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Why I Dated For A Decade And Got Nowhere | EP 289 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Friend.
• 0:06
  What
• 0:06
  if
• 0:07
  the
• 0:07
  decade
• 0:07
  you
• 0:08
  spent
• 0:08
  searching
• 0:09
  for
• 0:09
  love
• 0:10
  was
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  never
• 0:10
  actually
• 0:11
  about
• 0:11
  finding
• 0:12
  him
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  at
• 0:13
  all?
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  What
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  if
• 0:14
  every
• 0:14
  situation,
• 0:15
  every,
• 0:16
  almost
• 0:17
  every,
• 0:17
  let's
• 0:18
  see
• 0:18
  where
• 0:18
  this
• 0:18
  goes,
• 0:19
  was
• 0:19
  never
• 0:20
  a
• 0:20
  dead
• 0:21
  End,
• 0:21
  but
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  a
• 0:22
  mirror
• 0:23
  showing
• 0:23
  you
• 0:23
  exactly
• 0:24
  what
• 0:25
  you
• 0:25
  needed
• 0:25
  to
• 0:25
  shift
• 0:26
  within
• 0:26
  you
• 0:27
  before
• 0:27
  he
• 0:28
  could
• 0:28
  arrive.
• 0:29
  What
• 0:29
  if
• 0:29
  whole
• 0:30
  time
• 0:31
  you
• 0:31
  thought
• 0:32
  you
• 0:32
  were
• 0:32
  looking
• 0:32
  for
• 0:32
  love,
• 0:33
  love
• 0:33
  was
• 0:33
  actually
• 0:34
  looking
• 0:34
  for
• 0:34
  you
• 0:35
  and
• 0:35
  it
• 0:35
  was
• 0:35
  just
• 0:36
  waiting
• 0:36
  for
• 0:37
  you
• 0:37
  to
• 0:37
  get
• 0:37
  outta
• 0:38
  your
• 0:38
  own
• 0:38
  way.
• 0:39
  I'm
• 0:39
  breaking
• 0:39
  it
• 0:39
  all
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  the
• 0:39
  way
• 0:40
  down
• 0:40
  for
• 0:40
  you,
• 0:40
  the
• 0:41
  whole
• 0:41
  decade,
• 0:42
  all
• 0:42
  of
• 0:42
  it.
• 0:43
  And
• 0:43
  I
• 0:43
  promise
• 0:44
  by
• 0:44
  the
• 0:44
  time
• 0:44
  we're
• 0:45
  done,
• 0:45
  you
• 0:46
  are
• 0:46
  never
• 0:46
  gonna
• 0:46
  look
• 0:47
  at
• 0:47
  your
• 0:47
  dating
• 0:47
  life
• 0:48
  the
• 0:48
  same
• 0:48
  way
• 0:49
  again.
• 0:51
  Okay.
• 0:51
  Just
• 0:51
  real
• 0:51
  quick,
• 0:52
  I
• 0:52
  want
• 0:53
  to
• 0:53
  take
• 0:53
  a
• 0:53
  quick
• 0:53
  second
• 0:54
  to
• 0:54
  invite
• 0:54
  you
• 0:55
  to
• 0:55
  subscribe
• 0:56
  to
• 0:56
  the
• 0:56
  Confident
• 0:56
  and
• 0:56
  Empowered
• 0:57
  Women
• 0:57
  Podcast
• 0:58
  if
• 0:59
  you
• 0:59
  haven't
• 1:00
  already
• 1:00
  done
• 1:00
  so.
• 1:01
  We
• 1:01
  are
• 1:01
  here
• 1:02
  every
• 1:02
  single
• 1:02
  Tuesday
• 1:03
  and
• 1:03
  Thursday,
• 1:03
  dropping
• 1:04
  episodes
• 1:04
  designed
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  to
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  help
• 1:05
  you
• 1:06
  become
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  the
• 1:06
  most
• 1:06
  confident,
• 1:07
  empowered,
• 1:08
  and
• 1:08
  fully
• 1:09
  expressed
• 1:10
  version
• 1:10
  of
• 1:10
  yourself.
• 1:11
  And
• 1:11
  I
• 1:11
  don't
• 1:12
  want
• 1:12
  you
• 1:12
  to
• 1:12
  miss
• 1:12
  a
• 1:13
  single
• 1:13
  one.
• 1:14
  So
• 1:15
  go
• 1:15
  ahead
• 1:15
  and
• 1:16
  hit
• 1:16
  that
• 1:16
  subscribe
• 1:17
  button
• 1:17
  right
• 1:17
  now,
• 1:18
  and
• 1:18
  if
• 1:18
  this
• 1:19
  podcast
• 1:19
  has
• 1:20
  ever
• 1:20
  made
• 1:20
  you
• 1:20
  feel,
• 1:21
  seen,
• 1:22
  heard,
• 1:22
  or
• 1:22
  even
• 1:23
  just
• 1:23
  a
• 1:23
  little
• 1:23
  bit
• 1:24
  more
• 1:24
  like
• 1:25
  yourself,
• 1:26
  I
• 1:26
  would
• 1:26
  be
• 1:26
  so
• 1:27
  incredibly
• 1:27
  grateful
• 1:28
  if
• 1:28
  you
• 1:28
  would
• 1:28
  just
• 1:28
  take
• 1:29
  a
• 1:29
  couple
• 1:29
  of
• 1:29
  minutes
• 1:30
  to
• 1:30
  leave
• 1:30
  a
• 1:30
  review.
• 1:31
  Your
• 1:31
  words,
• 1:32
  help
• 1:32
  other
• 1:32
  women
• 1:33
  find
• 1:33
  this
• 1:33
  podcast,
• 1:34
  and
• 1:35
  there
• 1:35
  right
• 1:35
  now
• 1:36
  who
• 1:36
  needs
• 1:37
  to
• 1:37
  hear
• 1:38
  exactly
• 1:38
  what
• 1:38
  you
• 1:39
  just
• 1:39
  heard.
• 1:39
  Your
• 1:40
  review
• 1:40
  could
• 1:41
  be
• 1:41
  the
• 1:41
  very
• 1:41
  thing
• 1:42
  that
• 1:42
  leads
• 1:42
  her
• 1:43
  here.
• 1:43
  So
• 1:44
  subscribe,
• 1:45
  leave
• 1:45
  that,
• 1:45
  review,
• 1:46
  and
• 1:46
  let's
• 1:47
  keep
• 1:47
  growing
• 1:47
  together.
• 1:48
  Friend,
• 1:48
  I
• 1:48
  couldn't
• 1:49
  be
• 1:49
  more
• 1:49
  excited
• 1:51
  to
• 1:51
  have
• 1:51
  you
• 1:52
  here.
• 1:52
  Now
• 1:53
  let's
• 1:53
  get
• 1:53
  into
• 1:54
  it..
• 1:57
  Now
• 1:57
  we're
• 1:57
  friends.
• 1:58
  So
• 1:59
  let
• 1:59
  me
• 1:59
  tell
• 1:59
  you
• 1:59
  about
• 2:00
  this
• 2:00
  date
• 2:00
  that
• 2:00
  I
• 2:00
  went
• 2:01
  on.
• 2:01
  Now
• 2:02
  this
• 2:02
  man,
• 2:03
  God
• 2:03
  bless
• 2:04
  him,
• 2:04
  he
• 2:04
  said
• 2:05
  he
• 2:05
  was
• 2:05
  five
• 2:06
  nine
• 2:06
  on
• 2:07
  his
• 2:07
  profile.
• 2:08
  Friend.
• 2:08
  I'm
• 2:08
  talking
• 2:09
  five
• 2:09
  feet
• 2:10
  and
• 2:10
  nine
• 2:11
  inches,
• 2:11
  okay?
• 2:12
  I
• 2:12
  was
• 2:13
  expecting
• 2:13
  five
• 2:14
  nine,
• 2:14
  so
• 2:15
  I
• 2:15
  planned
• 2:15
  my
• 2:15
  outfit.
• 2:16
  Around
• 2:17
  five
• 2:17
  nine.
• 2:18
  I
• 2:18
  showed
• 2:18
  up
• 2:19
  for
• 2:19
  five
• 2:19
  nine
• 2:20
  and
• 2:21
  then
• 2:21
  when
• 2:21
  he
• 2:21
  got
• 2:22
  out
• 2:22
  his
• 2:22
  truck
• 2:22
  friend,
• 2:23
  and
• 2:23
  I'm
• 2:23
  talking
• 2:24
  a
• 2:24
  lifted
• 2:25
  truck.
• 2:26
  Okay.
• 2:27
  I
• 2:27
  think
• 2:27
  he
• 2:27
  must
• 2:28
  have
• 2:28
  carried
• 2:28
  the
• 2:28
  one
• 2:29
  on
• 2:29
  that
• 2:29
  five.
• 2:33
  Because
• 2:34
  when
• 2:34
  his
• 2:34
  whittle
• 2:35
  feet
• 2:35
  hit
• 2:35
  the
• 2:35
  ground,
• 2:36
  he
• 2:36
  could
• 2:36
  not
• 2:37
  have
• 2:37
  been
• 2:37
  more
• 2:38
  than
• 2:38
  four
• 2:38
  nine.
• 2:39
  And
• 2:39
  I
• 2:39
  only
• 2:40
  know
• 2:40
  this
• 2:40
  because
• 2:41
  my
• 2:41
  sister
• 2:41
  is
• 2:41
  four
• 2:42
  11,
• 2:42
  so
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  have
• 2:43
  a
• 2:43
  very
• 2:43
  specific
• 2:44
  reference
• 2:44
  point.
