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Bite-Sized Wisdom for a Full-Sized Life: Advice for Taboo Lifestylers | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 40 · Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

• 0:56
  Speaker 1: Welcome to Around the Kinky Campfire.
• 0:58
  Speaker 1: Grab a seat, pour a drink and let's turn up the heat.
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: This is the podcast where we explore the wild, wonderful and sometimes wicked world of kink, bdsm and alternative lifestyles.
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: Whether you're a seasoned player, a curious newbie or just here for the stories, we've got something for you.
• 1:16
  Speaker 1: Join us on Thursdays on your favorite podcast platform as we share experiences, dive into deep discussions and maybe spark a little fire of your own.
• 1:26
  Speaker 1: No shame, no judgment, just real talk around the kinky campfire.
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: Let's get lit.
• 1:37
  Speaker 1: Welcome back everybody to the podcast that is crackling.
• 1:43
  Speaker 1: The warmthness that you have in front of you, while we have a lack of colder days now, I think, in most parts of the country colder days now, I think, in most parts of the country but you are here today around the Kinky Campfire, the Pillowfort Sessions, where we talk about taboo topics, hopefully to bring it into light and make it less taboo for people to talk about and ask questions.
• 2:04
  Speaker 1: This is your host Senior Taco Knuckle, the Cuddle Jiggalo, colonel McBee, Fresno Bob all of those and formerly HH Julius, or just Julius, if you're feeling informal.
• 2:23
  Speaker 1: Today we have another episode for you of me giving my opinion and also kind of promoting myself.
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: This is more of a uh advice promotion.
• 2:33
  Speaker 1: I've been talking about that more so in the last couple episodes.
• 2:37
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I want to hear your questions, your comments, all the above about what I've been talking about and, if you have any, definitely have any.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: Like super not even like in-depth questions super wanting to know questions.
• 2:51
  Speaker 1: I want you to know you'll get a very non-judgmental answer from here, based on my experiences and my research.
• 2:57
  Speaker 1: So, without further ado, we will get to everybody's favorite 30 seconds or like five seconds now, and that is the ASMR 30 seconds, five seconds.
• 3:07
  Speaker 1: Today's not-sponsored drink is actually Corona Premier.
• 3:11
  Speaker 1: Very interesting.
• 3:13
  Speaker 1: I got a little sample can from a running event that I did recently and it is a 90-calorie, 2.6-carb Cerveza Masfina in Can Brood, modelo, mexico.
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: It is an exceptionally light beer.
• 3:34
  Speaker 1: It actually does not taste too bad.
• 3:36
  Speaker 1: But here we go.
• 3:37
  Speaker 1: We got some more tasting going on in three, two, one.
• 3:40
  Speaker 1: Oh boy.
• 3:42
  Speaker 1: Actually not too bad as a Corona.
• 3:50
  Speaker 1: Pretty interesting that it's only 90 calories and 2.6 carbs.
• 3:55
  Speaker 1: I can't see the alcohol.
• 3:56
  Speaker 1: 12 fluid fluid ounces.
• 3:58
  Speaker 1: I don't know how much alcohol is in here.
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: It does not say on the can.
• 4:02
  Speaker 1: Interesting, doesn't want you to know how much alcohol is a can of corona per year, but anyways, not sponsored, but pretty tasty.
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: I'm not a huge fan of Corona.
• 4:11
  Speaker 1: Y'all know we like to drink our seltzers here and also our tequila and vodka sodas Very tasty.
• 4:19
  Speaker 1: But today, doing a little something different, as in the topic of this episode, okay, I want to promote my advice line, so give you a little taste of what you would see if you asked me a question, hit me up, email me such and such, um till all are one.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: So once again, you guys got the contact information, the social medias and everything in the intro and you'll get in the outro as well, but in between stats or after that you will get something similar to this.
• 4:50
  Speaker 1: So, as you know, I am a huge relationship anarchist activist.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: I'm learning more and more about relationship anarchy not too much actual factual knowledge.
