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Healing from Narcissistic Abuse - Hypnosis to Rebuild Self-Belief and Inner Strength · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this hypnosis session
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  you're going to be listening to a recording all about
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  narcissistic abuse recovery. And I was working with a client
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  that had been in a relationship. It had come to an end and it had
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  dawned on her that her ex partner was a narcissist and had
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  been chiseling away and eroding their sense of self worth, their
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  self-confidence and their ability to believe that they had
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  any value. This hypnosis session uses a
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  metaphor of a flower and if you imagine a flower that obviously
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  needs sunshine and rain water to to thrive, but imagine if it was
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  hidden away in a basement or in a dark place, deprived of water
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  and deprived of sunlight. The flower normally, when it has
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  what it needs, is thriving, but in the wrong environment it can
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  actually find itself wilting and dehydrated and looking very low
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  on energy. Now this works as a metaphor for
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  two reasons. One, it takes out the idea that
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  they themself are worthless, but more they are just having a
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  natural reaction to their environment and their
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  circumstances, but then also how quickly something can be
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  nourished and replenished. So if you think of a wilted
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  flower, give it a bit of water and some sunshine.
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  Within hours it's looking healthy again, and within a week
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  it's like it's back to normal. So that's helpful because a lot
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  of people that feel very drained of energy and low self worth
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  have this feeling of hopelessness that it's always
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  going to be that way. And this helps to give it a
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  temporary frame. The second part of the hypnosis
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  session is to feel that the locus of control is not
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  dependent on external factors, but intrinsic factors, that they
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  themself can do the watering and the sunshine without needing
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  anyone else to do that. And that was believing in
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  themself and actually focus on their dream.
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  And that would be the nourishment and the
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  replenishment that they would need to revitalize that
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  identity. So if you can relate to any of
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  these things, I think you'll get some value from this session.
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  Please be aware that it was created for a specific
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  individual. Some of the suggestions would
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  have fitted them like a glove and not be at all relevant for
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  you because you're not them. In which case, disregard any
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  suggestions that aren't quite right.
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  Lean into the metaphors and the ones that are.
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  But if you do like the idea of working with me directly, there
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  will be a link in the description in the show notes
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  where you can schedule a completely free consultation
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  call to explore working with me. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that feeling of calm relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel that wonderful feeling.
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  As you feel that you're releasing any stress, any
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  tension, any anger, just feel it start to leave your body in your
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  outward breath. And as you breathe in, I want
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  you to imagine breathing in a color that represents
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  nourishment. Maybe you could imagine bright
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  yellow or orange sunshine. Imagine breathing in that
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  nourishment, and as you exhale, release anything that feels like
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  it's suppressed, pent up, or trapped.
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  Allow your outward breath to be the release valve to enable you
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  to feel a sense of ever increasing release.
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  Breathing in that nourishing feeling that you need and
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  exhaling any feeling of being trapped, any feeling of being
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  worthless or of no value. Just imagine that leaving your
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  body, escaping and therefore each breath takes you deeper and
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  deeper, relaxed, feeling more and more replenished and
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  nourished, and continuing to release anything unresourceful.
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  That's right, deeper and deeper. Relax now.
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  And I want you to imagine what it would be like if with every
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  breath you took, you felt more and more comfortable.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become, and the more
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  relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe and as your physical
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  body relaxes. Your.
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  Powerful imagination awakens, and I want you to allow that
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  imagination to drift, and I want you to imagine it drifting to a
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  place in nature, somewhere tropical, somewhere peaceful,
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  and somewhere safe. Perhaps you could imagine being
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  in a lush tropical garden, the outskirts of a forest or perhaps
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  a quiet clearing. But imagine you're in a place
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  where the air feels warm and there's a gentle fragrance of
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  flowers being carried on the breeze.
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  And as you wander through this place in your imagination, just
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  imagine what it would feel like to notice the colours becoming
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  more vivid, the greens deeper, petals of flowers becoming
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  brighter, as though the world itself is inviting you to step
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  into a more vibrant version of yourself.
