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155. A Path to Lifelong Comfort · Your Enriched Self

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Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to Your and
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a Rich Self Podcast. I'm your host, my Le Noir. I am
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an emotional wellness and empowerment coach, and here on this podcast we talk about
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mindset fusion topics. Everything you do in this life starts with an initial thought,
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and those thoughts then inspire the words that you speak about your life and
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over your life, and those words then become the action and the activity that
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you take each and every day. And my job each and every week is
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to inspire you to become more of your enriched self. So, if this
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is your first time listening, I want to welcome you. I want to
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thank you for being here. I know that you are brought here on purpose
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for a purpose, and if you are a repeat listener, I want to
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thank you for being here. We are at episode one hundred and fifty five
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and it is all because of you. So I want to thank you from
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the bottom of my heart for every share, every like, and every conversation
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that we've had in and on this platform helping you become more of your and
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rich self. Now, if you know you know each and every week before
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we go into the podcast, I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way
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to start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is
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today I align myself with freedom, growth and joy. Today, myself with
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freedom, growth and joy. Today, I align myself with freedom, growth
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and joy. Now let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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Self podcast. If we tell the ugly truth, there are more uncomfortable days
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ahead in our lives than there are days of comfort. And that's really the
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ticket and the understanding about maturing. Maturing is understanding that from here on out
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it will be uncomfortable. And I think I had to kind of settle into
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that. So I mentioned a few months back that I started a journey of
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working on my physical fitness, and so I've been in this boot camp.
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I've been doing it. This is my third boot camp. This is week
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four of a six week boot camp, and again this is my third boot
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camp. In this experience, I'm learning a lot about myself. I'm learning
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how to challenge myself. I'm learning how to manage my success. And it's
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not just one metric. I think we talked about that before. There are
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multiple ways to manage success when you are on this journey of physical fitness,
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improving it and not just watching your body change, but having the internal changes
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right, the blood work and all the things that you want to do to
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maintain a healthy lifestyle. But one of the things that I'm coming to the
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conclusion of and being accepting of, quite honestly, is i am uncomfortable.
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And I'm not just uncomfortable while I'm in my workout sessions because again, I'm
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being challenged, not just by the trainers, but also I'm challenging myself.
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I'm pushing myself past my limits. And that's why I love this environment,
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this culture, this community of people that are like minded, because we are
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all there for the same or many of the same purpose, right Like,
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we want to get better, we want to do better, and we're doing
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it at five and seven am in the morning, six pm in the evening
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when most people decide, you know, that's not their thing. We're making
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that decision collectively to be there and to do these things. And so while
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I'm there, I want to maximize the time that I'm spending. I want
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to maximize my heart rate, I want to maximize my engagement, right,
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because I have a forty five minute to our window for this session, these
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daily sessions, five day week sessions to make it count. And if I
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go in there with a defeatist attitude, if I go in there with a
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closed heart and mind, I'm not going to achieve the things that I want
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to achieve, and I'm not going to exceed those things that are out there
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for me to accede. I believe that we get up every day with the
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intention to win. I don't think anyone as bad as some of the people
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that you have encountered out there in the day. I don't believe they get
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up with the intention to lose. Right. I do believe we get up
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and we want to win the day, we want to win the moment.
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We want to win at life, and it just takes those incremental day to
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day, every day decisions to do that. So I've come to the conclusion
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that there are more days of discomfort ahead than not, and I'm okay with
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it because life is lifing. As an older child, I have an aging
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parent and that comes with some discomforts, some challenges, right, and I
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have to be open to knowing that that's part of life. I also have
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adult children, so parenting them is a whole different ballgame than it used to
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be. It's going to come with new levels of discomfort along with that.
