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191. Anchor Joy with Gratitude · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to your enrich Self Podcast. I am your host, Mi
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  Speaker 1: Lee Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach.
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  Speaker 1: And what that means is I want you to become
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  Speaker 1: more of your enriched self. And so you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: to enrich your life with the things that matter most.
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  Speaker 1: And I will tell you one thing that matters it
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  Speaker 1: is your thoughts. Your thoughts are powerful. They're a powerful
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  Speaker 1: birthing space to the life that you are currently living
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  Speaker 1: or a life that you aspire to live. So your
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  Speaker 1: thoughts become things, and they become that because your thoughts
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  Speaker 1: inspire the words that you speak, and those words and
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  Speaker 1: inspire the action and the activity and how you will
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  Speaker 1: show up in this world. And I know if you're
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  Speaker 1: listening to this podcast, you want to show up in
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  Speaker 1: this world as the best version of yourself. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's what this space is curated to have conversation and
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  Speaker 1: could not have done that without you. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to thank you from the bottom of my heart now
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  Speaker 1: before we get into this week's episode. If you know
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  Speaker 1: you know, one of the things that I do each
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  Speaker 1: and every week is make a deposit into the bank
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  Speaker 1: of you, and I do that by way of affirmations.
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  Speaker 1: Affirmations are a great way to start your day and
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  Speaker 1: to command your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I
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  Speaker 1: am full of joy. I am full of joy. I
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  Speaker 1: am full of joy. Now let's get ready for this
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  Speaker 1: week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like it's time for a reset. And every time I
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  Speaker 1: get to this point in my life, whether I'm feeling
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  Speaker 1: like I'm soaring a head or I'm not quite where
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  Speaker 1: I need to be, or anything in between, I go
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  Speaker 1: towards gratitude. Gratitude is the life hack that has literally
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  Speaker 1: changed my point of view on life, on how I
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  Speaker 1: show up in my life, how I show up in
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  Speaker 1: my day, and so on and so forth, and so
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  Speaker 1: today I wanted to infuse gratitude back into your timeline.
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  Speaker 1: I realized that this year has had a lot, and
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  Speaker 1: it feels like April just started and we're already midpoint,
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  Speaker 1: and there is so much year to cover, but it
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  Speaker 1: seems like it's going pretty quickly. And I don't want
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  Speaker 1: us to miss a moment to be grateful. I don't
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  Speaker 1: want us to miss a moment of gratitude. And so
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  Speaker 1: today I want you to pause, put your foot on
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  Speaker 1: the break, stop all this going and grinding and moving
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  Speaker 1: and moving without taking a moment of gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: So my question to.
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  Speaker 1: You today is what are you grateful for? And I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to give you a moment to search your heart,
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  Speaker 1: your mind, your spirit. Because it's easy to look around
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  Speaker 1: your life and look into this world and where you
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  Speaker 1: work and where you go and how you drive to
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  Speaker 1: work and what you do and the things you're responsible
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  Speaker 1: for and feel overwhelmed and feel like you're not getting
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  Speaker 1: where you need to go. And I'm challenging you today,
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  Speaker 1: right now, in this moment, because it doesn't take a
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  Speaker 1: lot to be grateful. It doesn't require you to retreat
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  Speaker 1: and seclude yourself and walk away. You can be grateful
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  Speaker 1: in this moment now for the smallest of things, the
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  Speaker 1: fact that I am able to grow, the fact that
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  Speaker 1: I'm learning from myself and I am evaluating where I
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  Speaker 1: need to be and I can still do things that
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  Speaker 1: make me happy. And I have friends and I get
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  Speaker 1: to celebrate them and I get to be around them, and.
