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Mindset Shifts for Fat Loss and Strength Training After 35 · The Body Recomposition Revolution | Fat Loss and Strength for Women 35+

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Welcome back to The BODY. Recomposition, revolution.
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This is Robin and today we are talking about the four mindset.
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Shifts that I feel. Are imperative for any woman or
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any person. To see success.
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In their health journey, when I send out initial client
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consultation forms, whether I'm doing somebody's macros or
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they're applying for a coaching position, I noticed that they
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oftentimes will cite maybe their hormones or their metabolism or.
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Their age or their job? Or their families as being the.
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Barrier or. All of them as being the
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barriers. To why?
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They keep starting over why they can't seem to be successful.
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And not often do women come to the realization that the real
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barrier, the real mountain, is you.
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Which is also a really great book, you should check it.
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Out and it is it's, it's incredibly true.
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And that realization comes with time, and it comes with
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experience, and it kind of unfolds.
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Before you whether you. Try to see it or not but.
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The real barrier? Is not all of your
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circumstances. The real barrier is.
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You. It's your mindset and.
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There are 4 facets of your. Mindset that's holding you back
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that I have found over many years of working in the fitness
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industry, even being a teacher. These are really applicable, but
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your barriers are. Balance, confidence, being at
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peace with discipline and. Gratitude, those are the
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barriers that. Hold you back.
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And today we're going to dive into them.
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The first one we are talking about is balance and balance can
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look really different from person to person.
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For me, a lot of times I am somebody who once I get an idea
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in my head that I am confident, I want to.
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Pursue I go. For it, I am like a dog with a
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bone. I'm not going to drop it.
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I'm going to do this thing or achieve it.
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I'm I'm going to. Do it better.
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Than anybody's ever seen in my brain.
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That's really how I think. Because that is just.
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My way and I often whatever it. Is like I could.
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Name a million instances. Balance is really hard for me to
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find. When I find something I'm
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passionate about, for example this business, when when I had
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all my, you know, friends start asking me.
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How do I do this? So how should I eat I?
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Started my business and I haven't stopped since.
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I am so passionate helping women understand their.
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Cycle of self. Destruction and how we can be
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stronger. Better, faster, more resilient.
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Age backwards. I love.
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Doing that there is. It is.
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I am so passionate about it and with my kids, you know, I am, I
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am very much in the know of what's going on to the point of
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it being too much. I've learned over the years and
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plus being a teacher for for many years, I am self aware
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enough to know when I need to, kind of.
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Take a back seat. So balance is oftentimes hard
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for me and. For a lot of.
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The women I coach. They feel like they're.
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Failing if they have one of those moments we are all
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familiar with and I have them still now where?
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You. Are standing in front of the
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fridge and you start eating just a little bite of something you
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know you shouldn't be eating and maybe 5 minutes later it's
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completely gone and you're standing there feeling
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incredibly defeated and you know exactly how much you just ate.
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So you throw the plant out the window, you go in the pantry and
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you start, you know, diving into everything, opening every bag.
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Why not who? Cares.
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Screw it, you already. Messed it up, that mindset that
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all or nothing mentality. That will fail you.
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Every single time it fails me every single time.
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And that mindset of. We don't need to be perfect you.
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Just need to be consistent. You need to have small
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repeatable actions. That you are.
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Taking every single day and that.
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Beats the. Extreme every time.
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So here's here's an example for me in terms of.
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Calories of how I always fail. When it comes to.
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Balance. Even though I coach women not to
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do what I'm about to tell you. I do.
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So there was this competition and it's supposed to end in a
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few weeks from now. Well, I was kind of gauging out
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the competition and I saw I'm going to have to go into.
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A really steep cut. In order to in my mind.
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Beat everybody. So I.
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Started, you know, I cut my calories down and I bumped my
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protein way up and I messed with my carbs in fat.
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Where I saw. These numbers, these macro
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numbers, and I knew they were unsustainable.
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I knew that I was doing what I told all my clients to not do,
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which was essentially kind of starve.
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Yourself. Until you get to where you need
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to be and then you can just. Reverse.
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Why do I do that? Because it never works, you
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know, Because then I have the moment of oh, I do want a bite
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of this birthday. Cake.
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And when I have the bite then I feel like I failed and or I
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don't have the bite and I go. Super.
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Extreme for those three weeks. And at the end of it, yeah, I
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feel good. I achieve my goal, but now I'm
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going to blow up because it's not sustainable.
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And that that mindset is 1 of maturity.
