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28. The Dos and Don'ts of Living as an Empath · Lately with Lexi

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  Have you ever walked into a room feeling completely fine and
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  walked out feeling
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  SPEAKER_00: like a completely different person?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe drained, anxious, or heavy with no idea why.
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  Maybe you leave a dinner with a friend buzzing with anxiety
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  that you didn't have
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  SPEAKER_00: when you arrived,
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  or you scroll through the news for 10 minutes and carry the
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  weight of it for the
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  SPEAKER_00: rest of the day.
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  Or you avoid social situations altogether because they simply
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  feel like too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: If any of this sounds familiar,
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  SPEAKER_00: chances are you are an empath or a highly sensitive person,
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  SPEAKER_00: someone who senses other people's energy and takes it on as your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: For years, this was me.
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  I didn't have the language for it at the time,
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  but I was absorbing everything.
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  Everyone's stress,
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  sadness,
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  unspoken pain,
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  and I had zero tools to protect myself from it.
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  Being an empath felt less like a gift and more like a curse I
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  couldn't turn off.
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  SPEAKER_00: It took me years of studying yogic practices,
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  SPEAKER_00: energy healing,
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  SPEAKER_00: working with healers,
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  and honestly burning out more times than I would like to admit
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  to finally learn
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  SPEAKER_00: that my sensitivity wasn't the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: My lack of structure around it was the problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today,
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  we're getting into the do's and don'ts of living life as an
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  empath because this is
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  SPEAKER_00: something I wish someone had walked me through a long time ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Lately with Lexi,
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  SPEAKER_00: Now let's get into it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your sensitivity is not something that needs fixing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is something to steward.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is nobody teaches us how to do that.
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  Most of us figure it out the hard way through years of
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  wondering why we feel
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  SPEAKER_00: everything so deeply when everyone else seems fine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have been practicing yoga and energy work for over a decade now,
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  SPEAKER_00: and the single biggest shift for me as an empath,
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  SPEAKER_00: it wasn't learning how to feel less.
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  It was learning how to process my feelings without staying
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  attached to those feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of it as emotional hygiene.
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  The same way that you brush your teeth or wash your face at the
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  end of the day,
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  SPEAKER_00: your energy needs that same kind of care.
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  Especially if you're someone like me on the spiritual path or
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  if you're building a
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  SPEAKER_00: life outside of the traditional status quo.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you're forging your own path,
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  SPEAKER_00: you already feel things like doubt,
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  SPEAKER_00: loneliness,
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  SPEAKER_00: and the weight of being misunderstood.
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  SPEAKER_00: Add unmanaged sensitivity on top of that and it's a recipe for burnout.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of it like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: The better we care for ourselves and protect our energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: the brighter we can shine our light into the world.
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  And I think we can all agree that the world needs more
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  lightworkers now more than ever.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today I'm walking you through what I've learned,
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  starting with the patterns that quietly drain you and the ones
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  I had to unlearn
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  SPEAKER_00: myself.
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  And then we'll get into specific practices that can actually
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  help you step into
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  SPEAKER_00: being an empowered and embodied empath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's start with what not to do.
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  As an empath,
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  you do not want to become an emotional dumping ground,
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  which is really easy to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is probably the most common trap I see empaths fall into,
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  and it's the one that drained me the most before I recognized
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  the pattern.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when we feel deeply and we listen well,
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  SPEAKER_00: empaths tend to attract people who need to unload.
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  SPEAKER_00: And on the surface, that might feel like connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels like you're helping.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it feels like this is what you're here to do.
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  But there's a difference between holding space for someone and
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  becoming their
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  SPEAKER_00: emotional landfill.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's how you know you've crossed the line.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might have people in your life who only call when they're in crisis.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your conversations are almost entirely one-sided.
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  SPEAKER_00: They talk and you absorb.
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  SPEAKER_00: You find yourself constantly rescuing,
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  SPEAKER_00: problem-solving,
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  or carrying someone else's emotional weight long after the
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  conversation is over.
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  I used to think that this is just what being a good friend
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  looked like,
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  but it's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Compassion does not mean carrying everyone else's pain.
