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Ep 11: Celebrating Non-Traditional Milestones: Why Healing, Boundaries & Small Wins Deserve a Celebration Too · Real Talk Real Healing

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey y'all, this is Desi.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: And this is Lisa.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to our podcast, Real Talk Real Healing, where we support women through their healing journey.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_01: Through raw stories, authentic dialogue, and uncomfortable but very necessary conversations, we explore the full range of emotions, energetic, spirituality, and physical well-being that come with being human.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: We believe in a world filled with filters and service-level messages that healing begins with truth and a little bit of magic.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to another episode with Lisa and Desi for our podcast.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: We are so excited because this episode is going to be all about celebrating non-traditional milestones.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: And before we get into it, we have to celebrate for ourselves that this podcast, we already are launching 10 episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yay! And also, we are in multiple countries.
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  SPEAKER_00: So shout out to the countries of Africa, Brazil, Canada, India, Egypt, UK, and all of course the towns and our supporters in the US as well.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: We just thank you guys so much because we're over 100 downloads already.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: Insane.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: And we're like we lit launched a month ago, uh, pretty much.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: So insane.
• 1:20
  SPEAKER_00: So thank you guys so much.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we are so excited and we're so grateful that you guys are tuning in every week and that we are just being able to spread the message.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's literally was our our prayer basically before we got on this is that we just want people to hear our message.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: We want God, universe source, to speak through us.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: So we hope that every episode is really fulfilling you and inspiring you in whatever capacity.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: So thank you guys so much for being here because we wouldn't stay here if it wasn't for you guys.
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  SPEAKER_01: So thank you.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_01: Amen.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we were really going through the back end right now, and we realized we actually have over 150 downloads.
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  SPEAKER_01: We thought we were just trying to break 100, but actually we have over 150 downloads, which feels so exciting.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: And the fact that our message is now getting to multiple countries around the world, all throughout the states here and the US, how amazing is that?
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm just feeling so grateful and so thankful that you guys are tuning in and enjoying us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we really wanted to bring this episode to you because society has told us that we could only celebrate like these really big things that society, quote unquote, deems as good, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or as worthy of celebration, like the graduation, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: If you graduate high school, graduate college, we can celebrate that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of course, we got the engagements and the weddings, and those are all such fun celebrations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Buying a house is another one.
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  SPEAKER_01: When we uh buy house, that's a big celebration.
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  SPEAKER_01: Promotions or career advancements.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are all very good things to be celebrating, having children as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: But there's so many things that get overlooked, and we really want to drive home how even the little things need to be celebrated.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of the things should be celebrated because when we get into that energy and that frequency, more of that gets to come through.
• 3:08
  SPEAKER_01: So, what gets overlooked is healing through the difficult seasons.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_01: Right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Having really hard things that we're working through.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's uh a divorce, maybe it's a breakup, maybe it's changing careers, you know, anything that's been really hard for us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we kind of just like, oh, I just got through it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, I just got through it with the hair of my chinny chin chin, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: We got through it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But honestly, celebrating, I got through it, I did it.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is amazing.
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  SPEAKER_01: That was so hard.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was like a death to my ego.
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  SPEAKER_01: I had to work through my shadows, like those are things to be celebrating, right?
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about setting a boundary for the first time.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_01: There's so many of my clients that I work with where just setting a boundary is like, oh, I don't know if I could do that.
• 3:52
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know, I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, okay, like we'll get there.
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  SPEAKER_01: But that's a huge thing to be celebrated.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_01: When you're saying no, when you usually say yes.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_01: When you're telling a person, no, I will not tolerate that behavior.
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  SPEAKER_01: Setting those boundaries are so important and so uh necessary.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_01: And when we do that, they should be celebrated.
• 4:11
  SPEAKER_01: Another thing that I've already mentioned is like leaving that toxic relationship, whether it's a friendship, whether it's a relationship with a partner that you've been dating.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I have personally left a few different friendships that were toxic and also toxic relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you know, when we're getting out of those toxic places, it could feel like we don't know who we are.
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  SPEAKER_01: We don't know what to do, we don't know anything at that point because we've been so consumed by that person or and that situation.
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  SPEAKER_01: But like celebrate that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Celebrate learning to trust yourself, trusting yourself to leave the relationship, trusting yourself to set the boundary, trusting yourself to say no.
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  SPEAKER_01: Those are all little things that you are doing that can and should be celebrated.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_01: Another thing too is showing up for yourself consistently.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I know I've struggled with that for a long time is just showing up consistently.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when we do those things consistently, it's like, heck yeah, I did it.
