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The question that fits on a post-it · The Daily Reset Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello,
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  happy Wednesday and welcome to The Daily Reset and today I
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  wanted to talk about
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  clarity and direction and I just wanted to share that I'm also
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  in this place of
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  SPEAKER_00: trying to find some clarity and
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to write my book.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've got my masterclass, which is going on at the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're just about to do day three,
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  which is all about AI for humans and building technology for
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  human flourishing.
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  SPEAKER_00: and my granddaughter is due to be born any day.
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  I've got a talk that I'm giving at a school straight after the
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  masterclass and I'm
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  also looking at my whole marketing strategy and business
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  strategy and you know
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  SPEAKER_00: where I'm actually going as well.
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  So I think just to kind of share that you know not everybody
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  has everything
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  SPEAKER_00: and it's a process.
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  SPEAKER_00: I talk about getting clarity and then making progress.
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  Every day is a new opportunity to look at your direction and
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  where you're going.
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  I think that there's this myth of being ready and being ready
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  to take the next step and
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  action really does create the motivation it's not the other way
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  around so one of
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  the things I always am conscious of is trying to break things
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  down into small
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  manageable chunks and the I guess the idea that if you don't
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  know what to do next
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  SPEAKER_00: can you break it down into the tiniest
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  the tiniest question that you can answer so you know you might
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  feel completely lost
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  but until you can get that question down onto what I would say
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  until it fits on the
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  size of a post-it note instead of going you know what am I
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  doing with my life and
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  then there's this big fog you know you can start breaking it
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  down like what am I
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  SPEAKER_00: doing this summer and that's still foggy
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  it sounds specific but it doesn't have a date on it you know
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  summer isn't one
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  decision I guess it's a small it's a hundred small ones so you
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  could then take that
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  down further do I want to spend the summer building something
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  resting or exploring
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  SPEAKER_00: now you're getting a bit closer
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  but the question's still too big so then take it down further
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  what do I want to do
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  this week do I want to start the book I've been thinking about
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  or plan the trip or
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  sign up for the workshop or block off some rest time before I
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  decide to do anything
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  and that's it there's your post-it you can you can answer it
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  and you can move on
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  so if you notice what happened there it's going from what am I
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  doing with my life
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  SPEAKER_00: to and should I block off some time for rest this week which you know are
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  technically about the same thing your life but one of them is
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  unanswerable so the
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  SPEAKER_00: big question and the other one gets done by Friday so
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  the mind will resist this practice and it'll you'll think the
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  small questions
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  aren't that important I need to figure out the big thing but
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  that's that's that
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  sort of loop um and the loop survives on size so you have to
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  specific questions
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  starve that loop um and yeah that's one thing that I'm
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  practicing this week um
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  and the other big thing is like you know what if the other big
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  question I hear a
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  lot is what if I never find my passion and passion is its own
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  kind of fog it really
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  promises out there there's some sort of singular calling and
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  it's your job to find
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  it and if you don't you've failed and you've wasted your time
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  and if you do
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  SPEAKER_00: congratulations you've arrived you've made it either way
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  it's a lot to put on one word and I want to offer a different
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  question or a
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  different perspective and it's not what's my passion it's what
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  adds value to my
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  life and that's kind of like what makes time stop for you what
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  genuinely makes you
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  SPEAKER_00: feel better and what fills you up with light excitement and appreciation
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it creativity?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it movement?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it being around people who think out loud?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it working with your hands?
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  SPEAKER_00: Long conversations?
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  SPEAKER_00: Solitude?
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  SPEAKER_00: Cooking for someone?
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  SPEAKER_00: Walking somewhere new?
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  And you probably already know,
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  you just haven't been counting on it as enough.
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  Because we've really been taught that whatever lights us up has
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  to scale into a
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  SPEAKER_00: career or a calling,
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  SPEAKER_00: an identity,
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  SPEAKER_00: or it doesn't count.
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  and then we dismiss it and the things that quietly make us and
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  we keep searching
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  for some bigger thing that's supposed to make sense of
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  everything but the bigger
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  thing isn't out there waiting it's already in motion every time
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  you do what fills
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  you up so the life worth living isn't built on one passion it's
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  built on a hundred
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  SPEAKER_00: small returns to what makes you feel alive
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  so how about instead of finding your passion follow what feels
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  more like more of
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  you more often and yeah so I guess just for the practice of
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  figuring that out it's
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  SPEAKER_00: not one big question it's kind of breaking it down
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  and that's exactly what I try to do with balance operating
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  system and balance
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  coaching so it's the kind of questions that turn your fog into
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  a vision it's just
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  kind of breaking it down daily and looking at where you're at
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  and I am definitely
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  SPEAKER_00: doing that today so
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  SPEAKER_00: I am off to go and do my masterclass at the moment.
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  Today we're going to be looking at AI for humans and what we
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  can simplify with
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  technology and then tomorrow we'll be looking into why we keep
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  repeating the same
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  patterns and on Friday we'll be designing our lives
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  intentionally so kind of really
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  SPEAKER_00: looking at the getting out of the fog and
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  into motion and yeah have a great day everyone and I'll speak
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  to you tomorrow or
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  SPEAKER_00: see some of you in the masterclass