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89: Betrayal Violence: Destructive Patterns That Can Continue After Infidelity
Apologies don’t automatically heal betrayal.
In fact, many people in recovery unknowingly continue hurting their partner through subtle defensive reactions, shutdown patterns, and attempts to control the healing process.
In this episode, Luke explores betrayal violence — a concept from Hope Ray that explains how relational harm can continue long after the original betrayal.
You’ll learn:
Why saying “I’m sorry” often isn’t enough
The destructive communication patterns that deepen betrayal trauma
The ABC pattern behind reactive behavior
Why shame and defensiveness sabotage repair
How awareness…
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