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  You can love someone deeply and still say,
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  I don't have the capacity for this right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can be kind and still protect your energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those two things are not in conflict.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the part that might be uncomfortable to hear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the most empathetic thing you can do is not hold space.
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  Sometimes the most loving thing is to let someone sit with
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  their own feelings
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  SPEAKER_00: instead of taking it on for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how you empower people instead of creating dependence.
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  This connects directly to the second don't because this one is
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  going to take this a step deeper.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't confuse empathy with responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the one that kept me stuck for years.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would feel someone suffering,
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  SPEAKER_00: a friend,
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  SPEAKER_00: a client,
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  SPEAKER_00: sometimes a complete stranger,
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  SPEAKER_00: and immediately feel like it was my job to fix it,
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  SPEAKER_00: to help heal them,
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  SPEAKER_00: to help make them feel better.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's not empathy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a savior complex relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: wearing empathy's clothing.
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  And I say that with compassion because I know how real it feels
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  when you can sense
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  SPEAKER_00: exactly what someone is going through,
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  SPEAKER_00: what that urge is like to step in and solve it for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can be overwhelming.
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  SPEAKER_00: It feels wrong not to help them.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's what I've learned.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your role as an empath is not to save.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's to witness, to support,
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  SPEAKER_00: to hold space.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there is a difference between the two.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you try to fix someone's pain, you rob them from their own growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You take on energy that was never meant for you.
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  And then what can happen is you completely deplete yourself in
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  the process,
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  which means you have less to give to the people and the work
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  that actually need
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  SPEAKER_00: you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of it like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lighthouse doesn't swim out to save every ship.
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  SPEAKER_00: It stands firm and shines its light.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ship finds their own way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be that lighthouse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your sensitivity allows you to see people, to really, really see them.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the gift.
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  But seeing someone clearly and carrying their burden for them
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  are two very different things.
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  SPEAKER_00: One is empathy and the other is self-abandonment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the next time you feel that pull to fix or rescue,
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  SPEAKER_00: pause and ask yourself,
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  am I being asked to hold space or am I volunteering to carrying
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  something that
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  SPEAKER_00: isn't mine?
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  That distinction will protect your energy almost more than
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  anything else I can teach you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And third...
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not ignore your physical signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body is always talking to you.
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  And as empaths,
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  we tend to feel misalignment in the body before the mind ever
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  catches up.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we got to tune into those signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  that sudden wave of fatigue that hits you out of nowhere or the
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  tightness in your
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  SPEAKER_00: stomach before a conversation that you've been dreading,
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  a headache that shows up after spending time with a certain
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  person or emotional
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  SPEAKER_00: heaviness that settles in for almost no apparent reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those aren't random.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are data points.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body is communicating with you.
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  It is always communicating the truth and what you need to pay
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  attention to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Personally, for years, I ignored these signals.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would push through fatigue.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would explain away low back pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would chalk it up as, you know, something unavoidable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would do anything to avoid the real underlying messages.
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  Which was usually communicating to me that something in my
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  environment was off that
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  SPEAKER_00: I needed to take responsibility for in order to shift.
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  This ties all the way back to episode 22 where I shared a
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  little bit about my health journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ovarian cyst,
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  SPEAKER_00: the back injury,
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  the years of overriding all of my body's signals because I
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  didn't know how to
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  SPEAKER_00: listen.
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  That pattern didn't just apply to my physical health,
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  it applied to my energetic health too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I would even go as far as saying that's where it all started.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's what I want you to practice.
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  Start treating your physical sensations as information rather
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  than inconveniences to ignore.
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  SPEAKER_00: When something shows up in your body, especially suddenly, get curious.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't judge it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't push through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just ask, what is my body trying to tell me right now?
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  The more you honor those signals,
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  the louder and clearer your intuition becomes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the faster you can course correct before you're fully drained.
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  SPEAKER_00: And lastly, don't isolate completely.
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  I saved this one for last because I think it's the one most
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  empaths are resistant to hearing.
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  SPEAKER_00: When the world feels like too much, and if you're an empath, it will.
