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Mojo Monday: Commitment - A Way to Build Hardiness · Hardiness with Dr Paul Taylor

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  Speaker 2: Everyone's Carli Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday. I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to talk about commitment today. So we often think
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  Speaker 2: about resilience as bouncing back when life knocks us down,
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  Speaker 2: but if you look at Paul's research on heartiness, it
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  Speaker 2: shows that resilience is so much more than that. It's
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  Speaker 2: a way of orientating yourself to life. So one of
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  Speaker 2: the core elements of this is around commitment, the decision
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  Speaker 2: to fully engage with what matters, even when it's hard,
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  Speaker 2: even when it's dull as dishwater, even when every part
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  Speaker 2: of you just wants to check out. So commitment doesn't
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  Speaker 2: always look or feel exciting. In fact, often it looks
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  Speaker 2: really boring. It's the grind, it's the repetition. It's doing
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  Speaker 2: the same thing day after day, when no one's clapping,
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  Speaker 2: no one's cheering, and sometimes nobody even notices. Because you
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  Speaker 2: think about an athlete at the top of their game.
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  Speaker 2: We see the highlight reels and the you know, the
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  Speaker 2: metals and the broken records and the smiling faces. But
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  Speaker 2: what we don't see is the thousands of hours in
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  Speaker 2: the gym, the early mornings, the sore muscles, and the
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  Speaker 2: endless drills. And this is where psychologist Angela Duckworth puts
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  Speaker 2: it beautifully.
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  Speaker 3: I saw this quote the other day.
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  Speaker 2: She says, enthusiasm is common, endurance is rare.
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  Speaker 3: So how's your endurance?
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  Speaker 2: Because anyone can feel motivated at the start, anyone can
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  Speaker 2: get excited by a new goal. But commitments is what
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  Speaker 2: separates those who stick it out from those who give up,
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  Speaker 2: or who procrastinate, or who get distracted from the task.
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  Speaker 3: And go down a rabbit hole.
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  Speaker 2: Commitment is the endurance to keep going long after that
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  Speaker 2: spark of motivation is burnt out. Paul often tells this
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  Speaker 2: story from elite military training, and if you've seen any
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  Speaker 2: polls talk, you will know what this is. It's a
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  Speaker 2: Navy seal. It's called hell week. And the ones who
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  Speaker 2: make it through aren't always the strongest or the fastest.
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  Speaker 2: They're the ones who are the most committed, the ones
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  Speaker 2: who lean into the grinds, who lean into the pain
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  Speaker 2: and take it one small step at a time. They're
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  Speaker 2: not looking for it to be easy, but they're showing
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  Speaker 2: up anyway. And it's the same principle that applies to
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  Speaker 2: all of us. We don't have to be elite soldiers
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  Speaker 2: to know that life requires endurance. And of course, commitment
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  Speaker 2: isn't just about the elite. I don't always like hearing
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  Speaker 2: stories about elites because I'm not an elite.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just ordinary.
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  Speaker 2: And that's not a bad thing, because it's about the ordinary.
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  Speaker 2: It's the parent who shows up every day to make
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  Speaker 2: the lunches, to drive the kids around, to hold things
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  Speaker 2: together even when they're completely exhausted, or it's the worker
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  Speaker 2: who does what they set out to do even when
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  Speaker 2: the job feels thankless. So it's you choosing to keep exercising,
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  Speaker 2: to journal, to meditate, or do those little things that
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  Speaker 2: aligned with your values even when they're not exciting. It's
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  Speaker 2: about committing to the process of healing when you're sick.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm not talking about grinding yourself into burnout. So
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  Speaker 2: I just wanted to make that clear because that's not commitment.
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  Speaker 2: True commitment is about setting things up so you can
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  Speaker 2: consistently get the job done without running yourself into the ground.
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  Speaker 2: And it's not about being loyal either to just one
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  Speaker 2: domain of your life like work. Real commitment means showing
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  Speaker 2: up across all areas that matter most. So if you've
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  Speaker 2: got a big project coming up that demands your time,
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  Speaker 2: you have to also commit to your energy levels, your
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  Speaker 2: health by eating nutritious food, exercising, moving, not necessarily going
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  Speaker 2: to the gym if you don't have time, but it
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  Speaker 2: could be making sure that you're doing your movements, that
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  Speaker 2: snacks in between meetings, ensuring you're hydrated, connecting with people.
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  Speaker 2: So that's what Paul's research makes clear is people in
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  Speaker 2: high commitment don't just endure stress, they engage with life.
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  Speaker 2: They stay connected to the meaning. They don't back away
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  Speaker 2: from the mundane or the tough stuff. They know that
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  Speaker 2: life's richness is often found in the moments that don't
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  Speaker 2: feel glamorous at all. So here's my invitation to you
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  Speaker 2: this week. Pick one area of your life that really matters,
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  Speaker 2: and instead of asking yourself, oh, do I feel like
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  Speaker 2: doing it today, ask yourself what would commitment look like
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  Speaker 2: right now. Maybe it's getting up and going for a
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  Speaker 2: walk even when it's raining. Or maybe it's showing up
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  Speaker 2: fully for your partner or your kids even when you're tired.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's doing a boring project at work and doing
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  Speaker 2: the prep for it that no one is ever going
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  Speaker 2: to thank you for. So think of commitment as aligning
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  Speaker 2: your actions with what is truly important to you over
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  Speaker 2: and over again. It's about becoming the kinder person who
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  Speaker 2: can be trusted by yourself and by others to show
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  Speaker 2: up no matter what you do what you say you're
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  Speaker 2: going to do. Motivation might light the fire, but it's
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  Speaker 2: commitment that keeps it burning. Quite like that one, So
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  Speaker 2: as you step into this week, remember Duckworth's words Enthusiasm
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  Speaker 2: is common, endurance is rare, So choose to be committed,
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  Speaker 2: choose endurance, and that's how you'll build a life that
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  Speaker 2: you're really proud of. So have a great Monday, have
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  Speaker 2: a great week, and I'll catch you next week.
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  Speaker 3: Seea Ey