Latest / Doing Marriage Well / Sex After Fifty: Closing the Knowledge Gap

Transcript

Sex After Fifty: Closing the Knowledge Gap · Doing Marriage Well

• 0:00
  Doing Marriage Well for April 13, 2026 Sex After 50, Closing the Knowledge Gap
• 0:07
  Sex does not end at 50, or 60, or even 70.
• 0:12
  At least, it need not. This week, I want to talk about keeping sex good.
• 0:17
  These podcasts are aimed at folks over 50, but if you've not reached that milestone,
• 0:21
  I suggest you listen along.
• 0:23
  Some of this will be relevant as you get older, and if you tuck it in your brain
• 0:27
  now, you will have some awareness of solutions when one of these problems occurs.
• 0:30
  Most of us are not nearly as informed about sex as we need to be.
• 0:34
  Most of us are pretty clueless about our spouse's sexual organs and how they function.
• 0:38
  And some like basic information about their own bodies and how they function.
• 0:42
  No one taught us this stuff when we were young, and it's not like the public
• 0:45
  library is offering a course on this for adults. When problems occur,
• 0:49
  many turn to their doctor.
• 0:50
  Now, I'm a fan of doctors, but most get almost no education about sexuality.
• 0:55
  A recent survey of graduating medical students found 80% had received less than
• 0:59
  5 hours of dedicated sexual health education.
• 1:02
  When asked, they said they felt completely unprepared to deal with most sexual issues.
• 1:07
  If you get to a gynecologist or urologist, the situation is better,
• 1:11
  but you have to get to them first.
• 1:13
  Beyond this, I find most doctors won't bring up the subject of sex.
• 1:18
  Because of a stroke, a blood condition, and turnover at the clinic we use for
• 1:22
  primary care, I've seen more than a dozen doctors in the last six years.
• 1:26
  Not one of them has asked if I have any sexual issues. This despite the fact
• 1:30
  that two conditions I have cause sexual issues.
• 1:33
  The other place folks turn for help is the internet.
• 1:36
  There is some great information out there. There's also information that is
• 1:40
  wrong and some that could be harmful.
• 1:42
  Verify and re-verify what you read. The same is true for books,
• 1:46
  as anyone can put one out today.
• 1:48
  The rest of this week, I will touch on some common issues for couples having
• 1:52
  sex after 50. I will give some medical information, but I am not a doctor.
• 1:57
  Take what I say to your doctor. If your primary care physician does not seem
• 2:01
  to have a good understanding of the issue, ask for a referral.
• 2:04
  Most couples can continue to be sexual well past retirement.
• 2:08
  Don't let a speed bump end sexual intimacy.
• 2:11
  This is Paul, and age should not keep you from doing sex well.