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Patreon Teaser: Mid Year Check-in with Julia Washington · To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Team Tolerator. It has been a while, but this
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  Speaker 1: week we have our first Patreon preview since we've been
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  Speaker 1: back from summer break. This episode is with the fabulous
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  Speaker 1: Julia Washington from Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous, Pros and
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  Speaker 1: Glow and Jelly Pop's book Club. We are doing our
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  Speaker 1: yearly tradition of in the summer taking a look at
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  Speaker 1: those manifestations and goals that we made back in January
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  Speaker 1: to see if they still apply. How we've been working
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  Speaker 1: on those goals and things like that.
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  Speaker 2: So enjoy your.
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  Speaker 1: our tears. I will see you next time. All right, Well, hey,
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  Speaker 1: Team Tolerator.
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  Speaker 3: As part of the Patreon you are the only people
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  Speaker 3: getting new content during our summer break, and today we
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  Speaker 3: have the one, the only Julia Washington to do our
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  Speaker 3: midyear manifestation check in.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, thank you for having me back.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so excited to be here for the crowd.
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  Speaker 5: Noise that I made.
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  Speaker 3: If you don't recall, Julia is always the person that
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  Speaker 3: does our New Year's Eve check in, So then we
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  Speaker 3: try to successfully actually reflect on those goals in the summer.
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  Speaker 5: Well, you know what, we're doing great because it's still June,
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  Speaker 5: and last year I think we did it in September.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're already crushing our goals.
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  Speaker 4: Yes. Oh well, my year word was quality.
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  Speaker 3: And I I don't know, this summer is so weird.
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  Speaker 5: Tell me why why is it weird? I feel like
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  Speaker 5: you've had a good summer.
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  Speaker 3: I know, I feel like I've had a good summer,
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  Speaker 3: but it also feels like I have been just like
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  Speaker 3: playing house having a good summer, and like everything is
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  Speaker 3: actually on pause, like once again, I'm not working, like
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  Speaker 3: there's no rhyme or reason to what the direction of
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  Speaker 3: my life will be. And when I look back at
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  Speaker 3: my yearly taro spread, it was like, okay, well June
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  Speaker 3: was supposed to be like just a nothing month. It
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  Speaker 3: was just like nothing will happen this month and we're
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  Speaker 3: all just gonna be okay. And I'm like, that's not
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  Speaker 3: how I hoper right.
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  Speaker 5: Why does it sound like I've been smoking all night?
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  Speaker 5: I have not continue up late and we're not late night. Well,
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  Speaker 5: I'm a late night person, but you are not. Oh well,
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  Speaker 5: and then my dog woke me up early, so yeah,
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  Speaker 5: that's okay.
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  Speaker 4: Continue uh so.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it just feels like there's no moving or shaking happening.
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  Speaker 3: And it also feels like twenty twenty four was supposed
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  Speaker 3: to be like my no, and a bunch of new
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  Speaker 3: challenges will be put in front of you, and you
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  Speaker 3: will be active for an entire year towards your hopes
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  Speaker 3: and your dreams. And today I told Annie, what if
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  Speaker 3: I just sold my house so and lived as a
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  Speaker 3: lady of leisure in my dad's upstairs bedroom and refuse
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  Speaker 3: to work because I'm like, well, why do I have
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  Speaker 3: to work now? I don't have to afford a mortgage
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  Speaker 3: or groceries?
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  Speaker 4: You do that?
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  Speaker 5: Doesn't he live near Chicago?
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  Speaker 4: Though he does. It's a plan, so.
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  Speaker 5: Then you could just drive into Chicago to do all
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  Speaker 5: the stuff you need to do to work towards your goals.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, truly, it is a train ride away into Chicago
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  Speaker 3: or an hour drive it.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Like so I feel like this is the solution.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I'm not, and I don't love the idea
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  Speaker 5: of you moving in with your parent. Yeah, but if
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  Speaker 5: it means it gets you closer to Chicago so you
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  Speaker 5: can like pursue comedy. Then I'm what's the problem do
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  Speaker 5: we a pro con list?
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  Speaker 3: It's just like every once in a while, selling my
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  Speaker 3: house makes me cry, and then every once in a
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  Speaker 3: while selling my house, it's like who cares? The world's ending?
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  Speaker 5: And like I literally was talking with my friends today,
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  Speaker 5: it's like, oh, I cashed out a retirement to continue
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  Speaker 5: funding my first year of business, and she's like, we're
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  Speaker 5: not going to be We're not going to see retirement anyway,
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  Speaker 5: So yeah, why not?
