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201. Micro Commitments · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: Hey, friends, it's your host Mai Lee Noir. This week's
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Speaker 1: episode is helping us take that self assessment of where
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Speaker 1: we are right now and what we need to do
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Speaker 1: to build momentum, to build trust in ourselves and take
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Speaker 1: those micro commitment steps. So let's get into this week's episode. Now,
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Speaker 1: before we get into this episode, if you know you
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Speaker 1: know before each episode, what I like to do is
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Speaker 1: make a deposit into the bank of you, and I
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Speaker 1: do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great
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Speaker 1: way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is every action I take fulfills
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Speaker 1: me and drives me closer to my goal. Every action
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Speaker 1: I take fulfills me and drives me closer to my goal.
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Speaker 1: Every action I take fulfills me and drives me closer
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Speaker 1: to my goal. Now, let's get ready for this week's
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Speaker 1: episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Well, we are
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Speaker 1: crawling out of the month of June twenty twenty five,
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Speaker 1: and that means we are halfway through the year. And
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Speaker 1: this is a really good time for a reassessment, a readjustment,
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Speaker 1: and a refresher. You may be looking back on your
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Speaker 1: January goals or the things that you pronounce so loudly
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Speaker 1: or maybe so quietly at the start of the year
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Speaker 1: of things that you wanted to do in twenty twenty five.
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Speaker 1: And for some of you you may be on track.
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Speaker 1: For others, you may be ahead of the game or
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Speaker 1: you know, slightly above where you want to be. And
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Speaker 1: for others, you're not where you need to be. You're
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Speaker 1: not even close. And I think there's hope for every person.
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Speaker 1: I think the person that has soared ahead can continue
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Speaker 1: to do so, but also take a moment to see
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Speaker 1: what they've done and make sure they celebrate the wins
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Speaker 1: along the way. I think the person that is on
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Speaker 1: track can find a way to even step ahead a
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Speaker 1: little bit. And I think for the person who hasn't
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Speaker 1: started or is not where they thought they would be,
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Speaker 1: not on track, they're still healthy, ample room to do
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Speaker 1: what you say you will do. I want to talk
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Speaker 1: to all three, but I want to spend time on
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Speaker 1: the person who feels like this is it. They feel
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Speaker 1: as though they haven't been able to get started and
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Speaker 1: it's probably too late. A lot of people tend to
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Speaker 1: quit or give up or not even allow themselves a
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Speaker 1: chance to do what they say they wanted to do.
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Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times, the way and
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Speaker 1: the reason this happens is because we stop trusting ourselves.
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Speaker 1: And I don't know how long ago, how far back.
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Speaker 1: In an episode I talked about the importance of self trust.
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Speaker 1: It's easy to look outside of ourselves, and one of
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Speaker 1: the things that I really pride myself doing on this
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Speaker 1: podcast is to make sure that you look within yourself,
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Speaker 1: that you do the self assessment and a self awareness
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Speaker 1: before you start pointing your fingers outward at everybody else,
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Speaker 1: the people that hurt you, the people you don't trust,
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Speaker 1: Those very same people who did not show up for you,
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Speaker 1: who weren't there for you when you needed them, who
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Speaker 1: abandoned you or ghosted you, who treated you less than
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Speaker 1: you are finding yourselves doing the same things to yourself,
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Speaker 1: and so you have no one to blame. You have
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Speaker 1: no fingers to point but back at yourself. And so
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Speaker 1: that's why it's important to do the self assessment and
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Speaker 1: the self awareness to understand the role you are playing
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Speaker 1: in this. And I've been there before myself. I've made
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Speaker 1: promises to myself that I didn't keep. And what happens
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Speaker 1: when you start that trajectory where you say, you know what, Tomorrow,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna go to the gym,
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Speaker 1: or I plan to go to the gym all next week,
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Speaker 1: or I'm gonna go to the gym twice next week
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Speaker 1: or three times next week. And it turns out it's
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Speaker 1: Friday and you have never gone to the gym. You
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Speaker 1: never even woke up, you never even as though you
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Speaker 1: didn't even try. And I'm gonna help you fix that today.
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Speaker 1: I want you to get better at committing to yourself.
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Speaker 1: I want you to get better at trusting yourself, because
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Speaker 1: when I hear you challenged with that, it's telling me
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Speaker 1: you no longer trust yourself. So it's telling me there's
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Speaker 1: something in your behavioral pattern in which you can no
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Speaker 1: longer trust yourself. It's not even in you. It's just
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Speaker 1: like that friend that keeps showing up late to everything.