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  SPEAKER_01: We can do it.
• 5:05
  SPEAKER_01: I can do hard things, right?
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_01: And so, you know, sometimes uh, you know, in life, the most challenging things happen internally, yet they go completely unrecognizable, right?
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_01: And so the invitation is to start getting curious on what are some of the things that have happened in your life, big or small, that you can start celebrating.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_01: This is one of the things that one of my mentors first really drove home is like celebration is so important.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_01: I would like to quickly celebrate that for Sacred Return, Little Girl, Big XL, I have over 90 women signed up.
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_01: OMG.
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  SPEAKER_01: 90 women said yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: 90 women said yes to their little girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amazing.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah like so crazy.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a huge, huge milestone for me.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_01: It's a huge milestone for my business, it's a huge milestone for this mission that I'm bringing to the world.
• 5:56
  SPEAKER_01: This is definitely the biggest event that I've ever put on in my career, and it has brought up so many things to move through and so many celebrations.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_01: Me and my husband tonight are gonna go watch a movie.
• 6:07
  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna go to our favorite steakhouse, we're gonna really just celebrate all these women that said yes to themselves.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm really celebrating that this weekend, along with all the success with our podcast, and just really, really grateful.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I can say too, something that a lot of programs that I've been in and we've been in, and that you're gonna do for a lot of these women as well, is that whenever you do join a program or a coat with a coach or something, a lot of times they do remind you first thing.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like you just said yes to yourself, like you need to celebrate that.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like saying yes to yourself when you're investing in something that's going to help you grow and help you get into the direction or towards where you want to go, whatever that desire is, is such a big thing.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I know for me, and I don't know about Desi, but like I definitely do under like estimate that sometimes, right?
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's like like I'll be celebrating, I'll share like something that I started recently that I I haven't really said too much, but I'm still excited about.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's like these we just downplay too much of ourselves, and so that is why I'm gonna go into why we struggle to celebrate ourselves.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: Because if you're always focused on the next goal, you really never give yourself permission to enjoy how far you've come.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just feeling that for a second, because how many goals do you achieve and you just go right on to the next one?
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it's something that you kind of give up, gave up on yourself, right?
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're like, I there's no way I'm gonna get there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you just don't even try, even because then you just you talk yourself out of it for whatever reason.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_00: But again, you want to realize that life is worth living, of course, number one.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you have something to look forward to and to celebrate, like that makes life so much more juicier.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: So whether it's a birthday, whether it's the graduation, whether it's the finishing school, whether it's going doing investing in a program, whether it's taking a class for your own damn self, you know, like celebrating these little things, like you're living life today because you're saying yes to yourself or you're saying yes to whatever, whatever feels really good for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because again, we have this conditioning around achievement.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I shared this on one of the last episodes that I was totally an achiever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I needed to have good grades, I needed to perform, I needed to look great, I needed to be like quote unquote perfect, you know, and I was taught that was how I earned the celebration, the love, the the attention, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm sure you're you're also resonating a little bit in some way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're we're taught to earn the celebration, but it doesn't have to be a hard-earned thing anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: We get to rewire this through this conversation and awareness as well.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, again, productivity is often valued more than personal growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many times?
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  SPEAKER_00: And this, I totally I'm a Virgo arising, and Virgos feel like they never get enough done, and they're such perfectionists and judge themselves the most.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: And and whenever you have that free time in your schedule, you're like, I need to do this, I need to do that, I need to do that.
• 9:12
  SPEAKER_00: And if you do stu scroll, if you do X, Y, and Z, uh, you're like, Why did I do that?
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: Because I could have been like, you don't feel enough because you didn't do enough basically in that moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of just relaxing, enjoying the moment, being present, it is so hard to get out of the productivity learning, the learning that we we were conditioned in.
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  SPEAKER_00: So allow yourself to to switch that and shift it just a little bit at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the other part is when you do start to rewire or when you do notice, like, oh, I did I ever like celebrate the fact that I got a promotion at work?
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: Did I ever celebrate that I left that relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Did I ever celebrate that I, you know, did really well and I stuck with my meal plan and my exercise plan, like, and I feel really good about myself this week.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 10:04
  SPEAKER_00: And instead of celebrating and doing a cheat meal, instead of a doing, you know, the drinks and basically spiral yourself back down or back to square one, you still kept going, right?