• 2:49
  Now
• 2:49
  listen,
• 2:49
  friend,
• 2:50
  I
• 2:50
  had
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  great
• 2:51
  time
• 2:51
  on
• 2:52
  that
• 2:52
  date
• 2:53
  because
• 2:53
  at
• 2:53
  that
• 2:54
  particular
• 2:54
  point
• 2:55
  in
• 2:55
  my
• 2:55
  journey,
• 2:56
  I
• 2:56
  had
• 2:56
  committed
• 2:57
  to
• 2:57
  having
• 2:58
  fun
• 2:58
  on
• 2:59
  dates
• 2:59
  no
• 2:59
  matter
• 3:00
  what,
• 3:01
  but
• 3:01
  driving
• 3:01
  home,
• 3:02
  I
• 3:02
  had
• 3:02
  a
• 3:02
  very
• 3:03
  specific
• 3:03
  thought
• 3:04
  that
• 3:04
  I
• 3:04
  could
• 3:04
  not
• 3:04
  shake.
• 3:06
  If
• 3:06
  he
• 3:06
  was
• 3:06
  catfishing
• 3:07
  me
• 3:08
  about
• 3:08
  his
• 3:09
  height,
• 3:09
  what
• 3:10
  was
• 3:10
  I
• 3:10
  catfishing
• 3:11
  about?
• 3:13
  Because
• 3:14
  how
• 3:14
  did
• 3:14
  I
• 3:14
  end
• 3:15
  up
• 3:15
  here?
• 3:20
  But
• 3:20
  friend,
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  was
• 3:22
  showing
• 3:22
  up
• 3:22
  to
• 3:22
  every
• 3:23
  single
• 3:23
  date
• 3:24
  pretending
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  be
• 3:25
  this
• 3:25
  easy,
• 3:26
  breezy,
• 3:26
  beautiful
• 3:27
  cover
• 3:27
  girl
• 3:28
  who
• 3:28
  was
• 3:28
  totally
• 3:29
  fine
• 3:29
  with
• 3:29
  seeing
• 3:30
  where
• 3:30
  things
• 3:31
  go,
• 3:31
  and
• 3:32
  I
• 3:32
  was
• 3:33
  not
• 3:33
  that
• 3:34
  girl,
• 3:34
  not
• 3:35
  even
• 3:35
  a
• 3:35
  little
• 3:35
  bit.
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  wanted
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  be
• 3:39
  married.
• 3:40
  I
• 3:41
  wanted
• 3:41
  commitment.
• 3:42
  I
• 3:42
  wanted
• 3:42
  a
• 3:42
  man
• 3:43
  who
• 3:43
  had
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  very
• 3:44
  same
• 3:44
  goal,
• 3:45
  but
• 3:45
  every
• 3:46
  time
• 3:46
  someone
• 3:47
  said,
• 3:48
  let's
• 3:48
  see
• 3:48
  where
• 3:48
  things
• 3:49
  go.
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  went
• 3:50
  along
• 3:50
  with
• 3:50
  it.
• 3:51
  I
• 3:51
  auditioned
• 3:52
  for
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  role.
• 3:53
  I
• 3:53
  performed
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  easygoing
• 3:55
  girl.
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  tried
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  convince
• 3:57
  them
• 3:58
  and
• 3:58
  myself,
• 3:58
  mind
• 3:59
  you,
• 4:01
  that
• 4:01
  I
• 4:01
  was
• 4:01
  okay
• 4:02
  with
• 4:02
  almost,
• 4:03
  and
• 4:03
  friend,
• 4:04
  you
• 4:04
  know,
• 4:04
  Brandy
• 4:05
  already
• 4:05
  told
• 4:06
  us,
• 4:06
  almost
• 4:07
  doesn't
• 4:07
  count.
• 4:11
  Which
• 4:12
  is
• 4:12
  exactly
• 4:13
  why
• 4:13
  that
• 4:14
  role
• 4:14
  never
• 4:15
  worked
• 4:15
  out
• 4:16
  because
• 4:16
  it
• 4:16
  was
• 4:17
  never
• 4:17
  mine
• 4:17
  to
• 4:18
  begin
• 4:18
  with.
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  really
• 4:19
  wish
• 4:20
  I
• 4:20
  would've
• 4:20
  written
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  book
• 4:21
  on
• 4:22
  all
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  dates
• 4:23
  that
• 4:23
  I
• 4:23
  went
• 4:23
  on
• 4:24
  because
• 4:24
  I
• 4:24
  spent
• 4:25
  a
• 4:25
  decade
• 4:26
  ish
• 4:26
  on
• 4:27
  a
• 4:27
  dating
• 4:27
  journey
• 4:28
  that
• 4:28
  was
• 4:28
  going
• 4:29
  absolutely
• 4:30
  nowhere.
• 4:34
  And
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  wanna
• 4:35
  tell
• 4:35
  you
• 4:35
  why,
• 4:35
  because
• 4:36
  I
• 4:36
  think
• 4:36
  your
• 4:37
  dating
• 4:37
  journey
• 4:38
  might
• 4:38
  have
• 4:39
  more
• 4:39
  in
• 4:39
  common
• 4:40
  with
• 4:40
  mine
• 4:41
  than
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  realize.
• 4:42
  And
• 4:42
  I
• 4:43
  think
• 4:43
  what
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  finally
• 4:44
  figured
• 4:44
  out
• 4:44
  is
• 4:44
  gonna
• 4:45
  change
• 4:45
  everything
• 4:45
  for
• 4:46
  you.
• 4:46
  So
• 4:46
  let's
• 4:47
  really
• 4:47
  get
• 4:48
  into
• 4:48
  it.
• 4:48
  let
• 4:49
  me
• 4:49
  set
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  scene
• 4:50
  for
• 4:50
  you,
• 4:50
  friend
• 4:50
  of
• 4:50
  what
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  decade
• 4:51
  ish
• 4:52
  of
• 4:52
  dating
• 4:53
  actually
• 4:53
  looked
• 4:54
  like
• 4:54
  for
• 4:54
  me.
• 4:54
  Because
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  think
• 4:56
  when
• 4:56
  we
• 4:56
  say
• 4:57
  I've
• 4:58
  been
• 4:58
  dating
• 4:58
  for
• 4:58
  years
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  getting
• 4:59
  nowhere,
• 5:00
  it
• 5:00
  can
• 5:01
  start
• 5:01
  to
• 5:01
  feel
• 5:01
  like
• 5:02
  something
• 5:02
  is
• 5:03
  wrong
• 5:03
  with
• 5:03
  us.
• 5:04
  Like
• 5:04
  maybe
• 5:05
  we're
• 5:05
  being
• 5:05
  too
• 5:05
  much
• 5:06
  or
• 5:06
  not
• 5:07
  enough,
• 5:07
  or
• 5:08
  maybe
• 5:08
  love
• 5:08
  just.
• 5:09
  Isn't
• 5:09
  for
• 5:10
  us.
• 5:11
  And
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  even
• 5:11
  used
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  joke
• 5:12
  with
• 5:12
  my
• 5:12
  mom
• 5:12
  that
• 5:13
  my
• 5:13
  husband
• 5:14
  must
• 5:14
  have
• 5:14
  been
• 5:15
  in
• 5:15
  heaven
• 5:15
  with
• 5:15
  Jesus
• 5:19
  because
• 5:19
  I
• 5:20
  could
• 5:20
  not
• 5:20
  find
• 5:21
  this
• 5:21
  man
• 5:21
  nowhere.
• 5:25
  And
• 5:26
  friend
• 5:27
  here
• 5:27
  is
• 5:28
  what
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  know
• 5:28
  now
• 5:29
  that
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  did
• 5:30
  not
• 5:30
  know
• 5:30
  then
• 5:31
  for
• 5:31
  as
• 5:32
  long
• 5:32
  as
• 5:32
  I
• 5:33
  held
• 5:33
  that
• 5:33
  belief
• 5:34
  that
• 5:35
  he
• 5:35
  didn't
• 5:35
  exist,
• 5:36
  that
• 5:37
  good
• 5:37
  faithful
• 5:38
  men
• 5:38
  who
• 5:39
  actually
• 5:39
  wanted
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  be
• 5:40
  married
• 5:41
  were
• 5:41
  rare
• 5:42
  or
• 5:42
  unavailable
• 5:43
  my
• 5:44
  life
• 5:44
  reflected
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  belief.
• 5:46
  Right
• 5:47
  on
• 5:47
  back
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  me
• 5:48
  because
• 5:48
  that
• 5:49
  is
• 5:49
  exactly
• 5:49
  what
• 5:50
  dating
• 5:50
  actually
• 5:51
  is.
• 5:52
  Not
• 5:52
  a
• 5:52
  search,
• 5:53
  it's
• 5:54
  a
• 5:54
  mirror.
• 5:55
  Every
• 5:55
  man
• 5:56
  who
• 5:56
  showed
• 5:56
  up
• 5:57
  in
• 5:57
  my
• 5:57
  life
• 5:57
  during
• 5:58
  that
• 5:58
  decade
• 5:59
  was
• 5:59
  reflecting
• 6:00
  something
• 6:00
  back
• 6:00
  to
• 6:01
  me,
• 6:01
  something
• 6:02
  I
• 6:02
  needed
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  see.
• 6:03
  Something
• 6:04
  I
• 6:04
  needed
• 6:04
  to
• 6:04
  shift
• 6:05
  something
• 6:06
  in
• 6:06
  me
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  was
• 6:07
  not
• 6:07
  yet
• 6:08
  in
• 6:08
  alignment
• 6:09
  with
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  love
• 6:10
  I
• 6:10
  said
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  wanted.
• 6:12
  The
• 6:12
  pattern
• 6:13
  was
• 6:13
  always
• 6:14
  the
• 6:14
  same
• 6:14
  situation.
• 6:15
  Ships
• 6:16
  men
• 6:17
  who
• 6:17
  wanted
• 6:17
  to
• 6:17
  see
• 6:18
  where
• 6:18
  things
• 6:19
  would
• 6:19
  go.
• 6:19
  Men
• 6:20
  who
• 6:20
  wanted
• 6:20
  the
• 6:20
  benefits
• 6:21
  of
• 6:21
  a
• 6:21
  wonderful
• 6:22
  audition
• 6:23
  without
• 6:24
  ever
• 6:24
  giving
• 6:25
  me
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  commitment
• 6:26
  I
• 6:26
  actually
• 6:27
  deserved.