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Speaker 1: You now know that you know that you know that
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Speaker 1: this person will never be there on time for you.
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Speaker 1: You cannot trust that they will be on time for
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Speaker 1: as some people say their own funeral because they've been
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Speaker 1: late that much. Well, you are in that position now,
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Speaker 1: but it's with yourself. You no longer trust your ability
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Speaker 1: to execute on things you say you will do well.
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Speaker 1: I want that to end today, and I know it
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Speaker 1: will end today because I want to help you rebuild
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Speaker 1: trust with yourself and do it one step at a time.
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Speaker 1: And that's probably gonna be the hardest thing for you
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Speaker 1: to do, because I think you've been trained, you've been indoctrinated,
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Speaker 1: you have been cultured to believe that the only way
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Speaker 1: you can get ahead is with leaps. And what I'm
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Speaker 1: telling you is you're gonna have to be okay with
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Speaker 1: taking a step at a time, and that's not how
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Speaker 1: we're trained. We're trained to get to the finish line fast,
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Speaker 1: get there before everybody else. Keep your heads down, keep going.
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Speaker 1: And I'm telling you today that you're gonna have to
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Speaker 1: take some steps. And some of those steps are small, large,
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Speaker 1: a little bit in between, but we're not taking leaps.
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Speaker 1: See what it is is that you've fallen into the
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Speaker 1: trap of the leaps. And I get it. There are
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Speaker 1: some really cool quotes about taking leaps and getting ahead
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Speaker 1: and all that stuff, but this is where you're at
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Speaker 1: and you cannot afford to go through the balance of
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Speaker 1: the year. You have a half a year left, You
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Speaker 1: still have time to make it work. You still have
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Speaker 1: time to get on track. You still have time to
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Speaker 1: align with what it is you said you were going
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Speaker 1: to do, and even if it looks impossible, it's going
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Speaker 1: to take those day to day steps. But you have
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Speaker 1: to be okay with that. You cannot want to rush
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Speaker 1: the process at this point because the goal here is
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Speaker 1: to stay in it, not to get in it and
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Speaker 1: then get out of it, which is what those things
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Speaker 1: tend to do. So I want to talk to you
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Speaker 1: about something called micro commitments. It sounds and just like
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Speaker 1: what it means. It means just like what it sounds.
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Speaker 1: But let me give you a definition of what micro
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Speaker 1: commitments are. Micro commitments are small, manageable agreements a person
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Speaker 1: or prospect can do incrementally toward a larger designed goal
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Speaker 1: or habit. And what happens with these micro commitments is
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Speaker 1: that it involves a strategy to help you break down
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Speaker 1: the significant objectives into a series of minor achievable steps
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Speaker 1: that helps you build momentum and trust along the way.
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Speaker 1: And what it does is that it helps you reduce
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Speaker 1: the perceivable effort and risk associated with the ultimate goal.
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Speaker 1: And I'll give you an example, say, for example, you say,
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Speaker 1: or you said back at the start of the year
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Speaker 1: that you want to save twenty thousand dollars in twenty
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Speaker 1: twenty five, or you wanted to have a significant emergency
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Speaker 1: fund because you maybe you don't have an emergency fund
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Speaker 1: for exactly what it says, an emergency, So whenever you
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Speaker 1: have an emergency, you have to dip into your credit cards,
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Speaker 1: you have to borrow money, or you just can't even
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Speaker 1: take care of your life emergencies. But again, maybe you
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Speaker 1: wanted to create a travel fund or a birthday fund,
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Speaker 1: whatever it is that you wanted to create. And so
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Speaker 1: what the micro commitment says is that, yes, twenty thousand
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Speaker 1: dollars is a lot of money, especially if you're in
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Speaker 1: the middle of the year like we are right now practically,
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Speaker 1: and you don't have anything saved yet. It's going to
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Speaker 1: feel like, how am I going to do this? How
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Speaker 1: am I going to get there? When am I going
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Speaker 1: to get there? And you can calculate and do all
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Speaker 1: the things and come up with a new bulk goal
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Speaker 1: that you're going to put towards this, you know, bucket
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Speaker 1: of money that you want to save, only to find
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Speaker 1: that you can't save the money because you've created other
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Speaker 1: habits along the way. So what a micro commitment says is,
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Speaker 1: now I'm going to make a small agreement. Maybe it's
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Speaker 1: something as small as I'm going to cut out one
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Speaker 1: streaming service and take that money along with some other
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Speaker 1: monies match it up. So maybe my streaming service is
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Speaker 1: twenty five dollars a month, I'm gonna take the twenty
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Speaker 1: five dollars streaming service, cut that off, and I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: take twenty five dollars out of my paycheck. So now
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Speaker 1: I have fifty dollars one that I've committed into another bucket,
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Speaker 1: which is now this bucket for my birthday bucket or
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Speaker 1: my emergency fund bucket. Plus I'm gonna match that with
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Speaker 1: another commitment of my own for fifty dollars. So now
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Speaker 1: I have, I'm sorry, a twenty five dollar commitment, a
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Speaker 1: twenty five dollar commitment or whatever you match it, and
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Speaker 1: now you have fifty dollars going into that bucket. Now,
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Speaker 1: I know that sounds like a far stretch from twenty
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Speaker 1: thousand or ten thousand, or maybe even five thousand. Whatever
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Speaker 1: you said that you was your goal that you wanted
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Speaker 1: to save. But the problem is you're trying to save
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Speaker 1: four hundred dollars a month, and you haven't done that yet.
