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From Mirror Checks to Mind Checks: Why We Work Out Now | Karena, Tori, Chyna & Stef · Tone It Down

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  I texted you all. I took the risk. I was like, should I say not? And I was like, fuck it.
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  I bought back, toned it up. I hit up your girls. China,
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  Steph and Tori. And they are all bad. I'd walk by a mirror. I grew up a dancer. I'm in front of
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  the mirror all the time. So I'm like, how do I look? How do I look? Am I bloated? Am I this? So my
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  that? I only know who I am for other people and what other people expect and want of me.
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  That really was like the story of my life. It's not this outward thing that you have to change
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  and chase and be. It's just unleashing and discovering and being honest with yourself and finding
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  the new version of you who's already in there. I literally was like, I'm never working out again.
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  Let me just roll it out and sit there and see what happens. And guess what happened?
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  You move and it's so cool to see the true power of women. What's different now is I have a really
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  positive friendship with failure and I want to keep doing it and keep learning.
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  All right, ladies. Welcome. How are you? Welcome to tone it down. The much anticipated new podcast
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  just for you. So today's podcast, the first one is with your trainers from New Year,
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  new TIEU, which we've just started last week in the app. So in your tone it up app, I'm so excited
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  seeing all of you checking in, seeing all of you loving it, gangs back together. And at the end
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  of the three day shoot, we sat down and had a great conversation together. It was me,
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  Steph, Tori, China. We hadn't seen each other in like five years. So this is a two part episode.
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  So you want to make sure you subscribe so you don't miss part two because you're going to love it.
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  You're going to love everything coming here too. And also next week is an AMA. So if you want to
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  leave a comment, a question or anything that you want to talk about on tone it down, go to
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  SpeakPipe.com slash Karina Don. And I may choose your question or suggestion or comment to play
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  on air and answer. All right, enjoy this episode and make sure you share it with your loved ones.
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  Hello. Welcome back to tone it down. Guess who's in the house. We have Tori. We have China. We have
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  Steph. We just wrapped up the tone it up shoot here in Austin, Texas, gangs back together. We've
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  been preparing for this for a while. I texted you all. I took the risk. I was like, should I
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  share not? And I was like, okay. What's the worst thing that can happen if you take a risk?
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  Yeah, of course we said yes. They said yes. All right. So how do you feel after the shoot?
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  Really sore, but very proud of myself because it was intimidating being like, okay, I gotta do all
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  these workouts while I'm very pregnant. And I did it. And I feel great. It feels good to feel sore.
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  So yeah, and great energy. There was a lot of great energy. So I think I just feel very light
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  and happy and excited to be here. Yeah, I am so happy to be back with you guys. So I'm just like,
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  you for it. I'm so happy. It's the best people to be around positive energy kind souls. It's
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  awesome. And I'm super proud of all of us because, okay, I gotta say Tori, pregnant, and also two
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  kids that you're dealing with comes here doing all of these workouts. Steph about to run a marathon
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  on Sunday doing all of these workouts. And then I brought my one year old and just got over being
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  sick. So I was like, thinking about, I'm like, dang, really increased our capacity for life since
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  the last time we saw each other. Or since the last time we worked together. So super proud.
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  I think I'll play off of what China said. I think if you zoom out and think macro here, it's
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  something that's not to be taking for granted that you can just roll in and have this seamless,
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  viby relationship where you can be on set with your best friends and just
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  riff and bounce energy off of each other. It's a completely positive environment. There's no
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  criticism. There's only this uplifting feeling. And yeah, as stated,
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  Karina's jumped through so many hurdles in the recent months. Tori is on baby number three.
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  And China, we have the joy of kaying on set with us. So, man, it's really fun to watch the
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  evolution of your best friends. And it's so cool to see the true power of women. Yeah. And that's
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  what toned up this. I love that. And so we were talking. We've been on set for three days. And
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  we've been talking for like a month or two or however long, just having this evolving all of this.
