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E 340: Tammy's Take #30;The 5 Reasons Your Nervous System Won't Let You Rest · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Tammi's
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  Takes,
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  our
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  turn
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  them
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  into
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  practical
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  strategies
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  that
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  today,
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  I
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  wanna
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  go
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  back
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  to
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  my
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  episode
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  yesterday,
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  where
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  we
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  talked
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  with
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  Tim
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  Thomas,
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  the
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  creator
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  of
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  the
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  Breathwork
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  in
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  Bed
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  app,
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  and
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  I
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  wanna
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  talk
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  about
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  something
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  that
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  is
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  so
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  near
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  and
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  dear
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  to
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  my
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  heart,
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  and
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  that
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  is
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  sleep.
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  Because
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  something
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  stuck
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  with
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  me,
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  and
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  we
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  talked
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  a
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  lot
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  about
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  different
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  things.
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  Not
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  only
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  is
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  it
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  an
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  amazing
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  episode,
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  but
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  he
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  also
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  gives
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  28
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  days
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  free
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  of
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  his
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  app,
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  Breathwork
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  in
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  Bed,
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  to
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  get
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  back
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  into
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  the
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  habit
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  of
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  learning
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  how
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  to
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  put
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  yourself
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  back
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  to
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  sleep
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  and
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  having
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  a
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  restful
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  night
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  of
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  sleep
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  in
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  general.
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  So
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  just
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  for
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  that
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  reason
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  alone,
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  it
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  would
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  be
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  worth
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  it
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  to
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  jump
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  back
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  one
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  episode
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  and
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  listen
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  to
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  it.
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  Something
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  we
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  talked
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  about,
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  and
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  something
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  that
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  I've
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  been
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  talking
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  to
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  my
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  clients
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  a
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  lot
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  about
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  lately,
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  is
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  the
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  fact
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  that
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  people
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  think
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  they
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  have
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  a
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  sleep
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  problem.
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  I
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  don't
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  think
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  the
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  problem
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  is
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  actually
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  about
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  sleep.
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  I
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  think
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  that
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  the
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  problem
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  is
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  that
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  they
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  have
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  a
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  nervous
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  system
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  problem
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  that's
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  showing
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  up
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  at
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  bedtime,
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  because
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  here's
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  what
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  happens.
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  The
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  truth
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  is,
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  your
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  body
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  doesn't
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  care
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  what
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  time
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  it
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  is.
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  It
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  cares
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  whether
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  or
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  not
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  it
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  feels
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  safe.
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  So
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  if
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  believes
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  you're
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  in
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  danger,
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  even
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  subconsciously,
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  even
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  at
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  night,
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  it
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  doesn't
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  matter
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  when,
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  it
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  doesn't
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  want
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  you
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  sleeping
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  deeply.
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  Think
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  about
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  that
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  for
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  a
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  minute.
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  It
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  wants
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  you
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  ready.
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  It
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  wants
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  you
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  on
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  high
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  alert.
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  It
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  wants
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  you
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  ready
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  to
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  protect
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  yourself,
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  ready
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  to
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  fight,
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  flight,
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  flee,
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  And
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  if
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  you
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  grew
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  up
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  in
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  dysfunction,
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  which
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  many,
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  many,
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  many
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  of
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  you
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  did,
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  and
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  you
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  grew
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  up
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  walking
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  on
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  eggshells,
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  You
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  understand
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  that
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  you
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  had
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  to
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  stay
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  ready
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  and
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  braced
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  and
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  ready
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  to
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  go.
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  So
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  becomes
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  so
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  good
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  at
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  one
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  thing,
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  and
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  that
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  is
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  staying
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  alert.
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  The
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  problem
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  is,
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  nobody
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  ever
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  taught
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  how
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  to
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  stop
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  that.
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  So
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  today,
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  what
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  I
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  wanna
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  do
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  is
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  I
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  wanna
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  talk
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  about
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  five
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  signs
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  that
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  it's
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  your
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  nervous
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  system
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  and
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  not
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  your
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  mattress
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  that's
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  keeping
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  you
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  awake
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  at
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  night.