• 5:01
  Speaker 1: There is a the pillars and the pamphlets that would that go along with relationship anarchy, but as far as I can see, not a whole lot of people are educating about it.
• 5:12
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of content creators out there talking about it.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: That I will say that, and I'm just one of those people and I live the experience.
• 5:20
  Speaker 1: Also, I try to get the tent poles, the pillars of the relationship anarchy out there in my relationships and also when I talk about it.
• 5:27
  Speaker 1: So I want to go more in depth in that.
• 5:33
  Speaker 1: When you get advice from me and it's like each relationship very broadly, very generally, with relationship anarchy, the main thing is that each relationship is independent of the others.
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: Let us say that once again each relationship is independent of the others, including the relationship with yourself.
• 5:51
  Speaker 1: So let us not forget that part.
• 5:54
  Speaker 1: Each relationship that you have, including with yourself, is something to remember.
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: So don't forget that you are in a relationship with yourself first and foremost, and then you can have a relationship with others.
• 6:10
  Speaker 1: I know people like to say work on yourself and then you can be better with other people, however you want to say that.
• 6:18
  Speaker 1: But I mean, let's be factual here You're not going to be able to finish product when you go talk to other people or something like that.
• 6:25
  Speaker 1: It's not going to happen.
• 6:26
  Speaker 1: So, as you're working on yourself, let's just bring in other people.
• 6:31
  Speaker 1: Best way to get a reality check or see where you're going and get kind of any information is to bring somebody else into your process.
• 6:38
  Speaker 1: Hopefully it's somebody you trust and during that process, the quality of the people who bring in friends, family, partners, whatever I mean family's always there, but you can like not bring them in if you don't want to.
• 6:50
  Speaker 1: It depends on how your family dynamic is.
• 6:53
  Speaker 1: But once you bring them back into your life, just remember they need to meet your boundaries and your standards as well in order to have a relationship with them.
• 7:05
  Speaker 1: So with the RA lifestyle, you got to start with yourself, and that's not always easy, just working on yourself and then just being super focused on working in your thing, but I'm a big fan of doing that.
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: While you interact with other people, it's almost impossible I say in generally to not talk to anybody or interact with other people.
• 7:28
  Speaker 1: Most of us have to do it for our jobs and our hobbies and or just living life in general.
• 7:34
  Speaker 1: You don't want to just be surviving, you actually got to live life.
• 7:36
  Speaker 1: So it's almost nearly impossible to do that by yourself.
• 7:39
  Speaker 1: So while you have to interact with people, use them to fix yourself.
• 7:44
  Speaker 1: Hopefully you are paying attention with the reactions that you get from other people and be like huh, that was kind of dumb of me to say, or oh man, that might've been a little bit mean the way I put that.
• 7:53
  Speaker 1: So let me go ahead and work on that, put that on the board later.
• 7:56
  Speaker 1: Very generalized fixes there, because there's a lot you can do for yourself, and Julius is here to tell you there are a lot of different ways.
• 8:05
  Speaker 1: I'm right here on that process.
• 8:07
  Speaker 1: I want to know what people are working on and what are you using in that process.
• 8:12
  Speaker 1: Are you getting out there, finding a new hobby, new community, or are you just doing yoga and meditation, practicing that kind of stuff, or going out there and going out there?
• 8:22
  Speaker 1: I guess you're in your house listening to podcasts, reading books and stuff like that.
• 8:25
  Speaker 1: What are you doing as far as evolving?
• 8:27
  Speaker 1: Which brings me to my next point.
• 8:29
  Speaker 1: The growth mindset is another pillar of my life that I'm a huge fan of.
• 8:34
  Speaker 1: Anytime somebody says the growth mindset, it's like Pee Wee's Playhouse.
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: You said the magic word get happy, that kind of thing.
• 8:41
  Speaker 1: It's like oh my goodness, you said the magic word growth mindset.
• 8:44
  Speaker 1: You cannot grow without failure, cannot grow without failure.