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I would say. And it's something that I have
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to continuously relearn the hard way, and so do all my clients
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when you're at that fridge and you start binging.
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After you have. Your little binge if it happens.
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Just stop. Just stop.
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And do not view. It as a failure.
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It was just. A little bump in the road.
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You didn't fall off the wagon. You just drop some of your crap.
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Keep going. You know where you need to go.
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You know the. Path to get there.
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You might have been derailed for a moment, but you can't let it
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stop you. And again, it's something I
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battle all the time. And this is where when women
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say, oh, I've tried everything I've.
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Tried every diet. Doesn't work for me.
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Well, no, you didn't. Because all diets work.
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You just didn't continue with it and you failed and you gave up.
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And that's fine because diets aren't sustainable, right?
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We, we know this. That's why macros to me are so
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freeing, because macros create. Structure.
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Not restriction when you're doing those.
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Keto Whatever. South Beach.
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Remember South Beach? That is all about.
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Restricting you? Are you are?
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Taking out the things you love, you can't have them.
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You can't have your Oreos. You can't have.
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Your birthday cake. With macros you can have your
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Oreos you can have your. Birthday cake.
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Just log it. Because it counts off your carbs
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and your fats, your total. Calories for the day, but it
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takes away. That feeling of I can't have
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this because when you know that you can't have something, it
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consumes you. It is that much more appealing,
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like you need it. And that's why macros are
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freedom. Have your Oreos but.
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Just have one or two, you know, have your birthday.
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Cake, but maybe just have half a piece.
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So again, that all or nothing mindset that doesn't work.
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That's not what macros. Are that?
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All or nothing mindset, that is. That is diet.
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Language and it's not. What we do?
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Now, when it comes to that moment, we were just talking
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about where you're standing in for the fridge and you.
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Feel like wow, I really really. Want a?
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Piece of this cheesecake. I'm going to give you a tip, and
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these are actually research proven.
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They really are. Here's a tip.
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You can call it a hack whatever you want.
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If you. Want to have some Oreos per SE?
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Do not grab the entire package. You're just.
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Going to take out. Three.
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Or figure out how many will fit into your macros for the day.
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Maybe it's 3. Maybe.
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It's four take out. That amount of Oreos and put it
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into a really small container. OK, then put the.
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Package away out of sight you have the four.
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Oreos in your very small container, whatever it is.
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For me, I use these little ramekins that I like to put my
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little treats in my nuts, my, my cookies, my whatever.
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Because it's a small white container that has your snack in
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it, you don't feel like you couldn't have the snack there.
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It is in your bowl. That is a psychological.
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Trick where when you have it in a little bowl, you sit down, you
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finish it, they're gone, you're not going to have that same
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desire to. Keep.
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Binging, you're not going to have that same desire.
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You don't have to have to have more.
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I mean, and maybe. You will but.
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Psychologically, when the bowl is empty, you.
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Feel satisfied. It's just a little mind hack.
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Here's another one too if. You eat.
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Off of a smaller plate if you put your food onto.
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A huge plate. You're going to eat all of the
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food. Or if you don't put a lot of
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food onto that huge plate, you're going to be left feeling
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like, Oh my gosh, I'm still hungry.
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This is a true. Tried and true tactic.
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Use a smaller plate. I actually went to the.
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Store just last week. And bought a ton of smaller
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white. Plates so that I could just use.
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Those for meal time. You wouldn't believe how
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obscenely large my plates. Were I was like.
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This is too much. So I got.
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These little these little ones and it's.
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Great, because your plate. Looks nice and Hardy and full.
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Because it's. Smaller and you feel.
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Satisfied after you. Consume the entire plate.
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Just a little hack. For you and lastly, with
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balance, I cannot express how much a plan matters in terms of
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you feeling balanced because when you plan your meals, you're
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taking away all of that decision fatigue, you're taking away the
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erratic emotions that happen when you have.
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Food at your reach. And you don't have a plan
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because when you don't have a plan, there's my mantra, plan to
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fail. So.
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Plan your day, plan your meals, put it in your app ahead of
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time. Write write it down.
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What? When are you doing your
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workouts? Put those in your calendar ahead
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of time because it is doing what you can sustain consistently
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that will bring you. Progress that will.
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Bring you balance, and if you have a real plan for what you're
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going to eat, when you're going to eat it, when your workouts
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are going to happen, that plan will.
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Carry you through. On your hardest days and not
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just your best ones. And that alleviates that
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eliminates that feeling of, Oh my gosh, that all or nothing
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mindset because you have a plan you don't need.