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You have the economy, you have your career. You know, there's so
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many changes happening at my job right now right and so being able to keep
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up with those changes and being uncomfortable. I really am here to tell you
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that if you have not embraced this comfort, and I know I talk a
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lot about it on this podcast, but I do it for the reason that
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I want us to be ahead of the game. I want us to mentally
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be prepared and be engaged and be ready because you don't want to get ready,
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you want to stay ready. And staying ready is being in a place
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of acceptance, being in a place to embrace, and being willing to know
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that ahead of you there are going to be discomforts period. It's going to
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be challenges, it's going to be new. It's going to render you to
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be different, to experience life different, and that is okay. I think
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we just have to be okay with things being challenging, with things being uncomfortable,
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because we're not gonna win if we approach the day without this knowledge and
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this understanding, and then we can apply all the things that we learn,
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all the things that we know, like all the things I'm learning about my
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body right now, I can apply to advance myself right advance the way I
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eat and the way I train and the things that I do, so that
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I can minimize the discomfort. But the discomfort will still be there, and
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that is okay. It's okay to know that I want us to be in
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a space of mindful living, and that's what it's gonna take. It's gonna
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take us exploring this self improvement. But this mental health, well this holistic
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wellness, right wellness is not just about your mind. It's about your body,
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it's about your spirit, and it's going to take a level of understanding
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mentally that Listen, there is going to be physical discomfort, especially when you're
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on this exercise regimen right this lifestyle that I decided that I wanted to live.
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I chose this life, and so whatever it is that you're doing right
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now, you are choosing that life. And perhaps you're not there yet,
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but you are on the path to the life that you decided you wanted to
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live. And if you're not on that path. Get on that path.
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What are you waiting on? Don't wait for life to dictate it to you.
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First tell yourself, then tell the world. But make sure every day
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you show up in the place that you need to be so you can get
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to where you want to go and you're going to know and you're gonna have
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you And in doing so, I want you to understand there will be discomfort.
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It's going to have long term rewards. But what does that mean.
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That means in the short term. That means in the immediate you're not going
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to see all the things, You're not going to feel all the things,
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You're not going to be motivated. Quite frankly, we see and we hear
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a lot about people getting motivated, but motivation is something that captures your attention.
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Consistency and persistence is going to take you to that long term so that
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you can experience the benefits and the games. And don't get me wrong,
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I am a big believer and I am a firm approver of celebrating the success
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now, celebrating the small wins now, because listen, we have today.
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We don't know what tomorrow is going to bring, and yesterday's already gone.
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So if you have an opportunity to celebrate a win today, do it today,
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because you don't know where you will be tomorrow. And so that said,
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yes, there are going to be some things that we have to postpone
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that satisfaction for the long term, but it's okay because the rewards are going
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to be beneficial. But in the meantime, yes, celebrate the small winds.
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Celebrate now. But the whole point of all of this is that you
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are making an investment, and just like a stock, just like anything that
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you invest in, you have to allow it time to grow, time to
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mature, to get to the levels where you can read the benefit. It's
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just like a tree that's planted. It's not going to grow overnight. It's
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going to take a few years. It's going to take some seasons. It's
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going to take some watering, some nurturing before you start getting fruit from that
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tree that you can now benefit from. And then you can begin to live
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and give like you never were able to because now you have a tree that
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is allowing you to get fruit from it, and then you can share that
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fruit with other people. Investing in your life, investing in the fruit tree
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investing in the stock market, all of that common ground. The common ground
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for all of that is that you require time. So give yourself time,
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give yourself grace in the season, allow yourself space to learn, allow your
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space to tackle the difficult things. Whether you're practicing something new, you're learning
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something new, it's going to again, it's going to stretch you. It's
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going to stretch you mentally, and that is okay, right, it's okay
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because you are on a journey of everlasting learning. Everlasting learning allows you to
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become more knowledgeable, more adaptable, and ultimately you become confident in your abilities
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because you've opened yourself up to learning. So if you're opening yourself up to
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learning, you have to open yourself up to the daily discomforts that come with
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life, the lessons of life that are going to be uncomfortable. But in
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those lessons you get the wisdom, you get the understanding, and those things
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can help you get stronger. Stronger in your physical self, mentally, stronger
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in building relationships, stronger in ultimately any task or anything that you are going
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to do to help you grow, to help you mature on this journey.