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_00: Allowing yourself to realize that I get to be present in this moment, I get to enjoy fully the moment right now, instead of being like, nope, next one.
• 10:23
  SPEAKER_00: Like, thanks and next, you know.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: So the other part of this is because again, we get into this conditioning of seeing everybody else and what they're achieving, right?
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Like keeping up with the Joneses, you know, what are they doing over there, or what especially social media, unfortunately, is such a comparison, like and yeah, it's trap, exactly.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: It's a thief of our own mindset and our own lives because we we get caught up in the comparing of ourselves to others, whether it's a new outfit we need, whether it's, you know, they posted so much about their party and their party looked great, and like I need to be at that level for a party for the next one, right?
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like it doesn't have to be that way.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to wait until everything is perfect, you don't have to minimize your progress because moving the needle forward every day and just choosing one putting one step, putting one foot in front of the other and just taking one step forward is really the biggest reason why we need to remind ourselves that celebrating ourselves every little, little, little, little mind milestone and making them little, really little, like every day.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like, did you make your bed today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like something super silly, even, you know, like I feel so good because I did took the steps to do myself.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, like another thing too would be for me, I know, like when I do my routine in the morning, when I do my meditation, when I do my Korea, when I do my, you know, little things for myself to fill my own cup up.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a celebration because I know I'm not going to be reactive later in the day.
• 11:56
  SPEAKER_00: I feel so good today, even though I woke up early on a Saturday and was getting shit done, you know, like I feel so good because I filled myself up first, right?
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm able to to do these things.
• 12:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm able to show up in a different way from this energy as well.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: And then the next part of that is because when you're able to fill your cup up, whenever you're able to say yes to yourself, you actually get to receive more of it because your frequency has shifted.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_00: Instead of staying in the mindset of I need to earn this, I need to do more, I need to do X, Y, and Z.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, without that, I can't get there, right?
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: We're staying stuck in the same frequency.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_00: If you've ever heard of the manifestation or frequency example of a radio station, thinking of your frequency, your energy as if you're on a radio station.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're trying to listen to a station that you love that is at 100.2, something like that, right?
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: That frequency, and you expect to tune into that station and you want to hear some kind of music, but your body's not not on that same level, or you you're you need to automatically.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm messing up this example.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_01: I get what you're saying.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is if we're trying to tune into a frequency that isn't matched to what we're desiring, then we're not tuning into the frequency of what we want to create.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so when we're tuned into the celebration frequency, then we can create more of the celebration frequency, and that's what we would truly want.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_00: And really what that comes down to is the feeling that you are, right?
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: So if you you whenever you think of celebration, it's the joy, it's the bliss, it's the happiness, it's the love.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're expanding instead of contracting into fear, guilt, judgment, you know, anger, sadness, whatever, those frequencies, those energies are not going to allow you to get there and to receive more.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: So when you are open, when you are open to receiving, that's manifestation one-on-one.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: You need to shift your level, you need to shift your energy and tune in a little bit higher, right?
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: Get your gauge a little bit higher.
• 14:02
  SPEAKER_00: And then that way, when you ask the universe and you ask God, when you ask whatever for something that you're creating or something that you're desiring and trusting that it's coming to you, you're able to receive it because you're already at that frequency of whatever that is.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you desire something in manifestation, when you desire the car, desire the house, desire the relationship, you're looking for an energy, you're looking for a feeling behind it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't match that feeling, you're gonna miss it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're not present enough to notice it or be open to your intuition telling you where to go or taking that intuitive nudge and step, you also can't be open to seeing it or feeling it, or you're gonna miss it.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: And again, you can always readjust, but how do you expect the universe, God, whatever you believe in, to give you more if you're not celebrating it?
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like, do you reject gifts?
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: You know, or how do you receive gifts, or how do you respond to a gift?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's it's a surprise gift or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe someone gives you a coupon, maybe someone just treated you to the coffee.
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you respond to that?
• 15:04
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, I need to just pay it forward.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god, like no thank you.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's so nice of you.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how do you receive?
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: Do you reject compliments?
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: Do you do you fully receive that thing?
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_00: Because you can't expect more if you're turning away all of these compliments, whether it's it's you know, quote unquote free gift, right?
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like whether it's a compliment, whether it's a coupon, whether it's a random check in the mail, you know, like how can you say no to these opportunities and these uh these gifts and expect more?
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_00: So allowing yourself to receive and allowing yourself to be in this energy is going to be super, super helpful.