• 6:28
  The
• 6:28
  carrot
• 6:29
  that
• 6:29
  kept
• 6:30
  dangling
• 6:30
  just
• 6:31
  close
• 6:31
  enough
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  keep
• 6:32
  me
• 6:32
  going
• 6:33
  down
• 6:33
  that
• 6:34
  path,
• 6:34
  just
• 6:35
  close
• 6:35
  enough
• 6:36
  to
• 6:36
  keep
• 6:36
  me
• 6:37
  performing.
• 6:38
  Just
• 6:38
  close
• 6:38
  enough
• 6:39
  to
• 6:39
  keep
• 6:39
  me
• 6:40
  hoping.
• 6:41
  And
• 6:41
  friend,
• 6:42
  I
• 6:42
  want
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  to
• 6:42
  hear
• 6:43
  this
• 6:43
  clearly.
• 6:44
  Those
• 6:44
  men
• 6:45
  were
• 6:45
  not
• 6:45
  villains,
• 6:46
  they
• 6:47
  were
• 6:47
  mirrors.
• 6:48
  They
• 6:49
  were
• 6:49
  showing
• 6:49
  me
• 6:49
  exactly
• 6:50
  where
• 6:51
  I
• 6:51
  was.
• 6:52
  Exactly
• 6:53
  what
• 6:53
  I
• 6:53
  believed
• 6:54
  about
• 6:54
  myself,
• 6:55
  my
• 6:55
  worth,
• 6:56
  men,
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  even
• 6:57
  relationships.
• 6:58
  Exactly
• 6:59
  what
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  was
• 7:00
  willing
• 7:00
  to
• 7:00
  tolerate
• 7:02
  and
• 7:02
  exactly
• 7:03
  where
• 7:03
  I
• 7:03
  had
• 7:03
  not
• 7:04
  yet
• 7:04
  loved
• 7:04
  myself
• 7:05
  enough
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  say,
• 7:07
  no,
• 7:08
  that
• 7:08
  ain't
• 7:09
  it.
• 7:09
  And
• 7:09
  I
• 7:09
  deserve
• 7:10
  more
• 7:10
  than
• 7:11
  almost
• 7:12
  and
• 7:12
  friend,
• 7:13
  let
• 7:13
  me
• 7:13
  be
• 7:13
  real.
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  took
• 7:14
  breaks.
• 7:15
  Because
• 7:16
  dating
• 7:17
  is
• 7:17
  hard
• 7:18
  friend,
• 7:20
  and
• 7:20
  there
• 7:21
  were
• 7:21
  seasons
• 7:22
  when
• 7:22
  I
• 7:22
  took
• 7:22
  myself
• 7:23
  completely
• 7:24
  off
• 7:24
  the
• 7:24
  market
• 7:24
  because
• 7:25
  I
• 7:26
  was
• 7:26
  exhausted,
• 7:27
  discouraged,
• 7:28
  hopeless,
• 7:29
  and
• 7:29
  wondering
• 7:30
  if
• 7:31
  it
• 7:31
  was
• 7:31
  ever
• 7:32
  going
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  work
• 7:33
  out
• 7:33
  for
• 7:33
  me
• 7:33
  specifically.
• 7:34
  And
• 7:35
  in
• 7:35
  those
• 7:35
  quiet
• 7:36
  seasons.
• 7:37
  God
• 7:37
  was
• 7:37
  doing
• 7:38
  something
• 7:38
  in
• 7:39
  me
• 7:39
  even
• 7:40
  when
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  couldn't
• 7:40
  see
• 7:41
  it,
• 7:41
  even
• 7:42
  when
• 7:42
  I
• 7:42
  felt
• 7:42
  like
• 7:42
  nothing
• 7:43
  was
• 7:43
  happening.
• 7:44
  Even
• 7:44
  when
• 7:45
  my
• 7:45
  husband
• 7:45
  was
• 7:46
  apparently
• 7:47
  still
• 7:47
  in
• 7:47
  heaven
• 7:47
  with
• 7:47
  Jesus.
• 7:52
  He
• 7:52
  was
• 7:52
  preparing
• 7:53
  me
• 7:53
  for
• 7:53
  something
• 7:54
  and
• 7:54
  he
• 7:54
  was
• 7:55
  preparing
• 7:55
  him
• 7:56
  and
• 7:56
  neither
• 7:57
  of
• 7:57
  us
• 7:58
  was
• 7:58
  ready
• 7:58
  yet.
• 8:00
  Now,
• 8:00
  this
• 8:01
  is
• 8:01
  where
• 8:01
  it
• 8:01
  really
• 8:02
  gets
• 8:02
  good
• 8:03
  because
• 8:03
  it
• 8:03
  wasn't
• 8:04
  a
• 8:04
  specific
• 8:04
  date
• 8:05
  or
• 8:05
  relationship,
• 8:06
  it
• 8:06
  wasn't
• 8:07
  even
• 8:07
  a
• 8:07
  breakthrough
• 8:07
  conversation
• 8:08
  or
• 8:09
  self-help
• 8:10
  book
• 8:10
  or
• 8:10
  vision
• 8:10
  board.
• 8:11
  It
• 8:11
  was
• 8:12
  grief.
• 8:13
  When
• 8:14
  my
• 8:14
  mom
• 8:14
  made
• 8:14
  her
• 8:14
  transition
• 8:15
  to
• 8:15
  heaven,
• 8:16
  everything
• 8:17
  stopped.
• 8:18
  Everything
• 8:18
  I
• 8:19
  thought
• 8:19
  I
• 8:19
  knew
• 8:19
  about
• 8:19
  myself.
• 8:20
  Everything
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  had
• 8:21
  built
• 8:22
  my
• 8:22
  identity
• 8:22
  around,
• 8:24
  everything
• 8:24
  I
• 8:24
  thought
• 8:25
  I
• 8:25
  was
• 8:25
  looking
• 8:26
  for,
• 8:26
  all
• 8:27
  of
• 8:27
  it
• 8:27
  just
• 8:28
  stopped
• 8:29
  because
• 8:29
  without
• 8:30
  her,
• 8:31
  I
• 8:31
  felt
• 8:32
  completely
• 8:33
  lost.
• 8:34
  Like
• 8:34
  I
• 8:34
  didn't
• 8:35
  even
• 8:35
  know
• 8:35
  who
• 8:35
  I
• 8:35
  was.
• 8:36
  Without
• 8:37
  her
• 8:37
  in
• 8:38
  the
• 8:38
  world
• 8:39
  and
• 8:39
  in
• 8:39
  that
• 8:40
  grief,
• 8:41
  in
• 8:41
  that
• 8:41
  stripping
• 8:42
  away
• 8:43
  of
• 8:43
  everything,
• 8:45
  I
• 8:45
  had
• 8:45
  no
• 8:45
  choice
• 8:46
  but
• 8:46
  to
• 8:47
  finally
• 8:47
  see
• 8:48
  myself
• 8:49
  clearly,
• 8:50
  maybe
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  the
• 8:50
  first
• 8:51
  time
• 8:51
  ever
• 8:52
  and
• 8:52
  what
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  saw
• 8:53
  changed
• 8:54
  my
• 8:54
  entire
• 8:55
  relationship
• 8:56
  with
• 8:56
  dating
• 8:57
  forever.
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  realized
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  had
• 8:59
  spent
• 9:00
  a
• 9:00
  decade
• 9:01
  looking
• 9:01
  for
• 9:01
  love
• 9:02
  outside
• 9:03
  of
• 9:04
  myself,
• 9:05
  searching
• 9:05
  for
• 9:05
  a
• 9:05
  man
• 9:05
  to
• 9:07
  fill
• 9:07
  something
• 9:08
  that
• 9:08
  only
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  could
• 9:09
  fill
• 9:10
  dating
• 9:11
  desperately
• 9:12
  friend
• 9:13
  instead
• 9:14
  of
• 9:14
  dating
• 9:14
  deliberately
• 9:15
  and
• 9:16
  in
• 9:16
  my
• 9:16
  grief
• 9:17
  when
• 9:18
  there
• 9:18
  was
• 9:18
  nothing
• 9:19
  left
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  hide
• 9:20
  behind,
• 9:21
  I
• 9:22
  finally
• 9:22
  found
• 9:22
  her.
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  finally
• 9:24
  found
• 9:25
  myself
• 9:26
  and
• 9:27
  I
• 9:27
  fell
• 9:27
  in
• 9:27
  love
• 9:28
  with
• 9:28
  me,
• 9:29
  and
• 9:30
  that's
• 9:30
  when
• 9:31
  I
• 9:31
  heard
• 9:31
  it.
• 9:32
  Clearly
• 9:33
  God
• 9:33
  made
• 9:34
  me
• 9:34
  a
• 9:34
  wife.
• 9:35
  Not,
• 9:36
  maybe
• 9:36
  someday
• 9:37
  not
• 9:37
  if
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  right
• 9:38
  person
• 9:39
  comes
• 9:39
  along,
• 9:40
  not,
• 9:40
  I
• 9:41
  hope
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  works
• 9:42
  out
• 9:42
  eventually.
• 9:43
  No,
• 9:43
  no,
• 9:44
  no,
• 9:44
  no,
• 9:44
  no.
• 9:44
  God
• 9:45
  made
• 9:46
  me.
• 9:46
  A
• 9:47
  wife.
• 9:48
  Okay.
• 9:49
  Which
• 9:49
  meant
• 9:50
  I
• 9:51
  was
• 9:51
  already
• 9:52
  a
• 9:52
  wife.
• 9:53
  I
• 9:53
  just
• 9:53
  needed
• 9:54
  God
• 9:54
  to
• 9:55
  connect
• 9:55
  me
• 9:56
  with
• 9:56
  my
• 9:56
  husband.
• 9:57
  And
• 9:58
  that
• 9:58
  realization,
• 9:59
  that
• 9:59
  identity
• 10:00
  declaration
• 10:02
  changed
• 10:02
  absolutely
• 10:03
  everything
• 10:04
  about
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  way
• 10:05
  I
• 10:05
  dated.
