Latest / Libido Lounge / Your Human Design Type Could Be Affecting Your Libido and Relationship with Hannah Schwoerr
Transcript
- 0:00When I work with clients one on one is pulling their partner's chart because then we can learn
- 0:05our partner in a different way.
- 0:08Hannah Shore is a holistic business coach, third sacral manifesting generator who helps
- 0:13entrepreneurs and business leaders silence their inner critic along with their unique
- 0:18design and achieve peak performance.
- 0:21Using tools like human design, cycle alignment, and Soma Plus IQ breath work, she guides her
- 0:27clients into unraveling the pattern, keeping them stuck, and tapping into deep wisdom into
- 0:33what their bodies already hold.
- 0:35Because when we move in sync with our true nature, flows with ease.
- 0:42And when I learned my human design and then my partner's human design, it almost gave me that,
- 0:50like, click.
- 0:51Oh, that's just not how they move through their day.
- 0:56Learning that about your partner can be very supportive in creating this day to day how we
- 1:04relate to each other.
- 1:06Again, the more ease in the bedroom too.
- 1:09Hi, everybody.
- 1:10Welcome back to the Libido Lounge.
- 1:12I'm so excited to bring our guest today, Hannah, up because we're gonna talk about
- 1:18something that we really haven't talked about, especially not in quite this way.
- 1:22We're gonna talk about performance.
- 1:25We're gonna talk about performance across the board, in the bed, in life, in work, in
- 1:31everything you do.
- 1:32Right?
- 1:33And Hannah is an expert in that, and we're gonna tie this all down to some of your
- 1:38archetypes, some of the ways that you are you show up in the world and why you do things the
- 1:44way that you do.
- 1:45All of that can actually impact your relationships and can impact your time with
- 1:50your partner and in the bedroom and so much more.
- 1:52So here to help us with this amazing conversation and help you get your love and
- 1:56intimate lives back on track, I have Hannah with me today.
- 2:00Welcome, Hannah.
- 2:02Thank you so much, doctor Diane.
- 2:03I'm so excited to have this conversation and weave in relationships into the parts of my
- 2:10business that I absolutely love.
- 2:12So very excited for this conversation.
- 2:14Thank you for having me.
- 2:15My pleasure.
- 2:16It will be so yummy.
- 2:18And I think let's start let's start just kinda big picture.
- 2:22What is human design?
- 2:24You know, it's like, I know you and I talked a little bit offline, and I know it enough in
- 2:28myself to know, like, what I am in the human design world, but that's about as far as my
- 2:33knowledge goes.
- 2:33And I think a lot of people have not heard about that.
- 2:35So I think, like, let's let's talk about this, but let's also talk about, you know, the
- 2:39concept of, like, archetypes in general and what archetypes are and how that influences not
- 2:46only growth, but how that influences us in the bedroom and in relationships, and then talking
- 2:51about, like, the uniqueness of the human design system.
- 2:55So can I open the floor up to you with that big mouthful to unravel for us?
- 3:00Yes.
- 3:01Absolutely.
- 3:02I love the word that you're using archetypes.
- 3:05I don't use that too much in my lingo, so that's a really beautiful invitation as well.
- 3:10So let's start with human design.
- 3:13Human design is a system that is your unique blueprint, your energy, how your energy was
- 3:22created to flow through this world, how you were created to most easefully walk through
- 3:30this world, and that includes how you show up in your business, how you show up in your
- 3:35relationships, whether that's a intimate partner, whether that's your family or your
- 3:41friends, it includes how you show up for yourself, All of all of the things is wrapped
- 3:47up in human design, and there's different pieces of human design that are maybe a little
- 3:51bit more helpful to understand in relationships, let's say, so maybe we'll get
- 3:56there.
- 3:56But human design generally pulls from different, more eastern philosophies is how I
- 4:03like to explain it, so it pulls from the chakra system, the I Ching, the Kabbalah, astrology,
- 4:08quantum physics, and it is taking in all this information and kinda gives you what's called a
- 4:14body graph chart in your chart, and there's a lot of different areas of human design, so I
- 4:22really, I started with astrology, so I kind of equate it to astrology, it's kinda like
- 4:26astrology plus, but if you think, if you are familiar with astrology, you'll know that
- 4:33there's more than just your sun sign.