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  So
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  number
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  one,
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  you
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  feel
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  exhausted
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  all
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  day,
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  but
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  suddenly
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  you
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  are
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  wide
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  awake
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  when
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  your
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  head
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  hits
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  the
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  pillow.
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  It's
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  not
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  laziness.
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  It's
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  hypervigilance.
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  When
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  the
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  distractions
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  of
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  the
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  day
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  finally
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  stop,
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  that's
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  when
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  your
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  brain
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  starts
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  scanning,
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  and
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  it
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  is
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  used
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  to
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  scanning
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  for
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  dangerous
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  things.
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  It's
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  when
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  you
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  start
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  thinking,
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  it's
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  when
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  you
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  start
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  planning,
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  it's
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  when
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  you
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  start
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  protecting.
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  So
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  you
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  might
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  lay
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  down
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  completely
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  and
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  totally
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  exhausted,
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  but
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  all
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  of
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  a
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  sudden
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  your
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  head
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  hits
• 2:17
  the
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  pillow,
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  and
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  you're
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  wide
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  awake,
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  and
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  your
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  mind
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  is
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  racing.
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  Number
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  two,
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  you
• 2:22
  wake
• 2:22
  up
• 2:22
  between
• 2:22
  2:00
• 2:22
  and
• 2:22
  4:00
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  in
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  the
• 2:23
  morning.
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  This
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  is
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  a
• 2:24
  big
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  one.
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  Now,
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  you've
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  heard
• 2:26
  me
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  also
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  with
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  the
• 2:27
  health
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  aspect
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  and
• 2:28
  the
• 2:28
  physiological
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  aspect
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  of
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  why
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  we
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  do
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  this,
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  explain
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  a
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  couple
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  different
• 2:32
  things.
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  One
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  is
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  that
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  it's
• 2:34
  a
• 2:34
  natural
• 2:34
  cortisol
• 2:35
  spike
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  at
• 2:36
  that
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  time
• 2:36
  of
• 2:36
  the
• 2:36
  night.
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  So
• 2:37
  if
• 2:37
  your
• 2:37
  cortisol
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  spikes,
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  and
• 2:38
  you
• 2:38
  wake
• 2:39
  up,
• 2:39
  and
• 2:39
  you're
• 2:39
  anxious
• 2:40
  anyway,
• 2:40
  and
• 2:40
  you're
• 2:40
  on
• 2:41
  high
• 2:41
  alert
• 2:41
  anyway,
• 2:42
  your
• 2:42
  mind
• 2:42
  is
• 2:42
  going
• 2:43
  to
• 2:43
  start
• 2:43
  racing,
• 2:43
  and
• 2:44
  you
• 2:44
  start
• 2:44
  that
• 2:44
  spiral.
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  That's
• 2:45
  one
• 2:45
  thing.
• 2:46
  The
• 2:46
  other
• 2:46
  thing
• 2:47
  is
• 2:47
  a
• 2:47
  blood
• 2:47
  sugar
• 2:47
  drop.
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  So
• 2:48
  our
• 2:48
  bodies
• 2:49
  do
• 2:49
  different
• 2:49
  things
• 2:50
  at
• 2:50
  different
• 2:50
  times
• 2:50
  of
• 2:50
  the
• 2:51
  day,
• 2:51
  different
• 2:51
  times
• 2:51
  of
• 2:51
  the
• 2:52
  evening.
• 2:52
  A
• 2:52
  lot
• 2:53
  of
• 2:53
  times
• 2:53
  when
• 2:53
  we
• 2:53
  go
• 2:54
  to
• 2:54
  bed,
• 2:54
  we've
• 2:54
  now
• 2:55
  hit
• 2:55
  that
• 2:55
  four
• 2:56
  to
• 2:56
  six
• 2:56
  hours
• 2:57
  of
• 2:57
  of
• 2:57
  not
• 2:58
  having
• 2:58
  eaten,
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  and
• 2:59
  in
• 2:59
  that
• 2:59
  you
• 2:59
  get
• 3:00
  a
• 3:00
  blood
• 3:00
  sugar
• 3:00
  drop.
