Latest / Adult Child of Dysfunction / E 334: Tammy's Take #28: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You (And Why You're Missing It)
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- 0:02Welcome
- 0:02back
- 0:02to
- 0:03Tammy's
- 0:03Takes,
- 0:03where
- 0:03we
- 0:03take
- 0:04powerful
- 0:04conversations
- 0:05with
- 0:05our
- 0:05guests
- 0:06and
- 0:06turn
- 0:06them
- 0:06into
- 0:06practical
- 0:07strategies
- 0:07you
- 0:07can
- 0:07use
- 0:08right
- 0:08here,
- 0:08right
- 0:09now.
- 0:09So
- 0:10this
- 0:10week,
- 0:10I
- 0:10had
- 0:10the
- 0:10pleasure
- 0:11of
- 0:11speaking
- 0:11with
- 0:11Barbara
- 0:11McAfee,
- 0:12a
- 0:12voice
- 0:13coach
- 0:13who
- 0:13has
- 0:13spent
- 0:13decades
- 0:14helping
- 0:14people
- 0:15reconnect
- 0:16with
- 0:16something
- 0:16many
- 0:16of
- 0:16us
- 0:17lost
- 0:17a
- 0:17long
- 0:17time
- 0:18ago,
- 0:18our
- 0:18voice.
- 0:19And
- 0:19no,
- 0:19I'm
- 0:20not
- 0:20just
- 0:20talking
- 0:20about
- 0:20the
- 0:21voice
- 0:21that
- 0:21comes
- 0:21out
- 0:21of
- 0:21your
- 0:22mouth.
- 0:22I'm
- 0:23talking
- 0:23about
- 0:23your
- 0:23ability
- 0:24to
- 0:24speak
- 0:24up,
- 0:25to
- 0:25express
- 0:25your
- 0:25needs,
- 0:26to
- 0:26tell
- 0:26the
- 0:26truth,
- 0:27to
- 0:27be
- 0:27seen,
- 0:27to
- 0:27be
- 0:28heard,
- 0:28to
- 0:28take
- 0:29up
- 0:29space.
- 0:30And
- 0:30if
- 0:30you're
- 0:30an
- 0:30adult
- 0:31child
- 0:31of
- 0:31a
- 0:31dysfunctional
- 0:32upbringing,
- 0:33chances
- 0:33are
- 0:33you
- 0:33know
- 0:34exactly
- 0:34what
- 0:34I'm
- 0:34talking
- 0:35about.
- 0:35Because
- 0:36many
- 0:36of
- 0:36us
- 0:36learned
- 0:37at
- 0:37a
- 0:37very
- 0:37early
- 0:37age
- 0:38that
- 0:38having
- 0:38a
- 0:39voice
- 0:39wasn't
- 0:39safe.
- 0:40Maybe
- 0:40you
- 0:40were
- 0:41told
- 0:41all
- 0:41the
- 0:41time
- 0:42to
- 0:42be
- 0:42quiet.
- 0:42Maybe
- 0:43you
- 0:43were
- 0:43ignored.
- 0:44Maybe
- 0:44you
- 0:44were
- 0:44punished
- 0:45for
- 0:45expressing
- 0:45your
- 0:45emotions.
- 0:46Maybe
- 0:47you
- 0:47became
- 0:47the
- 0:48peacekeeper,
- 0:48the
- 0:49people
- 0:49pleaser,
- 0:49the
- 0:49fixer,
- 0:50or
- 0:50the
- 0:50invisible
- 0:51child.
- 0:52Whatever
- 0:52your
- 0:52role
- 0:52was,
- 0:53there's
- 0:53a
- 0:53good
- 0:53chance
- 0:54that
- 0:54somewhere
- 0:54along
- 0:54the
- 0:55way,
- 0:55you
- 0:55learned
- 0:56to
- 0:56disconnect
- 0:56from
- 0:56your
- 0:57authentic
- 0:57voice.
- 0:59And
- 0:59here's
- 0:59what
- 0:59I
- 0:59wanna
- 1:00talk
- 1:00about
- 1:00today.
- 1:01What
- 1:01if
- 1:01your
- 1:02body
- 1:02never
- 1:02forgot
- 1:04what
- 1:04your
- 1:04voice
- 1:04really
- 1:04reveals?