- 4:36So there's more than just your human design energy type, is the, when you share my
- 4:41introduction, I'm a manifesting generator.
- 4:43I believe you're a manifesting generator too, right?
- 4:46I am, yep.
- 4:47Okay, yep.
- 4:48So there's these energy types, there's profiles in human design, there's authorities, and all
- 4:53of these different areas show us different aspects of ourself, and I really want to be
- 5:01When we're talking about archetypes and we're talking about human design, I wanna preface
- 5:05this entire conversation with we are not putting ourselves in a box with human design,
- 5:13we're not using this as a label to shrink us.
- 5:18What human design is to me, the gift of human design, is that we have this opportunity to
- 5:25find confirmation and affirmation in what we already know about ourselves, and it's that
- 5:33extra bit of information, and and this is my one line, my personality really coming out.
- 5:40I really love information.
- 5:42I love when I had you on my podcast, I love definitions.
- 5:45I love data.
- 5:46So human design is that data that we can then process ourselves, interpret ourselves, and
- 5:53feel into, does this feel aligned with me?
- 5:56Does this feel like something that is me?
- 6:00Like, does it does it fit me?
- 6:02And for me, a lot of learning my human design was this huge permission slip of, oh my gosh,
- 6:10okay, so this is this is actually who I am.
- 6:13How I was acting maybe when I was a kid, or years ago, that maybe at one time somebody said
- 6:20something and it made me question myself or doubt myself or shame or guilt or judge myself.
- 6:26Now I have that permission slip of, oh, this is me.
- 6:30Okay.
- 6:31I'm I'm almost, like, allowed.
- 6:33I'm allowed to be this way, and you are giving yourself that permission slip, not human
- 6:38design.
- 6:38So let me be clear.
- 6:39It's through the lens of human design.
- 6:41So when we're talking about archetypes, we can kind of use these energy types and call them
- 6:49archetypes.
- 6:49In human design, we call them energy types.
- 6:51There's five main energy types.
- 6:53You have a generator, manifestor, manifesting generator, projector, and reflector, and just
- 7:00like the feminine archetypes tell us this different energy, kind of educate us on this
- 7:07different information of maybe personality traits, we could also use that lingo.
- 7:15Your human design energy type is how your energy is created to move through the world and
- 7:22it really is this permission slip of how you're you're created to be, and it's gonna be
- 7:30different if you're a projector versus a manifesting generator or a generator versus a
- 7:35reflector.
- 7:36And it's all information that we can use to learn ourselves, and then actually, what I
- 7:43really love doing when I work with clients one on one is pulling their partner's chart.
- 7:48Because then we can learn our partner in a different way than them telling us things about
- 7:56themselves.
- 7:57Right?
- 7:57We can it's kinda like learning their astrology too.
- 7:59It's it's not to use it as, oh, this is definitely how they are.
- 8:03It's just a different flavor of information, another menu that we can look at, and then we
- 8:08can look at how these archetypes or these energy types, not the compatibility.
- 8:13I'm not a compatibility person, like, oh, projectors and manifesting generators are not
- 8:18compatible.
- 8:18That's not it at all.
- 8:20It's how the energy can most easily flow in the relationship, so then we're, again, creating
- 8:26this relationship with ease, and we're living this relationship with the most ease possible.
- 8:33So for our listeners, you guys have probably heard me talk about libido codes on here
- 8:39before, which are basically our libido love languages.
- 8:42So, you know, the concept of the libido codes, for those of you that have taken my quiz, is
- 8:48that we have these certain ways that we are kinda we come to this earth with, like you're
- 8:53talking about human design here.
- 8:55And these codes can tell us something about, like, our turn ons, our turn offs, our
- 8:59partners' turn ons, our partners' turn offs.
- 9:02So I know I've, like, you know, kind of educated and prepped people in this podcast
- 9:06around, hey.