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  The instinct is to withdraw,
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  to cancel plans,
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  to stay home,
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  to build a cocoon and hide in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look, I get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have done it many times after Nashville,
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  SPEAKER_00: after leaving France,
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  SPEAKER_00: during every major transition that I have navigated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And trust me, there has been a lot.
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  There were seasons where I pulled back from almost everything
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  and everyone because
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  SPEAKER_00: being around other people felt like too much to hold.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now listen,
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  SPEAKER_00: sometimes that is exactly what you need,
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  SPEAKER_00: a period of rest,
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  SPEAKER_00: of solitude,
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  SPEAKER_00: of letting your system reset.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there is a fine line between restorative solitude and avoidance.
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  When you cross that line,
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  isolation stops protecting you and starts shrinking you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The goal isn't to avoid feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: The goal is selective connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: That means finding friendships that feel safe,
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  SPEAKER_00: not the ones where you leave feeling drained,
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  SPEAKER_00: but the ones where you feel seen and nourished.
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  It means seeking out conversations that are meaningful instead
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  of performative.
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  It means choosing environments and community that feel
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  supportive rather than
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  SPEAKER_00: forcing yourself into ones that just don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: Healthy empaths stay engaged with the world around them.
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  SPEAKER_00: They just get intentional about how.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, that is connecting to my priestess community and friendships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, my local yoga community.
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  These are the spaces where I always feel the most inspired and
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  I never feel drained after it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find those communities for yourself.
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  And if you're not sure where to find that,
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  please reach out to me directly.
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  I would love to point you in the right direction of finding a
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  community where you
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  SPEAKER_00: feel like yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And look,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you've been pulling back,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not here to shame you for it,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I am here to gently say,
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  SPEAKER_00: don't let your sensitivity become a reason to hide.
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  The world needs your light and the right people and spaces will
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  never ask you to dim it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now,
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  the four things I just shared are all about what it is that we
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  need to unlearn as
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  SPEAKER_00: empaths,
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  SPEAKER_00: but knowing what to stop doing is only half of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You also need practices that actively protect and restore your energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what we're going to dive into now.
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  Here are four things that you can do to live more empowered and
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  embodied as an empath.
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  First,
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  you want to treat your nervous system like your primary
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  instrument.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's what I mean by that.
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  Your nervous system is the thing that allows you to feel,
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  intuit,
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  create,
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  and connect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not taking care of it,
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  SPEAKER_00: everything else in your life might feel a little bit harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: Empaths don't just emotionally relate to other people's experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also absorb them through nervous system resonance,
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  SPEAKER_00: meaning your body is literally picking up on the energy all around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the tension in someone else's voice,
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  SPEAKER_00: the grief underneath a friend's smile,
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  SPEAKER_00: the heaviness in a room after an argument,
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  SPEAKER_00: none of these things that you sense or feel is a flaw.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is your system doing exactly what it's designed to do.
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  But if you don't have practices that help you regulate and
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  discharge that energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: it can accumulate.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over time, it starts to feel like your own.
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  This is why so many empaths walk around feeling anxious or
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  exhausted and can't pinpoint why.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not always your anxiety or your depression.
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  SPEAKER_00: But your body doesn't know the difference unless you teach it.
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  Now the practices that help me regulate the best are also the
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  most simple.
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  Breath work such as humming or the bee breath or opposite
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  nostril breathing.
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  Also any form of meditation,
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  time in nature,
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  and honest to God alone time to decompress.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not scrolling on the couch alone time, but real solitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: The kind where your system can actually settle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it is as simple as baking cookies.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm serious.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is something that can really relax your nervous system.
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  Essentially anything that brings you back into your body and
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  into the present
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  SPEAKER_00: moment and out of the emotional field you've been swimming in,
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  SPEAKER_00: that can help restore and regulate your nervous system.
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  And when your nervous system is regulated,
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  something really beautiful happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your intuition starts to become way more clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of reacting to every feeling that moves through you,
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  SPEAKER_00: you can actually discern what's yours and what isn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that discernment is everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: This brings me to the second thing that you can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, this is one that changes the game.
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  SPEAKER_00: Practice energetic boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this one sounds obvious for most empaths, but we forget it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm someone who spent years not setting boundaries whatsoever.