• 15:40
  unknown: Okay.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: And again, it's it's about learning to appreciate who you are already become when you do have these goals and when you do find yourself in this progress.
• 15:49
  unknown: Okay.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: And part of healing is definitely harder because again, when you are wanting to heal or when you want to get progress and anything like that, you're constantly chasing the next goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it doesn't have to be what's missing, or it doesn't have to be the next goal.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: You want to slow down enough to uh be open to receive, to open be open and and enjoy and enjoy life because again, life is so short.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: And when you do when you are able to learn to slow down and enjoy it, it takes life to the next level.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: I did this with my boyfriend last night.
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  SPEAKER_00: We just had really busy weeks and we just sat in the backyard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, do we want more things in our backyard?
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely, but we're not focusing on that.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: We're focusing on let's just chill here for a moment.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: We get to hear the birds, we get to like, it's a beautiful night.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's still a little humid, but it's a beautiful night.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: We get to just chill at the end of our week and like just take some breaths and just talk and just have a really great present time, you know?
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have to be anything fancy.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: We're just sitting there enjoying, talking, whatever, like allowing yourself to slow down.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: And again, like I said, it's hard for me to slow down.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: So this is something that I've learned to slow down and to really see what's actually going on.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: So pausing, allowing yourself to be present.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the other thing, the best tool that you can use whenever you're feeling like you're out of this frequency of celebrating, start to focus on gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude for where you are, gratitude for your life, gratitude for food, for water, for friends, for for family, for X, Y, and Z.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because no matter where you are, no matter what phase, no matter what life, you've probably prayed to get here, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, or you're maybe you're in a little bit of a shift to get to where you're going.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_00: So enjoy the life that you are working really hard to create, where really hard to maintain, whether really hard that you prayed for, whatever that is.
• 17:39
  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude is the anecdote for anything that is lower frequency and and negative, you know, in a way.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it really allows you to shift out of that state and really get into that open receiving, like I said.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so good.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_01: You know, the version of you that survived, healed, and kept going deserves to be celebrated too.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_01: So, over this next part, we're gonna go over some things that you could be celebrating that I feel would be important for you to celebrate and an invitation to start celebrating some of those things.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, the growth of building confidence, right?
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_01: Your growth is building confidence.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_01: Like, how can you celebrate that?
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_01: Celebrating the positive changes that are happening in your life, even if it's the little smallest thing, like you're waking up a little bit earlier, you're making your bed every day, right?
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_01: Those little things deserve to be celebrated as as well, and then really starting to acknowledge your progress and your momentum.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_01: I know as humans, we have this innate ability to want more and need more, and I gotta do more, and you know, keep going and it's not enough.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, we get the Joneses and we think we need a nicer car and a nicer house, and da-da-da-da, right?
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_01: But we're like, we're missing the opportunities in the moment.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_01: And I remember one of my mentors always saying, the lucky ones, pay attention.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_01: Because if you're not paying attention, then you're gonna make these changes and you're not even gonna see it.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_01: And then you're gonna be like, Oh, yeah, I did do that thing, and I did do that thing.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_01: And actually, I had them a lot farther than I than I thought.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_01: So, really starting to pay attention to all the little things.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_01: So, some non-traditional milestones is you know, going to therapy, hiring a coach, saying yes to a free free container, you know, saying yes to yourself to, you know, heal an old wound, you know, choosing yourself, right?
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_01: I think a lot of times we can get caught up on, you know, spending on investing in ourselves, you know, like spending the extra time maybe to go to therapy or spending the money to hire like a coach, a mentor, you know, maybe a trainer if you're wanting to get in shape.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_01: And we think that we're not worthy of that money.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm telling you right now, that money is going to come back to you tenfold when you show up and you do the thing.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_01: Uh more than that, like a hundredfold, right?
• 19:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like you can never take back healing that you got.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_01: You can never take back like coaching and mentorship, like that will always be with you, right?
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, choosing yourself is so important and that should be celebrated as well.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_01: Speaking your truth.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_01: We just had a whole episode on using your voice, speaking your truth, you know, setting the boundaries, celebrating that, you know, learning to receive compliments, learning to receive the lunch, learning to receive the free thing.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_01: Those are all things to be celebrated, you know, breaking generational patterns.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_01: So, like you are when you are going into healing or you are doing the hard things, or you're like, I'm not gonna mess up my kid the way that my parents did to me.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, all those should be celebrated, right?
