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Pause and You'll Get What You Want · The MODERN YIN Podcast

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Hey. Hey, Yinning at Life Gang.
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It's Kimberly Roberts of the Soulfully in Brand.
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I'm here to dish out all things about traditional Chinese
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medicine, yin yoga, reflexology. And of course, I'm here to
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disrupt your mind. So thanks so much for pressing
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play on today's episode. Let's do this.
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Hello and welcome to another episode of the Yinning it Life
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podcast. I'm really super glad you're
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here. So today, what are we diving
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into? We are diving into a topic that
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has been on my mind for a while, but that people have been asking
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for clarification on. And so I want to talk about a
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little bit about yin yoga and mindset and how powerful the
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pause is because people are like, what are you talking about
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the pause? Like, we get that.
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We pause and we hold a pose for a while.
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Yeah, we get that part. But like, there's something that
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I'm missing. What does that have to do with
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my mindset? And more importantly, what does
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that have to do with creating an extraordinary delulu life,
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Right? Like that's really what people
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are asking for. And if you've been watching or
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you've been looking at any of my Instagram posts on, on Soulful
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Yin Yoga, I'm talking a lot recently about mindset and
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personal development and why? Because it's something that's
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really big on my heart right now where I am starting to see some
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massive transformation in my own life and in my own businesses.
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But now I'm even starting to see like with my students, how it's
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impacting and affecting them. In fact, one of my students
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emailed me this morning and she said to me, she's like, I just
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finished your five day mindset challenge.
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And she said, I was blown away at what you brought forward.
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And she's like, I've never done a mindset course like that
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before. She said, it's one thing, you
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know, she's like, I've been doing mindset work for a long
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time. And, you know, I've taken all
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these courses. And she said there was always
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something that was kind of missing with it.
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And I thought to myself, yeah, I know exactly what you mean.
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The missing part was the nervous system regulation, the
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embodiment, because it's one thing to tell yourself that you
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desire a certain thing, and then it's another thing for your
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nervous system and your subconscious mind to go, oh, OK,
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that's all right, that's safe. But you see, we're not taught
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this. So we recite all these
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affirmations over and over and over again, and then we wonder
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why nothing in our life is changing.
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And this is where the pause in a yen pose is really a massive
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game changer for a number of reasons.
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First and foremost, let's face it, we need to pause throughout
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the day. I mean, you don't have to pause
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for an hour several times a day. You could even pause for like 3
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minutes in a day. But we all need to pause, OK?
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We're not meant to live like robots on autopilot where we're
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just like going round and around and around all over all the
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time. We are meant to have some
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stillness. And I say this in my yen classes
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that I teach on my Soulful yen app.
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I say this all the time. Without your awareness, nothing
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changes. Nothing.
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If you're not aware, nothing is going to change.
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But when you pause, whether it's like a 2 minute pose, a 5 minute
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pose, there's opportunity there. And this is where a lot of
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people sometimes just check out and they're like, yeah, I'm just
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going to like hang out in this pose for two minutes.
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And they don't really start to think or contemplate for
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themselves what could be or what am I thinking about?
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And how are my thoughts making me feel?
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And how are these feeling thoughts creating emotions in my
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body that I know I'm storing, that I know with yen yoga, I can
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release especially lower vibrational emotions, right?
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Like fear and anger and worry. Like we have the ability in yen
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yoga poses to release those emotions that we store in our
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organs. But when you backtrack it and
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you start with, OK, well, what I think makes me feel a certain
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way and how I feel produces a certain emotion in my body that
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I hold. But then it also creates a
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specific belief, right? I keep thinking the same thing
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over and over again. I am going to start to create a
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belief around that. And it might be a good belief or
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it might be a pretty crappy belief.
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And with the pause, the awareness comes of like, oh, I
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just thought that. Oh, I just thought that again.
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And we're not taking it from a judgment or critical place, OK?
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We're taking it from a curious, contemplative approach.
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Oh, OK. I keep thinking this over and
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over again. Is this thought really serving
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me? Yes or no?
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Right. And if it's a thought that's not
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serving you, this is where you get to shift it with your
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awareness. So with my my student, this is
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what happened to her. So she took my five day
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challenge and during it, she just had this moment where she
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was like, I get it. I understand this.
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I understand all the victim mindset, the creator mindset.
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I understand the identity work that I have to do.
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I understand like the decoding I have to do, the trusting I have
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to do, The Who I need to become. And she was like, one day she
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was like, I just decided, you know what?
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I hate my job. I don't want to do it anymore
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and I want to be happier doing something else.
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So she took inspired aligned action.
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This is a big part, right? She took inspired aligned action
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and she decided to apply for three different jobs.
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Now, all of these jobs she wasn't quote UN quote on paper
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qualified for, but in her mind she had cultivated a mindset of,
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you know what? I think I could pull these off.
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So she applied, and two out of the three jobs that she applied
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for, she was offered the position.
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So where she was working before, she was working for a really
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crappy organization. She had a boss that was just
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basically a bully and treated her like crap and didn't value
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or respect her input on anything.