• 10:06
  From
• 10:06
  that
• 10:07
  moment
• 10:07
  forward,
• 10:08
  I
• 10:08
  stopped
• 10:09
  dating
• 10:09
  desperately,
• 10:10
  and
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  started
• 10:11
  dating
• 10:12
  deliberately.
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  stopped
• 10:14
  auditioning
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  started
• 10:16
  discerning.
• 10:17
  I
• 10:17
  stopped
• 10:17
  trying
• 10:18
  to
• 10:18
  convince
• 10:18
  men
• 10:19
  to
• 10:19
  want
• 10:20
  me
• 10:20
  and
• 10:20
  started
• 10:21
  recognizing
• 10:22
  myself
• 10:23
  as
• 10:23
  a
• 10:23
  gift.
• 10:24
  God's
• 10:25
  blessing
• 10:26
  on
• 10:26
  the
• 10:27
  life
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  the
• 10:27
  right
• 10:28
  man
• 10:28
  and
• 10:29
  friend.
• 10:30
  When
• 10:30
  you
• 10:30
  know
• 10:31
  you
• 10:32
  are
• 10:32
  a
• 10:32
  gift,
• 10:33
  you
• 10:33
  stop
• 10:34
  letting
• 10:34
  people
• 10:34
  unwrap
• 10:35
  you
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  put
• 10:36
  you
• 10:36
  back
• 10:36
  on
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  shelf.
• 10:37
  Now,
• 10:38
  let
• 10:38
  me
• 10:38
  tell
• 10:38
  you
• 10:39
  about
• 10:39
  the
• 10:40
  final
• 10:40
  straw,
• 10:41
  the
• 10:41
  one
• 10:42
  guy
• 10:42
  who
• 10:42
  was
• 10:43
  the
• 10:43
  almost
• 10:44
  that
• 10:44
  finally
• 10:45
  made
• 10:45
  everything
• 10:46
  click.
• 10:46
  If
• 10:47
  you've
• 10:47
  been
• 10:47
  with
• 10:47
  me
• 10:48
  from
• 10:48
  the
• 10:48
  beginning,
• 10:48
  you've
• 10:49
  heard
• 10:49
  me
• 10:49
  share
• 10:49
  this
• 10:50
  story
• 10:50
  before
• 10:51
  we
• 10:51
  wanted
• 10:52
  completely
• 10:52
  different
• 10:53
  things.
• 10:53
  He
• 10:54
  wanted
• 10:54
  companionship,
• 10:56
  I
• 10:56
  wanted
• 10:57
  commitment,
• 10:57
  and
• 10:58
  we
• 10:58
  spent
• 10:58
  so
• 10:59
  much
• 10:59
  time
• 10:59
  playing
• 11:00
  the
• 11:00
  convincing
• 11:00
  game,
• 11:01
  each
• 11:01
  of
• 11:02
  us
• 11:02
  trying
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  get
• 11:03
  the
• 11:03
  other
• 11:03
  to
• 11:03
  want
• 11:04
  what
• 11:04
  the
• 11:04
  other
• 11:04
  one
• 11:05
  wanted.
• 11:07
  Neither
• 11:07
  of
• 11:07
  us
• 11:08
  was
• 11:08
  being
• 11:08
  honest
• 11:09
  about
• 11:09
  what
• 11:09
  was
• 11:10
  really
• 11:11
  happening
• 11:11
  here.
• 11:12
  He
• 11:12
  was
• 11:13
  getting
• 11:13
  exactly
• 11:14
  what
• 11:14
  he
• 11:15
  wanted,
• 11:15
  companionship,
• 11:17
  connection,
• 11:17
  all
• 11:18
  of
• 11:18
  it.
• 11:18
  And
• 11:18
  he
• 11:19
  was
• 11:19
  purely
• 11:20
  content.
• 11:21
  I,
• 11:21
  on
• 11:21
  the
• 11:22
  other
• 11:22
  hand,
• 11:22
  was
• 11:23
  not,
• 11:24
  but
• 11:24
  here's
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  thing,
• 11:25
  friend.
• 11:26
  I
• 11:26
  kept
• 11:26
  going
• 11:27
  back
• 11:27
  to
• 11:27
  this
• 11:28
  idea
• 11:29
  that
• 11:29
  one
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  us.
• 11:31
  Had
• 11:31
  to
• 11:31
  be
• 11:31
  wrong
• 11:32
  that
• 11:32
  either
• 11:33
  his
• 11:33
  goal
• 11:34
  was
• 11:34
  wrong
• 11:34
  or
• 11:35
  mine
• 11:35
  was,
• 11:36
  and
• 11:36
  I
• 11:37
  wanted
• 11:37
  to
• 11:37
  be
• 11:37
  right
• 11:38
  so
• 11:38
  bad
• 11:39
  that
• 11:40
  I
• 11:40
  almost
• 11:40
  missed
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  whole
• 11:42
  point.
• 11:43
  Until
• 11:44
  I
• 11:44
  realized
• 11:45
  I
• 11:45
  don't
• 11:45
  wanna
• 11:46
  be
• 11:46
  right,
• 11:47
  I
• 11:47
  wanna
• 11:47
  be
• 11:47
  happy
• 11:48
  with
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  right
• 11:49
  person,
• 11:50
  and
• 11:51
  this
• 11:51
  one
• 11:51
  right
• 11:51
  here,
• 11:52
  he
• 11:52
  was
• 11:52
  not
• 11:52
  gonna
• 11:53
  give
• 11:53
  me
• 11:53
  what
• 11:53
  I
• 11:53
  wanted.
• 11:55
  Not
• 11:55
  because
• 11:56
  he
• 11:56
  was
• 11:56
  a
• 11:56
  bad
• 11:56
  person,
• 11:57
  but
• 11:57
  because
• 11:58
  he
• 11:58
  was
• 11:58
  exactly
• 11:59
  who
• 12:00
  he
• 12:00
  was.
• 12:01
  He
• 12:01
  was
• 12:01
  already
• 12:02
  getting
• 12:02
  what
• 12:03
  he
• 12:03
  came
• 12:03
  for,
• 12:04
  and
• 12:04
  no
• 12:04
  amount
• 12:05
  of
• 12:05
  performing,
• 12:06
  convincing
• 12:07
  or
• 12:07
  auditioning
• 12:09
  was
• 12:09
  going
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  change
• 12:10
  that.
• 12:10
  So
• 12:11
  I
• 12:12
  made
• 12:12
  a
• 12:12
  decision.
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  left
• 12:14
  almost
• 12:14
  alone
• 12:15
  so
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  could
• 12:16
  be
• 12:16
  available
• 12:16
  for
• 12:17
  all
• 12:17
  of
• 12:17
  what
• 12:18
  God
• 12:18
  had
• 12:18
  already
• 12:19
  said
• 12:19
  was
• 12:19
  mine.
• 12:20
  And
• 12:20
  this
• 12:21
  right
• 12:21
  here,
• 12:22
  friend.
• 12:23
  Please
• 12:23
  take
• 12:23
  note.
• 12:24
  Okay.
• 12:25
  It
• 12:25
  was
• 12:25
  not
• 12:26
  about
• 12:26
  him
• 12:27
  changing.
• 12:28
  It
• 12:29
  was
• 12:29
  about
• 12:29
  me
• 12:30
  recognizing
• 12:31
  we
• 12:32
  wanted
• 12:32
  two
• 12:33
  different
• 12:34
  things
• 12:34
  and
• 12:35
  choosing
• 12:36
  what
• 12:36
  I
• 12:36
  actually
• 12:37
  wanted
• 12:38
  over
• 12:38
  the
• 12:38
  comfort
• 12:39
  over
• 12:40
  what
• 12:40
  was
• 12:40
  there
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  familiar.
• 12:42
  And
• 12:43
  shortly
• 12:43
  after
• 12:43
  I
• 12:44
  made
• 12:44
  that
• 12:44
  decision,
• 12:45
  my
• 12:45
  husband
• 12:46
  arrived.
• 12:47
  This
• 12:47
  wasn't
• 12:48
  because
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  finally
• 12:49
  did
• 12:49
  everything
• 12:50
  right.
• 12:51
  Friend.
• 12:52
  I
• 12:52
  had
• 12:52
  done
• 12:53
  the
• 12:53
  work.
• 12:54
  I
• 12:55
  shed
• 12:55
  the
• 12:56
  desperate,
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  shed
• 12:57
  the
• 12:57
  performing,
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  declared
• 13:00
  the
• 13:00
  identity,
• 13:01
  and
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  created
• 13:02
  space
• 13:03
  in
• 13:03
  my
• 13:03
  heart
• 13:04
  and
• 13:04
  in
• 13:04
  my
• 13:05
  life
• 13:05
  for
• 13:06
  the
• 13:06
  real
• 13:06
  thing
• 13:06
  to
• 13:07
  land.
• 13:08
  And
• 13:08
  he
• 13:09
  had
• 13:09
  been
• 13:09
  doing
• 13:09
  his
• 13:10
  work
• 13:10
  too.
• 13:11
  We
• 13:12
  were
• 13:12
  both
• 13:13
  in
• 13:13
  preparation
• 13:14
  and
• 13:14
  in
• 13:15
  perfect
• 13:15
  divine
• 13:16
  timing.
• 13:17
  We
• 13:17
  linked
• 13:17
  up
• 13:18
  and
• 13:19
  it
• 13:19
  was
• 13:19
  lovely,
• 13:20
  aligned
• 13:21
  and
• 13:22
  it
• 13:22
  was
• 13:23
  everything.
• 13:24
  And
• 13:25
  he
• 13:25
  didn't
• 13:25
  need
• 13:26
  me
• 13:26
  to
• 13:26
  show
• 13:27
  or
• 13:27
  prove
• 13:27
  a
• 13:28
  single
• 13:28
  thing.
• 13:29
  He
• 13:29
  just
• 13:30
  saw
• 13:30
  me.
• 13:31
  All
• 13:31
  of
• 13:32
  me
• 13:32
  for
• 13:32
  who
• 13:33
  I
• 13:33
  am
• 13:34
  and
• 13:34
  he
• 13:35
  had
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  have
• 13:36
  it.