• 3:02
  When
• 3:02
  you
• 3:02
  get
• 3:02
  that
• 3:03
  blood
• 3:03
  sugar
• 3:03
  drop,
• 3:03
  a
• 3:03
  lot
• 3:04
  of
• 3:04
  times
• 3:04
  that
• 3:04
  will
• 3:04
  wake
• 3:04
  you
• 3:05
  up,
• 3:05
  and
• 3:05
  you
• 3:05
  feel
• 3:05
  panicky,
• 3:06
  a
• 3:06
  little
• 3:06
  shaky.
• 3:07
  We
• 3:07
  can
• 3:07
  talk
• 3:07
  more
• 3:07
  about
• 3:08
  that,
• 3:08
  and
• 3:08
  please
• 3:09
  hit
• 3:09
  me
• 3:09
  up,
• 3:09
  ask
• 3:09
  some
• 3:09
  questions
• 3:10
  about
• 3:10
  how
• 3:10
  to
• 3:10
  help
• 3:11
  that.
• 3:11
  one
• 3:11
  of
• 3:12
  the
• 3:12
  biggest
• 3:12
  things
• 3:12
  you
• 3:13
  can
• 3:13
  do
• 3:13
  is
• 3:13
  have
• 3:13
  protein
• 3:14
  before
• 3:14
  bedtime,
• 3:15
  a
• 3:15
  little
• 3:15
  bit
• 3:15
  of
• 3:15
  natural
• 3:15
  peanut
• 3:16
  butter
• 3:16
  or
• 3:16
  a
• 3:16
  hard-boiled
• 3:17
  egg
• 3:17
  or
• 3:17
  something,
• 3:19
  some
• 3:19
  little
• 3:19
  snack
• 3:20
  at
• 3:20
  night,
• 3:20
  some
• 3:20
  nuts,
• 3:21
  something
• 3:22
  that
• 3:22
  will
• 3:23
  give
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  some
• 3:23
  protein
• 3:24
  and
• 3:24
  stabilize
• 3:25
  that
• 3:25
  blood
• 3:25
  sugar
• 3:25
  drop
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  little
• 3:26
  bit
• 3:26
  so
• 3:26
  it's
• 3:27
  not
• 3:27
  so
• 3:27
  drastic
• 3:27
  in
• 3:27
  the
• 3:27
  middle
• 3:28
  of
• 3:28
  the
• 3:28
  night.
• 3:28
  But
• 3:29
  what
• 3:29
  I
• 3:29
  wanna
• 3:29
  talk
• 3:29
  about
• 3:31
  is
• 3:31
  the
• 3:31
  waking
• 3:32
  up
• 3:32
  at
• 3:32
  2:00
• 3:32
  and
• 3:32
  4:00
• 3:33
  in
• 3:33
  the
• 3:33
  morning
• 3:33
  where
• 3:33
  you
• 3:34
  feel
• 3:34
  like
• 3:34
  your
• 3:34
  heart
• 3:35
  is
• 3:35
  racing,
• 3:36
  and
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  don't
• 3:38
  believe
• 3:39
  it's
• 3:39
  actually
• 3:39
  your
• 3:39
  heart
• 3:39
  racing.
• 3:40
  I
• 3:41
  believe
• 3:41
  it's
• 3:41
  your
• 3:41
  mind
• 3:41
  racing
• 3:42
  because
• 3:42
  your
• 3:43
  body
• 3:43
  is
• 3:44
  waking
• 3:44
  up
• 3:45
  shocked,
• 3:46
  hypervigilant,
• 3:46
  ready
• 3:47
  to
• 3:47
  go,
• 3:48
  what
• 3:48
  it's
• 3:48
  saying
• 3:48
  is,
• 3:49
  "Am
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  finally
• 3:50
  safe
• 3:50
  enough
• 3:51
  to
• 3:51
  relax?"
• 3:52
  And
• 3:52
  if
• 3:52
  you
• 3:54
  are
• 3:54
  not
• 3:54
  feeling
• 3:55
  safe
• 3:55
  enough
• 3:55
  in
• 3:55
  your
• 3:56
  nervous
• 3:56
  system
• 3:56
  and
• 3:56
  in
• 3:57
  every
• 3:57
  single
• 3:57
  cell
• 3:58
  in
• 3:58
  your
• 3:58
  body,
• 3:59
  you're
• 3:59
  going
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  wake
• 4:00
  back
• 4:00
  up.