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So what do you do with all of this how do you manage yourself in
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such a way that you are willing to accept the fact, Like I said,
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be mature enough to know that discomfort is right around the corner. When
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I get up in the morning and I go to my boot camp, I
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never know what my trainer is going to do. She tells us what we
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should bring, so we are equipped for the activity, but we don't know
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what the activity is. And so there was a point in all of this
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training and exercising when she would introduce us to a new exercise or workout and
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I would say, how am I who is untrained? Right? This person,
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my trainer and the multiple trainers that I have access to, have been
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doing this for years. They have manage their bodies in such a way that
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they can move in the way that they're asking us to move. And of
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course there's modified training and modified movement that's involved. But I would always say
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how. I would go straight down the path of how, and I find
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myself now saying wow, Wow, my body can do that. It may
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not be able to do it with that exact precision today. It may not
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be able to do it with that level of commitment that's involved with it today.
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It may not be able to move as fluidly or as easy with the
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ease and the effortlessness that sometimes the trainers showcase. But wow, when I
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can do that, that's going to be amazing. So I changed. I
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traded my how because that's a question to a whole like, let's go after
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it. I now have this wow exclamation as opposed to a how, the
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not sure what I'm gonna do, and that has really allowed me to embrace
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the discomfort because now I'm not shying away from it. I know that wow
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one day versus how I don't even know. So I'm changing. I'm trading
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things up so I can get a better result by embracing the discomfort. So
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again, here are a few things that you can do every single day,
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practical tips. You know me, I love to make it practical. I
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love to make it real and now and applicable so that you can go do
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it. So the first thing you can go do today is set a small
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goal. Set something that is small and it is achievable, and it's something
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you can go after gradually over time as you continue to do it. It's
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going to go from the increased difficulty of for example, that exercise to a
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gradual, more comfortable approach, more comfort with the outcome. Like I said,
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we do multiple assessments, and one of those assessments is stretching, sitting
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down and putting my hands to reach out to my toes. And when I
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first did that exercise, I could barely get my finger tips to reach my
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toes. Now at the beginning of this boot camp, right I said,
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I'm in week four of this boot camp, so four weeks ago when we
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did our start of camp assessment. So, as I mentioned, we do
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a start of camp assessment, a midpoint assessment, and an end of camp
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assessment. So when I did my start of camp assessment on this round of
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boot camp, I was able to reach not just my toes, but I
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reached past my toe and I was able to grab with my palms. Now
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again, back in March, when I started this process, I could barely
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reach my toes. So when you set those small goals, and in this
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case, the camp set the goals for us. Right here are the goals.
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You want to be able to reach, and you want to able to
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stretch literally and figuratively, and you want to be able to go beyond the
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limits that you currently have because we all have limits. We come into life
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with limits, right, might be from our background, from our education,
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from where we grew up, who we grew up with, who reared us,
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the communities we were in. There were limits set and not intentionally,
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but these limits were set. And so we all come into situations in life
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with limits. And so what we do to make those limits dissipate and disappear
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out of our lives is we do things daily. We start small, We
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challenge ourselves with things that are achievable, and we see that gradual movement from
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the thing that was difficult. Two maybe not so difficult anymore, but understanding
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there will be discomfort. Removing difficulty from a situation doesn't automatically equal removing discomfort
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or being comfortable. Okay, so know that the second thing you can do
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practical tip number two, get a routine. That's the thing that I did
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this year. I did that on purpose. Like I said, I chose
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this life. I chose this life, as crazy as it has been,
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as challenging it as it has been. But I chose to create a routine
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around the thing that I wanted to change. I wanted to change the outcome.
