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137. What would it take to fail · Your Enriched Self

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  I hope your eyes are open, your heart is open, your ears are
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  If you are struggling to get started, if you are struggling to restart,
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  back on track to accomplish your goals, this episode is for you. If
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  you know someone who is dealing with this, if you know someone who is
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  in struggle in strife in this area, share this episode with them. A
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  couple weeks back, someone shared this with me and it had me rethink a
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  complete different conversation in my mind about approaching a new thing or reapproaching something that
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  I tried before and I'm trying to tweak it, and that is what would
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  it take for me to fail? And when I heard that, I thought,
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  like you probably that's a really strange approach to going after something new,
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  because when we go in we talk about winning. We want to see the
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  winning formula on our mirror, in our car, at work, on our
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  computer screens. We want to see a screenshot, a post it note,
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  if people still use those, whatever it is. We want to see that
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  to remind ourselves that we are a winner and we are in fact going to
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  win at this thing that we are charging after. But this, this question,
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  this question argues that a way, this question contends with that idea of
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  winning, because that's what we all want to do. No one gets up
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  to start their day saying I want to lose today. No one does that.
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  But this question has us asking the question what would it take for me
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  to fail? And I know it's a hard question to ask, but I
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  promise you it's an easy question to answer if you're being honest with yourself.
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  And I'm gonna be honest with you as I do on the podcast, share
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  my personal journey, and hopefully that helps you feel open enough to do the
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  same, because this is for you and you got to do this work,
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  and so what would it take for me to fail? I'm going to give
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  you an example, I am currently in a boot camp. This boot camp
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  is for six weeks. I am in week two of the boot camp.
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  And I've never done anything like this before, nothing like this before in my
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  entire life. So this in itself presents intimidation. This presents challenge, This
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  presents a new thinking. There's so much that I'm doing that I'm changing,
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  that I'm rearranging because of course, I want to be successful, like everybody
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  else does. I want results. I want transformation, I want lifestyle changes.
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  But that question had me do everything almost in reverse. I had to
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  reverse engineer how I would approach this. And the reality is the reason why
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  we fail or what would make us fail is you know things like you don't
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  have the discipline. Well, yeah, I know that. That's probably why
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  I'm here, right. I work my way into these bad eating habits.
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  I work my way into not getting up so I can go work out.
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  I work my way into whatever it is spending poorly discipline given we know that,
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  right persistence, I didn't keep up with it. I started, but
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  I stopped. I started but I paused. I started but I tripped.
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  I fell. I didn't get back up, not in time. I wasn't
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  persistent. I didn't keep on track, I didn't stay aligned with it.
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  But this question had me going a little bit deeper. What in the past
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  was I unwilling to do which is why I wouldn't get to my goal?
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  Now? I remember years ago when I started my run journey. I had
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  a run coach at the time, and she would come out and run with
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  the group, and right after her run, she would go out for another,
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  you know, five ten mile run and I just thought that was insane,
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  That was Craig Cray. Why would you just run three miles with us
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  and then turn around and go run ten miles. Well, this woman had
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  goals and she had to swim against the current. While everybody was going home
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  the current, the flow, she was going the opposite way to do work.
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  And that's something I know I would have to change to get into this
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  new environment. And so what that means for me. And this is going
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  to sound crat great because it sounded crak Cray to me when I was planning
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  my playbook for failure, believe it or not, is I had to look
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  at what would I need to do to swim against the current. Now again,
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  as an example, I run on Tuesday mornings and Thursday morning's at five
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  am my boot camp. I can do a five am boot camp or a
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  seven am boot camp, right So me challenging myself, I said, you
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  know what, I can do the five am run and then go do the
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  boot camp right after at seven And guys, I did it the first week,
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  which was last week. So I'm still I just started this journey and
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  it didn't It didn't hurt as bad as I thought it would hurt. Now
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  it's definitely a lot of working out and working on but I'm working through it.
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  I'm swimming against the current. Where I could easily just say I'm going
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  to stop running for six weeks and simply do the boot camp. I decided
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  to stay on track for my running and get on track for my boot camp.
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  And so that's what this question has us thinking, is what would cause
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  me to fail if I start getting out of routine? That would cause me
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  to fail? If I let me go into the next one planning. I
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  know that if I don't plan appropriately, I will fail. What would cause
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  me to fail if I didn't plan? So you see how I reverse engineered
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  that. I knew that what would cause me to fail would be no planning,
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  and how does this saying go. Having no plan is a plan in
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  itself, but that plan is a plan of failure. So I knew that
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  I would have to make arrangements for how I would plan my week. Keep
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  in mind, I'm working in the office, some days, I'm working at
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  home, some days I'm in traffic some of those days coming back from the
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  gym when I do my seven o'clock. There's a lot of things that I'm
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  rearranging. But I had to do that in advance of signing up for this
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  boot camp because I know what would make me fail. I knew what would
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  make me fail would be not having a plan that I can execute upon.
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  Here's something else that causes us to fail that sometimes we don't think about not
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  participating. And I'm not talking about going to the boot camp doing the one
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  hour workout for five days a week. I'm talking about participating. I'm talking
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  about joining. I'm talking about community. And when I joined this boot camp,
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  one of the things, and I think I mentioned this last week,
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  is that we were encouraged to join a team and that would help with accountability.