• 8:48
  Speaker 1: Please, people, please, understand this.
• 8:50
  Speaker 1: This is not possible.
• 8:51
  Speaker 1: You can take all that information.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: I know people like to.
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: Oh, I read so many books and I listened to so many podcasts and I listened to all these smart people talk about stuff.
• 9:01
  Speaker 1: Why is it not helping me?
• 9:02
  Speaker 1: It's like you're taking in information but you have to go out there and experience it and make all your, make all your mistakes.
• 9:12
  Speaker 1: Fuck up a few times.
• 9:13
  Speaker 1: Trust me, julius has fucked up many times.
• 9:15
  Speaker 1: I've talked about it on this podcast and I talked about it recently on a different podcast with Marilyn Caroline and her moms.
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: I was rambling on all over the place on her podcast.
• 9:25
  Speaker 1: Hopefully, I said something once again that you guys understood, but I will say I fucked up there.
• 9:29
  Speaker 1: I said I fucked up on there.
• 9:31
  Speaker 1: I said I fucked up on there.
• 9:33
  Speaker 1: I thought no, I have fucked up and I said it on there.
• 9:36
  Speaker 1: That sounds better and I'll say it here too.
• 9:39
  Speaker 1: I fucked up many times on this particular podcast.
• 9:42
  Speaker 1: Uh, in the past and probably currently, I probably skipped something that needed to be edited.
• 9:46
  Speaker 1: But also just regular life all the time, pretty much every social situation.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: I'm awkward, I I'm weird and I fucked up.
• 9:52
  Speaker 1: I probably said too much In general.
• 9:55
  Speaker 1: I probably say too much in all my fuck-ups and you all probably think that too.
• 9:59
  Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, this guy can talk and yes, I can talk.
• 10:02
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm on the podcast.
• 10:04
  Speaker 1: So that's all there is to it and I continue to grow.
• 10:08
  Speaker 1: But if I just sat around and was learning all about podcasts and I gathered all the equipment and I didn't do the simple thing, that is pretty much different from me and you, that people just listen.
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: I hit the record button.
• 10:20
  Speaker 1: People are talking a lot.
• 10:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, most people talk pretty much all the time or at some point during the day.
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: Only difference between me and you campsters is I hit the record button.
• 10:32
  Speaker 1: I talked to myself for many years before I even started a podcast, and you know what I was like I need to go ahead and do something about this and actually put it out there.
• 10:42
  Speaker 1: But I got to record myself.
• 10:44
  Speaker 1: So that's what I'm doing here is I'm recording myself talk.
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: I've had this particular conversation multiple, multiple times, especially when I was taking notes for this episode.
• 10:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, how's that sound?
• 10:53
  Speaker 1: Now I'm just actually hitting record button and then you guys will get to it, however long it takes me to actually put this out, mostly on Thursdays Probably this upcoming Thursday, when I'm recording this of the same week.
• 11:06
  Speaker 1: But the point is I hit record and I fuck up, which brings me to our next point Fail gloriously.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: It's another tentpole of my current life.
• 11:17
  Speaker 1: If you're going to fail, fail gloriously, because you can't grow once again without failure.
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: It's impossible.
• 11:24
  Speaker 1: You've got to go out there and try things.
• 11:25
  Speaker 1: I understand you've been doing your research, you've been taking the words of somebody on the internet.
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm applying it to my life, I'm making a change, but then you don't actually go out and do anything.
• 11:36
  Speaker 1: It's like you have to go out there and try what you learned out in the world.
• 11:41
  Speaker 1: That way you know whether it works or not, because hopefully you are fucking up, because that means you're trying something new to see if you can change and grow and evolve.
• 11:51
  Speaker 1: Can't do that.
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: It's nearly impossible.
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: Nobody's perfect.
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: You can't.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: There's no.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: Hey, you can.
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: I'll confidently say that.
• 11:57
  Speaker 1: I won't even generalize that there's no way you can grow without fucking up.
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: You got to know your limits and you got to know other people's limits and you can't control other people.
