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Igniting the Inner Spark · Ay Mijita ✨ Embrace your raíces. Reclaim your esencia.

• 0:06
  Dora: Hola, mi gente hermosa.
• 0:08
  Dora: Welcome back to Ay Mijita.
• 0:10
  Dora: I'm your host, Dora Alicia Praxedis.
• 0:13
  Dora: Today's episode is muy especial because I'm sharing a high-level recap of my Inner Spark five-day challenge and we're on day four.
• 0:26
  Dora: We already went through three days and over these past few days, I watched mujeres and a few brave souls ignite their spark, heal wounds they didn't even know they were still caring and step into their poder in ways that were raw, beautiful and powerful.
• 0:46
  Dora: Even if, in ways that were raw, beautiful and powerful, even if you weren't part of this challenge, this episode will give you insights and practices to reflect on.
• 0:54
  Dora: Think of it as sitting in circle with us receiving the medicine that came through.
• 0:58
  Dora: It's been such an honor to hold space for these beautiful souls, been such an honor to hold space for these beautiful souls and being in this collective, especially on live.
• 1:09
  Dora: That's where I've learned so much from these women, on how resilient they are, how much they're going through, what resonates the energy of love and compassion for themselves.
• 1:22
  Dora: To hold this intention over these five days has been such a great honor to witness the courage of these participants and my gratitude to them for allowing me to be part of their journey.
• 1:36
  Dora: So what does this journey look like over these five days.
• 1:59
  Dora: Well, on day one, we covered an open ceremony by lighting a candle and setting the intention for the week, for the next five days.
• 2:08
  Dora: And that's where, day one, we focused on awakening that spark, that inner spark.
• 2:13
  Dora: We talked about how societal and family roles dim our light, especially when we're going through the motions of trying to find ourselves.
• 2:22
  Dora: When we're going through the motions of trying to find ourselves, and oftentimes, because of circumstances, experiences, we just blow out the light, we just keep silent.
• 2:33
  Dora: We don't do anything to change our situation, we just abide by whatever's going on around us.
• 2:42
  Dora: And I shared that I first realized when I was shrinking my light and I would make other feel comfortable, and that was a very young age.
• 2:52
  Dora: I wanted to please my parents.
• 2:54
  Dora: In my family I was the caretaker at a very young age.
• 2:57
  Dora: That's something that very much shaped me into adulthood.
• 3:02
  Dora: I often would get choked up when I would call my dad to come pick me up from school when I was sick, and I felt guilty for that because I felt like I was being an inconvenience to him because he preferred to work.
• 3:19
  Dora: And so I ask you, where in your life are you dimming your spark.
• 3:25
  Dora: To fit in.
• 3:28
  Dora: With some of my participants, this day was super intense because they ended up tapping into some childhood work that needed to come afloat during this time.
• 3:39
  Dora: There were many breakthroughs.
• 3:44
  Dora: On day one and that for me was amazing again to witness this collective started realizing that they lost touch with their natural joy, and so journaling is one way to help reconnect yourself.
• 3:58
  Dora: Now, on day two, this was piggybacking off of my episode last week about the good girl, and so we honed in on what is releasing the good girl mask, that good girl conditioning to be polite, don't rock the boat, sacrificing yourself for others, like just to keep the peace, like just to keep the peace.
• 4:28
  Dora: And so, for me, I remember being that good girl when I was code switching at work just to fit in, or in my family.
• 4:33
  Dora: I would just go with the motions, with my parents, like whatever they said, I couldn't speak back and I couldn't act out, because I felt like I needed to keep that peace with my parents and at home, and especially at work, like I learned to just fit in, not be too out there or too much.
• 4:54
  Dora: And so I learned to conform at a very, very young age.
• 4:57
  Dora: And so in this group, especially live.
• 5:02
  Dora: I saw words coming through such as there was rules.
• 5:07
  Dora: They considered themselves as people pleasers.
• 5:10
  Dora: They were seen but not heard.
• 5:13
  Dora: And so what's one rule you've been living by that no longer serves you, longer serves you.
• 5:31
  Dora: And again, this could be societal norms, such as you have to listen to your elders, you can't talk back, and things of that nature.
• 5:37
  Dora: Now, yesterday, day three, was super powerful because we started digging into our healing of the mother wound and activating our voice, and so we were taught to silence ourselves because sometimes speaking up wasn't allowed.
• 5:55
  Dora: That was used, as our ancestors, our mother, grandmother and the ones before them, as a strategy for survival.
• 6:04
  Dora: But in a sense, we're kind of betraying our own truth.
• 6:13
  Dora: And so for me, going back to that example with my dad of calling him when I would get sick, I felt like this knot in my throat and I would start crying like unconsolably, even before I picked up the phone to call him.