• 13:36
  Okay?
• 13:37
  Now,
• 13:37
  truth
• 13:38
  be
• 13:38
  told,
• 13:39
  here
• 13:39
  is
• 13:39
  what
• 13:39
  I
• 13:40
  now
• 13:40
  know
• 13:41
  that
• 13:41
  I
• 13:42
  wish
• 13:42
  I
• 13:42
  had
• 13:42
  known
• 13:43
  at
• 13:43
  the
• 13:43
  beginning
• 13:44
  of
• 13:44
  that
• 13:45
  decade.
• 13:46
  Dating
• 13:47
  is
• 13:47
  a
• 13:48
  not
• 13:49
  the
• 13:49
  destination,
• 13:50
  it's
• 13:50
  the
• 13:50
  preparation.
• 13:52
  Every
• 13:52
  relationship,
• 13:53
  every
• 13:54
  situationship,
• 13:55
  every,
• 13:56
  all,
• 13:57
  most,
• 13:58
  every,
• 13:59
  let's
• 13:59
  see
• 13:59
  where
• 13:59
  this
• 14:00
  goes.
• 14:00
  Was
• 14:01
  a
• 14:01
  workout
• 14:02
  building
• 14:03
  something
• 14:03
  in
• 14:03
  me
• 14:04
  revealing
• 14:05
  something
• 14:06
  in
• 14:06
  me,
• 14:07
  preparing
• 14:07
  me
• 14:08
  for
• 14:08
  the
• 14:08
  love
• 14:08
  that
• 14:09
  was
• 14:09
  already
• 14:09
  on
• 14:10
  its
• 14:10
  way.
• 14:11
  And
• 14:11
  just
• 14:11
  like
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  gym,
• 14:13
  you
• 14:13
  don't
• 14:13
  get
• 14:13
  results
• 14:14
  without
• 14:15
  doing
• 14:15
  the.
• 14:15
  Work.
• 14:16
  You
• 14:17
  don't
• 14:17
  build
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  muscle
• 14:19
  without
• 14:19
  the
• 14:19
  resistance,
• 14:21
  and
• 14:21
  you
• 14:21
  don't
• 14:21
  meet
• 14:22
  the
• 14:22
  man
• 14:22
  without
• 14:23
  first
• 14:23
  becoming
• 14:24
  the
• 14:25
  woman
• 14:26
  because
• 14:26
  friend,
• 14:27
  when
• 14:27
  you
• 14:28
  show
• 14:28
  up
• 14:28
  to
• 14:29
  dating
• 14:29
  with
• 14:29
  desperate
• 14:30
  energy,
• 14:31
  men
• 14:32
  feel
• 14:32
  it.
• 14:33
  They
• 14:33
  know
• 14:34
  they
• 14:34
  can
• 14:34
  play
• 14:34
  with
• 14:34
  your
• 14:35
  heart
• 14:35
  when
• 14:36
  you
• 14:36
  are
• 14:36
  willing
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  have
• 14:37
  as.
• 14:37
  Someone
• 14:38
  fill
• 14:38
  a
• 14:38
  position
• 14:39
  regardless
• 14:41
  of
• 14:41
  whether
• 14:41
  they're
• 14:41
  actually
• 14:42
  qualified
• 14:42
  for
• 14:43
  the
• 14:43
  role.
• 14:44
  They
• 14:44
  feel
• 14:44
  that
• 14:44
  too.
• 14:45
  And
• 14:46
  listen.
• 14:46
  They'll
• 14:47
  take
• 14:47
  all
• 14:48
  the
• 14:48
  benefits,
• 14:48
  honey,
• 14:49
  of
• 14:49
  your
• 14:50
  wonderful
• 14:50
  audition
• 14:51
  without
• 14:52
  ever
• 14:52
  giving
• 14:53
  you
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  commitment
• 14:53
  you
• 14:54
  deserve.
• 14:54
  Okay?
• 14:57
  It's
• 14:57
  about
• 14:57
  knowing
• 14:58
  where
• 14:59
  you're
• 14:59
  standing,
• 15:00
  where
• 15:01
  are
• 15:01
  you
• 15:01
  operating
• 15:02
  from
• 15:02
  when
• 15:02
  you
• 15:03
  go
• 15:03
  out
• 15:03
  on
• 15:03
  these
• 15:04
  dates,
• 15:05
  because
• 15:05
  energy
• 15:06
  is
• 15:06
  everything.
• 15:08
  You
• 15:08
  can
• 15:08
  say
• 15:09
  all
• 15:09
  the
• 15:09
  right
• 15:09
  things,
• 15:10
  but
• 15:10
  your
• 15:11
  energy.
• 15:11
  Overrides
• 15:12
  it,
• 15:12
  all
• 15:13
  that
• 15:13
  frequency
• 15:14
  speaks
• 15:15
  a
• 15:15
  higher
• 15:16
  language.
• 15:17
  Not
• 15:18
  only
• 15:18
  do
• 15:18
  men
• 15:18
  pick
• 15:19
  up
• 15:19
  on
• 15:19
  this,
• 15:20
  but
• 15:20
  so
• 15:21
  does
• 15:21
  the
• 15:21
  universe.
• 15:22
  And
• 15:22
  the
• 15:22
  universe
• 15:23
  always
• 15:24
  delivers
• 15:25
  that
• 15:25
  same
• 15:25
  frequency
• 15:27
  right
• 15:27
  on
• 15:27
  back
• 15:27
  to
• 15:28
  you.
• 15:28
  So
• 15:29
  when
• 15:29
  I
• 15:29
  ask
• 15:29
  that
• 15:30
  question
• 15:30
  in
• 15:30
  the
• 15:31
  beginning
• 15:31
  of
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  episode,
• 15:32
  if
• 15:33
  he
• 15:33
  was
• 15:33
  catfishing
• 15:34
  me
• 15:34
  about
• 15:34
  his
• 15:35
  height,
• 15:36
  what
• 15:36
  was
• 15:36
  I
• 15:37
  catfishing
• 15:38
  about?
• 15:39
  Friend,
• 15:40
  you
• 15:40
  will
• 15:40
  always
• 15:41
  experience
• 15:42
  your
• 15:42
  reflection
• 15:44
  in
• 15:44
  real
• 15:45
  life.
• 15:46
  Everything
• 15:47
  that
• 15:47
  happens
• 15:48
  in
• 15:48
  life
• 15:48
  is
• 15:49
  always
• 15:50
  showing
• 15:50
  you
• 15:51
  something
• 15:51
  about
• 15:52
  yourself.
• 15:53
  The
• 15:53
  question
• 15:54
  to
• 15:54
  ask
• 15:55
  is,
• 15:55
  how
• 15:56
  did
• 15:56
  this.
• 15:57
  Okay,
• 15:58
  show
• 15:58
  up
• 15:58
  in
• 15:58
  my
• 15:58
  experience
• 16:01
  and
• 16:01
  what
• 16:02
  is
• 16:02
  it
• 16:02
  here
• 16:03
  to
• 16:03
  show
• 16:03
  me?
• 16:04
  What
• 16:04
  do
• 16:04
  I
• 16:04
  need
• 16:05
  to
• 16:05
  clean
• 16:06
  up
• 16:06
  in
• 16:06
  my
• 16:07
  energy
• 16:08
  to
• 16:08
  have
• 16:08
  the
• 16:08
  experience
• 16:10
  I
• 16:10
  desire?
• 16:11
  Because
• 16:12
  when
• 16:12
  you
• 16:12
  show
• 16:13
  up,
• 16:13
  knowing
• 16:15
  you
• 16:15
  are
• 16:15
  a
• 16:15
  gift,
• 16:16
  when
• 16:17
  you
• 16:17
  show
• 16:17
  up
• 16:18
  from
• 16:18
  the
• 16:18
  identity
• 16:19
  of
• 16:19
  the
• 16:19
  woman
• 16:20
  who
• 16:20
  already
• 16:21
  has
• 16:21
  what
• 16:21
  she
• 16:22
  wants,
• 16:23
  when
• 16:23
  you
• 16:23
  show
• 16:24
  up,
• 16:24
  believing,
• 16:25
  not
• 16:25
  hoping,
• 16:26
  wishing
• 16:26
  and
• 16:27
  praying,
• 16:28
  but
• 16:29
  believing
• 16:30
  that
• 16:31
  the
• 16:31
  love
• 16:32
  you
• 16:32
  desire
• 16:32
  is
• 16:33
  already
• 16:33
  yours.
• 16:34
  Everything
• 16:35
  shifts
• 16:36
  to
• 16:36
  a
• 16:36
  line
• 16:37
  to
• 16:37
  meet
• 16:37
  you
• 16:37
  there
• 16:38
  because
• 16:38
  you
• 16:39
  stop
• 16:39
  accepting
• 16:40
  almost.
• 16:41
  You
• 16:41
  stop
• 16:42
  tolerating
• 16:43
  the
• 16:43
  carrot.
• 16:44
  Someone's
• 16:44
  depth
• 16:45
  of
• 16:45
  conversation
• 16:46
  stops
• 16:47
  after
• 16:47
  asking,
• 16:48
  how
• 16:48
  was
• 16:48
  your
• 16:48
  day?
• 16:49
  You
• 16:50
  stop
• 16:50
  performing
• 16:51
  for
• 16:51
  people
• 16:52
  who
• 16:52
  were
• 16:52
  never
• 16:52
  going
• 16:53
  to
• 16:53
  give
• 16:53
  you
• 16:53
  the
• 16:53
  role
• 16:54
  anyway,
• 16:55
  and
• 16:55
  friend.
• 16:56
  The
• 16:56
  most
• 16:57
  important
• 16:57
  shift
• 16:58
  of
• 16:58
  all,
• 16:59
  you
• 16:59
  stop
• 16:59
  believing
• 17:00
  it's
• 17:01
  the
• 17:01
  men
• 17:02
  or
• 17:02
  the
• 17:02
  city
• 17:03
  or
• 17:04
  the
• 17:04
  timing
• 17:05
  or
• 17:05
  whatever
• 17:06
  external
• 17:06
  factors.
