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E96 Honi: Discomfort Is Information: How to Meet Body, Emotions & Mind Signals to Return to Comfort · Ascension Alchemists™ — God Led Sacred Marriage For Purpose & Impact. A Couple's Embodied Walk with Presence of God ALMighty

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Blessings and welcome to the Essential Alchemist Podcast.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: It's your host, Reverend Honey Borden.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: Welcoming you to this amazing episode.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: This is the 96th podcast episode.
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• 0:22
  SPEAKER_00: For those of you that are new, welcome, welcome, welcome, welcome to this home that you are finding, a home where you are accepted, you are honored, and welcomed to a community of believers, those who truly believe in the presence of God Almighty in their life, through their life, and around their life.
• 0:47
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• 1:09
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• 1:14
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• 1:27
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• 1:52
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  SPEAKER_00: So welcome.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Today I just want to talk about this interesting topic of discomfort because it is impossible to be in the human experience and not experience discomfort.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: But what really is discomfort?
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  SPEAKER_00: I really wanted to unpack this today because it is something that touches all of us, and I wanted to pull in the wisdom behind discomfort because often when there is a discomfort, the majority of us want to run away from it, avoid it, do whatever is possible to not face it.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_00: Yet discomfort is bringing the comfort that we are desiring on the inside, but we gotta we gotta face this part that is in disharmony.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_00: So welcome to this episode because I want to speak about how I also go through discomfort and what happens when I'm facing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's go ahead and get started.
• 3:17
  SPEAKER_00: What is really discomfort?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why do we experience this experience of discomfort?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is actually happening?
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of a time where you felt this discomfort inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: What was that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it actually pressure?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it stress?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it not knowing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it physical?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it emotional?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was it mental?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because all of those also plays out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've been navigating this deep understanding of discomfort for a while and all the different layers that come with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are times that I'm finding myself that on the inside I'm experiencing being in this space of discomfort, and I can tell that's actually quite a bit of stress.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a stress that is affecting me somehow negatively, and I'm experiencing that discomfort.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: Yet there are times that I'm experiencing discomfort, and that has to do with the pressure.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: Stress and pressure are two different things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that there's a pressure that I'm experiencing, and the discomfort is whether I can actually hold the pressure or not.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: And then there are times that I'm experiencing discomfort, is because I am hitting an area within me of capacity, which actually talked quite a bit about this on episode 94.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: Last episode of my solo episode, I really went deep into this area of capacity, and sometimes it's actually a capacity or a limitation ceiling that I have faced, and it seems like I can't I've hit a wall, I can't go anywhere else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you all experienced that?
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  SPEAKER_00: There are like different levels of discomfort, and there's actually then physical discomfort, there's actually physical discomfort that is being experienced.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then there's emotional discomfort.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's this whole range of emotional discomfort that, for example, is so uncomfortable, like I would rather not need it.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure many of you have experienced that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then there's the discomfort in certain thoughts that certainly come out of certain beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are many levels of discomfort.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: And now I'm sure you're like, wait a minute, I just thought one level of discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, there's like a range of discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what is that discomfort?
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: Then you have this discomfort with other individuals, you have discomfort with, let's say, driving, you have discomfort, let's say, with some pets or animals, like maybe you have your discomfort with like holding a snake as a pet versus holding a bunny or holding a kitty cat.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: There's that discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: So all of this is amazing because what I've come to really grasp is all of it is just information.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when we don't recognize there's some kind of information that is being opened up to be a revelation within, we completely miss it.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: So what happens is we want to dismiss that discomfort at any cost as quickly as possible and avoid it.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: And this is why a lot of individuals, because of whatever that's that sensitivity with that discomfort is, and what it had touched on the inside, they rather numb themselves, especially if it's associated with pain, they rather numb themselves.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: So that's where alcohol comes in, vaping comes in, that's where you know, smoking pot and all of these other ways, or for example, gambling comes in, just so that there's a different experience, and numbing that area so the person does not experience the discomfort that's usually associated with some sort of pain, that the pain has actually never been healed, never been hugged, never been herded.
• 8:01
  SPEAKER_00: So there was a discomfort that I experienced that I wanted to speak with you on because I also go through it.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: When I go through it, one of the things that I found is, for example, there's a trip coming up for Europe with Michael and I, and and I found myself, as it's gotten getting closer to actually detailed an organization.
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  SPEAKER_00: I found myself hitting these this discomfort within.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, wow, this is strange.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I not being excited about this?