• 4:01
  Number
• 4:01
  three,
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  sleep,
• 4:04
  but
• 4:04
  you
• 4:04
  never
• 4:05
  feel
• 4:05
  rested.
• 4:06
  Eight
• 4:06
  hours,
• 4:06
  nine
• 4:07
  hours,
• 4:07
  10
• 4:07
  hours,
• 4:07
  it
• 4:07
  doesn't
• 4:08
  matter
• 4:08
  because
• 4:09
  deep
• 4:09
  restorative
• 4:10
  sleep
• 4:10
  happens
• 4:11
  when
• 4:11
  your
• 4:11
  nervous
• 4:11
  system
• 4:11
  feels
• 4:12
  safe
• 4:12
  enough
• 4:13
  to
• 4:13
  let
• 4:13
  go.
• 4:15
  It
• 4:15
  needs
• 4:16
  to
• 4:16
  stop
• 4:16
  guarding.
• 4:17
  It
• 4:17
  needs
• 4:17
  to
• 4:18
  stop
• 4:19
  bracing,
• 4:20
  because
• 4:20
  that
• 4:20
  is
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  only
• 4:21
  time
• 4:21
  then
• 4:21
  your
• 4:22
  body
• 4:22
  can
• 4:22
  actually
• 4:23
  do
• 4:23
  what
• 4:23
  it's
• 4:23
  meant
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  do
• 4:23
  in
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  middle
• 4:24
  of
• 4:24
  the
• 4:24
  night,
• 4:24
  which
• 4:24
  is
• 4:25
  rest
• 4:25
  and
• 4:25
  digest,
• 4:26
  and
• 4:26
  restore
• 4:27
  and
• 4:27
  regenerate
• 4:28
  and
• 4:28
  heal.
• 4:28
  Those
• 4:29
  are
• 4:29
  the
• 4:29
  things
• 4:29
  you're
• 4:29
  supposed
• 4:30
  to
• 4:30
  be
• 4:30
  doing
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  the
• 4:30
  middle
• 4:30
  of
• 4:30
  the
• 4:31
  night.
• 4:32
  But
• 4:33
  if
• 4:34
  your
• 4:34
  nervous
• 4:34
  system
• 4:34
  is
• 4:35
  always
• 4:35
  on
• 4:35
  guard,
• 4:36
  you
• 4:36
  are
• 4:36
  literally
• 4:37
  doing
• 4:37
  things
• 4:38
  in
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  middle
• 4:38
  of
• 4:38
  the
• 4:38
  night
• 4:38
  that
• 4:38
  your
• 4:39
  body
• 4:39
  should
• 4:39
  not
• 4:39
  be
• 4:39
  doing.
• 4:40
  It's
• 4:40
  pumping
• 4:40
  out
• 4:40
  cortisol,
• 4:41
  it's
• 4:41
  pumping
• 4:41
  out
• 4:41
  adrenaline,
• 4:42
  it's
• 4:43
  braced,
• 4:43
  and
• 4:43
  it's
• 4:44
  not
• 4:44
  healing
• 4:44
  your
• 4:44
  body.
• 4:45
  Number
• 4:45
  four,
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  wake
• 4:46
  up
• 4:46
  anxious.
• 4:47
  So
• 4:47
  how
• 4:48
  many
• 4:48
  of
• 4:48
  you,
• 4:48
  and
• 4:49
  please
• 4:49
  tell
• 4:49
  me,
• 4:50
  put
• 4:50
  in
• 4:50
  the
• 4:50
  comments
• 4:50
  or
• 4:51
  reach
• 4:51
  out
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  me
• 4:52
  if
• 4:52
  this
• 4:52
  happens
• 4:52
  to
• 4:53
  you.
• 4:54
  Before
• 4:54
  anything
• 4:55
  ever
• 4:55
  happens,
• 4:56
  before
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  do
• 4:57
  anything,
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  minute
• 4:58
  you
• 4:59
  open
• 4:59
  your
• 4:59
  eyes,
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  feel
• 5:00
  something's
• 5:01
  wrong.
• 5:01
  You
• 5:02
  feel
• 5:02
  anxious.
