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200. The Crisis of compassion · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I think now more than ever, the purpose of this
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  Speaker 1: platform is being spoken loudly. It's not just words becoming
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  Speaker 1: more of your enriched self. It is the action and
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  Speaker 1: the activity behind those words that matter most, that are
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  Speaker 1: critical now in your current situation and in your future,
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  Speaker 1: because I know if you're listening, you want to be
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  Speaker 1: the best version of yourself. But those words require you
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  Speaker 1: to do the work. It requires you to face the fear,
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  Speaker 1: face the challenge, and quite honestly, do the uncomfortable, be
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  Speaker 1: in the uncomfortable space, have the uncomfortable conversations, Listen for
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  Speaker 1: the things that we typically turn our ear to turn
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  Speaker 1: our backs, to turn our hearts away from, because it's
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  Speaker 1: hard to hear a message that's challenging the way you've
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  Speaker 1: always received it, challenging your belief system, challenging the way
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  Speaker 1: culture wants you to receive it, digest it, ingest it
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  Speaker 1: and then apply it to your life. We need to
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  Speaker 1: be more discerning of what we are hearing, what we
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  Speaker 1: are finding information wise. We need to challenge what we see,
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  Speaker 1: challenge what we hear. Unfortunately, we have taken everything at
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  Speaker 1: face value from any source and not done our work,
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  Speaker 1: not searched ourselves and searched our hearts. One of the
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  Speaker 1: things I learned a few years ago is that when
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  Speaker 1: you're going through the process of growth and transformation, it's
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  Speaker 1: not just about what you learn and what you understand.
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  Speaker 1: It's also about what you are unlearning because you see
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  Speaker 1: their behaviors in culture, their behaviors in the world, their
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  Speaker 1: behaviors in your subsets and in your areas, your circles
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  Speaker 1: that have been acceptable and accepted, and you've participated in them,
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  Speaker 1: and that doesn't make it right. That just meant a
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  Speaker 1: few people agreed and came into alignment on something that
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  Speaker 1: may not be right. So now, more than ever, becoming
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  Speaker 1: more of your enrich self is going to require you
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  Speaker 1: to do the work, the homework, the legwork, the research,
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  Speaker 1: the investigation, the discernment. It's going to require more of
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  Speaker 1: you so that you can become more of you. And
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  Speaker 1: that starts now. If you haven't been doing the work,
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  Speaker 1: I invite you, I encourage you to stay tuned to
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  Speaker 1: this podcast because I'm going to continue to bring forward
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  Speaker 1: the conversations, the insights, the private conversations we have, the
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  Speaker 1: self talk that we keep secret, the things we wrestle
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  Speaker 1: with that are taboo and culture that are not you know,
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  Speaker 1: the things people want to hear, they're.
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  Speaker 2: Not popular or popularized.
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  Speaker 1: The things people ridicule you for. We need to talk
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  Speaker 1: about it. We need to be in the front seat
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  Speaker 1: of watching, pulling up a chair, taking the notes, and
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  Speaker 1: becoming better. And I'm going to encourage you to do that,
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  Speaker 1: whether it be with this podcast. It is so important
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  Speaker 1: that you find a space, a community, a circle to
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  Speaker 1: nurture in. It is time to weed your garden. It
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  Speaker 1: is time to remove the weeds that are choking out
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  Speaker 1: the life in the plants that you planted so many
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  Speaker 1: years ago. You are waiting for the harvest, but it
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  Speaker 1: won't happen because there are dark paths and things that
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  Speaker 1: are not going to amount too much that are keeping
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  Speaker 1: you from being and becoming your in rich self. And
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  Speaker 1: I want that to stop today. And I want you
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  Speaker 1: to start going a little deeper, facing the things that
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  Speaker 1: are very uncomfortable, the thing that you don't want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about and be in. But it requires to get
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  Speaker 1: dirty before you clean up and become the best version
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  Speaker 1: of you. And I want to be part of that
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  Speaker 1: journey in a small, medium, large however I can be
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  Speaker 1: because I am here with you I want you to
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  Speaker 1: become more of your enrid self. Hello, my friends from
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  Speaker 1: rich Self podcast. I am your host, Milee Noir. I
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  Speaker 1: am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And what that
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  Speaker 1: means is I want you to do the work and
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  Speaker 1: show up each and every day in your life so
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  Speaker 1: that you can become more of you, your enriched self.
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  Speaker 1: And that's going to require you confronting the challenging spaces
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  Speaker 1: in your life and being in the uncomfortable spaces in
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  Speaker 1: your life so that you can unearth the things and
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  Speaker 1: come into alignment with the best version of yourself. And
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  Speaker 1: it takes daily work. It starts with your mindset. It
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  Speaker 1: starts with your ability to reset by taking the action
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  Speaker 1: and doing the activity so that you can become more
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  Speaker 1: get into this week's episode, one of the things I
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  Speaker 1: of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your
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  Speaker 1: day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation
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  Speaker 1: is today I own my power and move forward with purpose. Today,
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  Speaker 1: I own my power and move forward with purpose. Today
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  Speaker 1: I own my power and move forward with purpose. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. You know I'm going to have an opinion,
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  Speaker 1: a point of view that is not gonna seem eye
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  Speaker 1: to eye with the culture right now. One thing about
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  Speaker 1: this podcast that I set forward was the idea that
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  Speaker 1: we would do things on this podcast.
