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Deactivating the Landmines of Emotional Triggers · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  created for a client that would, I quite often feel triggered.
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  And what was really fascinating about this particular client is
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  that they use the word that the people around them were always
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  provoking them, that they were making them feel a certain way.
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  And when I delved into that, they did acknowledge that.
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  They probably weren't. Doing it intentionally.
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  And my definition of provocation is that intent is required that
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  someone can't unintendingly or unintentionally provoke you.
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  It requires intention to be provocative to be the act of
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  provoking. So what they acknowledged is
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  that it's probably that they have triggers and people are
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  accidentally triggering them and they're interpreting,
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  interpreting that as provocation.
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  Now, if someone is actually provoking you to feel a certain
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  way, and some people do do that, you know, they know your buttons
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  to push. They are absolutely trying to
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  make you feel a certain way, that it's quite easy to feel
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  annoyed by that, frustrated by that, disrespected by that.
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  But if people are doing it accidentally, then it becomes
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  more about you than it does about them.
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  And an analogy, A metaphor popped into my head while I was
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  working with this client. And it's this idea of landmines.
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  If you think of landmines, these horrible military tools that,
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  you know, kind of put in the earth.
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  And if someone treads on them, they blow up and could often
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  kill or maim whoever lands on them.
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  The reason they're such cruel military weapons is because they
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  don't know who is going to land on them.
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  It could be the enemy. It could be someone entirely
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  innocent. There is a a gap of time between
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  deploying the landmine and when it goes off, if it ever goes
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  off. And this client clearly had lots
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  of emotional triggers created in childhood.
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  And it seemed like certain people looking at them, touching
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  them, saying something in a certain way would make them feel
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  angry or annoyed or, you know, kind of defiant.
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  And all of these things would have been completely relevant
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  for the actual time that these triggers were created.
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  But decades have passed and they're still being triggered by
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  these same things. So there's a metaphor here about
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  deactivating the emotional land mines.
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  And it works as a metaphor because that's exactly how it
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  was being experienced with the client that I was working with.
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  And it's highly likely that there's a few land mines that
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  you have that people will give you a look or say something in a
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  certain way and it has nothing about them and everything about
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  something that happened in your past.
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  And that triggers an emotion that could have been very useful
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  or appropriate in the original time, but not so appropriate
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  now, if that makes sense. This is a, a way of
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  metaphorically deactivating them.
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  Or if they do go off, and sometimes they will, figuring
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  out what you would have done or could have done differently if
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  the exact same thing would have happened by the other person,
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  but you did something different. And then that becomes a learning
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  tool. To then.
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  Deactivate that emotional landmine so it doesn't go off at
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  any point in the future. So I think this is very powerful
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  for anyone that gets regularly triggered or infrequently
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  triggered, but when you do it kind of causes problems.
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  Then I think you'll benefit from this.
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  It was created for an individual.
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  Some of the references aren't going to make sense for you, but
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  if you do like the idea of. A customized, bespoke.
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  Session, then check out the link in the show notes or check out
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  my website adamcox.co.uk. Book a free consultation call on
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  Zoom. We'll have a chat and maybe we
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  end up working together, you know, over Zoom or even in face
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  to face. So rather than just hearing my
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  stuff on a podcast, you're actually working with me direct,
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  and that will give you a different experience than what
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  you're hearing on the podcast. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in a feeling of quiet, calm and
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  confidence. And as you exhale, just allow
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  your eyelids to close and as they close, allow yourself to
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  position your body in a way that you can feel comfortable and
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  access the deepest levels of relaxation.
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  Breathing in and resourceful relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, allow yourself to release any stored
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  up feelings of frustration, any tension.
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  I want you to get a sense then sometimes it's natural for
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  things to accumulate. I want you to get a sense that
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  in nature, that's what happens. Small things build on small
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  things, and eventually those small things become big things.
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  Sometimes even islands are created through a process of
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  gradual accumulation, and that's good.
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  If what you're. Accumulating is wisdom and
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  gratitude. Some people say it's good to
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  count your blessings, but some people count their grudges.
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  And where focus goes, energy flows.
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  I want you to allow yourself the possibility of letting go of all
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  of that past baggage. Then it's just holding you back.
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  Holding you back from a wonderful future.
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  And what if part of that wonderful future is to
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  deactivate certain triggers, then put you in a state which
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  you would never voluntarily choose to feel, but have been
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  feeling anyway? I want you to imagine yourself
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  in a peaceful place, maybe a garden, a Meadow or a beach.
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  Imagine. Breathing in and breathing out.
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  Feeling deeper and deeper, relaxed breathing in relaxation.
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  Exhaling tension. And as your body.
