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134. It's All About Me! · Your Enriched Self

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  If you're struggling right now to find something good in your life, I challenge
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  you to try on gratitude. Give gratitude a try. It is the most
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  significant thing that you can allow to enter your life because I promise you it
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  will change you. And I know there's a lot of promises made out there
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  without guarantees, but I promise you when I started living with gratitude on my
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  heart, looking for things to be grateful for. And here's the thing about
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  when you look for something, whether it's something good or not so good,
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  you will find it. I promise you. Think about the car test,
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  and I brought this up before. You're looking for a car, you're looking
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  for a specific color, you're looking for a particular brand, and all of
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  a sudden, after you did that initial research, you start a test dry,
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  you put yourself in the environment you started looking for it. Eventually,
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  it's like a magnet. You start finding. As a matter of fact,
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  the car start finding you. You're like, wait a minute, that was
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  the car just saw. Wait a minute, that's the car. I promise
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  you. That's how gratitude works. Gratitude has the same magnetic impact when you
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  start to put out energy, when you start to create more realization, because
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  that's all it is. These things existed before you started seeing them. Those
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  cars had already been on the road before you started to see them. But
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  when you pay close attention, when you are intentional, which is paying close
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  attention, you start to see the thing that you were researching. You start
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  to see the thing you put yourself in the environment of that thing. Gratitude
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  is such a part of my life, hear me. It is a thing
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  now where I'm grateful for mistakes. Now that sounds crazy, it sounds wrong,
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  it sounds oxymoron. It doesn't fit into the realm of the way the
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  world designed for us to make mistakes fit. But I'm grateful for mistakes because
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  what I'm finding now and again, it's always been there, but I was
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  so grounded with world standards I couldn't see it. What I found is when
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  I started to focus on what the result was, what I learned from,
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  what I gained from, believe it or not, the mistake started realizing it
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  was truly a blessing in disguise. I know you heard that before. Hopefully
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  it makes sense now, But I just went through this experience. I had
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  a whole planned event lots of people coming to this event, and the venue
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  where the event was to be held was a problem on the day of the
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  event. Can you imagine that a celebratory event that was to take place at
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  a specific day, at a specific time, for a specific moment, and
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  that all fell apart from one phone call and after that, instead of focusing
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  on the problem the issue at hand, I started looking at what solutions could
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  I go after And I stayed in that world, I stayed in that lane,
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  and in doing so, I found a solution that worked. And when
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  I tell you it was the best thing to have happened, I call it
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  now a happy accident. It was, in fact better than we could have
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  expected, better than I could have expected, simply because I focused on being
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  grateful for what I had, what I learned, and what I could potentially
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  do to improve the scenario. And I'm telling you right now, hear me,
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  hear me, Well, this is in fact your gratitude check. But
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  if you are struggling to be happy in your life, to find contentment,
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  try on gratitude. Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and
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  welcome to the Urine Green Cell Podcast. I am your host, my le
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  noir. I am a mindset coach and your mindset advocate. And what that
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  means is your world is busy. There's a lot going on, and there
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  are rare occasions, if I know who's listening, that you time to spend
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  time to make yourself more enriched. And so I created this podcast. I
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  created this safe space to have conversations so that you can become more of your
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  enriched self. And so if you stumbled upon this podcast, I happen to
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  believe that you are brought here on purpose for a purpose. So stick around
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  and if you are a repeat listener, thank you. Thank you for being
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  here, thank you for your participation, thank you for showing up for yourself,
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  because that's what this is all about. On this podcast, you know,
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  we talk about self care, soul care, intentional thinking, because we
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  know that your thoughts inspire your words, and those words become the action and
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  the activity that you take and show up in the world. And if you're
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  listening to this podcast, I know that you want to be the best version
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  of yourself and it starts with your thoughts. And that's what we do here.
