:34
  These
• 6:35
  tiny
• 6:35
  moments,
• 6:36
  small
• 6:37
  choices,
• 6:38
  even
• 6:38
  tiny
• 6:39
  evidence
• 6:39
  says,
• 6:40
  "I
• 6:40
  actually
• 6:41
  like
• 6:42
  being
• 6:42
  me."
• 6:43
  Because
• 6:43
  when
• 6:43
  you
• 6:44
  stop
• 6:44
  obsessing
• 6:45
  over
• 6:45
  where
• 6:45
  you're
• 6:46
  trying
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  get,
• 6:47
  you
• 6:47
  start
• 6:48
  noticing
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  life
• 6:49
  you're
• 6:49
  already
• 6:49
  living.
• 6:50
  And
• 6:51
  friend,
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  changes
• 6:53
  the
• 6:53
  way
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  feel
• 6:54
  inside
• 6:55
  of
• 6:55
  your
• 6:56
  own
• 6:56
  life
• 7:00
  Ooh,
• 7:00
  listen,
• 7:01
  If
• 7:01
  you
• 7:01
  want
• 7:02
  an
• 7:02
  even
• 7:02
  deeper
• 7:03
  container
• 7:03
  for
• 7:04
  this
• 7:04
  work,
• 7:04
  friend,
• 7:05
  the
• 7:05
  Main
• 7:06
  Character
• 7:06
  Energy
• 7:06
  Journal
• 7:07
  Prompts,
• 7:07
  these
• 7:08
  were
• 7:08
  built
• 7:09
  for
• 7:09
  you.
• 7:10
  Prompts
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  help
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  apologize
• 7:12
  to
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  parts
• 7:12
  of
• 7:12
  yourself
• 7:13
  you've
• 7:13
  ignored,
• 7:14
  to
• 7:14
  rebuild
• 7:15
  trust
• 7:16
  with
• 7:16
  your
• 7:16
  wanting.
• 7:17
  Prompts
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  find
• 7:18
  her
• 7:19
  again.
• 7:20
  They're
• 7:20
  linked
• 7:20
  for
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  in
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  show
• 7:21
  notes,
• 7:21
  so
• 7:21
  go
• 7:22
  in,
• 7:22
  pour
• 7:22
  yourself
• 7:23
  your
• 7:23
  favorite
• 7:24
  bevy,
• 7:24
  and
• 7:25
  take
• 7:25
  your
• 7:25
  time.
• 7:26
  Your
• 7:26
  desires
• 7:27
  and
• 7:27
  wanting
• 7:28
  will
• 7:29
  meet
• 7:29
  you
• 7:29
  there
• 7:32
  And
• 7:32
  now
• 7:33
  it's
• 7:33
  time
• 7:33
  for
• 7:33
  our
• 7:37
  favorite,
• 7:37
  our
• 7:37
  self-love
• 7:38
  two-step
• 7:38
  with
• 7:39
  the
• 7:39
  remix.
• 7:39
  You
• 7:40
  already
• 7:40
  know.
• 7:41
  Listen,
• 7:42
  self-love
• 7:42
  isn't
• 7:43
  just
• 7:44
  about
• 7:44
  believing
• 7:44
  nice
• 7:45
  things
• 7:45
  about
• 7:45
  yourself.
• 7:46
  It's
• 7:46
  choosing
• 7:47
  yourself
• 7:48
  in
• 7:48
  the
• 7:48
  everyday
• 7:49
  moments
• 7:50
  Starting
• 7:50
  with
• 7:51
  step
• 7:51
  one,
• 7:52
  break
• 7:53
  up
• 7:53
  with
• 7:53
  one
• 7:54
  fake
• 7:54
  deadline.
• 7:56
  Ask
• 7:56
  yourself,
• 7:57
  what
• 7:57
  timeline
• 7:58
  am
• 7:58
  I
• 7:58
  secretly
• 7:59
  using
• 8:00
  against
• 8:00
  myself?
• 8:01
  Maybe
• 8:02
  it's
• 8:02
  one
• 8:02
  of
• 8:02
  the
• 8:03
  classics.