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: I was very excited, and what is this?
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Suddenly there were these thoughts that I had, and these thoughts were more thoughts of little concerns sitting in my field.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I was meeting them in my inner space in meditation, and I was questioned, like, what is going on?
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: Why are these these thoughts here?
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  SPEAKER_00: What what what are they showing me?
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: And and as I sit with them, then the thoughts led to other thoughts.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_00: And then I notice it's tied to certain people, it's tied to, like, for example, this one place in Europe, it tied to like communities that I used to go teach at for several years.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: Going there, not being able to see anyone, and then all those other countries that I would go teach and go to Europe, not be able to see anyone, I found myself hitting these thoughts, like, oh wow, how you know how does that sit with me?
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: To go all the way there after all these years and not see these people that were a really big part of my life.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: But interesting enough, haven't spoken to as much during these years, especially like after COVID, since we stopped traveling.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_00: So they're there, they're always in my heart, and I do miss them, but I haven't been as much in communication.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I found myself then meeting those thoughts, and those thoughts led me to, well, if I'm all the way in Europe, I certainly want to see my brother and his kids.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_00: So then I found myself, then there's these emotions of, oh my gosh, how much I miss my brother and his kids.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: So I find myself the discomfort led to first these thoughts, then it led to some other information.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: Then out of that led to another layer of information on the inside that wanted to communicate with me.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_00: And then I found myself to also notice, huh?
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: If I only do this, then I can't do this.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: So I found myself hitting a limiting belief within me and a cap inside of me.
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_00: So that actually was an experience of a more of a stress that was being experienced in me.
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: So why I'm sharing this with you is to unpack discomfort, you have to give it space and you have to be able to give yourself permission to meet discomfort as one that is here to bring information from inside of you out because it wants to comfort you, but it but it is coming first from this disharmony.
• 11:42
  SPEAKER_00: And as soon as you're maybe able to meet it, you're able to see, okay, is it pressure, is it stress, is it this, is it that?
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: And once you're able to meet it, once you're able to navigate it, then what happens is that from within that which is truth inside of you starts to have a voice, right?
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: And through that inner voice, it is able to be voiced from inside of you.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_00: So, for example, in my case, I said to Michael, I said, Michael, I I want to express something to you, and I want you to just be in a very neutral space because I want to share this, and here's what's happening inside of me.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to just hear it without, like it's it's just a conversation, without there's no decisions made or anything.
• 12:43
  SPEAKER_00: I just want to be able to express as this is coming out that this is what's happening inside, and this is very important, especially if you're in a relationship or if you're going through it, you have a really good friend.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: If you need this to be expressed out of you so you can hear it greater on the inside and be able to see it on the inside, be sure it is someone that can truly hold that right space of neutrality with you and not someone that's going to be defensive or projection, none of that.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: It's just complete neutral space because what happens is as you speak it out, so as I was able to speak it out, I was able to say, okay, well, here's this thought coming to me with this, with it's associated with this, and I was able to give voice to it, and it wasn't the voice of reason, it's just the voice of what that information that was causing that discomfort inside of me.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: What happened was by being able to say that it was able to be brought from inside of me out, spoken out without giving it energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the key part.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't give it energy, it's neutral.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just saying, hey, this is what's inside of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then I was able to witness from within, okay, I can see here, I'm I'm hitting a ceiling here, I'm hitting a limitation here.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_00: For example, if you go to Europe, I have the commitment to the podcast.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: How is it gonna play out?
• 14:27
  SPEAKER_00: If you're, for example, organizing these sight scenes and this and this, how's it gonna affect?
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: So there were legitimate concerns because I care about the podcast, and you know, there's a lot that goes about the that goes into recording podcasts and behind the scenes and internet and all of these things, and you know, could I fulfill this while we are on the road?
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_00: So these are all legitimate concerns, it's not fear or anything like that, it's just actually thoughts and concern.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: So as I was able to express it, then I was able to meet what was a limiting belief in me and what was the capacity that I hit or a limiting ceiling inside of me I hit.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_00: And the only way you're able to move those is by being able to be present to it when it comes out in that neutral space, and then be like, ah, I see you, okay, I see how this is, I see, and I as I spoke it, I was like, Okay, I see how this just hit a ceiling.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, here is what I can do instead while we are on the trip.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: So that acknowledged the capability in me, and within that, suddenly, inside of me was replaced with comfort.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: So, what played at first as discomfort in one way, which I couldn't identify what it was, but being able to unpack it in this way, I was able to identify what actually that discomfort was and where it was coming, and then how I was able to handle it or switch it around so that I can I can address something that was a concern for me because I cared.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: I was able to meet it, so then suddenly that changed on the inside of me to comfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, wow, I'm comforted now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I felt health inside, I feel easy inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Suddenly there's ease, there's peace inside of me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my question for you would be: have you experienced this or have you done this yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you given the space for it?