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She was always working overtime and on weekends.
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She had no family life balance, work life balance at all.
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There was not even any such discussion about that in her
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office about work life balance. She was exhausted and burnt out.
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The people she worked with were toxic and they were manipulative
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and they were just not a good energy to be around.
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And she was making $40,000 a year, which really for the
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amount of work that she was doing in a year, she was
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probably actually taking in about 20 K.
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So working a lot and making no money.
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The job that she got that she ended up taking, the minute she
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spoke with the, with the, her boss, her future boss at that
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point who interviewed here, she felt a connection.
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She was like, Oh, my God, like, there's something here that I'm
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like, this just feels good. They were on the same page about
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work life balance. She got to meet some of the
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other people so that she would be prospectively working with.
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She got good vibes from them. She looked around the office.
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People looked happy. They looked happy to be there.
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And, you know, like, they believed in, like, OK, you work
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Monday to Friday. You pick your hours.
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But as long as you work, you're 37 1/2 hours a week, I don't
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care what time you come in. Her boss was like, if you want
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to start 6:00 AM one day and 9:00 at the other, I don't care
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as long as you get your work done and in the amount of time
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I'm happy. I don't micromanage.
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And she was like, Oh my God, thank you.
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And then she heard about their benefits plan and it was like
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next level incredible compared to the benefits plan that she
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currently had. And she was getting a $60,000
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increase in salary. So she was going from making 40
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KA year to 100 KA year in a job that she was going to love,
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where she had a boss that was going to be cooperative,
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respectful and supportive and working with other like minded
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people. Like talk about a major yinning
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at life opportunity for her. Now, I gave her all the theory
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in these five days, but what really helped her was the
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embodiment practices, the nervous system regulation.
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That's what made the difference. That was the game changer for
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her. That gave her the confidence and
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the courage to be like, you know what, I'm going to do this, I'm
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going to try. And she is so excited and she
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can't wait. She starts her job next week and
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she's also joining my 21 day accelerator program that starts
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on Monday as well. This is how to literally be
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living your extraordinary delusional life in 21 days.
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Now she's already over the moon that in five days she was able
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to shift her mindset and use the practice of yin yoga, breath
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work, and meditation to just really anchor in and embody the
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future version of herself that she believed in, that she wanted
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to be. And when you take that time to
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pause every single day, it doesn't have to be long.
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Maybe it's only like 5 minutes a day, but that is your
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invitation. That is an opportunity to be
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able to go. You know what?
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Maybe I can choose differently for myself because as I said
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before, if you're not aware, then you don't know what to
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change. But the moment you become aware,
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then you have an option. You can go, oh, OK.
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Well, yeah, I could still continue to, you know, be the
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same person as I am. That's a choice.
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Or I can go, you know what? I'm going to take a different
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path. I'm going to choose differently
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for myself and see where that takes me.
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But without the awareness, there's no choice.
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And without awareness, there's no growth, there's no expansion,
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there's no possibility to really thrive in your life.
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And we're, we were put on this earth to thrive, not to survive,
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to thrive. And you know, right from the
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very first time that I did Yan yoga, I, you know, even before
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when I was in that first class that I took that I thought was
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an Ashtango class, but it wasn't.
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And all of a sudden this teacher puts us in this pose and I'm
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like, wait a minute, like, why aren't we standing up?
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This is Ashtango level 1. And I'm like, OK, why are we in
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like this childlike pose? And why are we here for so long?
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When I finally realized I was not in an Ashtanga class, I
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didn't know what I was in, but I knew I wasn't in Ashtanga.
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And I went, OK, you know what? I'm just going to soften into
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this because it is what it is. Not going to get up and leave.
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I'm going to just finish this practice.
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About part way through into the class, I was like, there's like
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something happening here. Like, yeah, I can feel like my
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body is stretching out, which, yeah, OK, sure, it's great.
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But I was very, very, very flexible back then.
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So the stretch was not really that exciting to me.
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But I was like, there's something going on here upstairs
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in the mind. There's there's something
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changing here. I'm becoming aware of things.
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I was starting to have conversations in my head of
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like, I don't like this part of my life.
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I think that things are supposed to be different for me.
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I wonder what I could do to shift.
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And I knew nothing about mindset and personal development back
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then. I was just working in a
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corporate job that, you know, what was very stressful?
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And I started doing yoga because it was helping me with the
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stress. And that's what I was there for.
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But when I started all of a sudden having these inner
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conversations, these inner dialogues with myself, I was
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like, whoa, I'm like, this is kind of cool.
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I never had time to think of these thoughts before.
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I was just always too busy doing right, doing work, being
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bothered, being, you know, like, interrupted.
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Like there was just no time. And even when I was doing like,
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like I was a hardcore Ashtangi for many years, you're, if
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you've ever done ashtango, like it's a continuous moving,
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flowing vinyasa type practice. You're not sitting around and
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just like, you know, lying there and breathing, you're moving.
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And for me, that movement wasn't creating pause.