• 8:04
  I
• 8:04
  should
• 8:04
  have
• 8:04
  been
• 8:04
  married
• 8:05
  by
• 8:05
  now.
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  should
• 8:06
  be
• 8:06
  further
• 8:06
  along.
• 8:07
  I
• 8:08
  should
• 8:08
  have
• 8:08
  figured
• 8:08
  it
• 8:09
  out.
• 8:09
  Friend,
• 8:10
  write
• 8:10
  it
• 8:10
  down.
• 8:11
  Then
• 8:12
  ask,
• 8:13
  Who
• 8:13
  told
• 8:13
  me
• 8:13
  this
• 8:14
  had
• 8:14
  to
• 8:14
  happen
• 8:15
  by
• 8:15
  this
• 8:15
  date?
• 8:19
  Because
• 8:19
  half
• 8:19
  the
• 8:20
  time
• 8:20
  it's
• 8:20
  something
• 8:21
  you
• 8:21
  inherited,
• 8:22
  society
• 8:22
  gave
• 8:23
  it
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  you,
• 8:23
  or
• 8:24
  little
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  created
• 8:26
  it,
• 8:26
  and
• 8:27
  you're
• 8:27
  still
• 8:27
  carrying
• 8:28
  it
• 8:28
  around
• 8:29
  Step
• 8:29
  two,
• 8:30
  curate
• 8:30
  one
• 8:31
  day
• 8:32
  you'd
• 8:32
  actually
• 8:33
  love
• 8:33
  living.
• 8:35
  Ask
• 8:35
  yourself,
• 8:36
  "If
• 8:36
  I
• 8:36
  loved
• 8:37
  my
• 8:37
  life
• 8:37
  right
• 8:38
  now,
• 8:38
  what
• 8:39
  would
• 8:39
  I
• 8:39
  add?"
• 8:41
  It
• 8:41
  doesn't
• 8:41
  have
• 8:41
  to
• 8:41
  be
• 8:41
  expensive
• 8:42
  or
• 8:43
  even
• 8:43
  off-limits.
• 8:44
  It
• 8:44
  can
• 8:44
  be
• 8:44
  something
• 8:45
  simple
• 8:45
  like
• 8:46
  a
• 8:46
  walk,
• 8:46
  fresh
• 8:47
  flowers,
• 8:48
  music,
• 8:48
  journaling,
• 8:49
  calling
• 8:50
  someone
• 8:50
  you
• 8:50
  love
• 8:51
  Or
• 8:51
  checking
• 8:52
  in
• 8:52
  on
• 8:53
  one
• 8:53
  of
• 8:53
  your
• 8:53
  strong
• 8:53
  friends.
• 8:54
  Maybe
• 8:54
  it
• 8:54
  looks
• 8:55
  like
• 8:55
  taking
• 8:55
  one
• 8:56
  step
• 8:57
  towards
• 8:57
  your
• 8:58
  dreams.
• 8:59
  Create
• 8:59
  evidence
• 8:59
  that
• 9:00
  says,
• 9:00
  "My
• 9:00
  life
• 9:01
  isn't
• 9:01
  waiting
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  begin."
• 9:03
  And
• 9:03
  step
• 9:03
  three
• 9:04
  is
• 9:04
  your
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  step.
• 9:06
  You
• 9:06
  get
• 9:06
  still,
• 9:07
  you
• 9:07
  get
• 9:07
  quiet,
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  you
• 9:09
  ask
• 9:09
  yourself,
• 9:10
  "What
• 9:10
  is
• 9:10
  my
• 9:10
  heart
• 9:11
  telling
• 9:12
  me
• 9:12
  to
• 9:12
  do
• 9:13
  next?"
• 9:14
  Even
• 9:14
  if
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  answer
• 9:15
  is
• 9:15
  small,
• 9:16
  it's
• 9:16
  just
• 9:17
  for
• 9:17
  you.
• 9:18
  Listen
• 9:19
  and
• 9:19
  trust
• 9:19
  her,
• 9:20
  and
• 9:20
  then
• 9:20
  make
• 9:21
  the
• 9:21
  move
• 9:23
  Friend,
• 9:24
  let
• 9:24
  me
• 9:24
  pour
• 9:24
  into
• 9:25
  you
• 9:25
  real
• 9:25
  quick.