• 5:03
  But
• 5:03
  really,
• 5:03
  if
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  think
• 5:04
  about
• 5:04
  it,
• 5:04
  nothing's
• 5:05
  wrong.
• 5:05
  There's
• 5:05
  no
• 5:05
  emergency,
• 5:06
  there's
• 5:06
  no
• 5:06
  crises,
• 5:07
  nothing
• 5:07
  bad
• 5:08
  is
• 5:08
  about
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  happen,
• 5:09
  but
• 5:09
  your
• 5:09
  body
• 5:10
  wakes
• 5:10
  up
• 5:11
  already
• 5:11
  feeling
• 5:12
  like
• 5:12
  the
• 5:12
  day
• 5:13
  is
• 5:13
  going
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  be
• 5:13
  hard
• 5:15
  Guys,
• 5:15
  this
• 5:16
  is
• 5:16
  not
• 5:17
  your
• 5:17
  fault,
• 5:18
  and
• 5:18
  it's
• 5:18
  not
• 5:19
  a
• 5:19
  personality
• 5:19
  flaw.
• 5:20
  What
• 5:20
  it
• 5:20
  is,
• 5:21
  it's
• 5:21
  your
• 5:21
  body
• 5:22
  still
• 5:22
  in
• 5:23
  survival.
• 5:23
  It's
• 5:24
  in
• 5:24
  survival
• 5:24
  wiring,
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  want
• 5:25
  you
• 5:25
  to
• 5:25
  do
• 5:26
  something
• 5:26
  for
• 5:26
  me
• 5:27
  tomorrow
• 5:27
  morning
• 5:27
  when
• 5:27
  you
• 5:28
  wake
• 5:28
  up.
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  want
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  to
• 5:29
  wake
• 5:29
  up
• 5:29
  in
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  morning,
• 5:30
  and
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  first
• 5:30
  thing
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  want
• 5:31
  you
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  do
• 5:31
  is
• 5:31
  scan
• 5:32
  your
• 5:32
  body
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  tell
• 5:33
  me
• 5:33
  if
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  feel
• 5:34
  tension
• 5:34
  somewhere,
• 5:35
  in
• 5:35
  your
• 5:35
  neck,
• 5:36
  in
• 5:36
  your
• 5:36
  head,
• 5:36
  in
• 5:37
  your
• 5:37
  jaw,
• 5:37
  in
• 5:37
  your
• 5:37
  stomach,
• 5:38
  an
• 5:38
  uneasy
• 5:39
  feeling.
• 5:40
  If
• 5:40
  you
• 5:41
  do,
• 5:42
  that
• 5:42
  is
• 5:42
  survival
• 5:43
  wiring,
• 5:43
  and
• 5:43
  we
• 5:44
  can
• 5:44
  work
• 5:44
  through
• 5:44
  that
• 5:44
  together.
• 5:45
  So
• 5:45
  number
• 5:46
  five,
• 5:47
  you
• 5:47
  don't
• 5:47
  know
• 5:47
  how
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  relax
• 5:48
  without
• 5:49
  feeling
• 5:49
  guilty,
• 5:50
  and
• 5:50
  this
• 5:50
  is
• 5:50
  a
• 5:50
  big
• 5:50
  one.
• 5:51
  This
• 5:51
  hits
• 5:52
  so
• 5:52
  many
• 5:52
  people
• 5:53
  that
• 5:53
  grew
• 5:53
  up
• 5:53
  in
• 5:53
  those
• 5:53
  dysfunctional
• 5:54
  households.
• 5:55
  When
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  finally
• 5:56
  sit
• 5:56
  down,
• 5:56
  slow
• 5:57
  down,
• 5:57
  lay
• 5:57
  down,
• 5:58
  whatever
• 5:58
  it
• 5:58
  is,
• 5:59
  your
• 5:59
  brain
• 6:00
  says,
• 6:00
  "I
• 6:00
  should
• 6:01
  be
• 6:01
  doing
• 6:01
  something."
• 6:02
  So
• 6:02
  what
• 6:02
  happens?
• 6:03
  You
• 6:03
  feel
• 6:03
  guilty
• 6:03
  about
• 6:04
  resting.