- 1:06One
- 1:06of
- 1:06the
- 1:06reasons
- 1:06I
- 1:06love
- 1:07doing
- 1:07the
- 1:07AO
- 1:07Voice
- 1:08Scan
- 1:08that
- 1:08I
- 1:08talk
- 1:08about
- 1:09a
- 1:09lot
- 1:09on
- 1:09my
- 1:09podcast
- 1:10is
- 1:10because
- 1:10it
- 1:10confirms
- 1:11something
- 1:11I
- 1:11have
- 1:12believed
- 1:12for
- 1:12a
- 1:12very
- 1:12long
- 1:13time.
- 1:13Your
- 1:14body
- 1:14is
- 1:14always
- 1:14talking.
- 1:15The
- 1:15question
- 1:16is
- 1:16whether
- 1:16or
- 1:16not
- 1:17we're
- 1:17listening.
- 1:18people
- 1:18often
- 1:18ask
- 1:19me,
- 1:19"Tammy,
- 1:19how
- 1:19can
- 1:20a
- 1:20voice
- 1:20scan
- 1:20tell
- 1:20you
- 1:21something
- 1:21about
- 1:21what's
- 1:21going
- 1:22on
- 1:22in
- 1:22the
- 1:22body?"
- 1:23Great
- 1:23question.
- 1:24Because
- 1:24your
- 1:24voice
- 1:25isn't
- 1:25just
- 1:25sound.
- 1:26Your
- 1:26voice
- 1:27is
- 1:27vibration.
- 1:28Every
- 1:28cell
- 1:29in
- 1:29your
- 1:29body
- 1:29vibrates
- 1:30at
- 1:30a
- 1:30frequency.
- 1:30Every
- 1:31organ,
- 1:31every
- 1:31tissue,
- 1:32every
- 1:32system,
- 1:33every
- 1:33emotional
- 1:33state,
- 1:34everything
- 1:34carries
- 1:35frequency.
- 1:36We
- 1:36are
- 1:36all
- 1:36frequency
- 1:37and
- 1:37we
- 1:37are
- 1:37all
- 1:38energy.
- 1:38The
- 1:39AO
- 1:39Voice
- 1:39Scan
- 1:39that
- 1:40I
- 1:40do
- 1:40analyzes
- 1:41over
- 1:41170,000
- 1:42frequencies
- 1:43within
- 1:43a
- 1:43short
- 1:44voice
- 1:44recording
- 1:44and
- 1:45compares
- 1:45them
- 1:45to
- 1:46established
- 1:46frequency
- 1:47signatures.
- 1:48What
- 1:48makes
- 1:48it
- 1:48fascinating
- 1:49is
- 1:49that
- 1:49many
- 1:50times
- 1:50it
- 1:50identifies
- 1:51stress
- 1:51patterns
- 1:52before
- 1:52people
- 1:53are
- 1:53consciously
- 1:53aware
- 1:54of
- 1:54them.
- 1:54I
- 1:54can't
- 1:55tell
- 1:55you
- 1:55how
- 1:56many
- 1:56times
- 1:56someone
- 1:57says,
- 1:57"Nope,
- 1:58that's
- 1:58not
- 1:58me."
- 1:59And
- 1:59then
- 1:59five
- 1:59minutes
- 2:00later
- 2:00they
- 2:00say,
- 2:00"Well,
- 2:01actually,
- 2:01now
- 2:01that
- 2:02you
- 2:02mention
- 2:02it..."
- 2:03And
- 2:03suddenly
- 2:03they
- 2:03realize
- 2:04that
- 2:04they've
- 2:04been
- 2:04carrying
- 2:05something
- 2:05for
- 2:05years.
- 2:06Your
- 2:06body
- 2:07tells
- 2:07the
- 2:07truth.
- 2:08Barbara
- 2:08talked
- 2:09about
- 2:09being
- 2:09the
- 2:09secret
- 2:10keeper
- 2:10in
- 2:10her
- 2:10family.
- 2:11That
- 2:11hit
- 2:12me
- 2:12so
- 2:12hard
- 2:13because
- 2:13so
- 2:13many
- 2:13of
- 2:13us
- 2:14became
- 2:14secret
- 2:14keepers.
- 2:15We
- 2:15kept
- 2:15the
- 2:16family
- 2:16secrets.
- 2:16We
- 2:17kept
- 2:17the
- 2:17abuse
- 2:17secret.