• 17:07
  We
• 17:07
  love
• 17:08
  to
• 17:08
  blame.
• 17:10
  When
• 17:10
  Love
• 17:11
  has
• 17:11
  not
• 17:11
  arrived,
• 17:12
  okay,
• 17:12
  I
• 17:13
  know
• 17:13
  because
• 17:13
  I
• 17:13
  said
• 17:14
  them
• 17:14
  all.
• 17:17
  But
• 17:17
  friend,
• 17:17
  you
• 17:18
  look
• 17:18
  in
• 17:18
  the
• 17:19
  mirror
• 17:20
  because
• 17:20
  the
• 17:20
  mirror
• 17:21
  never
• 17:21
  lies.
• 17:22
  The
• 17:22
  men
• 17:23
  in
• 17:23
  your
• 17:23
  life
• 17:23
  are
• 17:24
  always
• 17:24
  reflecting
• 17:25
  back
• 17:26
  exactly
• 17:27
  where
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  are,
• 17:28
  exactly
• 17:29
  what
• 17:30
  you
• 17:30
  believe
• 17:30
  about
• 17:31
  love,
• 17:32
  exactly
• 17:33
  what
• 17:33
  you
• 17:33
  believe
• 17:33
  about
• 17:34
  yourself.
• 17:35
  And
• 17:36
  your
• 17:36
  philosophies
• 17:37
  on
• 17:37
  relationships,
• 17:39
  it's
• 17:39
  always
• 17:40
  showing
• 17:40
  you
• 17:41
  what
• 17:42
  you
• 17:42
  are
• 17:42
  willing
• 17:42
  to
• 17:43
  accept
• 17:44
  and
• 17:44
  when
• 17:44
  you
• 17:45
  shift
• 17:45
  the
• 17:46
  reflection,
• 17:47
  when
• 17:47
  you
• 17:47
  shed
• 17:48
  the
• 17:48
  insecurity
• 17:49
  and
• 17:49
  the
• 17:49
  misalignment
• 17:50
  and
• 17:51
  the
• 17:51
  desperate
• 17:51
  energy,
• 17:53
  all
• 17:53
  of
• 17:53
  that
• 17:53
  performing,
• 17:55
  when
• 17:55
  that
• 17:55
  shifts
• 17:56
  suddenly
• 17:57
  what
• 17:58
  shows
• 17:58
  up
• 17:58
  in
• 17:59
  the
• 17:59
  mirror
• 17:59
  looks
• 18:00
  completely
• 18:00
  different.
• 18:01
  Suddenly
• 18:03
  love
• 18:03
  appears.
• 18:04
  This
• 18:04
  is
• 18:05
  the
• 18:05
  part
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  really
• 18:06
  want
• 18:06
  you
• 18:06
  to
• 18:06
  hear
• 18:07
  with
• 18:07
  your
• 18:08
  whole
• 18:08
  heart
• 18:09
  when
• 18:10
  I
• 18:10
  say
• 18:10
  this.
• 18:11
  It
• 18:11
  was
• 18:12
  never
• 18:12
  that
• 18:13
  love
• 18:13
  was
• 18:14
  ever
• 18:14
  absent
• 18:15
  because
• 18:16
  you
• 18:16
  finally
• 18:17
  became
• 18:18
  the
• 18:18
  woman.
• 18:19
  Who
• 18:19
  could
• 18:20
  see
• 18:20
  it,
• 18:21
  receive
• 18:21
  it
• 18:22
  and
• 18:22
  believe
• 18:23
  she
• 18:24
  deserves
• 18:24
  it.
• 18:25
  And
• 18:25
  friend,
• 18:26
  I
• 18:26
  didn't
• 18:26
  have
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  go
• 18:27
  to
• 18:27
  heaven
• 18:27
  to
• 18:28
  find
• 18:28
  my
• 18:28
  husband.
• 18:30
  God
• 18:31
  just
• 18:31
  wanted
• 18:31
  me
• 18:32
  to
• 18:32
  believe
• 18:32
  in
• 18:33
  heaven
• 18:33
  on
• 18:33
  earth.
• 18:34
  And
• 18:34
  the
• 18:34
  moment
• 18:35
  I
• 18:35
  did,
• 18:36
  he
• 18:36
  arrived.
• 18:39
  Ooh,
• 18:40
  friend.
• 18:41
  Okay,
• 18:42
  real
• 18:43
  Talk
• 18:43
  for
• 18:43
  a
• 18:43
  second.
• 18:44
  If
• 18:44
  today's
• 18:45
  episode
• 18:46
  has
• 18:46
  you
• 18:46
  in
• 18:46
  your
• 18:47
  feelings,
• 18:49
  if
• 18:49
  you
• 18:50
  are
• 18:50
  sitting
• 18:50
  there
• 18:50
  like,
• 18:51
  okay,
• 18:51
  she's
• 18:52
  talking
• 18:52
  directly
• 18:53
  to
• 18:53
  me,
• 18:54
  then
• 18:54
  I
• 18:55
  really
• 18:55
  want
• 18:55
  you
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  grab
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  Main
• 18:56
  Character
• 18:57
  Energy
• 18:57
  Journal
• 18:58
  Prompts,
• 18:58
  because
• 18:59
  here's
• 18:59
  the
• 18:59
  thing,
• 19:00
  we
• 19:00
  can
• 19:00
  have.
• 19:01
  All
• 19:01
  the
• 19:01
  awareness
• 19:02
  in
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  world,
• 19:03
  but
• 19:03
  if
• 19:03
  we
• 19:03
  don't
• 19:04
  actually
• 19:04
  do
• 19:04
  something
• 19:05
  with
• 19:05
  it,
• 19:06
  we
• 19:06
  just
• 19:06
  keep
• 19:07
  going
• 19:08
  in
• 19:08
  circles
• 19:09
  And
• 19:09
  friend,
• 19:10
  I
• 19:10
  don't
• 19:10
  want
• 19:10
  that
• 19:10
  for
• 19:11
  you.
• 19:11
  These
• 19:12
  prompts
• 19:13
  are
• 19:13
  gonna
• 19:13
  help
• 19:13
  you
• 19:13
  to
• 19:14
  get
• 19:14
  honest
• 19:14
  with
• 19:15
  yourself
• 19:15
  in
• 19:15
  the
• 19:15
  most
• 19:16
  loving,
• 19:17
  grace
• 19:17
  filled
• 19:18
  possible
• 19:19
  way.
• 19:20
  No
• 19:20
  tough
• 19:20
  love,
• 19:21
  no
• 19:21
  shame,
• 19:22
  just
• 19:22
  you,
• 19:23
  your
• 19:23
  journal.
• 19:24
  And
• 19:25
  some
• 19:25
  really,
• 19:26
  really
• 19:26
  good
• 19:26
  questions
• 19:27
  that
• 19:27
  are
• 19:27
  going
• 19:27
  to
• 19:27
  help
• 19:28
  you
• 19:28
  figure
• 19:28
  out
• 19:29
  where
• 19:29
  survival
• 19:30
  mode
• 19:31
  has
• 19:31
  been
• 19:31
  running
• 19:31
  your
• 19:32
  life
• 19:32
  and
• 19:33
  what
• 19:33
  it
• 19:33
  looks
• 19:33
  like
• 19:33
  to
• 19:34
  actually
• 19:34
  put
• 19:35
  it
• 19:35
  down.
• 19:36
  Friend,
• 19:37
  I
• 19:37
  made
• 19:37
  these
• 19:38
  just
• 19:38
  for
• 19:38
  you
• 19:39
  for
• 19:39
  this
• 19:39
  exact
• 19:40
  moment,
• 19:41
  for
• 19:41
  the
• 19:41
  woman
• 19:42
  who
• 19:42
  just
• 19:42
  heard
• 19:43
  a
• 19:43
  word
• 19:44
  that
• 19:44
  cracks
• 19:44
  something
• 19:45
  open
• 19:45
  and
• 19:46
  needs
• 19:46
  somewhere
• 19:47
  to
• 19:47
  go
• 19:47
  with
• 19:47
  it,
• 19:47
  the
• 19:48
  link
• 19:48
  is
• 19:48
  in
• 19:49
  the
• 19:49
  show
• 19:49
  notes.
• 19:49
  Grab
• 19:50
  it.
• 19:50
  I
• 19:50
  promise
• 19:51
  you
• 19:52
  you
• 19:52
  need
• 19:52
  this
• 19:52
  right
• 19:53
  now.
• 19:56
  Okay,
• 19:56
  friend.
• 19:57
  You
• 19:57
  know
• 19:57
  what
• 19:57
  time
• 19:58
  it
• 19:58
  is?
• 19:58
  This
• 19:59
  is
• 19:59
  your
• 19:59
  self
• 20:00
  love
• 20:00
  two
• 20:01
  step,
• 20:02
  and
• 20:02
  I
• 20:02
  got
• 20:02
  the
• 20:03
  remix
• 20:03
  for
• 20:03
  you
• 20:03
  today.
• 20:04
  So
• 20:04
  stay
• 20:04
  with
• 20:04
  me
• 20:05
  because
• 20:05
  step
• 20:05
  three
• 20:06
  is
• 20:06
  everything.
• 20:09
  Step
• 20:10
  one,
• 20:10
  identify
• 20:11
  the
• 20:12
  pattern.
• 20:12
  Friend.
• 20:13
  I
• 20:13
  want
• 20:14
  you
• 20:14
  to
• 20:14
  get
• 20:14
  really
• 20:15
  honest
• 20:15
  with
• 20:15
  yourself
• 20:16
  about
• 20:16
  this
• 20:16
  one.
• 20:17
  Open
• 20:17
  your
• 20:17
  journal.
• 20:18
  Write
• 20:18
  this
• 20:18
  question
• 20:19
  out
• 20:19
  and
• 20:19
  answer
• 20:20
  it
• 20:20
  straight
• 20:21
  up.