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To worry you are you are carried through.
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By your plan and you're not leaving a moment.
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To fall apart because you have it all figured out.
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The second mindset that women, men, everyone need to embrace
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when they are embarking on these.
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Health. Journeys.
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That all sounds so corny is confidence, and you're probably
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rolling your eyes. As I say that.
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But confidence. And when I say that, I don't
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mean in how you look, I mean confidence in who.
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You are. And the new identity you are
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embracing confidence to stand behind the choices that you now
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have to make. Publicly.
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Privately because you're. Going to have to do them in
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front of people and behind the scenes.
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And with that you're going to experience a lot of internal and
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external pressure to stay the same.
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You're going to have that pressure from yourself and
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you're going to. Have that pressure.
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From society, your friends, your coworkers, your family, they
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want a lot of times they want you to stay the same.
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They They might love you and they might want what's best for
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you, but they want what's comfortable for them.
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And when it comes to your. Peers.
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Your coworkers. If they're not good friends,
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you're right, they they want. To drag you to Happy Ever happy
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hour every week. Because they want you.
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To stay there with. Them and you have to have the
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confidence and the assertiveness to know that you made a choice.
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You have a goal. And you cannot make all the same
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choices. You always have or you're.
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Going to stay the same and I promise you.
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People will give you crap, people will say.
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Oh, she's ordering chicken. And yeah, I am.
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Then you don't need to be argumentative.
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I will often answer with, you know, true enthusiasm for the
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food I'm about to consume. Yes, Oh my.
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Gosh, I love. This chicken and they have the
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best steamed vegetables, all drenched in garlic and butter.
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You know, I enthusiastically and again, authentically will
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respond like, oh, you should. Try it.
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It's actually. Amazing, and in most cases.
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They really should try it. But that confidence in standing
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firmly in the choices that you know now have to make, that is a
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huge hindrance for people because you have friends who
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want you to be drinking beer with them on the weekends.
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You yourself might think, well, what am I going to do if I can't
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drink? Because we know alcohol has a
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ton of carbs in it, right? And it's just.
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I could name 1,000,000 reasons why it's a toxin for your body
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and how it affects your metabolism and your fat burning.
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We won't get into that. But if you really are on a
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journey of health, you're going to have to cut most alcohol out
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and for people who drink a lot, that is very anxiety inducing.
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Because that's that's a. Comfort for them, that's a
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crutch for many in social situations, it's, it's lubricant
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that it makes things easier. You can detach because you're
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kind of not there, and when you really think about that, that's
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a problem in and of. Itself, but.
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You have to make the choice. Do you want to stay the same or
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do you want to carry forward in a new, better, stronger, more
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present, healthy person? The person that you know is in
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there, but now you've come to terms with all the new choices
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you have to make and you have to make them with your chest.
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So when somebody says, oh, you're not coming, she doesn't
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go out. Nope, I'm not, I'll be in bed.
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But have fun, You know, say it with a smile because after it,
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after people give you so much crap, you just learn how to say
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it with a smile. And another facet I wanted to
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touch on in terms of confidence is when you're entering the gym.
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So when you're entering the gym and maybe you're in a body that
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you don't feel confident in in this moment right now and when
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you think about going to the gym.
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You feel like. Everybody is looking at you.
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You kind of you're looking at the ground, you're probably
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holding your phone. You think everybody in their mom
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is staring at you. You have no confidence, but
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confidence is not in How? You look, it's just.
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Standing behind the choices you're making, even when they
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are uncomfortable. Right, because you're.
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Building a new identity and confidence is deciding this is
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who I am now and acting like it. Before you.
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Actually are that person. You are believing that you are
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that person. It's that phrase.
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Fake it till you make it. And I've one of my clients when
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I was telling her like you, you know, just enter the space with
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confidence. Enter the space.
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Have your eyes upward. Enter that space with pride and
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the knowledge. That you are here for you.
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And nobody else. And she was like, that's easy
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for you to say, OK. Well, it to to her.
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Point it what it is easy for me to say and I don't I I don't
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know if I was Born This Way, but I am I am a confident person and
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I've been a confident person at. Various at all sizes.
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Of my life, you know, there was a time when I was 70 lbs heavier
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than I am now yes, I was pregnant, but there was a lot of
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in between space in there where I was, you know, not nearly
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looking nothing like I do now and.
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You're right, like. I will enter any space with
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confidence because why would I not?