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_01: You are having the ability to know and to make the decision that you're not gonna do the same things that were happening to you.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_01: And I wanted to bring some emotional milestones to the forefront as well for your celebrations is responding instead of reacting.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_01: Responding instead of reacting.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_01: I think this is a big one for a lot of us.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_01: Most people, we either we react, and a reaction could also be like fawning, it could be freezing, right?
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_01: Where we we don't say anything, right?
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_01: That but when we decide to either speak up in those moments or say your truth or not overreact in those moments, those are all to be celebrated.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_01: You did it, you made a conscious decision not to show up the way that you have been showing up, and you made that change.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_01: Asking for help.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_01: How many of us white knuckle life doing it all on our own, not asking for help, not asking for support?
• 21:27
  SPEAKER_01: I know I personally have been asking my friends as like I'm getting closer into my support group, I should say.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_01: You know, my friends, my business partners, like Lisa, you know, all of them saying, like, okay, I'm pushing up some really big edges right now, and I just need some extra support.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_01: Like I told uh my husband this week, I was like, I just need to be extra sweet, extra kind, all the things.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_01: I know that I'm gonna be feeling like, oh, like I'm pushing up against these edges, and sometimes it's really uncomfortable.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_01: And I don't really love the way that I feel, and it doesn't feel comfortable, but I know that as I push through them, then I'm not gonna have to feel those emotions so much.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_01: Like I'm gonna be able to speak in front of more people.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: And if I have these big goals and these big audacious uh vision of my business, like I have to take that next step, right?
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_01: So asking for the help and then celebrating that.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_01: Like I asked for the help, and that's beautiful, right?
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_01: So those are some of the ways that you can really start, you know, celebrating yourself.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_01: A few more, I'm just gonna list out some as you know, choosing to play without guilt, honoring your needs, creating safety within yourself, learning self-compassion, releasing old labels, no longer having to be the strong one, no longer having to be the perfectionism or the people pleaser.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_01: Those are all things to celebrate.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_01: Trusting yourself more deeply, trusting yourself to set the boundaries, trusting yourself to ask for help, trusting yourself to respond instead of reaction.
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like those are all little things that you can be celebrating like daily.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_01: Like, even if it's a little like I don't know this uh creator, his name's Ralph Smart, and he always says, Do a little samba, baby.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_01: And I just think it's so cute.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_01: And so, like, yes, just like do a little dance in your body, like and do a little praise to yourself, like thank yourself, like thank you, we did it.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I mean, it could be as easy and simple as that.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't have to be like we're going out to dinner and we're doing all these things.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, it should be those sometimes as well, but also like just little celebrations or just like getting on, you know, voice chat with your girlfriend and being like, girl, let me tell you, let me tell you, and like let your friends celebrate with you.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_01: I always tell my friends too, like, wait, what happened?
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_01: Wait, I think that needs a celebration.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, for sure.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: Having those friends, that support group that really will support you in these.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't have one, start looking for some.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: And because that is a definitely a game changer and it heals in way more different ways as well.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 23:48
  SPEAKER_00: So exactly what we're getting into next.
• 23:50
  SPEAKER_00: So creating your own celebration rituals.
• 23:52
  SPEAKER_00: So rituals, of course, can be big, small, just like Desi said.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like maybe it's a little shimmy shake that you're dancing or you're dancing to your favorite song, or you just need to, you know, like scream and and celebrate and just be like, you know, whatever.
• 24:07
  SPEAKER_00: And or maybe you create this around your family, right?
• 24:10
  SPEAKER_00: Your kids, your whatever.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like maybe you guys put on a song and just dance it out for a few moments, you know.
• 24:15
  SPEAKER_00: Ritual really does matter because, again, it's reminding yourself that you're tracking, you're progressing, you're growing in whatever capacity, and it helps your nervous system acknowledge that it's you did something good and you're in a state of completion.
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: So it's it's celebrated.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: And so you get to be in this nervous system state where it's safe to celebrate, where it's safe to keep celebrating, to keep doing things and keep being like I'm winning at life.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing a really great job.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: Because how many times do we forget that we're doing a really great job today, right?
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: No matter what you're doing, no matter how you're feeling, no matter what you're doing, you're showing up and being human today.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_00: That's a freaking great job, you know?
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: And it really does again give you that space to receive more growth, to receive more opportunities, to receive even recognition.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because guess what?
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: Recognition builds your self-worth, builds more compassion, builds more grace for yourself, you know, to be like, oh wow, I forgot I am doing a good job.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: I did do that today.
