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Mojo Monday - Stop Playing Small With Carly Taylor · Hardiness with Dr Paul Taylor

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  Speaker 1: Hi everyone, It's Culli Taylor here. Welcome back to this
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  Speaker 1: week's Mojo Monday. So today I want to challenge you
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  Speaker 1: with a simple thought, and that is to stop playing small.
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  Speaker 1: So where in your life, whether it's at home or work,
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  Speaker 1: or in your health or whatever domain of your life,
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  Speaker 1: where do you find that you shrink or hide or
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  Speaker 1: turn away from? So take it from me. And this
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  Speaker 1: is the reason why I wanted to do this Mojo
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  Speaker 1: Monday because I used to be the queen of playing small.
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  Speaker 1: So staying in a comfort zone it feels safe, but
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  Speaker 1: only for a while, and deep down you know that
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  Speaker 1: you've got more to give. And this doesn't have to
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  Speaker 1: be world changing. It could be simply be showing up
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  Speaker 1: in your little corner of the world. But when fear
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  Speaker 1: holds you back, so fear of being seen, fear of failing,
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  Speaker 1: fear of being judged, you create this gap. And that
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  Speaker 1: is the gap between who you are and who you
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  Speaker 1: could be. So you don't want to let that potential
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  Speaker 1: slide by. So I've lived in that zone and yes
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  Speaker 1: I still dip back into it. I don't think this
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  Speaker 1: is just about suddenly you're out of the comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: We're always sort of dipping in and out of it.
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  Speaker 1: But more and more I'm choosing to step into discomfort
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  Speaker 1: and that's usually the stuff that my mind automatically says
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  Speaker 1: no to. So seriously, it's like, my mind is this
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  Speaker 1: really annoying friend who's trying to protect me. But what
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  Speaker 1: I'm better at, like this friend is just going no,
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  Speaker 1: don't do it. It's too dangerous or it's too risky,
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  Speaker 1: and giving me all those excuses as to why I
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  Speaker 1: shouldn't do it. But what I'm better at now is
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  Speaker 1: not taking my mind's advice when I know down that
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  Speaker 1: I actually do want to do this thing. I want
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  Speaker 1: to move forward. And this zone of risk and unknown
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  Speaker 1: and uncertainty is scary and it's also exciting and it's
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  Speaker 1: where growth actually happens. But you can't be in this
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  Speaker 1: space without taking action in the presence of fear, because
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  Speaker 1: every time you hold back your ideas and silence your
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  Speaker 1: voice or shrink to fit in, you're playing small and
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  Speaker 1: it costs you. You miss opportunities, you potentially rob the
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  Speaker 1: world of your strengths, and over time, you start believing
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  Speaker 1: that the smaller version of you is all that you've got.
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  Speaker 1: But that is just a story that your mind is
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  Speaker 1: telling you. Your mind is just constantly telling you stories,
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  Speaker 1: but you don't actually have to believe it. And if
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  Speaker 1: you can be aware of that, then you can start
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  Speaker 1: writing your own story through action. And this is certainly
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  Speaker 1: not about arrogance or ego or certainly not about hurting others.
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  Speaker 1: Certainly not about being the loudest in the room either,
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  Speaker 1: but it's about showing up as your full self and
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  Speaker 1: being willing to take a risk. So this week, notice
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  Speaker 1: when your mind tells you no when you really want
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  Speaker 1: to say yes. So maybe it's in a meeting and
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  Speaker 1: you've got ideas flowing through your head and you know
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  Speaker 1: your ideas could be great, but you are holding yourself back,
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  Speaker 1: So get those ideas out there. Or maybe you're dreaming
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  Speaker 1: about starting a project or starting a business, or pitching
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  Speaker 1: for a job or creating a workshop or a webinar
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  Speaker 1: or whatever it is, just take that first step. So
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  Speaker 1: here's your cue for this week's Mojo Monday. Stop playing small,
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  Speaker 1: lean into it, lean into the fear, lean into the uncertainty,
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  Speaker 1: take action and show up and then see what happens.
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  Speaker 1: So thank you for joining me. I hope that has
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  Speaker 1: been valuable and useful for you for this week, and
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  Speaker 1: I will catch you next week. See ya.