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  Speaker 2: We would talk.
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  Speaker 1: About things that would challenge the culture. And right now,
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  Speaker 1: there's something our culture lacks, There's something our culture has lost.
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  Speaker 1: There's something our culture has been careless with, and that
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  Speaker 1: is compassion. I do my very best to stay in
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  Speaker 1: the Word, the Word of God. I realized the world
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  Speaker 1: is filled with shiny moving objects, and those shiny moving
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  Speaker 1: objects have us turning every single place, but in a
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  Speaker 1: place where we can find peace, where we can find
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  Speaker 1: joy consistently, where we can find love and compassion. And
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  Speaker 1: this week, as I was in the Word, I came
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  Speaker 1: across Second Corinthians, Chapter one, verse three and four, and
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  Speaker 1: that scripture really pricked my heart. It had me think
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  Speaker 1: about my compassion. What I have left in my tank?
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  Speaker 1: How much of that compassion have I spent outside of me?
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  Speaker 1: How much of that compassion do I have left? And
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  Speaker 1: I bankrupt with compassion, and I recognize that there are
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  Speaker 1: gaps in my compassion as I look across at the world.
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  Speaker 1: And I challenge you to take a look at your
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  Speaker 1: yourself first, because it's easy to look outside of ourselves
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  Speaker 1: and start pointing fingers. But look at yourself first. Then
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  Speaker 1: look in your home space. Then take another step and
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  Speaker 1: look into your community, look into your work space, look
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  Speaker 1: into your city, your town, your township, your jurisdiction, and
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  Speaker 1: then look into the world. Look into the nation you're in,
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  Speaker 1: and you're going to see that the fabric that once
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  Speaker 1: kept us together is missing. It's a fabric of compassion.
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  Speaker 1: It's not necessarily care. Compassion is the ability to bring comfort.
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  Speaker 1: Why can we bring comfort because we've experienced a pain,
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  Speaker 1: we've experienced a heartache, we'd experienced something that hurt us,
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  Speaker 1: and we experience someone lending over paying forward with compassion.
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  Speaker 1: It is something God has done with me and with
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  Speaker 1: you and with others. And because we are in a
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  Speaker 1: space in our life, in the current state of the country,
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  Speaker 1: in the current state of your life, in the current state,
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of struggles. There's a lot of strife.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that because I'm buying into what's happening.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just looking at what's happening. I'm recognizing that there
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  Speaker 1: is that there's also joys, there's also peace. And I
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  Speaker 1: know that sounds like something that does that makes sense
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  Speaker 1: in the culture today. But if we look for whatever
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  Speaker 1: we are seeking, we will find it. And that includes peace,
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  Speaker 1: that includes love, that includes joy. You can still find
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  Speaker 1: it amidst this level of challenge. And what I want
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  Speaker 1: you to look for is compassion. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: look for it, I want you to recognize when you
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  Speaker 1: experience it, and I want you to pay it forward. Unfortunately,
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  Speaker 1: because of the divisiveness and the discord and the dysfunction
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  Speaker 1: of how we communicate and who communicates and what is
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  Speaker 1: said when we communicate, we have grown callous to compassion,
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  Speaker 1: and consequently we have become careless with compassion. And it
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  Speaker 1: is hard to watch. And I'm not gonna pretend like
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  Speaker 1: I haven't participated in careless usage of compassion or as
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  Speaker 1: a matter of fact, not using compassion because somebody had
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  Speaker 1: a different point of view than I had, that somebody
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  Speaker 1: expressed themselves differently than I would, that someone took an
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  Speaker 1: action that I would never have taken. Oftentimes easily said
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  Speaker 1: more than it is done. And I'm not making excuses
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  Speaker 1: for people who made decisions and did things the way
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  Speaker 1: they thought it was going to be right. Unfortunately, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: because we are without knowledge and we're not seeking knowledge,
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  Speaker 1: we're just seeking information. We are in an information age,
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  Speaker 1: and so many people are just simply seeking information. And
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  Speaker 1: when you seek information, you negate knowledge, you negate the
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  Speaker 1: ability to do your research and gain the understanding. And
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  Speaker 1: because you go after information, and not the knowledge, the wisdom,
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  Speaker 1: and the understanding of it. You perish. You perish with
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  Speaker 1: your decisions, You perish with the community you decide to
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  Speaker 1: be around the things that you allow to nurture, you perish.
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  Speaker 1: And because you're doing that in and around those communities,
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  Speaker 1: you lose the ability to have compassion because of your
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  Speaker 1: hurt and pain. And so when someone comes forth with
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  Speaker 1: a different point of view, be it political, religious, culturally,
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  Speaker 1: and you see them in suffering, you see them in pain,
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  Speaker 1: You see them in a place that man, had you
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  Speaker 1: done X, you wouldn't experience. Why it's hard for us,
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  Speaker 1: because we're bankrupt in compassion, to look to that person
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  Speaker 1: and offer them what we don't have. I don't think
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  Speaker 1: those of us who aren't expressing compassion don't want to.