• 6:04
  You
• 6:04
  feel
• 6:04
  guilty
• 6:05
  about
• 6:05
  taking
• 6:05
  care
• 6:06
  of
• 6:06
  yourself.
• 6:07
  It's
• 6:07
  almost
• 6:07
  uncomfortable
• 6:08
  really
• 6:09
  because
• 6:09
  somewhere
• 6:09
  along
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  way,
• 6:11
  productivity
• 6:12
  became
• 6:12
  your
• 6:12
  safety,
• 6:13
  and
• 6:13
  stillness,
• 6:13
  it
• 6:13
  still
• 6:16
  feels
• 6:16
  kinda
• 6:16
  unfamiliar,
• 6:17
  and
• 6:17
  it
• 6:17
  feels
• 6:18
  uneasy.
• 6:19
  So
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  lay
• 6:20
  down
• 6:20
  at
• 6:20
  night,
• 6:21
  and
• 6:21
  your
• 6:22
  mind
• 6:22
  starts
• 6:22
  going.
• 6:22
  You
• 6:23
  start
• 6:23
  thinking
• 6:23
  about
• 6:24
  1,000
• 6:24
  things
• 6:25
  you
• 6:25
  should
• 6:25
  be
• 6:26
  doing
• 6:26
  or
• 6:26
  could
• 6:26
  be
• 6:26
  doing,
• 6:27
  and.
• 6:27
  We're
• 6:27
  not
• 6:27
  gonna
• 6:28
  should've
• 6:28
  on
• 6:28
  ourselves,
• 6:29
  as
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  like
• 6:29
  to
• 6:29
  say.
• 6:30
  So
• 6:31
  what
• 6:32
  do
• 6:32
  we
• 6:32
  like
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  do?
• 6:33
  This
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  where
• 6:33
  I
• 6:34
  absolutely
• 6:34
  love
• 6:35
  Tim's
• 6:35
  message.
• 6:35
  He
• 6:36
  reminded
• 6:36
  us
• 6:36
  that
• 6:37
  one
• 6:37
  of
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  most
• 6:37
  powerful
• 6:38
  tools
• 6:38
  that
• 6:39
  we
• 6:39
  have
• 6:39
  with
• 6:39
  us
• 6:40
  is
• 6:40
  with
• 6:40
  us
• 6:41
  every
• 6:41
  single
• 6:42
  moment,
• 6:42
  and
• 6:42
  that
• 6:43
  is
• 6:43
  our
• 6:43
  breath.
• 6:44
  Because
• 6:44
  breath
• 6:44
  isn't
• 6:45
  just
• 6:45
  about
• 6:45
  oxygen.
• 6:46
  It's
• 6:46
  about
• 6:47
  communication.
• 6:48
  Every
• 6:49
  single
• 6:49
  breath
• 6:50
  is
• 6:50
  telling
• 6:50
  your
• 6:50
  nervous
• 6:51
  system
• 6:51
  something.
• 6:53
  When
• 6:53
  you
• 6:53
  breathe
• 6:54
  fast
• 6:54
  and
• 6:55
  quick,
• 6:55
  it's
• 6:55
  telling
• 6:55
  your
• 6:56
  nervous
• 6:56
  system,
• 6:56
  "We're
• 6:56
  not
• 6:56
  safe.
• 6:57
  we're
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  okay."
• 6:58
  But
• 6:58
  when
• 6:59
  you
• 6:59
  take
• 6:59
  a
• 6:59
  deep
• 6:59
  breath
• 7:00
  and
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  breathe
• 7:01
  in
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  you
• 7:02
  expand
• 7:03
  that
• 7:03
  belly
• 7:04
  and
• 7:04
  calm
• 7:05
  yourself,
• 7:06
  you're
• 7:06
  telling
• 7:07
  your
• 7:07
  nervous
• 7:07
  system,
• 7:07
  "We're
• 7:07
  okay.
• 7:08
  We
• 7:08
  made
• 7:09
  it.
• 7:09
  We're
• 7:09
  safe."
