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How to stop feeling behind in your business (and why it's a lie anyway) · #BeMoreLobster

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  SPEAKER_00: I'm behind, I'm getting left behind, I've wasted time, I don't have enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you've heard yourself using that flavor of language, then I'm talking to you today because it's simply not true.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to share with you today why it's not true and show you the truth and how to use it so that you can create quicker results in your business and have more fun while you do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're ready, you know what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grab your brew and let's dive right in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's start with what's actually happening when you're believing that you're behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: So whatever kind of language you use, when you believe that you're behind, you're getting left behind, you've wasted time, I don't have enough time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you see that this can only occur in the presence of comparison?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're comparing yourself to somebody else's result, which you probably have no idea how they created it, how long it took them, what kind of life they lived in order to create that result, and what kind of life experience they have now.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just focused on that they have a result that you want that you don't have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Andor you're also comparing yourself to somebody else's definition of success or somebody else's timeline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if I went all men in black on you right now and erased your memory, you would have no way of relating your experience, your result, with somebody else right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: You would just be where you are, and I can almost guarantee that you'd feel way more curious and excited than you do now.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just want you to notice that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I know that sounds very simple because it is, and you'll say to me, Yeah, but it's easier said than done.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'd reply with yes, everything is easier said than done.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, it is a choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you choose to keep being in comparison, you are choosing to keep sitting in your own suffering.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know this might sound a bit harsh for Monday, but I'm just being honest with you because in in the moments when you're feeling the worst, it is available to you in that moment to just choose to come back to where you are and to stop relating yourself to other people outside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's not, we're not going to finish there.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was just me opening it, opening it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because now we're going to talk about what really, really lights me up and about what else is going on here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that when you're telling yourself that you're getting left behind and you don't have time to create the result that you want to create, you're rooted in linear time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are looking back down your past, down your past timeline, and noticing how far it's taken you, how long it's taken you to get here where you currently are, and making it mean that it will take that time and maybe even more again to get you where you want to go.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it just doesn't work like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you know that time is a human construct and that time isn't real, you can actually start to free yourself from linear time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm not gonna go in deep into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know the language enough or the science behind it enough, but I do happen to believe this is my personal belief that that that this linear time thing is a human construct.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm actually gonna put one of my all-time favourite YouTube videos in the notes for you to watch, and it will blow and/or tangle your mind around time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I highly recommend you go watch it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, let's dig a little bit deeper and untangle it a little bit more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then in next week's episode, I'm gonna share with you my mirror frame concept, which will help bring all of this together at an even deeper level.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's go back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, you might want to start with what got you here.
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  SPEAKER_00: That might be what you're thinking when you're getting into this hobby hind, you're thinking, but this is what got me here, and if I do that again, it's gonna take me extra all this time to get to get where I'm going.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you start with what got you here, and it's fair because you're thinking about the actions, it's not actually where you should be starting, it's not the question that you should be asking.
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  SPEAKER_00: The question that you should be asking is who got me here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who got me here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it was the who that created the how, and the how creates results in two different ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: First of all, obviously you have the tangible action, so you do something, you get something, or so you think and so you hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second way that the how creates a result is the frequency that you hold while you're doing the how.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many business women do you know that work their butts off and don't have the results to match their effort?
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  SPEAKER_00: Tens upon tens of thousands of women or business owners, but I all the groups I'm in are mainly women.
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  SPEAKER_00: So can you see?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you willing to believe that action is not the deciding factor?
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  SPEAKER_00: Frequency is.
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  SPEAKER_00: You might want to call it your operating field, your alignment, your vortex.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't really care what you call it, but it's your physical, the physical frequency that's kind of like vibrating in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this isn't just kind of some woo-woo nonsense.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are there is heaps of scientific evidence to support this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can just go find it anywhere you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what this actually means for you is that rather than creating results over time in proportion to your effort, they're actually being created in proportion to your belief and your frequency.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what happens when we bring this together?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're saying that you're behind, are you willing to be to understand that you are actually in lack and in disbelief?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're saying you're behind, you don't have enough time, you're in lack, and you're then holding a frequency of disbelief.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this cannot be a frequency that's in coherence, in alignment with the result that you want that you're working towards.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you could work harder, you could do more hours, you could buy more courses and learn more, you could throw more shit at the wall and see what sticks.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could even download more freebies if you want to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you could do what I teach my clients to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You could actually start with the one thing that is going to give you an ROI of return on your investment, like literally year upon year upon year upon year, for as long as you're in business, and that is to build concrete belief and sufficiency in your ability to succeed, to be rooted, to be in coherence with the inevitability of your success.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where I would get you to start.
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  SPEAKER_00: To help you with that, I would have you use the mirror frame concept to create coherence with the desired result today.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the things that a lot of people, there's a bit of a side note, that I see people doing wrong is that they they they in their brain they have these pictures and they use a language that implies that they're moving toward a goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're moving toward a result in their business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have my clients flip that on its head and you bring the result to you now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I do the mirror frame concept with you next week, you'll understand why that's so important.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the third step is I'd have you have way more fun in your life whilst you build a business more quickly than you have done up until now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you have more fun and when you have more joy, you're actually in that frequency of alignment and of belief and of joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And all of those higher frequencies are creative frequencies.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you have been in the past or even now having this feeling in your body, and let's face it, when we have this thought that I'm behind, because don't get me wrong, there are days when this might come into my brain too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm behind, I'm getting left behind, I don't have time, I'm running out of time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just it doesn't feel good to be in that space either.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I really want you to just notice in your body that when you're in that space, I want you to imagine like that being the imprint that goes through all of your action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're actually diluting the efficacy of your action.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're actually working harder when you don't need to be working harder.
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  SPEAKER_00: So remember those three steps are to start building belief and sufficiency in the inevitability of your success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week you'll be able to use the mirror frame concept, and you can start right now having more fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: More fun, be more curious, have more excitement about building your business because you can when you know it's inevitable, and you will build your business more quickly than you have done up until now with way more joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Please take this through your week.