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Speaker 1: And I know fifty sounds really small compared to four hundred,
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Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying to you when it comes
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Speaker 1: to doing this process and doing it with heart, is
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Speaker 1: that you must be comfortable with the fact that it's
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Speaker 1: not going to look like the way you've been doing it.
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Speaker 1: It's going to be a step at a time. Maybe
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Speaker 1: over time you can start to increase that, But what
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Speaker 1: this is saying is start somewhere, cause what it is
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Speaker 1: is you're telling yourself, I'm gonna put four hundred dollars
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Speaker 1: a month aside, and by this these many months, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna have this many dollars. I'm gonna put a thousand
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Speaker 1: dollars a month away until by the month of October,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have ten thousand dollars. Well, you haven't put
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Speaker 1: anything away yet and you're not even close to that goal.
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Speaker 1: So that's what a micro commitment says. It says, let
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Speaker 1: me take a small, manageable agreement. Now that I can
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Speaker 1: trust myself to save twenty five dollars and cut off
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Speaker 1: another twenty five dollars process in my life. Maybe it's I,
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Speaker 1: you know, have five coffees a month, that's twenty five dollars.
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Speaker 1: Maybe each coffee's five dollars, I don't know, whatever it is,
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna cut that out, add another twenty five to
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Speaker 1: it to match it, and I'm gonna save that money
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Speaker 1: a month. And so now it's manageable, it's small, it's agreeable.
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Speaker 1: And now when you look into your account, I'm sorry
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Speaker 1: you got one hundred and fifty dollars rolling into your
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Speaker 1: account three months down the road. That isn't close to
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Speaker 1: maybe what you wanted to say, but it gives you
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Speaker 1: a momentum. It allows you to begin to build, and
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Speaker 1: it gives you a platform to start to grow what
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Speaker 1: it is you said you were gonna start to grow,
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Speaker 1: whether it's your workout habits, whether it's your eating habits,
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Speaker 1: what is your saving habits, it's going to be achievable.
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Speaker 1: And now you can say, you know what, I've gotten
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Speaker 1: to my two month mark, I've saved one hundred dollars.
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Speaker 1: I think it's time for me to go up one
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Speaker 1: hundred dollars next month. And you can just build that momentum.
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Speaker 1: And what happens is momentum is being built, but also
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Speaker 1: trust is being built and the effort that seemed like
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Speaker 1: it would never happen. Maybe you eventually get up to
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Speaker 1: saving that thousand dollars a month, but it started with
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Speaker 1: the twenty five, and the twenty five, the fifty, and
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Speaker 1: then the hundred, and then the one hundred each month,
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Speaker 1: and then maybe the three hundred each month, and next
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Speaker 1: thing you know, you're saving that thousand dollars. And yeah,
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Speaker 1: you get to the end of the year and you're
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Speaker 1: not at the ten thousand you want it to be at.
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Speaker 1: But my gosh, you picked up some momentum around the
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Speaker 1: month of July and August. You started doing some things.
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Speaker 1: You started trusting yourself. You started keeping your commitments, your
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Speaker 1: micro commitments. It changed how you saw yourself. You started
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Speaker 1: showing up for yourself. You started making the sacrifices. You
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Speaker 1: started being okay with doing things in small increments as
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Speaker 1: opposed to making large chunks all at one time. You're growing,
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Speaker 1: you're learning, you're adjusting, you're building wisdom and understanding, and
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Speaker 1: that's what you needed. Now you can take that and
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Speaker 1: start to multiply with the next thing you want to do.