• 25:16
  SPEAKER_00: How many times have you like heard someone of your friends?
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm like, I did this to a friend actually.
• 25:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, we're I'm doing like meal prep with my boyfriend, and that's something that I'm celebrating because we freaking did a lot of meal prep this week and we're just kind of winging it and like learning a new meal plan, and it's a lot of freaking food, and it definitely takes a lot of time.
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, like I'm so proud because we stuck with it all week.
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I feel really great because I'm like eliminating a lot of processed stuff and less sugar, and you know, and I'm I'm down a couple pounds.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, a great goal, obviously a great outcome.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: But like, how many times do you forget?
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I told my friend, I'm like, Yeah, we're like meal prepping is taking a lot of time, da-da-da.
• 25:51
  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, Wow, that's great, like you're doing great, like whatever.
• 25:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like, she just cheered me on, and I'm like, Oh yeah, that's not a small like win, right?
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's like I'm sticking to the goals that I want right now.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to feel better in my bone body right now, right?
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just getting a little more activity, I'm making it enjoyable.
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm really enjoying our meals too, actually.
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't have to cut out like a ton of food, which is great.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I still get to eat a good amount of food.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_00: I feel full, I feel fulfilled, you know, and I have energy.
• 26:17
  SPEAKER_00: So that is something to be celebrated, right?
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_00: So rewiring what it means to have this ritual or what celebration means to you.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_00: So when you think of celebrating, what does come to mind, right?
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, I had a really busy month in May, you know, with all the birthdays.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_00: So of course, we're eating a lot, we're we're celebrating with cake, we're drinking, you know, all these things.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_00: And that's where it kind of was like, okay, enough.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_00: My body's like, no, thank you, need to need a break, you know, and that's all good, of course, in you know, small doses and everything, and during that time, but allowing yourself to get back to it.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: But then also, you know, we're wiring moving forward.
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like this weekend, I have a couple parties, and I'm like, I don't want to drink, you know, because I know how it's going to set me back.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: I feel really good right now.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: So my thought is like, I don't want to spiral, I don't want to do these things.
• 27:07
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm gonna celebrate after this weekend to be like, no, I I said yes to myself instead of saying just letting myself get into the pressure.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm celebrating my own self because I'm being healthy, I'm listening to my body, I'm listening to what I need, uh, more hydration, all these things, and rewiring just a new meaning for yourself of celebration and creating this new ritual.
• 27:27
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe it's something like you did with me.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm eating and working out, and at the end of the week, what can you do that's a little bit of a celebration?
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's just dancing it out, maybe it is like indulging in a little bit uh, you know, a nicer can storage container for your food.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's right, like we have to get storage containers.
• 27:47
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I was thinking of it.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I I'm trying, we're trying to be really good with the glass, right?
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and so we need some more glass ones for first for Steve, my boyfriend, because he needs like four meals a day.
• 27:58
  SPEAKER_00: TikTok TikTok shop.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, that's a good one.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: That's a good idea.
• 28:02
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, like maybe it's new containers because you're like, oh, I got something new, or maybe it's a new workout outfit, right?
• 28:07
  SPEAKER_00: New sports bra, new earrings, new something doesn't have to be something to purchase, right?
• 28:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like allow yourself to be open, be creative, you know, do something really simple.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a new water bottle, you know, or something that's like gonna support your goal, but it also feels really good because something a little bit new.
• 28:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, most of us women look like a little something new.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: So it can be something small, it doesn't have to be a big thing.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_00: So other ways that you can create these celebration ideas or rituals, right?
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, trying to find something with your friends, like Jesi said, maybe it's voice noting with some with one of your friends and be like, guess what I did this week, you know, da-da-da.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: And like then they're gonna be like, Oh my god, I'm so proud of you, da-da-da.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, you want to have that little little bit of um commute community, right?
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: And support in a group.
• 28:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, if you can, of course.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_00: And if you can't, let us know because we will celebrate you.
• 28:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, we definitely love to celebrate.
• 29:01
  SPEAKER_00: And the other thing, if you're like, uh, I don't know, this is a little little of an edge, right?
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: To even share with one of your friends, then allow yourself to write a letter to yourself.
• 29:10
  SPEAKER_00: Be like, I am so proud of you.
• 29:12
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's your future self.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, that you're just like, I'm so proud of you for doing X, Y, and Z.