- 9:07This is so important because this is going to help you understand, like, oh, if your
- 9:11partner's doing x y z, this might be, like, them trying to turn you on and, like, you might
- 9:16be missing the queues and, like, it's really, really helpful to know this about each other.
- 9:21So with that being said, Hannah, my question for you here is, like, with human design and
- 9:26how you're describing it in these different, what did you call them?
- 9:30They you don't
- 9:30call them archetypes.
- 9:31Some Energy types.
- 9:32Energy types.
- 9:33So with these different energy types, you know, when people figure out, like, okay.
- 9:37Well, you know, I'm this way, and my partner's this way.
- 9:40What different areas because I like, because what I hear in that to help people out is,
- 9:45like, oh, when you learn about this, now you have ways of saying like, okay, well this is
- 9:50how I am in the world and this is how my partner's in the world.
- 9:54I have to take a break from what we were just talking about because I'm so excited to
- 9:58introduce you to a couple of my favorite toys on the market.
- 10:02Because one of the things I really really am passionate about when it comes to sexual
- 10:07health, pleasure, passion is not only those things because those are very important but
- 10:13it's also helping you find ways to deeply heal.
- 10:16And this is why I love the company Mystery Vibes so much because their products I've seen
- 10:22to do just that.
- 10:23So I'm gonna tell you about a couple of these.
- 10:25I have a product for women and a product for men here.
- 10:28So this is a female product.
- 10:30This is called the Crescendo two.
- 10:32You will have links in the show notes.
- 10:35You will also get discounts on this.
- 10:38If you use the code libido 20, you will get discounts on this product.
- 10:43And what's so cool about this product from a pleasure standpoint, and then we're gonna talk
- 10:47about a health standpoint, but from a pleasure standpoint, look what I can do with this
- 10:51product.
- 10:52It is so bendable.
- 10:53So it has all of these hinges where you can bend it in all of these different ways.
- 10:58And what that's allowing you to do is be very specific around which part of the interior of
- 11:04the vagina, g spot, etcetera, that you are going to access and stimulate.
- 11:10Now what internal studies have shown on this particular product is that it increases arousal
- 11:16about 73% and lubrication up to 93%.
- 11:21So that's where I'm talking about, hey, we can get all of this uniqueness of pleasure.
- 11:26We can pinpoint those spots.
- 11:27We can wake up our vagina in ways that maybe other vibrators can't because you can't get the
- 11:32level of maneuverability and flexibility that you can with this toy.
- 11:36And all of that, and then you can also see in many people an increase in arousal and
- 11:42lubrication for that deep healing component.
- 11:45Also, product that mystery vibe has for women that also has been shown to improve arousal as
- 11:52well as lubrication It's called the legato.
- 11:55I will also put a link in the show notes about that.
- 11:58It's a cock ring that that vibrates the entire vulva.
- 12:01It's phenomenal, so also look for that.
- 12:04Again, the code you're looking for is libido 20 for that discount.
- 12:08And now for all the gentlemen watching.
- 12:11So this is the Cannuto two.
- 12:13So this toy is amazing because it has been researched to improve erections by double.
- 12:20So erections go get better, performance gets better, and it can help with prostate health.
- 12:27So it's a super easy toy to use.
- 12:29It looks a little bit strange when you're looking at it, but all you're gonna do is
- 12:33you're gonna just do penile insertion right here.
- 12:36This back part will sit back on the perineum, and voila, there you go.
- 12:41So again, libido 20 for this.
- 12:44If you guys want better erections, if you wanna be harder longer, if you wanna please your
- 12:49partner longer, and women, if you want to have a better arousal, better lubrication, and wake
- 12:55up those parts of your vagina so that not only are you experiencing more pleasure, more
- 13:00passion, better orgasms in many cases, but you are also deeply healing yourself as well.
- 13:07So again, those will be in the show notes.
- 13:10I hope you take advantage of these discounts and the coupon codes there.
- 13:14Libido 20 is your coupon code.
- 13:16I will see you all in a moment as we get back to our show.
- 13:21Quick word from our sponsors before we continue with the episode.
- 13:26Ladies, midlife isn't a crisis.
- 13:28It's a power move.