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  And somewhere in this tropical garden, forest or somewhere
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  else, I want you to notice a particular flower, the bird of
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  paradise. I want you to see that unique
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  shape, the oranges, the greens, the large leaf.
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  I want you to notice something, something about this flower.
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  I want you to see something bold, beautiful, empowering
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  about this flower. And as you look closer, you
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  sense that this flower is in some way a reflection of you.
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  I want you to get a feeling, a feeling that this bird of
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  paradise didn't always look this.
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  Way I want. You to imagine learning about
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  the story of this plant, that for weeks or months it was
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  inside perhaps a basement or a shed.
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  And I want you to imagine that this bird of paradise for
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  several weeks was deprived of sunshine and rainwater.
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  I want you to imagine it, seeing it as it was.
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  See it wilted, the colours drained, the leaves limp, maybe
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  starting to go yellow or dry. See that wilted with its colors
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  faded, its leaves heavy. And just get a sense that this
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  this does not diminish the value of the flower.
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  It's a reflection of the person that deprived it of sunshine and
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  rainwater. The flower hasn't lost its
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  value. It just isn't getting what it
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  needs. And as you stare on this wilted,
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  drained, hopeless looking flower, you can feel the truth
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  in that metaphor. You can relate to feeling
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  drained, low energy feeling. What's the point?
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  As if your energy has been taken, your brilliance dimmed.
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  That you've been trained to feel that you have no value.
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  And logically, you know that's not true, in the same way that
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  the bird of paradise would know it is capable of brilliance, but
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  wouldn't feel that way when it's deprived of that sunshine and
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  rainwater. And yet, even in that weakened
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  state, that bird of paradise never stopped being what it
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  truly was. It never stopped being a bird of
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  paradise just because it was deprived of what it needed.
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  Neither did you. Imagine taking a deep breath in
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  now, and as you exhale, I want you to imagine the golden
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  sunlight pouring down from your breath onto that wilted flower.
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  Warm, healing, life giving. And I want you to realize that
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  the sunshine is your self belief.
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  It's still there and enough to share with this flower.
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  And each time you believe in yourself, I want you to feel
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  that you are feeding this flower within you.
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  And now, as if from the earth itself, I want you to imagine
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  rainwater nourishing the roots, clear, pure, replenishing.
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  And you sense that this rainwater is your actions,
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  Actions aligned with who you want to be.
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  And each time you take a step towards your dreams, I want you
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  to feel that you are watering your own soul with every breath,
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  with your ability to trust in your own actions.
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  That bird of paradise within you stands taller, petals brighter,
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  colours more radiant. And I want you to feel this is
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  also happening within you. Imagine how you would feel
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  standing taller, breathing deeper, taking that trust in
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  yourself and turning it into actions.
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  I wonder how long it would take for a flower without sunshine
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  and rainwater to get back to who they were before.
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  Sometimes minutes, maybe hours, and certainly no more than a
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  day. And there's a truth awakening
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  within you. Now that your energy is yours, I
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  want you to accept the belief that it cannot be taken unless
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  you allow it to be taken. And it could be taken before
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  because you didn't know what was happening.
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  But forewarned is forearmed, you know now.
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  And because you now understand how it was once drained, you
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  also now know how to protect it. Like a flower with strong roots
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  or a bird with powerful wings. I want you to feel what you
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  would feel like to be unshakeable in your essence, to
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  have the boundaries needed so that even if someone tries to
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  take your energy, it becomes futile for them.
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  And I want you to think of a recent time when someone tried
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  to provoke you to lose your sense of calm and they couldn't,
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  and arrive to the conclusion that if you can have that
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  boundary, you can have other boundaries too.
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  That it becomes just a variation of exactly the same skill to
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  protect who you are at your core.
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  And it might be stuff that aren't you, that you don't mind,
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  but you're refusing to allow your energy, yourself, belief in
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  yourself worth to be taken. Now I don't.
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  Want you to think about your future, and not just any future,
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  but a desirable future. And they'll be a part of you.
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  Or perhaps someone else that says, what are the chances?