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: Because it really does need a bit of space for you to just be really, really honest and be able to catch if there are emotional charges with it.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: So for me in this case, I didn't have an emotional charge, it was just discomfort.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: And believe me, I have been in moments where it's discomfort and emotional charge.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Now that's much harder to handle, I have to say.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: When it's emotional charge, it's hitting something on the inside that, especially if it's a wound that still hasn't healed, it's not a scar where I can tell stories about and turn turn those stories into, for example, turn those transform that scar into stories and make it into stars.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I haven't done that, then it's still bleeding.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: If it's a wound, it's still bleeding, you can't go near it.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of emotional charge.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's a clue: if you ever find yourself the discomfort has emotional charge, just recognize it's touched a wound on the inside that's still bleeding.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: You have not been able to stop the internal bleeding, which means but which means what?
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: That means you are still hurting over whatever took place, and you have not been able to come into a resolution place on the inside.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: Often it has to do with whether you were betrayed, you were rejected, or you were neglected, or you were abandoned.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: Those are the four core, core wounds, and so that's still playing out.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: So as a result of it, you find yourself you have to then somehow defend yourself, be protective over yourself, so that way you don't experience the discomfort.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: And that's the one that usually then you do more effort to try to not face the discomfort.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: So that means what you would do a lot of avoidance, or you would do all kinds of numbing.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: Numbing is gonna be a way where you try to comfort yourself, so pay attention to those clues.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: So the experience that I talked about did not have that emotional charge.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: Yet I've also been in those places where it's had the emotional charge.
• 19:11
  SPEAKER_00: In my case, I don't use substance, I don't, you know, I don't do any kind of alcohol, I don't do drugs, recreational, like none of those things.
• 19:24
  SPEAKER_00: I live a very, very pure life.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_00: For me, when when those happens, I know my tendencies.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: I I start like really crazy cleaning, somehow that that makes me feel better.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: So crazy cleaning, straightening things up.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: That's one of the ways that I found a coping mechanism, if you call it, that somehow makes me feel like in charge and control, and that's something that I've been able to recognize to be like, okay, this is a pattern, and I have to shift that pattern.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: The other part is I have if if it hits that, like for example, I just close myself completely off, like completely, and I go completely inward, and I have found myself that has been not a good place to go to, so I've moved out of that, and instead, when I hit one of those pockets, immediately I call the presence of God Almighty to come into my body, literally into my body, and like hug me from inside, so then I can feel safe on the inside, and I can feel comforted, and I can feel my human that is supported, and that that changes the cycle right away.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: And then then after a while, I can journal things and I can somehow go through it.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: And usually what I found is with God Almighty, I'm able to meet that pain, and then I'm able to really cry it out and be able to move through it, and that has been an amazing, amazing, amazing way of meeting when the discomfort has been, you know, much more challenging like that.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: I'll be very curious what has been some of the ways that you move through discomfort, what are the healthy ways you have?
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: Some individuals, for example, hit the gym, some of the individuals, like me, I have stopped anything to do with like Netflix long time ago before that.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: One of my ways, numb myself disconnect, just watch Netflix for like you know, two or three hours.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: I completely have stepped that because meeting that is very important for me.