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  Speaker 2: The list goes on.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, when you really start opening your heart to
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  Speaker 1: this idea that there is always and will always be
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  Speaker 1: something to be grateful for, it changes your point of view,
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  Speaker 1: It changes how you walk into your day. And so
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  Speaker 1: today I want to talk to you about how you
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  Speaker 1: can transform your day with gratitude. The first thing I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna say is have mindful mournings. This morning, I was
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  Speaker 1: reflecting on a situation where several years ago, a family
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  Speaker 1: member of mine went through a pretty significant surgery and
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  Speaker 1: the fact that this person is alive and well, the
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  Speaker 1: fact that although that season was really really challenging and
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  Speaker 1: it felt like me and some other family members were
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  Speaker 1: walking through one of our most tumultuous storms, we came
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  Speaker 1: out on the other side with life, with love and
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  Speaker 1: with gratitude. And I'm gonna advise you, I'm gonna encourage
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  Speaker 1: you to go back into your timeline, into your storyboard,
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  Speaker 1: into your backdrop, and identified the thing to be grateful for. See,
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  Speaker 1: it's easy to go back into the timeline and find
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  Speaker 1: all the things that went wrong and all the places
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  Speaker 1: that things didn't go right. But I know there's a
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  Speaker 1: balance in life, and there are things that have gone right,
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  Speaker 1: and there are stories that you can retell that are
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  Speaker 1: more positive and uplifting, that help you get out of bed,
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  Speaker 1: that help you and remind you that there are things
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  Speaker 1: for you to look forward to, even though you have
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  Speaker 1: to look back and go, wow, that was a moment,
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  Speaker 1: but here I am right now. I mean, what it
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  Speaker 1: really does is it helps you understand the moment that
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  Speaker 1: you're in was not possible without the moment that you
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  Speaker 1: came out of. And I promise you if you do
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of that reflection before you start your day,
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  Speaker 1: like you really go into your day with this mindful mourning,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to have a positive tone throughout the day.
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  Speaker 1: Now that doesn't mean you're not going to face opposition
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  Speaker 1: and all the things, but it feels good to go
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  Speaker 1: into your day with that. And when you have that
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  Speaker 1: way about you, you tend to keep that way about you.
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  Speaker 1: The other thing I'm gonna say is appreciation. You know,
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  Speaker 1: one of the things I find myself saying to people.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I work in a corporate environment, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a project manager, and so as a project manager,
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  Speaker 1: you're interacting with a lot of people. You're partnering with people,
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  Speaker 1: you are collaborating with people, and it happens all throughout
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  Speaker 1: the day, and a lot of times it's the same people,
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  Speaker 1: and sometimes you're meeting new people. And one of the
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  Speaker 1: things I find myself saying oftentimes, whether I'm speaking it
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  Speaker 1: out loud or I'm typing it, I say, I appreciate you.
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  Speaker 1: That's something I say and I genuinely do because I
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  Speaker 1: realize for me to do what I need to do,
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  Speaker 1: for me to collaborate, for me to get to the
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  Speaker 1: next step, for me to serve a client, whether internal
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  Speaker 1: or external, for me to meet a deliverable, there's somebody
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  Speaker 1: on the other side of my work being complete that
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  Speaker 1: has to help me get there. And the fact that
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  Speaker 1: they help me take a step towards that progress, the
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  Speaker 1: fact that they helped me close that thing out, move
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  Speaker 1: that thing forward, get the answer that I needed, help
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  Speaker 1: me with inside and understanding I appreciate them, and I
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  Speaker 1: genuinely appreciate them when I say that, And so for me,
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't intentional to do something, but it does something.
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  Speaker 1: It strengthens the relationships that you have because people recognize that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, oftentimes you go from one thing to the next,
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  Speaker 1: and it's easy to overlook that moment of appreciation. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna challenge you to write a thank you note.