• 29:18
  SPEAKER_00: You stuck with it, you did amazing, you showed up every single day, and I know how hard it's been, but you freaking did it.
• 29:25
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm so proud of you.
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: And thank you for showing up because now I'm in this this other uh part of life, a new chapter, and it's all because you showed up for yourself and you said yes to yourself.
• 29:38
  SPEAKER_00: You could be also creating a gratitude journal or or typing or texting even yourself, or just again, gratitude is such a great thing to do every single day.
• 29:49
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe it's the end of the day.
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like I know I listened, I read a book, and I think I mentioned it on one of the podcasts, is that you want to rewire your mind about the whole day.
• 29:57
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe you did have a really bad day, but what is a moment that within the day that you could say that was a win, that was progress, you know, I did or I did a really great job today, even though it was a really tough day, I did a really great job today.
• 30:09
  SPEAKER_00: Just acknowledge it because we tend to focus on the negative.
• 30:13
  SPEAKER_00: We tend to focus that today was a really shitty day.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: And instead of being like, you know what, I I did have one moment, maybe I really enjoyed my meal, maybe I hit my hydration, whatever that is, you still can deem it as a great day, even though it was like one shitty moment that spiraled a little bit, right?
• 30:29
  SPEAKER_00: It happens.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you buy yourself flowers, you know.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: How often do we wait for somebody else to buy ourselves, buy us flowers and you know, and acknowledge us, you know, when we get to acknowledge our own selves.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: And that is building the trust, building our own self up in the moment.
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_00: And you could even celebrate by doing these little moments and writing down all the moments and how you're feeling each day, because then when you look back on it and be like, wow, I had a freaking great week.
• 30:55
  SPEAKER_00: I had a freaking great month, you know, I had a really great day this week.
• 30:58
  SPEAKER_00: I forgot I did that.
• 30:59
  SPEAKER_00: That's when we do our energy renew every year.
• 31:02
  SPEAKER_00: We always look back on our calendars and our pictures and be like, what actually happened this year?
• 31:06
  SPEAKER_00: And there's like literally 10 times out of 10, I'm like, oh yeah, I forgot that that happened this year.
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I went to two concerts.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_00: That's right.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my God, what a great year! Like, you forget the moments that you had with yourself and with people.
• 31:18
  SPEAKER_00: So allow yourself to be like, oh yeah, that's right.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_00: I did great.
• 31:21
  SPEAKER_00: Or like looking back at pictures and being like, oh my God, I did like change my style.
• 31:25
  SPEAKER_00: I did, you know, lose a little weight in my face and I look like I'm happier, like whatever that is.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_00: It could be so many different things, and obviously it doesn't have to be material or anything like that, but really celebrating your own journey and your own self, taking yourself on a solo date, special meal, whatever it is.
• 31:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the other thing that I can mention is that we did uh I saw a video where it was like a this friend group did a cake.
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: And you know how there's these videos where like put someone had, you know, you normally it's a cake with celebrations some for someone's birthday, and it was a cake, and each person came in and put one um little like flag kind of like toothpick thing in the cake with their like goal or what they were celebrating.
• 32:08
  SPEAKER_00: So maybe it was like they finished school, or one person said they like lost a little weight because they of the progress, you know, whatever it is, and each person put something in the cake and they were all celebrating together.
• 32:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I just love that idea because again, it was showing that like not everyone's in their the same chapter, you know.
• 32:25
  SPEAKER_00: Life is life, you know, everyone is on their own timeline.
• 32:28
  SPEAKER_00: So whether again, whether it's an emotional win, whether it's a physical win, whether it's a you know, a just a simple small win of therapy and and whatever that is for you, celebrating it because you deserve to be celebrated, you are so worthy of celebration.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_00: And trust me, we're human too, and we're learning this as well, and reminder of this, but it's this is such a good reminder that it doesn't have to be these big milestones, it can be a small one.
• 32:53
  SPEAKER_00: Um and yeah, I just think oh, as a reminder that my my own personal uh win that I can share too, besides my meal plan that I was excited to to stick with this week is that I joined another certification.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's that's all about kundalini and and alchemy and and shifting the energy about the chakras and everything.
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_00: So it's something that I haven't admitted very often because it's like again, it's like not everyone, not everyone cares, you know, whatever.
• 33:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just downplaying it, right?
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: Instead, I'm like, no, I I'm freaking doing this.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: I had to do 40 days of a practice called morning sadhana.
• 33:29
  SPEAKER_00: It was like getting up at 3 3 30, 4 4 in the morning, having to do this two and a half hours for myself.