• 7:10
  Those
• 7:10
  are
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  things
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  wanna
• 7:11
  be
• 7:11
  telling
• 7:12
  your
• 7:12
  nervous
• 7:12
  system
• 7:12
  because
• 7:12
  over
• 7:13
  time,
• 7:14
  your
• 7:14
  body
• 7:15
  begins
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  believe
• 7:16
  that
• 7:16
  story.
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  always
• 7:17
  tell
• 7:17
  my
• 7:17
  clients,
• 7:18
  Healing
• 7:18
  is
• 7:18
  not
• 7:19
  about
• 7:19
  convincing
• 7:19
  your
• 7:20
  mind.
• 7:20
  Healing
• 7:21
  is
• 7:21
  about
• 7:21
  reassuring
• 7:22
  your
• 7:22
  body."
• 7:23
  Your
• 7:23
  body
• 7:24
  has
• 7:24
  been
• 7:24
  protecting
• 7:25
  you
• 7:25
  for
• 7:25
  so
• 7:26
  many
• 7:26
  years,
• 7:26
  sometimes
• 7:27
  even
• 7:27
  decades.
• 7:28
  So
• 7:29
  instead
• 7:29
  of
• 7:29
  getting
• 7:29
  frustrated
• 7:30
  with
• 7:30
  it,
• 7:31
  what
• 7:31
  if
• 7:31
  you
• 7:32
  thanked
• 7:32
  it?
• 7:33
  instead
• 7:34
  of
• 7:34
  saying,
• 7:34
  "Why
• 7:34
  can't
• 7:35
  I
• 7:35
  sleep?"
• 7:35
  And
• 7:35
  getting
• 7:35
  angry,
• 7:36
  you
• 7:36
  ask
• 7:36
  yourself,
• 7:37
  "What
• 7:37
  does
• 7:38
  my
• 7:38
  nervous
• 7:38
  system
• 7:38
  need
• 7:39
  from
• 7:39
  me
• 7:39
  tonight?"
• 7:40
  That
• 7:41
  question,
• 7:41
  that
• 7:41
  one
• 7:42
  little
• 7:42
  question
• 7:42
  changes
• 7:43
  everything,
• 7:44
  because
• 7:44
  your
• 7:44
  body
• 7:45
  isn't
• 7:45
  working
• 7:46
  against
• 7:46
  you,
• 7:46
  it's
• 7:47
  working
• 7:47
  for
• 7:47
  you,
• 7:48
  but
• 7:48
  it's
• 7:48
  working
• 7:49
  only
• 7:50
  with
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  strategies
• 7:51
  it
• 7:51
  learned.
• 7:52
  So
• 7:52
  we
• 7:52
  have
• 7:52
  to
• 7:52
  unlearn
• 7:53
  these,
• 7:54
  and
• 7:54
  the
• 7:54
  beautiful
• 7:55
  part
• 7:55
  is
• 7:55
  we
• 7:55
  can.
• 7:56
  It
• 7:56
  can
• 7:56
  learn
• 7:56
  new
• 7:57
  strategies,
• 7:57
  it
• 7:57
  can
• 7:57
  learn
• 7:58
  new
• 7:58
  habits,
• 7:58
  it
• 7:58
  can
• 7:59
  learn
• 7:59
  new
• 8:00
  ways
• 8:00
  of
• 8:00
  calming
• 8:01
  itself
• 8:01
  down.
• 8:02
  So
• 8:03
  if
• 8:03
  today's
• 8:03
  episode
• 8:04
  resonated
• 8:04
  with
• 8:05
  you,
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  have
• 8:05
  two
• 8:05
  invitations
• 8:06
  today.
• 8:06
  First,
• 8:07
  go
• 8:08
  listen
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  the
• 8:08
  full
• 8:08
  conversation
• 8:09
  with
• 8:09
  Tim
• 8:09
  Thomas
• 8:11
  on
• 8:11
  yesterday's
• 8:12
  episode.
• 8:13
  Go
• 8:14
  grab
• 8:14
  the
• 8:14
  28
• 8:15
  days
• 8:15
  of
• 8:15
  the
• 8:16
  free
• 8:16
  app
• 8:16
  called
• 8:17
  Breathwork
• 8:17
  In
• 8:18
  Bed.
• 8:18
  I've
• 8:18
  been
• 8:18
  doing
• 8:19
  it.