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  Speaker 1: Within our business, we have something called I forget what
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  Speaker 1: they call it, but they are all these different ways
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  Speaker 1: that you can showcase your thankfulness, your gratitude, your appreciation
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  Speaker 1: by sending an internal card. There's a lot of creative
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  Speaker 1: ways to show your appreciation. So I'm gonna encourage you
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  Speaker 1: the next time you work with somebody or interact with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: I even do this at the grocery store. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when people hand me my receipt at the end, or
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  Speaker 1: you know, they do something for me, I appreciate them
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  Speaker 1: for being there. You know, I appreciate you. And I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how often those individuals hear that, but for
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  Speaker 1: me saying it, it feels right, It feels like it's
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  Speaker 1: important for them to hear it. Even if it you
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  Speaker 1: know it didn't land or they didn't respond to it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not actually looking for a response. I'm just I
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  Speaker 1: am genuinely appreciative of people doing the things that they
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  Speaker 1: do for me. Right. The other area of opportunity is
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  Speaker 1: to savor the moments. Last summer, my daughter had an
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to do an internship and it was a paid internship,
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  Speaker 1: and it was a it was out of state, and
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  Speaker 1: she had done it before, but this time it was
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  Speaker 1: going to be a different setting. She was going to
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of things alone for the first time,
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  Speaker 1: work in a different space, and collaborate and work with
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  Speaker 1: other people. Because she was unfamiliar with the people in
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  Speaker 1: this space, and again she's out of town, out of
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  Speaker 1: the state. It felt awkward. And I always say that
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  Speaker 1: when you're growing, you're in a place of discomfort. So
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  Speaker 1: she had some growth spurts in that moment. I say
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  Speaker 1: all of that to say, while she was at this internship,
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  Speaker 1: she had her own, you know, studio space, She had
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  Speaker 1: access to a beautiful lake. She would send me photos
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  Speaker 1: in the morning of the sunrise and in the evening
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  Speaker 1: of the sunset and everything in between. And at one
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  Speaker 1: point she felt isolated. She felt like man I don't
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  Speaker 1: have my friends around me. My daughter is very, so sociable.
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  Speaker 1: She likes to be around friends. It's one of her
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  Speaker 1: favorite pastimes because she works like a maniac with her
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  Speaker 1: passions and the things that she does every day, and
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  Speaker 1: so being around friends is her pastimes. Her way to
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  Speaker 1: express herself, is her way to show up for them
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  Speaker 1: and allow them to show up for her. But she
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  Speaker 1: did not have that for two weeks. And for somebody
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  Speaker 1: who plugs into that life of peopleing and doing it
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  Speaker 1: very often and loving it to go almost to seclusion,
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  Speaker 1: it felt like isolation. And there were a couple times
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  Speaker 1: she called and she was really beside herself. She was
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  Speaker 1: kind of freaking out a little bit that she had
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  Speaker 1: this alone time. She had these you know, quiet moments
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  Speaker 1: away from the world essentially everything that she knew. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: of course she could, you know, FaceTime her friends, but
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  Speaker 1: that you know, one on one connection was just not there.
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  Speaker 1: And she didn't have that friend group in this in
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  Speaker 1: this setting. And I told her, I said, appreciate these.
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  Speaker 2: Moments right now.
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  Speaker 1: I said, when you get back to Atlanta, you are
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  Speaker 1: going to be so busy. You're going to have so
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  Speaker 1: many things on your plate. That you want to accomplish.
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  Speaker 1: You're starting your new year. You know, as a sophomore
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  Speaker 1: in college, you have all these different things that you
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  Speaker 1: are going to be doing. You're a commuter this year,
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  Speaker 1: so that's going to be a new level of challenges
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  Speaker 1: and issues and things because it's new, so it's not
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  Speaker 1: going to feel like last year. And you're auditioning, and
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  Speaker 1: the list goes on. And after I said that to her,
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  Speaker 1: it didn't change anything immediately, But as the days went on,
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  Speaker 1: she started to appreciate the quiet, the silence, the moments.
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  Speaker 1: She started to savor them. She started to enjoy that
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  Speaker 1: lookout at the lake even I know it was by herself,
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  Speaker 1: and that quiet internal conversation that she couldn't have with
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  Speaker 1: a friend. And she started to acknowledge what I said
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  Speaker 1: was true. And when she got back, she learned very
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  Speaker 1: quickly how busy she got that those moments were some
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  Speaker 1: of the greatest moments of her summer. And I want
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  Speaker 1: you to savor your moments. I know sometimes it feels
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  Speaker 1: like you're by yourself, and it feels like you might
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  Speaker 1: be in the season of isolation. But I promise you
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  Speaker 1: it's a season of rest. It's a season of appreciating
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  Speaker 1: and being in the moment. It literally is the being
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  Speaker 1: the moments season where you don't have to be outside
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  Speaker 1: and looking in and wishing. You can get that rest
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  Speaker 1: and you can get that alone time you're in it,
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  Speaker 1: enjoy it, identify that you're in it, and savor it.