• 6:25
  Dora: So I learned at a very young age to just keep silent.
• 6:31
  Dora: Calladita te ves mas bonita, and that saying really resonated with me and I embodied that we also work through activating the voice by putting a hand on your heart and a hand on your voice on your throat, chakra and humming and feeling that vibration, and I invite you to do the same.
• 6:52
  Dora: This exercise, kicking off with this exercise on that day, really started noticing your voice, the vibration and what was coming up.
• 7:05
  Dora: So I often just swallowed my voice in my family dynamic because I thought that was the best thing to do, not talking back, not providing an opinion, and also my parents kind of made me feel like my opinion didn't matter and that was a theme that we started seeing throughout the night progressing.
• 7:25
  Dora: So that's where we also worked on saying our truths out loud, feeling that release in the throat and lighter in the breath.
• 7:39
  Dora: So I invite you to place a hand on your throat and whisper one truth you've been holding back.
• 7:50
  Dora: Now today, day four, we'll be kicking off boundaries and self-care, and that's where I gave a little teaser on day three.
• 8:05
  Dora: But boundaries does not equal rejection, it actually equals self-love.
• 8:12
  Dora: So I gave a really great example regarding a house and the fence and inviting people over and how intimate you want to get.
• 8:21
  Dora: And that's where setting boundaries for myself I think one of the biggest prominent ones that I've set is for work in my home life.
• 8:32
  Dora: I work from home during the day.
• 8:34
  Dora: So I do have my nine to five and I would often work until late in the hours or early in the morning just to get my stuff done.
• 8:44
  Dora: But then I realized thanks to my husband of reminding me that I'm a workaholic and I have to balance my family, my priorities, my house, my life, and work wasn't just a center, and, as someone mentioned, work is definitely numbing.
• 9:02
  Dora: Some people decide when something is going on in personal life, they just decide to delve themselves into work, to numb, and that was definitely me.
• 9:12
  Dora: So, identifying that I was addicted to work in a way, I realized that I needed to set that boundary of I need to work only till X hour, like five, and I need to unplug, and work is always going to be there.
• 9:30
  Dora: I know that, and so some of the things that I will probably notice tonight is we often struggle with saying no, and saying no in the way with love and compassion.
• 9:43
  Dora: So that's one thing we'll work on tonight.
• 9:46
  Dora: But my question to you is what boundary would honor you right now?
• 9:51
  Dora: Now, I know day five is going to be bittersweet because we've spent every single day together for give or take an hour, but this is where we'll celebrate and integrate.
• 10:07
  Dora: So integration is a key part to healing and it's not just a ritual.
• 10:15
  Dora: We embody it, and so we'll do some cord cutting visualizations.
• 10:20
  Dora: We'll definitely see our ancestors pass blessings, not burdens, to us, and so I invite you to close your eyes and imagine your ancestors smiling, handing their blessings instead of pain.
• 10:38
  Dora: Now take that in, receive, learn to receive those blessings, and that we will end with our sacred space.
• 11:00
  Dora: And there was a lot of shifts happening, and my intention for this group and collective and for this five-day challenge was to ignite that spark if it was dormant, and that's where, not going to lie, I was very scared of putting out this five-day challenge, but I've discovered my gifts of healing in a collective setting and definitely providing that support where needed.
• 11:32
  Dora: Something cool happened last night where it caused me to create a meditation journey and that was to visit the ancestors, and so, if you're still, if you're interested, I could definitely send that off to you.
• 11:50
  Dora: If you want to email me or IM me, spark, I will definitely send that over.
• 11:55
  Dora: You can find that information in the show notes.
• 12:03
  Dora: So in this collective healing, some of the common threads that I've noticed have been silence, guilt, overgiving, people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and so these patterns aren't just individual, they're ancestral and within your culture, especially given the societal and political climate we live in.
• 12:30
  Dora: That's where it definitely shapes us and it keeps us living the story.
• 12:36
  Dora: That's really not ours, but it's adopted and we have this identity so ingrained in ourselves that we don't open up to pensar diferente, to think differently.
• 12:48
  Dora: And so in my own lineage, I learned from my mom how to caretake, like be that mother fully entregada, like immersed, selfless, and that has caused me to just silence and just do.
• 13:07
  Dora: And throughout these years of doing my inner work, it's been eye-opening and witnessing others also go through those motions of discovering and becoming aware of why they are the way they are.
• 13:21
  Dora: And again, that's how I began my spiritual journey was going to figure out like why am I the way I am?
• 13:32
  Dora: It all started because I was able to overcome so much adversity in my life getting pregnant at a young age, trying to keep a marriage together when sometimes it's very shitty and we've dropped the divorce word a few times in our relationship, but we still stick together.