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Speaker 1: Maybe you figured out your workout routine maybe you know
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Speaker 1: how to be up three days a week and twice
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Speaker 1: on the weekend, and now you can start working on
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Speaker 1: your eating, you can start working on your side projects
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Speaker 1: that you've been putting off. There are a multitude of
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Speaker 1: things that you can do with that one thing, but
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Speaker 1: it starts with one thing. It starts with one effort,
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Speaker 1: It starts with one action. And again, oftentimes we don't
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Speaker 1: want to take that one action because it feels like
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Speaker 1: it's so insignificant. Where is it going to matter? When
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Speaker 1: is it going to matter? How is this one thing
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Speaker 1: going to matter? You're telling me I'm supposed to have
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Speaker 1: saved twenty thousand dollars, ten thousand dollars whatever, and you're
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Speaker 1: telling me say fe and be okay with it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's exactly what I'm telling you. I'm telling you to
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Speaker 1: start somewhere because what you find yourself doing is complaining,
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Speaker 1: and the complaining is not getting you anywhere. The complaining
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Speaker 1: makes you a miserable person. It makes you a person
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Speaker 1: that doesn't trust themselves and who wants to be around that.
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Speaker 1: I don't think you even want to be around yourself.
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Speaker 1: It's time to make a change. It's time to take
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Speaker 1: those micro commitments and start to maximize them. Here are
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Speaker 1: three things you can do when it comes to or
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Speaker 1: three reasons. Here are three reasons why you should start
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Speaker 1: micro commitments today. One I just explain it's easy to
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Speaker 1: start and that way you can actually do it. And
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Speaker 1: the whole point of this exercise is that activity, this behavior,
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Speaker 1: this routine change is to rebuild trust with yourself. Right again.
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Speaker 1: It's the example of I'm gonna go to the gym
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Speaker 1: for an hour three days a week. I say, do
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Speaker 1: ten squats at home three days a week. That's it.
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Speaker 1: You can squat while brushing your teeth. You can squat
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Speaker 1: in front of the coffee machine at your house. You
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Speaker 1: can squat. I don't know, there's so many areas in
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Speaker 1: your house that you can squat. But you're going from zero,
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Speaker 1: which is not doing anything at all, not going to
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Speaker 1: the gym at all, having to get your workout clothes
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Speaker 1: on and get up, put the clothes on, get in
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Speaker 1: the car. You can do ten squats right there brushing
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Speaker 1: your teeth. So again, it's easy to start and you
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Speaker 1: actually do it. The more you do it, guess what,
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Speaker 1: you rebuild self trust. I want to rebuild self trust.
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Speaker 1: We've lost six months, you've lost six months. It's a
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Speaker 1: great way to build self trust, rebuild it. You can
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Speaker 1: write a promised journal each night and a lot of
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Speaker 1: people think, oh my god, people a journalist requires a lot.
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Speaker 1: Write a sentence. You don't have to write a whole
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Speaker 1: paragraph or three or four pages. Write a sentence, write
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Speaker 1: a quote. One inspired me? What made me laugh today?
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Speaker 1: What gave gave me an example or put meaning into
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Speaker 1: my life? What was a moment of purpose for me today?
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Speaker 1: What great gesture did I do for something? Write a sentence?
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Speaker 1: Those little actions add up and then finally, why micro
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Speaker 1: commitments because it creates momentum without the overwhelmed. Imagine you
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Speaker 1: do your you do your ten squats today, you do
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Speaker 1: your ten squats tomorrow, you do your ten squats the
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Speaker 1: next day, and guess what. You created a momentum and
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Speaker 1: you didn't feel overwhelmed. As a matter of fact, some
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Speaker 1: of you may be inspired to do twenty squats one
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Speaker 1: of those days and eventually thirty squats, and you're gonna
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Speaker 1: build momentum. And that's what this is all about, building
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Speaker 1: the momentum, changing the behavior, and ultimately rebuilding trust with yourself.
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Speaker 1: And might I remind you. It's not gonna come with
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Speaker 1: a giant leap, It's not gonna come with a prepaid
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Speaker 1: flight to wherever you want to go. It's going to
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Speaker 1: come with a mindset that chooses to do life at
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Speaker 1: least at the start, one step at a time. I
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