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I enter any room I'm going into with my eyes up and I am here to
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meet. You where you are, because why
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would you? Enter any room with anything but
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have pride in the body you're in now, no matter.
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What it looks like. When I was 70 lbs heavier, I I
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loved my body then too. You would never hear me speak
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negatively about myself. Why would I?
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Why? Would I that my body when it.
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Was a lot bigger, housed 3 kids. It breastfed all three.
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Of them for. Maybe five years.
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Combined, I know. It was.
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It is. A snuggly place for them, you
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know, I I knew. That I could.
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Change what I needed to change when I was ready to change it.
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But when I was in that phase of life, yes, I had confidence in
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who I am and what I stand for. And now in a different body, I
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have that same confidence no matter what room I'm entering.
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This is funny. I think that men notice
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confidence a lot. Because I have heard.
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Many times in my life, not just this year, it many times in my
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life. Wow, you walk so confidently or
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you present yourself so confidently.
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Yes, I do. That is a strength of mine, but
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something about that is evident to men.
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I feel like they are more. Susceptible to a.
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Confident presence, probably because they pride themselves on
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being confident and women need to take note.
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Because. When you enter a space, no
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matter what body you're in, you know who you are and you have so
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many unique things that make you you.
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And I know that sounds incredibly corny, but it's it's.
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True. It is so true I I think.
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About all my clients and they are all different shapes and
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sizes. But there is.
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So many traits and qualities about each of them that are
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unique and I just love each and every one of them.
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They have added to my life in so many different ways that I can't
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even describe because they're unique.
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So here's a little. Exercise.
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I noticed somebody commented on me doing this a long time ago
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and I've always remembered it. When you introduce yourself from
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now on to anybody, you don't say my name is Robin.
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You say? I'm Robin take that ownership
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when I shake somebody's hand and you know we I am always
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presenting myself as I'm Robin nice to meet you Don't say my
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name is it's just a small. Little switch that is.
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I don't know, throwing a penny in your confidence bank, We just
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want to keep adding to that. And this little switch, while it
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seems insignificant, it really is significant because.
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You are you. You.
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Own that when you walk into the gym.
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You own that when you meet somebody, as I said in the
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beginning. Hit with your chest.
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You are insert name the third mindset shift.
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I love this one. Is there is peace with?
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Discipline and women, I have found, are there's no other way
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to. Describe it besides addicted.
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To chaos myself. Included because I grew up in a
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very chaotic household. Many women are They don't hate
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the discipline, but they are more comfortable in the chaos it
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it's almost. Like.
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The drama of falling off and starting over is more of a a
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comfortable. Space for.
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Many than just steady consistency.
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It's almost like the discipline that you need.
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To a lot. Of women internally it feels
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boring but that boring is where results live and in this time
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and space where we all live in chaos is rampant think.
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About all of the. Obligations you have as a woman,
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but also if you're a mom, you know, you wake up in the
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morning, you have to get the kids.
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Ready. You have to do ABCD?
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Oh, what about? EF Oh, and then there's G and
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now we can't got an H over here. There are so many moving pieces
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that. That chaos, that over.
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Stimulated chaotic state is honestly where we spend the
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majority. Of our lives.
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So when it comes to planning out your day and thinking, well, I
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have to my workout here and I'll be eating at these times, that
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seems like a foreign concept. Because you live.
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In chaos, the chaos. Is predictable.
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You are. So over stimulated at all times
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that that. Like I said.
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Has become your norm and it's wreaking havoc on your nervous
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system. Honestly, it's shooting your.
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Cortisol through the roof. You need the peace that comes
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with discipline when I think. Of the chaos.
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That was my childhood. Love you, mom.
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It was. It was simply not because my mom
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and dad were unloving or absent. It was just a lack of of.
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Consistent routine. There was a lack of.
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Of predictability and in my my education as a teacher, children
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need predictability. They need a consistent schedule
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as an adult, you need that as well.
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So I'm going to paint a. Picture of.
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A day in the. Life of.
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Somebody. Somebody with kids who has no
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routine, right? So you wake up.
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Maybe you hit snooze on your alarm a few times.
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Now you're running late, you haven't started the day with any
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movement, so you're feeling. Sluggish.
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Oh crap, you have to go. Grab the kids, you know, Wake up
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you. Guys, wake up.
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Where are your school clothes? Where are your clean clothes?
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I don't know where are mine. Where is this?
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Where is that? Did you do your homework?
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Why didn't you do your homework? Everybody's yelling, somebody's
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crying now. There's names being shouted.