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I wanted to look different, feel different. Right. I'm getting ready
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to hit a milestone birthday in October. I want to make and do things
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and be the very best I can. The best of my life is yet
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to come. The best of your life is yet to come. But the
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only way we can approach that is taking on new routines. That routine coupled
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with consistency is going to create lasting changes. Let me repeat that, your
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routine coupled with consistency is going to result with lasting changes. And I'm already
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starting to see it again, not just the physical things. How I approach
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food. My relationship with food is different. Why because I created a routine
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around my food. So again, I chose this life and now I'm starting
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to see those lasting changes. Let's go to practical tip number three. Stay
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mindful. Be aware that there are going to be moments of discomfort. Like
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I said, it's okay to be uncomfortable, But when you are in that
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moment of discomfort, yet refocused because when you get refocused on what it is
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that you set out to do, it bills your resilience. I'll repeat that,
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when you get refocused on what it is that you're doing, and while
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you're doing it you build resilience, and you are gonna need that because ahead,
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as I mentioned, will be a road of discomfort, especially if you
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are out here striving and challenging yourself. If you're challenging yourself today and you
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conquer that challenge, you're probably likely going to challenge yourself tomorrow. And when
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there is challenge present, there will be discomfort because everything new is going to
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feel hard. Like I said, feel hard. But over time, with
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consistency, with routine, setting those small goals, you will build your resilience.
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And so that is the thing to be mindful of. Yes, it
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is discomforting at this time, but knowing that you're in that space of discomfort,
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it gets you refocused, which bills your resilience all right. Practical tip
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number four Support Support Support. Who are the people in your neighborhood? Who
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are the people in your circle? Who are your friends? How many do
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you have? Where are they? How are they speaking to you? Are
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they speaking life over you? Are they speaking life into you? What do
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you have around you? People are brought into your life for a season,
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a reason or lifetime. Get to know who those are. Get to know
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who is your season, your reason and your lifetime people and act accordingly.
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Also, as you are seeking support and you're building support and you're garnering that
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support, also share your journey. You never know who you're helping, you
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never know who you're inspired, you never know what your story is doing for
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someone else. And it's a very powerful thing once you hear from people the
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impact that what you're doing is having on them. So don't minimize what you're
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doing, and absolutely look around for your support system. And finally, and
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I said this before and I'll say it again, celebrate progress. Acknowledge it.
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That's the first step. Acknowledge your progress and then celebrate it. That's
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it practical tip number five. Acknowledge your progress and celebrate it. Too many
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of you walk away from the new thing, the thing that was once hard,
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the thing that was challenging, the thing that was this comfort. You
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master it, you get there, and you walk away into a new thing.
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I had a friend of mine that worked really hard to get her masters,
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worked really hard to get her masters, and decided not only that she
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wouldn't walk the stage to get her degree, but decided also that she really
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wouldn't even talk about it. And I thought to myself, you worked hard.
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I watched you sacrifice your time, sacrifice your talent and be present where
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you need it to be so that you can achieve this goal. And you're
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going to tell me that you're not willing to celebrate it. Now, that's
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a whole different story, because I know a lot of us don't believe we
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should be celebrated, and that goes back to the limits that were brought in
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with us. We don't think we should make a big deal about it.
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It's not making a big deal, it's celebrating. As I mentioned before,
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you don't know about tomorrow. Tomorrow isn't promised and yesterday is gone. So
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all you have is now, what are you going to do with it?
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What are you going to do with it? Once you acknowledge you've done something
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great, you've done something new, you've accomplished something that's challenging, no matter
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how small, celebrate it, stay motivated in it, because it helps to
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reinforce the changes you're making. You're making positive changes. That moment of acknowledging,
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that moment of celebrating, all that's doing is just putting a seal of
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approval from you to you on the changes that you're making and Ultimately, those
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changes are going to be things that can be long term changes, and that's
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what you want. You don't want this to be something that's temporary. You
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want it to be a lifestyle. This is mindful living and it's arts with
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embracing this comfort, which is a path to lifelong comfort. I hope you
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