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Hypnosis to Let Go of Sadness and Regret for Emotional Healing · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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Hypnotist, you'll be listening to a hypnosis session designed
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to let go, particularly of two key emotions, sadness and
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regret. And I was working with a lady
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that two key things had happened. 1 was a relationship
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changed with close family members and then the second was
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a a fall that led to pain and injuries that were ongoing.
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And like most things, it's not what happens, it's the meaning
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that you attribute to what happens.
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And they attributed elements of regret that they did the wrong
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thing, they made a mistake, that somehow they made their life
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worse. And even the pain was leading to
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elements of in some ways punishment or deserving of that
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pain. And these narratives can amplify
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unuseful emotions, But they could recall a time when they
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felt really active and healthy and strong and positive and
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optimistic. And that was a time where they
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were travelling in Europe. And specifically, they could
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recall swimming in the ocean just off the coast of Malta.
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So because they could recall this, I introduced a metaphor
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where they're trying to swim where big heavy bags are
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attached to their waist, weighing them down.
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One bag is sadness and the other is regret.
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And of course, it's easier to swim if you're not carrying a
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weight. But the interesting thing is, is
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that this client is or was carrying this weight.
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They were carrying the weight of sadness and regret, and of
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course that's going to impede the quality of their life.
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So there's a metaphor that the client could relate to because
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they could recall swimming the ocean, swimming around a big
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rock, and then returning back to the shore.
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So it utilizes a personal experience and then uses certain
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elements of acceptance and commitment therapy fused with
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clinical hypnotherapy to have this idea of letting go, letting
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go of emotions that don't serve them.
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And like most things, even what most people would call negative
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emotions, I think that's a lazy term in all honesty.
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It's other useful or unuseful emotions.
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And regret can be a really good emotion if it encourages you to
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take the wisdom from the experience and think about what
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you would do differently. The purpose of regret is not to
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punish you and shame you for a mistake.
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It's to encourage you to learn and make better choices in the
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future. And that's better choices based
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on your value system, no one else's.
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So if you can relate to this idea of carrying around sadness
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or regret, I think you'll get a lot of value from this session.
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Obviously some of the references won't correlate because it was
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created for a very specific individual.
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So if you like the idea of working with me directly, there
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will be a link in the show notes.
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Or you can check out my website adamcox.co.uk and there there
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will be a link to schedule a free 30 minute consultation call
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on Zoom. For now though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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you breathe in, just imagine breathing in a slow, calm,
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relaxing breath, and as you exhale, feel a wonderful sense
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of release. As you scan your body for any
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clues of tension, just imagine that tension leaves your body on
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your outward breath. And this time, as you breathe
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in, just imagine breathing in the brightest, whitest, healing
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white light. And as you imagine breathing in,
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just imagine that bright white healing light going in through
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your nose down into your lungs. And use the power of your
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imagination to imagine your heart extracting the healing
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energy of that white light and distributing it to every cell,
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every bone, every tendon in your body.
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In the same way that your body knows how to extract oxygen from
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the air distributed to your body.
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And as you exhale, exhale the waste.
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Exhale that carbon dioxide. But I want you to imagine that
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instead of exhaling just carbon dioxide, imagine you are
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exhaling any discomfort, any tension, any heavy emotions of
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the past, but also any unwanted, unnecessary pain.
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As you breathe out, see that leaving your body is a dark
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shadowy colour. Breathing in the healing white
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light and exhaling pain, discomfort, tension.
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Just imagine it leaving your body.
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Consider this an emotional transfusion, giving your body
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relaxation, resources and healing energy, and then
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exhaling whatever your body has been holding onto that it
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doesn't need anymore, breathing in and breathing out.
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The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel, and the more
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relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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And I want you to use the power of your imagination to imagine
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seeing a photograph of you on a rocky beach in Malta.
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It doesn't matter if the photograph exists or not.
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Just imagine it seeing you at that age, at that time in your
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life, knowing that you were filled with resources like
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courage, confidence, determination, tenacity, but
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also health, vitality, strength. And I want you to imagine
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staring into the picture, seeing you on that beach, accepting
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that that version of you had those qualities.
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And when you can imagine you on a beach in Malta, brimming with
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the very qualities and resources that would be useful for you.
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Now let me know by nodding your head and then imagine how could
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it would feel to step into the photo.
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You are now on the same beach, seeing that younger version of
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you, and I want you to get a sense that you have wisdom that
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that younger version of you didn't have, and that younger
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version of you has resources that would be useful for you
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now. So imagine stepping into that
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younger version of you and you're giving that younger
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version of you your wisdom and insight and you're feeling how
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good it feels to have that mobility, strength, courage, and
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confidence. Feel how good it feels.
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I feel that you are reawakening those neural pathways that knows
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how to move, how to feel liberated and free.
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I want you to imagine staring out into the cold sea and seeing
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a big rock and just deciding just for fun, as a challenge to
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go into the cold waters and swim around the big rock.
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And if you're ready to do that, let me know by nodding your
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head. So just imagine you're wearing
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whatever clothing is necessary, useful, desirable for you to do
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this. And imagine walking into the
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sea, walking with a sense of purpose, confidence,
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determination and tenacity as your toes and feet hit the
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water. Notice it's cold, but that
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doesn't faze you as you understand that things don't
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have to be easy in order to be worthwhile.
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As you submerge into the cold water, you may even make the
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evaluation that the cold sea water has healing properties.
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Many people will take ice baths or cold showers just to activate
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the body's powerful healing properties.
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But you don't need that. Allow the coldness of the sea
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water to feel that it's activating your immune system,
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it's stimulating your body's healing powers.
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And then imagine swimming in the water in whatever stroke and
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style is the right one for you. Imagine you've been swimming for
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two or three minutes and it occurs to you something is
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hindering your swimming. I want you to imagine there are
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two bags attached to a belt on your waist.