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  We want to be mindful that we're not confusing feeling
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  something with being responsible for it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me say that again at
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  Feeling someone's pain does not mean that it belongs to you or
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  that you have to solve it.
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  One of the simple tools I use and I come back to constantly is
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  a mental check-in
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  SPEAKER_00: where I notice a shift in my energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I pause and ask myself, is this mine or is this someone else's?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now that one question has saved me more times than I can count.
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  SPEAKER_00: Energetic boundaries also look like practical everyday choices,
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  SPEAKER_00: limiting your exposure to chaotic or draining people,
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  SPEAKER_00: keeping social interactions shorter when you need to,
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  and leaving environments that feel heavy instead of pushing
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  through it and
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  SPEAKER_00: pretending that you're fine.
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  Also,
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  even setting screen time limits or even deleting social media
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  from your phone altogether.
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  SPEAKER_00: These things can all really help protect your energy.
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  Empaths who don't learn how to set these energetic boundaries
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  can burn out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've seen it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have been there before.
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  SPEAKER_00: You give and give and absorb and absorb until there's nothing left.
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  And then you wonder why you are exhausted,
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  resentful,
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  or completely shut down.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the thing about boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are not walls.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are filters.
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  They let love and connection through while also protecting you
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  from carrying what
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  SPEAKER_00: was never yours to carry.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now,
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  SPEAKER_00: boundaries protect you in the moment,
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  but what about the inputs you're choosing to let into your
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  field every single day?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's number three.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to protect your energy inputs.
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  SPEAKER_00: This one is huge.
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  SPEAKER_00: I talk about it a lot because I think we underestimate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: As empaths, we are deeply affected by what we consume.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't just mean food.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean everything.
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  Social media,
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  the news,
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  conversations,
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  the energy of the environments that we put ourselves in.
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  SPEAKER_00: We feel all of those things very, very deeply.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every single one of those inputs shapes your internal state.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not paying attention to what you're absorbing,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're letting the world dictate how you feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had to get really honest with myself about this.
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  There was a season where I was doom scrolling the news every
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  morning and wondered
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  SPEAKER_00: why I felt the weight of the world was on my shoulders before noon.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because I wasn't carrying my own energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was also carrying everybody else's in the news.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I started paying attention.
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  SPEAKER_00: I started unfollowing accounts that left me feeling drained or anxious.
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  SPEAKER_00: I stopped watching the news first thing in the morning.
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  I got more intentional about the conversations I was having and
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  whether they were
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  SPEAKER_00: filling me up or depleting me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this isn't about building a bubble or avoiding reality.
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  It's about recognizing that your energy is a resource and you
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  get to choose what
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  SPEAKER_00: you spend it on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it like this.
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  You wouldn't eat something that made you feel sick every single
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  day and not expect
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  SPEAKER_00: it to affect your health.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your emotional and energetic intake works the exact same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be protective with what you let in.
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  Your sensitivity is a gift,
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  but it means that inputs matter more than they do for most
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  people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And finally,
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  SPEAKER_00: even with boundaries and intentional inputs,
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  SPEAKER_00: empaths still accumulate emotional residue throughout the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just part of being wired this way.
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  And this is why the fourth and final thing to do as an empath
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  is so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is also my favorite one.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to create daily energetic resets.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of this as washing off the emotional dust from the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when you're doing everything right,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're regulating your nervous system,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're practicing boundaries,
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  SPEAKER_00: protecting your inputs,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're still going to pick up things and that's not your fault.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not failure.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just what it means to be sensitive.
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  SPEAKER_00: The key is having a reset practice that you can come back to daily.
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  I have a couple different ones that I love and I do
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  periodically throughout the
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  SPEAKER_00: week that I'll share.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first is taking an auric cleansing bath.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is as simple as two cups of Epsom salt,
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  SPEAKER_00: one cup of apple cider vinegar,
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  SPEAKER_00: and it sounds simple,
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  SPEAKER_00: but there's real wisdom behind this.
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  Salt has been used for centuries across cultures for
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  purification and energetic cleansing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It helps to clear your aura and your electromagnetic field,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I try to do this at least once a week,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially after really emotionally draining days.