- 13:29On the Mature Allure podcast, we're flipping the script on aging, beauty, wellness, and
- 13:34everything in between.
- 13:36I'm your host, Sherry O, here to keep it real, fun, and fearless.
- 13:40Ready to embrace every chapter?
- 13:42Hit play on Mature Allure wherever you listen to podcasts.
- 13:55And now we can maybe understand each other a little bit more.
- 13:58We can be back on the same team because we understand each other.
- 14:02So, like, in what areas of life is my question?
- 14:05Like, where, like, my libido code, you know, that's really focused so much on, like, turn
- 14:10ons and turn offs.
- 14:12What areas of life have you seen when we're talking about relationships and couples have
- 14:18you seen more specifically this methodology be supportive with?
- 14:22That's a great question.
- 14:24So the thing that I immediately think of is it's kind of that day to day how you navigate
- 14:31life, how you're how you're walking through your days, maybe how you're scheduling your
- 14:35days, how much how many things you're planning in your days.
- 14:39So I'm gonna give you an example because that makes the most sense.
- 14:44Probably two of the more different energy types, more opposing energy types would be a
- 14:51manifesting generator and a projector.
- 14:53And I'm gonna give that example because I have dated projectors before, so it's a personal
- 14:58example, myself as a manifesting generator.
- 15:02So many gens, we really like to do we like to have our hands in different pots.
- 15:08We like to spin different plates.
- 15:10Sometimes we like to do multiple things at once.
- 15:14That in my life shows up as having multiple jobs, having multiple interests.
- 15:19Even in my business, I don't just do human design.
- 15:23I also do cycle work, which is like our moon and our menstrual cycle, and then I also do
- 15:28somatic breath work.
- 15:29So to me, I'm like, that's pretty much the most classic manage energy that you can get.
- 15:35Projectors do really well with more rest.
- 15:40So fitting less into their day, creating space to clear their own energy, creating space in
- 15:47their day to kind of digest all of what they're going through.
- 15:52They might be more interested in kind of compartmentalizing, maybe one thing and then
- 16:01the next thing, moving on to the next thing.
- 16:04So when I've dated projectors in the past, one of the most classic examples that I can think
- 16:09of is my schedule is always wild.
- 16:14I just always like, I have a podcast.
- 16:17I have a a Breathwork client.
- 16:19I have a Breathwork group class.
- 16:21I have a cycle client.
- 16:22You know, I have a a different job.
- 16:24So my schedule is always moving, and my projector relationships have always been like,
- 16:31I just can't keep up with your schedule.
- 16:33And before learning human design, it was almost a little bit frustrating to me because I feel
- 16:40like I told you, you know, why are you asking me what I'm doing today?
- 16:44I already gave you my schedule, like, three days ago for today.
- 16:49Why can't you keep up with my Monday schedule even though my Monday schedule is different
- 16:53this Monday than last Monday and different what it'll be then the following Monday.
- 16:58And they couldn't really keep up is is the language that I'm gonna use.
- 17:03And when I learned my human design and then my partner's human design, it almost gave me that,
- 17:10like, click.
- 17:12Oh, that's just not how they move through their day, and we can only see through our own lens,
- 17:19right, until maybe we get this illumination.
- 17:22So how they move through their day is is maybe a little bit more scheduled, at least this
- 17:27projector that I dated.
- 17:28He was pretty scheduled, you know, he did the same thing, he came home at the same time every
- 17:33night, like, pretty routine.
- 17:35And that's not every projector, but I'm just giving this example.
- 17:39So that's one way is we can learn how to we can see another perspective of maybe how our
- 17:49partner processes information, moves through information.
- 17:54Also, when we're talking about relationships and and libido, or just maybe, I will say
- 18:01libido, Projectors need a little bit more rest.
- 18:06So for projectors living in burnout, maybe they're not feeling so much, like, after a
- 18:12really long day, getting right into the bedroom.
- 18:15Maybe they need a little bit of a break, maybe not even with you.
- 18:19Maybe they just need twenty minutes by themselves in the bedroom doing their own thing
- 18:26or maybe taking a shower, you know, doing something relaxing, and then coming together.