• 20:21
  No
• 20:21
  chaser,
• 20:22
  no
• 20:22
  shade,
• 20:23
  no
• 20:23
  shame
• 20:24
  and
• 20:24
  no
• 20:24
  judgment,
• 20:25
  just
• 20:26
  your
• 20:27
  honest
• 20:27
  truth.
• 20:28
  What
• 20:29
  pattern
• 20:29
  keeps
• 20:30
  showing
• 20:30
  up
• 20:30
  in
• 20:30
  my
• 20:31
  dating
• 20:31
  life
• 20:32
  and
• 20:32
  what
• 20:32
  is
• 20:32
  it
• 20:33
  reflecting
• 20:33
  back
• 20:33
  to
• 20:34
  me
• 20:34
  about
• 20:35
  where
• 20:35
  I
• 20:36
  am
• 20:36
  right
• 20:36
  now?
• 20:37
  Don't
• 20:37
  make
• 20:38
  this
• 20:38
  about
• 20:38
  the
• 20:38
  men
• 20:39
  that
• 20:39
  you're
• 20:39
  dating.
• 20:40
  Make
• 20:40
  it
• 20:40
  about
• 20:41
  you.
• 20:42
  What
• 20:42
  belief
• 20:43
  is
• 20:43
  this
• 20:44
  pattern
• 20:44
  revealing?
• 20:45
  What
• 20:45
  are
• 20:46
  you
• 20:46
  tolerating
• 20:47
  that
• 20:47
  you
• 20:47
  know
• 20:48
  you
• 20:48
  ain't
• 20:48
  got
• 20:49
  no
• 20:49
  business
• 20:49
  tolerating?
• 20:50
  What
• 20:51
  are
• 20:51
  you
• 20:51
  performing
• 20:52
  that
• 20:52
  isn't
• 20:52
  actually
• 20:53
  who
• 20:53
  you
• 20:53
  are?
• 20:54
  Write
• 20:55
  it
• 20:55
  all
• 20:55
  out
• 20:56
  because
• 20:56
  you
• 20:56
  cannot
• 20:57
  shift
• 20:58
  what
• 20:58
  you
• 20:58
  haven't
• 20:59
  named.
• 21:00
  Step
• 21:00
  two,
• 21:01
  the
• 21:01
  identity
• 21:02
  declaration.
• 21:03
  Now
• 21:04
  it's
• 21:04
  time
• 21:05
  to
• 21:05
  write
• 21:05
  down
• 21:06
  the
• 21:06
  identity
• 21:06
  of
• 21:07
  the
• 21:07
  woman
• 21:07
  who
• 21:07
  already
• 21:08
  has
• 21:09
  the
• 21:09
  love
• 21:09
  she
• 21:10
  desires,
• 21:11
  not
• 21:11
  who
• 21:11
  you're
• 21:11
  working
• 21:12
  toward,
• 21:12
  I'm
• 21:13
  talking
• 21:13
  who
• 21:13
  you
• 21:14
  already
• 21:14
  are,
• 21:15
  and
• 21:16
  I
• 21:16
  really
• 21:16
  want
• 21:16
  you
• 21:16
  to
• 21:16
  get
• 21:17
  specific
• 21:18
  about
• 21:18
  who
• 21:18
  she
• 21:19
  actually
• 21:19
  is.
• 21:20
  So
• 21:20
  finish
• 21:21
  this
• 21:21
  sentence
• 21:22
  in
• 21:22
  your
• 21:22
  journal.
• 21:23
  The
• 21:23
  woman
• 21:24
  who
• 21:25
  she
• 21:26
  dates
• 21:26
  like.
• 21:27
  And
• 21:28
  she
• 21:28
  never
• 21:28
  settles
• 21:29
  for,
• 21:30
  so
• 21:31
  an
• 21:31
  example
• 21:32
  is
• 21:33
  I
• 21:33
  am
• 21:33
  the
• 21:33
  woman
• 21:34
  who
• 21:34
  loves
• 21:35
  herself.
• 21:36
  She
• 21:36
  dates
• 21:37
  like
• 21:38
  a
• 21:38
  wife
• 21:39
  and
• 21:40
  she
• 21:40
  never
• 21:40
  settles
• 21:41
  for
• 21:42
  less.
• 21:43
  Ooh,
• 21:43
  friend.
• 21:44
  Yes.
• 21:45
  What
• 21:45
  is
• 21:46
  your
• 21:46
  declaration
• 21:47
  friend?
• 21:47
  Write
• 21:48
  it,
• 21:48
  say
• 21:49
  it
• 21:49
  out
• 21:49
  loud
• 21:50
  and
• 21:50
  say
• 21:50
  it
• 21:51
  until
• 21:51
  something
• 21:52
  shifts.
• 21:53
  Because
• 21:54
  the
• 21:54
  declaration
• 21:55
  always
• 21:56
  comes
• 21:56
  before
• 21:57
  the
• 21:57
  evidence
• 21:58
  always.
• 22:00
  And
• 22:00
  step
• 22:01
  three
• 22:01
  is
• 22:02
  the
• 22:02
  YOU
• 22:02
  step.
• 22:03
  Get
• 22:04
  still,
• 22:04
  get
• 22:04
  quiet
• 22:05
  and
• 22:05
  ask
• 22:06
  yourself
• 22:06
  one
• 22:07
  question,
• 22:08
  what
• 22:08
  is
• 22:08
  my
• 22:09
  heart
• 22:09
  telling
• 22:10
  me
• 22:10
  to
• 22:11
  do
• 22:11
  next?
• 22:12
  Not
• 22:12
  what
• 22:13
  desperate
• 22:13
  energy
• 22:14
  would
• 22:14
  have
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  do,
• 22:15
  not
• 22:16
  what
• 22:16
  the
• 22:16
  woman
• 22:16
  who
• 22:16
  is
• 22:17
  still
• 22:17
  auditioning
• 22:18
  would
• 22:19
  do.
• 22:20
  But
• 22:20
  what
• 22:20
  does
• 22:20
  the
• 22:21
  woman
• 22:21
  who
• 22:21
  knows,
• 22:22
  she
• 22:23
  is
• 22:23
  a
• 22:23
  gift,
• 22:24
  who
• 22:24
  knows?
• 22:25
  God
• 22:25
  made
• 22:26
  her
• 22:26
  for
• 22:26
  this.
• 22:27
  Do
• 22:28
  next.
• 22:29
  That
• 22:30
  is
• 22:30
  your
• 22:30
  next
• 22:31
  right
• 22:31
  aligned
• 22:32
  step
• 22:33
  friend.
• 22:33
  Trust
• 22:34
  her,
• 22:35
  she
• 22:35
  already
• 22:36
  knows.
• 22:37
  And
• 22:37
  remember,
• 22:38
  friend,
• 22:38
  if
• 22:38
  God
• 22:39
  is
• 22:39
  not
• 22:39
  your
• 22:40
  jam,
• 22:40
  fill
• 22:41
  in
• 22:41
  whom
• 22:42
  it
• 22:42
  is
• 22:43
  that
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  believe
• 22:44
  in
• 22:44
  whatever
• 22:45
  your
• 22:46
  spiritual
• 22:47
  belief
• 22:47
  or
• 22:48
  belief
• 22:48
  and
• 22:48
  higher
• 22:49
  power
• 22:49
  is,
• 22:50
  friend,
• 22:50
  that
• 22:51
  is
• 22:51
  exactly
• 22:52
  where
• 22:52
  that
• 22:53
  goes.
• 22:53
  This
• 22:54
  is
• 22:54
  about
• 22:54
  you
• 22:54
  having
• 22:55
  that
• 22:55
  connection
• 22:56
  with
• 22:57
  whomever
• 22:57
  it
• 22:58
  is
• 22:58
  that
• 22:58
  you
• 22:58
  believe
• 22:59
  is
• 23:00
  the
• 23:00
  divine.
• 23:01
  Now,
• 23:02
  lemme
• 23:03
  pour
• 23:03
  into
• 23:03
  you
• 23:03
  real
• 23:03
  quick.
• 23:04
  And
• 23:05
  I
• 23:05
  really
• 23:05
  want
• 23:06
  you
• 23:06
  to
• 23:07
  sit
• 23:07
  with
• 23:07
  this
• 23:07
  before
• 23:08
  we
• 23:08
  close,
• 23:08
  because
• 23:09
  I
• 23:09
  really
• 23:10
  need
• 23:10
  you
• 23:10
  to
• 23:10
  hear
• 23:11
  this
• 23:12
  with
• 23:12
  your
• 23:12
  heart
• 23:13
  wide
• 23:13
  open.
• 23:14
  The
• 23:14
  decade
• 23:15
  was
• 23:16
  not
• 23:16
  wasted.
• 23:17
  Not
• 23:17
  one
• 23:18
  single
• 23:18
  year,
• 23:19
  not
• 23:19
  one
• 23:20
  single
• 23:20
  date.
• 23:21
  Even
• 23:22
  the
• 23:22
  catfishing
• 23:22
  ones.
• 23:25
  Not
• 23:26
  even
• 23:26
  one
• 23:27
  single,
• 23:28
  almost
• 23:29
  every
• 23:30
  one
• 23:30
  of
• 23:31
  those
• 23:31
  was
• 23:32
  preparing
• 23:33
  you,
• 23:33
  building
• 23:34
  you
• 23:35
  stripping
• 23:35
  away
• 23:36
  what
• 23:36
  wasn't
• 23:37
  meant
• 23:37
  to
• 23:37
  stay,
• 23:38
  so
• 23:38
  that
• 23:39
  what
• 23:39
  was
• 23:39
  meant
• 23:39
  to
• 23:40
  arrive
• 23:40
  could
• 23:41
  actually
• 23:41
  find
• 23:41
  you.
• 23:42
  So
• 23:42
  if
• 23:43
  you
• 23:43
  are
• 23:43
  in
• 23:43
  the
• 23:43
  middle
• 23:44
  of
• 23:44
  your
• 23:45
  dating
• 23:45
  journey
• 23:46
  right
• 23:46
  now,
• 23:47
  if
• 23:47
  you
• 23:48
  are
• 23:48
  tired
• 23:49
  and
• 23:49
  hopeless
• 23:50
  and
• 23:50
  wondering
• 23:50
  if
• 23:51
  this
• 23:51
  is
• 23:51
  ever
• 23:51
  gonna
• 23:52
  work
• 23:52
  out,
• 23:52
  especially
• 23:53
  for
• 23:54
  you,
• 23:56
  I
• 23:56
  want
• 23:56
  you
• 23:57
  to
• 23:57
  know
• 23:57
  something.