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  Begins to relax. And as your breath becomes
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  slower and deeper, allow yourself to settle into the
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  safety of this moment. A moment when nothing is
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  expected of you. Nothing to prove, just a quiet
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  return to the truth that has always lived beneath the
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  surface. And there's a part of you that
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  knows what it's like to feel on edge, to feel a sudden surge or
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  explosion of emotion. And someone says or does
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  something, and it's like something ancient gets awakened
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  inside you. Like stepping on a landmine that
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  was buried long ago. But what if you didn't bury it
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  there? Someone else did?
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  A moment of abuse, shame, rejection.
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  Maybe it was pain passed down from one generation to another
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  and you don't know when things were passed down from the next
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  generation up. Doesn't take something big
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  sometimes to create. This trigger could have been a
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  moment where you were made to feel small, unseen, or unworthy.
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  And these moments, these land mines, they weren't your fault.
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  But now I want you to imagine something powerful is happening.
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  You're becoming the one with the tools, the training, and the
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  wisdom to deactivate them. What if you no longer need?
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  To explode. You no longer need to react
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  because now each trigger becomes a message, a map, a gift.
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  Not a threat, but an opportunity.
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  I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine
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  walking through a field that represents your life and your
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  history. Buried beneath the surface, a
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  landmine, some of which are decades old.
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  You can recall times that people have accidentally trod on these
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  landmines and experienced an emotional reaction from you.
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  But imagine now that instead of fear, trepidation, or the idea
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  that others are provoking you into feeling the way you have
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  been feeling, I want you to imagine that you carry something
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  powerful with you, a device in your hand that finds the land
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  mines and gently, safely deactivates them 1 by 1.
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  But there is a lifetime of landmines here, and sometimes
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  someone in your life, perhaps someone very close, may step on
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  one. Not because they meant harm,
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  because it was there, hidden. And in those moments, instead of
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  blame or shame, you remember this is your moment to heal.
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  And whether it's in the moment or in the aftermath of an
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  emotional outburst, you will find the time to pause, to
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  breathe and ask yourself, how would I have wanted to respond?
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  What would my most healed self do in that very same situation?
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  And you'll allow your imagination to give you
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  different scenarios, rewinding it, playing it back, the same
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  trigger but a different response.
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  And as you imagine that new response, the charge fades, the
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  wire is cut, and that landmine and anything like it is no
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  longer a threat. It's just a memory.
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  A memory without the pain and a memory that no longer triggers.
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  You begin to realize now that. How people treated.
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  You in the past said everything about them and nothing about
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  your worth or value. I want you to imagine if someone
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  has a priceless gem, but treats the priceless gem like something
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  worthless and undesirable. That says more about the owner
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  of the gem than the value of the gem.
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  Priceless gem was always priceless, and that didn't
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  change just because that value wasn't appreciated by the owner.
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  I want you to think about a time in your life where you treated
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  people that others deemed unworthy as worthy.
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  And if other people are worthy and valuable and full of talents
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  and potential, then that must be true for you too.
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  Worth is not earned, It's not given by others.
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  It is your birthright. Allow yourself to come to the
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  conclusion that you are valuable.
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  You are enough. You are already complete.
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  And from this moment forward, what if every trigger becomes a
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  chance, a key, an opening? You will react however you
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  react, but after the reaction comes the response.
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  An opportunity, a window where you can respond differently, to
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  love yourself more, to write a new story in the very spaces
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  where old pain used to live. To still be triggered is to
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  still give these people power. They didn't deserve that power.
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  They weren't responsible without power.
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  And every time you change a trigger, you are taking that
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  power back. And you'll notice that over
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  time, fewer land mines appear. There are less explosive
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  emotions from you that you feel calmer, safer and more whole.
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  That things that. Used to create a certain
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  response, create a different response.
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  What used to make you think that you were provoked now makes you
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  think. Healing is deactivating these
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  triggers, and it gets easier and easier each time you do it.
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  These triggers whenever yours by thinking how you would want to
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  handle the very situation that used to trigger you.
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  Deactivates the landmine from this point onwards.
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  You can trust. Yourself, you can forgive
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  yourself. You get to value yourself.
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  I want you to feel priceless. Not just valuable, not just
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  worthy, but priceless. I want you to feel more worthy
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  than you've ever felt and let this feeling grow now, perhaps a
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  warm glow in your chest or somewhere else, and allow it to
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  spread through your whole body. A reminder that you matter and
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  absolutely nothing can take that away.
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  Think of all the good things you've done, the people you've
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  helped. Even Despite that tough
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  childhood, you would have been justified in being cruel and
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  bitter and mean. And yet you weren't.
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  That itself is valuable. As you allow yourself to feel
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  this value increasing, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. It's time to return to the here
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  and now. Sometimes forewarned is
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  forearmed just in thinking that provocation is people
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  accidentally stepping on your land mines is enough to remove
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  at least half of all of these land mines to return feeling.
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  Then your future is a future of less triggers, not more, of more
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  happiness not less. To take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Start to connect and calibrate with the here and the now as I
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  now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you starting to count.
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  123. Waking up 456 more.
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  Alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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