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246. Man in the Mirror · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: If you're not growing, you're dying. I remember the first
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  Speaker 1: time I heard that statement. It was bold, it was
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  Speaker 1: in my space, it resounded in my mind, and it
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  Speaker 1: was a shock to my system. But it's a hard truth.
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  Speaker 1: This is that man in the mirror moment. This is
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  Speaker 1: one of those places where you realize that what this
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  Speaker 1: means for this to is to understand that growth isn't
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  Speaker 1: always obvious. I remember being in a position where I
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  Speaker 1: didn't realize that I wasn't growing, and I think a
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  Speaker 1: lot of you have been in positions where you're in
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  Speaker 1: a role at work, or you're walking through life and
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  Speaker 1: you feel yourself living this repetitive cycle of doing the
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  Speaker 1: same things over and over again. You know what your
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  Speaker 1: Monday through Friday is going to look like. You're almost
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  Speaker 1: living for the weekends because you're tired of the mundane.
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  Speaker 1: You're tired of knowing that you already know that this
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  Speaker 1: is how the day is going to start and end.
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  Speaker 1: And we've all been there, if you may be there
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  Speaker 1: right now, that's a hard truth. And in those moments,
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  Speaker 1: in those seasons, that's when I've really felt the pain
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  Speaker 1: or the death of my growth. And yes, growing does
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  Speaker 1: have pains. Hence growing pains. But when you're not growing,
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  Speaker 1: you don't need you feel no pain, and you go
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  Speaker 1: through the motions and you're slowly dying. And I don't
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  Speaker 1: want that for you. I want you to be intentional
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  Speaker 1: about your moments, about your days, about your life. And
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  Speaker 1: it starts with recognizing where in your life are you
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  Speaker 1: not growing? Where in your life have you not recognized
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  Speaker 1: that nothing new is coming up for you. You're still living
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  Speaker 1: in the same rut, in the same space. You're not
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  Speaker 1: challenging yourself. That was my story for a while there.
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  Speaker 1: I would say early in my career, I found myself
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  Speaker 1: just being in the room, not making my voice be heard,
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  Speaker 1: not walking away with what did I get out of this?
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  Speaker 1: Just showing up and walking away. Well, taking that approach
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  Speaker 1: to life in the early onset of my career led
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  Speaker 1: me to places where I was finding myself frustrated. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't find any fulfillment in what I was doing because
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't really actively present. And when you're not actively
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  Speaker 1: present and you're not aware of what's happening or what
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  Speaker 1: is not happening around you, that is a sign that
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  Speaker 1: is a space where no growth will happen. If you
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  Speaker 1: don't walk away from your day to day. And I
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  Speaker 1: remember this very vividly. There was no challenge. The biggest
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  Speaker 1: challenge to those days was getting through traffic to get
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  Speaker 1: to work. Once I got there, I already knew how
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  Speaker 1: the day would go. I already knew what my performance
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  Speaker 1: or my activity would be. Everything became so routine that
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  Speaker 1: nothing was significant. And I'm not saying that you have
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  Speaker 1: to create all these significant spots in your life. It
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  Speaker 1: may not just be in a work environment. It may
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  Speaker 1: be in your family environment. Are you growing in your marriage,
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  Speaker 1: in your relationships with your kids? Are you growing in
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  Speaker 1: the relationships with your friends? Are you around the same
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  Speaker 1: friend group, speaking and talking and thinking in the exact
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  Speaker 1: same way that you guys were five years ago. Have
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  Speaker 1: you put yourself in new spaces so that you can
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  Speaker 1: become more of what you want to be? You have
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  Speaker 1: to be in environments that expose you to new things.
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  Speaker 1: And so, whether it's in work, whether it's in relationships,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's in finance, whether it's in fitness, whether it's
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  Speaker 1: in your faith, are you putting yourself in position exposing
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  Speaker 1: yourself to new ideals, new ideas, new groups of people, persons, environments,
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  Speaker 1: that allow you to explore and to be challenged, and
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  Speaker 1: to do research and to study and to be genuinely interested,
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  Speaker 1: to get a new perspective, to gain a new understanding,
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  Speaker 1: to expand your horizons. It all starts with that, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I realized that I had stopped growing when to a
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  Speaker 1: certain degree I stopped caring. I didn't feel the challenge,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't feel the emotional pull that requires me to
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  Speaker 1: be present. There's a quote by Steve Jobs that says,
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  Speaker 1: stay hungry, stay foolish, And for me, what that quote
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  Speaker 1: means is, it's almost like that if you're not growing,
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  Speaker 1: you're dying. You gotta be hungry. If you're hungry, you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna go find food. If you're finding food, you're on
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  Speaker 1: the hunt. And if you're on the hunt, you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: come back with a kill, and you can use that
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  Speaker 1: kill to feed yourself and feed your family, and feed
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  Speaker 1: your community, and continue to grow the community and grow
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  Speaker 1: yourself and grow your family. Just by being hungry and
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  Speaker 1: staying foolish simply means I don't know everything yet. There's
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  Speaker 1: so much in this world, in my space, in my family,
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  Speaker 1: at my job, going to the gym, there's so much
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  Speaker 1: for me to learn, and so staying foolish means what
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  Speaker 1: else can I learn today? I learned that yesterday, But
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  Speaker 1: I'm still a fool about all the other elements of
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  Speaker 1: where I am in my life. What else can I
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  Speaker 1: go learn? What else can I explore to help expand
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  Speaker 1: my horizons? And so that's where growth really happens. It's
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  Speaker 1: that challenge, it's the discomfort. And I've said it before.