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  Speaker 3: You know, you know, think of all those people who
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  Speaker 3: were like, don't cash out your retirement.
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  Speaker 2: That's so drastic.
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  Speaker 3: And as you know, I've cashed out all of my
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  Speaker 3: retirements to just try and keep my mortgage paid for
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  Speaker 3: the last several years. And all I can think about
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  Speaker 3: is everyone's retirement's going to go away, and Julia and
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  Speaker 3: I were right all along for cashing it out because
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, it just feels like one day I'll
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  Speaker 3: wake up and the banks have all shut down.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, Like that's literally how I feel too, And like,
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  Speaker 5: if you get on that side of TikTok, that is
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  Speaker 5: like explaining how all these like multimillionaire billionaire people are
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  Speaker 5: just dumping their stock for money because the market trajectory
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  Speaker 5: doesn't look great.
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  Speaker 2: I don't understand it. But if rich people are like, I.
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  Speaker 5: Gotta get out, this is gonna isn't gonna end, well,
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  Speaker 5: that's alarming, right.
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  Speaker 3: So I told Annie today after I biffed a job
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  Speaker 3: interview that I didn't want, I was like, Annie, why
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  Speaker 3: am I looking for a job? If, like, literally the
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  Speaker 3: President of the United States can't string together a sentence,
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  Speaker 3: So anyways, it feels dumb to be looking.
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  Speaker 4: For a job.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, when it's it just feels like we're all gonna
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  Speaker 3: have a job for two weeks and then the world's
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  Speaker 3: gonna end. It's gonna be like, do I want to
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  Speaker 3: spend my last two weeks on Earth at a job?
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  Speaker 4: No? No, So basically, but.
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  Speaker 3: There were things that I did do that showed progress,
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  Speaker 3: Like a lot of it was only spend time with
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  Speaker 3: people you actually want to spend.
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  Speaker 4: Time with, and I'm doing that.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of it was also like find ways to
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  Speaker 3: spend time with your long distance friends.
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  Speaker 2: And I went to Nashville.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Annie and I watched Love Island for a long
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  Speaker 3: distance at the same time, every night.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I say one another back and forth.
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  Speaker 5: She's like, hey, babes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, Annie. I think at this point Annie and I
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  Speaker 3: are each other's partners.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I mean, I don't think you could ask for
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  Speaker 5: a worst partner. I think that you've kind of made
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  Speaker 5: a good decision there, Yeah, Or is it asked for
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  Speaker 5: a better partner. I don't think for a better part.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I could probably ask for a worst part.
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  Speaker 4: There you go.
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  Speaker 5: This is what happened. Sorry, Annie, this is I didn't
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  Speaker 5: mean to to unintentionally offent you. This is what happens
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  Speaker 5: when I haven't had breakfast, only coffee and I'm month
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  Speaker 5: four hours of sleep.
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  Speaker 3: And but okay, I think also part of having a
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  Speaker 3: midyear check in during the summer is this is when
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  Speaker 3: I put everything to bed and rest.
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  Speaker 2: But like all the show's on rest.
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  Speaker 3: Like I'm not I could be writing more, meaning I'm
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  Speaker 3: not writing at all.
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  Speaker 5: But I could be writing more, but i'm not.
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  Speaker 4: But i'm not. I'm watching Love Island.
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  Speaker 2: Uh.
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  Speaker 3: Like I was like, oh, that's right. I did want
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  Speaker 3: to start making art just for me. Again, that's been
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  Speaker 3: reduced to I color at night while I'm watching TV.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I don't think there's anything wrong with that, right, Oh,
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  Speaker 5: I guess I should you tell me when you're ready
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  Speaker 5: to hear my stuff I'm talking about you.
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  Speaker 3: No, I'm ready do some of your stuff too.
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  Speaker 5: So I had said, you know, like out, I'm leaving
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  Speaker 5: out like like my main my main takeaway from real
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  Speaker 5: listening to our episode back in January was like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: I really wanted to focus on my business and grow that,
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  Speaker 5: and you are m so like I had said something like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: you know, I don't think I specifically said I didn't
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  Speaker 5: have a business name. It was just like my like
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  Speaker 5: all they label say hand poured by Julia or like
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  Speaker 5: hand page by Julia. So like I came up, I
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  Speaker 5: have a business name. I have been doing consistent business
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  Speaker 5: two days a week. It's not enough to leave my
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  Speaker 5: full time my contracts for but it could be if I,
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  Speaker 5: you know, step it up a little bit. Yeah, and yeah,
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  Speaker 5: it's just like it's just when I was listening to
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  Speaker 5: the our chatty chat chat chat from January, is like,
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  Speaker 5: holy shit, I am really and truly like doing the
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  Speaker 5: thing that we like we had talked about, and like
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  Speaker 5: I had said, like, oh, these are the things that
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  Speaker 5: I want to do and then I've been doing them.