• 9:26
  Listen.
• 9:28
  Hear
• 9:28
  me
• 9:28
  with
• 9:29
  your
• 9:29
  whole
• 9:29
  heart
• 9:30
  when
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  say
• 9:31
  this.
• 9:32
  You
• 9:32
  are
• 9:32
  not
• 9:32
  behind
• 9:33
  or
• 9:34
  late.
• 9:35
  You
• 9:35
  did
• 9:35
  not
• 9:35
  miss
• 9:36
  your
• 9:36
  life.
• 9:37
  I
• 9:37
  know
• 9:38
  sometimes
• 9:38
  it
• 9:38
  feels
• 9:39
  like
• 9:39
  everyone
• 9:40
  else
• 9:40
  got
• 9:40
  some
• 9:40
  secret
• 9:41
  map,
• 9:42
  some
• 9:42
  Dora
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  Explorer
• 9:43
  app,
• 9:44
  and
• 9:45
  somehow
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  missed
• 9:46
  the
• 9:46
  meeting
• 9:49
  It
• 9:50
  feels
• 9:50
  like
• 9:50
  people
• 9:51
  are
• 9:51
  getting
• 9:51
  engaged
• 9:52
  and
• 9:52
  married,
• 9:53
  building
• 9:53
  businesses,
• 9:54
  buying
• 9:54
  homes,
• 9:55
  finding
• 9:55
  purpose,
• 9:56
  and
• 9:56
  having
• 9:56
  babies.
• 9:57
  And
• 9:57
  meanwhile,
• 9:59
  you're
• 9:59
  wondering
• 10:00
  if
• 10:00
  somehow
• 10:01
  you're
• 10:01
  falling
• 10:02
  behind.
• 10:04
  But
• 10:04
  hear
• 10:05
  me,
• 10:05
  friend,
• 10:06
  you
• 10:06
  are
• 10:06
  not
• 10:06
  behind.
• 10:07
  You
• 10:07
  are
• 10:07
  living
• 10:08
  a
• 10:08
  life
• 10:09
  that
• 10:09
  is
• 10:09
  still
• 10:10
  unfolding.
• 10:12
  You
• 10:12
  are
• 10:12
  becoming,
• 10:13
  and
• 10:14
  becoming
• 10:14
  doesn't
• 10:15
  operate
• 10:15
  on
• 10:16
  a
• 10:16
  stopwatch.
• 10:17
  Flowers
• 10:18
  don't
• 10:18
  apologize
• 10:19
  for
• 10:19
  blooming
• 10:20
  in
• 10:20
  different
• 10:20
  seasons.
• 10:22
  Sunrises
• 10:23
  don't
• 10:23
  rush,
• 10:24
  seeds
• 10:24
  don't
• 10:25
  panic
• 10:25
  underground,
• 10:26
  and
• 10:27
  neither
• 10:27
  should
• 10:27
  you.
• 10:28
  Your
• 10:28
  job
• 10:29
  isn't
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  race
• 10:30
  life.
• 10:31
  Your
• 10:31
  job
• 10:32
  is
• 10:32
  to
• 10:32
  stay
• 10:33
  connected
• 10:33
  to
• 10:33
  yourself
• 10:34
  while
• 10:35
  you
• 10:36
  live
• 10:36
  it
• 10:37
  Because
• 10:37
  one
• 10:37
  day
• 10:38
  you'll
• 10:38
  look
• 10:38
  back
• 10:39
  and
• 10:39
  realize
• 10:40
  the
• 10:40
  life
• 10:40
  you
• 10:41
  thought
• 10:41
  was
• 10:41
  delayed
• 10:42
  was
• 10:43
  actually
• 10:43
  being
• 10:44
  beautifully
• 10:45
  developed
• 10:45
  all
• 10:46
  along,
• 10:47
  and
• 10:48
  it
• 10:48
  always
• 10:49
  happens
• 10:49
  to
• 10:50
  unfold
• 10:51
  in
• 10:51
  perfect
• 10:52
  divine
• 10:53
  timing.