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  It also helps with community. I also am learning from people that I've
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  never met before learning their techne the things that they do to maintain, to
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  manage, and we're holding each other accountable during the weekend. Guess what on
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  the weekends. We had a guy who went out to Vegas on my team
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  last week and he was sharing his journey in Vegas. And you know what
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  they say, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, but not with this
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  team that we created. He was sharing his Vegas journey with us so that
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  we can all be accountable, not just to win at the end, but
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  now we know what it would take for us to fail. This man was
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  vulnerable enough to say, you know him. As many times as I've gone
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  to Vegas and I've taken my workout gear, I've never worked out. This
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  is the first time I've unpacked it and I've been there. I've gone on
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  vacation, packed my workout gear and never opened the thing, never put the
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  shoes on, never put on the gear, just kept it moving. And
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  these are those moments of planning. These are those moments of when everybody else
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  is still sleeping the night before, I'm up early doing the workouts, the
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  virtual workouts. That's what it takes. So we are so we are reverse
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  engineering this whole idea of what would it take to fail? What would it
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  take to fail is to not plan to do a virtual workout when I get
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  to Vegas. What would it take to what would it take for me to
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  fail? For me to come up with new excuses for me to use my
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  same old excuses. You know what I wish I had, you know,
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  planned my meals, right, I wish I had. You know, I
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  didn't get a chance to go to the grocery store. All of those things.
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  I know what it takes for me to fail. Not going to the
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  grocery store, not writing out my list, not meal prepping, not putting
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  my clothes out the night before so that the mornings are easy. I know
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  what it takes for me to fail. Not showing up in these areas,
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  the food area, my workout gear area, my workout area, all of
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  those things would cause me to fail. So now as you know what those
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  things are, you can plan accordingly. You can plan accordingly knowing that you've
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  already went through all the fail traps. Oh, yep, that would make
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  me fail. Yep, that right there would make me fail. Yep.
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  If I went out and somebody had a box of cookies that I liked that
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  would probably make me fail, because again, this boot camp is not just
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  about working out, it's working in. I'm eating differently. I'm let me
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  say this, I'm fueling my body today. That was the word that came
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  to mind. I am now on fuel mode. What does this body need
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  to be fueled properly? Not what do I need to eat? Not what
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  I feel like I want to eat. The wants are gone. It's more
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  like what does my body need. I'm researching foods that I'm putting into my
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  body. I'm reading labels. When I tell you this is true transformational,
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  this is exactly what it is. But I had to walk through those traps.
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  I had to go through those doors that I typically wouldn't go through.
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  I would just wait till I got there, and it's like, oh,
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  well, I didn't put my clothes out last night, so I guess I'm
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  not gonna go to my workout today. I would follow my I would find
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  myself in those zones. Okay, I would find myself in those zones.
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  Let me tell you what. Let me tell you a habit that I had
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  for a long time. So me and my run crew five am Tuesday Thursday.
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  We've been doing this for years. Of course COVID put a stop to
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  it. So for years with this run crew, these ladies, they must
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  love me. What I would do when they posted the night before, who's
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  showing up for the run tomorrow morning? I would never say I would.
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  You know why? Because I didn't want to commit. I didn't want to
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  commit, so I didn't say anything. And some of you do that because
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  you don't want to commit, because you don't want to feel, because you
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  don't want to rah rah and then don't show up. You would rather just
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  not show up and just blend in. Well, it's time for you to
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  stand out. How are you going to make the change, the transformation?
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  How are you gonna go and charge after those goals? How are you going
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  to start or restart this thing if you're not willing to stand out. And
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  the thing is, you're doing this for yourself. This is for no one
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  else, This is for me. And I know you have your thing,
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  and I want you to go after your thing with courage and grace for yourself,
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  but also be willing to do the thing that doesn't really go with the
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  flow, sometimes go against that current. And what's good and what's good news
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  is that you have what it takes. That's kind of the final piece of
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  all this says, you have to believe in yourself. It's one thing for
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  people to pour into you and believe in you, but you have to believe
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  in yourself. And I will tell you where you will get your best self
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  belief or yourself. I will tell you where you will get your best confidence
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  and your self esteem. For believing in yourself, get in the evidence box.
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  You know when a lawyer and I don't know law, so don't check
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  me if you're a lawyer, but you know, when a lawyer is getting
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  ready to take on a case, they look for the evidence. They look
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  for past cases that were similar in nature so they can find alignment and find
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  how they can build their case. And a lot of you need to do
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  that. When it comes to believing in yourself. You have to go back
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  to where and when you performed, where and when you showed up for your
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  Where and when you did the thing, where you won, where you were
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  successful, where you applied what you learned. You didn't just learn something,
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  but you applied what you learned. You got to go back to that,
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  and for me and you probably sick of me at this point. I'm going
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  back to my half marathon last year when I say I didn't train for this
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  thing. It was literally a mental agility test. I had to test what
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  my mind was made of. At one point I told myself that's what it
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  was. I had to test what I was made of. And now I
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  know that without training, I was able to do something absolutely significant for my
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  life. It was my first official half marathon. As you would know,
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  I've ran half marathons training with other people, but this was my first one
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  with a medal, and all the things that the whole nine yards right,
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  Go back and find your evidence. Go get your box of evidence. Go
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  find the things in your past that are similar, that are relevant, that
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  are important to where you're going. It may not be the exact same thing,
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  but it may be a time that you were afraid, but you still
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  went ahead and did it. You still showed up for that interview, you
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  still had that conversation, you know, the tough one that you didn't want
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  to have, but you still did it. Those are moments where you are
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  failing forward because you don't know what you don't know, but you're not going
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  to get any new insights. If you stay on the sidelines, this is
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  your life. And as I've said before, you are the common denominator to
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