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  That's what this is all about. Now, before we get started,
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  if you know you know, one of the things that I do that I
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  take great pride in is I make a deposit in the bank of you,
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  and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to
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  start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I
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  deserve to be happy, and I choose to be happy. I deserve to
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  be happy, and I choose to be happy. I deserve to be happy,
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  and I choose to be happy. Now, let's get ready for this
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  week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. I want you to adopt a
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  mindset of it's all about me. Yeah, I said that. I want
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  you to adopt the mindset of it's all about me. And the reason why
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  I would have you do that is because oftentimes we take a phrase and we
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  look at the negative components of it. We start to dissect it negatively because
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  it sounds wrong for something to be all about you. Well, what if
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  we changed the way we thought about things? I mean, that's how we
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  grow. We have to change our thinking to get into a different way of
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  not only thinking about things, but learning about things. And if you learn
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  about a thing differently, you will apply a thing differently. And when you
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  apply a thing differently, you will likely have different results and unique outcomes.
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  And so this week is a challenge. It's really a mind game, a
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  mindset shift, if you will to look at the wording, to look at
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  the phrasing it's all about me in a different way. How I want you
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  to think about it is I want you to project that inwardly. See when
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  we say it's all about me, outwardly, it sounds self serving and self
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  centered, and it doesn't seem like that individual saying that has any self awareness
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  of what should be could be done to help serve other people. Because I
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  believe, and if you've listened to this podcast, you know, I believe
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  that we were brought here to serve others. But I also believe in order
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  to be able to serve as we first have to serve ourselves. And that's
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  where this mindset it's all about me, comes from. If you started thinking
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  about it that way, there's a lot of things you would find yourself in
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  a lot of holes what I call sometimes trick bags, where all of a
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  sudden, you find yourself doing something that doesn't bring you joy. This all
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  about me mindset will ask you, it will challenge you to ask yourself,
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  will this bring me joy? For some reason? Out there in the world,
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  we have been trained to postpone joy. We have been trained to wait
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  until all the writing is on the wall, the paperwork has been signed,
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  the kids go to college. This happens. That happens before we start doing
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  the things we love, before we start considering ourselves in the big picture of
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  what it is we're doing, which is living our li life. It's time
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  to change that mindset, and it starts today. It starts with this conversation
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  and the conversation that I hope you will continue to have with yourself. Yes,
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  self, conversation is very, very healthy and quite important to the journey
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  of becoming your enrich self. So the conversation doesn't stop here. You should
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  be having it with yourself, and you should be spreading the gospel, because
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  yes, in fact, it is gospel to talk about these things. To
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  help enrich ourselves, we need to be in a space of each one,
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  reach one, each one, teach one. And it starts with these conversations.
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  But as I'm going to say and repeat this, I want you to
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  go internally. It's easy to have this conversation of it's all about me externally
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  and start to get people all bent out of shape about why are you making
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  it all about you? Well, listen to how we do that. So
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  let's think about it this way. What if you spend more time getting to
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  know what you needed to grow, grow into the next best self of you?
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  Grow as a parent, grow as a friend, grow as a spouse,
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  grow as an employee, grow in any which way financially growing, growing
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  for your health? Are you spending time doing that? Some of us have
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  health goals, and while the cost of health care is going up, we
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  haven't squared up how we see health. We haven't squared up how we prioritize
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  our health. You're just out here living. Can you afford to not say
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  it's all about me and then take action to get to know what you need
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  to grow in these particular places. That's what I'm talking about when I say
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  it's all about me? Do you know what you need to know? Do
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  you know what you need to know so you can grow? And if you
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  know what you need, have you considered taking the steps again all about me?
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  To find yourself a coach, to find yourself, a mentor, to
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  find yourself in a community to find yourself in spaces that will help you become
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  more of who you should be, the best version of you, the more
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  enriched version of you. That's what it's all about, me embodies. It's
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  taking steps to get to next steps to become the better version. But the
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  mindset has to shift. We can't think that putting ourselves first, or putting
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  ourselves on the priority list, which by the way, is your priority list,
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  is a bad thing. But what about But how come? Why are
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  you focused on everything else and everyone else but yourself? And then your sitting
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  around working on this gratitude hack that I gave you as a challenge, because
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  you can't find anything to be grateful for because you have given and given and
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  given everything from your mind share talking to people and helping people figure things out
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  and helping people financially and helping people spiritually and doing all these things which are
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  by the way, excellent, wonderful things to do. But you're bankrupt.
