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43 | What If You Don't Want To Be The Bigger Person
“Be the bigger person.”
“Take the high road.”
“Don’t be bitter.”
“Think of the children.”
Sometimes these phrases are genuinely useful. Sometimes they’re another way of telling the person who was harmed to absorb more of someone else’s behavior without becoming inconvenient.
In this episode of The Messy Middle, I’m unpacking the hidden cost of always being told to take the high road, especially when you’re recovering from abuse, navigating post-separation abuse, or trying to rebuild your sense of agency after years of having your reactions monitored and controlled.
I’m talking about:
Why we…
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