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  And really having conversations on the phone about how we've all evolved with our relationship
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  with health, wellness, fitness, families, like so much has happened. So where are you each at now,
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  mentally, physically with fitness? Because I know for myself over the 25 years, I've been in the
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  space. It changes like sometimes I'm like the hit girl, the triathlete, the yoga girl, the hiker,
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  the this, the strength. And it always changes. And also the reason why I work out. So how have you
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  evolved? I approach my workouts with so much more appreciation. And I think the more intention in
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  every workout, like, okay, I have a short amount of time. And that's okay. And we're actually going
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  to utilize this time to the max. And I'm going to get the most out of this workout. We're moving
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  my body. And my mind is also more intentional of why I'm doing the workout. I'm not just doing
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  it for aesthetics. I've said this a thousand times the past couple days. But I think that was always
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  secretly in the back of my head of why I was working. I you know, I'd walk by a mirror. I grew up a
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  dancer. I'm in front of the mirror all the time. So I'm like, how do I look? How do I look? Am I bloated?
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  Am I this? Am I that? And that truly went out the window after having kids. And also I'm sure I
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  would have evolved anyway as I got older and just feel more comfortable in my body. But now when
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  I show up to my workout, I'm like, okay, I want to be here. And I want to feel really good after.
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  That doesn't just mean I want to look good. I actually want to feel really good and feel strong
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  to move through my day. And just in alignment and good energy. I feel you get the energy flowing.
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  And so all of it is just I show up with more intention. And I give myself grace on days
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  that I'm like, I don't want to show up today. Every many days, I don't want to show up.
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  I'm like, that is not just raising her hand.
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  Yeah, there are days where I'm like, I don't want to show up today. I don't have the energy.
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  It doesn't feel like it's for the right intention. And I'm like, okay, so why am I showing up?
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  I'm not going to today. And that doesn't derail my progress. That doesn't derail my workout
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  from yesterday. I'm going to show up tomorrow. Or maybe I'll go sit on my mat and just
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  meditate or stretch and like lose my body. I love that because sometimes I went through a really
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  hard period like through 2020. And then in 2021 with my mom and everything. And I literally
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  was like, I'm never working out again. But then to get myself back into it, what you said,
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  showing up on your mat. And I was like, let me just roll it out and sit there and see what happens.
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  And guess what happens? You move a little bit. That's how my journey back into fitness started
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  same thing. I was like, just go for five minutes just to like try to feel like yourself again.
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  So I have like all the same things that Tori is saying I work out for such different reasons now.
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  I actually can't believe how much was hiding in me like that it really was actually about
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  appearance before. It's kind of like embarrassing to admit because I didn't think it was. But when
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  I contrast who I am now, it's solely for strength because there's things like I was picking
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  coy out of the bathtub and almost pulled my back. And I'm like, oh my gosh, it's time to do some
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  strength workout. So for that. And then feeling like myself again and returning to like the athlete
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  that I am, it's kind of like parts of myself when you take those breaks in life, which I think
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  it's pretty important going through the rhythms of it and being okay with that. You get excited.
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  I just got excited to like returning to parts of me that were kind of dormant for a little bit,
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  which for me is the athlete in me. So it feels really good. And I feel like myself when I'm working
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  out now, which is great. Not like I'm trying to do this for somebody else or to look like somebody
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  else. I love that too because I feel like at least like someone was here. I mean, Steph, you're just
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  like a freaking go getter getting ready for the marathon. But taking that step back and finding
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  yourself again in fitness and the why, but also allowing to have that break and rebelling
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  against yourself. I mean, yeah, it was weirdly important. It's probably a lot of people that
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  experience the same thing. And so coming back to you. Okay, I'm ready now. Yeah. Yeah. What about you?
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  Oh, fitness. This chapter is about trying to push my body to the furthest extent that is
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  healthfully possible. So I right now I'm very performance driven. Having said that, I can take
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  it back to a couple of years like when we were first getting acquainted with tone it up. And
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  I was a college basketball player. I didn't quite fit in in that arena. I was always a little bit
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  smaller, always a little bit too thin. And then I loved basketball. And I went into fitness modeling
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  much like you did. Oh, yeah. Yeah. With each identity transition comes different identity crises,
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  I guess. So as a fitness model, all of a sudden, I was too muscular after a lifetime of being too small.