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: So there's no way you can go out there, have an interaction with somebody and go right 100% of the time.
• 12:11
  Speaker 1: Nobody's perfect.
• 12:12
  Speaker 1: It's completely impossible that somebody is perfect and it takes going out there and experiencing life to realize that nobody's perfect.
• 12:20
  Speaker 1: So you have all these assumptions about other people on this that you assume that everybody is, uh, like you.
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: You are more pessimistic about your circumstances than in than what the reality is.
• 12:36
  Speaker 1: So we already assume we all suck and that we suck more than other people.
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: But everybody has that assumption.
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: Once I realize that, I'm like, oh, everybody has anxiety.
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's a thing, let me go on and, uh, let me go on and talk to these people.
• 12:49
  Speaker 1: Let me, what is your anxiety look like?
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: Is it similar to mine?
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: It's not going to be exactly like mine, but let's talk anxiety.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: Do you know what that means to you?
• 12:58
  Speaker 1: Some people can ask that question and some people can't.
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: It's like huh, there are people, I'll tell you this right now.
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: There are people out in the world that don't know they have something different about them, but they're just like oh, I'm just going to go out there and try stuff.
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: Anyways, there are shy people out there.
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: Most people I go talk to at social events are shy, but they just decide to get out the house and drive to the place and go out there and just meet new people.
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: People do that all the time and guess what?
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: It doesn't always go well.
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's really awkward and weird, but we all survived.
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: At least I haven't known anybody that literally died after an event.
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: I don't keep in contact with everybody afterwards but as far as I know I have not heard about that, because that kind of thing would probably go around the social group and it's happening all over the country on a regular basis.
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: And I will say confidently that most of those people did not die specifically from that social interaction.
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: And I'm going to say pretty confidently, they got rejected in some way or another and they all probably have different definitions of rejected.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: Some people got rejected, didn't even realize it, and some people probably thought they were rejected when they weren't, but they all survived, most of them.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: Whatever, I don't, don't know, it's country, I can assume that people went out, did a social thing, got rejected and survived in general.
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: I'll say that finally, yeah, it's um, it's really rough and people you will get rejected and you will survive.
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: Um, especially, where I'd like to focus on in this podcast is people that are trying to be in relationships.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: Um, specifically, you know, queer, non-monogamous and the kink bdsm, but I'm a huge fan of relationships in general.
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: So, if you have relationship questions in general, whether you are 100% single or you're non-monogamous quote, unquote and single, and also if you've been married for many, many years.
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: I'll give you the scoop on the dating world throughout the generations, because I am going on over two decades of being in the dating world since I lost my virginity, probably even before I lost my virginity, and I will tell you world since I lost my virginity, probably even before I lost my virginity, and I will tell you in real life and online.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: People like to make the difference between the two and it all sucks and it's all good.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: I enjoy the dating process.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: So if you want to hear my story, I will gladly share that.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: If you have questions about it, be like hey, I've been married for 20 years.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: What's it like out there in the wild wilderness?
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: I will tell you what it's like, especially from a queer, non-monogamous and keep BDSM standpoint.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: Now to my fellow non-monogamers non-monogamuses.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: I got tips and stuff for y'all as well.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: So let me know.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: If I haven't taught, if you haven't, if I haven't learned you something in the time since I've been doing the podcast, then ask me a specific question.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I will say I did get a question.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: I think I don't know if it was a fake account, so I never addressed it at the time, but it was like two months ago, I did get my first question.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: It's about navel fetishes.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Now I'm not going to go specifically into navel fetishes.
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: I will just say there are outlier fetishes.