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  Speaker 1: I think we haven't. We don't have it in us.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like someone asking you for ten dollars and
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  Speaker 1: you don't even have two. You can't offer them ten dollars.
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  Speaker 1: So when somebody is looking for compassion or is in
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  Speaker 1: need of compassion, it's hard for you to give what
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  Speaker 1: you don't even have. Why don't we have it? Because
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  Speaker 1: we're not filling up our cups? Again, we're taking in
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  Speaker 1: information that doesn't serve us. We're taking information that only
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  Speaker 1: hurts our airspace, and it hurts our hearts. And because
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  Speaker 1: there's no one there to provide us a compassion, because
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  Speaker 1: we're not letting anyone in, because we're so callous, we're
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  Speaker 1: so tough in the exterior, we won't let it come in.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like someone paying you a compliment, and you
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  Speaker 1: can't even give a thank you back, and you don't
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  Speaker 1: even believe it because you've never experienced a true compliment.
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  Speaker 1: So I challenge you today to try it on. The
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  Speaker 1: thing about compassion is, even if you don't have it,
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  Speaker 1: if you can go into practice with it, if you
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  Speaker 1: can find a space in life, in your season to
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  Speaker 1: bring it forward to someone else to exercise it. It's
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  Speaker 1: almost like a muscle. It grows with work, it grows
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  Speaker 1: with reps, it grows with consistency. You can't think about compassion.
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  Speaker 1: You can't watch someone else be compassionate. You have to
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  Speaker 1: actually go out there and do it. It is an action.
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  Speaker 1: It requires steps and movement, same as a workout. You
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  Speaker 1: can't gain the muscles and get the gains if you're
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  Speaker 1: just watching the workout. You have to go out there
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  Speaker 1: and put in the work. And I know it's hard
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  Speaker 1: because some of us haven't experienced it, but I promise
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  Speaker 1: you when you do it, what you focus on gets fixed.
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  Speaker 1: What you do can reciprocate back to you. You just
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  Speaker 1: have to make that decision, make a decision today to
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  Speaker 1: move with compassion, to choose compassion, to be compassionate. You
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  Speaker 1: deserve it, Your family and your household deserves it, Your
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  Speaker 1: community needs it, our world needs it, our nation needs it.
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  Speaker 1: But it starts with you do something that allows you
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  Speaker 1: to have compassion for yourself for others, and you can
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  Speaker 1: grow that. You can multiply that, you can build that.
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  Speaker 1: You can be careful, not care less with compassion.
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  Speaker 2: You can be caring.
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  Speaker 1: With compassion. You need it.
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  Speaker 2: Our world, our.
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  Speaker 1: Nation depends on it. And it's something we don't think
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  Speaker 1: about enough because we're so busy being busy. We're so
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  Speaker 1: busy in pain and hurt, in anguish and it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to find a compassionate bone of compassionate conversation when you
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  Speaker 1: are in that space. But you got to make that decision.
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  Speaker 1: You have to try. We have to get better at this,
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  Speaker 1: to get better at this, but it starts with us
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  Speaker 1: doing something today. Now, the next time you see someone
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  Speaker 1: on social media, you hear someone in the workplace, you
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  Speaker 1: experience something that requires compassion, offer it and you might
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  Speaker 1: not be able to offer it out loud, to post it,
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  Speaker 1: to like it. But sometimes we say things that are
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  Speaker 1: anti compassion. Well you deserve that. Well guess what that
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  Speaker 1: you know you found out, You messed around and found out.
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  Speaker 1: And I have to admit I've been there, I've done that.
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  Speaker 1: But if we keep doing that, we keep building a callus,
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  Speaker 1: We keep building the wall, and eventually it's gone and
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  Speaker 1: our humanity is at stake. We cannot afford to not
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  Speaker 1: be compassionate anymore. We cannot afford to make light of this,
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  Speaker 1: to make a jest of this. We're losing it. This
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  Speaker 1: is a plea for you to rethink how you give compassion,
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  Speaker 1: to rethink the fact that we are losing at this
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  Speaker 1: humanity because we lack compassion. We no longer care. We
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  Speaker 1: are care free and we are callous, and we are
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  Speaker 1: careless with compassion. And I'm telling you that you I
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  Speaker 1: we cannot afford it. It becomes very expensive to humanity.
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  Speaker 1: We build ourselves into debt, into millions and billions and
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  Speaker 1: trillion dollars in debt to compassion, and we cannot dig
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  Speaker 1: our way out of trillions. It's time to get back
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  Speaker 1: to humanity. It's time to express what God gave us
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  Speaker 1: in Second Corinthians, verse chapter one, verse three and four
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  Speaker 1: compassion comfort. It doesn't mean you agree with them. It
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  Speaker 1: means you can give them a gift. You can give
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  Speaker 1: them something to hold on to because you've been there,
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  Speaker 1: You've needed something to hold on to and you received it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't be a taker, be a giver and share the
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  Speaker 1: gift of compassion. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode
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