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Did God Make Marriage for Sex? The Answer Might Surprise You! · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for August 7, 2026 Did God make marriage for sex?
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  The answer might surprise you.
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  When we ask, why did God create marriage, should one answer be for sex?
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  Or perhaps as a place for sex?
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  I don't think God made marriage for sex. I think he made sex for marriage.
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  Human sex is unusual. As far as we know, only humans and a few kinds of tooth
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  whales experience a long post-reproductive lifespan, a.k.a. menopause.
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  Most female animals are only receptive when fertile, but women,
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  who are fertile less than a week each month, are receptive and orgasmic all month long.
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  In fact, it's common for women to experience a surge in sex drive shortly before
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  menstruation, when pregnancy is impossible.
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  As for orgasm, we don't know which female animals do, but we are sure many don't.
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  What's more, for some animals, including cats, sex is always painful for the female.
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  Mating while pregnant is very rare among animals And when it happens,
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  it results in more offspring Some women, on the other hand, feel an increase
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  in sex drive during part of pregnancy.
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  God didn't give us a strong sex drive and a command to have sex in marriage
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  just so we could make babies.
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  In animals, sex is clearly all about reproduction.
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  In humans, sex seems optimized for pleasure.
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  Not just physical pleasure. Sex can also provide great mental and emotional pleasure.
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  Beyond that, it releases chemicals and hormones that draw the parties together.
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  Unmarried couples who have sex may develop a desire to marry or live together.
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  For those already married, good sex is like relationship glue.
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  Sex won't prevent a divorce, but it can smooth out rough spots,
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  encourage working on issues, and make it easier to work on issues.
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  Of course, we mess it up. Sin, both those we commit and those that are committed
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  against us, can put us off sex or point us in a direction God didn't intend.
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  Please know that if sex is not as it should be in your marriage,
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  it can get better. If you need help, get help.
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  Sex is one important part of marriage.
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  This is Paul, and I think doing sex well pleases God.