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: Let's just say that, fetishes that you rarely hear about, because everybody has an attraction to something or another, whether it is an inanimate object or an adamant object, biological or non-biological.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: Somebody married the Eiffel Tower.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I'll just throw that out there, not related to the question I got, but that happens.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: I saw it on TV.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Somebody married the Eiffel Tower.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Okay, so people have all different kinds of attractions, so different body parts, same right up in there in that same bowl.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Now, navel fetishes, foot fetishes, all the other random fetishes I've heard ear fetishes, I've seen nose fetishes, eye fetishes, teeth fetishes, neck fetishes, the nape of the neck.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: I am a booty fetishist.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: I need a nice juicy tush for me to chomp down on and I like it very much.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: I will say I like it more than oh man, I don't know just chomping on a nice tush.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I have a partner that has a nice tush and I chomp down on that nice tush.
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: It is very, very, oh, just endorphins, the happiness I feel when I'm chomping down on there.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: I cannot explain that to non-primal people or people that just don't enjoy chomping down on a good tushy.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: It's just fantastic.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's better than sex I don't know, it's all in there but just biting it does get me horny.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I will say that, reminiscent on the last juicy tush I bit on and it was, yeah, there was bruises.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: For, yeah, good thing it's consensual.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: I'm glad that I find people that are into that kind of stuff because, boy, that juicy tush.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you what, right now I couldn't have sex every day, but I could bite on a nice juicy tush on a regular basis.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: So, goodness, okay, let me just say there are different fetishes for people.
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: That's just how it is.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: So if you're in a, you have a navel fetish, you have a foot fetish.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I know people like to judge on the foot fetish people, but it's like if you find a partner that's consensual and lets you suck on them toes, then you suck on the toes.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: If you find a partner that lets you lick that belly button, lick on that belly button, stick your nose in there for all I care.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: I have no judgment, so you can ask me specific fetish questions, but I'm gonna put it in that same bucket.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: I am not a kink shamer.
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: We do not kink shame here.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: I do not have people that are kink shamers on this uh podcast.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: So I'll just tell you right now on the youtube channel, all that different stuff.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I'm not a fan of kink shamers.
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: I almost want to shame the kink shamers but you know that's kind of ironic and redundant.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: But to each their own.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: If you have a specific body part that just gets you off and it turns you on and makes all your stuff wet, either side of the gender divide gender spectrum I don't like divide gender spectrum then so be it.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: But yeah, more power to you.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: You're not going to get any kinky thing here.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: Love you some navels, that's.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Belly buttons are a thing.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: People have them, most people.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Going to get any kinky thing here?
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Love you some navels?
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: Belly buttons are a thing.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: People have them, most people.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Some people aren't born with belly buttons.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I just learned that recently Got a little Ken and Barbie action there.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Just no belly buttons.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: I don't know what to think about that.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: That's very sad.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't have a problem with that.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: I'd be like okay, cool, whatever.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: Know if that functions.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: Is it like a spleen or what's the other?
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: One other organ we don't need anymore.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: But it's like, do we need a belly button?
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I don't think you need a belly button to function correctly, so that's all I care about.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: If you, whether I meet somebody that has one, I'm like, okay, fine, that's cool, whatever.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: Um, feel sorry, if you were a naval fetishizer and you meet somebody that has no naval fetish, I yeah, that'd be something that you have to negotiate there.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: Other than that, don't really care too much about a specific fetish.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I said, each their own.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Okay, so let me talk about little advice questions that I've gotten or that I've gotten that I've seen on Reddit and other podcasts and like advice columns.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: There's not too many of those anymore, but advice columns and stuff like that where people just ask these random questions and it's like we're still doing this now in 2025.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: But we are and people have these questions.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know where they're going to get their information, but I will tell you that Julius has an opinion on it and it's kind of interesting to see that it's still.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Some of these things are still a thing and it's like the biggest one still.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: People have asked penis havers.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Nobody really cares the size of your dick, it's not a thing the size of your cock?
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Whatever word you decide to use, people do not care.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: People that enjoy penises do not care about the size.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: They want to know.
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: If you have emotional intelligence, are you empathetic?
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: Will you change for them that kind of thing?