- 18:31So learning that about your partner can be very supportive in creating this day to day, how we
- 18:40relate to each other, and maybe it's just these small shifts that we make that will then create
- 18:47more clarity, and again, I'm gonna say it again, ease, but more ease in the bedroom too,
- 18:53because they might just need a little space.
- 18:56They might be you know, Manny Gens, maybe we really like to experiment in the bedroom more
- 19:00than a projector does.
- 19:01Like, there's different things that we can learn about our partner in that respect too.
- 19:06Yeah.
- 19:07There's so much great stuff here, Hannah.
- 19:09I mean, I really feel like, you know, so many people they, I think, are aware of, like, you
- 19:13know, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and we know some of our innate gender
- 19:18differences.
- 19:18We know type a versus type b.
- 19:21You know, it's like what some of what I was thinking about when you're talking about these
- 19:24different, like, oh, yeah.
- 19:25Manny, Jenny.
- 19:25It's like, definitely, they're like the type a's of the world or attendant you know, from a
- 19:29tendency perspective.
- 19:30But, you know, what I think is so unique about the human design is it's giving us a lot more
- 19:36detailed information.
- 19:37So it's really easy to say, like, oh, yeah.
- 19:39They they're type a.
- 19:40They take on a million things and go mile per minute.
- 19:43But from a standpoint of what I'm hearing here, it sounds like there's so much more capacity to
- 19:47understand, like, on on a much more, like, microscopic level.
- 19:50Like, oh, this is why they respond that way in this situation.
- 19:54This is why they have a need after a long day to do this.
- 19:58And I think it's just a different lens in where it's like when we're talking about
- 20:02relationships and communication and all these foundational things, the more that we actually
- 20:07understand our partner and kinda, like, how they're wired, the better.
- 20:13So let me ask you this.
- 20:14Like, do you find with human design and thinking about how we're wired and, like like,
- 20:20do you find that this changes over life?
- 20:22Can somebody be a projector and turn into a manifesting generator?
- 20:26And, you know, and I asked this in part because I I'm sure there's people listening.
- 20:30It's like, oh, yeah.
- 20:30Like, I really had things down with my wife, and we were talking great, and things were
- 20:34great, and they're just like, all of a sudden they change, and they just, like, want
- 20:38different things, and they want communication to be different.
- 20:40And we just, you know, oftentimes, I think, check that up to say, like, well, we're all
- 20:45growers and, like, you know, we all change at some point.
- 20:48This is where we grow and evolve as humans.
- 20:50But I'm wondering if human design has anything to say to, like like, to that around, like, can
- 20:55somebody is this more like the, you know, the energy type we're born into?
- 20:59Or is it like, yeah, we're born into this, but there are things that can actually make us one
- 21:04day decide that if we're, you know, a manifesting generator that we could become a
- 21:08projector?
- 21:10That's a great question.
- 21:12So the the short answer is we don't change energy types.
- 21:16Nothing changes just like your astrology is not gonna change over time.
- 21:21Maybe the the your astrology readings are gonna change over time, but you're always I'm always
- 21:26gonna be a Leo, just like I'm always gonna be a manifesting generator.
- 21:31However, our interest, the lens in which we see the human design information is going to change
- 21:40because we are constantly evolving.
- 21:42Every seven years, right, we completely regenerate.
- 21:45That's true for everyone on a biological level, but I'm always gonna be a manifesting
- 21:51generator.
- 21:52What I would say is probably the most important thing to note here is that conditioning plays a
- 22:00huge role.
- 22:01So who we are in contact with, the other energy types we're in contact with, is very much going
- 22:08to influence us.
- 22:10So again, with the projector, my mom is actually also a projector, and my dad, so I was
- 22:14raised by two projectors.
- 22:16So my I always kinda this is how I explain it in my head, is like, I have a very projector
- 22:24ish manifesting generator energy, like a very projector influenced manifesting generator
- 22:30because I was raised by two of the the same, but they're a different energy type than
- 22:35myself.
- 22:36So if you're dating currently or you could I don't know if it's possible to somehow look up
- 22:42your ex's human design if you know their birth information.
