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The Courage To Be Fully Yourself After Toxic Patterns · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

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  SPEAKER_00: This is Get It Got It Girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was just finishing up my episode that you may have just listened to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is going to be the bonus track for the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me just, oh, I'm still recording.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm recording on my just on my phone so I can see what I look like when I'm recording.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I forgot what I was doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was just celebrating and going goofy and being silly and actually being my real, true, authentic self.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it felt so good just for that moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, ah, she's in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're in there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm still here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was just under some crap.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'm still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still underneath.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would just wanted to tell you that with this bonus.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I so when I'm acting goofy and I'm like, yeah, and I'm like, oh my God, I felt like ashamed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have done that before.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's actually not ashamed.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was controlled and trained.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I let that happen to myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I let myself be, what do you call?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, brainwashed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in my past relationships, and most recently the last one in 2024, where I ended and left my ex.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I don't want to label him either.
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  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I left him.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would be goofy and silly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even around some people, some of my family, they're like, you're so weird.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're a weirdo.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, oh my God.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I would just kind of hold back a little.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not holding back.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm all in, baby.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get all of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'm ready to party.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I'm ready to study, ready to read books, but I am silly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Underneath I am goofy, goofy, goofy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I let some of the stresses of the day take over who I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, I'm human.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I feel pain sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel hurt sometimes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I go through the emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And but underneath, I am done doing all that because I need more fun in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm sure, ladies and men and whoever are listening, you need more fun in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try to think about when you were fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: And they say about like midlife, like, oh, you're gonna go back to when you were 15 or 16.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, no, excuse me, I do not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, some of the stuff was fun, but I do not want to go back to the girl that picked up this 36-year toxic, unhealthy pattern of dating the wrong people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's where I was toxic.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I have been spending over a year working on my personal growth, like really, really, really grinding and working on it and really being honest and open with myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have the tattoo, know your own truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I will put myself in check and be like, okay, is that what you're feeling?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that what's going on?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that what happened?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes, no, I gotta correct myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do try to stop making excuses.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I want to be accountable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am accountable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I chose this life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got myself here through circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can get myself out of this mess, messy middle.
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  SPEAKER_00: That everything isn't a mess, though.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not one or the other.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like your life can be so, so bad and then not good at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are still good moments, and it feels great to be lifted up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just wanted to quick share this raw little bonus.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do like to do this, and going forward, I'm gonna keep doing the extra little bonus because I feel like it's more relaxed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I just wanted to get that out there because I thought, oh my god, this is so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I always hear this and I love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't dim your shark, don't dim, don't dim your sparkle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Glitter all over, glitter everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shine, shine, shine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let people look at you and be like, what is going on with her?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd rather be that person.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's going on with her?
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  SPEAKER_00: She's having fun, she's enjoying herself, she's dancing, she's talking, she's speaking from her truth, she's trying to empower other women, she's empowering herself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And right now, I am like doing my thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, yes, yes, yes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys, I hope this helps.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you guys have a great week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you, thank you so much for listening to this little bonus.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bump, bump, bump.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a great week, guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: We will see you on Monday where I will be back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, get it, got it, girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get it, girls, get it, ladies, get it, men, get it, all of you, all the people, get it, get what you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a great week.