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  But I want you to feel resolute, defiant, because the chances of
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  success if you don't do anything are zero.
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  And if you do do something, the odds become infinitely higher
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  than doing nothing at all. But let's say, even if the odds
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  do seem low, and even when others doubt, I want you to feel
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  that self trust that you have deep inside.
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  To trust that you are the one who will defy the odds.
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  You are the one who will rise. I want you to imagine that
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  future. Imagine yourself perhaps 234
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  years from now, like a flower in bloom, succeeding, making it,
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  but most of all, deserving all of your success.
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  And every single time you choose to pursue your dream, and every
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  time you follow your heart, and every time you act in alignment
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  with your true self. I want.
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  You to feel that you are replenishing yourself.
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  You are giving. Yourself, sunshine and
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  rainwater, you are nourishing your.
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  True. Identity and this nourishment
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  can take place over days, weeks, even months.
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  But every time you will feel. That.
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  You're nourishing yourself. It's fine when people.
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  Say they believe things. But I want.
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  You to feel. That congruency is acting in
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  accordance with what you believe.
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  And you don't have to. Believe you will be hugely
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  successful. You just need.
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  To act in accordance. With what someone?
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  That did believe they would be successful would do.
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  And by doing. What that version of you would
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  do you? Build the belief.
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  As you go along, I. Want you to?
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  Feel that you don't need for all of the train tracks to be laid.
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  In order for your. Train to be in motion.
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  So long as. There's enough tracks.
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  For the next. Few days.
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  You can lay the. Tracks while your train is in
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  motion. Because yourself.
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  Belief will lay the tracks. And that self.
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  Belief will come. From the actions.
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  That you take in accordance with that belief in effect.
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  You are trusting. Yourself.
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  Be the. Version of you that you know you
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  can be to imagine yourself in the days, weeks and months
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  ahead. Looking like a wilted.
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  Flower that has got that water and sunshine.
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  See yourself. Looking more alive, more
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  confident, more radiant. Notice how you.
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  Carry yourself. Maybe you're smiling more.
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  Maybe you're. Working more on.
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  Your dream more. Maybe you feel immune to
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  provocation. See how?
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  You carry yourself, shoulders back, head high.
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  Eyes clear. Steady.
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  Focused. And notice how.
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  You protect or conserve your energy.
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  How you choose? Carefully where it flows.
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  And notice how. Each time you believe in
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  yourself. The world and.
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  Your actions reflect that belief back to you.
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  So imagine yourself standing tall like that bird of paradise.
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  Resilient. Vibrant.
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  Feeling. Unique and grateful and powerful
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  in your own way. When your unconscious.
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  Mind accepts. That the power.
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  To replenish and nourish yourself is now within your
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  control. And not dependent.
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  On anyone else? Let me know by.
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  Nodding your head. So just imagine.
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  That bird of paradise, that healthy bird of paradise now
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  within you and. Whenever.
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  You do those things. Demonstrate trust, Belief.
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  And act. In accordance with your true
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  identity. You will feel.
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  A bird. Of paradise getting stronger.
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  And more vibrant. But now.
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  Float back from that tropical place all.
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  The way back. To where you are now.
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  Realizing that. All of this.
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  Was. Just a journey.
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  In your imagination. A journey of.
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  Thoughts within thoughts. Ideas within.
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  Ideas and dreams within dreams. As.
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  I now count. From 1:00 to 10:00 you will
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  reawaken, recalibrate and fully connect to.
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  Your true. Identity.
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  Starting to count 123. Waking up 456 more alert. 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 9/10.
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank.
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  You so much. For joining me on today's
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  episode of The Hypnotist and if you've enjoyed this show or got
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  some benefit from it, you may know of one other friend or
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  family member that may also benefit from this hypnosis
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  session. In which case I'd like to ask a
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  favour of you. And that is if you could spend
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  10 seconds to share this episode with someone that you know, that
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  may also benefit, that would really help me to access new
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  people that don't already know about this show.
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  Thank you very much for listening and I will see you
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  again on the next episode.