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Now I still come across size queens, as they like to call themselves, and used queens by means pretty much of any gender, that people that like a bigger penis and it's like cool, that's a thing I can get again.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: This kind of falls in the fetish line.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: But people with penises, if you're carrying the size of your dick and that is stopping you from getting in a relationship, you're thinking about the things the wrong way.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Oh my God, let's not even still be doing this right now.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: It's like what, if you're caring about a physical trait like this kind of goes in with the short people type thing If you're a short person and I've known women, people that identify women have an issue of it being too short as well, which is like what, okay, short people, it's really not about your height.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: I mean it is, but it isn't.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: And I know you hear people and they put it on their profiles and everything like that and it's like, yeah, I mean, those people can be shallow.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: There are shallow people out there worried about people's height.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: That really makes a huge difference.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: But I gotta say, in both cases, with the small penis and the short height, it is about your confidence, because there's people that have boobies and they're worried about having small boobs.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: So that's the thing as well.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: This corona got me burpy.
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: Uh, it's a thing.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: Again, people are going to have physical preferences, but in general that's not been an issue.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Now I'm not particularly saying the size of my dick because I don't really know.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I've never measured.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: I've always gotten it's just the right size, cool, it's like okay, that's more for you than it is for me, it's just okay.
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: Why are we still comparing dick sizes nowadays?
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Nobody cares If you actually went out there, and for me it it's just okay.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Why?
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Why are we still comparing dick sizes nowadays?
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Nobody cares if you actually went out there and experienced life, you realize nobody cares about that shit in general.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: Now there's a symptom no, it's not a symptom.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: There is a um, unfortunate thing that there are micro penises, and that's a thing.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: Now you have to be diagnosed by a doctor to actually be officially called a micropenis.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: But let us remember that a whopping 5.6 inches is the average for an American-sized penis.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: So let's just be very aware of that, right there.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: 5.6 is the average size.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Okay, don't go believing porn and all these different things.
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I want a big dick, blah, blah.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: And, of course, people that think they have a big dick I mean most of them are pretty right.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: They're the ones that put the shit out there and it's like that's all you got to offer.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: That's really all you have.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: Can I ask an aptitude question?
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Let me know how you think about things in your opinion on this particular topic?
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: Current events what's your hobby?
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: What are you passionate about?
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: What are you looking forward to this year?
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: What have you done that you were excited about?
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: That already happened.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: Answer these questions.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Showing your dick off is not a thing I think I mentioned before.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I went on Tinder and I put that on pansexual because they don't have omnisexual on there, and I got a lot of people with penises hitting me up.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, yeah, how it look like silly serial serial killers.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: It's like interesting.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: And of course, you get the dick pics and it's like can I get your opinion on the global?
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: What?
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: What side are you on?
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: What do you think about the economics of the country right now?
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: I don't want to see your dick right off the bat and it's like what the hell?
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: What is this?
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: What are we doing right now?
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: Everybody has I was about to say everybody has everybody has junk.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Um, whether you penis have her or vagina have her, people have junks.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: And it's like sometimes you got both and that's not the first thing I want to see.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: To be off on your character, that's.
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: That's just not something that that pleases me.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: What?
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: I don't even know how to say that.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: Just that's not a good starting point.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: That's what we're going to show is people, your junk.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: It's like, okay, that's pretty good, shaft on you, but what is that supposed to do?
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: I need more information, my goodness.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: Okay, and another thing I want to talk about too.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: A lot of people have a question on here.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Okay, let's just say you experienced sexually.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: However, you want to call that hoe, slut, whore.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: There's ethical slutting.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: That's a book and a term that people like to use.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: As long as it's consensual, that's fine.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: Go be out there in your open relationship, swing, sleep with other people in general.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: But I don't care, I don't understand.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Now we have modern medicine Pretty much all the STIs and STDs.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: There's a fix for it.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: I mean, they're figuring it out with HIV and HSV, so herpes and AIDS.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: They're coming up with solutions for that.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: But it's like you wear condoms, wear protection, that kind of thing, or just get tested before Really simple fixes.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: So why are people caring about how many partners their partners have had previously?