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: Some people go to the gym.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Gym I found as well is very important.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: I do go for walks, that helps.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: the whatever is the energy move and then I'm able to be in a neutral space like just to find whatever way I can get into a neutral space first and then meet it truly rationally rather than all emotionally be able to be able to be very reasonable with it reasonable in terms of because when when I'm meeting it from an emotional body you're not seeing things from a you're not seeing it in a neutral space you're seeing it from a charged place and then and then you're not experiencing the full truth because you're seeing it from a often a misaligned place that's ties to you being victimized somehow by circumstance or individuals or persons what have and you've been wronged and that really that doesn't serve a purpose although it may have happened but what happens is when you're able to get yourself in your neutral place then you can meet it then you're able to change that discomfort into comfort so going back to you I'll be curious what are some of the what are some of the things that you usually do when you are in a place of discomfort and especially when you're facing people and discomfort what happens to you physically what happens emotionally mentally what happens do you remove yourself do you stay in it depending on how level is that discomfort and also what happens afterwards what do you do the afterwards do you then like if you have to meet individual you know again what happens like I had this experience with someone who it was about a month ago we were very close in this amazing loving place and we were supposed to meet and uh we couldn't find each other in the right place I I wasn't aware we're in two different locations so she just went off she got so upset went off meanwhile we're like I was trying to figure out like like you're in the wrong location this is why we're not finding each other so anyway I found myself seeing this person again and being able to have just a gentle conversation about what happened and she got very very uncomfortable and then a little time passed by and I was able to hold a really beautiful loving space like hey I just want you to know it's just you know nobody trying to harm you like it's just we were in you know different locations so I found myself coming from that loving place it was able to dissolve everything very quickly so never ever discount the power of love and the power of love if you come from that how it can change things around turn that discomfort into a comfort so it's a beautiful conversation to have because it's impossible to be in a human body and not experience discomfort and really like if you step back you know these discomfort they're just pockets of information so if they're pockets of information and the information wants to be brought into us from within so that we can become aware of it then through awareness we can actually do something about it.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: We can actually shift things around but if you're not aware you know it continues and then it seems like we're continuously being a victim to it and then suddenly our field is filled with discomfort so what do we know happens next we're gonna continue to experience more of discomfort in life so we see this is a repeated pattern so in order to change the pattern we're gonna have to step on this pattern by what?
• 26:06
  SPEAKER_00: By stopping recognizing okay this discomfort I experienced it but what is it how is it playing out is it physically is it emotionally is it mentally is it coming from my belief is it from you know what is happening so through that level of awareness then we are able to touch areas by being present to it but being able to see hmm is this a is this a wound is it still leaking or is it no it's a scar okay um can I shift the story about this and the capability of being able to transform that discomfort into comfort because ultimately the entire body is designed to be bringing information to us and if the information is what we're seeing we don't like we actually can change that information so never ever forget just because you experience it doesn't mean you have to stay with it.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: Just because it's come up doesn't mean it's going to be the rest of your lifetime it's not that you are fully capable of shifting this around but you have to be willing to be aware of it and then be present to it and third be willing to meet it so that way you can unleash what you're capable of of being able to change it around and then this exact conversation ties to last week's conversation if you missed it please watch listen episode 94 because that ties into your capability or capacity which also comes with your you know there's also with your confidence and comfort and clarity all of that I went so deep into that conversation which ties into this as well so I am trusting this episode is landing in you so you will begin to have a different relationship with discomfort and not to run away from it but to know hey I can do something with this let me just see what it is first.
• 28:27
  SPEAKER_00: Let me meet it maturely because I can I am capable and it feels amazing because every time you do transform that discomfort into comfort within again you open up space in you so your capacity changes you're able to hold more which is what you're able to hold more of the presence of God inside of you that also changes the way you walk the way you talk the way you're living your life you're embodying more and more of the presence of God Almighty inside of you so it's really the mechanics of it what happens when you're allowing that within you so thank you so much for this I'm very grateful that this also came up for me so that I can in real live time to share it with you what the process is what I actually go through so you can see that this is also available to you and also I'd be curious if you know you have a very unique way that you meet discomfort I would love to hear about it.
• 29:33
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• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: The greatest gift you can give to this world is when you come across material information such as this that really lands in you and it's like ha I can live a different way of life I don't have to suffer I don't have to you know be tangled up there are choices when you apply it to yourself you free yourself and that liberation allows you to live your life better be a live a different embodiment and that is the most generous gift that you can also give somebody else because there is no charge with listening to this podcast there is no fee for this and this is a gift that me and Michael are putting out because it's the gift that God Almighty is giving to us through that personal relationship and as we are discovering these amazing inner sites we're putting it out it's generous so open that generosity and reshare with others because it only helps and it comes back to you hundredfold so have a beautiful blessed day so much love to you and please stay tuned for especially if you're a woman for the launch of my upcoming remarkable product that I've put out it's a free evaluation revelation tool for you beautiful amazing woman women particularly leaders and for you to be able to discover where you are leaking your life force living energy from God Almighty where it's being leaked you just take these 12 questions and you answer them you get a free report that's right free report because I had to create this this is through the agentecai that I've been very busy building and you take that you you get your answer and then it also gives you a result one day you can apply and then you can go further into fully being able to realign yourself back.
• 32:04
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