• 10:55
  I
• 10:55
  don't
• 10:55
  want
• 10:55
  you
• 10:55
  to
• 10:56
  miss
• 10:56
  today's
• 10:57
  joy
• 10:57
  because
• 10:58
  you're
• 10:58
  worried
• 10:59
  about
• 10:59
  tomorrow's
• 11:00
  timeline
• 11:01
  From
• 11:01
  this
• 11:01
  moment
• 11:02
  forward,
• 11:03
  time
• 11:03
  is
• 11:04
  no
• 11:04
  longer
• 11:04
  holding
• 11:05
  you
• 11:05
  back
• 11:06
  Shatter
• 11:07
  that
• 11:07
  invisible
• 11:08
  ticking
• 11:08
  time
• 11:09
  clock
• 11:10
  and
• 11:10
  recognize
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  love
• 11:11
  and
• 11:12
  presence
• 11:13
  that's
• 11:13
  available
• 11:14
  right
• 11:15
  here
• 11:15
  in
• 11:16
  this
• 11:16
  spot
• 11:18
  Ooh,
• 11:18
  friend,
• 11:19
  my
• 11:19
  heart
• 11:19
  to
• 11:19
  yours.
• 11:20
  Listen,
• 11:21
  before
• 11:22
  we
• 11:22
  go,
• 11:23
  I
• 11:23
  want
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  to
• 11:23
  remember
• 11:24
  this.
• 11:25
  Life
• 11:25
  is
• 11:25
  not
• 11:26
  a
• 11:26
  game
• 11:27
  of
• 11:27
  MASH.
• 11:28
  There
• 11:28
  isn't
• 11:28
  some
• 11:29
  folded
• 11:30
  piece
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  paper
• 11:30
  somewhere
• 11:31
  deciding
• 11:32
  whether
• 11:32
  or
• 11:32
  not
• 11:32
  you
• 11:33
  end
• 11:33
  up
• 11:33
  in
• 11:33
  a
• 11:33
  mansion,
• 11:34
  a
• 11:34
  shack,
• 11:35
  married,
• 11:36
  or
• 11:36
  checking
• 11:36
  all
• 11:36
  these
• 11:37
  boxes
• 11:37
  by
• 11:37
  some
• 11:38
  imaginary
• 11:38
  deadline.
• 11:42
  And
• 11:42
  thank
• 11:43
  goodness
• 11:44
  for
• 11:44
  that.
• 11:45
  Your
• 11:45
  life
• 11:46
  was
• 11:46
  never
• 11:46
  meant
• 11:47
  to
• 11:47
  be
• 11:47
  reduced
• 11:48
  to
• 11:48
  a
• 11:48
  timeline.
• 11:49
  It
• 11:50
  was
• 11:50
  meant
• 11:50
  to
• 11:50
  be
• 11:50
  lived.
• 11:52
  Allow
• 11:52
  life
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  surprise
• 11:54
  you,
• 11:55
  stretch
• 11:56
  you,
• 11:56
  grow
• 11:57
  you,
• 11:57
  delight
• 11:58
  you,
• 11:58
  and
• 11:59
  reveal
• 11:59
  parts
• 12:00
  of
• 12:00
  you
• 12:01
  that
• 12:01
  even
• 12:02
  little
• 12:02
  you
• 12:03
  couldn't
• 12:03
  have
• 12:03
  imagined.
• 12:04
  So
• 12:05
  if
• 12:05
  today
• 12:06
  you've
• 12:06
  been
• 12:06
  carrying
• 12:07
  around
• 12:07
  this
• 12:07
  pressure
• 12:08
  that
• 12:08
  says,
• 12:09
  "I
• 12:09
  should
• 12:09
  be
• 12:10
  further,
• 12:11
  I
• 12:11
  should
• 12:11
  have
• 12:12
  more,
• 12:12
  I
• 12:12
  should
• 12:12
  be
• 12:13
  there
• 12:13
  by
• 12:13
  now,"
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  invite
• 12:15
  you
• 12:15
  to
• 12:16
  put
• 12:16
  it
• 12:16
  down.