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  Speaker 5: Am I like wildly successful? No, But I'm on the
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  Speaker 5: trajectory to be well.
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  Speaker 3: And I also remember that back in January we had
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  Speaker 3: both come to terms with the fact that this wasn't
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  Speaker 3: going to be our successful year. This was going to
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  Speaker 3: be our building year, which I feel like I've been
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  Speaker 3: in building modes since I got laid off during the pandemic.
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  Speaker 4: But well, and I don't think.
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  Speaker 5: We anticipated just how hard it was going to be
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  Speaker 5: to like, just how devastating the impact of the pandemic
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  Speaker 5: was going to be on us personally, not necessarily like
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  Speaker 5: the economy, but like just in general, on us personally,
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  Speaker 5: because it.
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  Speaker 3: Is, Yeah, working working in this day of age is bonkers.
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  Speaker 3: Like if you were laid off during the pandemic and
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  Speaker 3: you seemlessly went back to a job as soon as
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  Speaker 3: people were allowed out of their homes, how how I
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  Speaker 3: truly know?
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  Speaker 4: But how no? But how no? But how no? But
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  Speaker 4: how how no? But look? How did you do it?
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  Speaker 2: Also? Is that job still remote?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Uh.
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  Speaker 3: Lately I have been getting rid of the notion that
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  Speaker 3: I have to be working a remote job to do
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  Speaker 3: all of the things that I actually want to do.
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  Speaker 3: Successfully and instead, as you know, my goal is to
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  Speaker 3: just get a dumb girl job. Yeah, like a job
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  Speaker 3: that I do not have to think. I think that
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  Speaker 3: that's one of the reasons I biffed this interview today
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  Speaker 3: because he's like, you just seem to like want to
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  Speaker 3: sit at a desk for several hours.
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  Speaker 4: And then leave.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, ding ding ding, buddy, that one, Well, isn't.
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  Speaker 5: That interesting because didn't we have a conversation a few
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  Speaker 5: months ago about how I might have like self self
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  Speaker 5: subconsciously self sabotaged the library interview because the idea of
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  Speaker 5: going back to like here's the schedule you must carry
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  Speaker 5: was real stress.
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  Speaker 4: It was stress And.
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  Speaker 3: Basically, by the way, I was a great interview.
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  Speaker 4: I'm very charming.
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  Speaker 3: But he asked me what was the most important thing
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  Speaker 3: in an employer, and I basically laid it out. I
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  Speaker 3: was like, here's the thing. I am a person who
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  Speaker 3: lives a full life. I produce, I write, I'm an artist,
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  Speaker 3: I'm a creative all of these things that your college
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  Speaker 3: is supposedly bankrolling off of people feeling Sancuary College of.
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  Speaker 2: Design, and I was like, I live a full life.
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  Speaker 3: My full life needs for me to have great boundaries
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  Speaker 3: and work life balance. But I also know that if
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  Speaker 3: your employer doesn't have great boundaries or work life balance,
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  Speaker 3: then yours don't matter.
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  Speaker 2: Correct because it's correct because.
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  Speaker 5: They will text you at six o'clock at night. They'll
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  Speaker 5: expect you to be in at whatever time they're in, Like,
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  Speaker 5: why don't you work as hard as I do? Kind
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  Speaker 5: of bullshit, right, And there's a power dynamic.
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  Speaker 3: And if he's in from six am to eight pm
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  Speaker 3: and I'm not, he doesn't really feel like I'm making,
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  Speaker 3: like I can get as much done as possible in
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  Speaker 3: the two hours that he gets done all day. He
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  Speaker 3: but it's that whole in person setup where it's like, no,
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  Speaker 3: if you're not chained to.
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  Speaker 4: Your desk and phone, how are you.
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  Speaker 2: Supposed to be making? What are you even doing?
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  Speaker 3: And like I could tell immediately that he was over
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  Speaker 3: me at that point when I was like, I just
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  Speaker 3: want a boss that also understands that people have lives.
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  Speaker 3: By the way, his department currently had has a baby
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  Speaker 3: being born today and two other babies on the way,
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  Speaker 3: so it's like, so, dude, your department's about to change.
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  Speaker 3: Those people are parents, right, you need to start thinking
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  Speaker 3: about how you don't keep these people here till nine
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  Speaker 3: o'clock at night.