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  Speaker 1: Last thing I'm going to say, and this is something
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  Speaker 1: I say very often to anyone that I am friends
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  Speaker 1: with people I know, I understand the power of words.
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  Speaker 1: I know that words change worlds. There's a scripture in
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  Speaker 1: the Bible that says death and life are in the
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  Speaker 1: power of the tongue, and oftentimes we are speaking death
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  Speaker 1: over our life with the words that we use. I'm stupid.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe I did something so stupid. I am
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  Speaker 1: the dumbest person. I mean, we say these things and
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  Speaker 1: this language, it really negatively changes how we see ourselves
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  Speaker 1: and we wonder why we have esteem issues. And I
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  Speaker 1: know there are people that say things to us, and
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  Speaker 1: I know there are messages that come through subliminally to
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  Speaker 1: us through music and media and all of the things.
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  Speaker 1: We cannot control those things. We cannot control how people
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  Speaker 1: say or what they say to you. I mean a
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  Speaker 1: lot of those videos go viral for people saying all
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  Speaker 1: the wrong things, you know, and it triggers people, and
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  Speaker 1: I get it. I get it, But we can't control
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  Speaker 1: those people. What you can control is your language, and
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  Speaker 1: many of you must change your language. That means you
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  Speaker 1: must pay attention to what you're saying to yourself about yourself,
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  Speaker 1: because that's the thing that's going to stick with you.
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  Speaker 1: Change your language, change the framework of how you are
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  Speaker 1: speaking to yourself from something negative to something positive. I
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  Speaker 1: will never be able to do this. I'm getting myself
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  Speaker 1: ready for this next best thing. I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: to do. I'm gonna learn how to get this done,
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  Speaker 1: going to find resource to help me get this done again.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a small switch of how you see it
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  Speaker 1: and how you see yourself in it. But oftentimes we
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  Speaker 1: fall pray to the negativity, to what we've heard and
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  Speaker 1: seen elsewhere. And I'm telling you this small shift, this
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  Speaker 1: small thing, can change your life because your perception change,
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  Speaker 1: and we know that perception influences your reality. It shapes
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  Speaker 1: your reality, and you start to realize, I'm in the
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  Speaker 1: right place right now in my life. A lot of times,
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  Speaker 1: you know, people are looking around and I hear people say,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not where I need to be, I'm not doing
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  Speaker 1: what I'm supposed to do. And I'm saying to you
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  Speaker 1: right now for those of you who have said those
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  Speaker 1: things to yourself, for those of you who have believed
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  Speaker 1: that a certain time of life, a certain milestone, equals
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  Speaker 1: a certain outcome, and all the things that you have
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  Speaker 1: come to believe that you have adopted through culture, through tradition,
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  Speaker 1: through the latest fad, that this is what you are
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  Speaker 1: supposed to be doing right now. And if you're not
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  Speaker 1: doing that, you're a loser. If you're not doing that,
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  Speaker 1: you'll never get there in ten years. You don't know
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  Speaker 1: what your future holds. Yes, you know your past and
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  Speaker 1: you can learn from that, but you have to be
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  Speaker 1: optimistic and open to a future that's bigger than your past.
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  Speaker 1: But it starts with your language. It starts with you
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  Speaker 1: even thinking that there is something bigger and better and
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  Speaker 1: grander yet to come in your life.
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  Speaker 2: And so I'm going to.
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  Speaker 1: Challenge you to yes, appreciate the now, think that, and
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  Speaker 1: know that the future is brighter. It could be brighter.
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  Speaker 1: It is brighter. It's all about how you see it
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  Speaker 1: and how you see yourself in it. So again, My
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  Speaker 1: question for you is what are you grateful for today?
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  Speaker 1: I want you to nourish that, I want you to
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  Speaker 1: navigate that, and I want you to never forget that
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  Speaker 1: there will always be something for you to be grateful for.
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