• 12:17
  You
• 12:17
  are
• 12:18
  not
• 12:18
  behind.
• 12:20
  You
• 12:20
  are
• 12:20
  becoming
• 12:21
  And
• 12:21
  listen,
• 12:22
  when
• 12:22
  we
• 12:22
  are
• 12:22
  talking
• 12:23
  about
• 12:23
  becoming,
• 12:24
  there
• 12:24
  is
• 12:25
  no
• 12:25
  prize
• 12:25
  for
• 12:26
  arriving
• 12:26
  first.
• 12:27
  The
• 12:27
  real
• 12:28
  flex
• 12:29
  is
• 12:29
  staying
• 12:29
  connected
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  yourself
• 12:31
  while
• 12:32
  you
• 12:32
  grow
• 12:36
  Friend,
• 12:36
  yes.
• 12:38
  Ooh,
• 12:38
  this
• 12:38
  is
• 12:38
  good.
• 12:39
  If
• 12:39
  you
• 12:40
  have
• 12:40
  loved
• 12:40
  this
• 12:41
  episode
• 12:41
  or
• 12:41
  you're
• 12:42
  just
• 12:42
  loving
• 12:42
  the
• 12:43
  podcast
• 12:43
  in
• 12:44
  general,
• 12:44
  leave
• 12:45
  a
• 12:45
  review.
• 12:46
  It
• 12:46
  is
• 12:46
  the
• 12:46
  best
• 12:47
  way
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  say
• 12:47
  thank
• 12:48
  you
• 12:48
  and
• 12:48
  spread
• 12:49
  positive
• 12:50
  messages.
• 12:51
  And
• 12:51
  listen,
• 12:51
  heaven
• 12:52
  knows
• 12:52
  we
• 12:53
  need
• 12:53
  that
• 12:53
  more
• 12:54
  than
• 12:54
  ever
• 12:55
  today,
• 12:55
  okay?
• 12:58
  And
• 12:59
  there's
• 12:59
  more
• 12:59
  support
• 13:00
  over
• 13:00
  on
• 13:01
  the
• 13:01
  YouTube
• 13:01
  channel.
• 13:02
  So
• 13:02
  meet
• 13:02
  me
• 13:02
  over
• 13:02
  there.
• 13:03
  Tell
• 13:03
  me
• 13:04
  what
• 13:04
  you're
• 13:04
  divorcing
• 13:05
  or
• 13:05
  breaking
• 13:06
  up
• 13:06
  with,
• 13:07
  because
• 13:07
  we
• 13:07
  are
• 13:07
  gonna
• 13:07
  play
• 13:08
  the
• 13:08
  Taylor
• 13:08
  Swift
• 13:09
  anthem,
• 13:09
  We
• 13:10
  Are
• 13:10
  Never
• 13:10
  Ever
• 13:11
  Ever
• 13:11
  Getting
• 13:12
  Back
• 13:12
  Together.
• 13:16
  See
• 13:17
  what
• 13:17
  I'm
• 13:17
  saying?
• 13:17
  There's
• 13:18
  even
• 13:18
  more
• 13:18
  fun
• 13:19
  to
• 13:19
  be
• 13:19
  had
• 13:19
  on
• 13:19
  YouTube,
• 13:20
  honey.
• 13:23
  Friend,
• 13:23
  I
• 13:23
  am
• 13:23
  so
• 13:24
  proud
• 13:25
  of
• 13:25
  you
• 13:25
  for
• 13:25
  investing
• 13:26
  in
• 13:26
  you
• 13:27
  today.
• 13:28
  I'm
• 13:28
  sending
• 13:29
  you
• 13:29
  great
• 13:29
  big
• 13:30
  virtual
• 13:30
  hugs,
• 13:31
  and
• 13:31
  until
• 13:32
  next
• 13:32
  time,
• 13:33
  go
• 13:33
  create
• 13:34
  a
• 13:34
  day
• 13:35
  You
• 13:35
  actually
• 13:35
  love
• 13:36
  living