- 2:18We
- 2:18kept
- 2:18the
- 2:18addiction
- 2:19secret.
- 2:19We
- 2:19kept
- 2:19the
- 2:19dysfunction
- 2:20secret.
- 2:20We
- 2:20kept
- 2:21our
- 2:21feelings
- 2:21secret.
- 2:22And
- 2:22eventually
- 2:23we
- 2:23got
- 2:23so
- 2:23good
- 2:24at
- 2:24hiding
- 2:24from
- 2:24everyone
- 2:25else
- 2:25that
- 2:25we
- 2:25started
- 2:26hiding
- 2:26from
- 2:26ourselves.
- 2:27But
- 2:27your
- 2:27body
- 2:28doesn't
- 2:28lie.
- 2:28Your
- 2:29body
- 2:29keeps
- 2:29the
- 2:29score.
- 2:30Your
- 2:30body
- 2:30remembers.
- 2:31And
- 2:31this
- 2:32is
- 2:32exactly
- 2:33why
- 2:33so
- 2:33many
- 2:33people
- 2:34become
- 2:34frustrated
- 2:34with
- 2:35traditional
- 2:35personal
- 2:36development.
- 2:37They
- 2:37say,
- 2:38"I
- 2:38know
- 2:38what
- 2:38to
- 2:38do.
- 2:39I
- 2:39know
- 2:39why
- 2:39I
- 2:40do
- 2:40it.
- 2:40I
- 2:40understand
- 2:41my
- 2:41childhood.
- 2:42I've
- 2:42read
- 2:42the
- 2:42books.
- 2:43I've
- 2:43been
- 2:43to
- 2:43therapy."
- 2:45Yet
- 2:45they
- 2:45still
- 2:45feel
- 2:46Because
- 2:46understanding
- 2:47isn't
- 2:47the
- 2:47same
- 2:47thing
- 2:48as
- 2:48regulation.
- 2:49Awareness
- 2:50isn't
- 2:50the
- 2:50same
- 2:50thing
- 2:50as
- 2:51healing,
- 2:51and
- 2:51insight
- 2:52isn't
- 2:52the
- 2:52same
- 2:53thing
- 2:53as
- 2:53integration.
- 2:55So
- 2:55one
- 2:55of
- 2:55the
- 2:55most
- 2:55common
- 2:56things
- 2:56I
- 2:56see
- 2:56in
- 2:56scans
- 2:57is
- 2:57nervous
- 2:57system
- 2:58stress.
- 2:58People
- 2:59don't
- 2:59even
- 2:59realize
- 2:59how
- 2:59much
- 3:00survival
- 3:00mode
- 3:00they're
- 3:01living
- 3:01in.
- 3:01Their
- 3:02body's
- 3:02adapted
- 3:02to
- 3:03stress
- 3:03so
- 3:03completely
- 3:04that
- 3:04it
- 3:04feels
- 3:04normal.
- 3:05They're
- 3:05exhausted,
- 3:06they're
- 3:06anxious,
- 3:07they're
- 3:07people-pleasing,
- 3:07they're
- 3:08hypervigilant,
- 3:09they're
- 3:09overthinking,
- 3:09they're
- 3:09carrying
- 3:10guilt,
- 3:10they're
- 3:10carrying
- 3:11shame,
- 3:11they're
- 3:11carrying
- 3:12resentment,
- 3:12they're
- 3:13carrying
- 3:13old
- 3:13emotional
- 3:14wounds,
- 3:15and
- 3:15the
- 3:15scan
- 3:15often
- 3:16reflects
- 3:16what
- 3:16their
- 3:16body
- 3:17has
- 3:17been
- 3:17trying
- 3:17to
- 3:17communicate.
- 3:19Sometimes
- 3:19it
- 3:19shows
- 3:19up
- 3:20in
- 3:20stress
- 3:20markers.
- 3:21Sometimes
- 3:21it
- 3:21shows
- 3:22up
- 3:22in
- 3:22hormone
- 3:22patterns.
- 3:23Sometimes
- 3:24it
- 3:24shows
- 3:24up
- 3:25in
- 3:25digestive
- 3:25patterns.
- 3:26Sometimes
- 3:27it
- 3:27shows
- 3:27up
- 3:27in
- 3:28inflammatory
- 3:28markers.