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  Speaker 1: Growth happens in environments where you are uncomfortable. If you
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  Speaker 1: find yourself in environments where you are comfortable. Again, the
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  Speaker 1: mundane worker, right, the person that goes to the gym
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  Speaker 1: and does the exact same workout. Maybe you're the person
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  Speaker 1: that just gets on the treadmill. I was that person
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  Speaker 1: at the gym. I would get to the gym. I
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  Speaker 1: paid for a membership because it's not free. The last
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  Speaker 1: I checked, last gym that was free for me was
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  Speaker 1: a school gym, and it didn't have all the equipment
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  Speaker 1: that you have, even in some of the low costumes.
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  Speaker 1: And I would go to the gym and I would
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  Speaker 1: work on the treadmill. And there's nothing wrong with working
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  Speaker 1: on the treadmill. That was my step one into the gym.
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  Speaker 1: That was me getting comfortable using the equipment. That was
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  Speaker 1: me saying I can go in here and I can walk,
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  Speaker 1: And I felt like doing anything else was a total
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  Speaker 1: embarrassment to me. And then what did I do? I
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  Speaker 1: asked a friend, a bonafide gym rat. She called herself that,
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  Speaker 1: and others did too. I asked her to show me
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  Speaker 1: some things. What do you do when you go to
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  Speaker 1: the gym? And she started showing me some things and
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  Speaker 1: introducing me to new equipment. Exposure growth happens when you're
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  Speaker 1: exposed to things you hadn't ever been exposed to. And
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  Speaker 1: in her showing me the equipment and showing me how
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  Speaker 1: to's and being present, and me being willing to try
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  Speaker 1: and being present and showing up, that's where an when
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  Speaker 1: I started experiencing growth. What happens, which is the opposite
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  Speaker 1: of growth, is stagnation. That stagnation would be me years later,
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  Speaker 1: still going to the gym simply to walk on the treadmill.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with that, But I
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  Speaker 1: think if you want to go from stagnation to growth,
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  Speaker 1: it's going to require you exposing yourself, trying new things,
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  Speaker 1: being in new environments. That's going to be the key.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you hear yourself in those scenarios.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be Jim. It can be a
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  Speaker 1: financial thing. Are you stagnated financially or are you finding
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  Speaker 1: yourself learning how to invest? Perhaps first it was all
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  Speaker 1: about paying your bills and save your money. But are
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  Speaker 1: you now working on your investment strategy? What can you
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  Speaker 1: invest in? We know that investments over time are compounding
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  Speaker 1: of interest, and that's how you can make money exponentially
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  Speaker 1: over just saving the money. So there's so many aspects
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  Speaker 1: to growing that. I know that you there is some
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  Speaker 1: area in your life where you can focus this week
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  Speaker 1: on your growth. I would say start small. I know
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  Speaker 1: you want to go. Maybe you go from saving money
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  Speaker 1: to going into the stock market. I would find something
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  Speaker 1: really small to invest in. It might simply be an idea.
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  Speaker 1: It might be an investment in learning about a strategy.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you research mutual funds, for example, which is a
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  Speaker 1: great place to park your money, invest it and kind
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  Speaker 1: of set it and forget it. Learn about that. You
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  Speaker 1: might be thinking about some type of investment strategy financially
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  Speaker 1: that goes beyond like a four to one K or
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  Speaker 1: something like that. If you haven't done that already. There
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  Speaker 1: are so many ways, as you think about your life,
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  Speaker 1: that you can invest to make your life be more enriched.
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  Speaker 1: And it's going to start with these small little things
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  Speaker 1: that you can do. Like I said, it may just
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  Speaker 1: start with researching and understanding what is a roth ira
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  Speaker 1: and what does that and what can that do for
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  Speaker 1: me as an investor or somebody who is new to investing.
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  Speaker 1: What does progress look like? Maybe it's a three month,
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  Speaker 1: six month, nine month look roadmap to what milestones you're
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  Speaker 1: hitting in that timeframe. Start somewhere, be intentional every single
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  Speaker 1: day about growing. Maybe it's reading a book, reading a chapter,
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  Speaker 1: reading a verse in a bible, a chapter in a Bible.
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  Speaker 1: It can be anything. It just allows you to plug in,
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  Speaker 1: expose yourself to something and gain some new knowledge, wisdom,
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  Speaker 1: and understanding. This is how we grow. This is how
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  Speaker 1: we get the growth that we need to become more enriched.
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  Speaker 1: And it's gonna be day by day, month by month,
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  Speaker 1: year by year until we just operate in this cycle
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  Speaker 1: of growth. We embrace the cycle of growth, and we
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  Speaker 1: live with a goal to be growing every single day.
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