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Actions Speak Louder (5/7): Master the Ending, Command the Moment. #FinishStrongFriday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: Well, you made it.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: You made it to finish strong Friday here on the Sweet Spot.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm proud of you.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm delighted that you're here with me to finish strong here on the Sweet Spot with me, Dr.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, your host.
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  SPEAKER_00: All week long, my friends, we've been talking about the power of body language.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: Let's rewind the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monday, you learned to own the room before saying a word.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Tuesday, you let your body lead your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And Wednesday, you dialed in micro movements that shape how you are perceived.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thursday, we turned inward to read our signals and regain our calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's time to finish strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether it's a conversation, a meeting, a workout, or the entire week, how you end, how you end something leaves a deeper impression than how you started.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking of these gymnasts and how when they're finishing a routine they want to stick the landing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You could have the best routine ever, but if you don't nail the landing, the finish, and you don't stick that landing perfectly or close to perfect, it gets a little wobbly there, and points are shaved off.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's where command presence comes in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not control, not ego, just calm-rooted confidence that you are going to finish strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: And okay, maybe we're not gymnasts, we're not on the horse or the rings, or we're not doing floor exercises, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, in life, there'll be these moments where you have to end something.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what I'm sharing with you as a board-certified psychiatrist, somebody who works with performers, is always know when to use a pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: A pause is a wonderful way to signal that you're coming to an end.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be in a conversation, it could be an activity, you could be finishing up a speech.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before you leave the room, you pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before you finish the sentence, pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, science shows that purposeful pauses increase your authority, they allow your message to land, and they create a space for trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, I just paused.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the power of using the pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: It brings a certain authority to whatever it is that you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second thing I would say to you on finish strong Friday here is use your eye contact.
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  SPEAKER_00: But not just any eye contact.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hold your eye contact with warmth, not intensity.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not trying to stir somebody down.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want to be warm, you want to have that duchen type smile a little bit, where the little uh wrinkles by your eyes are showing, you're smiling with your eyes just enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let your gaze say, I am grounded, I'm clear, I'm confident, and I'm done.
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  SPEAKER_00: Together, these two simple acts, finding the pause, and using strategic eye contact, they will say more than a long-winded speech ever could.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ancient wisdom puts it this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know I love the ancient wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proverbs 17, verse 28.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Interesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not about saying nothing, it's about knowing when to let your silence speak for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's presence, and that's leadership.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't always have to be talking and saying things over and over.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes a bit of silence really works.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the challenge for you on Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about being intentional about your endings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Finish your next meeting, your next conversation, or your day with a pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find a way to put a pause in, practice it, and then hold your eye contact, smile softly, and then walk away without a rush.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let the moment echo your strength today, my friend.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening all week about this entire program around the idea of your body language.
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_00: And tomorrow?
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is self-care Saturday.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: And listen, this one is not soft because we're talking about self-care.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're talking about recovery as a strategy, body language that restores.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because strong finishers know when to rest like they mean it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So catch me tomorrow right here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until then, finish strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you liked what you heard all week long, I would invite you to subscribe to this YouTube channel.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_00: And more than that, share it with a friend who could use a message about the power of body language.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is, after all, the silent signal that speaks so loudly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love and blessings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye bye.