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  You have nothing left because someone told you some time ago that it being all
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  about you is wrong? Will I say they're wrong? It's time to do
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  things differently to get different results, unique results and results that help you not
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  just serve yourself, but ultimately serve the people that you were brought here to
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  serve. How can you do that when you don't even know what you need
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  to grow? When you don't even know what you need so that you can
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  go intentionally forward pursuing that thing. What if the all about me was saying,
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  what if you focused on what makes you happy? Question? For you?
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  Do you know what makes you happy? And if you answered, and
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  you have that answer in your mind still, which I'm sure you do,
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  when was the last time you did it? When was the last time you
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  pursued it? When was the last time you went after it? If there's
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  something in this world in your life that makes you happy, that makes you
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  come alive in yourself, that when you get done with that thing, you
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  come back to where you call home and now you can give to the people
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  in your home like never before, why aren't you doing more of it?
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  Oh? Because somebody told you doing things that are all about me was a
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  bad idea? Well, I say they were a bad idea putting that thought
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  in your mind, because a thought like that, all it needs is some
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  water, a repetitive thought from yourself that says, yeah, so and so
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  said that a reminder from that person. Remember what I told you, all
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  that is is watering that plant that now is growing and growing, and you
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  got a big old tree that says it's all about me is wrong and you
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  should not spend time getting to know you so you can get to know what
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  you need to grow, so you can get to know what you need to
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  grow, so that you can go pursue a thing that makes you happy,
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  so that you can bring that happiness and that joy, cultivate that and make
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  a life that is acceptable and great for yourself and those around you. What's
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  wrong with that? What's wrong with that is that we've had and I say
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  we because it includes me a mindset that says that phrase is that. But
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  again, if you turn it inward and you start living to better understand you,
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  your needs, what you need to know so you can be and do
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  and has everything in this life that you were intended to be, do and
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  have. But you're not gonna get there with a limited mindset. So today
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  I want you to think about what you need, what you need to be
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  the best version of yourself in twenty twenty four and beyond. And when you
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  figure out what you need, take some steps that doesn't have to be big
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  steps. It can be baby steps. It can be a phone call,
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  it can be planning the trip because some of us we postpone trips. I
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  used to do that. I'm not gonna do that yet. I'm gonna wait
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  till blank blank blink, and you never get the experience, you don't have
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  the memories, and you're still barred in your time. For everybody else,
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  it can be that simple that you leave this podcast and you go book the
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  trip that you've never booked, that you've always had on your list of things
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  to do. Stop postponing joy. We've talked about that before. But in
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  order to become the best version of yourself, you need to start to see
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  yourself, have those conversations with yourself. Like I said, it's healthy to
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  talk to yourself. It's healthy to keep this conversation going with others to see
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  what they're thinking. I'm talking to so many people now, and I think
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  this year is so pivotal for me because it's a milestone year. I have
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  the big birthday this year, right, and so I'm just thinking about what
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  have I been postponing to wait for that perfect day, that best summer,
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  that great spring, that you know, perfect far, weather to go,
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  do do it. There's no perfect time, no perfect date, no perfect
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  place. It's just opportunity. It's how we see it. It's how we
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  experience life. And I want to experience more in twenty four. And I
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  know that sounds cliche, but I do. I want to experience more in
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  twenty four and I'm not gonna get more if I settle for less. And
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  I don't want you to settle for less because I don't want for me,
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  but I don't want for you. And I want more in twenty four.
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  And so that's gonna mean me internalizing. It's all about me and working on
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  what do I need so I can be the best me that I need to
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  be. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine Redsup Podcast.
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  one hundred and sixty eight hours so that you can become more of your enriched
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