- 22:47You can look at maybe you dated, you're a manifesting generator and you dated a
- 22:52manifesting generator, or maybe you're a generator and you dated a manifestor and seeing
- 22:58how your energy had shifted within that relationship.
- 23:03We talk about kind of we become like the five people we hang out the most with.
- 23:08That's on an energetic level too.
- 23:10It's not just a personality trait or a or a characteristic trait.
- 23:14So if you're hanging out with the other energy types, which chances are you you at least know
- 23:20somebody else that's some other energy type, notice how your energy is affected.
- 23:26We haven't we've really only focused on the energy types because that's kind of the biggest
- 23:30piece of human design, but we have these energy centers which represent our chakra system, and
- 23:37we have them either colored in or not colored in, and that's defined or undefined is the
- 23:43terminology in human design.
- 23:45And when we come in contact with somebody, like, we have an open energy center, let's say,
- 23:51our head chakra or it's your it's called your crown your crown energy center in in human
- 23:56design and also in astrology in the chakra system.
- 24:01But if my head was undefined and yours was defined, the way that our energy meshes is
- 24:09going to be different than if I had a defined head and you had a defined head.
- 24:14And when we have an open and a when we have an open and then a defined, so again, if yours was
- 24:20undefined, mine was defined, my energy is almost like permeating your openness.
- 24:27Your openness is almost like a mirror, and it's reflecting and bringing that energy more into
- 24:34our dynamic.
- 24:35And and we have a sacral center too, so when we talk about the sacral chakra, like, the passion
- 24:40and and the pleasure and all of that, again, there's not a good or bad.
- 24:47That's not how I want you to think about it, but the the flavor in which we interact with if
- 24:53we're defined and our partner is defined versus our partner is undefined and we're defined is
- 24:58going to be different.
- 25:00Yeah.
- 25:00Makes so much sense.
- 25:02And I just see such a huge amount of value for people on this, so I really hope everybody will
- 25:07go and take a human design test.
- 25:10They can take it directly online.
- 25:11Correct?
- 25:12Yes.
- 25:13Yep.
- 25:13You literally just Google free human design chart.
- 25:15Okay.
- 25:16Take it.
- 25:17Talk to your partner about it, and I hope you will all join us for part two.
- 25:22In part two, I'm gonna be asking Hannah questions like, how do you talk to your partner
- 25:26about this?
- 25:26Are there things that you need to be watching out for?
- 25:29Are there ways that you can talk in a way that would, like, you know, make it so, like,
- 25:33somebody feel, you know, retracted versus, like, open?
- 25:37So we wanna explore all of that.
- 25:38We're gonna also explore things like libido and how we can use human design to strengthen our
- 25:45libido since libido is often low.
- 25:47How can you we can use human design to just feel more powerful in our body and so much
- 25:52more.
- 25:52So I hope you will join us for part two.
- 25:55Before we say, wrap it up for part one, just tell us real fast if you would, how do people
- 26:01get ahold of you, if people wanna work with you on exploring human design in more detail, how
- 26:07do they do that?
- 26:08Yeah.
- 26:08So the place that I hang out the most is my Instagram, which is underscore journey to well,
- 26:15which is my business as a boy, is journey to well.
- 26:18So reach out on there.
- 26:19I also do one on one human design chart readings.
- 26:23So if you pull up your chart and you get overwhelmed, that's totally normal.
- 26:28Reach out and book a call, and we can walk through your human design chart so it feels
- 26:33very approachable and not overwhelming because that is not the point of human design to
- 26:37overwhelm you.
- 26:38But, yes, definitely hang out at Journey to Well.
- 26:42Perfect.
- 26:42And we will have all those links below this video.
- 26:45Hope to get see you all in part two, and thank you everybody for being here on another episode
- 26:50of the lounge.
- 26:51Thanks, Hannah, for joining us.
- 26:52We'll see you all real soon.
- 26:54Thank you.
- 26:58Thank you for listening to the libido lounge.
- 27:00Please don't keep me a secret.
- 27:01Please share this with your friends.
- 27:03You can find me on YouTube, on Instagram, as well as how to work with me at mylibidodoc.com.