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  Yeah. Literally told by an agency like, I know you're booking all these fitness jobs, but we could
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  really pitch you better if you know, if you just weren't as like what? That is my DNA. My mom's built
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  like a strong woman and Apple don't fall far from the tree. So I think this version of my coaching
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  self and my fitness self is understanding that I can just be myself. And it doesn't sound
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  revolutionary, but it is like it plays into my friendships and my current relationship. I didn't
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  know that I could be someone's partner or yay, fiance and let them know all of me. And so fitness
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  is what I feel like it should be for me now. And I just want to see in these next couple years,
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  while my body is strong and healthy and yes, I dabble in injuries from pushing it too far, but
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  just want to see what's possible. So I'm really into the endurance sports and to the marathon.
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  I'm going to follow suit and jump in a triathlon at some point. I know we're talking about that over
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  the past few days. Yeah. Of course, stuff is like, I'm going to do an iron man. I'm like, maybe
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  start it, huh? Yeah, zero to 100 with me. But I think every time I do push it too far, I'm also
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  humbled and have to find grace and power and the recovery and the learnings from each failure.
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  And I think what's different now is I have a really positive friendship with failure. And I want
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  to keep doing it and keep learning. I love that. Having a positive friendship with failure.
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  I think last times we would hang out, it's like this performance-based look a certain way,
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  be a certain person, say a certain thing. I feel like for this, it was so important for me.
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  You know, it's new year, new TI, you. But it's to be who you already are. And allowing every one
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  of us, every woman out there, you're perfect as you are. And I think deep down, let me know your
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  thoughts on this, deep down, we know who we are, but we're so afraid. Yes, because we look at other
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  people or we see these things and we get these creative sparks in our heart and we're like, well,
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  I have to change who I am. I have to be something different. And when you get those sparks or those
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  feelings, it's because it's in you and it's who you are. And that's the whole point of the TI,
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  you be the new. You already are. Sorry, it's a tongue twister for it. I know it is.
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  I pause for a second. It's in you already. It's not this outward thing that you have to change
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  and chase and be. It's just unleashing and discovering and being honest with yourself and finding
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  the new version of you who's already in there. It's just a new flourished version. My tip for
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  that because this is kind of what the last few years have looked like for me is discovering or
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  rediscovering who I am. Because there can be kind of a scary moment for a second. If you really
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  want to go on that journey where I'm like, I only know who I am for other people and what other people
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  expect and want of me. That really was like the story of my life. And so the last few years has been
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  like, well, it's almost like a blank canvas. And I'm like, I don't know what I want to put on it.
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  I can make this for somebody else, but what's inside of me. And so it's okay for a second. You just
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  start asking yourself and like rediscovering the things that light you up and that love you and
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  or that you love. And that's just a part of the journey for a second. It's kind of like the pause,
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  too, that we were just talking about. It's okay to pause. I think sometimes I know for me in my
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  younger days, it's like, well, look, that's working. So that's how I have to be or that's working.
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  That's how I have to be. Oh my gosh, I have to be more fit because look, you're booking job. Okay.
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  And I have to be this, this, this, this. And when you can pause and step back, then you can do
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  all of that and be like, oh, this is what I am. And that's okay. Yeah. And that's what's going to
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  work. I just have to be confident in that. I would agree. Like a lot of a lot of profound
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  moments happen in the pause and Karina, we're talking about this the other day that instead of
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  retaliating or being reactive toward anyone who's coming at you with weird energy, just step away,
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  communicate, but take a pause and notice how much power comes from the ability just to be calm and
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  quiet and come back with a really mature and authentic response. So, yeah, I think the power is
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  in the pause. I think you just came up with my new meditation series name, the power in the pause.
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  Yeah, everything. Oh my gosh.
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  Oh, that was fun. And yes, it's time to hit pause and make sure you subscribe to the podcast.
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  Just click that subscribe because you don't want to miss part two.
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  All right. I love you all. And this is just the beginning of hanging out more. Leave a comment.
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  Of other guests you want to have on the podcast questions you have. And again, there's always
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  weekpipe.com slash Karina Don. I love you. And this is not goodbye because we are still working out
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  every day and meditating in your tonered up app. So I'll see you there.