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Heavy bags. Bags perhaps filled with what
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feels like pebbles and stones. I want you to get a sense that
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even though you can swim with these bags heavy around your
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waist, it doesn't make it easy. See, you have a choice.
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You can either continue to swim with these heavy bags around
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your waist, or you can detach the bags and let them go.
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The bag tag on the left side of your waist.
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Let's just call it regret. And as you're swimming in the
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ocean, I want you to think of one specific thing that knowing
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what you now know, you would have done differently.
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Perhaps you can even go back to that memory, see everything that
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happened, but this time as an observer seeing you, seeing what
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happened, and notice how much additional insight you get when
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you become the observer no longer in your body.
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Almost like imaginary person just watching everything that's
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happening. I want you to see everything as
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it happened in that moment of regret and get a sense that
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knowing everything that you now know.
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Of course, you could do things differently.
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That doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
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You didn't have the inside and the wisdom then that you now
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have. You did the best you could with
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the resources you have, but you have more resources now.
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And one of those resources is wisdom.
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And when you've seen that moment of regret and you feel that
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you've got all of the insight and wisdom that you could
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possibly extract from that memory, let me know by nodding
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your head. Just like a piece of fruit, like
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an orange that's been squeezed so that there isn't a single
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drop more. You've extracted all the wisdom
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from that memory and then rewind it and play it forward the way
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you would have wanted it to have happened.
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If you had all the wisdom that you now have back then, what
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would you do differently? What would you say differently?
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Would you take more time to think, consider, allow yourself
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to regulate your emotions in different ways?
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Just allow yourself to be the observer, seeing that version of
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you doing things differently with the wisdom applied, but
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noticing that you've got so many different choices.
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You get to keep playing different scenarios, different
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possibilities, until you find the one that you liked.
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And when you found a way of updating that moment, not to
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change the past, but to communicate to your own
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conscious mind that of course you're wiser now because you
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would have handled that situation differently when you
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found the right update, Let me know by nodding your head.
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That's in. And then find yourself back
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there in the ocean. And because you've applied the
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wisdom to that moment, you can now detach that heavy bag of
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regret and just see it falling down to the bottom of the ocean
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floor and noticing that it's so much easier to swim now because
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you're not holding on to that regret.
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But there is a second bag attached to you, another heavy
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bag that we can call sadness. And I want you to think of one
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specific thing that's been making you sad.
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Maybe something you feel like you've lost, something that
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happened that you wish didn't. Some kind of evaluation that
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you've made that leads to a feeling of sadness.
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Hold on to that bag while you're swimming and think of 1 moment
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more than any other that's responsible for the sadness in
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this bag that you're carrying around.
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If the purpose of regret is to lead to wisdom, the purpose of
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sadness is to lead to acceptance.
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And I want you to think back to a moment of sadness again.
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Be the observer, see what happened, but this time
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objectively see what happened without having to do anything or
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change anything, but through the lens of acceptance when
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something is truly. Accepted.
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It enables you to no longer focus on the cloud, but the
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silver lining. No longer the curse but the
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blessing. No longer the problem, but the
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solution. So keep looking at that moment
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of sadness from all the different perspectives.
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Imagine seeing it in reverse, seeing it from above, seeing it
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in black and white, or looking at the same moment like it's a
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cartoon. Keep seeing that same moment
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until you can see it and not feel any sadness anymore.
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Maybe you shrink it down and send it a mile away, make it so
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small and far away that even though the memory exists, it no
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longer makes you feel anything. And when you've reached the
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point of acceptance that you accept what has happened and
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have detached any emotional pain from that, let me know by
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nodding your head. And in doing so, feel a weight
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being detached, specifically the weight of sadness that's been
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holding you down. See it or feel it?
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They're on your waist while you're swimming in the ocean and
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detach it. You've now let go of regret and
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sadness and notice how much lighter you feel, how much
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easier it is to make progress, to swim forwards.
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You are still the same you, but without carrying that sadness
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and regret. You can make progress quicker.
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And progress when swimming around a rock is every stroke,
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every kick of the feet, movement of the arms moves you forward.
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And as you imagine making progress swimming around the
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rock, perhaps on your way back to shore, I want you to think
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about what does progress look like tomorrow?
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What would represent 1% incremental progress in
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different areas of your life? What would emotional progress
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look like? What would physical progress
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look like? What would social progress look
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like? Social progress could just be
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reaching out to someone you haven't spoken to in a while and
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wishing them a happy New year. Physical progress could be
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moving or walking just slightly more than you normally would.
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Emotional progress could be forgiving yourself, even if it's
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for just one thing. And when you get a sense of what
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progress could look like tomorrow and the day after that,
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let me know about nodding your head and feel that you're
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swimming back to shore, feeling that something has changed.
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When you left, you were carrying the weight of that regret and
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sadness. But now, as you return, it's no
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longer there. You feel lighter.
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You feel more resourceful. You feel healthier.
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You feel like you have permission to forgive yourself
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and to focus on tiny, incremental progress.
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And as you return back to the shore feeling refreshed,
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rejuvenated but also proud of your accomplishment, allow
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swimming around the rock to be a metaphor that you can handle
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difficult challenges, you can face adversity and you are
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stronger and more capable than you realise.
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That's it. So as you breathe in and breathe
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out there on that beach in Malta, get a sense that you're
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now holding a picture that you're looking into, but this
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time seeing yourself at your current age on that beach in
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Malta, looking healthy, strong and vital.
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It's time to return to the here and now, but allowing all these
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positive changes to come back with you.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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wiggle your toes as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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you. You will awaken feeling
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resourceful, calm and confident. Feeling that the future is
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brighter and more optimistic. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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456 More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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