Should the Goal of Your Friendship be to “Never Rock the Boat?”

Friendship IRL: Real Talk About Friendship, Community, and What It Actually Takes · Jan 15, 2026 · 37m · transcript

Have I made it sound like it’s easy to keep friendships strong and resilient?

If so, let me set the record straight: making changes in friendships, even if they’re for the better, is HARD. A lot of the time, it involves uncomfortable conversations, confrontation, and hard feelings. It’s so tempting to push problems aside to keep relations “peaceful.”

I think there’s an expectation to put in work for romantic and familial relationships, but how much work should we be doing for friendships? At what point is it not worth the effort?

Here’s my hard truth: If you want friendships where you can…