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: I mean, for us in the non-monogamy world currently, that kind of thing it's really just a feelings thing.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: As adults, we we all have feelings.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: Doesn't mean we need to react off of those feelings in general.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: So it's like there are coping mechanisms for this.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: So why are we caring how much, uh, how many partners our partners have had or how much inexperience you have?
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: If you're a virgin, that's fine too.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Just have that conversation.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I understand some people care about that and it's like I don't want to teach this person how to sex, but why wouldn't you want somebody?
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't matter how many times you've had sex.
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: It's like the person still needs to learn you.
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: So what are we doing here?
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the person has hundreds of partners.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: It's like are you clean drug and disease-free?
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: Drug, if you care about that, but disease-free?
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: It's like why are we still caring about this?
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: In the modern, the year of our person whoever, what do you want to call it In 2025, we're still caring about how many partners people have.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: It's just weird to me to talk about this.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what are we doing?
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: And for the people that are in their host stage or ethical slut stage not a stage, not a stage, it doesn't have to be stage.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: I say that.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I say that sarcastically.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: Host stages was so stupid of a term.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: If you are identifying as an ethical slut, an allosexual or hedonist, whatever you want to call it, there are ways to do that.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Quote-unquote.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Ethically consensually the word we like to use here consensually Let everybody involved know what you're doing beforehand and duringhand.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: It's like, why are we trying to hide this stuff nowadays?
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: Go out there and have your fun time safely and consensually.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Yet again, we're in the modern times.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Use protection Real simple.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: Might not always be easy, and if you are one of those people that like to be quote-unquote riskier, just get tested beforehand.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: What are we doing here?
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: It's I don't.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: Why are we shaming people Quote-unquote slut-shaming people for going out and having fun?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: I will just say both of those things that I was talking about, about the physical stuff and the slut-shaming and stuff.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: That just shows your immaturity.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: That is my personal opinion.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: You are a child if you're shaming people for those kind of things and it's like you're not having a conversation.
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Once again, julius does not like assumptions, so just ask questions.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: It's like just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean you have to shame other people because they don't live the lifestyle that you have.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: It's like people and we live in america, so people that identify with women get shamed more often for having sexual liberties and it's like why are we doing this right now?
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: So I want you to know here and around Kinky Catfire and the Pillowfort sessions Julius does not tolerate that kind of talk around here.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I'm not one of those people that goes and does the random hookups, but I'm all for it.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: I'm an ally of those people.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Go out and have fun safely and consensually, and even if you don't do it safely I can't Consensually, it's rough.
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: I just can't get on board with that.
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: If you're sneaking around and doing that stuff, if you don't want to do it safely, then more power to you.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to shame you or judge you about it, but it's like wow, okay, just it's a test.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: They're like 150 bucks.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: I'll just go do that real quick.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: But if you're having a lot of partners and you don't, I'm not going to say too many specifics, just make noises about that.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: But more power to you.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: But yeah, you will not get shamed here.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: That's not something I do.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: I do not agree with that in the least bit.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Okay, before I run out of time, I would just like to throw a couple of fixes out there.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: These are my personal fixes that I've come to realize, practice from lived experience and the research that I've seen.
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: I've not gone to all of them, but they're mixed in there and there's still some on the list I need to try out for myself and see if it work or not.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: It just sounds like it works for right now.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say specifically which ones I've tried, which ones I haven't, but we can discuss that if you want to know specific questions.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Um, but right now these are some life fixes and advice type things you would get from me in general topics, speaking in generalities right now.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: So, first of all, I am a huge fan of awareness, self-awareness, all the above, and I will let you know that awareness is the first step.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: The smart people have said it and I do agree with that being aware is a first step when it comes to change.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: You have to be aware in order to realize that change is needed.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: I was fortunate I'll just say I was lucky Very much in life.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: People were telling me stuff and I felt like I was being an adult before I even got to be an adult and it's like something's up, my gut is telling me what you're saying is not correct.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: Person that is older than me and supposed to be quote unquote wiser than me.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: So I've always been drawn to like self-help stuff.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: So luckily I had that in me.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: I didn't have a lot of life experience because it was very shelter when I was younger, but something in me was like dude, there's answers.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: There's got to be an answer here for this.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: Why are we still doing this vicious circle of fucking up and not changing?