• 33:35
  SPEAKER_00: It was crazy.
• 33:36
  SPEAKER_00: I can't believe I did it, but I did it.
• 33:38
  SPEAKER_01: Good job.
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_01: Let's go.
• 33:40
  SPEAKER_00: I was sharing with Desi.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_00: She was cheering me on.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_00: She was like, Wow, I can't believe you're doing that.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it's amazing.
• 33:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sharing with a couple of my yogis, like, and they were like, What do you have to do?
• 33:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like, are you kidding?
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, and then of course, we had a support group that we were all doing it together, and that's what helped keep helped us all stay consistent.
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_00: We all cheered each other on.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, we were all going through it in different ways, and like that is the biggest thing.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, good job.
• 34:04
  SPEAKER_01: That's awesome.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I know that that was not an easy task for you, especially waking up that early.
• 34:09
  SPEAKER_01: And so proud of you.
• 34:11
  SPEAKER_01: I definitely saw the shift, I definitely saw the change in you.
• 34:13
  SPEAKER_01: I definitely saw like your energy shift and just like your your drive, I think, too.
• 34:18
  SPEAKER_01: Like, yeah, like what you want and how you want it and how you want to show up.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_01: Like, it's definitely been a huge shift for you.
• 34:23
  SPEAKER_01: So, congratulations on that.
• 34:25
  SPEAKER_01: Thanks.
• 34:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_01: Um, another few ideas is to gather a few trusted friends and ask them, like, what are you proud of?
• 34:32
  SPEAKER_01: What have you you've moved through?
• 34:34
  SPEAKER_01: What are you releasing and what are you calling in next?
• 34:36
  SPEAKER_01: And really allow that reflection to be with your friends.
• 34:39
  SPEAKER_01: So a few reflection questions that you guys can start asking yourself, maybe journal about it.
• 34:44
  SPEAKER_01: These will be in our show notes as well.
• 34:46
  SPEAKER_01: What growth have I been overlooking?
• 34:49
  SPEAKER_01: What have you not been giving yourself credit where you deserve credit?
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_01: And then where am I minimizing my progress?
• 34:57
  SPEAKER_01: All the little things count because most people are not even doing the little things.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_01: Most people aren't even here listening to the podcast or having this inflection or internal reflection of like, what could I be celebrating?
• 35:09
  SPEAKER_01: Or wait a minute, there is a lot of things I could be celebrating, right?
• 35:12
  SPEAKER_01: So, where are you minimizing your progress?
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_01: And then we would love to know if you guys are struggling with your celebrations.
• 35:19
  SPEAKER_01: Let us know.
• 35:20
  SPEAKER_01: Send us a DM, email us, come find us on IG and let us know what you might be struggling with.
• 35:25
  SPEAKER_01: And then we can do a podcast episode, we can do a part two on really on anything on any of our episodes.
• 35:31
  SPEAKER_01: Like, if you're feeling like, oh, I really love them to go deeper, like please reach out to us.
• 35:35
  SPEAKER_01: We would love to go deeper with you on that.
• 35:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 35:39
  SPEAKER_00: We just want to remind you that not every milestone comes with a trophy, a title, or it has to be on social media and to share and like act like you're, you know, it's a highlight reel, right?
• 35:53
  SPEAKER_00: So allow yourself that these milestones get to be a yes to yourself, get to look more like just choosing yourself is the best decision for yourself.
• 36:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's moving you forward, you're setting a boundary, you're healing a wound, you're trusting your voice, you're showing up again and again and again, even when life is hard.
• 36:09
  SPEAKER_00: And we are so proud of you, and we are celebrating you on the other side of this mic.
• 36:14
  SPEAKER_00: So we love you, we celebrate you, and again, reach out to us if you have any other questions or you'd love for us to dive deeper, or if you want us, like email or message us and tell us what you are celebrating this week.
• 36:27
  SPEAKER_00: We would love to hear what you are specific specifically celebrating.
• 36:32
  SPEAKER_00: You know what?
• 36:32
  SPEAKER_00: We will go on our podcast um IG and post a story that this day that it releases.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna say, what are you celebrating?
• 36:40
  SPEAKER_00: So we can celebrate you.
• 36:41
  SPEAKER_00: We can share it with everybody.
• 36:42
  SPEAKER_00: You can be anonymous and make sure you go to our stories and we will celebrate you.
• 36:47
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• 36:54
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• 37:03
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