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  Another practice I love in the mornings if I ever wake up
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  feeling less than ideal
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  SPEAKER_00: is a cold shower.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about the different elements and what are you most drawn to?
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  SPEAKER_00: Me, I'm a cancer.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love all things water.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why salt baths and cold showers are two of my favorite practices.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what does that look like for you?
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  Maybe you are someone who's drawn to the earth and you
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  experience a lot of benefits
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  SPEAKER_00: from grounding,
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  SPEAKER_00: putting your feet in the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And
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  SPEAKER_00: getting outside, being next to a tree, touching a tree.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you put your feet on the earth,
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  you are literally discharging energy that you've been carrying
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  and it helps to
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  SPEAKER_00: reconnect you to the earth's natural electromagnetic frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even five minutes of this is so cleansing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you can't take a bath or get outside,
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  visualization also works very powerfully and it doesn't have to
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  take very long.
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  You can simply close your eyes for a minute or two and just
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  imagine releasing
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  SPEAKER_00: everything that you've taken on from that day.
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  You can visualize gray smoke just pulling down and out through
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  the bottoms of your
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  SPEAKER_00: feet and back into the earth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also call upon your guides,
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  SPEAKER_00: maybe Archangel Michael,
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  SPEAKER_00: to help facilitate this cleansing and alchemizing of energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: releasing anything and everything that does not serve you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Personally,
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  I like to call upon Archangel Gabriel to place an energetic
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  shield around my auric
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  field to protect me and allow only energy of the highest
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  vibration of love to enter
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  SPEAKER_00: my field.
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  You can also set an intention or say a prayer before any of
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  these practices.
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  Something as simple as I cut away all low vibrational
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  frequencies and energetic
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  SPEAKER_00: cords that have attached to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I release everything that is not mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I reclaim my space and energy now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it is.
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  That act of conscious intention is in and of itself a form of
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  energetic protection.
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  SPEAKER_00: The point is find your own version of this.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have to look like mine or any of these that I've shared.
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  You just want to find a practice that is a non-negotiable to
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  help reset your energy
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  SPEAKER_00: so that you're not carrying yesterday's energy into tomorrow and
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  SPEAKER_00: And so on.
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  So my invitation for you is to choose one energetic reset
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  practice that you can
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  SPEAKER_00: commit to daily for the next seven days.
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  SPEAKER_00: Try it out and see how you feel one week from now.
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  Chances are you're going to want to continue these practices
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  regularly because of
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  SPEAKER_00: how much they help.
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  All right,
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  so we covered a lot in today's episode,
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  so here's what I want you to walk away with.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, your sensitivity is a superpower.
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  Being an empath doesn't mean you have to absorb everyone's
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  energy around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It means you have to get intentional about how you move through it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Second,
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  SPEAKER_00: Recognize the patterns that drain you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't allow yourself to fall victim to being an emotional dumping ground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't confuse empathy with responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen to your body when it's telling you something is off.
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  And if you've been isolating,
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  just ask yourself whether this is rest or avoidance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And third, build the practices that soothe, protect, and expand you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Treat your nervous system like a primary instrument.
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  SPEAKER_00: Practice energetic boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, feeling something doesn't mean that it belongs to you.
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  Be protective of what you consume and create a daily reset so
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  you're not carrying
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  SPEAKER_00: yesterday's energy or emotions into today.
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  And just know that when you have the tools to regulate and
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  protect your energy,
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  SPEAKER_00: your intuition sharpens.
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  Your spiritual connection to God,
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  and in this case,
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  God as your greater being,
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  will deepen.
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  And you can show up more fully for the people and the work that
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  you care about most
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  SPEAKER_00: without losing yourself in the process.
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  This is how to call your power back as an empath so that you
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  can live sovereign and free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Lately with Lexi.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this episode resonated with you, I would love to hear from you.
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  You can leave a comment below,
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  SPEAKER_00: It helps me to reach more people who need to hear this.
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  And if you're an empath who wants to build your own energetic
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  practices and learn
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  SPEAKER_00: how to work with your sensitivity instead of against it,
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  SPEAKER_00: I offer one-on-one intuitive readings and energy healing sessions.
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  SPEAKER_00: The links to work with me are in the show notes below.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next week.