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: And it's like, okay, I went ahead and I found it, came across the game, the book by Neil Strauss, but that sparked a few things, got into neuro-linguistic programming and then that sparked the self-help books and all the awareness stuff and I just kind of crawl out of my hole, all the awareness stuff, and I just kind of crawl out of my hole and now I'm like, huh, I can talk about this, not correct.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Probably Don't really care about that, but I have an opinion, like everybody else.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: And awareness, yeah, when I got to that point I was like, oh yes, that is what started the change.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: So for me, from my experience, awareness, I agree, is the first step.
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: I'm not the one who said that, but I agree with it.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: And another thing to be aware about is that you cannot control the people.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: I know this is a human fallacy.
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: Most people believe this out there in the world.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: You think you can control the people, but you can't control what other people do.
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: And I am not one to be over here worrying about people's misjudgments.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: It's like, unless you know me and we've had a conversation, which is very few people out there in the world who sat down and had a one-on-one conversation with me I don't really care what you think.
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, I want to hear your opinion, but it's like if you don't know me, then you can just have an opinion.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: I'm not listening to you.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know how to say that.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: There's a better way to say that I'll figure out something, but it's just like I don't really care.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: It's like you have an opinion, that's good, but I don't really care, especially if you don't know who I am.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: I should say if you have an opinion of me, there you go, that's it right there.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: So I'd like to collect people that have similar viewpoints and then we can like build off and then we can have like an actual conversation, sit down conversation, and then we can like go forth and beyond and go from there.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: But, yeah, you can't change other people.
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: That is a human fallacy.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: This is a misconception.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: You can change how other people think and feel and do, and it's like, no, you can only change yourself.
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: Okay, have the self-awareness to realize you can only change yourself.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: So if you have opinions and people make you feel bad, then you have to look towards yourself, especially if you're one of those people that's just constantly single or like this person had a problem with me and this person.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: What's the common denominator there?
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Bud, it could be you.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: So let's take the time and, you know, do a little research and do a little experimenting, experimenting with life.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: Go out there and realize that, uh, you might need to change a little bit about yourself.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: It's just, yeah, goodness, and uh, I'm running out of time, so I'll just say this one last thing as far as the fixes, I have more fixes, but I ran out of time, so I'll just say this one last thing as far as the fixes, I have more fixes, but I ran out of time.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: So lastly, just a little note out there with the changes in being aware and then changing yourself, is that the more instances that you are in the driver's seat, the less burnt out you feel.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: So if you're having instances where it feels like you're not in control, that could be causing a lot of your burnout.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: So I would just say take the time, do a little self-work and realize, hey, maybe I'm putting myself in situations that I can't control and this is why I'm tired and just burnt out in general.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: To put yourself in more circumstances where you're in control, and that could help a little bit.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Now that's kind of vague what I'm saying right there, but once again, you can hit me up and you'll get the social media's contact information here in the outro, if you did not catch it in the intro, and I can talk more about that.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I might have to do another advice, because I still have more notes on my advice line, but I just ended up talking, which is what I do, so I'll probably do an advice line number two at some point, if not next episode, but at some point.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: It'll be there, folks.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: But, yeah, hit me up with your questions and your comments, let me know what you think, email or social media, and I'd love to talk to y'all at some point and we can build from there and see where that goes.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: But for now, this is Senior Taco Knuckle aka Colonel McBee, aka Fresno Bob, aka the Cuddled Gigolo the Cuddled Gigolo or HH Julius, or just Julius, and I hope you enjoyed this episode of Around the Kinky Campfire.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: Pillow Fort Sessions, eavesdropping on me talking to myself.
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: Until next time.
• 36:09
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• 36:17
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