- 3:29Sometimes
- 3:30it
- 3:30shows
- 3:30up
- 3:30in
- 3:30energetic
- 3:31imbalances
- 3:32in
- 3:32general.
- 3:33But
- 3:33over
- 3:33and
- 3:34over
- 3:34and
- 3:34over
- 3:34again,
- 3:35I
- 3:35see
- 3:35the
- 3:35same
- 3:36thing.
- 3:36The
- 3:37body
- 3:37tells
- 3:37a
- 3:37story
- 3:38long
- 3:38before
- 3:38the
- 3:38mind
- 3:39catches
- 3:39up.
- 3:41One
- 3:41thing
- 3:41Barbara
- 3:41said
- 3:41that
- 3:42really
- 3:42stood
- 3:42out
- 3:42to
- 3:42me,
- 3:42she
- 3:43said
- 3:43that
- 3:43often
- 3:43the
- 3:43voice
- 3:44people
- 3:44struggle
- 3:44with
- 3:45most
- 3:45contains
- 3:46the
- 3:46gift
- 3:46they
- 3:47need
- 3:47the
- 3:47most.
- 3:48I
- 3:48see
- 3:49something
- 3:49very
- 3:49similar
- 3:50in
- 3:50my
- 3:50work
- 3:50that
- 3:50I
- 3:50do
- 3:50with
- 3:51my
- 3:51clients.
- 3:51The
- 3:52things
- 3:52we
- 3:52avoid
- 3:53are
- 3:53often
- 3:53clues.
- 3:54The
- 3:54emotions
- 3:55we
- 3:55suppress
- 3:55are
- 3:55clues.
- 3:56The
- 3:56triggers
- 3:57react
- 3:57to
- 3:57are
- 3:57clues.
- 3:58The
- 3:58symptoms
- 3:58we
- 3:59ignore
- 3:59are
- 3:59clues.
- 4:00The
- 4:00body
- 4:00is
- 4:01constantly
- 4:01trying
- 4:01to
- 4:02guide
- 4:02us
- 4:02in
- 4:02the
- 4:02right
- 4:02direction.
- 4:03Not
- 4:03punish
- 4:04us,
- 4:04not
- 4:04attack
- 4:05us,
- 4:05simply
- 4:06guide
- 4:07us.
- 4:07When
- 4:07we
- 4:08stop
- 4:08looking
- 4:08at
- 4:08symptoms
- 4:09as
- 4:09enemies
- 4:09and
- 4:09start
- 4:10looking
- 4:10at
- 4:10them
- 4:10as
- 4:10information,
- 4:11everything
- 4:12will
- 4:12begin
- 4:12to
- 4:12change.
- 4:14I
- 4:14want
- 4:14you
- 4:14to
- 4:14do
- 4:14something
- 4:15this
- 4:15week.
- 4:15Pay
- 4:16attention
- 4:16to
- 4:16your
- 4:16voice.
- 4:17Notice
- 4:17how
- 4:18you
- 4:18sound
- 4:18when
- 4:18you're
- 4:18confident.
- 4:19Notice
- 4:20how
- 4:20you
- 4:20sound
- 4:20when
- 4:20you're
- 4:21anxious.
- 4:21Notice
- 4:22how
- 4:22you
- 4:22sound
- 4:23when
- 4:23you're
- 4:23around
- 4:23someone
- 4:23you
- 4:23can
- 4:24trust,
- 4:24and
- 4:25notice
- 4:25how
- 4:25you
- 4:25sound
- 4:26when
- 4:26you're
- 4:26around
- 4:26someone
- 4:27you
- 4:27don't
- 4:27really
- 4:27trust
- 4:28so
- 4:28much.
- 4:29Notice
- 4:29how
- 4:29your
- 4:30body
- 4:30feels.
- 4:31Notice
- 4:31what
- 4:31happens
- 4:31in
- 4:32your
- 4:32throat,
- 4:32what
- 4:32happens
- 4:32in
- 4:33your
- 4:33chest,
- 4:33what
- 4:33happens
- 4:33in
- 4:34your
- 4:34stomach,
- 4:35because
- 4:35your
- 4:35body
- 4:35is
- 4:36giving
- 4:36you
- 4:36valuable
- 4:36information
- 4:37all
- 4:37day
- 4:38long.