• 8:19
  It
• 8:19
  is
• 8:19
  absolutely
• 8:20
  amazing.
• 8:21
  I
• 8:21
  love
• 8:21
  it.
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  suggest
• 8:23
  it
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  anybody,
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  can
• 8:24
  get
• 8:24
  a
• 8:24
  full
• 8:24
  28
• 8:25
  free
• 8:25
  days.
• 8:26
  And
• 8:26
  then
• 8:26
  second,
• 8:27
  if
• 8:27
  you're
• 8:27
  realizing
• 8:28
  that
• 8:28
  your
• 8:28
  sleep
• 8:28
  struggles,
• 8:29
  your
• 8:29
  anxiety,
• 8:29
  your
• 8:30
  emotional
• 8:30
  highs
• 8:31
  and
• 8:31
  lows,
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  constant
• 8:32
  feeling
• 8:33
  of
• 8:33
  just
• 8:33
  being
• 8:34
  on,
• 8:35
  anxious,
• 8:36
  irritable,
• 8:38
  might
• 8:38
  actually
• 8:38
  be
• 8:38
  rooted
• 8:39
  in
• 8:39
  nervous
• 8:39
  system
• 8:40
  dysregulation,
• 8:41
  I
• 8:41
  would
• 8:41
  love
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  help
• 8:42
  you.
• 8:42
  I
• 8:43
  offer
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  free
• 8:43
  clarity
• 8:44
  and
• 8:44
  calm
• 8:44
  call,
• 8:45
  where
• 8:46
  what
• 8:46
  we
• 8:46
  do
• 8:46
  is
• 8:46
  we
• 8:47
  explore
• 8:47
  those
• 8:47
  patterns.
• 8:48
  and
• 8:48
  we
• 8:48
  create
• 8:49
  a
• 8:49
  personalized
• 8:50
  path
• 8:50
  towards
• 8:51
  feeling
• 8:51
  calmer,
• 8:52
  sleeping
• 8:53
  better,
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  trusting
• 8:54
  yourself
• 8:54
  again.
• 8:55
  So
• 8:55
  please,
• 8:55
  if
• 8:56
  you're
• 8:56
  feeling
• 8:56
  any
• 8:56
  of
• 8:56
  these
• 8:57
  things
• 8:57
  or
• 8:57
  this
• 8:57
  resonated
• 8:58
  with
• 8:58
  you,
• 8:58
  book
• 8:59
  your
• 8:59
  free
• 8:59
  call
• 8:59
  using
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  link
• 9:00
  in
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  show
• 9:01
  notes,
• 9:01
  and
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  would
• 9:01
  love
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  help
• 9:02
  you
• 9:02
  out.
• 9:03
  So
• 9:03
  remember,
• 9:04
  your
• 9:04
  body
• 9:04
  isn't
• 9:04
  broken,
• 9:05
  it's
• 9:06
  just
• 9:06
  protecting
• 9:06
  you.
• 9:07
  Now
• 9:07
  it's
• 9:08
  time
• 9:08
  to
• 9:08
  teach
• 9:08
  it
• 9:09
  that
• 9:09
  it's
• 9:09
  finally
• 9:10
  safe
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  rest.
• 9:11
  So
• 9:11
  until
• 9:11
  next
• 9:12
  time,
• 9:12
  be
• 9:12
  kind
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  yourself
• 9:13
  and
• 9:13
  know
• 9:14
  that
• 9:14
  your
• 9:14
  healing
• 9:15
  is
• 9:15
  worth
• 9:15
  it
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  are
• 9:17
  worth
• 9:17
  it.
• 9:17
  So
• 9:17
  please,
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  love
• 9:18
  you
• 9:18
  guys
• 9:19
  and
• 9:19
  I
• 9:19
  will
• 9:19
  see
• 9:19
  you
• 9:19
  back
• 9:19
  next
• 9:20
  week.
• 9:20
  Please
• 9:20
  reach
• 9:20
  out
• 9:21
  if
• 9:21
  you
• 9:21
  have
• 9:21
  any
• 9:21
  questions.
• 9:22
  Have
• 9:22
  a
• 9:23
  blessed
• 9:23
  day.