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You're all running downstairs. What do we eat?
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Who knows? We have nothing prepped.
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We have nothing made. OK, let's grab these.
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Crappy snacks that are just going to, you know, shoot.
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Your blood sugar. Up and make you act like an
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insane person at school. Who cares, at least you got some
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food. Whatever, get in the car.
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Everybody's upset with everybody else.
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Your hands are shaking. You start chugging caffeine.
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Because you're still groggy your.
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Cortisol. Cortisol is now through the
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roof. You've had no protein to blunt
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that cortisol spike that you had when you woke up and all this.
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Chaos the. Caffeine on the empty stomach
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that is wreaking havoc on your body.
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OK, you're also sending your. Kids off to school.
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In complete disarray. Not OK.
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OK, so now you're on this, you know this macro kick.
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Or a diet or what have you. But you didn't prep any food, So
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what are you going to do? For breakfast, I.
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Don't know. OK, run to the gas station, grab
22:42
a protein bar. Great choice.
22:44
That is a great. Choice.
22:44
If you you know, on a pinch like that, what are you going to do
22:47
for lunch? Who knows?
22:48
Well, everybody's going to. Chick-fil-A go to Chick-fil-A.
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We'll just grab it. Do you?
22:51
You're now you're in a place where your cortisol spiked.
22:53
You're really hungry. Because of that cortisol.
22:55
Spike. It messes with your hunger
22:56
hormones, your gorrel and your left and all of that is in.
22:58
Disarray, so screw it. Grab the fries, it'll make you
23:01
feel good. Now we're going to get home.
23:04
And now that you've already fallen off your mental wagon,
23:07
might as well just grab some other pick up food on the way
23:09
home. Grab Pizza Hut.
23:11
Now we can all just maintain this cycle.
23:14
Of chaos without. Even knowing that it.
23:16
Is a cycle of. Chaos and when is your when you
23:19
going to have your workout you couldn't have.
23:21
Your workout you. Were going to do your workout.
23:22
When you got off work, but you had to go to the grocery store
23:26
to grab. Food so that maybe you can prep
23:27
your food tomorrow and then you also had to pick up the dry
23:30
clean you didn't plan for that oh and then so and so has piano
23:33
at 5:00 so never mind the dry clean you're going to have to do
23:35
that tomorrow after work so now you can't work out for two days
23:38
maybe you can get up early but you know you're so.
23:40
Crashed. Out from having the cycle over
23:43
and over. Speaking of, there's one of my
23:44
children that you're not going to get up.
23:46
You're not going to get up, right?
23:47
You know, I know you're not going to get up.
23:48
You're going to press snooze because it's a cycle.
23:51
You live in the cycle of expected chaos.
23:54
And I, I am not coming from a place of holier than thou
23:57
because. I have had stages.
23:59
In my life as a mom, when I had kids and before I had kids.
24:03
Where it was chaotic because we all have those phases.
24:07
And to me you can either. Embrace the chaos.
24:09
Or you can choose discipline and the peace that comes with
24:13
discipline. So I'm going to paint another
24:14
picture. For you.
24:15
Too quickly. So now we have embraced my
24:19
children, we have embraced the discipline.
24:23
We have a plan. You are now getting up two hours
24:26
earlier. You're not ruling out of bed at
24:28
7, you're getting up. Out of bed at 5:00 you've
24:32
committed to. That so when your alarm goes
24:33
off, you're not going to press snooze because it's that
24:36
important to you to have routine to.
24:39
Have peace with that. Routine.
24:42
You get up, you get all the breakfast.
24:44
Ready you make sure the kids. Its clothes are out.
24:46
And then you actually have time to go down in your basement and
24:49
get a workout and you have a. Full. 60 minutes to do that now
24:53
head back. Upstairs, you're dressed.
24:55
You're ready and you're happy. You are.
24:57
You are. Pleasant to be around, there's
24:59
not. Chaos associated with your.
25:01
Morning So now you're greeting your family, you're greeting
25:03
your Co workers, you're greeting whoever you interact with in a
25:07
state of. Peace.
25:08
You're pleasant, it's nice, you have your lunch prepped and
25:12
ready to go. You don't have to waste money
25:14
going out to eat because. You already did that.
25:17
And it's yummy. And it's home cooked.
25:19
And you feel like good after you eat.
25:22
It and not bogged down. Your kids had a great day at
25:25
school because they were. Fed a balanced breakfast.
25:28
They were greeted. By a nice happy mom.