• 13:53
  Dora: Pero por qué?
• 13:54
  Dora: Why?
• 13:54
  Dora: Why are my kids?
• 13:57
  Dora: They're not perfect, but they are human beings that are contributing to this world in their own way.
• 14:06
  Dora: Do they get in trouble?
• 14:08
  Dora: Yes, lo regaño.
• 14:10
  Dora: Of course I schooled them here and there, and that's course correct, it's part of being a parent.
• 14:16
  Dora: But how was I able to continue on my journey of going on to college and then getting a master's degree, with having two kiddos and a husband, and then having a good job, having excellent benefits and a place to work and finally finding my groove, my jam, and I thought, oh, I would be content, but there was still this piece in me that was missing, and that's when my back went out and I feel like everything starts breaking down when you turn 30.
• 14:47
  Dora: Los esos 30 are something else.
• 14:50
  Dora: You graduate into new things and it's adulting in a whole new level.
• 14:57
  Dora: And so, reflecting on those things and over time, it's where I found my faith and my confidence in myself, but knowing that I am a vessel for God, for divine, for source, for spirit, that whatever comes through me is serving everybody around me.
• 15:17
  Dora: But I know God is working through me, in me and around me, and I started witnessing that at the beginning of this month, in September, and I do have news to share, but I'll hold off until I know more.
• 15:35
  Dora: But let's just say the people around me have been so loving and giving and I've been going through my own process of learning to receive in a whole new level, and part of this challenge has cracked me open into discovering and really honing in on these gifts that I have of intuitively healing others, picking up on things, sensations, downloads that I receive, and it could be from their ancestors, their lineage, source, spirit.
• 16:10
  Dora: I am just a vessel here to serve and in this collective has been so beautiful to honor each one that has shown up and we do have a replay and I know that they get this as well.
• 16:24
  Dora: But there's something magical that happens when someone joins live and is part of this collective the energy.
• 16:35
  Dora: So, sitting and reflecting, where have you been holding back For me?
• 16:45
  Dora: Caretaking, silence, expectations, expectations those really shaped me.
• 16:50
  Dora: But which patterns in your family do you feel ready to break?
• 16:55
  Dora: The collective healing is something so powerful when una mujer speaks her truth.
• 17:07
  Dora: So when one woman speaks her truth, she shifts generations, generations back and generations forward.
• 17:15
  Dora: So that is such a gift to you and to your ancestors and to your future lineage.
• 17:33
  Dora: Healing doesn't take a lifetime to begin.
• 17:34
  Dora: It just takes a moment of courage, taking that first step in that direction.
• 17:39
  Dora: And given that you'll probably take two steps forward and five steps back, and if not ten.
• 17:44
  Dora: That you'll probably take two steps forward and five steps back, and if not 10.
• 17:50
  Dora: But it's for you to reassess, realign, review and so breakthroughs happen in community.
• 17:57
  Dora: Being seen is such a great, deep medicine, so healing is not linear.
• 18:04
  Dora: Every single step matters, and I often like to use the Lego metaphor, where every Lego in the Lego set is super crucial and important, because each piece has its job, its function, and so I'll leave you with a few practices that you can do.
• 18:23
  Dora: One is daily journal Drop in one truth per day, and I invite you to say it out loud with your hand on your throat and your other hand on your heart.
• 18:37
  Dora: Number two boundary practice.
• 18:42
  Dora: Say no to one small thing this week.
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  Dora: Number three grounding ritual.
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  Dora: So your hand on your corazón, take a deep breath and exhale and say soy suficiente I am enough.
• 19:17
  Dora: So thank you for joining me in today's episode.
• 19:19
  Dora: I want to shout out to those of you that attended live to the five-day challenge Today is day four, and I want to thank you as my listener, because it's been such an honor walking through this journey with you.
• 19:33
  Dora: If you felt even one spark from this today.
• 19:37
  Dora: Imagine what's possible over 12 weeks.
• 19:39
  Dora: So I am soon to open doors and I currently have a wait list for the inner shift from inside out, and this is my coaching program, which I will talk about ancestral clearing and we work on inner child healing with limpias astrology, human design, the works, my intuitive healing.
• 20:05
  Dora: We get one-on-one coaching.
• 20:07
  Dora: There's some freebies, especially if you sign up before a given deadline, before the end of the month, and I invite you to sign up at dorapraxedis.
• 20:21
  Dora: com, or you can send me a message on Instagram at @dpraxedis, or down in the show notes, you can send me a voice memo or a message.
• 20:31
  Dora: So remember, hermosa gente, embrace your raíces, reclaim your esencia.
• 20:38
  Dora: You are the shift your ancestors prayed for.
• 20:41
  Dora: Hasta luego, bye.