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It was just this continuous cycle of I'm moving my body and
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I'm breathing and I'm moving my body and I'm breathing and I'm
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moving my body and I'm breathing and that's what I'm doing.
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But there wasn't the opportunity to pause and to create
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awareness, not until the end when you were lying in
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Shavasana. And by then it was like, well,
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you know, but it often wasn't a long enough Shavasana And I was
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tired and I was sweaty and I was just like, oh, thank God, I'm
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just lying here in Shavasana. And that's all I would think
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about is, thank God I'm lying in Shavasana, but with the end
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whole other ball game, each time you pull, you pause, whether
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it's you're pausing in the stillness of the pose or you're
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pausing in between to rebound. There's an opportunity for
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contemplation, introspection, awareness.
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And with all of that comes the opportunity to change anything
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that you want to change. And that's what happened with my
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client and now she's moving into her dream job and she's so
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excited about her life and this, you know, $60,000 increase in
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salary. She's actually going to be
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working less than she was when she was in her 40K salary.
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And she's like, now she's like, I have extra money to be able to
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invest and pour more into my own personal self development, you
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know, to maybe pay off some, some debt that I was carrying
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around and just live a higher quality of life for myself and
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for my family. And she's like, in five days, I
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did that. So she's like, I can't even
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imagine what journey you're going to take me through in the
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21 days. And I'm like, you just wait and
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see because scientifically, they say that it takes a minimum of
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21 days for our brain to really rewire its neural pathways.
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It can certainly be done in a shorter period of time, but it
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requires a lot more effort, a lot more conscious effort and
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awareness. So I often say at the beginning
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of doing this mindset work, you know, you might be pausing a lot
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more often in order to reframe, reset, reframe, reset.
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But for me, this has been an embodied way of living for
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almost, I've been practicing yet so almost like 25 years.
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I've been teaching yin yoga for 25 years.
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I've been practicing for probably about, I was practicing
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for probably about 27 years. It was about two years before I
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did my yin yoga teacher training and it's completely changed my
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life. And I always thought back then
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there was so much more that was happening than just the physical
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stretch. I knew there was something
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deeper. And so this is your invitation
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to start to look at your own life and be like, if there's
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something that you want to shift, just know that you know
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what? With the right amount of pausing
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and awareness and compassion for yourself and patience, you can
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rewire your brain and start to create an extraordinary delulu
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life and live that extraordinary life like not just for a few
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days, but like for the rest of your life, even when life is
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quote UN quote life in you, right?
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Because this is the reality. If we were living just in a soul
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being and we had no human experience, then life would be a
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real bore because we would just be living out everything and we
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wouldn't actually be learning anything.
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There would be no growth, no expansion.
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But every time that you get hit with something that you're like,
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you know what? I really don't want to deal with
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this or oh, I didn't ask for that.
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It's an opportunity to grow. Or maybe it's.
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An opportunity to learn a lesson, OK, if I'm in this
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situation again, I'm sure is not going to turn and do the same
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thing over. I already learned that I'm here
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to do something else. And The thing is, is that we are
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not here to keep living the same experiences over and over and
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over again, especially the ones. That weren't so.
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Great. That didn't serve us.
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That really lowered our vibe and our frequency.
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You know, like once you've done it once, it's like, yeah, OK, I
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don't really want to relive that again.
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But the sad thing is, is that we often do We.
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Just keep. Repeating the same patterns over
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and over again because we are not aware that we're even
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repeating them in the first place.
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That's what often happens. We're not even aware.
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And so the. Power of the pause is key.
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It is the game changer to manifesting an incredibly
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extraordinary Dululu life. And when you?
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Can add awareness, introspection and then layer on top of that
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how to collapse the time. Accelerate.
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The time between where you're at now to where you desire to be,
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to who you are now, to who you desire to be.
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When you can. Learn to navigate that.
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Then you are. Literally unshakable and
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unstoppable in what you can create for yourself.
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So my. Invitation for you is to join
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the Soulful Yin app, come and practice and be given the
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opportunity to pause. Or you can.
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Come and join me in the five Set the Five day mindset challenge
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that is now on demand. So you can just download it and
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get instant access to it right away.
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Or you can join my 21 day accelerator, the Art of
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Collapsing Time program that starts on Monday, May 19th.
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OK, it's still on pre sale right now and you can join that and
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you will get lifetime access to that.
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So I'm going to link all of that up in the show notes for you.
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You can take a look at it. And you can.
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Start creating your extraordinary delulu life.
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You can start creating a massive awareness and I will tell you
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when you take time to pause. You are going.
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To be blown away at some of the thoughts that you've been
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thinking that have been creating your belief systems and your
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reality and you're going to be going, Oh my God, I cannot
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believe I was thinking that way. Well, no wonder my life is like
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this. So.
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When you get. Deliberate.
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Can you imagine what is available to you?
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Because you could be, you could do and you can have it all.
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So thanks SO. Much for pressing play on
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today's episode. I will see you next week on the
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Indian Life Podcast.