- 4:39Most
- 4:39of
- 4:39us
- 4:39have
- 4:39simply
- 4:40never
- 4:40been
- 4:40taught
- 4:41how
- 4:41to
- 4:41listen
- 4:41to
- 4:41that
- 4:41information.
- 4:43The
- 4:43lesson
- 4:43from
- 4:43Barbara's
- 4:44episode
- 4:45really
- 4:45isn't
- 4:45about
- 4:46voice.
- 4:46It's
- 4:46about
- 4:47permission.
- 4:48Permission
- 4:48to
- 4:48be
- 4:48seen,
- 4:49to
- 4:49be
- 4:49heard,
- 4:49permission
- 4:50to
- 4:50tell
- 4:50the
- 4:50truth,
- 4:51permission
- 4:51to
- 4:51take
- 4:51up
- 4:52space,
- 4:52permission
- 4:53to
- 4:53reconnect
- 4:54with
- 4:54parts
- 4:54of
- 4:54yourself
- 4:55that
- 4:55got
- 4:55buried
- 4:55in
- 4:56survival
- 4:56mode.
- 4:57And
- 4:57if
- 4:57you've
- 4:57spent
- 4:57years
- 4:58disconnected
- 4:59from
- 4:59your
- 4:59body,
- 4:59your
- 5:00emotions,
- 5:01or
- 5:01your
- 5:01intuition,
- 5:02the
- 5:02AO
- 5:02Voice
- 5:03Scan
- 5:03can
- 5:03be
- 5:03an
- 5:03incredible
- 5:04place
- 5:04to
- 5:04start.
- 5:05Not
- 5:05because
- 5:06it
- 5:06diagnoses
- 5:06you,
- 5:07not
- 5:07because
- 5:07it
- 5:07magically
- 5:08fixes
- 5:08everything,
- 5:09but
- 5:09because
- 5:09it
- 5:10often
- 5:10helps
- 5:10people
- 5:11see
- 5:11patterns
- 5:11they've
- 5:11been
- 5:11missing.
- 5:12It
- 5:12helps
- 5:13create
- 5:13awareness,
- 5:14and
- 5:14awareness
- 5:14is
- 5:15where
- 5:15change
- 5:15begins.
- 5:16So
- 5:16if
- 5:16you're
- 5:17curious
- 5:17about
- 5:17what
- 5:17your
- 5:17voice
- 5:18might
- 5:18be
- 5:18revealing
- 5:19about
- 5:19your
- 5:19body,
- 5:20your
- 5:20nervous
- 5:20system,
- 5:21your
- 5:21stress
- 5:21patterns,
- 5:22or
- 5:22your
- 5:22emotional
- 5:22health,
- 5:24I
- 5:24would
- 5:24love
- 5:24to
- 5:24help.
- 5:25You
- 5:25can
- 5:25book
- 5:25a
- 5:25complimentary
- 5:26voice
- 5:26scan
- 5:27consultation
- 5:27using
- 5:28the
- 5:28link
- 5:28in
- 5:28the
- 5:28show
- 5:28notes.
- 5:29We'll
- 5:29walk
- 5:29through
- 5:30your
- 5:30results
- 5:30together
- 5:31and
- 5:31help
- 5:31you
- 5:31better
- 5:31understand
- 5:32what
- 5:32your
- 5:32body
- 5:32may
- 5:32be
- 5:33trying
- 5:33to
- 5:33communicate.
- 5:34Because
- 5:34sometimes
- 5:35the
- 5:35answers
- 5:35you're
- 5:35looking
- 5:36for
- 5:36aren't
- 5:36outside
- 5:37of
- 5:37you.
- 5:37They're
- 5:38already
- 5:38inside
- 5:38of
- 5:38you.
- 5:39You
- 5:39just
- 5:39need
- 5:39to
- 5:39learn
- 5:40how
- 5:40to
- 5:40listen.
- 5:41Until
- 5:41next
- 5:41time,
- 5:41remember,
- 5:42your
- 5:42symptoms
- 5:42are
- 5:43information,
- 5:43your
- 5:43body
- 5:44is
- 5:44communicating,
- 5:45and
- 5:45your
- 5:45voice
- 5:45may
- 5:45be
- 5:45telling
- 5:46a
- 5:46bigger
- 5:46story
- 5:46than
- 5:47you
- 5:47realize.
- 5:48So
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