• 23:58
  Your
• 23:58
  person
• 23:59
  exists.
• 24:01
  The
• 24:01
  love
• 24:02
  you
• 24:02
  desire
• 24:03
  exists,
• 24:04
  and
• 24:05
  it
• 24:05
  is
• 24:05
  not
• 24:06
  in
• 24:06
  heaven
• 24:06
  with
• 24:06
  Jesus.
• 24:09
  It's
• 24:10
  on
• 24:10
  the
• 24:10
  way
• 24:10
  right
• 24:11
  now
• 24:12
  while
• 24:13
  you're
• 24:13
  doing
• 24:13
  the
• 24:13
  work.
• 24:14
  Brendan
• 24:15
  Burchard
• 24:15
  always
• 24:16
  says,
• 24:17
  honor
• 24:18
  the
• 24:18
  struggle.
• 24:19
  So
• 24:19
  friend,
• 24:20
  let
• 24:20
  me
• 24:20
  remind
• 24:21
  you,
• 24:21
  trust
• 24:22
  the
• 24:22
  preparation,
• 24:23
  trust
• 24:24
  the
• 24:24
  mirror,
• 24:25
  trust
• 24:26
  the
• 24:26
  timing,
• 24:27
  and
• 24:27
  most
• 24:27
  importantly,
• 24:29
  trust
• 24:29
  her,
• 24:30
  the
• 24:30
  woman
• 24:31
  you
• 24:31
  are
• 24:31
  becoming
• 24:32
  in
• 24:32
  this
• 24:32
  season,
• 24:33
  because
• 24:34
  she
• 24:34
  is
• 24:34
  the
• 24:34
  one
• 24:35
  he's
• 24:35
  coming
• 24:36
  for,
• 24:37
  not
• 24:37
  the
• 24:37
  performing
• 24:38
  version
• 24:39
  or
• 24:39
  the
• 24:39
  one
• 24:39
  who
• 24:39
  was
• 24:40
  auditioning,
• 24:41
  and
• 24:41
  especially
• 24:42
  not
• 24:42
  the
• 24:42
  desperate
• 24:43
  version,
• 24:44
  her
• 24:44
  the
• 24:45
  real
• 24:45
  one,
• 24:46
  the
• 24:46
  gift,
• 24:47
  the
• 24:47
  one
• 24:48
  God
• 24:49
  made
• 24:49
  specifically
• 24:50
  and
• 24:50
  intentionally
• 24:52
  for
• 24:53
  the
• 24:53
  person
• 24:54
  whose
• 24:54
  life
• 24:55
  will
• 24:55
  be
• 24:55
  better
• 24:56
  because
• 24:57
  she
• 24:57
  is
• 24:58
  in
• 24:58
  it.
• 24:58
  That
• 24:59
  is
• 24:59
  you
• 24:59
  friend.
• 25:00
  It's
• 25:00
  always
• 25:01
  been
• 25:02
  you,
• 25:03
  You
• 25:03
  know,
• 25:03
  dating
• 25:04
  is
• 25:04
  not
• 25:04
  a
• 25:04
  search,
• 25:05
  it
• 25:05
  is
• 25:06
  a
• 25:06
  setup,
• 25:07
  preparing
• 25:08
  you
• 25:09
  for
• 25:09
  everything
• 25:10
  you
• 25:10
  say
• 25:10
  you
• 25:11
  want.
• 25:11
  Every
• 25:12
  mirror
• 25:13
  it
• 25:13
  holds,
• 25:14
  Every,
• 25:14
  almost
• 25:15
  every
• 25:16
  situationship.
• 25:17
  Every
• 25:18
  single.
• 25:19
  Let's
• 25:19
  see
• 25:19
  where
• 25:19
  this
• 25:20
  goes.
• 25:20
  It
• 25:20
  is
• 25:21
  not
• 25:21
  a
• 25:21
  dead
• 25:21
  end.
• 25:22
  It
• 25:22
  is
• 25:23
  an
• 25:23
  invitation
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  look
• 25:24
  deeper,
• 25:26
  to
• 25:26
  love
• 25:26
  yourself
• 25:27
  more,
• 25:28
  to
• 25:28
  shed
• 25:29
  what
• 25:29
  isn't
• 25:29
  aligned,
• 25:30
  and
• 25:31
  to
• 25:31
  declare
• 25:32
  who
• 25:32
  you
• 25:32
  already
• 25:33
  are
• 25:33
  before
• 25:34
  the
• 25:34
  evidence
• 25:35
  ever
• 25:35
  arrives.
• 25:37
  So
• 25:37
  stop
• 25:37
  dating
• 25:38
  desperately
• 25:39
  and
• 25:39
  start
• 25:40
  dating
• 25:40
  deliberately
• 25:42
  date,
• 25:42
  like
• 25:42
  you
• 25:43
  already
• 25:43
  know
• 25:44
  what
• 25:44
  God
• 25:44
  made
• 25:45
  you
• 25:45
  for
• 25:46
  and
• 25:46
  friend
• 25:47
  while
• 25:48
  you're
• 25:48
  doing
• 25:48
  your
• 25:48
  work
• 25:49
  Trust.
• 25:51
  Your
• 25:51
  person
• 25:52
  is
• 25:52
  doing
• 25:52
  their
• 25:52
  work
• 25:53
  too,
• 25:53
  and
• 25:54
  in
• 25:54
  perfect
• 25:54
  timing,
• 25:55
  it'll
• 25:56
  be
• 25:56
  lovely,
• 25:57
  aligned,
• 25:58
  and
• 25:58
  everything
• 25:59
  you
• 25:59
  believed
• 26:00
  it
• 26:00
  for
• 26:01
  and
• 26:01
  so
• 26:02
  much
• 26:02
  more.
• 26:04
  Because
• 26:04
  you
• 26:05
  are
• 26:05
  a
• 26:05
  gift
• 26:06
  friend
• 26:07
  and
• 26:07
  the
• 26:07
  right
• 26:08
  person,
• 26:09
  they
• 26:09
  won't
• 26:09
  need
• 26:09
  you
• 26:10
  to
• 26:10
  prove
• 26:10
  it
• 26:10
  because
• 26:11
  they
• 26:11
  will
• 26:12
  just
• 26:12
  know,
• 26:15
  Ooh,
• 26:16
  friend.
• 26:16
  So
• 26:17
  good.
• 26:18
  Now
• 26:18
  we're
• 26:19
  gonna
• 26:19
  go
• 26:19
  even
• 26:20
  deeper
• 26:21
  on
• 26:21
  YouTube,
• 26:21
  so
• 26:22
  make
• 26:22
  sure
• 26:22
  you're
• 26:22
  subscribed
• 26:23
  over
• 26:23
  there
• 26:24
  so
• 26:24
  that
• 26:24
  you
• 26:24
  don't
• 26:25
  miss
• 26:25
  when
• 26:25
  it's
• 26:25
  posted.
• 26:26
  And
• 26:26
  the
• 26:26
  link
• 26:27
  is
• 26:27
  in
• 26:27
  the
• 26:27
  show
• 26:27
  notes.
• 26:28
  And
• 26:28
  if
• 26:29
  this
• 26:29
  episode
• 26:30
  hit
• 26:30
  home,
• 26:30
  make
• 26:31
  sure
• 26:31
  you
• 26:31
  leave
• 26:32
  a
• 26:32
  comment
• 26:32
  on
• 26:33
  the
• 26:33
  YouTube
• 26:33
  video
• 26:34
  and
• 26:34
  tell
• 26:34
  me.
• 26:35
  You
• 26:35
  are
• 26:35
  dating
• 26:36
  deliberately
• 26:36
  now
• 26:37
  because
• 26:38
  we
• 26:38
  are
• 26:38
  celebrating
• 26:39
  every
• 26:40
  single
• 26:41
  woman
• 26:41
  who
• 26:41
  makes
• 26:42
  that
• 26:42
  declaration
• 26:43
  today.
• 26:44
  Okay,
• 26:45
  friend.
• 26:46
  Remember,
• 26:46
  you
• 26:47
  are
• 26:47
  not
• 26:48
  an
• 26:48
  extra
• 26:49
  in
• 26:49
  anybody
• 26:50
  else's
• 26:50
  story.
• 26:51
  You
• 26:51
  are
• 26:52
  the
• 26:52
  main
• 26:53
  character
• 26:53
  of
• 26:54
  your
• 26:54
  very
• 26:54
  own
• 26:55
  story,
• 26:55
  so
• 26:56
  go
• 26:56
  be
• 26:57
  her,
• 26:58
  the
• 26:58
  one
• 26:58
  you
• 26:59
  have
• 26:59
  been
• 26:59
  becoming.
• 27:00
  She
• 27:00
  has
• 27:00
  been
• 27:01
  waiting
• 27:01
  on
• 27:01
  you
• 27:02
  to
• 27:02
  live
• 27:03
  out
• 27:03
  loud.
• 27:04
  And
• 27:04
  no
• 27:04
  matter
• 27:05
  what
• 27:05
  comes
• 27:05
  your
• 27:05
  way
• 27:06
  together,
• 27:07
  we
• 27:07
  can
• 27:08
  encourage
• 27:09
  over
• 27:09
  everything.
• 27:11
  Love
• 27:11
  you,
• 27:11
  friend.
• 27:12
  I'm
• 27:12
  cheering
• 27:13
  for
• 27:13
  you
• 27:14
  loud
• 27:14
  and
• 27:14
  obnoxiously
• 27:15
  always,
• 27:18
  and
• 27:19
  I'll
• 27:19
  see
• 27:19
  you
• 27:20
  in
• 27:20
  the
• 27:20
  next
• 27:20
  episode.