25:32
Even your dog is. Pleased because he got a walk.
25:35
And because. You had your breakfast.
25:36
You had your lunch pre made. You know what you're having for
25:39
dinner because you threw it in the.
25:40
Crock pot before. You went to work, everything is
25:43
planned. Out it is peaceful.
25:46
The kids are sitting there doing their homework.
25:48
Nobody's running around the house trying to find everything
25:51
because. You have it figured.
25:53
Out and there is so much peace in that.
25:56
And you stayed on your nutrition because again, it was planned
26:00
out. And I know that the all of that
26:03
sounds incredibly overwhelming if your life is chaos right now.
26:06
And again, I'm not coming from a holier than thou place my life.
26:10
Has had periods of chaos. It will probably.
26:13
Slip back into chaos against who knows, but I'm not saying this
26:17
from a place of me not having been there myself many times.
26:22
So. If you're wondering where to
26:24
start, start with your morning routine.
26:26
Start with your morning routine. And I actually have a whole
26:28
episode on how to build your morning routine.
26:31
So you can look back in my episodes and just type in
26:33
morning routine. It's pretty short, Shorter than
26:35
this one where I'm rambling, but yes, the third one.
26:38
Peace was peace. Comes with discipline and
26:41
finally gratitude #4 you don't need a new body.
26:46
You. Just need a new lens and a new
26:48
way of looking at the body. You have.
26:51
Again, my dog, you guys. This is what happens when I
26:54
don't operate within. Schedule everybody else is.
26:57
On my tail, you just need a new lens because if you have a
27:02
mindset of lack and want instead of a mindset of ownership, you
27:09
know, we talked about that confidence when you enter the
27:11
room. No matter.
27:11
Where you are physically. You enter the room with
27:15
confidence. Embrace that sense of ownership.
27:19
Embrace it, because whenever I'm feeling some kind of way, I
27:23
always try to think of something.
27:26
How would my. Life be without.
27:28
This person or what would my. Life be like without.
27:31
My car What would my? Life be like without access to
27:35
this. Really nice gym or.
27:36
How would my life? Be if we didn't have you know
27:40
this. Job or what have you.
27:42
Go down the list and just if you're wondering where to start,
27:45
just to think about what the first things you touch when you
27:48
get up in the morning, you have so much to be grateful.
27:51
For. And when you look.
27:52
At your body and your. Life and your surroundings with
27:55
an attitude of just wow. I am very grateful.
27:58
It there is research that backs this to.
28:01
It changes your entire lens. It changes.
28:04
Your perspective so show up with gratitude.
28:08
Lastly, I really. Wanted to share this Instagram.
28:12
Reel that I saw. And I'm not sure what it was
28:14
from, I think it might have been from.
28:15
Diary of a CEO. But.
28:17
It was just like, whoa, because all of these.
28:21
Things coincide with an identity that you need to.
28:23
Embrace as being. The new you and you need to know
28:27
that that is. Who you are?
28:29
And on this real, this man, I don't know what his name is,
28:32
will call Bob. He was saying think about if.
28:35
You lived your. Life as an incredibly fit in
28:39
shape person, that is who? You are.
28:40
You wake up every day. You go to the gym, you do all
28:42
the things. You are fit, you eat healthy.
28:45
That is who you. Are.
28:46
Now imagine if you woke up randomly one day and you were
28:50
morbidly. Obese.
28:52
What would you do? Well, you would know.
28:54
Exactly what to do? And there would be no slowing
28:57
you down from doing all the things that you knew you needed.
29:00
To do to get back to who you are because if you view yourself as
29:07
a healthy. Fit person and you know
29:09
everything you need to. Do it's just a race?
29:12
Between you and yourself to do all the things you need to do.
29:15
To get back to who you are, or to get to who you are.
29:18
For the first time ever but I. Thought wow, that is just.
29:21
So eye opening and yes, because tomorrow, you know if I woke up
29:24
200 lbs heavier I would. Know exactly what to.
29:26
Do and you would not be able to stop me from doing all the
29:29
things I need to do. To get back to.
29:30
Who I am, which is someone who just.
29:32
Lives tries to live. The healthiest version of myself
29:36
I'm a work in. Progress.
29:37
So are you? Ladies, thank you so much for
29:40
tuning in today. Remember your mindset.
29:43
Your identity? Your.
29:44
Confidence and your willingness. To stay.
29:46
Consistent and again just. Be grateful.
29:49
Be grateful because. When all of those things change,
29:52
everything else follows. Talk to you soon.